Be You Not Them

Self-love and self-development with a little bit of silliness! Join Natassia and Nina, two long distance best friends, who are both on our journeys of self-love and self-development. We will laugh, cry and discuss our own struggles and lessons that we have learned along the way. Be You Not Them is not just a podcast, but a movement for any woman out there still finding her voice, creating her own path and coming to love herself for who she really is. We're all in this together, so why not make it a fun journey and cheer each other on? New episodes every Monday and Thursday!

#75 - A Bittersweet Goodbye (For Now) 09/20/2021

#74 - Good Things Take Time 09/13/2021

Mini Pick Me Up - What Makes Us Feel Young 09/09/2021

#73 - Baklava Session - When You Feel Old 09/06/2021

Mini Pick Me Up - How Being Judged Hurts 09/03/2021

#72 - Stop Being So Judgy! 08/30/2021

#72 - Stop Being So Judgy! WHY DO WE ALWAYS JUDGE EVERYONE?! Have you ever judged someone? Have you ever made assumptions about someone’s character based on their appearance? We’re going to be honest… WE HAVE. Back when we were a lot more judgemental and much less confident in ourselves. But don’t be too hard on yourself, because it’s human nature to sometimes put people in boxes. However, today we’re going to talk about why we need to be a little bit more self aware before we starting judging everyone else. [2:18] Why Do We Judge Others? Let’s be real… talking badly or judging others can make us feel better about ourselves when we’re insecure or unhappy. We share our own experiences from when we used to be Judgemental Queens. [6:17] Let’s Talk About Some Psychology Behind This. There’s a term in psychology called “attributions” and how we make judgments of others based off of situational or personality attributions. [11:42] How We Judge Others Is A Reflection of Ourselves. Our lack of self love can be seen in the way that we judge others. That hurts, right? [13:29] How Do We Stop Being So Judgy? We’re going to share some tips that have helped us become a little more self aware. Stop & Observe - ask yourself where this is coming from. [14:05] Build A Space to Understand [15:35] Practice Empathy & Acceptance - Nina shares her own experience of her faith journey & how she’s seen others judge others based off of ‘rules’ [17:00] This Is Why You Shouldn’t Gossip. Words hurt, guys. [22:10] We hope this episode resonated with you...and helps you become a liiiiiiiittle less judgy with others. We never know what someone else is going through and making these preliminary judgements not only hurts others, but ourselves as well. We’d love to know your thoughts! You know where to reach uuuusss. Books/Resources Mentioned: “Why We Judge Others” by Elizabeth Dorrance Hall Ph.D. from Psychology Today : Resources: Find more silliness & love at Slide into our DMs on Insta Connect with us on Baklava, Nat & Nina /episode/index/show/beyounotthem/id/20306678

Mini Pick Me Up - Mental Health Impacts of Cancel Culture 08/26/2021

#71 - Baklava Session - Cancel Culture 08/23/2021

Mini Pick Me Up - Changing Your Life With Values 08/19/2021

#70 - What Are Your Core Values? 08/16/2021

#70 - What Are Your Core Values? FINDING OUT WHAT MATTERS TO YOU. Helloooooo, little Be You Not Them family! We have an episode that will have thinking and evaluating what is important to you… Your core values! This is something that both of us have identified in our own lives and have helped guide us. So we wanted to share our tips for finding out what your core values are today and why they’re helpful to know. [1:00] What Do You Value?? Sometimes we think of core values as work related… every company has their core values, mission statement, etc. But it’s important to understand what WE value for ourselves as well. [03:19] Why Knowing Your Core Values Is Important. Our values help us understand what is important to us and serve as a compass for everything we do. And this affects MANY actions and decisions you make in your life....from friendships to business opportunities to what your purpose is. Your values can change Your values are different in different buckets of your life: Personal, Business and Relationships/Family [07:42] We Share Some of Our Top Values. We’re going to give you guys an example of our top values and WHY those values are important to us. Spoiler alert: Ours are pretty similar. Are you surprised?? Our most important values carry on to several areas of our lives. We share how our values guide how we interact with others and our own relationships [12:12] How Do We Develop Our Core Values? We’re going to share the steps that we took to identify our values and hopefully help you find out what your core values are. Review the list of values and write down which ones stand out to you the most. Review your list of words and start refining. Order your values from MOST important to least. Check the remaining values and see if any of the bottom ones can be removed. Start with YOU. Your personal core. Then move on to family/relationships and business. Are you living up to your core values??? What do you need to do to align yourself with them? [20:50] Some Final Reflections On Values. Our values can always change depending on what’s happening in our lives - so don’t feel bad if they need to be changed. [23:57] The Be You Not Them Values <3 We’re not all talk, guys! We did this exercise for our podcast as well and we want to share the BYNT Core Values with you! We hope this little episode helped you reflect on what your core values are. Take some time to identify them! Sometimes we think something is REALLY important to us, but unless we really reflect on them, it’s hard to really use our values to guide us through our lives. Books/Resources Mentioned: Core Values Worksheet: Resources: Find more silliness & love at Slide into our DMs on Insta Connect with us on Baklava, Nat & Nina /episode/index/show/beyounotthem/id/20150276

Mini Pick Me Up - Small Habits Building Our Ideal Day 08/12/2021

#69 - Building Your Ideal Day 08/09/2021

Mini Pick Me Up - Reconnecting With Your Child Self 08/05/2021

#68 - Finding The Little Joys with Natassia 08/02/2021

Mini Pick Me Up - Tips for When the Meh Hits 07/29/2021

#67 - Baklava Session - Catching Up 07/26/2021

Mini Pick Me Up - The Effects Of a Better Night 07/22/2021

#66 - Building A Night Routine 07/19/2021

#66 - Building A Night Routine WHEN YOUR SLEEP IS MESSED UP. As two people who have suffered from sleep deprivation and insomnia in the past... we're here to tell you that you need to set up a night routine. Because we're boring adults now and we go to bed by 10:00 PM at the latest. You'll thank us later! [1:20] Why Are Night Routines Important? We have experienced what it's like to be perpetually EXHAUSTED. So lets talk about the benefits of developing a night routine that works for you. [2:07] How Our Night Routines Have Changed Us. Guys, sorry for the pun, but NIGHT AND DAY. That's how much our night routines have changed us. From Natassia being a perpetually sleep deprived night owl to Nina's late night cellphone addiction. [5:18] Natassia's Sleep Anxiety Story. Natassia shares the experience that finally made her realize she NEEDED to prioritize her sleep and create better nighttime habits. [5:18] Natassia's Sleep Anxiety Story. Natassia shares the experience that finally made her realize she NEEDED to prioritize her sleep and create better nighttime habits. [14:58] Our Night Routines & Tips. We share some of the little things that have helped us out. From shutting off electronics a few hours before bed to meditation to reading a fiction book. [21:30] Find Out What Works For You & Kicking BAD Habits. Remember, what works for us may not necessarily work for YOU. Give yourself time to test out different routines. Also - ditch the TV in the bedroom. It ain't helping you sleep any better. [23:28] Our Favorite Apps that Help Us Wind Down. Again, these aren't sponsored (we wish). We share some of our fave apps that help us wind down and decompress before going to bed. Books/Resources Mentioned: The Sleep Advantage by Devine Burke - The Power of Sleep by Ben Azadi - Loona App - Calm App - Resources: Find more silliness & love at Slide into our DMs on Insta Connect with us on Baklava, Nat & Nina /episode/index/show/beyounotthem/id/19855370

Mini Pick Me Up - That Moment of Self Love 07/15/2021

#65 - Baklava Session - What Does Self Love FEEL Like? 07/12/2021

#64 - Trusting Your Talent with Natassia 07/08/2021

#63 - Dating Yourself with Nina 07/05/2021

Mini Pick Me Up - Switching Up Your Routine 07/01/2021

#62 - Living Life on Autopilot 06/28/2021

#62 - Living Life on Autopilot STOP SLEEPWALKING THROUGH LIFE. A perfect episode to kickstart your week. We are definitely not stranger to this… and we’re sure many of you can relate on some level as well. While it seems great to be able to do some things on autopilot, it can truly rob us of living our lives if most of our decisions throughout our day ARE made on autopilot. I [1:20] Let’s Share Some STATS. Your girls came prepared with some stats from a report by Marks & Spencers in the UK… and they’re eye opening. We are sleepwalking [3:37] The Signs You’re Living Life on Autopilot. We discuss some of the telltale signs that you’re spending most of your time living on autopilot. From dreading the day ahead to feeling like you’re not making ANY progress on your goals. [10:05] The Downsides. And now, the bad stuff. If you’re wondering what the negative impact could be from living on autopilot, we share what we’ve personally experienced. Trust us, it ain’t fun. Are we doing what we want to do or are we doing this because we’re so used to doing it? You constantly feel like your life is out of your control, life is happening to you. You’re feeling unfulfilled. You feel like you’re stuck and not growing or making progress. [16:58] How to WAKE THE EFF UP. We share some takeaways and tips to help get yourself out of autopilot and spicing up your life a bit to help you be more aware of your choices. Start a journal - this is a great way to become more self aware of your routine and HOW YOU FEEL. Begin by making little changes to your routine. BABY STEPS. Set boundaries and stop saying YES to everything. Are you taking that time for you? Start writing and becoming familiar with your goals. Books/Resources Mentioned: Autopilot Britain whitepaper by Marks & Spencer You should also go watch the movie Click with Adam Sandler for a good cry :) Resources: Find more silliness & love at Slide into our DMs on Insta Connect with us on Baklava, Nat & Nina /episode/index/show/beyounotthem/id/19629086

Mini Pick Me Up - Hyping Ourselves 06/24/2021

#61 - Baklava Session - Be Your Own Hype Woman 06/21/2021

Mini Pick Me Up - Stop Feeling Guilty When You're Unproductive 06/17/2021

#60 - Being Unproductive Can Be GOOD 06/14/2021

#60 - Being Unproductive Can Be GOOD YOU ARE NOT YOUR PRODUCTIVITY. We have a perfect follow up from our last episode, which was all about about low energy levels. You know what contributes to low energy and burnout??? Not. Taking. A. Break. Our society thrives on being productive 24/7 and the "hustle hard" mentality. However, we're here to remind you that sometimes you absolutely need to be unproductive. [4:10] Purpose Filled Life Versus Living Out Your Purpose. We talk a little bit about how we NEED to separate our identity from work. A purpose filled life does not equal being productive all the time. [9:20] What Does it Mean to be Unproductive? So... what do we mean when we say you need unproductive days? There's many things that can fall under it, so we describe some activities that are productive versus unproductive. SPOILER ALERT: Organizing your house and your closet over the weekend is not being unproductive. [12:30] - The Guilt Around being Unproductive. Natassia shares a passage from “Untamed” by Glennon Doyle about how our root beliefs are what make us feel anger and shame around resting. Give yourself permission to rest. You are more than just your productivity and your career. We need to CHALLENGE the belief systems we have around resting and productivity. [18:50] The Benefits of Being Unproductive. Now that you guys have heard our side of the story... what are some good things that come out of resting and doing nothing? We share some of the benefits we've seen in our own lives. Hitting the reset button. When you can integrate moments of rest throughout your day, you can stop yourself from being overwhelmed [18:55] When you shut off, you can have bursts of creativity. [20:40] You can give yourself time to heal. Sometimes we are productivity in order to run away from our problems. [24:00] Being unproductive is GOOD FOR YOUR HEALTH. You need time to relax and destress. [25:55] [27:30] Closing Out & Some Reminders for You. A reminder that being productive all the time is... stupid. That's all folks. You are not a robot. It takes time to unlearn the negativity you may have associated with rest and NOT being productive. We hope this episode helped you reflect and realize it's ok to STOP and do absolutely nothing sometimes. Be kinder to yourself, boo. We'd love to hear your thoughts! You know where to find us :) Books/Resources Mentioned: "Untamed" by Glennon Doyle "The Four Agreements: A Practical Guide to Personal Freedom" by Don Miguel Ruiz with Janet Mills. Resources: Find more silliness & love at Slide into our DMs on Insta Connect with us on Baklava, Nat & Nina /episode/index/show/beyounotthem/id/19467635

Mini Pick Me Up - The Saving Grace 06/11/2021

#59 - When Your Energy Levels are Non-Existent 06/08/2021

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