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188. Managing Up with Melody Wilding

The Opposite of Small Talk

Release Date: 05/07/2025

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In popular culture, there was a time where views of workplace relationships, between employees and managers, were seen through the lens of the likes of Emily and her over the top demanding boss, Miranda Priestly, in the 2006 movie, the Devil Wears Prada.  Fast forward to 2025, workplace culture has evolved and terms like, managing up, the focus of today’s conversation, have become normalized and encouraged.  Today’s guest is Melody Wilding, therapist, professor, executive coach and author of, Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from the People in Charge, released in March.  In her conversation with Kristy, Melody shares insights from her book on navigating workplace relationships through strategic conversations, they discuss key workplace communication strategies, and practical techniques.

Guest’s Website: Managing Up | Leadership Keynote Speaker | Melody Wilding

Guest’s book via our affiliate link: Managing Up: How to Get What You Need from the People in Charge: Wilding, Melody: 9780593444658: Amazon.com: Books

TALK BIG QUESTIONS

Use these prompts to have the opposite of small talk in real life.

  • Have you had a managing up situation in your workplace?  How did you handle it and would you handle it differently following this episode?

  • Did you identify as one of the four C’s discussed in the conversation? 

  • What is one of the techniques that most resonated with you?

Work with Danielle: If you are ready to start working with a life coach or just want to learn more about the impact that coaching can have in your life, visit Danielle's website at www.daniellemccombs.com and schedule a complimentary exploratory session. 

Work with Kristy: You can work with Kristy one-on-one or hire her to speak with your team to improve workplace communication. Visit Kristy’s website at www.kristyolinger.com  and find her work journal at Work Journal — Kristy Olinger.