266: Get Back On: One Couple’s Journey to Restore Marriage, Faith & Purpose on Horseback
Release Date: 09/08/2025
295: Do It Differently: Break Generational Patterns for Good | Act with Integrity
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294: 2 Boundaries Every Marriage Needs (Or You’ll Keep Fighting)
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293: Take Responsibility Without Shame (Break the Cycle in Your Marriage)
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What if the breakthrough in your marriage isn’t about fixing your spouse—but owning your part? In this episode, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner continue the Healing Generational Trauma series with Step 5: The Power of Taking Responsibility. This is one of the hardest—and most transformative—steps in healing. When God gently invites us to look at our part (not our spouse’s, not our past), it can feel uncomfortable… even scary. But biblical responsibility isn’t about shame—it’s about freedom. In this conversation, you’ll learn: The difference between...
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292: Stop Reacting, Start Healing: The Power of Gentle Truth
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What if the very thing that feels uncomfortable… is actually where your healing begins? In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner unpack Step 4 of healing generational trauma—learning to receive gentle truth from the Holy Spirit. This is the turning point. It’s where defensiveness fades, clarity increases, and real transformation begins. Instead of shame or fear, God meets us with truth that restores, rebuilds, and redefines who we are. You’ll learn: How to recognize the voice of the Holy Spirit vs. fear, shame, or accusation Why truth can feel...
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291: Emotional Manipulation 101: How DARVO Works in Real Life
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Welcome to today’s episode of What to Say and How to Say It with Nina Roesner and Kyle Hargrove. Have you ever confronted someone… only to somehow end up feeling like you’re the problem? You’re not crazy—and you’re not alone. In this episode, we unpack a powerful and often misunderstood manipulation tactic called DARVO: 👉 Deny 👉 Attack 👉 Reverse Victim and Offender This pattern is more common than you think—and it can quietly damage marriages, relationships, and even your sense of identity if you don’t recognize it. ...
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290: Stop Carrying Generational Trauma: Learn to Receive God’s Comfort
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In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Shy Lewis and Nina Roesner continue their series on healing generational trauma using the Connection Steps. Many of us learned how to survive growing up—pushing down emotions, overfunctioning, or trying to fix everyone else. But God doesn’t heal us by shaming our pain. He heals us by comforting it. Today we talk about how to move from survival mode to soothing, learning to become a safe place for your own heart while receiving God’s comfort. In this episode, you’ll learn: Why many families pass down emotional neglect How trauma...
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289: The Marriage Killer No One Talks About: Selfishness
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Marriage problems often begin when “we” turns into “me.” In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Nina Rosner and licensed professional counselor Kyle Hargrove talk about how selfishness quietly damages marriages and why many relationships become transactional over time. They discuss how the enemy uses blame, resentment, and score-keeping to divide couples—and how shifting from “What’s in it for me?” to “What’s in me for it?” can transform a relationship. You’ll also hear a simple framework for healthy connection in marriage: 5 – How can I help you? 4 –...
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288: How to Show Up Healthy in a Difficult Marriage (Without Losing Yourself) | Ft. Lyndee Horne
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What do you do when your marriage is hard… but not abusive? How do you stay healthy when the relationship feels disconnected, disappointing, or exhausting? In today’s episode of What to Say and How to Say It, host Shy Lewis sits down with licensed counselor Lyndee Horne, founder of Narrow Gate Counseling Services, to talk about what it truly means to show up in a healthy way in a difficult marriage. This conversation is for the Christian woman who: Feels disconnected in her marriage Struggles with people-pleasing or codependency Is unsure what biblical submission...
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287: Breaking Generational Trauma in Marriage (Part 2): Why Normalizing Emotions Heals Relationships
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Many of us were taught that emotions were dangerous — too loud, too weak, too sinful, or simply inconvenient. In Part 2 of our Breaking Generational Trauma series, Shai Lewis and Nina Rosner explore why normalizing emotion is a powerful step toward healing your marriage and disrupting painful family patterns. If you grew up hearing: “Be strong.” “Just pray about it.” “Other people have it worse.” “You’re overreacting.” …then this episode is for you. We discuss: ✔️ Why suppressing emotions creates disconnection ✔️ How unprocessed...
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286: Generational Trauma in Marriage: The First Step Most People Avoid (Part 1)
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Generational trauma doesn’t start with cruelty—it starts with avoidance. In this episode of What to Say and How to Say It, Shai Lewis and Nina Rosner talk about “the interruption”—the courageous first step that breaks unhealthy family patterns and begins real healing: recognition. Because what we refuse to name… we repeat. Many families survive by staying silent.“We don’t talk about that.”“That’s just how they are.”“Why bring up the past?” But silence protects dysfunction—and keeps marriages stuck. Today we discuss: What generational trauma...
info_outlineEver feel like life bucked you off? Whether it’s in marriage, business, or faith, the fastest way to win again is to Get Back On.
Join Nina Roesner in this powerful and hope-filled episode of What to Say & How to Say It as she interviews Drs. Michelle and Paul LeCompte, DVM, a couple who know firsthand what it means to fall—hard—and get back up with God’s help.
Now celebrating 39 years of marriage, they’re embarking on a horseback journey across southern Ohio to inspire others to Get Back On—no matter what life throws at you. From healing through lupus, battling addiction, and navigating conflict in marriage and business, their story proves that God still writes beautiful stories from broken beginnings.
🪶 Paul has written several books on overcoming adversity and discovering God’s purpose for your life. Check out his work here:
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Donate to the Get Back On Fundraiser for Greater Impact Ministries here:
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All proceeds go directly to healing and strengthening marriages in Christ.
🙏🏼 If you’ve ever struggled in your relationship or needed a reminder that God’s not done with you yet—this is your episode. Don’t miss it.
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