Building a Better Dave

The personal diary of Dave Jackson. Each short episode attempts to make you laugh, cry, think, groan, educate, or entertain. Sometimes, you get to play therapist as Dave attempts to share life's lessons from Father Time.

14 Hours in a Car 07/19/2025

But I Can Still Play Ping Pong 04/10/2025

Father Time is Undefeated 03/01/2025

Father Time is Undefeated Today I share some insights as I deal with the loss of a friend. Death sucks, but when you lose people who are YOUNGER then you, with no warning, it really sucks. Today I talk about losing my friend Niel Guilarte who I worked with during the making of We got to room with each other at events, and we just clicked. We always made each other laugh. My favorite was when Niel would start laughing and he couldn't finish the story he had started. When you start to see your heroes get old and some cracks around the edges, it's sad, but it's a warning sign. Niel was here, and the next day he wasn't. He leaves a wife and 11-year old daughter he adored, and a new house. He was the best friend of one of my favorite people Chris Krimitsos. Which is one of the things that is adding to the pain. I have people in Florida who could use a hug. I love to help people, and in this case there is nothing I can do. Mentioned In This Episode There are times you feel bad. The lights are off and it seems like there is no way home. Keep moving. It's funny when I have to do a sermon in my church, something ALWAYS comes up on Facebook that fits. This is what came up: 41 is Coming In the Bible, it rained for 40 days and 40 nights. Day 41 came and the rain stopped. Moses committed murder & hid in the desert for 40 years. Year 41 came, and God called him to help rescue Israel. Moses went up on the mountain for 40 days. On day 41, he received the Ten Commandments. The Israelites wandered in the wilderness for 40 years. Year 41, they walked into the Promised Land. Goliath taunted Israel for 40 days. Day 41 came, and David slew him. Jonah preached a message of repentance to Ninevah for 40 days. On day 41, God stopped His plan to destroy them. Jesus fasted and was tempted for 40 days. Day 41, and the devil fled. After His resurrection, Jesus appeared to His disciples for 40 days. On day 41, He ascended into Heaven. All this to say...don't quit. The rain will stop, the giant will fall, and you will enter your "promised land." Don't give up at 40. 41 is coming. See you later Niel. /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/35491465

Someone Stop This Train 02/08/2025

Someone Stop This Train This was recorded during my last few minutes of being 59. Life is dragging me kicking and screaming into my 60s. I'm not happy about it. Don't you get it? I'm 23 honest. I've been 23 my whole life? Have I made my last trip to Dairy Queen? It turns out everything I eat is poison. That's something you know but don't care, and it turns out you should've cared a little more than you did. John Mayer has a great song called "" that has a line John Had a talk with my old man Said, "Help me understand" He said, "Turn 68" "You renegotiate" I was able to renew my drivers license for 8 years which means aside from a sticker (which I can get through the mail) I will be 68 the next time I renew my liscene. WHen you go to the MBV you go in and get a number, and wait for your name to be called. I kind of feel like a 'This is not a drill" situation, and I'm waiting for my number to be called. UNlike the BMV, I'm hoping for a very long line. You can buy me a coffee for my birthday . John Mayer - Stop This Train No I'm not colorblind I know the world is black and white Try to keep an open mind but I just can't sleep on this tonight Stop this train I wanna get off And go home again I can't take the speed It's movin' in I know I can't But honestly Won't someone stop this train? Don't know how else to say it Don't wanna see my parents go One generation's length away From fighting life out on my own So scared of getting older I'm only good at being young So I play the numbers game To find a way to say that Life has just begun Had a talk with my old man Said, "Help me understand" He said, "Turn 68" "You renegotiate" "Don't stop this train" "Don't for a minute change" "The place you're in" "And don't think I couldn't" "Ever understand" "I tried my hand" "John, honestly" "We'll never stop this train." Once in a while When its good It'll feel like it should And they're all still around And you're still safe and sound And you don't miss a thing Till you cry when you're drivin' away in the dark Singing Stop this train I wanna get off And go home again I can't take the speed It's movin in I know I can't 'Cause now I see I'll never stop this train /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/35201790

I'm not a Car Guy 01/10/2025

I'm not a Car Guy Episode Summary In this episode, Dave reflects on his recent struggles with his car in frigid Ohio weather and how it reminded him of the "old days" of dealing with unreliable vehicles. From the quirks of old, hand-me-down cars to the challenges of modern, fuel-injected engines, Dave humorously recounts the learning curves of car maintenance. The episode dives into the importance of adaptability, whether in fixing a car, keeping up with evolving technology, or navigating life’s unexpected hurdles. If you like this show, you can . Main Takeaways Winter Woes & Car Troubles: Dave shares his frustrations about his car refusing to start in Ohio’s brutal winter weather. Memories of growing up with unreliable cars and the "DIY" fixes of the past (like using Bondo or ether) highlight how technology has changed car maintenance. Lessons in Adaptability: From cars to technology, Dave emphasizes the importance of staying adaptable and keeping up with advancements. He parallels learning to fix cars and his ongoing efforts to master artificial intelligence and SEO. Keeping Emergency Funds & Friends Handy: Dave reminds listeners of the value of having an emergency fund and reliable friends who can lend their expertise when needed. His Ford mechanic friend saves the day with a simple car-starting trick. Balancing Technology & Life: Dave acknowledges how fast-paced technology evolves and highlights the importance of continuous learning to avoid falling behind. He reflects on losing weight, staying updated with AI, and preparing for a milestone birthday. Humor & Nostalgia: Dave’s stories about his past cars (like the “Slova” and Fred Flintstone-style Datsun) bring laughter and nostalgia. The absurd quirks of old vehicles, like passenger doors flying open mid-drive, make for entertaining storytelling. Notable Quotes “If you don’t keep learning, you don’t just stop—you go backwards.” “I could pop the hood, look at it, and say, ‘Yep, there it is. That’s the engine.’” “Every car I bought, the very first day, I swapped out the stereo for ear-bleeding madness.” Resources Mentioned Dave Ramsey’s Emergency Fund Advice: A reminder to always be prepared for unexpected expenses. . Artificial Intelligence & SEO: Dave's exploration of how these tools are shaping the future of technology and online presence. Listener Call to Action Stay tuned for the next episode, where Dave dives into how his upcoming milestone birthday is messing with his head. Visit Us: Subscribe: /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/34800815

The Gift of Covid 12/20/2024

An Easy Way to Make $50 a Month 10/22/2024

What's Wrong with My Brain? Dealing with Self-Doubt and Recognition 10/10/2024

Get Your Money Working For You 06/27/2024

Losing Everything to Gain Perspective- A Story of Hope and Humanity 05/20/2024

The Unforgettable Jim Blackstock: Lessons and Laughter at a Memorable Funeral 05/01/2024

Dave at 59: Reflections on Life, Facing Aging, and Ditching Dairy Queen 02/08/2024

What A Wonderful World 11/09/2023

You've Gone Too Far With Time Blindness 10/21/2023

You've Gone Too Far With Time Blindness Yuri Bezmenov was a russian journlist who defected to the USA. He explained a strategy of the KGB. HE said this in 1984. It was called either ideological subversion, or active measures. What it basically means is to change the perception of reality of every American to such an extent that despite the abundance of information, no one is able to come to sensible conclusions in the interests of defending themselves, their families, their community, and their country. It's a great brainwashing process that goes very slow and is divided in four basic stages. The first one being demoralization; it takes from 15 to 20 years to demoralize a nation. Why that many years? Because this is the minimum number of years required to educate one generation of students The ideology is being pumped into the soft heads of at least three generations of American students without being challenged or counterbalanced by the basic values of Americanism What Is The Result? The result you can see, most of the people who were "half-baked intellectuals" are now occupying positions of power in the government, civil service, business, mass media, and educational system; you are stuck with them, and you cannot get rid of them. They are contaminated. They're programmed to think and react to certain stimuli in a certain pattern. You cannot change their mind even if you expose them to authentic information. Even if you prove that white is white and black is black, you still cannot change the basic perception and the logic of behavior. In other words, the process of demoralization is complete and irreversible. To reverse this you have you need another 15 or 20 years to educate a new generation of common sense. The demoralization process in the United States is completed already. For the last 25 years, actually, it's over fulfilled because demoralisation now reaches such areas where experts, would even dream of such tremendous success. Most of it is done by Americans to Americans, thanks to a lack of moral standards. Mentioned In This Episode Like this episode? /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/28380797

This is a blog post 10/20/2023

Surviving a Rollercoaster of a Day: Unexpected Hurdles and Heart-Pounding Moments 08/08/2023

Band-Aid Blues 08/04/2023

Pistols at Dawn! 07/18/2023

Spiking Like a Mother 06/28/2023

Chipmunks Aren't Sexy 06/21/2023

Outrunning the Cheetah 06/13/2023

The Cure For Plastic Bags 05/30/2023

It's All About the Mindset: The Road to Adulting 05/16/2023

Old Dog - New Tricks? 12/27/2022

A Special Place in Hell 12/06/2022

The Male - An Endangered Species? 09/23/2022

The Male - An Endangered Species? I am worried about men. I think we are an endangered species. Here is why: SPORTS We listen to sportscasters who are making millions talk about athletes who are making millions for team owners who make billions. There are dedicated radio stations that talk about nothing else than how the team is doing, and what they need to do to win. None of that talk has any effect on the team. Zero FOOTBALL COMMERCIALS Then when you watch a football game, you always have: 1. The spokesmodel who didn't play football but is STUNNINGLY beautiful who will "pass it over" to people who actually played the game. She can also do that special piece during breast cancer awareness month. 2. There will be boner pill commercials, cause you know...priorities 3. Remedies for baldness. We will ship it to you in a private box - because nobody knows you're bald. 4. Trucks. Big trucks with deep voiceovers. These trucks have power unlike your small penis, which needs a blue pull to function. 5. Beer. If you can't afford a large truck you head to the mountains. This commercial lists no facts and only has a sweaty beer can that eventually you get to hear open. 5. Gambling. Kevin Hart (another millionaire) talks about the best way to gamble all of the money you worked hard to earn. They are giving away money to people who light their money on fire the fastest. Oh, and here is a phone number if this commercial triggered you. BUT WAIT THERE IS MORE 6. My Self Esteem is tied to my team. If we lose, my week is wrecked (Really?) 7. Tick Shots - I just started paying attention to TikTok, and I am AMAZED at how GUYS (no women are doing this) are spending what must be hours if not days filming themselves trying to put a cup into a cup, or a ping pong ball, or flying a card into a clothespin. Whatever it is, it took a LOT of time to film. Which makes me think, "How much free time do YOU HAVE?" So we are giving anyone who wants to say how stupid, pigheaded, and idiotic men are - lots of evidence. Enjoy this episode? /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/24469860

I Blame Carlin, Pryor and Chappelle 09/05/2022

Recreational Outrage 05/15/2022

Recreational Outrage It's hard to watch a friend get canceled. My friend Daniel is a devout Christian. Currently, there is the worry that Roe Vs Wade will be overturned and abortion will be illegal. Daniel left a comment on a tweet that was pro-choice. "“Stopping the mass murder of blacks and women, along with all the other babies, will be wonderful for the USA. How anyone could be so barbaric to endorse the murder of nearly 1 million babies every year is unbelievable." (He later deleted this tweet) Daniel at the time was a Governor for the Podcast Academy. The TPA has a Diversity, Equity, and Inclusion declaration on their site that reads, We celebrate and support the industry of audio storytelling and fight to uplift and center the diverse communities of people doing this work. We acknowledge the historical inequities that have existed in the space. We understand that to dismantle these inequities; it will take intentional efforts and commitments aimed at the communities that have long been subject to these inequities, including BIPOC, LGBTQ+ communities, people with disabilities, immigrants, and people across the spectrum of socio-economic class. We encourage our members to hold us accountable, but we also realize that it is not the responsibility of marginalized communities to do this work for us. For these reasons, we invest funds into external, BIPOC+ led resources to help us continue in this work. This policy is a living document that grows as we do, and we look forward to continuing to evolve through our ongoing education, outreach, and efforts for mutual understanding. After his comments went viral people started a petition to get him removed. They called him a racist, homophobic, and a misogynist. Another fact, the Podcast Academy is 69% female. Daniel was asked to resign, and when he declined he was fired. Abortion Mike Tyson said everyone has a plan until you get punched in the face. I think everyone has their views on abortion until they find out they are pregnant. I don't have a vagina, so I keep out of that conversation. Racist In the book, “Uncomfortable conversation with a black man” the author says to white people, I imagine some of you are thinking if black people can't decide which term to use, then how and why should white people be expected to know which term to use? Point taken? To the extent I can speak for anyone else, black is the most inclusive choice. There's no one label that will satisfy all. I sued Google and found many websites stating THIS is the term that white people should use. They were all different. Some wrong words are obvious (the N word) and others have white people asking, "Can I say this?" When I hear that people are saying he should stop breathing because he didn't put a capital on the "B" in blacks, it feels a bit extreme. I asked this question in a group, and the group could not give me an agreed-upon answer. SO know that white people are trying, but it's confusing. Learning You don't learn when you talk, you learn when you listen. It's hard when we get upset. When we don't feel heard our voices get loud. That is being human, but you have to realize that we were all raised in our own bubbles of culture and are probably missing pieces when it comes to understanding others. The internet can bring us all together to learn from each other if we are willing students with open minds. There will be times when we agree to disagree. I am driving to PA next week to see a friend of mine who is an atheist. I am not. We talk about everything and anything - except religion. He's not changing my mind, and I'm not changing his. If we have questions we know where to go. Dialogues At a podcast event, there were two left-leaning, two right-leaning, and one LGBQT+ person and we all listened and talk about our experiences. This was the first time I realized what I learned in school is not accurate. Daniel was nothing but respectful. This was such a cool conversation that I remember it, and so does (one of the guys at the table). It was like, "Hey remember when people could have a dialogue?" A Better Use of Your Time? Instead of digging through years of old tweets, right not reach out and ask to have a conversation. Steven Covey in the book the 7 Habits of Effective people says we should "understand before being understood." John Mayer In 2001 I pre-judged John Mayer as "another pretty-boy singer-songwriter who is going to make the girls scream." I would overlook him year after year. 14 years later a friend told me I should give him a listen. I did, and it turns out he is an AMAZING guitar player. I had missed out on some great guitar playing, lyrics, and music. My point is if we can take a second to get to know each other we might benefit from understanding each other. It may not always be easy, but anything of value rarely is. Mentioned in this Episode /episode/index/show/betterdave/id/23112932

The Joy of Commercials 03/20/2022

Was Frosty Depessed? 12/12/2021

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