Hacking Your ADHD

ADHD can be a struggle, but it doesn't always have to be. Every Monday, join William Curb, as he explores ways that you can work with your ADHD brain to do more of the things you want to do. If you have ADHD or someone in your life does and you want to get organized, get focused and get motivated then this podcast is for you.

Putting the Hyper in Hypersensitive (Rebroadcast) 08/10/2026

Important But Not Urgent (Rebroadcast) 08/03/2026

Research Recap with Skye: Hay Fever and ADHD 07/31/2026

Beyond the Labels: Queerness and ADHD Unpacked with Rachel Scanlon (Rebroadcast) 07/27/2026

Getting Focused with Shane Thrapp (Rebroadcast) 07/20/2026

Research Recap with Skye: Multitreatment of ADHD 07/17/2026

The Physics of Easy Discipline with Jia Jiang 07/13/2026

The Physics of Easy Discipline with Jia Jiang Hey Team! I’ve been on a bit of a break this summer, but I wanted to help celebrate International ADHD Awareness Day by dropping a new episode. We often think that achieving big things requires feeling miserable during the process. We buy into the myth that if a task isn't agonizing, it isn’t worth the time we put into it. My guest today is Jia Jiang, an expert in rejection resilience, a Duke MBA graduate, and the founder of Wuju Learning. After stepping away from a stable corporate career at Dell and LinkedIn to launch a tech startup, Jia realized his deepest bottleneck wasn't a lack of talent, but a profound fear of rejection. Fueled with this insight, he launched 100 Days of Rejection Therapy and filmed himself requesting absurd things from strangers daily. And this is actually when I first came across Jia 11 years ago, so it was quite the treat to get to talk with him and learn about his new book, Easy Discipline. Jia brings a unique lens to the table because he’s battled his own severe, late-understood ADHD and procrastination loops since growing up in Beijing when ADHD just wasn’t considered a thing. In this episode, we talk about shifting away from transactional, anxiety-inducing task completion and moving toward what he calls the "Artist Mindset." We also break down how masking and over-indexing on how other people perceive us turns into a form of self-sabotage, where we pre-reject ourselves before we even give our true traits a chance. Jia's Easy Ambition substack- Jia's New Book- If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at 303 YouTube: Patreon: This Episode's Top Tips Stop declaring war on your own brain by trying to grind through tasks using sheer willpower. Willpower is a finite biological resource that inevitably runs out, and relying on it just triggers a cycle of broken resolutions and self-blame. Instead, shift your strategy to working with your human nature by building environment-based systems that remove structural friction from the start. If your daily routine constantly feels like Sisyphus endlessly pushing a heavy boulder up a mountain, you are fighting psychological gravity. Instead of forcing yourself through tasks with external pressure, anchor the process in intrinsic enjoyment so the activity becomes your default state. When you flip the physics this way, the boulder starts rolling downhill, meaning it actually takes more active energy to stop your momentum than to keep going. Masking and over-analyzing how others perceive you creates an intense cognitive tension that completely paralyzes the ADHD brain. Break out of this by adopting the "Artist Mindset"—reframing stressful interactions or projects not as rigid transactions where you need approval, but as unreplicable opportunities to express your authentic presence. Focusing on full creative expression in the moment completely bypasses the perfectionism trap and lowers social anxiety. /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/42040300

ADHD and Pregnancy with Dusty Chipura (Rebroadcast) 07/06/2026

Research Recap with Skye: Mindfulness and ADHD 07/03/2026

ADHD and the Art of Mindful Living with Ying Deng (rebroadcast) 06/29/2026

Crafting Your ADHD Survival Kit with Maddy De Gabriele (Rebroadcast) 06/22/2026

Crafting Your ADHD Survival Kit with Maddy De Gabriele (Rebroadcast) We are diving back into one of our most popular and highly requested conversations! In this rebroadcast, host William Curb sits down with Maddy De Gabrielle to talk about moving past the struggle of adult ADHD and building a highly personalized, practical toolkit for daily survival. If you've ever felt overwhelmed by neurotypical advice that demands the very executive function you're short on, this episode is your permission slip to stop trying to fix your memory and start accommodating it instead. What We Cover in This Episode: The Myth of Neurotypical Sleep Hygiene: Why traditional "wind-down" routines can backfire for an ADHD brain—and how a pair of sleep headphones and a late-night treadmill walk completely flipped the script for Maddy. Low-Tech, High-Impact Hacks: From an $8 plastic medication dispenser that removes the executive burden of record-keeping, to using an unexpected "grabber bar" to tackle messy floors with the kids. Defeating Time Blindness: The power of a waterproof shower clock to manage transition anxiety and conquer the daily "getting in vs. getting out" hurdle. Out of Sight, Out of Mind: Why Bluetooth trackers (like AirTags and Tiles) are crucial health support devices for an ADHD brain's short-term memory limits. The Shared Vocabulary of ADHD: Powerful phrases like "I’m stuck" and the difference between "climbing the wall" vs. "staring at the wall" that can transform communication with your partner or family. "My life got so much better when I stopped trying to improve my memory and instead treated myself like someone who had a memory problem." — Maddy De Gabrielle This Episode's Top Tips When we’re looking at what goes into our tool kit we need to be thinking of both the physical and mental items that can assist us throughout the day. It’s important to work on getting past the idea of how we “should” be able to do certain things and look at what tools will let us actually do those things. It’s important to work on understanding and accepting ADHD as a chronic condition. We need to recognize ADHD's impact on our daily life and work on employing practical tools and strategies to mitigate those challenges. /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/41717630

Research Recap with Skye: Virtual Reality and ADHD 06/19/2026

You Don't Need to Earn Your Rest with Alyece Smith (Rebroadcast) 06/15/2026

You Don't Need to Earn Your Rest with Alyece Smith (Rebroadcast) We are kicking off our summer archive series with one of our absolute favorite, high-impact episodes from the vault . Originally airing at the start of the year, this conversation with Alyece Smith—founder of Socially Awesome, neurodivergent entrepreneur coach, and host of the ADHD CEO podcast—is the perfect reality check we all need as we try to navigate summer schedules without completely burning out . In this episode, Alyece and William dive deep into the exhausting ADHD trap of feeling like you constantly have to earn the right to sit down and rest . They unpack the difference between being truly productive and engaging in "fake productivity"—inventing random, low-priority tasks just to keep our brains in overdrive and avoid basic needs . What You'll Learn in This Episode: The "Earned Rest" Trap: Why the ADHD brain struggles to recognize non-business achievements (like household chores) as real work, leading to chronic overworking and severe burnout . Protecting Your "Spark Times": How to map out your day based on your natural biological energy peaks rather than traditional clock-based schedules, saving your best brainpower for things that actually matter . The Power of Voice Dumps: How Alyece uses voice-to-text apps (like VoicePin) to execute a "60-second brain dump" right out of the shower, preventing mid-day context switching and freezing . Removing Daily Decisions: Tactical ways to systematically eliminate decision fatigue from your life, from building a personal "uniform" to outsourcing your product research to AI or a trusted partner . Bypassing the Monetization Trap: A honest look at the pressure to monetize every single creative hobby and how to search for authentic clarity and fulfillment instead . Whether you're an entrepreneur struggling with a complete lack of office boundaries or just someone tired of trying to force a square peg into a round hole, this episode is full of permission slips to stop, breathe, and put your hands down . Connect with the Show: Newsletter: Sign up for Any and All Distractions at . Patreon & Discord: Support the show and join the community at . YouTube: Watch us at . Today's Moment of Dad: “Since it's a brand new season, I decided to get some shoes with clocks on them... you know, so I can watch my step.” /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/41642135

Living Right Side Out with Andy J. Pizza (rebroadcast) 06/08/2026

Living Right Side Out with Andy J. Pizza (rebroadcast) Welcome back to the Hacking Your ADHD rewind queue, team. In this highly requested rebroadcast, host William Curb sits down with illustrator, podcaster, and creative powerhouse Andy J. Pizza (host of Creative Pep Talk) to unpack the exhausting realities of masking and what it truly looks like to live "right side out." Using a hilariously relatable mishap involving a graphic T-shirt at a family memorial service, Andy illustrates how neurodivergent individuals slowly clip away their own tags and forget who they are just to blend into a neurotypical world. The two dive deep into the heavy emotional toll of constantly performing rather than just being, exploring that liberating "pro-being pride" that only happens when you step out of a performance and into a space that actively celebrates individuality. Beyond the philosophy of self-acceptance, this conversation serves up an essential masterclass in ADHD-friendly productivity, hacking the rigid definitions of habits, and managing creative burnout. Andy and William challenge the traditional advice of doing things consistently, revealing that the real secret to sustaining momentum for an ADHD brain is doing the same task differently to feed our constant craving for novelty. From bundling tedious chores like mowing the lawn with juiced-up playlists, to embracing the natural "incubation" period of the creative process, this episode delivers a vital reminder: stop trying to hate yourself into changing, and start building dynamic systems that allow your unique brain to thrive. If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at This Episode's Top Tips Masking isn’t inherently a bad thing, but it certainly is when we’re doing it all the time and unconsciously. We want to be intentional about when and why we mask, and aim for authenticity when possible. It’s okay to embrace opposing truths. We need structure and flexibility, goals and play. We don’t have to fall into all-or-nothing thinking, and this can help us balance some of these ADHD “contradictions”. Celebrate difference, don’t just tolerate it. Safe spaces are good, but celebration spaces—where your uniqueness is actively valued—are better. Look for relationships or communities where people enjoy your way of being, not just what you can do /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/41565570

Research Recap with Skye: Circadian Rhythm 06/05/2026

The Bypassing Creative Consistency with Susanne Schotanus 06/01/2026

The Bypassing Creative Consistency with Susanne Schotanus Hey Team! As many of you know, I have a passion for writing, and so I’m excited that today we are diving deep into that world and why it often feels like an uphill battle when you have an ADHD brain. I'm talking with Susanne Schotanus, an expert ADHD coach who holds the unique distinction of being the world's first dedicated ADHD writing coach, as well as the founder of the annual Basecamp to Brilliance writing summit. Susanne brings a wealth of clinical and practical insight from her years spent coaching everyone from burnt-out university professors to memoirists struggling to organize decades of research. In our conversation today, we discuss why standard linear approaches to writing clash so intensely with our multi-dimensional thinking styles. Susanne explains the mechanics of the "messy middle" in long-term projects, how our constant craving for novelty can derail a draft after just two weeks, and why we might want to reconsider our view of consistency. We also explore practical ways to gamify your workflow and create structural frameworks that adapt to your brain rather than forcing your brain to adapt to them. And while this episode's core focus is on writing, I think there is a lot to get out of this when considering any kind of long-term pursuit. Susanne's Website - Free Guide - If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at YouTube: Patreon: This Episode's Top Tips Waiting until you magically feel motivated to start a task is a losing game because our brains require action to generate momentum. To trick your brain into gear, lower the barrier to entry by making the first step absurdly small. Writing a single sentence or fixing a minor typo requires almost zero initial effort, but that tiny completion can give your brain the dopamine boost it needs to transition into work mode. Your note-taking and organizational systems are here to serve you, not the other way around. Using a brand new productivity tool for two glorious weeks and then completely losing interest isn’t a personal failure; it’s just the natural lifespan of a novelty-driven dopamine source. With this in mind, keep your architectures simple, make sure your data is easily exportable, and make it easy if you need to switch tools in the future. ADHD brains run on an system driven by interest, novelty, challenge, urgency, and passion. Most of us default to novelty (which leaves us with a mountain of half-finished projects) or panic-induced urgency (which runs us straight into burnout). To break the cycle and handle long-form projects, start intentionally leaning into the underutilized levers of challenge, gamification, and genuine playfulness. /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/41470915

Scaffolding the ADHD Brain: How Habits Fail and Systems May Save Us 05/29/2026

Scaffolding the ADHD Brain: How Habits Fail and Systems May Save Us Hey Team! When I moved into my neighborhood, most of the houses weren't built. So I got to see over the course of a few years, a lot of the work that went into putting those houses up, all the day-to-day progress that always kept happening, and how every step seemed to set them up for the next step. Now, nobody expects a brick wall to just materialize out of midair on pure willpower or a house to get completely built with no effort. yet when it comes to managing our daily routines, that’s exactly what we try to do. We expect our internal motivation to keep us on track despite our own track record, and then we get frustrated when they fall flat. In this episode, we’re taking a look at why our attempts to build traditional habits often doesn’t work with ADHD, and why it isn't a moral failure or a lack of trying. We’re going to explore the critical mechanics of external scaffolding versus internal habits, digging into how we can stop burning through our limited supply of daily executive function and start building physical infrastructure that does the heavy lifting for us If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at YouTube: Patreon: This Episode's Top Tips Traditional habits rely on an internal dopamine reward to lock them onto autopilot. Because ADHD reward chemistry is wildly inconsistent, that "autopilot" switch rarely flips. Instead, we want to work on designing our environment through systems to help make our intentions inevitable. Passive reminders are entirely too easy for an ADHD brain to ignore. Instead, use design psychology to create physical roadblocks that force conscious awareness. Putting your clean laundry basket directly on the couch cushion where you want to sit forces your brain to actively negotiate with the task before you can proceed. Human brains naturally drift toward the path of least resistance. Take advantage of this by manipulating that friction. Lower the friction for positive intentions by creating one-step solutions, like a dedicated key basket by the front door, or crank up the friction for distractions by doing things putting your phone completely out of reach so you can’t just pick it up without thinking about it. Your physical environment is never neutral; it is actively directing your behavior right now, whether you designed it or not, which means relying on willpower is a losing game. Treat environmental design as a handoff between two versions of you: let your "Good Brain Day" self build a physical world that protects and supports your "Bad Brain Day" self. /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/41460625

Tearing Down Cement Walls of Shame with Ron Capalbo 05/25/2026

Tearing Down Cement Walls of Shame with Ron Capalbo Hey Team! Today I’m sitting down with Ron Capalbo, known to many as @adhd_ron on the socials. I’ve gotten to know Ron at a number of ADHD conferences and had a great time at Neurodiversion talking with him about Dungeon Crawler Carl and figured it was time to have him on the pod. Ron is an AACC-certified coach through the ADD Coach Academy who specializes in strengths-based development and helping adults navigate the messy "shame cycle" that so often accompanies an ADHD diagnosis. He’s spent years building a community focused on honoring unique brain chemistry rather than fighting a losing battle against it. In today’s episode, we explore the "why" behind our perfectionism and how the fear of complacency often keeps us from being proud of our progress. Ron breaks down how to identify your brain’s unique operating system, the value of the elevator pitch for self-confidence, and why hitting a seven when you started at a two is actually a massive win, even if your brain is trying to convince you it’s a failure. If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at YouTube: Patreon: This Episode's Top Tips Try out the 2-versus-9 scale for Expectation Management. We often fail to start because we set the entry-level bar at a 9 (like, cooking 7 nights a week), which can often feel impossible. If instead we intentionally lower our aim to something that’s more like a 2, we bypass the brain's "frozen" state and create a low-friction path to initiation. All right, this is a long one, but it’s worth it. Many of us with ADHD actively avoid giving ourselves credit because we’ve been conditioned to fear that if we’re satisfied, it will lead to complacency. Mechanically, however, withholding credit creates a narrative vacuum in our operating system - our brain assumes it just didn’t happen. It looks at everything left to do, decides we’re failing, and triggers a total system freeze, what Ron calls a "cement wall". The fix here isn't forcing toxic positive affirmations your brain knows are fake. It just takes factual data entry. Take a second to acknowledge that you moved from a level one to a level two. You’re not throwing yourself a parade; you're just hitting "Save" so your brain has the baseline level to keep moving forward without crashing. Setbacks are inevitable, but the duration of the setback is determined by your level of self-shame. Implementing a grace period or a mental hug isn't about being soft; it's a strategic tool to reduce the time spent in a frozen state and get back to baseline faster. /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/41409510

Research Recap with Skye: Fidgeting 05/22/2026

Hacking the Limbic System’s Spending Habits with Christine Lane 05/18/2026

Hacking the Limbic System’s Spending Habits with Christine Lane Hey Team! This week, I’m talking with Christine Lane, an accredited financial counselor (AFC) with a master's degree in psychology. Christine has ADHD herself and, luckily for the rest of us, her hyper-fixation happens to be on personal finance. She’s the founder of Mind Over Money, where she focuses on the psychological hurdles that make traditional budgeting feel like a personal failure rather than just a glitch in your executive function. In our conversation today, we get into her "Four-Bucket Banking System" and why we need to stop making our money multitask. We also explore the concept of using "friction" as a tool for impulse control and why simulating the physical loss of cash can be a great way to get your limbic system to play ball. We also talk about the specific tools she uses to gamify spending, why detailed categorization is often just a form of productive procrastination, and how to set up "set it and forget it" systems that protect your bills from your worst impulses. Christine’s website: . Also for your listeners who are interested in the 4 bucket banking method here’s a freebie to help: If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at YouTube: Patreon: This Episode's Top Tips Modern digital spending, such as our cards and phones, provides a "gain" without the physical feeling of money leaving. To help bridge this gap, tools like a calculator, where you can subtract the cost at the moment of purchase, can help the limbic system register the loss, balancing the emotional input so you feel protective of your remaining funds. When we let our savings accounts multitask, we can end up imagining that the same $5,000 can cover both an emergency and a vacation. By using something like the Four-Bucket Banking System (Bills, Variable, Periodic, Emergency), you create "object permanence" for your money, ensuring that essential funds are physically separated from your spending urges. Willpower is a finite resource that often fails when we are stressed. Instead of "trying harder," we want to focus on bending external structures (like deleting the Amazon app or removing saved credit card info) to create enough friction to let our executive function outpace some of our more impulsive spending choices. /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/41314730

Coping with your ADHD (rebroadcast) 05/15/2026

No Pain, All Gain: Somatic Healing with the Workout Witch Liz Tenuto 05/11/2026

No Pain, All Gain: Somatic Healing with the Workout Witch Liz Tenuto Hey team, today I'm talking with Liz Tenuto, more widely known as the Workout Witch. Liz is a somatic specialist with a degree in psychology from UCSB, who has spent over a decade helping people release chronic stress through movement. She's also the author of Moving Through Trauma, which hit shelves in January. Liz's work bridges the gap between psychology and physical health, specializing in how trauma and stress manifest as psychological issues like gut problems, insomnia, and chronic pain. In our conversation today, we're diving into the world of somatic exercises, which are slow conscious and gentle movements designed to enhance the mind-body connection and nervous system regulation. We talk about how traditional no pain, no gain fitness often backfires for the ADHD brain, the nuances of introception, and why your body might feel stuck in a functional freeze without you even realizing it. If you'd like to follow along on the show notes notes page, you can find that at hackingyouradhd.com. All right, keep on listening to find out how to get your body and brain on the same page. If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at YouTube: Patreon: This Episodes Top Tips While random stimming may help us cope in the moment, it doesn't necessarily lead to long-term nervous system regulation. By intentionally performing certain somatic exercises, we can actually shift our baseline physiology over time. When we are in a state of functional freeze or understimulation, the goal isn't to lower our energy levels, but instead to move from a shutdown state up into a regulated and alert state of ease known as the ventral vagal state. Because ADHD involves a bottom-up nervous system, our mental state is often a direct reflection of our physical tension. By consciously relaxing, we can trigger an immediate emotional shift, even if we don't realize our own stress levels. /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/41222400

Research Recap with Skye: Sleep Problems 05/08/2026

Stop the Panic: Regulating Your ADHD Brain with Jenna Free 05/04/2026

Process Over Results: Hacking Your Consistency 05/01/2026

Optimizing Your Sleep System with Derek Hales 04/27/2026

Optimizing Your Sleep System with Derek Hales Hey Team! So we’ve got a bit of a different kind of episode today. I am talking with Derek Hales, the founder and editor-in-chief of NapLab, a mattress review website. While that might not scream ADHD, I was interested in having this conversation because so many of us with ADHD have issues around sleep. And what really impressed me with Naplab is how they’ve really focused on turning mattress testing into actual science, moving away from just "it-feels-soft vibes" and towards using thermal cameras, accelerometers, and other gadgets to really see what's going on with each of these mattresses. And I know how that sounds, but it is actually kind of cool. Anyway, in our conversation today, we talked about a lot of what goes into choosing a mattress, what makes something good for one person and not the right fit for someone else. We spend time talking about this systems-first approach to sleep, how your bed frame, sheets, and even the light from things like your alarm clock can either support or sabotage your REM cycles. Of course, we also touch on some of the unique challenges of ADHD and sleep, from circadian rhythm delays to just trying to get our brains to quiet down at night. If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at YouTube: Patreon: This Episode's Top Tips ADHD brains can have even more trouble filtering out background stimuli, such as lights and sounds, in the bedroom, which can make it even harder for us to fall asleep. Things like blackout shades and earplugs can create an environment that's more conducive to getting more restful and restorative sleep. Your body's ability to shed heat is a biological requirement for deep sleep. To help with this cooling, look for materials that actually facilitate moisture-wicking and air flow, rather than relying on stuff that just has a surface-level cool-to-the-touch feel. A lot of marketing from the mattress industry often uses a "more expensive equals better sleep" model, pressuring us to spend more and more on mattresses. Derek suggests a $1,500-$2,000 price range as the performance peak, where the highest-quality materials are used, and you get the most bang for your buck. /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/41009960

Research Recap with Skye: Procrastination 04/24/2026

The High Cost of White-Knuckling ADHD with Katy Weber 04/20/2026

Midnight Motivation 04/17/2026

Midnight Motivation It’s 11:20 right now and I’m eating a brownie, but tomorrow, no more sweets - it’s zero sugar for me. And exercise, all of it. Every day. And cleaning? My house is going to be spotless. Email? Say hello to inbox zero. And no more TV or video games, only highly enriching activities for me from now on. All I have to do is follow the plan. What is the plan? That’s not important right now. I’ll figure that out tomorrow. For now, I’m going to bask in the glory of what is to come. All right, let’s get back to reality - although I really did write this at 11:20… and while those may not be my thoughts exactly, they aren’t that far off from ideas I’ve had in the past. I mean, they weren’t good ideas, but ideas nonetheless. So today we’re talking about midnight motivation - that late-night urge to turn your life around that somehow doesn’t translate into the next day. We’re going to be talking about why, in the quiet of the night, we become these master architects of our own lives, designing sprawling mansions of productivity because we don’t have to worry about the cost of materials or even the laws of physics. But when we wake up, we’re no longer the architect; we’re the contractor. Or maybe even more accurately, the subcontractor who has been handed some hastily drawn out plans on the back of a bar napkin. So in this episode, we’re going to look at why our ADHD brains love building these "theoretical" lives when the world is on pause and how we can start translating those blueprints into something we can actually build during the daylight hours. If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at YouTube: Patreon: This Episode's Top Tips We need to understand that late-night motivation isn't really potential energy(pulling back the bowstring), but rather it's theoretical energy (you're just thinking about the bow). Recognizing this distinction is important in understanding why we never “release the arrow" in the morning; we never actually pulled the string back in the first place. While it does feel like planning, thinking about doing something isn’t the same as planning, and thinking about planning also isn’t the same thing as planning. This is important to remember because even though it's not really planning, it still feels like we are, and when we don’t follow through with those not-plans, it also still feels bad. We want to shift our focus from the Vision (the dopamine-heavy end goal) to the Logistics (the boring friction). A plan isn't a plan if it isn’t accounting for all those logistical pieces. If the logistics aren't there, your brain will bail the moment you hit a "hidden" step. By moving "theoretical" plans into a physical calendar, we are better able to see our existing commitments in a visual space. We don't have infinite time, and if we want to start something new, we have to be able to fit it into the calendar. /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/40904810

Reclaiming Your Capacity with Meredith Carder 04/13/2026

Reclaiming Your Capacity with Meredith Carder Hey Team! Today I’m talking with Meredith Carder, author of It All Makes Sense Now. Meredith is an ADHD coach and the creator behind the popular Instagram account @hummingbird_adhd, where she focuses on neuro-affirming strategies for adults. With a background in psychology and an MBA, she brings a unique perspective on how we can bridge the gap between our high-level professional goals and the executive dysfunction that often gets in the way. I got to meet Meredith at the 2025 ADHD Conference in Kansas City and then got to hang out with her again recently at NeuroDiversion in Austin. She’s a ton of fun to talk with and while this episode had a few hurdles to get over in terms of actually recording it, was a ton of fun. In our conversation today, we get into the concept of "Ambition vs. Capacity,” that frustrating space where our big ideas don't quite match what we are actually capable of doing in the moment. We talk about why we feel so much shame over "adulting" tasks like laundry and dishes, and how changing our mental models of what an "adult" looks like can free up bandwidth for things that actually matter. We also get into Meredith’s specific systems for planning her week and how she uses a "Monday Planning Meeting" to set realistic expectations before the week even starts. If you'd life to follow along on the show notes page you can find that at YouTube: Patreon: This Episode's Top Tips Often, we conflate the ideas of "simple" with "easy,” and because simple tasks can lack the stimulation of more complex problems, they sometimes require more deliberate strategy and support, not less. High-level ideation can be a strength, but it is separate from executive function. We must learn to reconcile our big dreams with our actual current bandwidth to avoid the cycle of "losing self-trust" when we fail to reach unrealistic goals. Being "good" at something doesn't mean you have to or even necessarily need to do it, especially if it isn’t something you are particularly interested in. Selecting goals based on personal values rather than just skills helps ensure that the "20% of boring stuff" required to reach a goal doesn't outweigh the "80% of interest" that keeps us going. /episode/index/show/893fc914-dadf-442a-8137-9e58c466a56d/id/40812865

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