Best Mom Ever! - Parenting AFAB Teens and Neurodiverse Children
Welcome to the Best Mom Ever Podcast, your place for learning how to create a close relationship with your teen, even if they have already shut you out! Discover the tools to get out of struggle, and into trust, happiness, and confidence with your teen, without throwing pills at the problem. Join us if you are ready to set yourself free from old-fashioned parenting advice that doesn't work, and get the strategies that build relationships that last a lifetime.
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What to do when you don't like your Kid’s Boyfriend or Girlfriend (Or Friend)
12/09/2024
What to do when you don't like your Kid’s Boyfriend or Girlfriend (Or Friend)
Hellooo! It’s bound to happen eventually, our sweet kiddo (that once said they would never want to love anyone else or move out) not only gets a boyfriend… but they pick someone to be their someone that you …don’t even like. Ugh. I’m sorry. Or worse, they are actually not so nice to our kid… If you are worried about your kid’s choice of boyfriend or girlfriend. You are in a tough spot. I hear you. If you would like some ideas on how to make the best of a yucky situation. If you like what you hear, support us by sharing with someone you love. Oh wait! I’m getting ready to unveil my hot new domain with a rebrand🤩, watch for my emails asking you to scoot over to my new email system. Love and Kindness, Allison Michelle
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Glimmers of Hope
11/08/2024
Glimmers of Hope
Hi, Love, Sometimes giving our best doesn't seem like enough. Sometimes, no matter how much we commit to being calm or how much we want to rise above the challenge of leading our kids with courage, we still might not feel like we can give our kids what they deserve, the ways of being that our heart yearns to give them. When we want to give more to our families and friends, but the reserves aren’t there, sometimes it feels impossible, and even hopeless. 💔 Our kids are facing this stress too. Your teenager might feel isolated or hopeless when they see their classmate post a bright pic on social media, with their “perfect” boyfriend, or their “perfect” cheer squad, (even if in reality, those same people are hoping for likes to soothe their own feelings and struggles…). Maybe your teens are worried about the recent US election outcome and have anxiety about the future of our world… I see you. There is hope. Don’t give up, Mamma, you are already doing amazingly. You are sweet and lovable. Please choose to believe I mean you, {First_Name} when I tell you how fabulous you are. You are not alone. I recorded this podcast for you on behalf of one of our wonderful listeners. So thank you to them for sharing, and being willing to share your experience so that other moms can also gain from the conversation!! Thank you all for reading and listening, and for being here. I’m so grateful for you and glad you’re here!! With Kindness and Love, Email Me. [email protected]
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So your teen doesnt know what to do about college...
05/24/2024
So your teen doesnt know what to do about college...
Hi! Does your teen dread being asked what they want to to do after high school, or feel worried and hopeless about the future? The world is changing so fast it's no wonder teens feel overwhelemed. Maybe the traditional path doesn't feel right for your unique teen, or maybe they just want to feel like they have options. I got to chat with Emma Perez about ways to make it in life without a traditional 4-year college career path. Emma is a career and life design coach for teens, the author of What's the Point of School: Ed Transformation, A Matter of Life and Death, a book that explores the current goal of the American education system, how it came to be, and what effects it has on our children's wellbeing and future. She guides students through self-discovery, career exploration, and vision creation. Listen in to our conversation to feel some relief. We’re Glad You’re Here!! Love and Kindness, Allison Michelle Parenting Teens Support Specialist, Serving Parents of AFAB, NB and Neurodiverse Teens and Children, Occupational Therapist Registered Remember to rate the podcast and give us 5 stars 🤩!!!!! Thanks for listening. Email Me. [email protected]
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What to Do when Your Teen Feels Distant
04/30/2024
What to Do when Your Teen Feels Distant
How can it be possible…? Teens with parents who love them unconditionally, Could still think their parents are disappointed in them… Judge them, or can’t be trusted… Yet, it happens. Often. So if your kid doesn't feel good about themself or can’t understand how much you love them, If the love for your kid isn’t getting through, It’s Okay to give yourself a little empathy. We highly recommend taking a soothing breath and saying something nice to yourself. (and then listen to the latest episode release) Because our ability to express love for our kids can get mixed up pretty easily. For one thing, kids and teens sometimes with nonverbal learning differences tend to have trouble correctly identifying other’s facial expressions and tone. Add to that, how much we want them to be successful, and make choices that reflect our values, Which can be a lot to live up to. Most parents spend less time with older kids, And if we are also stressed or overworked, We get busy and stop paying attention to our tone… Plus teens want to talk when we’re ready for bed. Or worse something our teen or ND kid does is super annoying or prickly (that never happens?!) and brings up some angry unhealed reaction… (sigh.) Not to mention teenagers are undergoing massive brain reconstruction as higher-level problem-solving and independence come online… So, if you and your teen feel distant, we want to Pour you a big cup of empathy And extend the biggest cosmic hug… Because we already know you love your kids no matter what. And that is a beautiful gift to share with the world. > Children who know they are loved and respected. < So thanks for that. We're Glad You're Here. Remember to rate the podcast and give us 5 stars 🤩!!!!! Thanks for listening. Email Me. [email protected]
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Helping Teens Navigate Relationships
04/16/2024
Helping Teens Navigate Relationships
Want your kid to be the one who says “no” to unwanted pressure for sex? Or says "no," to working with a boss or friend who mistreats them? Yep. Me too! I want my kid to know who they are and love themself, and not need permission from anyone to stand up for their boundaries… And, I want them to feel free to become the powerful person they want to become, even if it doesn't fit the mold of what I imagine for them. Which means we have to do something that our culture pressures us not to do. We have to respect our kids, and resist the urge to force them to do things they don’t want to or can’t do, …even things like chores and homework. Which means they get to tell us “no.” It’s inconvenient, I know. We are just trying to get through the day, and we want what’s best for them, Right? Our kids need practice at setting boundaries, especially with us. We are the people who are teaching them how to love. Many teens struggle with making friends, navigating social relationships, anxious patterns, and social media overload. Our ability to support our kid with personal relationships depends on their openness to us and the safety and connection we provide in the relationship. I know that you love your kids and are committed to having a great relationship with them. If you are struggling with your kid’s resistance to everything you say, or with being able to accept their pronouns, this episode is for you. We are glad you’re here. With love! P.S. I am giving away 5 Powerful Free Solution Sessions to help you solve your biggest struggles with Neurodiverse and AFAB(Assigned Female at Birth) teens. Email Me. [email protected]
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Parenting Around the World and Getting Teens Excited to Listen
03/30/2024
Parenting Around the World and Getting Teens Excited to Listen
Does it feel like the harder you try to communicate with your kids, the less they pay attention? Maybe you end up feeling exasperated or guilty about how much time your kiddo spends on TicToc or hiding in their room instead of going to school. What if, instead of feeling angry or letting ourselves believe that nothing can work… We stepped back, and gave ourselves some grace, We made the choice to breathe for a minute, and tried something new? On my latest podcast with the lovely and brilliant Joanne Holbrook, she has just the thing to get your kids excited to listen to what you have to teach them. Seriously. Plus, she’s super pleasant to listen to. Joanne Holbrook is a mother of two and spouse to a United States Army Officer. She has lived and raised her family in South Africa, England, Germany, Australia, and across the United States. As a South African, combined with her world travels that come with a military lifestyle, including her 25 years teaching in performing art schools, has allowed Joanne to observe culture and parenting from multiple international perspectives and with a broader worldview. She is the author of the three-time award-winning book “Your Passport To Parenting” which has been translated into multiple languages, a professional keynote speaker, parenting coach, and entrepreneur who shares parenting stories to help build positive, values-based families worldwide. She is looking forward to sharing parenting positivity with you all today. Tune in to learn a very important, but often forgotten tool that will help you get your teens listening again. We are glad you’re here! Email Me. [email protected]
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Rebellious Parenting
03/17/2024
Rebellious Parenting
We know you love your Messy, imperfect, neurodiverse, reactant, not-listening, fighting with their siblings, back-talking kids… You love them through all the challenges because parenting is not about managing a set of behaviors to control our kids. You already know that being a great parent is about finding the courage to show our kids how precious they are, and guiding them with kindness and respect. To help expand on this, and show you that even when lots of people disagree with you, you are not alone! I get to share the profound answer to my favorite parenting question from one of my favorite revolutionary leaders in the parenting space. When we parent with radically unconditional love, we honor shared humanity within our families and communities and by doing so we create a world with more compassion and kindness. No matter what society tries to convince us, The truth is, parenting is not actually about great GPAs, SATs, good manners, or a neat-and-tidy chore chart. It’s about raising kids that understand their value… We are glad you’re here! Email Me. [email protected]
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How Can We Love Our Kids Even Better?
03/08/2024
How Can We Love Our Kids Even Better?
Our kids are awesome. After all, they inspire us to be the best versions of ourselves. They challenge us to grow and become better people, to reparent our inner child selves, and give us a reason to be brave; so they can grow into successful adults who are great at being and loving themselves. They deserve families who love them dearly and make them feel safe. We want them to know how good they are, even when they can’t do what we want. As a parenting coach, I love talking about this stuff, and being lucky enough to inspire others to be even better parents than they were yesterday. Together, we are creating closer relationships with our kids than we ever thought possible with our amazing kids, a relationship that's gonna last for a lifetime. This is the space I want to be in, helping people create more peace and happiness in our lives yet the reality is our kids and teens are growing up in a world where they know that there is global conflict happening. My friend Shireen Quaizar agreed to come on the Best Mom Ever! Parenting Teens Podcast and talk about empathy how we cultivate that in the face of tremendous conflict and personal suffering and how we live empathy in our own lives as we guide our courageous kids. Shireen is a New York State Certified School Psychologist who has worked with children and families for over ten years. She is a certified life coach and works closely with parents, especially mothers, to foster stronger relationships with their children. She conducts workshops and individual training to help regulate behaviors, foster a growth mindset, and empower people to engage in self-care. Follow her and message her on Instagram to claim your gift from Shireen. Mention Best Mom Ever! Parenting Teens Podcast. Associated Press: Article from USA today: We’re Glad You’re Here! With Love, Allison Michelle Email Me. [email protected]
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Keep Teenagers Safer and get more Enjoyment out of LIFE
11/12/2023
Keep Teenagers Safer and get more Enjoyment out of LIFE
Welcome Lovely Parent! Get my secrets to maintaining that deep level of trust and closeness with even angsty or reactive teens. And trade chronic stress and mom guilt for getting more fun and enjoyment out of life. I’m a mom who works with young people and is a trained Master's level occupational therapist (Developmental and Rehab Science). I’ve spent 100s of hours interviewing moms, coaches, and experts, and have been blessed enough to coach courageous, cycle-breaker moms on their journeys. Through all of this intentional learning, in addition to my personal life experiences, I've gathered the proven steps toward becoming the kind of person who can deeply connect with young people, and guide them successfully. This is the 3rd (and arguably most challenging) piece of my proven parenting framework to get out of struggle and into trust happiness and confidence with your teen, even if they have already shut you out, without throwing pills at the problem. Courageous Inner Calm is the most effective way to get a close trusting relationship with your teen that will last a lifetime! And always remember, to LOVE YOURSELF!! Thank you for listening. Email Me. [email protected]
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Why our Kids Can't Understand How Much we Love Them
10/11/2023
Why our Kids Can't Understand How Much we Love Them
Hello, Beautiful, I bet you all can relate to my recent, unexpected spike in mom responsibilities having delayed my podcast record & release. The good news is! I got to record it LIVE for all of you 😍. I had a blast, so I hope you all enjoy(ed) this one. We're going to talk about one of the things good parents frequently overlook that blocks them from having success in their relationship with their kids. Why is it so hard for our kids to understand how we really feel about them? The answer might surprise you and it's harder than we think! Thank you for listening. Email Me. [email protected]
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Why Parenting Takes so Much Courage
09/26/2023
Why Parenting Takes so Much Courage
Hello Beautiful! We get to celebrate your journey and set forth a challenge that maybe we haven’t had the time to think about before. Surprising take on independence Some very real challenges that aren’t always acknowledged A healthy dose of controversy! … Just to make sure we are all paying attention 🙃. We have all had to make tough decisions as parents because the right answers aren’t always clear. So here is a shout-out to all of you. Doing your best to be amazing parents. Please listen in, and then email us with some of your most courageous parenting moments, and (if you would like me to), I just may share your story on the air… Eeek! I’m thrilled to share 🥰 For the very first time, We are going to be offering a brand-new, exclusive, Founder’s program a 9-week intensive group coaching course for parents who want to: 🎉🎉Epic Best Mom Ever! Relationship Reset🎉🎉 ~9-week Intensive Intimate Group Coaching Program~ Get the support and community of an intimate group of fully committed parents Build skills feel confident they know how to get teens to open up, Discover how to reduce conflict and stress, Reconnect and trust each other again If this sounds like you, use this link to register for the . This is the first time we are offering this intimate group coaching, so it will be very special and a much smaller investment than in future programs. As always we are sending you lots of love, even on the hard days! Thank you for listening. . Email Me. [email protected]
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What to do when you are Fighting with your Teen
09/07/2023
What to do when you are Fighting with your Teen
for the Epic Best Mom Ever! Relationship Reset Intensive Founder's Pre-registration. --- Teens get a bad rap sometimes. Being a teen is hard. I personally think teens are amazing, smart, brave, emotionally intelligent… and yet, teen girls (and NB teens) can be so hard on their moms!⏪ Teens just seem to magnify the worst parts of us. They show us what we don’t want to look at. And our kids know what makes us mad. And we get mad. Yeah. Moms are under a ton of stress. So metimes we just want our kid to do the most basic thing, to move along with our day and maybe you wonder, Why do we have to fight about this? It should be easier. And then we find ourselves fighting about toilet paper and we are like, What happened? My guess is, you need a little help. We all do. I give you real tools you need to connect better with your kid, starting right now. Thanks for listening. We are glad you’re here. Email Me. [email protected]
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What to do when you get Angry with your Kids
08/17/2023
What to do when you get Angry with your Kids
Have you ever felt like no matter how many times you try, you keep getting angry with your kids? When we lash out at our incredible, amazing, kids, it feels AWFUL🥺. Its easy to beat ourselves up and think I’m a bad mom. Afterall, they are just trying to get their needs met… … and we are overwhelmed. It’s no wonder we get upset when our kid texts us 15 times to tell us they are hungry (or hangry🙃) when you know the house is full of food! (Full of food, haha at least for now) But still! You want to do better! It's not OK with you to keep getting derailed and angry with your kids. We white-knuckle it and try to try even harder as if we had anything left to give. Does it feel like you have to apologize every day of your life? I’ve got news for everyone. I fall flat on my face too. I apologize to my kid, a lot. There is a better way. It doesn't have to be a showdown at your house every school morning. We have to stay calm and kind if we want our kids to listen to us. I know how hard it is out there, y'all. That’s why I am sharing this deeply empathetic (cause I’ve been there) podcast about what to do with all that ANGER! I promise not to simply ask you to stop being angry or not to give in! < It isn’t that simple. Here is your permission to let go of the white-knuckling, forgive ourselves for past mistakes, and learn strategies that will help you get through at least this week with fewer outbursts and arguments with your kids. You are amazing for having the courage to try again. So Proud! Thanks for listening. We are glad you’re here. Email Me. [email protected]
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What to do when your teen is mean to you!
08/12/2023
What to do when your teen is mean to you!
It was never supposed to be like this... Maybe you wonder: How can I be a good mom if my kid talks to me like this? What kind of a person am I even raising? Sigh. Have you ever found yourself here? Maybe even today.😒 My guess is, if you are parenting right now, you have lived the moment I just described. It is not easy! And we are here for you. This is challenging, but you have what it takes to make your relationship with your teen stronger. If you are encountering unkindness from a young person in your life, we are here to help. If you want to feel better, listen to this super gentle, short, and sweet, 9-minute podcast. What to do when your teen is mean to you. Step-by-step guide to Talking yourself through situations when your teen is rude or mean And how to shape the future of your relationship. Plus, buckets of love to fill your bucket 🤗 You've got this! Email Me. [email protected]
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The Teen-Toddler Connection: Striking similarities between parenting little kids and parenting teenagers and lessons from your former self.
08/03/2023
The Teen-Toddler Connection: Striking similarities between parenting little kids and parenting teenagers and lessons from your former self.
The Teen-Toddler Connection: Striking similarities between parenting little kids and parenting teenagers and lessons from your former self. I answer the question of answer the question of “Why teens?" tell you why I'm so passionate about this generation of young people, share a small piece of my unique story, and show you how to use the skills you already learned when you had a toddler to make parenting the teen you have today easier. There are a bunch of tools and ideas packed into this 25-minute podcast so you can feel more confident about your ability to build a strong relationship with your kid. Email Me: Book a Free Get your Free Music by:
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Asking Great Questions - Foundations of Influence with Teenagers
07/27/2023
Asking Great Questions - Foundations of Influence with Teenagers
If you feel like you are "walking on eggshells" and no matter what you say, your teen thinks it's wrong, Or If you just want to have a seriously great relationship with your kid: Listen to this podcast. This week, we will talk about the key to getting teens talking... asking great questions. Email Me. [email protected]
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Feeling Seen and Heard - Foundations of Influence with Teenagers - Validation
07/14/2023
Feeling Seen and Heard - Foundations of Influence with Teenagers - Validation
The sound on this audio got messed up. It will be better in future podcasts, I'm not certain it would be better if I re-recorded this. Tone matters. Love you guys! If you have found yourself in way too many arguments with your teen lately, or you just want them to talk to you, we have something really simple (not easy per se, but hopefully not too hard :) that will help you have real conversations with them. Summer is busy, it can feel like whole weeks have gone by and you've barely spoken to your teen. Maybe it has been a while since you felt connected... Don't worry, We’ve got you. A better relationship with your teen is closer than you think. This one simple tool is probably missing from your parenting strategy. If you are missing this tool, it’s not your fault. Your parents probably did not know how to use this either. Even though you probably wanted to parent differently than your parents did, without the right tools, it’s hard to do better. Listen so you can connect with your teen. Email me to let me know how this impacted you: Articles: How to Win Friends & Influence People, by Dale Carnegie, Andrew MacMillan, et al. Music:
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It's not about WILLPOWER! Foundations of Influence with Teenagers - Boundaries
07/06/2023
It's not about WILLPOWER! Foundations of Influence with Teenagers - Boundaries
Moms often reveal a theory that their lack of boundaries is at the core of their relationship problems. "If only I just had... better boundaries, then everything would be different (better) with my teens." If you have poor boundaries, please stop beating yourself up!! There is a reason, and there are steps you can take to turn your boundaries around. What boundaries are Why Good Boundaries are so difficult What is so fantastic about great boundaries While I do have a parenting transformation program with a different framework (other than boundaries) about what is REALLY holding parents back from incredible relationships with their kids and teenagers, I also have valuable tools to share about how to have amazing boundaries that actually work in relationships. I get why you might want better boundaries: You want more order and less chaos in your home You want to feel respected You want your teen to make great decisions Those reasons are all totally valid and important, which is why I am sharing this podcast to get you started on having the boundaries and relationship you want with your teenager! Join our Email list: Trust and Freedom Breakthrough Call:
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Values (Pilot) - Foundations of Influence with Teenagers
06/28/2023
Values (Pilot) - Foundations of Influence with Teenagers
This is STEP 1 of having influence with our teens. If you want your teen to: actually care what you think... clean their room or empty the dishwasher... let you help them with their homework... make smart choices... Start here: Values. Need more support? Free Trust and Freedom Breakthrough Calls are available for a limited time: https://calendly.com/allisonmichelleco/trust-and-freedom-breakthrough Love what you hear? Join our Community below! Get your Free Leading Great Conversations Toolkit Music:
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