S2E43 - My Child Hits Himself and Says He’s Bad—What Do I Do?
Play Therapy Parenting Podcast
Release Date: 06/05/2025
S3E14 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: How One Child in Therapy Changes the Whole Family
Play Therapy Parenting Podcast
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about how your child becomes the “identified change agent” in the family once they begin child-centered play therapy. When a child starts growing, regulating better, and acting differently, it naturally disrupts the family’s usual roles and patterns — and everyone else has to adjust. I explain why change in one person always leads to change in the entire system, even when the rest of the family isn’t in therapy. I also talk about birth order, family roles, and the self-fulfilling impact of the labels we use for...
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S3E13 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Why Kids Fight for Control (and What to Do About It)
Play Therapy Parenting Podcast
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about one of the biggest underlying causes of difficult behavior — a child’s need for control. When kids feel like they have very little say in their world, they look for places where they can take control, and those power struggles often show up in everyday routines. I explain the five main areas where children naturally assert control — toileting, sleeping, eating, talking, and obedience — and why those struggles are less about defiance and more about a child’s search for autonomy. Once parents recognize that...
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S3E12 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Moving Toward the Middle-How Parent and Child Growth Connect
Play Therapy Parenting Podcast
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about how parents and children move toward each other during the play therapy process — and why that shared movement is essential for lasting change. I explain what happens when a child begins to grow through therapy and how that growth naturally creates change for everyone in the family. I use two simple illustrations — converging paths and the legal scales of justice — to show how families adjust as one member changes. When a child becomes the “change agent” through play therapy, it shifts the balance for...
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S3E11 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Seeing Behavior as Communication
Play Therapy Parenting Podcast
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I talk about how we interpret our children’s behavior — and why it’s so important to see behavior as communication. I share a simple but powerful reminder from the phrase that comes from Child-Parent Relationship Therapy (Landreth, Bratton, 2016) “focus on the doughnut, not the hole.” When we fixate on what’s missing or what frustrates us about our kids, we lose sight of the good that’s right in front of us. I explain how behavior is often a child’s way of showing pain, confusion, or vulnerability, and how...
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S3E10 - Handling Power Struggles and Big Feelings the Child-Centered Way
Play Therapy Parenting Podcast
In this episode, I answer a listener question from Lisa about how play therapy helps when parents aren’t in the room — and how to handle power struggles and aggression at home in a child-centered way. I explain why it’s actually beneficial for children to be alone with the therapist, how they naturally bring their struggles into the playroom, and why parents’ presence can sometimes prevent the real work from happening. I also share practical guidance for managing intense emotions and aggression at home — including when to set limits, how to handle big outbursts, and what to do when...
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S3E9 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: Four Universal Outcomes of Child-Centered Play Therapy
Play Therapy Parenting Podcast
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain the four universal outcomes of child-centered play therapy — the lifelong benefits every child gains from the process, no matter what brought them into therapy. While each child works through their own unique challenges, all children who experience CCPT develop four essential skills: an expanded emotional vocabulary, increased regulation, stronger self-esteem, and a broader worldview. These outcomes don’t just help children right now; they impact every part of their future — from relationships to confidence to...
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S3E8 - When Kids Won’t Sleep Alone or Panic at School Drop-Off: A Parent’s Guide to Separation Anxiety
Play Therapy Parenting Podcast
In this episode, I answer a listener question from Ellie, a mom navigating separation anxiety with her 9- and 7-year-old children. We unpack the root of separation anxiety—how it's often more about a child’s internal anxiety than the separation itself—and discuss the natural coping strategies kids develop in response. I also touch on the connection between anxiety and control, and how those patterns form over time. If you're seeing signs of anxiety in your kids, this episode will help you understand how those patterns develop, how therapy can help, and why what your child believes about...
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S3E7 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: How Symbolic and Thematic Play Reveal What Children Are Working Through (and Why Parents Should Understand It)
Play Therapy Parenting Podcast
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I explain one of the most important parts of understanding what happens in the playroom — symbolic and thematic play. This episode helps parents make sense of how their child’s play reflects their experiences, emotions, and healing process. I describe how children often “rewrite” their stories through play, working through fear, confusion, or past experiences in ways that help them feel more in control and confident. Understanding symbolic and thematic play is key for parents, because it reveals how meaningful play really...
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S3E6 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: The Four Phases of Child-Centered Play Therapy
Play Therapy Parenting Podcast
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I walk through the four phases of the child-centered play therapy process. Understanding these phases helps parents know what to expect as their child progresses through therapy — from the initial connection to the completion of treatment. I explain each stage — initiation, resistance, work, and termination — and describe what happens in each. Parents often wonder how play therapy unfolds and why behaviors may shift along the way. This episode will help you recognize that change takes time, that resistance is a natural part...
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S3E5 - Parent Companion for Play Therapy: What the Therapist Does in Session
Play Therapy Parenting Podcast
In this episode of the Parent Companion for Play Therapy series, I answer one of the most common questions parents have: What does a child-centered play therapist actually do? From the outside, it might look like kids are just playing, but in reality, everything the therapist says and does is intentional, skill-based, and grounded in the child-centered psychological theory. I explain how therapists use reflective responses, offer choices, set limits when needed, and create a safe environment of trust, respect, and unconditional acceptance. I also share the deeper ways a child experiences the...
info_outlineIn this episode, I respond to a question from Whitney about her six-year-old son’s negative self-talk and self-harming behaviors—things like calling himself “stupid” or hitting himself after making a mistake. I explain why these behaviors are often rooted in low self-esteem, anxiety, and low frustration tolerance—and why it’s not about attention or defiance, but maladaptive coping.
I walk through how to set clear, compassionate limits on self-harm while offering healthy alternatives for emotional release. I also share how to support his self-concept through encouragement and provide access to over 100 esteem-building phrases to use at home. If your child has ever melted down in shame or seemed harsh with themselves, this episode offers both understanding and a path forward.
Episode links:
101+ Encouragement Phrases - Watch the video and download the list!
https://www.playtherapyparenting.com/101-encouragement-phrases/
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Common References:
Landreth, G.L. (2023). Play Therapy: The Art of the Relationship (4th ed.). Routledge.
Bratton, S. C., Landreth, G. L., Kellam, T., & Blackard, S. R. (2006). Child parent relationship therapy (CPRT) treatment manual: A 10-session filial therapy model for training parents. Routledge/Taylor & Francis Group.