In Sight - Exposing Narcissism
Psychotherapists Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna specialise in working with adult children of narcissistic parents, emotional abuse, and parentification. Helen also has ADHD, and specialises in neurodivergence, particularly Autism and ADHD. In Sight-Exposing Narcissism answers a listener's letter each week about the relationship or situation they're struggling to understand. Listen to hear Helen and Katie identify behaviours and trauma and answer the question the listener asks, and offers suggestions on how to heal. Get access to bonus content and support us through our Patreon: https://www.patreon.com/InSight_Podcast
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125. Will Family Ever Feel Safe?
07/26/2024
125. Will Family Ever Feel Safe?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) TW: physical abuse, abortion, assault, stalking From reading childhood diaries to mocking her physical appearance, this week's listener was shamed and belittled by her family at every opportunity. Even after reaching milestones her parents never thought her capable of, she's still grappling with the feeling that despite her own beautiful family, she will never be able to let go of the deep sadness that's still holding her back. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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124. Is This Covert Sexual Abuse?
07/19/2024
124. Is This Covert Sexual Abuse?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) TW: Sexual abuse, self-harm This week we hear how our listener is coming to the realisation that she may have been subjected to covert sexual abuse at the hands of her parents. Despite being expected to run the household as a teenager as well as keep her younger sister safe, she's now struggling to connect with her own feelings. Was it really abuse, or is she just being sensitive? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. Domestic violence article referenced: https://www.mirror.co.uk/news/uk-news/experts-reveal-how-spot-emotional-33201421 We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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123. Why Do I Need To Fix It?
07/12/2024
123. Why Do I Need To Fix It?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) A move back to the family farm soon becomes a nightmare for this week's listener. She describes her demanding mother in law causing a scene at birthday parties, arriving unannounced in a fit of anger and refusing to listen to reason. Despite her husband reaching the end of his tether and cutting ties, our listener asks why she's the one wanting to fix things for the sake of her children. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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122. What About All The Good Things She's Done For Me?
07/05/2024
122. What About All The Good Things She's Done For Me?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) TW: Violence To those on the outside, our listener's mother has always been the generous, kind and loving parent that's been unfairly denied access to her precious grandchildren. But dig deeper and there's a lifetime of shaming, gaslighting and even excusing physical abuse. Our listener has been given expensive gifts, huge public displays and fancy holidays, but what's the true cost to her and her family? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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121. How To Protect Your Children - The Legal Queen, Part 2
06/28/2024
121. How To Protect Your Children - The Legal Queen, Part 2
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) Family law solicitor Tracey Moloney AKA The Legal Queen joins us on the podcast again this week, this time we're talking about children and grandparents. Do "grandparents' rights" exist? And how can a child be protected from manipulation at the hands of a bitter ex-partner? Find The Legal Queen on Note: Tracey specialises in English and Welsh law only, and this episode does not constitute legal advice. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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120. Protecting Yourself - The Legal Queen, Part 1
06/21/2024
120. Protecting Yourself - The Legal Queen, Part 1
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) From spotting insidious emotional abuse in the courtroom to surviving divorce proceedings against a narcissist, we're hearing practical guidance and legal insights from family law solicitor Tracey Moloney AKA The Legal Queen! This week we're focusing on how to protect yourself during divorce and separation, but fear not - Tracey returns next week to chat about the rights around children and grandparents. Find The Legal Queen on Note: Tracey specialises in English and Welsh law only, and this episode does not constitute legal advice. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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119. Do I Have to Lose Everyone?
06/14/2024
119. Do I Have to Lose Everyone?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) TW: child loss, sexual assault This week our listener describes living in the shadow of her stillborn sister, as the "replacement child" that didn't stand a chance in a toxic household. Between manipulation and weaponising her disability, her mother has continued to spread the narrative that our listener is volatile, cruel and hateful. She asks if by going no contact, does she really have to lose the family connection she craves? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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118. How Do I Protect My Sister?
06/07/2024
118. How Do I Protect My Sister?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) Our listener begins to spot red flags in her brother-in-law's behaviour, including massive invasions of privacy and public shaming of their children. She's worried his ultra-religious views and need for control have not only traumatised his wife, but her children are at risk too. Our listener asks if her sister is somehow enabling his abuse, and more importanly how can she protect her? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on.. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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117. How Do I Deal With The Anger?
05/31/2024
117. How Do I Deal With The Anger?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) Desperate for closure after a string of abusive relationships throughout her life, our listener can't help but cling on to rage and even hatred towards those who wronged her. As acknowledgment and atonement grow ever more unlikely, she asks how to deal with the hurt and anger. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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116. Why Can’t I Cry?
05/24/2024
116. Why Can’t I Cry?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) After a nasty outburst on a family holiday, our listener this week is struggling with words from her mother that can’t be unsaid. As the insults chip away at her self-esteem, examples of toxic behaviour in childhood bubble to the surface and she’s questioning everything she thought she knew about her role in the family. But is she really unlovable, a bad mother, and ‘broken’? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. TW: This episode talks about sexual abuse. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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115. Should I Confront Her?
05/17/2024
115. Should I Confront Her?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) Our listener this week recalls a family conversation about her grandmother’s toxic behaviour. However, her mother is oblivious to how she displayed the same behaviour, and the lasting effects it had on our listener. Despite her mother’s difficult relationship with alcohol and emotional manipulation, our listener doesn’t want to rock the boat by saying how she’s feeling and asks, can there ever be healing in confrontation? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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114. Can I Protect Myself & Keep My Siblings?
05/10/2024
114. Can I Protect Myself & Keep My Siblings?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) Growing up in the shadow of her siblings, our listener has recognised the toxic traits that were always excused and enabled. Despite going low contact, she's struggling with the idea of giving up on her siblings when she's been taught that "family is everything". Can a relationship with her siblings be salvaged, and should it? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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113. Mother in Law + Trauma = Smothering. What Do I Do?
05/03/2024
113. Mother in Law + Trauma = Smothering. What Do I Do?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) Our listener this week shares how her kind and generous mother-in-law is "the nicest person you could ever wish to meet", with an enticing ability to keep the peace. But digging deeper, it appears there's so much more to her fawning and people-pleasing behaviour. As worry and exhaustion bubble to the surface, our listener asks how she can protect someone that doesn't believe they deserve protecting? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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112. Is My Mother Toxic or Am I Being Unfair?
04/26/2024
112. Is My Mother Toxic or Am I Being Unfair?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) TW: Pregnancy loss Despite a history of cold, abusive behaviour from her mother leading to a trail of broken family bonds, our listener is haunted by the notion that 'life is short'. She is questioning whether she was right to go low contact, or will she regret her decision in the future? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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111. YNTP Book Launch
04/19/2024
111. YNTP Book Launch
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week we break from the usual format to talk about one of the most surreal weeks we've had, embarking on a whistlestop media tour of Ireland to launch YNTP! Plus, we make In Sight history as we are actually recording in the same room for the first time - catch the video on YouTube! We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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110. Can a Narcissist Change?
04/12/2024
110. Can a Narcissist Change?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) As her father prepares to reconcile with her abusive mother, our listener feels like she's at breaking point. Her father begs her to put their differences aside for a family wedding, but she can't put her mental health at risk again. For the sake of her father she asks whether a narcissist is capable of change, or is this yet another spin on their Merry-Go-Round relationship? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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109. Interview with Harriet Shearsmith - The Book!
04/05/2024
109. Interview with Harriet Shearsmith - The Book!
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week we chat with previous guest Harriet Shearsmith, author and host of Unfollowing Mum. After Harriet's exclusive early access to 'You're Not the Problem', we hear how the book has impacted her, what she's learned from it and how things have been since we last caught up! Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. Find Harriet on . We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive show, . Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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108. When is a golden child not a golden child?
03/29/2024
108. When is a golden child not a golden child?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week we're sharing one of the most popular episodes of our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. As part of our series examining family roles, we take an in-depth look at the child that ISN'T the golden child. We explore the background and the ramifications of this role - enjoy! Content warning: mention of medical procedures/pain We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive show, . Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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107. Why Can't I Communicate With My Husband?
03/22/2024
107. Why Can't I Communicate With My Husband?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week our listener explains that no matter the situation or her part in it, she always feels like the problem. She describes her husband as a good man with a warm heart, but struggles to communicate with him in a way that helps him understand her needs. She asks, is it simply different love languages, or something else? Content warning: mention of suicide attempt Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive show, . Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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106. The Invisible Man
03/15/2024
106. The Invisible Man
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week our listener struggles to come to terms with how differently he is treated compared to his sibling. Despite his brother leaving a trail of chaos and personal attacks, their parents seem to do everything they can to avoid holding him accountable. Our listener asks, what happens now? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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105. How Do I Make Peace with My Past?
03/08/2024
105. How Do I Make Peace with My Past?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) Content warning: sexual abuse This week our listener describes how she managed to break free from a life dominated by her abusive father under the guise of religion. Despite breaking free, she found herself at the mercy of abusive relationships and being silenced by her enabling mother. As she tries to move forward, she asks how to make peace with the traumatic events of her past. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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104. Can I make it on my own?
03/01/2024
104. Can I make it on my own?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week our listener is questioning whether her husband is emotionally abusive, or are the wounds of her childhood blurring the lines? After years of control and debilitating illness, our listener asks if she should leave - and can she make it on her own if she does? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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103. Invisible or Enmeshed?
02/23/2024
103. Invisible or Enmeshed?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week our listener is struggling to know how to manage her relationship with her mother. She feels completely invisible, and thinks of herself as an invisible child, but is she? And how does she move forward? Can she have one and hold boundaries? Or is it impossible? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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102. How Do I Know Who I Am?
02/16/2024
102. How Do I Know Who I Am?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week our listener is struggling to know who she is outside of who she's been told to be. After being in a push pull relationship with a mother who both engulfs and ignores she's left asking...who am I without her? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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101. Why Should I Pretend?
02/09/2024
101. Why Should I Pretend?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) Our listener this week shares some harrowing stories from her childhood and describes the lasting effects she's spent years processing in therapy. Tired of playing happy families to protect the public image, she asks for help envisioning a future where she can be authentic without having to rewrite her past for someone else's benefit. Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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100! Where are they now?!
02/02/2024
100! Where are they now?!
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week Helen and Katie catch up with previous letter writers to find out how they're doing since the had their letter read out. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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99. It's Not Normal - An interview with Casey Smith
01/26/2024
99. It's Not Normal - An interview with Casey Smith
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week Helen and Katie interview Casey Smith, social media creator, and host of the podcast where she explores her own experience of growing up with a narcissistic parent and how it's affected her now. In this episode she asks 'How do I learn to lean into my autonomy after being punished for it for so long?' We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ !Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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98. Their father is a diagnosed Narcissist, how do I support my kids?
01/19/2024
98. Their father is a diagnosed Narcissist, how do I support my kids?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) How do you protect children from a father who's diagnosed with Narcissistic Personality Disorder, but there's a court order that says they have to visit? Listen as Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation and how our listener might cope. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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97. How do I fix our friendship?
01/15/2024
97. How do I fix our friendship?
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week Katie and Helen help a listener try to understand what happened in her friendship that became romantic and then became toxic. Can it be saved or is this the end? Listen to Katie and Helen look at this difficult situation from all angles and offer their insight into what's going on. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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96. The Freudian Slip - Scapegoat part 1
01/05/2024
96. The Freudian Slip - Scapegoat part 1
You’re Not the Problem gives you the tools to recognise and heal from narcissistic and emotional abuse - out now: , (affiliate links) This week Helen and Katie are releasing an episode from their Patreon show The Freudian Slip. This episode focuses on the Scapegoat child role, and is part one of 4. We talk theories and strategies in our exclusive Patreon show, The Freudian Slip. Unlock instant access to over 50 episodes today on our Patreon page, including identifying your family roles, the cycle of abuse, empathy and how to spot a good apology. In Sight is sponsored by Pinch of Nom! Buy their amazing cookbook ‘Enjoy’ ! Submit your own letter, find free resources and sign up for our weekly newsletter at
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