The Porn to Purpose Podcast
Helping Committed Fathers & Husbands End Their Habit of Watching Porn So They Can Reignite the Passion in Their Relationships and Be Better Role Models to Their Children.
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EP 112: The Dark Truth of Solo Recovery
07/02/2025
EP 112: The Dark Truth of Solo Recovery
In today’s episode of the Pørn to Purpose podcast, I sit down with Coach Yeadon for a raw, unfiltered conversation about something most men battling pørn addiction try to avoid: solo recovery. We’re exposing the dark truth of trying to “man up” and handle this thing alone. Coach Yeadon shares his own story—how he used all the filters, accountability tools, and white-knuckled willpower… and still stayed stuck. We’re talking about the shame that keeps men isolated, the lies we tell ourselves, and the way pørn thrives in secrecy. Most importantly, we lay out the one thing that truly moves the needle: connection. If you’ve been white-knuckling it, hiding your habit, or waiting until you “get clean” before asking for help—this episode is your wake-up call. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] I introduce today’s theme: the dark truth of solo recovery. [01:24] The secret shame of hidden pørn use—and a gut-check moment: “Would you hand your daughter your phone?” [01:53] “The opposite of addiction is not sobriety—it’s connection.” [03:20] Filters, apps, and promises to loved ones don’t work without real support. [04:06] Coach Yeadon’s confession: “I gave my wife access to my pørn reports... and still found workarounds.” [04:11] “Solo recovery is a trap.” [05:42] The lies that kept us stuck: “I just need more discipline” and “No one needs to know.” [06:42] “I trained for an Ironman. I had discipline. But I was still watching pørn.” [07:12] The lie of waiting: “Once I get clean, then I’ll reach out.” [08:10] Shame thrives in silence. Progress crumbles in isolation. Resources & Links Mentioned: Join the Pørn to Purpose Community on Facebook Apply for the Liberation Bootcamp
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EP 111: Sobriety vs Recovery: Why Your Streak Isn’t the Full Story
06/25/2025
EP 111: Sobriety vs Recovery: Why Your Streak Isn’t the Full Story
In today's episode of the "Pørn to Purpose" podcast, we break down one of the most common traps men fall into on their recovery journey—focusing on streaks instead of true transformation. This episode dives deep into the difference between sobriety and recovery. We unpack why white-knuckling your way through porn addiction is not the same as healing, and how relying on your "day counter" alone sets you up for shame, relapse, and a fragile sense of identity. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode's core theme: Progress over perfection in porn recovery. [01:20] “Sobriety is quantitative, but recovery is cumulative.” – unpacking this powerful truth. [03:41] The problem with making your streak your identity—and what to focus on instead. [04:41] The danger of perfectionism and how it sabotages real recovery. [07:28] What it means to actively build your recovery identity day by day. [08:27] Why white-knuckling fails—and what true emotional strength looks like. [09:55] Learning to recognize emotional triggers like fatigue, loneliness, and stress. [11:11] The power of awareness and daily check-ins when the inner addict flares up. [12:47] Daily habits that make sobriety sustainable—rituals, rhythms, and community. [18:29] How the Liberation Bootcamp helps men shift from surviving to thriving. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Apply for the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 110: Am I Addicted to Pørn If I Only Watch Once a Week?
06/18/2025
EP 110: Am I Addicted to Pørn If I Only Watch Once a Week?
In today’s episode of the "Pørn to Purpose" podcast, I sit down with Coach Yeadon to unpack one of the most common questions men ask on the recovery journey: “Am I addicted to Pørn if I only watch it once a week?”. We break down the difference between being “functional” and being truly free, and explore how even low-frequency Pørn-use can still rewire your brain, sabotage intimacy, drain your focus, and erode your integrity over time. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:30] Why “Am I addicted?” is the wrong question — and what to ask instead [01:58] The truth about once-a-week Pørn use and why it still keeps you trapped [03:55] A real definition of addiction: returning to behavior you know is harming you [04:55] The red flags: hiding, sneaking, deleting, and rationalizing [06:18] The mental obsession: when your brain starts planning your next fix [07:38] How even occasional use rewires your arousal and wrecks intimacy [09:05] The emotional cost: why your relationship feels distant and disconnected [10:40] Integrity check: if you only lie once a week, are you honest? [12:07] Why asking the question at all means your conscience is waking up [14:03] Four steps to change: Own it, Interrupt the Pattern, Get Support, Join a Brotherhood Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Pørn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 109: 3 Steps to Disrupt the Shame Loop (Before It Pulls You Under)
06/11/2025
EP 109: 3 Steps to Disrupt the Shame Loop (Before It Pulls You Under)
In this episode of the Pørn to Purpose podcast, I’m joined by Coach Yeadon to expose the hidden cycle that keeps men addicted to pornography—what we call the “shame loop.” If you’ve tried to quit pørn but keep falling back into old patterns of guilt, isolation, and self-condemnation, this conversation is for you. We unpack how shame fuels porn addiction, how it distorts your identity, and most importantly—how to break free using real-world tools from our Liberation Boot Camp and men’s recovery community. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:30] Introduction to the shame loop and its impact on porn addiction recovery [01:11] Coach Matt and Coach Yeadon discuss growing up with religious shame and sexual suppression [02:23] What is the shame loop? Understanding the guilt-shame-porn cycle [03:17] Why porn becomes a coping mechanism for emotional pain and unmet needs [04:15] Step-by-step breakdown of the 5-part shame cycle keeping men stuck in addiction [06:38] Guilt vs. shame: how the wrong mindset makes recovery harder [07:31] How shame creates isolation—and why isolation fuels relapse [10:10] Why willpower and moralizing aren’t enough to quit porn [11:09] A 3-step strategy to disrupt the shame loop: Speak it, Reframe it, Make a new choice [14:29] How the Liberation Bootcamp helps men rebuild their identity and stay porn-free Resources & Links Mentioned in the Episode: Join the Porn to Purpose Private Facebook Community: Learn more about the Liberation Boot Camp:
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EP 108: NoFap vs. Real Recovery: Why White-Knuckling It Will Never Set You Free
06/04/2025
EP 108: NoFap vs. Real Recovery: Why White-Knuckling It Will Never Set You Free
In today’s episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I’m joined by Coach Yeadon, and we’re diving headfirst into one of the most misunderstood ideas in the recovery world—NoFAP. We’re calling out the truth that simply counting days doesn’t lead to real freedom. Together, we break down the difference between behavior-based abstinence and true identity-level transformation. I share insights into why white-knuckling your way through a streak doesn’t actually heal the root of the problem, and Yeadon gets real about what finally made the difference for him after decades of struggle. We unpack how emotional pain, unprocessed trauma, and isolation feed the cycle of p0rn use—and how community, connection, and inner work are the real path to freedom. This episode is for the man who’s tired of “trying harder” and ready to become someone new. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:26] Conversation around NoFAP, streaks, and real recovery. [01:34] Defining NoFAP and why it’s not enough to lead to true transformation. [02:05] “NoFAP will get you days on the counter. Real recovery sets you free.” [03:34] The danger of behavior-based change versus identity-level change. [04:26] Why most guys fail: they never address the emotional wounds underneath. [05:01] The missing ingredient in NoFAP: brotherhood and community. [06:01] Porn is the painkiller—not the problem. [07:14] Yeadon shares his breakthrough moment and how healing began. [09:43] Shame dies when stories are told in safe spaces. [12:07] What real recovery requires: tools, accountability, and identity shift. Resources & Links Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 107: Is My Porn Habit a Problem? (How to Know for Sure)
05/28/2025
EP 107: Is My Porn Habit a Problem? (How to Know for Sure)
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, we dive into one of the most important questions a man can ask: “Do I actually have a porn problem?” I’m joined by Coach Yeadon as we get brutally honest about how porn quietly chips away at your integrity, marriage, energy, and mental clarity—even if it hasn’t “wrecked your life.” If you’ve ever questioned your habit, this one’s for you. We unpack the real signs of porn addiction, the lies we tell ourselves to minimize it, and the emotional pain we’re often medicating with porn. For most men, porn isn’t the core issue—it’s the symptom. Whether you’re single, married, spiritual, or just sick of the shame cycle—this episode will help you face the truth and take your first step toward freedom. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:29] Why we keep asking the same question—and why we’ll keep answering it [01:28] “Is porn a problem?” — how that question became the catalyst for change [01:58] The moment you start searching is the moment you already know [03:13] The truth about compartmentalization and why it’s not helping you [04:12] Classic justifications we use: “Every guy does it,” “At least I’m not cheating” [05:36] What white-knuckling really looks like—and why it doesn’t work [06:04] Why hiding it is a sign it’s a problem, even if it hasn’t “ruined” your life [06:42] Buying your own lies: “She knows,” “It’s not that bad,” “It’s just visual” [07:43] Key gut-check questions: Have you tried to quit? Have you failed to? [08:30+] A call to self-inventory—and why integrity is your true north Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Facebook Community: Apply for the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 106: How to Raise Sons In a Porn-Saturated World
05/21/2025
EP 106: How to Raise Sons In a Porn-Saturated World
In today’s episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I’m joined by Coach Yeadon to discuss one of the most challenging and crucial topics for fathers: raising sons in a world saturated with porn. This conversation is packed with real experiences, practical advice, and honest insights on how to guide our kids through the challenges of today’s hypersexualized digital landscape. You won’t want to miss it. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:02] Introduction to the episode and the challenge of discussing porn with kids. [01:27] Yeadon shares his journey into recovery and how concern for his children was the catalyst. [02:25] Discussing the fears and challenges fathers face when talking to their kids about porn. [04:52] Emphasizing the importance of intentional leadership in guiding kids. [06:26] The role of technology in exposing children to pornography. [07:52] Why leading by example is more powerful than preaching. [10:26] How silence around the topic creates shame and leads to secret struggles. [12:19] Yeadon shares how he found freedom through recovery and the impact on his family. [17:12] The importance of creating a safe space for open, honest conversations with kids. [20:31] The power of consistency and authenticity in parenting. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Boot Camp:
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EP 105: How to Talk to Your Wife About Porn (Without Destroying Your Marriage)
05/14/2025
EP 105: How to Talk to Your Wife About Porn (Without Destroying Your Marriage)
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I sit down with Coach Yeadon to have one of the most uncomfortable—but critical—conversations every man trapped in porn eventually faces: how to talk to your wife about porn. Let’s be real—confessing this kind of struggle feels terrifying. You’re afraid she’ll be crushed. That you’ll lose her trust—or worse, her love. But staying silent? That’s already killing your marriage. Today, Coach Yeadon and I break down what that conversation actually looks like, why timing and honesty matter, and how to lead with truth rather than shame. If you're serious about healing and rebuilding intimacy, this episode will show you how to stop hiding and start communicating with the woman who deserves your full heart. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:40] – Matthew and Coach Yeadon open the episode with the emotional weight of bringing porn into a marriage. [02:10] – Why hiding your porn habit silently erodes trust—even if she doesn’t know. [04:00] – “Secrets rot everything they touch” — why honesty matters more than perfection. [05:30] – The wrong time to tell her—and what emotional state you need to be in before you speak. [06:50] – How to avoid blame, shame-dumping, and defensiveness when coming clean. [08:20] – Why most wives aren’t hurt just by porn—but by the betrayal of being lied to. [09:55] – What real accountability looks like after the conversation. [11:15] – Why “just telling her” isn’t enough—you need a plan for recovery. [13:00] – How the Liberation Bootcamp helps men rebuild from the inside out—and lead with truth. [14:30] – A message to husbands: how to earn her trust back with action, not words. Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Apply for the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 104: Why Do I Watch Porn Even When I'm not Horny?
05/07/2025
EP 104: Why Do I Watch Porn Even When I'm not Horny?
In today’s episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I’m joined by Coach Yeadon as we dive into a question many of us have silently asked ourselves: “Why am I watching porn even when I’m not even horny?” This episode explores the deeper emotional drivers behind porn addiction—stress, anxiety, loneliness, fear, and emotional exhaustion—and why porn becomes our default coping mechanism. Together, we unpack the truth that porn use often has little to do with sex and everything to do with emotional avoidance. We look at how this habit develops, why it “almost works,” and how we’ve been misled into thinking we just have a high sex drive. The truth is, unmet emotional needs are what drive most compulsive behaviors. Yeadon and I also share practical tools and powerful mindset shifts to help you build the capacity to sit with discomfort, regulate your nervous system, and begin choosing healthier ways to meet your needs. Whether you’re just starting out or deep in the work, this conversation offers real insight, emotional clarity, and an invitation to rise above old patterns. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Matt and Yeadon open with the real question: “Why do I watch porn when I’m not even aroused?” [01:34] Breaking the myth: it’s not about sex, it’s about emotional pain and avoidance. [02:04] A look at how stress, boredom, anxiety, and loneliness fuel compulsive porn use. [03:57] Calling out the lie of the “high sex drive” narrative—porn is not about libido. [05:12] Yeadon shares how emotional overwhelm led to habitual porn use in his past. [06:50] The role of awareness and the HALT check-in: hungry, angry, lonely, tired. [08:42] “Porn almost works”—why short-term relief keeps you stuck in the cycle. [10:12] Training the brain to face pain: how to sit with discomfort and not run. [12:57] Practical tools: breathwork, cold showers, movement, and brotherhood. [15:26] Emotional intelligence: learning to respond, not react—and how to begin that journey. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Boot Camp:
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EP 103: How To Break A Porn Addiction
04/30/2025
EP 103: How To Break A Porn Addiction
In today’s episode of the “Porn to Purpose” podcast, I’m joined by Coach Yeadon as we unpack one of the most essential conversations in breaking free from porn: understanding and applying what we call the Three C’s—Community, Clarity, and Commitment. These are the foundational pillars that have helped hundreds of men step out of addiction and into lasting transformation. We get honest about the real reasons men struggle to quit, why willpower alone isn’t enough, and how most of us are fighting the wrong battle altogether. Coach Yeadon brings his personal experience of over 800 days porn-free and shares the deep inner work, tools, and frameworks that have kept him free and thriving. If you’re serious about change, this episode is a roadmap. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the Three C’s and why this episode is foundational for recovery. [01:24] Community: Why shame dies in safe spaces and how connection is the true opposite of addiction. [03:23] The power of sharing your story and normalizing the conversation around porn and addiction. [06:12] Clarity: Why porn isn’t the real problem—and how to uncover what you’re actually running from. [07:55] Understanding emotional triggers using the HALT method: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired. [09:46] How porn becomes a nervous system regulation tool—and why it almost works. [10:57] The truth about needing regulation, not relief—and how to meet your needs in healthy ways. [12:26] Commitment: The importance of following a proven path with structure and guidance. [14:22] Coach Yeadon shares how visibility and brotherhood keep him accountable even 800+ days in. [17:27] Final reflections on how building a better life makes porn irrelevant—and why now is the time to act. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 102: Porn Addiction Symptoms
04/23/2025
EP 102: Porn Addiction Symptoms
In today’s episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I’m joined by Coach Yeadon as we break down the five clear signs that porn has become more than just a habit. If you’ve been wondering whether this is something you actually need to deal with—or how to even begin—we lay it all out. From compulsive use to emotional avoidance, escalation, and shame, this episode helps you recognize the real roots behind the struggle and what to do next. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:28] The hidden truth behind asking, “Am I addicted to porn?” [01:51] What compulsive use looks like and why it’s so hard to stop. [03:18] Using porn as a way to numb emotions like stress, loneliness, and anger. [04:50] Why porn “almost works” and how that creates deeper pain. [06:18] How escalation and tolerance lead to more extreme content over time. [07:45] The trap of chasing novelty and longer sessions for the same dopamine hit. [09:39] A powerful question: Where does this trend go if nothing changes? [10:09] The impact of porn on real-life relationships and intimacy. [13:05] How secrecy, hiding, and shame isolate men in silence. [15:59] The truth: “Shame dies when stories are told in safe spaces.” Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 101: What Porn Does to Your Brain (And How to Rewire it for Freedom)
04/17/2025
EP 101: What Porn Does to Your Brain (And How to Rewire it for Freedom)
In today’s episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I’m joined by Coach Yeadon as we explore how porn rewires your brain and drains your energy, focus, and motivation. If you’ve ever felt foggy, numb, or disconnected after watching porn—this episode unpacks why. We break down the dopamine loop, why it’s so addictive, and how it impacts your mental and emotional health. Most importantly, we offer real hope: your brain can heal. With the right support, you can rewire your mind, reclaim your energy, and reconnect with the life you were meant to live. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:33] The reality of porn in recovery spaces—and why this conversation is long overdue. [01:03] Introduction to the topic: the effects of porn on the brain and dopamine. [03:31] Common symptoms of porn addiction: brain fog, low energy, and lack of motivation. [04:45] Why porn delivers a massive, unnatural dopamine hit—and how it trains your brain. [06:15] How modern porn creates supernormal stimuli that don’t exist in the natural world. [07:56] The escalating cycle: from pictures to videos to more extreme content. [09:20] The porn industry doesn’t care about you—it profits off your biology being hijacked. [10:49] Why porn leads to depression, numbness, and disconnection from your partner. [14:57] Neuroplasticity: how you can retrain your brain and create new dopamine pathways. [19:46] The importance of community and support in lasting recovery from porn. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 100: Why You Keep Relapsing (And How to Stop)
04/09/2025
EP 100: Why You Keep Relapsing (And How to Stop)
In this special 100th episode of the Porn to Purpose Podcast, Coach Yeadon and I explore the deep-rooted reasons why many men continue to relapse during their recovery journey from pornography. They discuss personal growth, self-reflection, and the necessity of community support as part of the healing process. Key insights on coping mechanisms, emotional regulation, and how to break the cycle of relapse are shared. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:45] Why quitting porn feels impossible, even when you’re doing all the “right” things [02:30] The real reason why you keep relapsing—it’s not just about willpower [06:10] The power of extracting the lesson from relapse instead of spiraling into shame [10:20] How to shift your focus from quitting to truly outgrowing porn [15:00] The deeper emotional and psychological factors driving addiction [19:45] Why trying to do this alone is a guaranteed path to failure [22:00] What most men misunderstand about “discipline” in recovery [25:30] The missing piece that keeps guys stuck in the relapse cycle [28:10] How to rebuild momentum after you’ve lost it [30:40] The truth about relapse that no one talks about Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 99: The Real Reason Quitting Porn Feels Impossible
04/03/2025
EP 99: The Real Reason Quitting Porn Feels Impossible
Struggling to quit porn? You’re not alone. In this episode of the Porn to Purpose Podcast, I sit down with Coach Yeadon to reveal the step-by-step blueprint for breaking free from pornography addiction. We dive into the four critical pillars of lasting recovery: Recognizing that you need help – Breaking through denial and understanding the real impact of porn on your life. The power of community – Why quitting alone never works and how surrounding yourself with the right people changes everything. Leveraging accountability and a mastermind group – The secret weapon to staying on track and avoiding relapse. Long-term commitment to a purpose-driven life – Replacing porn with something greater to create real transformation. If you’re stuck in the quit-relapse cycle and want to know why willpower alone isn’t enough, this episode gives you the exact strategies to break free—for good. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] – Why most men fail to quit porn—and the biggest mindset shift you need. [02:05] – The first step: Admitting you have a problem and breaking through denial. [04:20] – How community plays a powerful role in quitting porn. [07:10] – The dangers of isolation and why quitting alone never works. [09:45] – How a mastermind group creates accountability and lasting change. [12:30] – Essential strategies for long-term commitment and staying free. [15:15] – The biggest mistakes men make when trying to quit porn. [17:40] – Why quitting porn isn’t the goal—it’s about building a life of purpose. [20:05] – Practical steps to take today to break free from addiction. [23:30] – Final thoughts and the most important action you need to take. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: Porn is robbing you of your confidence, your relationships, and your purpose. You’ve tried quitting alone—it hasn’t worked. It’s time to do something different. Listen now and take your first step toward real freedom.
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EP 98: Failing Forward in Recovery
03/26/2025
EP 98: Failing Forward in Recovery
In today’s episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I dive into a mindset shift that is crucial for long-term recovery—failing forward. Recovery isn’t about perfection; it’s about learning, adjusting, and continuing to grow, even when setbacks happen. I share insights from my own journey, where I’ve experienced struggles but have also built the skills and tools necessary for sustained freedom. This episode explores the difference between sobriety and recovery, why relapse doesn’t erase progress, and how to build a strong framework that helps you get back on track faster. If you’ve ever felt like you’re constantly starting over, this conversation is for you. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the "failing forward" mindset—why recovery is a lifelong journey. [02:05] The difference between sobriety (quantitative) and recovery (cumulative)—why counting days isn’t enough. [04:15] Understanding that relapse doesn’t mean failure—you never lose the skills and lessons you’ve gained. [06:00] How to analyze a relapse: What were the thoughts, triggers, and patterns that led up to it? [08:22] The "recovery boat" analogy—why setbacks help reveal leaks in your framework so you can improve. [10:45] How to use the Relapse Recovery Document to track patterns and adjust your strategy. [13:10] Why accountability and community are essential for bouncing back stronger after a setback. [15:30] How to shift your focus from "starting over" to "building forward"—each step counts. [17:55] The importance of having a structured system—daily habits, check-ins, and proactive strategies. [20:10] Final thoughts: This is a lifetime journey—progress over perfection. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 97: Porn to Purpose (Revisited)
03/19/2025
EP 97: Porn to Purpose (Revisited)
In today’s episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I dig into the journey from porn to purpose and how living with greater intentionality can serve as a powerful pathway to freedom. I share the origins of this community, starting from 'Making Peace with Porn' to what it has evolved into today. I talk about how purpose can act as both a call to action and a stabilizing force in recovery. This episode dives deep into recognizing the call to live a greater life and how aligning with purpose can transform our relationship with porn and with ourselves. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode's theme on the journey from porn to purpose. [01:37] The origins of the community, starting with 'Making Peace with Porn.' [03:15] How the concept of 'porn to purpose' emerged and its significance in recovery. [05:04] Recognizing the call to live more, give more, and be more. [07:22] The role of purpose as a motivator in the recovery journey. [09:40] How living with greater intentionality helps in overcoming addiction. [12:18] The importance of creating a life worth living as a deterrent to relapse. [15:03] Building deeper and more meaningful relationships in recovery. [17:25] Stepping into leadership and personal responsibility as a stabilizing force. [19:48] An invitation to reflect on your purpose and take actionable steps forward. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Check out the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 96: How Long Does It Take To Quit Porn?
03/12/2025
EP 96: How Long Does It Take To Quit Porn?
In today’s episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I’m joined by Coach Yeadon. We’re tackling one of the most pressing questions for those on the journey to recovery: "How long does it take to quit porn?" Together, we dive deep into the myths, the science, and the personal experiences that reveal why recovery is a lifelong journey rather than a quick fix. Coach Yeadon and I unpack the misleading 90-day rule, the myths behind habit formation, and the importance of a fundamental shift in perspective—from seeing porn as a sin to understanding it as a coping mechanism. We also emphasize the significance of active recovery over mere sobriety, and why ongoing diligence is crucial for long-term success. This episode is packed with honest insights, relatable stories, and practical advice for anyone seeking freedom from porn. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode's main question: How long does it take to quit porn? [01:39] Debunking the 90-day myth and exploring the real science of habit change. [03:06] Why the journey to recovery is a lifetime commitment. [05:04] The power of shifting perspectives: from sin to coping mechanism. [07:03] Understanding recovery as an active, ongoing process. [08:29] The role of community and support in breaking free from porn. [10:24] Matt’s insights on avoiding the trap of white-knuckling recovery. [12:24] The importance of being proactive in managing emotional triggers. [16:10] How a fundamental shift in thinking leads to sustainable recovery. [18:36] Practical steps to build new coping mechanisms and prevent relapse. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 95: The Chasm of Cringe
03/05/2025
EP 95: The Chasm of Cringe
In today's episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, we dive into the concept of the "Chasm of Cringe"—the uncomfortable yet necessary process of facing challenges head-on in recovery. Coach Yeadon and I explore how overcoming the fear of judgment and failure is a crucial step in breaking free from porn addiction and stepping into a life of purpose. Through personal experiences and practical insights, we discuss how pushing through the discomfort, embracing imperfection, and choosing the right kind of hard work can create lasting change. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode’s theme – The "Chasm of Cringe" in recovery. [02:05] Why starting something new—especially quitting porn—always feels uncomfortable. [04:32] The amplified shame and stigma surrounding porn addiction and recovery. [07:10] How cultural and personal narratives make speaking about porn even harder. [09:45] The importance of being willing to "do it ugly" and embrace imperfection. [12:28] Why community and accountability are essential in overcoming the cringe factor. [15:50] The difference between choosing short-term comfort vs. long-term freedom. [18:22] Why failure isn’t a setback—it’s part of the process of building resilience. [20:55] How taking consistent small steps beats waiting for the “perfect” time to start. [24:38] Invitation to join the Liberation Bootcamp and get support from other men on this journey. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: Schedule a call to join the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 94: What Would I Tell My 20 Year OId Self...
02/26/2025
EP 94: What Would I Tell My 20 Year OId Self...
In today’s episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I’m sitting down with Coach Yeadon, to talk about some of the hard lessons we’ve learned on our journey of overcoming porn addiction. We’re breaking down the myths around having a high sex drive, the dangers of isolation, and the trap of trying to figure it out alone. If I could go back and talk to my 20-year-old self, what advice would I give? This episode is packed with real talk, practical strategies, and the wisdom I wish I had years ago. If you're struggling, this conversation will show you the path to real freedom. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:15] – Introduction to the theme: What we wish we knew at 20. [02:30] – The high sex drive myth—why porn isn’t just about sex. [05:45] – Understanding porn as an emotional coping mechanism. [08:20] – How dopamine addiction keeps you stuck in the cycle. [11:05] – The isolation trap—why porn thrives in secrecy. [14:40] – The power of community and why you can’t do this alone. [17:15] – Why willpower alone isn’t enough to break free. [21:00] – The importance of guidance—why you need a structured path. [24:35] – Key mindset shifts that help reframe your journey. [28:50] – Final words of encouragement: You don’t have to fight this alone. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: Schedule a call to join the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 93: Signs I Needed To Quit Porn
02/19/2025
EP 93: Signs I Needed To Quit Porn
In today’s episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, I’m joined by Coach Yeadon Smith for an open and honest discussion about the signs that indicate it’s time to rethink your relationship with pornography. We reflect on our personal experiences, the emotional and psychological impact of porn use, and how to recognize when it’s affecting your life negatively. We also explore the role of shame, social conditioning, and disconnection in maintaining the cycle of addiction. Most importantly, we share insights on how to break free and reclaim true intimacy and connection. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:15] Introduction to the episode’s theme: Identifying the warning signs of porn addiction. [02:42] Coach Matthew reflects on the early moments when he realized he needed a change. [05:18] Coach Yeadon discusses how guilt and shame played a role in his struggle with porn. [08:10] The hidden ways porn can rewire the brain and impact real-world intimacy. [11:35] How porn use can lead to isolation and avoidance of meaningful relationships. [14:20] Recognizing when you’ve “quit a thousand times” but keep coming back. [18:50] The link between porn use and emotional disconnection from oneself and others. [22:17] Understanding how pornography provides a false sense of connection. [25:40] The importance of community and accountability in the recovery journey. [30:12] Invitation to join the Liberation Bootcamp and take the next step toward freedom. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: Schedule a call to join the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 92: 2 Years Porn-free: Lessons Learned
02/12/2025
EP 92: 2 Years Porn-free: Lessons Learned
In today’s episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, we celebrate an incredible milestone—two years of sobriety from pornography. Our co-host, Yeadon Smith shares his personal journey, reflecting on the lessons learned, the challenges overcome, and the key shifts that made long-term freedom possible. We discuss the deeper emotional patterns that drive porn use, the importance of community, and the essential tools that helped sustain recovery. This episode is packed with raw insights and powerful takeaways for anyone on the path to liberation. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Welcome and introduction to today’s milestone episode. [01:30] Reflecting on two years of sobriety and how it almost didn’t feel possible. [03:45] The realization that quitting porn isn’t just about quitting—it’s about personal transformation. [06:20] Why willpower alone isn’t enough and how environment plays a crucial role. [08:10] Understanding that porn was never really about sex—it was a coping mechanism. [11:05] The importance of emotional intelligence in overcoming addiction. [13:30] How community and accountability provide the foundation for lasting change. [16:45] Learning to replace unhealthy habits with productive coping strategies. [20:15] The power of being honest with yourself and others in the healing process. [23:50] Final reflections and an invitation to take action toward freedom. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp: Schedule a call to join the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 91: Creating Your Accountability Framework
02/05/2025
EP 91: Creating Your Accountability Framework
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose Podcast, I delve into the vital role of accountability in recovery. I share my personal framework, developed since 2019, for staying connected, supported, and visible on my recovery journey. This episode outlines actionable steps to establish a robust accountability infrastructure and emphasizes the importance of community and visibility. Top 10 Episode Highlights: [00:15] Introduction to the topic: Why accountability is key in recovery. [01:25] The challenges of navigating recovery alone and the value of community. [03:40] Daily accountability check-ins within the Porn to Purpose community. [05:10] Weekly calls with sponsors and secondary accountability partners. [07:00] Leveraging accountability software for transparency and visibility. [09:15] The role of external communities like SAA in long-term recovery. [11:05] Structuring a weekly framework to maintain momentum and focus. [13:20] Bookending the week with support calls and reflections. [15:50] Overcoming challenges and returning to the accountability system. [17:35] Practical advice for building your own accountability framework. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 90: Debunking Porn Myths: Part 2
01/29/2025
EP 90: Debunking Porn Myths: Part 2
In today's episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, Coach Matt and Coach Yeadon continue their deep dive into debunking common myths around pornography. Building on last week's discussion, they tackle three additional myths that hold many men back from reclaiming their power and purpose. These myths include: "I've tried to quit and failed, so it's hopeless," "Porn is just a normal part of being a man," and "I can use porn in moderation." This empowering conversation highlights the importance of community, hope, and progress over perfection in overcoming challenges related to pornography. The episode concludes with actionable steps and self-reflective questions to help men assess their relationship with porn and take meaningful steps toward liberation. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:10] Introduction and recap of last week's myths: "Porn is harmless," "I can stop anytime I want," and "I'm the only one struggling." [02:45] Myth #4: "I've tried to quit and failed, so it's hopeless." Coach Yeadon shares insights on finding hope and resilience. [06:32] The role of community in breaking free from isolation and cultivating hope. [08:15] Myth #5: "Porn is just a normal part of being a man." Coach Matt and Yeadon discuss how normalization perpetuates harm. [13:04] Why "common" doesn’t mean "healthy" – understanding the real impact of porn on men’s lives. [17:20] Myth #6: "I can use porn in moderation." Insights into how addiction escalates and why negotiation doesn’t work. [20:50] The importance of focusing on progress over perfection in recovery. [23:40] Self-reflection questions to determine if porn is a problem in your life. [27:18] Three ways to start shifting your relationship with porn: awareness, honesty, and support. [32:10] Invitation to join the Liberation Bootcamp for active recovery and community support. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn more about the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 89: Debunking Porn Myths : Part 1
01/22/2025
EP 89: Debunking Porn Myths : Part 1
In today’s episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, we tackle the top three myths surrounding porn addiction that keep men stuck in cycles of shame and struggle. Coach Yeadon and I share personal experiences, practical insights, and actionable advice to help listeners recognize these myths and begin the journey toward freedom. This episode is part one of a two-part series dedicated to exposing false beliefs and empowering men to reclaim their lives. From addressing the misconception that "porn is harmless" to breaking the silence of isolation, this episode is packed with wisdom and encouragement. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction to the episode and the theme of debunking common myths about porn addiction. [02:45] Myth #1: "Porn is harmless and doesn’t hurt anyone." Why this belief is false and its impact on mental, spiritual, and relational health. [06:15] Insights into the toxic nature of the pornography industry and how it affects consumers. [08:40] Myth #2: "I can stop whenever I want." Challenging this belief and exploring the psychology of addiction. [12:20] Strategies for testing self-control and taking the first steps toward change. [15:05] Myth #3: "I’m the only one who struggles with this." Why isolation is a trap and how community brings healing. [18:50] The importance of breaking the silence and sharing your story in safe spaces. [22:30] How shame diminishes when stories are told in supportive environments. [26:00] Introduction to the Liberation Bootcamp as a next step for sustained recovery. [28:45] Closing thoughts and preview of part two in the series. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 88: Rebuilding Trust in Relationships
01/15/2025
EP 88: Rebuilding Trust in Relationships
In today’s episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, we’re diving into one of the most challenging yet essential aspects of recovery: rebuilding trust in our relationships. This is a conversation that often feels terrifying, but it’s also one of the most liberating steps we can take. In this episode, Coach Yeadon shares his personal journey—lessons learned, hard truths faced, and the powerful tools that have helped him rebuild trust in his life. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:15] Introduction to the theme of rebuilding trust in recovery. [02:08] Yeadon shares his first exposure to pornography and the early struggles he faced. [04:12] The impact of hiding pornography use and its effect on relationships. [07:06] Why transparency and bringing loved ones into the conversation is vital. [10:18] Understanding the difference between seeking validation and being authentic. [13:35] The role of time and patience in rebuilding trust. [16:22] Practical steps for remaining visible and transparent with your partner. [18:54] How recovery skills apply to all areas of life, including parenting and communication. [22:11] The secret to rebuilding trust: demonstrating change through consistent actions. [25:40] Final words of encouragement for those navigating trust and recovery. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 87: Food & Sex
01/08/2025
EP 87: Food & Sex
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, I explore an intriguing connection between food and sexual urges in the recovery journey. Drawing from my own experience, I share insights into how binge eating and porn addiction often mirror each other, both acting as ways to sedate, distract, or regulate emotions. I discuss the emotional patterns beneath these behaviors, the role of self-discipline, and how mindfulness can help us uncover and address deeper issues like fatigue, anxiety, and stress. By reshaping our relationship with food, we can create a foundation for healthier habits and greater self-control in other areas of life. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:12] Introduction - Exploring the food and sex connection in recovery. [02:15] Food as Sedation - Emotional overeating and its ties to pornography urges. [06:10] Emotional Intelligence - The importance of slowing down and observing triggers. [09:22] Quote Insight - “Hunger is the first element of self-discipline...” and its deeper implications. [12:35] Food and Survival - The link between food, sex, and root survival instincts. [15:48] Interchangeable Addictions - How food and porn serve similar emotional needs. [18:42] Dopamine Hits - The role of food, screens, and porn in seeking quick pleasure. [22:01] Energy Leaks - How poor habits around food and sex drain us energetically. [25:14] Clean Up Energy - The transformation that happens when we regain control. [28:30] Call to Action - Invitation to join the Liberation Bootcamp for deeper healing. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn More About the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 86: January 2025 Reboot Challenge
01/01/2025
EP 86: January 2025 Reboot Challenge
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, we discuss the power of new beginnings and the transformative potential of the reboot challenge. This episode delves into the importance of resetting, refocusing, and reengaging with recovery efforts to cultivate lasting change. We explore strategies for overcoming pornography addiction through community support, practical tools, and intentional action. Highlights include a 10-day reboot challenge launching in January, the role of hope, and the importance of creating an environment of support to sustain recovery. Top 10 Show Highlights [00:12] Introduction to the episode’s theme of new beginnings and the year-end reboot. [03:28] Yeadon shares his personal growth and how it transformed his 19-year marriage. [07:45] Why periodic resets are essential for recovery and personal growth. [12:06] Insights on the 10-day reboot challenge and how it supports recovery. [16:30] The importance of replacing negative habits with tools and resources. [20:48] How willpower alone is not enough for lasting change. [24:03] The role of hope in finding motivation and action toward change. [27:22] The transformative power of stepping into a supportive community. [32:10] Practical exercises and tools included in the 10-day reboot challenge. [35:40] A call to action: Join the reboot challenge and commit to growth in 2025. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Register for the 10-Day Reboot Challenge:
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EP 85: Holiday Recovery Strategies
12/25/2024
EP 85: Holiday Recovery Strategies
In this episode of the Porn to Purpose podcast, Coach Yeadon Smith and I talk about how to stay sober and on track with your recovery during the holiday season. We dive into the challenges that come with disrupted routines, holiday events, and potential pitfalls that can throw you off course. We focus on bringing awareness, planning, and intentionality to the chaos of the holidays. You’ll hear practical tips on how to assess your capacity, spot the danger zones, and stick to your recovery habits — even when things get tough. Top 10 Show Highlights [00:15] - Introduction to the episode’s theme: navigating recovery through the holiday season. [01:32] - Why the holiday season is full of potential pitfalls and challenges. [03:24] - The importance of assessing your schedule and being aware of reduced capacity. [05:41] - Understanding the concept of “middle circle” behaviors and identifying danger zones. [07:10] - How holiday events can drain your energy and affect decision-making. [09:08] - The role of the daily active recovery framework during the holidays. [11:23] - Why small, consistent efforts matter more than perfection. [13:15] - Practical tips for maintaining core recovery habits in chaotic times. [15:48] - How to avoid falling into the trap of “life by default” during the holidays. [18:10] - The importance of getting support and staying connected to the community. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn more about the Liberation Bootcamp:
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EP 84: Sleep: A Foundation for Recovery
12/18/2024
EP 84: Sleep: A Foundation for Recovery
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, we uncover the underestimated yet foundational role of sleep in the recovery journey. Sleep isn’t just about rest—it’s the bedrock of clarity, resilience, and effective decision-making. Without it, even the best strategies falter. Coach Yeadon and I break down how poor sleep impacts recovery and share practical tools to reclaim this critical piece of your foundation. Join us as we discuss the profound importance of sleep and its direct connection to recovery, emotional stability, and overall well-being. Top 10 Show Highlights [00:18] Introduction to the episode’s theme: Is your foundation built on rock or sand? [01:44] Why sleep is the often-overlooked yet critical element in recovery. [03:12] The HALT framework: Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired—and why “tired” tops the list. [05:21] Insights into how lack of sleep triggers impulsive behaviors and decision fatigue. [07:15] Personal stories from Matt and Yeadon on how sleep deprivation has impacted their lives and recovery journeys. [09:08] Why sleep deprivation compounds over time and undermines long-term success. [12:23] The importance of reparenting yourself and setting intentional sleep schedules. [14:56] Tips for integrating micro-naps and breaking the stigma around rest. [16:37] How to create a supportive environment to prioritize and protect sleep. [19:02] The value of community in reinforcing sleep habits and recovery tools. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook: Learn about the Liberation Bootcamp and other resources:
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EP 83: I Had To Be Honest With Myself...
12/11/2024
EP 83: I Had To Be Honest With Myself...
In this episode of the "Porn to Purpose" podcast, Coach Yeadon shares a powerful story of his recovery journey, offering insights into the habits, tools, and intentional practices that have shaped his path to freedom from pornography. Reflecting on his two-year journey, Yeadon delves into the foundational importance of building healthy habits, understanding triggers, and practicing emotional awareness. He emphasizes how tying intention to recovery activities transforms them into effective tools for lasting change. This episode is an inspiring reminder that recovery is possible with focus, intention, and the right support. Top 10 Show Highlights: [00:15] Introduction to Yeadon’s journey and his role in the Porn to Purpose community. [01:45] The discovery of the Liberation Bootcamp and the realization of recovery potential. [03:10] Introduction to the "Core Four" habits: exercise, journaling, reading, and meditation. [05:22] The hard truth of moving beyond white-knuckling sobriety to intentional recovery. [08:50] Understanding the impact of triggers and how the brain processes dopamine responses. [12:15] The transformative role of meditation in recovery and emotional awareness. [14:40] How tying habits to recovery changes the game and builds lasting progress. [17:02] Recognizing and reframing the stories in our minds to move past triggers. [19:40] The importance of supportive community spaces in navigating recovery. [21:55] Closing thoughts: Recovery is a journey, and freedom is possible. Linked List of Sites or Resources Mentioned: Join the Porn to Purpose Community on Facebook (): Learn About The Liberation Boot Camp:
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