Building a Better Dave

The personal diary of Dave Jackson. Each short episode attempts to make you laugh, cry, think, groan, educate, or entertain. Sometimes, you get to play therapist as Dave attempts to share life's lessons from Father Time.

Quit Telling Me What To Think 07/21/2026

The Kids are Going to Be Here 06/08/2026

The Kids are Going to Be Here I got a call from my sister-in-law as I was driving to get some pizza, and she invited me over to her house because the 3rd of April is my great nieces birthday. We were going to have a makeshift birthday party at the house, and she said all the kids are going to be here, meaning my niece and her three kids (my other niece lives out of state). I went over, and my great-niece has grown easily a foot and a half in the last three months. I can't remember the last time I saw her, but she's much taller. My great-nephew is taller than I am. It was one of those times when I knew to take a brain tattoo, meaning it's something that's not going to happen (so take a mental snap shot). I've been doing this a lot when the kids are together because the newphew is 18, and it's very weird that he's graduating from high school. It was kind of a slap in my face that, "Hey, if you wanted to watch this kid play high school sports, you missed it," and it made me very sad. My mom attended everything; now moms always do that, because they had to drive you there, probably, but nonetheless it was one of those where I think I saw him play sports three times. I thought, "You suck as an Uncle," but it was great to have them all together. It was really weird that the baby of the family is now a teenager. The middle great-niece will soon be driving, and the oldest Nephew is off to Myrtle Beach with his buddies. That phrase, "All the kids will be here," is something that, even before I got there, I realized is something that's going to be more and more special. Eventually we will blink, and someone will be married with a kid. The newphew has a girlfriend now who seems very sweet, and then the girls will go off. Who knows what will happen, right? Nonetheless, having everyone under the same roof will be harder and harder to do, because who knows, they might end up in other states, et cetera, et cetera. I actually got a little emotional because I was watching him leave. Here he is, this 18-year-old kid, and about six feet in front of him was my niece (his Mom). I remember vividly watching her on a blanket at my brother's house in North Hill. She occasionally would say "buh," and we all thought that was hilarious. Here was my little "buh" baby, and her first kid is now a high school graduate, and it just happened so incredibly fast. And faster it will go. If I'm going to see the great nieces, cheerleading or whatever they're doing, I'm going to have to step up my game as an Uncle. Check Your Calendar My niece had even sent a date and address to one of his last games. I remember thinking I need to check that and add it to my calendar, except he had already graduated and I had missed it. So check your calendar. I believe your calendar reflects your heart. Don't wait, as time is moving faster and faster. Get your prorities in place. /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/41568460

I'm Not 23: My Persuit of Brandywine Falls 05/28/2026

And Then Life Pulled Me Back In 05/01/2026

And Then Life Pulled Me Back In On this episode of Building a Better Dave, I open up about a lifelong battle with debt, from childhood lessons learned at the family kitchen table to the hard realities of bankruptcy, divorce, and the ever-looming burden of credit cards. I share how persistent financial setbacks reshaped his perspective on money, hard work, and resilience. Just when he thought he had finally conquered debt, an unexpected basement flood pulled him back in, reminding him that life’s challenges are never really finished. Join me as I explore what it means to keep pushing forward when setbacks strike, the value of perseverance, and how sometimes tearing things down is the first step to building something even better. Like the show? Wan to give some value back? (or 10). Sequence of Topics Covered 1. Introduction & Theme of Debt Dave Jackson introduces debt as the main topic and his lifelong struggle with it 00:00. Show info and contact details are provided 00:08. 2. Early Lessons in Money and Debt Memories of his dad doing taxes and the tension around finances 00:36. The influence of the Lannister motto, "A Lannister always pays his debts," on his upbringing 01:22. Story of borrowing $300 from his grandfather to buy a car and the process of paying him back 01:28. Learning there are no "free lunches" and needing to earn money for things he wanted, such as music albums 01:47. 3. Family Finances & Value of Money Family's economic background (not rich, not poor, but frugal) 02:24. Use of coupons, hand-me-downs, and lessons in financial responsibility from his mother 02:33. 4. Adult Experiences with Debt First marriage: fertility challenges lead to substantial credit card debt for treatments 02:41. Living paycheck to paycheck and discussing bankruptcy, which conflicted with his "pay your debts" values 03:30. After 9/11, wife's hours were cut, leading them to file for bankruptcy reluctantly 03:40. 5. Struggles with Debt in Later Life Marriage to a partner with poor credit and inheriting someone else's credit card debt after divorce 04:17. Failed attempts at debt consolidation and the difficulty of accessing better loan rates 05:09. Gradual process of securing slightly better loans and working towards being debt-free 05:25. 6. The Turning Point: Selling the School of Podcasting Conversation with his boss about potential for the School of Podcasting 05:42. Decision to sell the business for enough money to pay off debt, while maintaining a professional relationship 06:23. Finishing 2025 debt-free and entering the new year with a clean slate 07:07. Enjoying financial freedom and considering future opportunities and contributions to family 07:38. 7. Setbacks: Home Flooding and New Debt Feeling of finally catching up to peers in life after years of feeling behind 08:03. Discovery of water damage and mold in the basement after heavy rain 09:18. Realization of the high cost involved in repairs and choosing to finance the repairs rather than deplete savings 10:30. Resuming strategies from earlier years to manage debt and expenses 11:05. 8. Mindset and Coping Strategies Acceptance of debt as a temporary setback and readiness to cut corners and reduce expenses (e.g., fewer streaming services, no fast food) 11:48. Reflecting on the possibility of being in debt into old age and the impact on personal plans 12:22. 9. Tackling Change and Optimism Clearing out the workshop and preparing for basement renovations 12:51. Parallel between demolishing basement parts and the demolition of his childhood schools 13:31. Considering new configurations for the basement, such as moving down his podcasting studio, and seeking hidden benefits 14:05. Drawing inspiration from his grandmother’s longevity supported by daily movement 14:18. 10. It is What It is Paying for repairs and looking forward with optimism, knowing things will improve 14:46. Mention of listener support through “buy me a coffee” on the website to help with expenses 14:58. Closing wishes for the audience and a tease for the next episode 15:19. /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/41094455

Brilliant Journalism 12/12/2025

Waterboarding for Fruit 10/17/2025

Waterboarding for Fruit Hey, it’s Dave—and on this episode of Building a Better Dave, I talk all about the weirdness that is Halloween in my neighborhood lately. As October rolls in, I’ve noticed a crazy escalation in skeleton yard decorations. What used to be simple six-foot skeletons have turned into these massive twelve-foot giants. I can’t help but wonder if this is just the middle-aged version of keeping up with the Joneses. Halloween itself has always struck me as strange, especially when you factor in how expensive candy has gotten (seriously, $15 a bag now?!) and how we’ve all just accepted feeding our kids mountains of sugar as tradition. Confession: If I buy a bunch of candy, I’m probably just going to eat it myself, which is why I might skip handing it out altogether and let myself get "tricked" this year. This episode, I also reminisce about the good old days of Halloween pranks—TPing houses, knocking and running, and my brother’s infamous police escort home after getting caught. My dad was definitely not amused. It feels like those harmless pranks just don’t happen anymore—probably because today’s doorbell cameras have killed the fun. Of course, I have to mention bobbing for apples, which, looking back, is basically waterboarding with fruit. Pump enough apple cider into a kid and you end up with what I like to call the “Runs” (and I list every synonym I can think of—because why not?). And what’s up with every costume needing to be "slutty" these days? Slutty nurse, slutty librarian, even slutty Daffy Duck! Not sure when that trend started, but it seems to get more out there every year. I wrap up by admitting I bought a new Christmas tree—when all I intended was a little four-foot tree, I walked out with a seven-and-a-half foot beauty. Honestly, I think I’m trying to recapture one of my favorite childhood memories: coming in from the snow, curling up in front of the tree with a thick blanket and some hot chocolate from my mom. That feeling of safety just sticks with me, especially as the holidays get closer. Hope you enjoy my holiday ramblings, stories of waterboarding for fruit, and my skepticism about modern Halloween. Until next time, hang in there—it’s going to get better. Highlights: Giant skeletons and the one-upmanship of Halloween decorations The economics—and temptations—of Halloween candy How doorbell cameras ruined classic Halloween pranks Bobbing for apples: my take on this bizarre tradition The rise of “slutty” costumes and my bewilderment Reflecting on the holidays and chasing those cozy, safe memories Did this episode make you laugh,cry, think, or groan? Consider . /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/38626460

Old Habits Die Hard 10/09/2025

Old Habits Die Hard In this episode, I open up about a recent experience I had on Reddit where, despite my own advice, I ended up feeding the trolls. I share how I got pulled into a frustrating back-and-forth with someone who just wasn’t open to any input, and how that made me reflect on my own “educator mindset”—the urge to resolve every conflict or misunderstanding online. I talk about the importance of setting boundaries not just with online trolls, but also when inviting podcast guests onto your show. Remember: if someone really wants to be on your show, they’ll usually find time that works for you. On the personal side, I give an update about being busier than ever at my church due to a colleague’s health issues. I discuss how this has affected my routine, my stress levels (thanks for the heads up, Oura Ring!), and the push I’m giving myself to prioritize health and movement—even if it means just getting out to walk at my local park. Plus, I share a little inspiration from watching the Ozzy Osbourne documentary "Coming Home," which has me thinking about aging, health, and making time for what really matters. --- Key Takeaways: - Don’t let internet trolls drain your energy—learn to recognize when to disengage (even if you think that last message might “fix” things). - When it comes to podcasting, don’t be afraid to set your own boundaries around scheduling guests. - Some people just aren’t open to feedback, and that’s okay—sometimes it’s best to step back. - Make sure your social profiles link to your website to help connect with people you actually can help. - Growth comes from noticing your own patterns—and learning from your mistakes. - Keep prioritizing your health and well-being, even when life gets busy. - Inspiration can come from unexpected places—even a documentary about Ozzy Osbourne. --- Links Mentioned: -Ozzy Osbourne documentary Connect with Me: Thanks for listening! If you enjoyed the episode, :) /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/38520340

I'm Going to Need Some Proof Please... 09/22/2025

Where Did My Country Go? 09/11/2025

14 Hours in a Car 07/19/2025

But I Can Still Play Ping Pong 04/10/2025

Father Time is Undefeated 03/01/2025

Father Time is Undefeated Today I share some insights as I deal with the loss of a friend. Death sucks, but when you lose people who are YOUNGER then you, with no warning, it really sucks. Today I talk about losing my friend Niel Guilarte who I worked with during the making of We got to room with each other at events, and we just clicked. We always made each other laugh. My favorite was when Niel would start laughing and he couldn't finish the story he had started. When you start to see your heroes get old and some cracks around the edges, it's sad, but it's a warning sign. Niel was here, and the next day he wasn't. He leaves a wife and 11-year old daughter he adored, and a new house. He was the best friend of one of my favorite people Chris Krimitsos. Which is one of the things that is adding to the pain. I have people in Florida who could use a hug. I love to help people, and in this case there is nothing I can do. Mentioned In This Episode There are times you feel bad. The lights are off and it seems like there is no way home. Keep moving. It's funny when I have to do a sermon in my church, something ALWAYS comes up on Facebook that fits. This is what came up: 41 is Coming In the Bible, it rained for 40 days and 40 nights. Day 41 came and the rain stopped. Moses committed murder & hid in the desert for 40 years. Year 41 came, and God called him to help rescue Israel. Moses went up on the mountain for 40 days. On day 41, he received the Ten Commandments. The Israelites wandered in the wilderness for 40 years. Year 41, they walked into the Promised Land. Goliath taunted Israel for 40 days. Day 41 came, and David slew him. Jonah preached a message of repentance to Ninevah for 40 days. On day 41, God stopped His plan to destroy them. Jesus fasted and was tempted for 40 days. Day 41, and the devil fled. After His resurrection, Jesus appeared to His disciples for 40 days. On day 41, He ascended into Heaven. All this to say...don't quit. The rain will stop, the giant will fall, and you will enter your "promised land." Don't give up at 40. 41 is coming. See you later Niel. /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/35491465

Someone Stop This Train 02/08/2025

Someone Stop This Train This was recorded during my last few minutes of being 59. Life is dragging me kicking and screaming into my 60s. I'm not happy about it. Don't you get it? I'm 23 honest. I've been 23 my whole life? Have I made my last trip to Dairy Queen? It turns out everything I eat is poison. That's something you know but don't care, and it turns out you should've cared a little more than you did. John Mayer has a great song called "" that has a line John Had a talk with my old man Said, "Help me understand" He said, "Turn 68" "You renegotiate" I was able to renew my drivers license for 8 years which means aside from a sticker (which I can get through the mail) I will be 68 the next time I renew my liscene. WHen you go to the MBV you go in and get a number, and wait for your name to be called. I kind of feel like a 'This is not a drill" situation, and I'm waiting for my number to be called. UNlike the BMV, I'm hoping for a very long line. You can buy me a coffee for my birthday . John Mayer - Stop This Train No I'm not colorblind I know the world is black and white Try to keep an open mind but I just can't sleep on this tonight Stop this train I wanna get off And go home again I can't take the speed It's movin' in I know I can't But honestly Won't someone stop this train? Don't know how else to say it Don't wanna see my parents go One generation's length away From fighting life out on my own So scared of getting older I'm only good at being young So I play the numbers game To find a way to say that Life has just begun Had a talk with my old man Said, "Help me understand" He said, "Turn 68" "You renegotiate" "Don't stop this train" "Don't for a minute change" "The place you're in" "And don't think I couldn't" "Ever understand" "I tried my hand" "John, honestly" "We'll never stop this train." Once in a while When its good It'll feel like it should And they're all still around And you're still safe and sound And you don't miss a thing Till you cry when you're drivin' away in the dark Singing Stop this train I wanna get off And go home again I can't take the speed It's movin in I know I can't 'Cause now I see I'll never stop this train /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/35201790

I'm not a Car Guy 01/10/2025

I'm not a Car Guy Episode Summary In this episode, Dave reflects on his recent struggles with his car in frigid Ohio weather and how it reminded him of the "old days" of dealing with unreliable vehicles. From the quirks of old, hand-me-down cars to the challenges of modern, fuel-injected engines, Dave humorously recounts the learning curves of car maintenance. The episode dives into the importance of adaptability, whether in fixing a car, keeping up with evolving technology, or navigating life’s unexpected hurdles. If you like this show, you can . Main Takeaways Winter Woes & Car Troubles: Dave shares his frustrations about his car refusing to start in Ohio’s brutal winter weather. Memories of growing up with unreliable cars and the "DIY" fixes of the past (like using Bondo or ether) highlight how technology has changed car maintenance. Lessons in Adaptability: From cars to technology, Dave emphasizes the importance of staying adaptable and keeping up with advancements. He parallels learning to fix cars and his ongoing efforts to master artificial intelligence and SEO. Keeping Emergency Funds & Friends Handy: Dave reminds listeners of the value of having an emergency fund and reliable friends who can lend their expertise when needed. His Ford mechanic friend saves the day with a simple car-starting trick. Balancing Technology & Life: Dave acknowledges how fast-paced technology evolves and highlights the importance of continuous learning to avoid falling behind. He reflects on losing weight, staying updated with AI, and preparing for a milestone birthday. Humor & Nostalgia: Dave’s stories about his past cars (like the “Slova” and Fred Flintstone-style Datsun) bring laughter and nostalgia. The absurd quirks of old vehicles, like passenger doors flying open mid-drive, make for entertaining storytelling. Notable Quotes “If you don’t keep learning, you don’t just stop—you go backwards.” “I could pop the hood, look at it, and say, ‘Yep, there it is. That’s the engine.’” “Every car I bought, the very first day, I swapped out the stereo for ear-bleeding madness.” Resources Mentioned Dave Ramsey’s Emergency Fund Advice: A reminder to always be prepared for unexpected expenses. . Artificial Intelligence & SEO: Dave's exploration of how these tools are shaping the future of technology and online presence. Listener Call to Action Stay tuned for the next episode, where Dave dives into how his upcoming milestone birthday is messing with his head. Visit Us: Subscribe: /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/34800815

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An Easy Way to Make $50 a Month 10/22/2024

What's Wrong with My Brain? Dealing with Self-Doubt and Recognition 10/10/2024

Get Your Money Working For You 06/27/2024

Losing Everything to Gain Perspective- A Story of Hope and Humanity 05/20/2024

The Unforgettable Jim Blackstock: Lessons and Laughter at a Memorable Funeral 05/01/2024

Dave at 59: Reflections on Life, Facing Aging, and Ditching Dairy Queen 02/08/2024

What A Wonderful World 11/09/2023

You've Gone Too Far With Time Blindness 10/21/2023

You've Gone Too Far With Time Blindness Yuri Bezmenov was a russian journlist who defected to the USA. He explained a strategy of the KGB. HE said this in 1984. It was called either ideological subversion, or active measures. What it basically means is to change the perception of reality of every American to such an extent that despite the abundance of information, no one is able to come to sensible conclusions in the interests of defending themselves, their families, their community, and their country. It's a great brainwashing process that goes very slow and is divided in four basic stages. The first one being demoralization; it takes from 15 to 20 years to demoralize a nation. Why that many years? Because this is the minimum number of years required to educate one generation of students The ideology is being pumped into the soft heads of at least three generations of American students without being challenged or counterbalanced by the basic values of Americanism What Is The Result? The result you can see, most of the people who were "half-baked intellectuals" are now occupying positions of power in the government, civil service, business, mass media, and educational system; you are stuck with them, and you cannot get rid of them. They are contaminated. They're programmed to think and react to certain stimuli in a certain pattern. You cannot change their mind even if you expose them to authentic information. Even if you prove that white is white and black is black, you still cannot change the basic perception and the logic of behavior. In other words, the process of demoralization is complete and irreversible. To reverse this you have you need another 15 or 20 years to educate a new generation of common sense. The demoralization process in the United States is completed already. For the last 25 years, actually, it's over fulfilled because demoralisation now reaches such areas where experts, would even dream of such tremendous success. Most of it is done by Americans to Americans, thanks to a lack of moral standards. Mentioned In This Episode Like this episode? /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/28380797

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Band-Aid Blues 08/04/2023

Pistols at Dawn! 07/18/2023

Spiking Like a Mother 06/28/2023

Chipmunks Aren't Sexy 06/21/2023

Outrunning the Cheetah 06/13/2023

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