#FreeAdviceFriday

A live question and answer session about all things mental health with mental health revolutionary, Dr. Spirit

#FAF May 30th, 2025: Healing Isn't a Performance... The Boundary, the Breakdown, and the Breakthrough 05/30/2025

#FAF May 30th, 2025: Healing Isn't a Performance... The Boundary, the Breakdown, and the Breakthrough This week on #FreeAdviceFriday, Dr. Spirit invites listeners to shed their emotional armor and get real about the inner work. From misunderstood boundaries and emotional burnout in marriage 💔, to rekindling romantic connection through chemistry and compatibility 💞, this episode dives deep into how our mental health patterns shape every interaction we have — especially with ourselves. Whether it’s navigating grief 🕊️, procrastination 🐌, or reclaiming joy after years of numbness 🤖, Spirit doesn't just give answers — she helps listeners find their truth beneath the question. 🔐 This isn’t therapy… but it’s therapy therapy. ⏱️ Timestamps & Topics [00:00:00] 🧘‍♀️ Emotional Check-In: “What are you feeling, and where are you feeling it?” [00:03:00] 💬 Ask Me Anything: Boundaries, anonymous questions, and the safe space created over 9 years. [00:06:00] 🧱 Setting Boundaries: The real reason your "healthy boundary" leads to emotional messes. [00:14:00] 🔊 “Why Do I Always Raise My Voice?”: Unpacking emotional escalation and the illusion of control. [00:18:00] 💍 Marriage or Mismatch?: When numbness, not love, takes up space in your relationship. [00:25:00] ❤️ Attachment Styles in Love: Why dismissive, avoidant, and anxious types aren’t dealbreakers — trauma is. [00:32:00] 🧠 Chemistry vs Compatibility: Can you train your brain to fall in love? [00:37:00] 🧪 Relationship Burnout: How hormones affect your feelings of love (and how to reignite them). [00:44:00] ⌛ Procrastination Problems: The science behind waiting until the last minute. [00:49:00] 💔 The Relationship Gap: Why 7 years of singleness isn’t the issue — it's clarity. [00:55:00] 🕯️ Grieving and Growing: The power of therapy for loss, transformation, and restoration. [01:01:00] 💖 Loving You Better: Final thoughts on self-love, advocacy, and leaving the world better for our children. Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/36794290

#FAF May 23rd, 2025: Triggered, Trapped, and Transformed: Decoding the Signals of Your Soul 05/23/2025

#FAF May 23rd, 2025: Triggered, Trapped, and Transformed: Decoding the Signals of Your Soul In this vulnerable, truth-filled session of #FreeAdviceFriday, Dr. Spirit takes listeners on a healing journey through personal triggers, emotional trauma, and the misunderstood nature of feelings as messages from the soul. Answering a variety of listener-submitted questions, she decodes difficult relational dynamics, cultural clashes, childhood trauma, and even the mystery of chronic pain. With loving candor and spiritual clarity, she lays out a blueprint for reclaiming mental wellness—starting with honoring your emotional intelligence and investing in healing. ⏱️ Timestamps: [00:00–03:00] 🎧 Opening Check-in Weekly grounding space for mental health Emotions as essential signals [03:00–06:00] 🧭 Feelings vs. Thoughts vs. Behavior Why feelings are the gateway to truth Emotional IQ and survival instincts [06:00–13:30] ❤️‍🩹 Reconnecting With An Estranged Father Letter from listener struggling to rebuild relationship Cost of presence, motivation to heal [13:30–20:00] 🚪 Triggered by Feeling Trapped Childhood trauma’s lingering grip The difference between then and now [20:00–26:30] 🌡️ Can Trauma Cause Chronic Pain? Mind-body connection explained Modalities like TFCBT & somatic therapies [26:30–33:30] 🧠 Fear vs. Realism Breaking down fear as a biological tool How anxious thoughts hijack clarity [33:30–42:00] 🚫 Navigating Toxic Parental Dynamics When abuse masks as family obligation Building legacy by protecting your peace [42:00–49:30] 🏫 Homeschooling & Mental Health When school becomes a trigger How to listen to what your child’s body is saying [49:30–56:00] 🚫 Can Narcissists Truly Change? The brutal truth about narcissistic personality disorder “Not yet” as a space for future healing science [56:00–01:00:00] 🚩 Healthy Relationships vs. Red Flags A quick and powerful guide to relational clarity [01:00:00–End] 🎁 Announcement: 150 Free Therapy Sessions New pro bono therapy opportunity from T2S C.A.R.E.S. Men’s support group launching globally Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/36695005

#FAF May 16th, 2025: Let That Man Go! Boundaries, Burnout & the Power of You 05/16/2025

#FAF May 16th, 2025: Let That Man Go! Boundaries, Burnout & the Power of You In this intimate and powerful episode of #FreeAdviceFriday, Dr. Spirit creates space for deep soul healing through emotional validation, psychological insight, and spiritual encouragement. She begins by inviting listeners to check in with their bodies and honor their emotional truths. From there, she answers heartfelt listener questions on toxic relationships, emotional detachment, postpartum dynamics, traumatic past partners, and navigating the murky waters of exclusivity in dating. With clarity, compassion, and a touch of humor, Dr. Spirit demystifies topics like burnout, workplace toxicity, parental trauma, and even “soul ties.” This episode is a masterclass in emotional intelligence, offering tools for recovery, grounding, and reclaiming personal power. ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – 04:00 ✨ Welcome & Emotional Check-In – Dr. Spirit invites listeners to assess their emotional state and connect to their body’s messages. 04:00 – 06:00 ❤️ Purpose of the Show & Ways to Participate – Spirit explains how to engage live and how donations help others get mental health services. 06:00 – 14:30 💔 Dear Spirit: Is My Partner a Red Flag? – A listener questions staying in a rekindled relationship with emotionally harmful and concerning dynamics. 14:30 – 22:20 👶 Relationship Shift After Baby – A listener navigates engagement, childbirth, and a partner’s sudden change in family planning. 22:20 – 28:30 🌪️ Surviving Toxic Workplaces – Spirit outlines grounding techniques and stresses the importance of planning your exit strategy from harmful work environments. 28:30 – 36:30 🙅🏽‍♀️ Choosing Singlehood or Avoiding Growth? – A listener argues that relationships hinder growth. Spirit challenges this notion with bold insights. 36:30 – 43:00 🏡 Living Together Before Marriage? – Spirit reframes the question by focusing on compatibility, mutual goals, and intentionality—not just cohabitation. 43:00 – 50:30 🤬 Replaced After Years? – How to manage feelings of rejection and anger when your ex moves on quickly. 50:30 – 58:10 🤝 Exclusive or Nah? – What to consider when dating someone hesitant about commitment, and how to avoid rushing the timeline of emotional compatibility. 58:10 – 01:06:30 🔗 Breaking Soul Ties & Healing Sexual Trauma – A married woman struggles with thoughts of a toxic ex. Spirit gives a deep-dive on rewiring arousal, pattern disruption, and the sacred power of emotional honesty. 01:06:30 – End 💌 Closing Blessings & Resources – Spirit signs off with encouragement, international contact info, and a loving reminder that healing is always possible. Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/36598755

#FAF May 9th, 2025: Healing Out Loud (Love Lessons, Life Clarity & Soulful Truths) 05/11/2025

#FAF May 9th, 2025: Healing Out Loud (Love Lessons, Life Clarity & Soulful Truths) 📋 Episode Summary: In this emotionally resonant episode of #FreeAdviceFriday, Dr. Spirit returns from speaking at a UN mental health convening to pour wisdom, clarity, and compassion into her global audience. Covering deeply personal listener letters, she unpacks the real reasons behind relationship confusion, emotional overwhelm, and self-abandonment. With her signature blend of soulful truth and clinical insight, she discusses the difference between burnout and depression, how to process heartbreak without losing yourself, the sacred work of reclaiming your identity post-betrayal, and how to align long-distance love with spiritual and emotional growth. Whether you're navigating communication challenges, decluttering your life, or exploring AI in therapy, this episode delivers therapy for the soul with actionable strategies and unwavering love. ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – 04:00 ✨ Welcome Back & UN Reflections – Spirit shares why she missed last week's episode and reflects on her UN speech about global mental health equity. 04:00 – 06:30 ❤️ Call for Real Healers – Spirit is hiring and mentoring; she emphasizes authenticity and passion for the healing journey. 06:30 – 13:30 💌 FWB or Relationship? – A listener confused about a "friends with benefits" dynamic gets a dose of truth, clarity, and responsibility. 13:30 – 15:00 💪 Reclaiming Power in Love – Spirit reminds listeners: stop waiting for others to change—choose yourself. 15:00 – 22:20 💔 Separation via Text: Now What? – A wife receives a shocking breakup text at work; Spirit coaches her through immediate steps and long-term strategy. 22:20 – 26:30 🧹 Decluttering & Emotional Attachment – Guidance on releasing possessions and the deeper meanings behind "holding on." 26:30 – 30:50 🫶 Breakups vs. Self-Abandonment – Choosing to leave someone who can’t meet your needs is hard. Spirit explains how to grieve with grace. 30:50 – 36:20 🧠 How to Feel Your Feelings – Spirit breaks down why so many people don’t feel anymore—and how to reconnect with your body. 36:20 – 43:50 💞 Long-Distance Love with Intention – How to deepen spiritual, emotional, and romantic intimacy even across the miles. 43:50 – 46:40 🛡️ Safe, Secure, Romantic Relationships – Spirit unpacks the difference between safety, security, and consistency in love. 46:40 – 51:20 🤖 AI & Therapy? – A thoughtful conversation about the rise of AI in mental health care, including risks, benefits, and the human element. 51:20 – 58:20 💬 Different Communication Styles – Not just about words: how trauma and misunderstanding can derail connection. 58:20 – 01:04:40 🧍🏽‍♀️ Healing After Betrayal & Finding Yourself Again – Spirit explores the hard truth: losing yourself isn’t just about the partner—it’s about reconnecting to who you’ve always been. 01:04:40 – End 🌺 Mother’s Day Love & Closing Blessings – A tender tribute to mothers of all kinds, and reminders for continued mental health advocacy. Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/36523440

#FAF April 18th, 2025: When Your Body Says ‘Enough’ 05/11/2025

#FAF April 11th, 2025: Burnout, Boundaries & Breakups: Soulful Healing Starts Here 04/11/2025

#FAF April 11th, 2025: Burnout, Boundaries & Breakups: Soulful Healing Starts Here In this powerful soul-to-soul session, Dr. Spirit returns with love, wisdom, and practical healing tools to help listeners navigate the highs and lows of life. From anxiety in therapy to dating at 66, dealing with difficult co-workers, and confronting perfectionism, this episode meets you wherever you are on your mental wellness journey. With heartfelt listener Q&As, Spirit guides the audience through burnout, identity, love, communication, and internalized pride—all while encouraging deeper self-awareness and radical self-care. If you’ve ever struggled to feel like yourself, feared being seen, or stayed too long in the wrong relationship, this episode will remind you that your healing matters—and so do you. ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – 04:00 | ✨ Body Check-In & Emotional Naming 04:00 – 06:30 | 💌 How to Submit Anonymous Questions + Access Therapy Support 06:30 – 10:50 | 💑 Dating at 66: Self-Sufficiency, Sexuality & Companionship 10:50 – 14:30 | 👀 Attraction & Honesty in Relationships 14:30 – 19:30 | 😰 Therapy Anxiety: Why We Show Up Differently in Session 19:30 – 23:40 | 💔 Am I Ready to Date After Divorce? Understanding Your Relationship Intentions 23:40 – 28:40 | 🧍‍♀️ Pride vs. Perfectionism: How Trauma Hides in High Standards 28:40 – 34:20 | 🧠 Working With Someone With Mental Health Challenges 34:20 – 40:10 | 💆‍♀️ Still Not Feeling Like Myself After Medical Leave—What Now? 40:10 – 44:30 | 💞 The Fear of Being Seen: Why You Struggle to Connect 44:30 – 49:20 | ⏳ How Long Should Therapy Last? Why Time Alone Doesn’t Heal 49:20 – 52:00 | 💥 The Role of Therapy: Relief vs. Transformation 52:00 – 56:30 | 🪞 When You're in a Relationship With an Unhealed Critic 56:30 – 59:30 | 🎓 Future Therapists in Therapy: Why It’s Essential 59:30 – 01:05:00 | 🧘🏾‍♀️ Final Reflections: Choose Healing. Choose You. Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/36105530

#FAF April 4th, 2025 04/06/2025

#FAF April 4th, 2025 In this transformative episode of #FreeAdviceFriday, Dr. Spirit guides listeners through the complexities of emotional healing with deep empathy and clinical insight. She answers real-time questions about anxious attachment, people-pleasing, choosing emotionally unavailable partners, and how to know when you’re ready for love. With compassion and clarity, Spirit teaches how to turn inward, honor your boundaries, and disrupt destructive relationship cycles. From healing therapeutic breakups to navigating grief, breakups, and trauma, this episode offers grounded advice, raw truths, and a powerful call to reclaim your wholeness—no matter what life throws your way. Whether you're trying to love yourself better, let go of toxic ties, or figure out how to stop attracting chaos, Spirit gives you tools to choose differently and heal deeply. ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – 04:00 | ✨ Welcome & Body Check-in – Honoring your emotions beyond “fine” 04:00 – 07:00 | ❤️ Compersion & Provision – Finding joy in helping others 07:00 – 10:30 | 📩 Live Listener Q&A – Attachment, therapy, and early wounds 10:30 – 14:00 | 🧠 Burnout & Depression – Root causes and recovery through rest 14:00 – 20:30 | 🚘 Analogy of the Car – What depletion really looks like 20:30 – 26:30 | 🌍 Cultural Pressures – Balancing identity and emotional needs 26:30 – 33:30 | 🛑 Friendship & Boundaries – Turning confusion into clarity 33:30 – 39:00 | 💬 Communication Blocks – Therapy as the mirror for healing 39:00 – 46:00 | 💔 Exes, Parents & Priorities – When emotional needs go unmet 46:00 – 52:30 | 🔥 Relationship Readiness – Redefining “the one” through self-work 52:30 – 58:00 | 🧠 Therapy Betrayal – Navigating abandonment by your therapist 58:00 – 01:03:00 | 💌 Final Words – Rest, reflection, and reclaiming your peace Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/36021935

#FAF March 28th, 2025 03/28/2025

#FAF March 28th, 2025 In this heartfelt episode of #FreeAdviceFriday, Dr. Spirit offers deep soul-level healing and practical advice for managing burnout, overcoming depression, navigating cultural identity, setting boundaries, and healing from breakups. She passionately reminds listeners to check in with their bodies, not just their thoughts, and highlights the importance of rest, discernment, and self-honoring decisions. Whether you’re struggling with friendship conflicts, first-time heartbreak, or figuring out how to communicate better—this episode brings therapy to your soul with actionable insights and love. ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – 04:00 ✨ Welcome & Body Check-in: Spirit opens with a wellness check and the importance of naming true emotions, not just conclusions like “fine” or “bad.” 04:00 – 07:00 ❤️ The Gift of Compersion & Provision: Spirit talks about how helping others helps her, and defines "compersion"—joy from others' joy. 07:00 – 10:30 📩 Listener Q&A Begins – Psychology & Media: Spirit shares her journey into media, healing, and merging cultural relevancy with therapy. 10:30 – 14:00 🧠 Burnout vs Depression: A masterclass on how to tell the difference, understand symptoms, and why recovery must include rest. 14:00 – 20:30 🛑 The Cost of Not Resting: Spirit uses powerful car analogies to explain depletion, burnout, and the absolute necessity of slowing down. 20:30 – 26:30 🌍 Culture, Conflict & Returning Home: Advice to a listener navigating cultural obligations vs. emotional needs while visiting family abroad. 26:30 – 33:30 🔍 Friendship, Boundaries & Clarity: Spirit guides a listener in transforming confusion into clarity and setting intention-based boundaries. 33:30 – 39:00 💬 Becoming a Better Communicator: Why therapy helps you unpack emotional blocks and become a more effective communicator. 39:00 – 46:00 💔 Processing Past Hurt & Reclaiming Voice: Spirit links emotional trauma to fear of speaking and guides healing through comparison to physical pain. 46:00 – 52:30 🔥 Flirting, First Moves & Feminine Power: A vibrant response to whether making the first move appears “desperate.” Spoiler: it’s about authenticity. 52:30 – 58:00 👵 Healing a Broken Heart – For Your Granddaughter: How to comfort a grieving teen and help her see this breakup as the floor—not the ceiling—of love. 58:00 – 01:07:30 🧠 When Therapy Plateaus: Spirit breaks down when to switch therapists, how to assess progress, and why therapy should always move you forward. 01:07:30 – End 💌 Closing Blessings: Spirit ends with love, reminders to rest, contact info, and her heartfelt commitment to community care. Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/35913490

#FAF March 21st, 2025 03/21/2025

#FAF March 21st, 2025 📌 Episode Summary: In this powerful and emotionally charged episode of #FreeAdviceFriday, Dr. Spirit welcomes listeners into a vulnerable and transformative space of growth, healing, and self-discovery. She opens with a grounding conversation about how we label our emotions and encourages a deeper awareness of what we're truly feeling. Through heartfelt listener questions, Dr. Spirit explores the complexities of emotional boundaries, the pain of betrayal, and how to process life-changing experiences like therapy “hangovers.” She dives into what it means to live alone for the first time at 57, navigate narcissistic relationships, and determine true compatibility in love. Her bold and empowering advice is filled with compassion, clinical wisdom, and unshakable realness. Whether you're recovering from relationship trauma, questioning your path, or preparing for a new life chapter, this episode offers clarity, support, and hope. ⏱️ Timestamps + Highlights [00:00:00] – Welcome & Check-In "I’m good" isn’t a feeling. Let’s explore what you’re really experiencing. [00:03:50] – The Emotional Range We Live In You don’t have to live in joy or sadness forever — learn to reset and move between emotions with awareness. [00:08:00] – Setting Boundaries with Loved Ones What do we owe emotionally to those we love? Advice on guilt, boundaries, and honoring your own emotional safety. [00:15:40] – What is a Therapy or Vulnerability Hangover? Why deep emotional work can leave you exhausted — and why that’s a good sign that healing is happening. [00:24:20] – Starting Over at 57: Living Alone for the First Time Fear of the unknown is natural. But what if the best chapter of your life is just beginning? [00:32:10] – Betrayed by a Partner Who Had a Secret Baby Processing the pain of betrayal, defining your non-negotiables, and protecting your peace while co-parenting. [00:43:10] – Compatibility vs. Chemistry Are you two truly aligned, or are you forcing a fit? Understanding the blueprint for a lasting relationship. [00:56:30] – The Residual Impact of Narcissistic Personality Disorder How being in relationship with a narcissist affects your mental health, and how to recover from it. [01:05:20] – Why Some Men Expect Women to Stay After Infidelity Unpacking trauma, double standards, and why emotional processing isn’t optional for real healing. [01:16:00] – Closing Thoughts + Big News A call for new clinicians, and the announcement of a $200,000 grant to support mental health access in Atlanta. ✨ Episode Takeaways: Boundaries protect your peace — not everyone deserves access to your emotions. Therapy that “hurts” is often working — give yourself space to integrate the transformation. You’re never too old to start over — and never too young to walk away from what no longer serves you. Narcissistic abuse is real and leaves residue. Healing is possible — and necessary. Your relationship should feel like a home, not a battleground. Legacy is built in how we choose to care for ourselves and others, every day. Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/35816370

#FAF March 14th, 2025 03/14/2025

#FAF March 14th, 2025 In this insightful episode of #FreeAdviceFriday, Dr. Spirit tackles a wide range of topics centered around mental health, relationships, trauma, and personal growth. She opens with a grounding reflection on resilience and self-care, emphasizing the importance of therapy, breathwork, and holistic wellness. Throughout the episode, she provides in-depth advice on: Recognizing and managing anxiety and trauma responses Setting healthy boundaries with toxic family members Navigating romantic relationships, including dating lulls and long-term compatibility Understanding attachment styles and their impact on relationships Using therapy as preventative care rather than a crisis tool Handling friendship loss and social isolation How to tell when a relationship is no longer serving you Listeners engage with real-life questions, from navigating generational trauma to the importance of self-worth in relationships. Dr. Spirit offers powerful insights and practical strategies to heal, grow, and build fulfilling connections. Timestamps: [00:00:00] – Opening reflection: The importance of resilience and finding joy in small victories [00:02:00] – The power of deep breathing and recognizing when your nervous system is dysregulated [00:05:00] – Engaging in therapy and holistic wellness beyond just talk therapy [00:07:00] – Dear Spirit: Managing mental wellness when dealing with toxic family members [00:11:00] – Setting boundaries with elderly loved ones while maintaining respect [00:12:00] – Navigating dating lulls and assessing compatibility in relationships [00:16:00] – Avoiding the mistake of treating dating like a marriage [00:17:30] – Breaking the habit of only going to therapy in times of crisis [00:22:00] – The importance of preventative mental health care [00:23:00] – Dealing with friendship loss and feelings of social inadequacy [00:28:00] – Healing intergenerational trauma and setting clear boundaries in family dynamics [00:35:00] – Understanding anxious and avoidant attachment styles in relationships [00:47:00] – Designing a structured relationship plan with your partner [00:53:00] – How to know when a relationship is no longer for you [00:58:00] – Managing trauma triggers when people don’t keep their promises [01:06:00] – Closing thoughts: Prioritizing your mental health and accessing support Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/35701075

From The Vault : December 20th, 2019 w/ Margena Carter, LMFT 03/12/2025

From The Vault : December 20th, 2019 w/ Margena Carter, LMFT In this special birthday edition of #FreeAdviceFriday, Spirit and guest therapist dive into pressing mental health topics, relationships, and personal growth. The episode features live audience questions about setting boundaries, co-parenting struggles, navigating breakups, exploring identity, and managing anxiety. In addition to answering listener questions, Spirit leads a fundraiser for in Atlanta, supporting K-8 students who are at risk of losing access to therapy services. Tune in for insightful discussions, expert advice, and actionable tips on mental well-being, relationships, and personal empowerment. Timestamps & Key Topics [00:00:00] – Birthday Celebration & Fundraiser Introduction Spirit celebrates her birthday by raising funds for Centennial Academy to save their mental health program. Emphasis on why therapy is vital for young students, especially those in poverty or unstable environments. [00:02:20] – Introducing the Guest: Margena Carter Margena Carter shares her expertise as a Licensed Marriage & Family Therapist and Entertainment Therapist. Her work in trauma therapy, self-harm interventions, and academic contributions at Antioch University. [00:07:40] – How to Move On but Stay Friends with the Love of Your Life Audience question: Is it possible to stay friends after breaking up with "the love of your life" while dating others? Spirit and Marjina discuss emotional boundaries, potential pitfalls, and unrealistic expectations in maintaining such relationships. [00:11:10] – Exploring Identity: A Man’s Desire to Wear Heels Without Consequences Discussion on self-expression, confidence, and societal judgment. Advice on gradual integration in supportive environments and the importance of self-acceptance. [00:15:00] – Pregnancy, Marriage Pressure & Relationship Red Flags A pregnant woman questions whether she should marry her child’s father despite not feeling ready. Insights on coercion, relationship readiness, and the long-term consequences of marrying out of obligation. [00:22:50] – Managing Anxiety, Career Growth & Co-Parenting Struggles Caller shares struggles with imposter syndrome at work, lack of career fulfillment, and a toxic co-parenting dynamic. Spirit & Marjina recommend boundary-setting, therapy, and career planning for long-term relief. [00:34:30] – Breaking Up with a Partner Who is Emotionally Dependent Advice on codependency, guilt-driven relationships, and constructive uncoupling. Spirit reveals a hard truth about how people unconsciously enable dependency in relationships. [00:41:10] – When Someone Keeps Leaving & Coming Back: Relationship Patterns A listener asks why a partner repeatedly enters and exits their life. The dangers of "almost compatible relationships" and the illusion of fixing someone. [00:47:30] – Family Drama: A Sister Who Keeps Leaving & Moving Back In When a family member continually seeks refuge but never leaves a toxic relationship. How enabling differs from supporting, and setting boundaries while still being compassionate. [00:53:00] – Understanding Schizophrenia & Mental Illness Breaking down common myths about schizophrenia and its biological vs. environmental causes. Treatment options, the importance of medication management, and support for family members. [01:00:00] – Final Thoughts & Fundraiser Wrap-Up Encouragement to donate to the Centennial Academy Mental Health Fund. Reflection on the importance of mental health resources for underserved youth. Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/35661770

#FAF March 7th, 2025 03/07/2025

#FAF March 7th, 2025 In this episode of #FreeAdviceFriday, Dr. Spirit invites listeners to check in with themselves, offering guidance on emotional self-awareness and managing overwhelming feelings. She addresses anonymous questions on relationships, career growth, parenting, personal identity, and boundaries. Discussions include navigating dating after divorce, turning down a promotion without seeming unambitious, preparing teens for responsible decision-making, handling non-exclusive relationships, and overcoming childhood colorism trauma. Dr. Spirit also shares insights on high school application stress, accessing mental health support, and empowering children with healthy expectations in relationships. Timestamps & Topics: [00:00:00] Opening & Emotional Check-In Encouragement to reflect on emotions Recognizing where feelings manifest in the body Understanding how to shift from negative emotions [00:05:50] Dear Spirit: Dating After Divorce & Feeling a Void Increasing social engagement to find meaningful relationships Avoiding the trap of waiting for love rather than living fully Building a fulfilling life independent of a partner [00:11:00] Career Dilemma: Declining a Promotion Without Seeming Weak Understanding the root cause of career stress Reframing a leadership decision as strength Negotiating job responsibilities to maintain balance [00:16:30] Navigating Self-Discovery After a Long-Term Relationship Learning to listen to oneself and internal thoughts Dating yourself and rediscovering interests The role of therapy in post-relationship healing [00:20:50] Parenting: Supporting a Teen's Curiosity About Substances Educating teens on safe and informed decisions Understanding modern drug risks, especially marijuana potency Setting up harm reduction and safety plans [00:26:30] Facing Divorce & The Fear of Starting Over Recognizing when a marriage is no longer salvageable Planning an amicable exit strategy Utilizing therapy for smoother transitions [00:29:50] Oversharing in Relationships: Is It a Trauma Response? Differentiating between transparency and oversharing Understanding personal expectations in relationships Identifying past experiences that drive communication styles [00:38:00] Managing Stress in High School Applications Overcoming documentation barriers when one parent is uncooperative Strategies for appealing school requirements Finding alternative solutions for admissions [00:44:00] Seeking Free Therapy & Early Autism Diagnosis for a Child Exploring employee assistance programs (EAPs) for free therapy Identifying community mental health resources Pushing for an early autism evaluation despite delays [00:49:10] Expressing Emotions & Being Heard in a Non-Exclusive Relationship Identifying the root cause of communication frustrations Setting boundaries and expectations in open relationships Using therapy to strengthen relational dynamics [00:55:50] Healing from Childhood Colorism Trauma Unlearning internalized negative narratives Recognizing societal influences on self-worth Integrating self-love practices [01:00:50] Teaching Children Healthy Expectations in Relationships The dangers of teaching kids to expect nothing from others Setting boundaries to prevent exploitation Encouraging emotional intelligence and self-worth [01:07:30] Closing Remarks & Podcast Availability Encouragement to set personal expectations for self-care Contact details for support and questions Announcement that #FreeAdviceFriday is now available as a podcast Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/35578940

From The Vault : August 19th, 2016 w/ Jon Diggs, LPC and Lydia Johnson, LPC 03/05/2025

From The Vault : August 19th, 2016 w/ Jon Diggs, LPC and Lydia Johnson, LPC In this engaging and insightful first episode of #FreeAdviceFriday, renowned psychotherapist Dr. Spirit is joined by therapists Jon Diggs and Lydia Johnson to provide real, unfiltered advice on relationships, mental health, and personal growth. Listeners submit their questions, and the panel tackles tough topics such as trust issues in relationships, setting boundaries, overcoming personal struggles, and breaking free from toxic patterns. From dating dilemmas to the impact of addiction on relationships, this episode offers valuable perspectives on healing and self-improvement. Whether you're struggling with a toxic partner, navigating single parenthood, or trying to understand why you keep attracting the same relationship patterns, this episode is full of wisdom, tough love, and humor. Tune in for candid conversations, therapeutic insights, and real-life advice that can help you transform your relationships and mindset. 🎧 Topics Covered & Timestamps: [00:00:00] Introduction & Technical Difficulties [00:00:30] Welcome to Free Advice Fridays – Meet the Therapists [00:02:40] How to Choose the Right Therapist [00:05:20] Relationship Red Flags: What to Do When a Partner Lies Early On [00:09:10] Boundaries & Trust: Is It Okay for Someone to Show Up Unannounced? [00:11:00] Breaking Up with a Spouse for an Ex – The Right Way to Handle It [00:14:30] Finding Yourself & Overcoming Past Trauma [00:19:10] When a Partner Moves in with Their Ex – What Now? [00:25:50] How to Leave a Toxic Relationship with an Addicted Partner [00:36:20] The Reality of Emotional Dependency & Why You Stay Too Long [00:44:20] The Cycle of Choosing the Wrong Partners – Understanding Relationship Patterns [00:52:40] Why Men Struggle with Vulnerability in Relationships [00:54:30] Creating Safe Spaces for Open Communication in Relationships [00:55:10] Closing Thoughts & Encouragement Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/35551675

#FAF February 28th, 2025 02/28/2025

#FAF February 28th, 2025 In this episode, Dr. Spirit delves into the importance of staying present and engaged with our emotions, especially during challenging times. She emphasizes the dangers of checking out emotionally and provides actionable strategies to maintain mental wellness. Through insightful listener questions, Dr. Spirit explores themes of intimidation, betrayal, marriage dynamics, parental relationships, mental health self-care, leadership in dating, and overcoming childhood trauma. She encourages listeners to remain connected with their feelings, seek help when needed, and nurture supportive relationships. Timestamps: [00:00:00] - Introduction: Embracing gratitude and being present despite challenges. [00:02:10] - Avoiding Emotional Numbness: Why staying engaged with your emotions is crucial for mental health. [00:04:50] - Listener Questions Begin: Instructions on how to submit questions anonymously. [00:05:20] - Community Mental Health Initiatives: Donations supporting sliding fee scale services and global projects. [00:06:20] - The Emotion of Intimidation: Understanding what feeling intimidated reveals about our inner beliefs. [00:11:20] - Transitioning to Full-Time Marriage: Tips for couples moving from long-distance to everyday life. [00:18:30] - Coping with Betrayal: How to process betrayal and avoid self-blame. [00:25:00] - Transactional Marriage Dynamics: Exploring therapy's role and finding solutions even if one partner is therapy-averse. [00:30:40] - Adult Children and Parent Relationships: Building healthy, non-obligatory connections with adult children. [00:37:00] - Daily Mental Health Tips: Sleep, diet, hydration, movement, and reducing social media for mental wellness. [00:45:20] - Navigating Dating and Leadership: Understanding leadership in relationships and setting healthy expectations. [00:51:00] - Shame and Change: How to create lasting change without shaming people. [00:57:30] - Childhood Peer-on-Peer Abuse: The long-term impact and the importance of healing from childhood trauma. [01:05:00] - Closing Remarks: Embracing community, accessing mental health resources, and practicing self-care. Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/35487900

From The Vault : April 26th, 2019 w/ Jason Phillips, LCSW 02/26/2025

#FAF February 21st, 2025 02/21/2025

#FAF February 21st, 2025 [00:00:00] Introduction Welcome to Free Advice Friday Broadcasting from the wellness center Commitment to the audience despite a busy schedule [00:01:00] Emotional Check-In Feeling "taxed" and acknowledging global challenges Shoutout to mental health professionals in low-resource and war-torn areas Encouraging listeners to check in with their own feelings [00:04:00] Managing Heavy Emotions Recognizing and understanding depression, anxiety, irritation, and isolation Connecting feelings with their root causes Listener Q&A [00:06:00] Burnout and Exhaustion Listener expresses burnout and exhaustion Dr. Spirit explains the difference between exhaustion and burnout Tips for setting boundaries and prioritizing self-care The role of therapy in recovery [00:13:15] Handling Grief Veronica shares the recent loss of her mother Guidance on "wound care" and taking small steps toward healing Considering therapy for additional support [00:20:10] Overcoming Imposter Syndrome New beauty entrepreneur struggling with self-doubt Emphasizing authenticity and using personal experiences to connect with clients Encouragement to build self-confidence [00:27:00] Starting a Mental Health Organization Mental health professional asks about trauma-focused vs. general mental health services Dr. Spirit advises on aligning services with community understanding Avoiding limiting potential reach by broadening the approach [00:32:15] Triggers vs. Self-Sabotage in Relationships How to differentiate between responding to triggers and self-sabotaging behavior Identifying emotions and healing underlying wounds [00:38:00] Chronic Nail Biting Addressing lifelong habits of finger-picking and nail-biting Exploring the behavior as a coping mechanism for deeper emotional issues Importance of understanding and healing the root cause [00:44:50] Navigating Breakups and Reconciliation Listener struggling with relationship boundaries after a breakup Emphasis on resolving underlying relationship issues Importance of healthy communication and therapy [00:52:00] Advice for Junior Counseling Psychologists Tips for managing feelings of helplessness and anxiety with clients Focusing on the client instead of self-critique The value of mentorship and professional development [01:00:00] Closing Remarks Message of hope and resilience The importance of accessing tools and community support to thrive Encouraging listeners to support children's mental health and leave a positive legacy [01:03:35] Final Words Contact information for T2S Enterprises Reminding listeners of their worth and the power of community support Promise to return for next week's episode Follow Dr. Spirit: Instagram: Facebook: TikTok: LinkedIn: /episode/index/show/6ef57de4-8991-45d0-bfff-e2a881904073/id/35381680

From The Vault : May 5th, 2017 w/ Dr. Glenna Anderson, LCSW 02/19/2025

#FAF February 14th, 2025 02/14/2025

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