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Some ideas are unpopular for a reason—and others are unpopular because they ask us to slow down and think. UNPOPULAR is a space for thoughtful, faith-rooted conversation with Tim and Bella, engaging difficult questions about life, relationships, virtue, and what it means to pick up your cross and follow in a culture that prizes self-leadership.

Our Dating Playbook: 15 Things That Worked 04/01/2026

Our Dating Playbook: 15 Things That Worked Most people drift through dating and hope it works out. We didn't. There's no magic forumla to make your dating relationship awesome, but there are some mindsets that will help you along the road. In this episode, we share 15 things we got right while dating, practices, boundaries, and decisions that built something lasting. /episode/index/show/33d6740f-037e-4210-9a4c-22ace5e50cd5/id/40693765

Who's In Charge? The Roles of Men and Women in Leadership and Marriage 03/25/2026

Who's In Charge? The Roles of Men and Women in Leadership and Marriage Join Tim and Bella as they revisit a pivotal conversation from their dating relationship: men and women’s roles in the church and family. It was a tumultuous season in their dating relationship when they realized they were not on the same page on this important issue, and both reevaluated their marriage compatibility. Listen for the full story! /episode/index/show/33d6740f-037e-4210-9a4c-22ace5e50cd5/id/40615305

Breaking Up With Porn 03/18/2026

Breaking Up With Porn Tim and Bella close up their mini series, Opening Pandora's Box: Porn, Pornea, and Purity, with a frank conversation around breaking up with lustful habits. We like to think of sexual addictions as habits, its sounds nicer, and means we have control over the situation, but the reality is, many people live with addictions that they can't break. Join Tim and Bella as they talk about the nuts and bolts of how to break sexual addictions and who to bring with you on this journey. /episode/index/show/33d6740f-037e-4210-9a4c-22ace5e50cd5/id/40521735

Let's Talk About Sex 03/11/2026

Let's Talk About Sex Join Tim and Bella in Part II of their Mini Series on prioritizing purity in dating relationships. Before anyone crosses a line physically, there are usually a hundred smaller decisions, assumptions, and habits shaping your path. If you’ve ever wrestled with where to draw the line, how to date with integrity, or why good intentions alone are not enough, this conversation is for you. /episode/index/show/33d6740f-037e-4210-9a4c-22ace5e50cd5/id/40392810

Opening Pandora's Box: Porn, Pornea, and Purity 03/04/2026

Opening Pandora's Box: Porn, Pornea, and Purity Dive right in as Tim and Bella discuss the winding road of purity. Learn about sex, addiction, holiness, and wholesomeness. Wherever you find yourself on the journey, and whatever backage you bring with you, you are not alone. Join us as we bring to light a topic that prefers to stay in the shadows. This is Part 1 of our mini series on Porn, Pornea, and Purity. Stay tuned for next week's episode where we tackle relationship boundaries and where to set them... /episode/index/show/33d6740f-037e-4210-9a4c-22ace5e50cd5/id/40308900

Breaking Up Without Breaking Down 02/25/2026

Breaking Up Without Breaking Down "We need to talk." Ever heard those fateful words and knew with dread the end of a relationship was looming? Breakups are sticky, challenging times, both for the breaker-upper and the broken-up-with. Maybe you're tempted to overprocess the end of your relationship? Or complain and "vent" about your ex-partner? Or put yourself through anguish by holding onto the question, "what if"? Or maybe you excelled at breakups! But...probably not. They suck. Join Tim and Bella as they chat about how to break up well (including very useful tips for how to cope with life when all you want to do is cry). /episode/index/show/33d6740f-037e-4210-9a4c-22ace5e50cd5/id/40224910

A Path That Leads To Flourishing 02/10/2026

A Path That Leads To Flourishing We all want a magical "10 Steps To Success" to follow for the perfect relationship. Unfortunately, God doesn't promise us a formula, but he does give us guidance along the road. In this episode, Tim and Bella look at their own relationship as a case study, asking the question, "What's been working?" Together, they unpack the steps they've taken that have contributed to flourishing in thier relationship. Steps that, if followed, do not promise success, but certainly give you a nudge along the way! If you’ve ever wanted clarity without pretending life is simple, press play. /episode/index/show/33d6740f-037e-4210-9a4c-22ace5e50cd5/id/40064935

Keeping Your Crew Close When You're Coupled Up 02/04/2026

Keeping Your Crew Close When You're Coupled Up

When "Love Island" gets hit with a hurricane, it's your friends who will come to your rescue.

In this episode, Bella and Tim discuss how to make, maintain, and be a good friend. The stakes are never higher than when it comes to keeping your friendships close when love makes you blind to everyone but your sweetheart.

Tim and Bella unpack this, and other high-stakes elements of dating and friendship, like what to do if your partner has too many friends, or too few?

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MORE Myths and Mistakes of Dating 01/28/2026

MORE Myths and Mistakes of Dating

Join Tim and Bella as they continue to unpack the cultural dumpster fire of dating norms, addressing FIVE MORE myths and mistakes common in dating.

This week, they tackle the "touchy" subject of dating boundaries and get into the weeds of tough conversations and why they go wrong.

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Myths and Mistakes of Dating 01/21/2026

Myths and Mistakes of Dating

Tim and Bella unpack the cultural dumpster fire of dating norms, addressing the first FIVE myths and mistakes common in dating.

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Seriously Fun - The Right Dose for Dating 01/14/2026

Seriously Fun - The Right Dose for Dating

Does dating sometimes feel like a job interview?

Or does your dating ever fizzle into just "fun hangouts"?

Do you sometimes want to hide your dating life from your nosey family?

These are a few of the questions Tim and Bella unpack on this week's episode. Join them as they discuss what it looks like to seriously have fun while dating with intention.

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Becoming The Person That The Person Your Looking For Is Looking For 01/11/2026

Becoming The Person That The Person Your Looking For Is Looking For

Dating culture tells us to keep looking outward. Episode one of the UNPOPULAR's Relationship Series invites you to look inward instead. Tim and Bella discuss the kind of honest self-examination and action steps that prepare you for relationships rooted in depth and integrity.

When you do an audit of yourself, what do you find?

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Diving Into the Dating Pool 01/08/2026

Diving Into the Dating Pool

First dates come with a lot of unspoken rules—and plenty of confusion.
In episode two of UNPOPULAR, Tim and Bella dive into the dating pool to talk about how to prepare for a first date, from mindset and expectations to taboo topics and age-old questions like who opens the door and who picks up the check.

Some of these conversations may feel old-fashioned—or unpopular—but they’re worth having.

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