Value of Wrinkles: Caregiving, Aging Parents, and Intergenerational Connection
Welcome to Value of Wrinkles. A heartfelt podcast hosted by Isabel Tom, author, speaker, and forever grandchild. Inspired by her book The Value of Wrinkle: A Young Perspective on How Loving the Old Will Change Your Life, this show celebrates the beauty of aging, the power of intergenerational relationships, and the transformative role of caregiving. Each episode explores how to connect more deeply with the older generation, offering practical advice, tender stories, and honest conversations on topics like elder care, aging parents, and legacy. Whether you're a caregiver, grandchild, or someone simply curious about growing older with grace, this podcast will help you love the older generation and yourself a little more.
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EP 104: Building Connection: How LEGO® Helps People Living with Dementia – with Loretta Veney (Part 1)
01/15/2026
EP 104: Building Connection: How LEGO® Helps People Living with Dementia – with Loretta Veney (Part 1)
Shownotes: In this episode, I sit down with Loretta Veney and listen to the beautiful way Legos became a bridge for communication during her mother’s journey with dementia. She shares how something as simple as play created moments of joy, creativity, and deep emotional connection within her family, even during hard seasons. I was moved by how these small acts of engagement supported both her mother’s mental health and her own as a caregiver. This conversation is a powerful reminder that connection doesn’t have to be complicated sometimes it starts with a handful of Legos and a willing heart. Highlights: 00:00 - Introduction to Loretta Veney and Her Lego Journey 04:32 - Using Legos as a Communication Tool for Dementia 08:20 - Finding Joy in the Face of Dementia 12:00 - Lego Serious Play: A Unique Approach to Engagement 13:49 - The Power of Play and Connection 15:09 - Using Legos for Dementia Care Resources mentioned: Loretta’s book: 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list:
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EP 103: Love Doesn’t End in December: Why January Visits Matter and How the Grandkid Investigator Kit Helps
01/08/2026
EP 103: Love Doesn’t End in December: Why January Visits Matter and How the Grandkid Investigator Kit Helps
Shownotes: In this episode, I talk about why January visits can be some of the most meaningful moments for our aging parents and loved ones in senior living. After the holidays pass and the noise fades, loneliness can settle in and that’s when connection matters most. I share how my experiences in caregiving have shown me the importance of consistent family visits and intergenerational connection, not just seasonal check-ins. I also introduce the Grand Kid Investigator Kit as a simple way to create meaningful visits and help kids show up with curiosity, confidence, and heart all year long. Highlights: 00:00 - Introduction to the Value of Wrinkles Podcast 00:26 - The Importance of January Visits 03:45 - The Grand Kid Investigator Kit 08:26 - Making Meaningful Connections Year-Round Resources mentioned: Follow the GKI Holiday Caravan - Check out the GKI Kit - 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list:
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EP 102: When Kids are Afraid of Visiting Senior Living Communities
12/19/2025
EP 102: When Kids are Afraid of Visiting Senior Living Communities
Shownotes: In this episode, I share why caregiving and aging have taught me so much about the power of intergenerational connection, especially during the holidays. I talk about what I’ve learned from bringing kids into senior living communities whether through a holiday caravan, community service, or simple family activities and how we can help children overcome fear and uncertainty when visiting seniors. I also share why patience matters, and how meaningful relationship building takes time, trust, and repeated moments of showing up. My hope is to give you practical encouragement to help kids and seniors connect in ways that feel joyful, respectful, and lasting. Highlights: 00:00 - Introduction to the Value of Wrinkles Podcast 00:27 - The Importance of Visiting Senior Living Communities 01:30 - Overcoming Kids' Fear of Senior Visits 04:04 - Building Comfort and Patience in Kids 09:08 - Task-Oriented Engagement for Kids 12:31 - Closing Thoughts and Future Plans Resources mentioned: GKI Holiday Caravan - Check our Website - 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list:
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EP 101: Why Connection Is the Greatest Gift for Grandparents
12/05/2025
EP 101: Why Connection Is the Greatest Gift for Grandparents
Shownotes: In this episode, I share why the greatest gift you can give a grandparent this Christmas isn’t something you buy but it’s genuine connection. I talk about how older adults often feel unseen or overlooked, and why asking questions, listening, and spending intentional time with them matters so much. I also introduce the Grandkid Investigator Kit, a simple tool I created to help families spark meaningful conversations and deepen relationships across generations, whether you're together in person or connecting from afar. Highlights: 00:00 - The Holiday Spirit and Connection 08:16 - The Gift of Connection: Grand Kid Investigator Kit Resources mentioned: Get your GKI Kit - Netflix Documentary - Man on the Inside 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list:
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EP 100: Celebrating 100 Episodes: My Honest Reflection on Podcasting, Perseverance & Purpose
11/27/2025
EP 100: Celebrating 100 Episodes: My Honest Reflection on Podcasting, Perseverance & Purpose
Shownotes: In this special milestone episode, I’m celebrating something that still feels surreal: 100 episodes of the Value of Wrinkles podcast. Join me as I take you behind the scenes of this four-year journey from recording under a blanket during COVID, to late night sessions past midnight, to navigating tech changes, long pauses, and everything in between. You’ll hear honest reflections, funny confessions (yes - recording in a hot car counts), and the deeper purpose behind every episode I create: helping you love your older loved ones better while learning to love yourself through aging too. Highlights: 00:00 - Celebrating 100 Episodes 04:57 - The Journey of Podcasting 10:46 - Behind the Scenes of Podcasting 13:31 - Highlighting Memorable Series and Episodes 15:45 - Looking Ahead and Future Aspirations Resources mentioned: Episode 89 - Episode 75 - Episode 28 - Episode 12 - Episode 33 - Episode 55 - 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list:
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EP 99: How to Avoid Controversial Topics at Thanksgiving: Tips for a Peaceful Holiday
11/20/2025
EP 99: How to Avoid Controversial Topics at Thanksgiving: Tips for a Peaceful Holiday
Shownotes: In this episode, I share how I approach Thanksgiving and the tricky family conversations that can come with it. I talk about why I try to be proactive during holiday gatherings, using simple communication tips to keep things warm, positive, and enjoyable for everyone. I also share how I redirect discussions to avoid unnecessary controversy including one of my favorite strategies: creating a “favorite things” list to guide meaningful conversations. My hope is to help you enjoy a holiday filled with connection, gratitude, and less stress. Highlights: 00:00 - Introduction to Thanksgiving Conversations 03:18 - Proactive Conversation Strategies 08:43 - Tools for Meaningful Family Interactions Resources mentioned: Episode 98: Focus the conversation by using the Grandkid Investigator Kit - 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: See what’s inside the Grandkid Investigator Kit
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EP 98: Why this thanksgiving with your grandparents/parents really matters
11/13/2025
EP 98: Why this thanksgiving with your grandparents/parents really matters
Shownotes: In this episode, I reflect on Thanksgiving and why it always reminds me to slow down and truly appreciate family. As I think about mortality and how limited our time together really is, I’m reminded of how precious even the smallest family moments can be. I share my own thoughts on what it means to cherish relationships while we still can and to express appreciation for the people who matter most. My hope is that this episode inspires you to be more present and thankful this season and every season. Highlights: 00:00 - Introduction to the Value of Wrinkles Podcast 00:37 - Creating Meaningful Memories During the Holidays Resources mentioned: GKI Holiday Caravan - Grandkid Investigator Kit - Get a free mission from the kit - 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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EP 97: Using the Grandkid Investigator Kit in Camp: An Interview with Empowering the Ages
11/07/2025
EP 97: Using the Grandkid Investigator Kit in Camp: An Interview with Empowering the Ages
Shownotes: In this episode, I talk with Leah Bradley from Empowering the Ages about how intergenerational programs can strengthen families and communities. Leah shares inspiring stories from their community programs, including a summer camp that brings grandparents and grandchildren together for learning, laughter, and volunteer opportunities. I love how she connects this work to school readiness, workforce development, and community empowerment, showing that every generation has something valuable to give. Our conversation reminded me that when generations come together, everyone grows stronger. Leah Bradley is the Executive Director and Co-Founder has extensive experience in the intergenerational field, including providing nationwide training and technical assistance to practitioners establishing intergenerational initiatives. She has visioned, planned and implemented many intergenerational programs throughout the Country. Leah is a social worker, having earned her Master of Social Work degree from the University of Michigan with concentrations in interpersonal practice and gerontology and a Bachelors of Science from University of Delaware in Family and Community Service. Leah and her husband reside in Olney, Maryland and have two daughters in/recently graduated from Montgomery County Public Schools. Leah enjoys traveling and watching her daughters play sports. To contact Leah, email her at leah@empoweringtheages.org Highlights: 00:00 - Introduction to Empowering the Ages 05:08 - The Impact of Intergenerational Programs 08:18 - Summer Camp for Grandparents and Grandkids 08:38 - Introduction to the Grand Kid Investigator Kit 09:07 - Engaging Families with Free Missions 09:38 - Summer Camp for Grandparents and Grandkids 12:29 - Activities and Learning Experiences 15:34 - Planning for Future Camps 18:36 - Connecting with Empowering the Ages 19:10 - Connecting Generations: The Value of Intergenerational Relationships Resources mentioned: Empowering the Ages - 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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EP 96: Which Kids Interact Best with Older Adults
10/31/2025
EP 96: Which Kids Interact Best with Older Adults
Shownotes: In this episode, I share why I’m so passionate about building intergenerational connections between kids and grandparents. I introduce the GrandKid Investigator Kit, a tool I created to help families spark meaningful interactions that bring generations closer together. Drawing from my experiences in senior living communities, I talk about how youth engagement, parenting tips, and even simple community programs can strengthen family relationships and support elder care in everyday life. My hope is to inspire families to be more intentional about helping kids connect, learn from, and celebrate the older adults in their lives. Highlights: 00:00 - Introduction to Intergenerational Connections 02:23 - The Importance of Intentional Interaction 05:16 - Characteristics of Kids Who Connect Well 07:42 - Training Kids for Meaningful Interactions 10:31 - Conclusion and Resources Resources mentioned: Learn about the Grandkid Investigator Program where I using the Grandkid Investigator Kit in assisted living communities - Episode 76 - Grandkid Investigator Kit - Get a free mission from the kit - 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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EP 95: When They Could No Longer Speak: Lessons Learned from 2 Older Adults I’ve Known
10/23/2025
EP 95: When They Could No Longer Speak: Lessons Learned from 2 Older Adults I’ve Known
Shownotes: In this episode, I share my experiences working with older adults who’ve lost their ability to speak clearly. I talk about the emotional impact of losing one’s voice and what it’s taught me about listening with compassion. I also reflect on how culture, especially in Asian families, influences the way we care for and advocate for our elders. My hope is to remind us all to slow down, pay attention, and be a voice for those who can’t speak for themselves. Highlights: 00:00 - Introduction to the Value of Wrinkles Podcast 00:27 - Preparing for the Holidays with Family Activities 01:25 - Promoting the Grand Kid Investigator Kit 01:33 - The Challenge of Communication with the Elderly 09:30 - The Importance of Advocacy for Older Adults 09:52 - The Silence of Senior Living Communities 10:46 - Advocating for the Voiceless Resources mentioned: Get discounts on my products by joining my email list at Listen to episode 94 - 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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EP 94: The Best Time to Celebrate Your Aging Parent/Grandparent
10/16/2025
EP 94: The Best Time to Celebrate Your Aging Parent/Grandparent
Shownotes: In this episode, I share why I believe we should celebrate and honor our older loved ones while they’re still with us. Too often, we wait until after they’re gone to express how much they mean to us. I talk about simple, meaningful ways to show appreciation now and build stronger connections with the older generation. My hope is to inspire you to start celebrating your parents and grandparents today, not someday. Highlights: 00:00 - Introduction to the Value of Wrinkles Podcast 00:30 - Celebrating Older Loved Ones 00:44 - Introduction to The Value of Wrinkles 06:44 - The Importance of Honoring Our Elders 08:26 - Practical Ways to Show Love to Grandparents 09:05 - Introduction and Call to Action 09:36 - The Importance of Reviews for Podcasters 10:03 - Closing Thoughts and Future Episodes Resources mentioned: Prepare to Care Course - Episode 93 - 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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EP 93: One Practical Step to Honoring Elders
10/09/2025
EP 93: One Practical Step to Honoring Elders
Shownotes: In this episode, I share why teaching kids to honor and acknowledge their elders matters so much to me. I talk about the power of small gestures like saying hello or using someone’s name and how they can build real respect across generations. I also share practical ways parents can nurture this value in their children, helping them see the worth in every older adult they meet. My hope is to inspire families to make kindness and connection part of everyday life. Highlights: 00:00 Practical Parenting Advice for Honoring Elders 07:26 The Importance of Acknowledgment in Relationships Resources mentioned: 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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EP 92: The Evolution of the Grandkid Investigator Concept: Then and Now
10/02/2025
EP 92: The Evolution of the Grandkid Investigator Concept: Then and Now
Shownotes: In this episode, I share how the Grandkid Investigator idea first began. After writing The Value of Wrinkles, I realized I wanted my own kids to connect with their grandparents now, not decades later. What started as a simple experiment at home has grown into a program designed to make intergenerational connections fun, meaningful, and lasting. Join me as I tell the story behind it all and hint at where the journey is headed next. Highlights: 00:00 - Introduction to the Grand Kid Investigator Concept 08:48 - The Evolution of the Grand Kid Investigator Program 15:09 - Future Plans and Community Engagement Resources mentioned: Episode 91 - Email sign up link - The Book - Prepare to Care Course - 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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EP 91: The Grandkid Investigator Concept: The Spark that Started It All
09/25/2025
EP 91: The Grandkid Investigator Concept: The Spark that Started It All
In this episode, I share how the Grandkid Investigator concept began and why it matters to me as both a mom and a granddaughter. I talk about the challenge of helping kids connect with their grandparents in today’s busy, distraction-filled world, and why it’s important to make those connections fun and meaningful. You’ll hear the inspiration behind the program and why I believe it can help families build stronger intergenerational bonds. Be sure to tune in to the next episode, where I’ll dive into the origins and evolution of the Grandkid Investigator. Highlights: 01:09 - The Importance of Intergenerational Relationship 04:45 - The Grandkid Investigator Concept 07:06 - Engaging the Community and Future Plans Resources mentioned: 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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Ep 90: Bringing Kids together with Assisted Living Residents – Is it a bad idea?
09/05/2025
Ep 90: Bringing Kids together with Assisted Living Residents – Is it a bad idea?
Recently I implmenented the GKI Kit at an assisted living. It was exciting, but don't et me wrong, I had fears! Would kids want to hang out with residents? Would these residents be alert and willing to converse? Will the connection happen? Will the kids complain and be bored? Will that hour be forever? In this episode I discuss the fears that I had in implementing an intergenerational program. “With great risk comes great reward – Thomas Jefferson 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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Ep 89: 6 Tips for Managing Kids in Intergenerational Senior Living Programs
08/28/2025
Ep 89: 6 Tips for Managing Kids in Intergenerational Senior Living Programs
This episode is designed for senior living and senior care organizations looking to create meaningful intergenerational programs. How can you keep both kids and older adults safe, engaged, and connected during activities in assisted living or long-term care? Isabel shares six practical tips for scheduling and managing intergenerational programming so it benefits children, parents, and residents alike. You’ll also hear how she is currently implementing her Grandkid Investigator concept in assisted living and long-term care communities to strengthen connections across generations. Highlights: 3:08 - The best time to schedule intergenerational programming in senior living 4:39 – Statistics to look at if you live in the state of Maryland 5:25 – Why the Grandkid Investigator program was implemented this August 8:28 – How supervision makes for a better program 10:29 – Tip #3 (structure and routine) and how it minimizes chaos Links mentioned: Look at flu levels right now in the U.S. Look at MD Dept of Health website for statistics on flu activity. If you want to bring the Grandkid Investigator program to your senior living community or have a group that would like to use this concept, contact Isabel at Learn about using the Grandkid Investigator Concept in your own family at . 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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Ep 88: Where Are the Children? Why Kids Rarely Visit Senior Living Communities
08/14/2025
Ep 88: Where Are the Children? Why Kids Rarely Visit Senior Living Communities
Why don’t kids visit senior living communities more often? In this thought-provoking episode, we dive into a surprising truth: many senior care communities are hesitant to welcome children—despite the well-known benefits of intergenerational connection. As a mom, aunt, coach, and longtime advocate for bridging generations, I share insights from my experience working with assisted living and nursing homes across the U.S. and Canada. Does it make sense or does it surprise you? This isn’t about criticism—it’s about understanding the barriers that make child-friendly senior communities so rare. From health concerns and liability issues to simple logistical challenges, we explore why these environments aren’t always eager to bring kids into the mix. But here's the good news: once we understand the "why," we can begin building the "how." Highlights · Why kids are seen as unpredictable, unhygienic, or even a liability · Why programs like Pets on Wheels treat youth with caution · How our perceptions of children intersect with long-term care priorities · A behind-the-scenes update on the Grandkid Investigator (GKI) Program Exciting news: GKI is expanding into assisted living and skilled nursing settings this year! With over 32,000 assisted living facilities and 15,000 nursing homes in the U.S., and 11,000+ in Canada, the opportunity for meaningful intergenerational connection is massive—but untapped. Links mentioned: If you want more info on volunteering and having your child/teen participate in the GKI program at local senior living communities, contact me at . Learn about using the Grandkid Investigator Concept in your own family at . Social media is fun, but my email newsletter is better. Sign up for my email newsletter at 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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Ep 87 - Why Updating Your Older Loved One Matters: From Summer Camp to Sourdough Starters
07/31/2025
Ep 87 - Why Updating Your Older Loved One Matters: From Summer Camp to Sourdough Starters
While my daughter’s away at summer camp and my husband’s camping with our boys, you’d think I’d be enjoying some rare alone time—but honestly, I just want to hear from them. In this episode, I reflect on how something as simple as a letter or a quick update can mean everything—whether you’re a kid at camp or a parent later in life. I also share a fun camp letter-writing hack and my second chance with this sourdough starter that I got from an older friend. This one’s all about staying connected, being remembered, and why little updates matter so much—especially as we age. Highlights: Alone time as a mom Hearing from your kids at camp That second-chance at keeping a sourdough starter alive! Resources mentioned: Episode 86 Social media is fun, but my email newsletter is better. Sign up for my email newsletter at 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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Ep 86: How Different Experiences Build Stronger Grandkid/Grandparent Bonds
07/25/2025
Ep 86: How Different Experiences Build Stronger Grandkid/Grandparent Bonds
Today we're talking about how shared experiences like family vacations can be beneficial because they allow us to spend time with family in different settings. Highlights: If you want to speed up the bond between the grandkids and the grandparents spend time together in different scenarios. How spending time together in general helps us bond with others. Our family’s first cruise and how we spent it with grandma Our kids’ first plane ride and how we experienced it with grandma How shared experiences help us view others in a better light Missions trips, roomates, sports teams Resources mentioned: Study on how shared experiences are amplified - Grab a resource to help kids connect with grandparents – The Grandkid Investigator Kit, 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak: Resources mentioned:
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Ep 85: Another Side of the Story: My Cousins Jeremy Reflects on Our Grandparents
07/17/2025
Ep 85: Another Side of the Story: My Cousins Jeremy Reflects on Our Grandparents
You’ve heard my stories about our grandparents—now it’s time to hear from my cousin Jeremy! He grew up in Canada and didn’t see them as often, but his memories of Mama and Yeye (or Poh Poh and Goong Goong to him) are just as special. It’s a sweet reminder that even if you live far from your grandparents, you can still have a meaningful connection. FREE MISSION: Grab a free mission from the Grandkid Investigator Kit at ! Check out the Grandkid Investigator Kit: https://www.valueofwrinkles.com/gkifam 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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Ep 84: Helping Neurodivergent Kids Connect with Grandparents (Part 2 with Kim Botto)
06/26/2025
Ep 84: Helping Neurodivergent Kids Connect with Grandparents (Part 2 with Kim Botto)
How do you explain autism or ADHD to a grandparent who just doesn’t get it yet? In this episode, Isabel Tom sits down with Kim Botto—a seasoned educator, speaker, and grandmother of eleven—to talk about how to help older generations understand neurodivergence in kids. This is part 2 of our conversation. With decades of experience in trauma-informed care and family ministry, Kim shares practical tips, heartfelt stories, and gentle language that grandparents can use to better connect with their neurodivergent grandkids. You’ll hear about her personal journey connecting with her autistic grandson, why ADHD is like having a race car brain with bicycle brakes (thanks to Dr. Ned Hallowell!), and how a shift in communication can make all the difference. Whether you're a parent trying to bridge the generational gap or a grandparent wanting to better support your grandchild, this episode offers encouragement, insight, and useful tools. Last week's episode - Highlights 3:45 - How to explain autism to a grandparent 5:22 - How to explain ADHD to grandparents 8:16 - Tips for grandparents/parents of autistic children 11:12 - The vitamin Dr. Edward Hallowell says is so valuable 13:32 - Kim Botto and how she learned to connect with her austitic grandson 17:52 - When you as a parent feel judged by bystanders, but also grandparents Get Kim Botto’s Book: Boundless Hope for Every Child – written for church leaders, but loved by parents and grandparents alike → Resources mentioned: Grab the Grandkid Investigator Kit at Uniquely Human by Barry Prizant Autism Out Loud When Johnny Doesn’t Flap (picture book) ADHD 2.0 and Driven to Distraction by Dr. Edward Hallowell 🎧 Show Notes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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Ep 83: Helping Neurodivergent Kids Connect with Grandparents (Part 1 with Kim Botto)
06/20/2025
Ep 83: Helping Neurodivergent Kids Connect with Grandparents (Part 1 with Kim Botto)
Do you have a child with autism, ADHD, or sensory needs—and wonder how to help them build a real connection with their grandparents? In this powerful episode of The Value of Wrinkles, host Isabel Tom shares her personal journey of discovering ADHD as an adult and parenting children who are wired differently. She’s joined by Kim Botto, a trauma-informed parenting expert and TBRI Practitioner®, to talk about how families can support neurodivergent children in forming meaningful, joy-filled relationships with their grandparents. 🎙️ You’ll hear: · Why differently wired kids often struggle in social/family situations · How to gently guide your child through interactions with older adults · Why neurodiverse-friendly tools (like the Grandkid Investigator Kit) can ease connection · Encouragement for parents who feel isolated or exhausted This episode is for you if you're raising a uniquely wired child and long to see them known, understood, and loved by the older generation. Highlights: 3:50 – How Kim got started working with kids with hidden disabilities 6:17 -What is a hidden disability? 8:28 – What to do when grandparents don’t believe the autism/adhd diagnosis? 12:27- How so many of their interactions are negative and the role of grandparnets. Connect with Kim Botto: Read Kim Botto’s Book: Boundless Hope for Every Child – written for church leaders, but loved by parents and grandparents alike → Resources mentioned: · “You can’t teach children to behave better by making them feel worse. When children feel better, they behave better.” – Pam Leo, Connection Parenting, · Use the Grandkid Investigator missions as a tool to help and guide your child through interaction with grandparents. 🎧 Show Notes: 👉 Listen to more episodes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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Ep 82: How Grandkid Investigator Missions Helped My 8-year-old Learn What Grandma Really Wants
06/13/2025
Ep 82: How Grandkid Investigator Missions Helped My 8-year-old Learn What Grandma Really Wants
Listen to a yahoo moment from doing the Grandkid Investigator Kit with my son. In this episode I share how my son learned about his grandma’s routine and helped me know how to plan his grandma’s next birthday celebration. Highlights: 3:35 - What happens when we teach our kids to ask questions 4:09 - The importance of helping our kids have conversation with grandparents 5:05 What my son told me that will help us celebrate his grandma’s birthday better! 5:56 – How we typically celebrate birthdays for older people "When you ask them, you honor them." Links mentioned: Get a tool to help kids connect with their grandparents by grabbing the Grandkid Investigator Digital Kit – Get the Grandkid Investigator Physical Box (available until June 23rd, 2025) - 🎧 Show Notes: 👉 Listen to more episodes: 📸 Connect on Instagram: 📖 Read The Value of Wrinkles: 📬 Join the email list: 🎤 Invite Isabel to speak:
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Ep 81: The Daughter Penalty - Is It Real?
06/05/2025
Ep 81: The Daughter Penalty - Is It Real?
Have you ever heard of the “daughter penalty”? Maybe not by name, but I bet you’ve felt it. It’s also called the caregiving penalty, and it’s the cost—financial, emotional, and mental—that often comes when daughters step up to care for their aging parents. So, whether you’re a daughter doing it all, a son who wants to understand better, or someone who just loves someone in this season—this episode is for you. Highlights: 3:22 – Why people want daughters and the belief that daughters are viewed as better caregivers. 5:05 – Brothers and spouses and how they may step back from the responsibilities of caring for their aging parents. 7:07 – How being the youngest in the family can be similar to how a brother/husband steps back from responsibility 8:11 – One thing we can do to help daughters/sisters/wives 9:20 – How caregiving affects a daughter’s emotional and mental wellbeing. Links mentioned: Get the Grandkid Investigator Kit at Shownotes available at Connect: Get a free mission from the Grandkid Investigator Kit - https://www.valueofwrinkles.com/freemission Connect on Instagram - Read the Value of Wrinkles - Join my email list - invite Isabel to your next event
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Ep 80: The Best Time to Schedule Visits with Grandparents/Aging Parents
05/29/2025
Ep 80: The Best Time to Schedule Visits with Grandparents/Aging Parents
When is the best time for YOU to schedule a visit with the grandparents or your aging parents? Today’s episode focuses on being intentional in terms of when you choose to spend time with the elders in your life. We want our visits with the grandparents/parents to be meaningful, beneficial, happy and life-giving, but in order for that to happen it’s possible that we need to consider the timing of when we visit. Dig into that with me today on The Value of Wrinkles podcast where we talk about caregiving, aging, and intergenerational connection: HIGHLIGHTS: The time of the year The time of the month (ladies, that’s you!) Your energy levels. Your work schedule Have you put thought into when you schedule a visit with the grandparents? Yes, you’re probably considering a time that’s good for them, but have you been intentional and thoughtful about finding a time that’s good for you? In order to have a happier, more meaningful, less conflict-filled visit, maybe it’s time to consider a few of the things that I talk about in today’s episode. Get the Grandkid Investigator Kit at Shownotes available at Connect: Get a free mission from the Grandkid Investigator Kit - https://www.valueofwrinkles.com/freemission Connect on Instagram - Read the Value of Wrinkles - Join my email list - invite Isabel to your next event []
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Ep 79: Grandkid Investigator Missions: What Kids Have Learned About Grandparents
05/22/2025
Ep 79: Grandkid Investigator Missions: What Kids Have Learned About Grandparents
In this episode, I delve into the experiences three kids have had using Grandkid Investigator Kit (GKI) mission. What have kids learend about their grandparents? Through engaging missions, kids uncover fun facts and stories about their grandparents to foster STRONGER bonds with grandparents. Here's a way that parents/grandparents can create memories and stronger bonds in a very simple and easy way! Highlights Three missions and three things kids learned about grandparents and a grant aunt! Operation IT, Operation Marshmallow, and Operation Make-a-Map The GKI Kit is NOW AVAILABLE for the summer and can be sent to you front door (one month only): Visit to grab a box while supplies last! 🛒 Purchase the Grandkid Investigator Kit for the summer! Make your family's summer meaningful with the Grandkid Investigator Kit. Available for a limited time until June 23rd. Both digital and physical kits are offered, but supplies are limited. CONNECT Get a free mission from the Grandkid Investigator Kit - Connect on Instagram - Read the Value of Wrinkles - Join my email list - invite Isabel to your next event []
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Ep 78: 3 Tips for Celebrating (Not Dreading) Your Next Birthday
05/15/2025
Ep 78: 3 Tips for Celebrating (Not Dreading) Your Next Birthday
Are you afraid to say how old are you now? Here are some tips that I’m preaching to myself to we can celebrate our next birthday! Highlights: 1:02 – The Own Your Age Photobooth 3:30 – Instead of dreading my birthday, I’m going to be a life giver. 4:48 – Asian Grandmas and how they’re different 5:58 – Let your age be your battle scar 8:03 – Replace “aging” with “living”. 10:19 – 2 Cor 4:16 Therefore we do not lose heart, though outwardly we are wasting away, yet inwardly we are being renewed day by day.". Links mentioned: Connect with Isabel Get a free mission from the Grandkid Investigator Kit - Connect on Instagram - Read the Value of Wrinkles - Join my email list - invite Isabel to your next event []
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Ep 77: What Younger vs. Older Moms Want for Mother’s Day
05/01/2025
Ep 77: What Younger vs. Older Moms Want for Mother’s Day
Isn’t it interesting that at different times in their lives, moms would want different types of gifts? In this episode, I thought it would be fun to chat about what young moms want and what older moms want for Mother’s Day. What Young Moms Want vs. What Older Moms Want 📩 Connect with me at and tell me what you think about this episode! Grab the Grandkid Investigator Kit 📸 Instagram: @isabelctom
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Ep 76: When Grandparents are not Kid-People
04/24/2025
Ep 76: When Grandparents are not Kid-People
Your parents or in-laws just aren’t kid people. They’re not friendly. They’re not engaging and they don’t know how to interact with the grandkids. We do want our kids to know their grandparents, but because the grandparents aren’t kid people, we get frustrated. In this episode, I want to help you work through this issue! HIGHLIGHTS 2:08 – They want to engage but, they feel inadequate in connecting with the grandkids. 3:49 – Are they just not relational? 4:40 – Asian Americans culture and relationship building 5:27 – How can parents give guidance? The Grandkid Investigator Kit is a tool that I created to make intergenerational connection easy, meaningful and fun. 📩 Grab the Grandkid Investigator Digital Kit Get a FREE grandkid investigator missions at Book signings and speaking: 📸 Instagram: @isabelctom
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Ep 75: Tired of Meeting Together with Family
04/17/2025
Ep 75: Tired of Meeting Together with Family
Do you remember a time when we couldn’t see our families in person? Do you remember when families had to visit with their elders with a window of glass in between? The next time you get together with your family, here are some important reminders: Reminders the next time you're tired of meeting together. Grandparents don’t live forever. It’s a gift to get to be with your loved ones in person. Question to ask ourselves: - How many birthdays do you have left with the grandparents? - How many holidays do you have left with the grandparents? - How many summers do you have left with the grandparents? Use the time you have left and cherish it. It will result in memories that you will cherish forever. Our older loved ones are at the end of their lives, but we’ve got to make the most of the time we have together. The Grandkid Investigator Kit is a tool that I created to be intentional with the time you have left with your grandparents. 📩 Grab the Grandkid Investigator Kit at 📸 Instagram: @isabelctom
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