Confessions of a Terrible Husband with Nick Pavlidis

Confessions of a Terrible Husband: Lessons Learned from a Lumpy Couch! is a marriage podcast for people who are looking for real advice from the trenches and who are committed to taking personal responsibility for improving their relationships.

45. What if you're not the problem in your relationship? 06/22/2020

44. Improving a Struggling Marriage 06/01/2020

43: Are your friends hurting your marriage? (and a giveaway...) 09/01/2017

42: The Husband Code of Conduct with Bill McDonald 07/31/2017

41: How to Reduce Frustration in Your Marriage with Phil Potts 05/05/2017

40: How to Keep Your Mindset from Ruining Your Marriage 04/12/2017

39: How to Start a Mindless Marriage Makeover 04/07/2017

38: Day 7 of Ziglar Challenge: Building a Family Legacy About Something Bigger Than Us 04/02/2017

37: Day 6 of Ziglar Challenge: Strengthen Your Finances with Dave Ramsey 04/01/2017

36: Day 5 of Ziglar Challenge: Creating a Sense of Community Within Your Family 03/31/2017

35: Day 4 of Ziglar Challenge: Work-Life Balance with Tony Dungy 03/30/2017

34: Day 3 of Ziglar Challenge: Simple shifts to improve physical and emotional health 03/29/2017

33: Day 2 of Ziglar Challenge. An exercise to jump start your family communication 03/28/2017

32: Day 1 in the FREE 7-Day Ziglar Family Improvement Challenge. Take it With Me! 03/27/2017

31: 3 Ways to Kickstart Your Stale Marriage 03/20/2017

31: 3 Ways to Kickstart Your Stale Marriage Almost four years ago, I realized I was a terrible husband. I was lazy, unintentional, unreliable, and more. If not for a chance encounter with a couple who would quickly become my friends and mentors, I have no doubt that I’d be writing about my former marriage by now. Since then, I’ve spent four years learning and applying as much as I can to improve my relationship and by sharing my favorite lessons learned from the pros, help you improve yours, too, no matter how great your relationship already is! If you’re new to the site, the best ways to get into my head and take advantage of the research I’ve done (and mistakes I’ve made) already are to pick up my book, , check out more posts right here, follow me on social channels, or listen to the (It’s on , , , , and more. Just hover over the word “podcast” on the top of any page on the site!). Although my marriage is much improved, it’s definitely been more of a roller coaster than a rocket ship launching into space. We have ups and downs, like any relationship, although the ups are "uppier" and the downs are less "downish." Yes, I made those words up. It’s my blog. I can do that. :) We’ve had periods where we make great progress and then weeks or months where things feel a bit stale and need a kickstart. When that happens, these three things help regain focus, direction, and momentum! Change your dinner plans. It’s no secret that Dan and Joanne Miller were the who I connected with to help me transform my relationship. Since meeting them, I’ve been very intentional to surround myself with many other men, women, and couples with great marriages so I can learn as much as possible. As motivational speaker Jim Rohn famously said, we’re the average of the five people we spend the most time with. One of the easiest ways to start with this is to just begin making dinner plans with couples you believe have great marriages. Keep it simple. You don’t need any magic words or to ask any specific questions. Just spend more time with people who have relationships like you want to build and less time with people who don’t. You can learn a ton just by being around people with great marriages. Change your programming with new books, podcasts, or video content. If you can’t find people with great marriages to spend more time with, find virtual mentors by reading books, listening to podcasts, or watching great video content. If you can do this with your spouse, even better. But if not, that’s okay. Make the first move by consuming content that can help you improve your relationship and applying the lessons you learn. Before I turned 30, I had read fewer than 10 books for personal growth, and those were all finance and business books. After turning 30, I started reading more business and marketing books. Although my finances looked great and my career was going well, my personal life was pretty . . . well, you know the name of this blog, so that pretty much says it all. :) Now, I’m constantly either , listening to a podcast, or watching a video about improving my relationship and then committing to applying at least one thing I learned from the material. My favorite way to do it is through audiobooks, which I can listen to while emptying the dishwasher, cleaning my office, and more. I highly recommend everyone where you can get a new book every month. If you aren’t a member yet, you can get a free month and a free book to keep (even if you cancel) by heading . However you consume content, direct some of it on a regular basis to improving your relationships, and commit to applying one lesson you learn from each piece of content to put a jolt in your relationship. Take a guided challenge! When you’re just starting to intentionally improve your relationship, or if it’s been weeks or months since you last made an intentional effort, one of the easiest and best ways to build positive momentum is to take a . The best part about taking a guided challenge is it takes all the thinking out of improving your relationship! You don’t need to look for a lesson or get anyone’s buy-in. You just follow the instructions. I’ve made it a point to take at least one challenge every year and each time I take one, my marriage gets a great boost! This year, I’m taking a (yes, that Ziglar family!) that starts Monday, March 27, 2017, and I’d like to invite you to do it with me. After taking a deep dive behind the scenes of the , I saw three things that made me quickly become more excited about this free challenge than about many paid challenges I’ve seen. First, it’s only 7 days long. Anyone can . Second, it touches 7 key areas of family life, including relationship, communication, physical health, work–life integration, community, financial, and—if you’re spiritual in nature—spiritual. Finally, the challenge is led by seven leading experts on their relevant subject matter. Get this: Day 1: Gary Chapman (Relationships) Day 2: Michael & Gail Hyatt (Communication) Day 3: Dr. Josh Axe (Physical Health) Day 4: Tony Dungy (Work–Life Integration) Day 5: Brian Buffini (Community) Day 6: Dave Ramsey (Finances) Day 7: Zig Ziglar’s own children – Cindy, Julie, and Tom (Spirituality). Needless to say, that’s seven sorts of awesome right there. And each of them shares their best advice for you during the challenge! I hope you join me in taking the challenge! I liked it so much I agreed to help promote the for them in addition to taking it myself. It’s totally free to sign up. They also have other great free content there to check out and a paid membership and coaching program if you want to go even deeper, so be sure to check it out. Are you ready to kickstart your marriage? How will you do it? Will you change your dinner plans? Will you change your programming? Will you join me in the ? All 3? Something else? In the comments, share how you’re going to kickstart your relationship. If you’re going to join me in the , be sure to come back here and share your progress in the comments to this post and look out for more great posts (and a surprise podcast episode) from me! /episode/index/show/aterriblehusband/id/5186322