Creating Her Best Life
Welcome to Creating Her Best Life, the go-to podcast for women ready to step into their full potential and design a life they truly love. Hosted by certified Master Life Coach Shannan Christiansen, this inspiring show is tailored for women who seek clarity, empowerment, and actionable strategies to overcome life's challenges and achieve personal and professional success. Each week, Shannan dives into various topics ranging from mindset mastery and goal setting to self-care and relationship building, providing expert insights and practical tools that empower listeners to take bold steps toward their dreams. Whether you're navigating a career shift, building confidence, or looking for ways to enhance your every day life, Creating Her Best Life delivers the guidance you need to thrive. Join our community of ambitious women and discover how to rewrite your story, find your purpose, and create a life you’re proud to call your own. Because your best life isn’t just a dream, it starts now! To learn more, visit bflycoaching.com.
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Ep. 297 | Fun is Fuel
01/28/2026
Ep. 297 | Fun is Fuel
What if fun isn’t a reward you earn… but fuel you run on? In this episode, we’re reframing fun entirely, not as a bonus at the end of productivity, not as a luxury you squeeze in when everything else is done, and not even as a “self-care strategy.” Fun is a nervous system reset. A return to the present moment. A soul-aligning, joy-raising, spirit-lifting necessity. You can’t create a joyful life if joy isn’t part of your daily equation. And no, you don’t have to earn it, justify it, or be productive enough to deserve it. Fun brings you back into your body. Out of survival mode. Back into aliveness. Fun is fuel. Joy is medicine. Let’s talk about why play, pleasure, and presence aren’t optional, and how letting yourself have fun might be the most regulating, life-giving thing you do all week.
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Ep. 296 | Move Your Body, Meet Yourself
01/22/2026
Ep. 296 | Move Your Body, Meet Yourself
What if movement wasn’t about fixing your body… but meeting yourself inside it? This week’s episode is a reframe you didn’t know you needed. Your emotions don’t live in your brain — they live in your body. In your muscles. In your posture. In the way you hold your breath without even realizing it. Your body isn’t just a vehicle for weight loss goals or aesthetics. It’s a living record of your experiences, your stress, your joy, your grief, and your power. In this episode, I talk about: Why emotions are stored physically, not mentally How movement becomes a way to listen instead of punish Letting go of the calorie-burn, earn-your-food mindset Reclaiming movement as a love letter, not a sentence Why movement creates momentum — in your body and your life Wherever you’re at today… meet yourself there. No forcing. No fixing. No earning. Just movement as a return to power, presence, and forward motion.
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Ep. 295 | Stillness as a Strategy
01/14/2026
Ep. 295 | Stillness as a Strategy
We’ve been taught that slowing down means falling behind. That if you pause, you’re quitting. That momentum only counts if you’re constantly doing. This episode gently dismantles that lie. In Stillness as a Strategy, we talk about how stillness isn’t stopping your life—it’s letting your life catch up to you. How slowing down isn’t a failure of discipline, but often a sign of wisdom. And how listening to yourself might be the most strategic move you can make when everything feels loud, heavy, or rushed. This conversation is for the ones who are tired of pushing, forcing, and powering through—yet don’t want to give up on growth. It’s about learning the difference between stagnation and intentional pause… and trusting that sometimes the most powerful progress happens when you stop running long enough to hear yourself again. You’re not behind. You’re not lazy. You might just be overdue for stillness.
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Ep. 294 | Becoming Her
01/07/2026
Ep. 294 | Becoming Her
This episode is all about what Becoming Her is and what it definitely is not. It’s not a glow-up montage or a perfect morning routine. It’s the quiet, relentless choice to show up as the truest version of you in the middle of real life. I share how identity isn’t built in big moments, but in thousands of small decisions, and why turning down your inner critic and turning up your inner coach changes everything. This isn’t self-help, it’s identity work: you stop seeing yourself as something to fix and start seeing yourself as someone who is becoming. Reflect as you listen: What version of you are you ready to leave behind? Who are you becoming? What’s one small choice today that lets her lead? And remember—you’re not behind. You’re just becoming.
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Ep. 293 | My 2025 Transformation
12/31/2025
Ep. 293 | My 2025 Transformation
In this episode, I’m pulling back the curtain on my 2025 transformation. The behind-the-scenes shifts and quiet decisions that changed everything. This was the year I stopped charging forward with force and started walking forward with clarity. The year I realized I don’t want a business, relationships, or a life that feel out of synch with me, I want ones that grow with me. Because the truth is, we’re always becoming… the question is whether we’re doing it consciously or by default. As I walk into 2026, these are the non-negotiables I’m carrying with me: Alignment over approval Energy over obligation Rest over rushing Joy and fun over justifying Creativity over comparison I’m also sharing details about my next master class series, Becoming Her: a 6-month journey built from everything 2025 taught me. This experience is designed to gently uncover what’s been keeping you stuck and guide you into the version of yourself you’ve been wanting… and waiting for. This episode kicks off a 12-episode series all about Becoming Her, with the second episode dropping soon. Plus, by popular listener request, the podcast is officially back to weekly episodes. If you’ve felt the pull to slow down, realign, and become more you, this episode is your invitation.
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Ep. 292 | Conversations That Set You Free
12/17/2025
Ep. 292 | Conversations That Set You Free
This episode explores the conversations women avoid, the boundaries left unspoken, and the truths swallowed in the name of keeping the peace. Midlife marks a shift where honesty becomes self-care, communication becomes real connection, and silence begins to cost more than it protects. Most women do not struggle with what they feel; they struggle with giving themselves permission to say it out loud. Conditioned to be agreeable and to hold everything together, many women trade inner peace for outward harmony. The episode breaks down three critical conversations: admitting you need more support without equating it to weakness, understanding boundaries as clarity rather than punishment, and telling the truth instead of shrinking, smoothing, or staying silent to avoid discomfort. You are not too old to speak honestly, to change, or to have the conversations that set you free. Ready to Take This Work Deeper?: Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 291 | When You Wake Up and Wonder, "Is This It?"
12/03/2025
Ep. 291 | When You Wake Up and Wonder, "Is This It?"
This episode dismantles the version of you built for approval and drags your real identity back into the light. It forces the quiet questions you’ve avoided: what actually energizes you, what you would want if guilt wasn’t running the show, what you stopped doing that you still crave. It challenges the conditioned life you inherited, the roles, expectations, and performances that no longer fit, and examines the moment when those identities fall silent and you’re left with the truth underneath. You’ll hear a breakdown of how identity evolves, why phases of life expose what’s real, and how letting yourself change opens doors you couldn’t see while you were busy trying to be acceptable. Feeling lost becomes a signal, not a failure. That disorientation is often the doorway to what you value, what you want, and who you are when the noise stops. Ready to Take This Work Deeper?: Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 290 | Turning Jealousy Into Insight
11/12/2025
Ep. 290 | Turning Jealousy Into Insight
The deepest suffering often begins with five small words: “I wish it was different.” In this episode, Coach Jenn and I uncover how that single thought fuels jealousy, judgment, comparison, and how to turn inward instead of outward when those emotions rise. You’ll learn why jealousy isn’t really about her, or them, or anyone else, it’s about the unspoken parts of yourself asking to be seen. When you stop resisting what is and start listening to what’s inside, you’ll find that real joy isn’t something to chase, it’s something that’s been waiting for you all along. Ready to Take This Work Deeper?: Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 289 | Redefining Productivity, Value, and Progress
10/29/2025
Ep. 289 | Redefining Productivity, Value, and Progress
In this episode, Coach Jenn and I challenge the belief that busyness equals worth. For too long, many have worn “busy” like a badge of honor, believing that rest must be earned, that stillness means laziness, and that productivity defines value. But the truth is simple: you are valuable because you exist, not because of what you do. We explore the different seasons of life, from motherhood to midlife transitions and how each one calls for a redefinition of what it means to make progress. Rest isn’t indulgent; it’s essential. Slowing down doesn’t mean you’re falling behind, it’s how you realign with who you truly are. If you’ve ever struggled with guilt for resting, perfectionism that keeps you in constant motion, or the pressure to prove your worth through doing, this conversation will remind you that progress doesn’t need to be seen, validated, or measured by anyone else. Ready to Take This Work Deeper?: Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 288 | The Comparison Trap of Motherhood (Yep, Even with Grown Kids)
10/15/2025
Ep. 288 | The Comparison Trap of Motherhood (Yep, Even with Grown Kids)
No matter how old your kids are, the comparison trap of motherhood sneaks in. We look at other moms, our past selves, or who we think we should be and suddenly, we’re judging everything we do. In this episode, Coach Jenn and I break down why comparison shows up at every stage of motherhood, how it steals our peace, and what it takes to let go of the “shoulds” so we can see the beauty of what is. If you’ve ever caught yourself thinking you’re behind, not doing enough, or missing the mark, this episode will help you step out of that cycle and back into confidence, grace, and truth. Ready to Take This Work Deeper?: Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 287 | The Life You Don't Post About
10/01/2025
Ep. 287 | The Life You Don't Post About
It’s easy to scroll through social media and feel like everyone else’s life is perfect, exciting, or somehow “better” than yours. But here’s the truth: the highlight reels you see aren’t the whole story, they’re curated snippets, edited for likes, comments, and applause. In this episode, we talk about why the quiet, ordinary moments matter more than the flashy ones. Your life isn’t meant to be a highlight reel, it’s meant to be lived. The coffee in silence, the laundry piles, the laughs and tears with the people you love, these moments are real, meaningful, and enough. If you’ve ever compared your behind-the-scenes to someone else’s carefully edited reel, this episode is a reminder to stop scrolling, stop comparing, and start fully inhabiting your own story. Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 286 | Tear Down the Timeline
09/17/2025
Ep. 286 | Tear Down the Timeline
We live in a world that tells us “faster is better,” whether it’s losing weight, improving our relationships, or hitting career goals. But the pressure to rush often comes from fear—and it can disconnect us from the very process that brings results. In this episode, I talk about tearing down the timeline. When you slow down, focus on the small, consistent steps, and stop judging yourself for not being “there” yet, you actually reach your goals faster. I explore why rushing leads to burnout, frustration, and self-shame, and how embracing the journey can help you stay connected to yourself while still making progress. If you’ve ever felt overwhelmed by expectations, yours or someone else’s, this episode is a reminder that slowing down might just be the smartest move you can make. Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 285 | Rebellion as a Healing Tool
09/03/2025
Ep. 285 | Rebellion as a Healing Tool
Sometimes, the most healing thing you can do… is say “no” to what doesn’t serve you. In this episode, I talk about healthy rebellion, not the wild, reckless kind, but the kind that helps you reclaim your life, your voice, and your peace of mind. You’ll hear why you don’t owe anyone an explanation for your boundaries, your needs, or the things that make you happy. When you rebel in small, meaningful ways, you start trusting yourself again, stop giving your power away, and find freedom in making your own choices. This episode is for anyone who’s tired of living to please the world and is ready to come back to themselves. Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 284 | Breaking Free from the ‘Good Girl’ Rules
08/20/2025
Ep. 284 | Breaking Free from the ‘Good Girl’ Rules
Ever feel like you’re living by an invisible rulebook? The one that says be nice, don’t rock the boat, say yes even when you’re screaming no inside? That’s the “Good Girl” trap—and it comes at a cost. In this episode, we’re breaking down what it really means to abandon yourself in the name of people-pleasing and perfectionism. From hiding your needs to shaping your choices around how others see you, we’ll dig into why this pattern feels so exhausting—and how to finally step out of it. Because here’s the truth: loving others doesn’t mean losing yourself. You can show up with compassion and unapologetically own your voice, your boundaries, and your worth. If you’re ready to trade the approval of others for the peace of being fully you, this conversation will feel like a permission slip you didn’t even know you needed. Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 283 | Why You Don't Need More Motivation
08/06/2025
Ep. 283 | Why You Don't Need More Motivation
In this episode of Creating Her Best Life, we’re tackling a big myth: the idea that you need more motivation to get things done. Here’s the hard truth—waiting around for motivation to hit might actually be the thing that’s keeping you stuck. We all know how it feels to wait for that burst of energy to get started, but here’s the catch—motivation is super unreliable. It comes and goes, and if you're waiting for it, you're probably going to keep quitting every time it dips. But what if I told you that you don’t need motivation? What you need is action. In today’s episode, I’m sharing why taking small, imperfect steps—before your brain gives you permission—is the secret to creating motivation, not waiting for it. It’s not about making some huge life change overnight; it’s about getting started, even when things feel messy. Action will get the ball rolling and, guess what? Motivation will follow. So, if you’ve been feeling stuck or waiting for the “perfect time” to start, this episode is for you. Tune in to hear how a little bit of action can lead to big changes, and why you don’t need motivation to make progress. You’ve got this! Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 282 | There is Nothing to Fix Here
07/23/2025
Ep. 282 | There is Nothing to Fix Here
I keep meeting incredible women who look at themselves like they're broken puzzles missing pieces. Like they're somehow behind in this imaginary race we're all supposedly running. And honestly? It breaks my heart because I see you – and you are NOT a problem that needs solving. In today's episode, we're diving deep into that question that might just change everything: "Who am I when I stop trying to fix myself?" Because here's what I know to be true – you're not broken. You're not behind. You're not some project that needs constant renovation. You are a beautiful, unfolding story. And every chapter – even the messy, imperfect ones – belongs. If you've ever felt exhausted from trying to optimize, improve, and "work on yourself" constantly, this one's for you. Let's explore what happens when we stop fixing and start living. Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 281 | How Expectations Can Derail Your Relationships
07/09/2025
Ep. 281 | How Expectations Can Derail Your Relationships
In this episode, we tackle the tricky topic of expectations. Ever catch yourself expecting someone to just know what you want, only to be disappointed when they don’t? I dive into how holding onto these unspoken scripts can not only set others up to fail, but it also blinds us to the real beauty of who they truly are. The key? Sharing our expectations, so we can stop hoping they’ll just guess. Tune in for some real talk on how open communication can make relationships stronger and more authentic! Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 280 | You're Not Behind — You're in the Process
06/25/2025
Ep. 280 | You're Not Behind — You're in the Process
If you’ve ever felt like you’re falling behind in life, this episode is your reminder: you’re not behind— you’re in the process. I'm breaking down the lies that come up when you start comparing your timeline to someone else’s highlight reel or some imaginary version of where you "should" be. That mindset only robs you of joy and either pushes you into burnout or holds you in place. You’ll hear why your age isn’t a deadline, it’s actually your advantage. You’ll see how wanting more doesn’t make you ungrateful, it means you’re alive and growing. And if you’ve been feeling stuck, we’ll talk about how getting curious can shift everything. Curiosity leads to clarity, and clarity fuels confidence. Let’s normalize the process and stop measuring progress with someone else’s ruler. Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 279 | The Quiet Ways You Undermine Your Progress
06/11/2025
Ep. 279 | The Quiet Ways You Undermine Your Progress
In this episode, I'm diving into the subtle, silent habits that quietly sabotage your progress—the ones that don’t always look like self-sabotage on the surface. From overcommitting and procrastinating to doubting your own voice, these patterns keep you stuck in cycles that feel productive but lead nowhere. You’ll learn how to recognize the hidden ways you block your own breakthroughs, and what it really takes to shift into aligned, intentional momentum. This is your lead-in to The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series happening this Saturday, June 14th, where we’ll take the conversation further and give you the tools to defeat self-sabotage for good. Are you ready to stop living on autopilot and start creating the life you actually want? The Life Upgrade Masterclass Series is your monthly blueprint for real change. 12-months of live Masterclass workshops (with replays available) designed to help you break old patterns, build momentum, and create lasting transformation. With a focused downloadable workbook monthly, you’ll get the tools, strategies, and structure to take charge of your growth and stay aligned with your goals. No more drifting. No more stuck. Just intentional action, one month at a time. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 278 | Shift the Relationship by Shifting Yourself
05/28/2025
Ep. 278 | Shift the Relationship by Shifting Yourself
I used to think my relationship would get better if only my partner would change, be more present, more affectionate, more anything. But what I’ve learned is that real change started when I stopped focusing on what he wasn’t doing and started looking at how I was showing up. In this episode, I’m sharing what it means to shift a relationship by shifting yourself. Not by shrinking or people-pleasing, but by growing, owning your part, and showing up differently—with more awareness, honesty, and intention. If you’ve ever felt stuck waiting for someone else to change, this one’s for you. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 277 | Living Your Best Life: Inspiring Moments to Keep You Moving Forward
05/22/2025
Ep. 277 | Living Your Best Life: Inspiring Moments to Keep You Moving Forward
Today’s episode is a little something special as we approach our 300th episode! The producers of Creating Her Best Life podcast have taken over the podcast this week and have handpicked a few of the most powerful, eye-opening moments from our last 100 episodes to share with you—moments that we know will give you the encouragement you need to keep moving forward, no matter where you’re at in your journey. Whether you're looking to smash through self-doubt, find the courage to take that next big step, or just feel a little more connected to what truly matters, this episode is sure to have something that speaks to you. So take a moment, get comfortable, and let these handpicked moments serve as your reminder that you’re not alone on this journey. We hope these insights fuel your next steps forward, inspire you, challenge you, and remind you that no matter where you are, you’ve got what it takes to keep going. Whether it’s a little inspiration or the nudge you needed to take that next step, we hope this episode leaves you feeling empowered and ready to create your best life. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! Each month, join an empowering workshop designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a intentionally designed digital monthly downloadable workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 276 | Hope: The Quiet Power That Moves You Forward
05/14/2025
Ep. 276 | Hope: The Quiet Power That Moves You Forward
Ever feel like you’re stuck in a rut, like no matter what you do, the next step just feels impossible? I think we’ve all been there. But here's the thing: there's this quiet force called hope that has a way of sneaking in when we need it most. It’s not loud or in-your-face, but it’s powerful enough to keep us moving forward, even when we’re ready to throw in the towel. In this episode, I'm diving into how hope works, and how it gets us through the tough times and keeps us going. I share what it really means to hold onto hope, and some simple ways you can bring more of it into your life, no matter what you’re facing. It’s not about waiting for big changes, it’s about finding strength in the small moments and believing better days are ahead. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! Each month, join an empowering workshop designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a intentionally designed digital monthly downloadable workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Visit and learn more about how to work with me! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 275 | Good Things Take Time
05/07/2025
Ep. 275 | Good Things Take Time
Sometimes life feels slow, like you’re stuck or falling behind. But this episode is a reminder: good things take time. The growth you can’t see—the deep, unseen work—is often the most important part. You’re not behind; you’re growing roots. And roots matter. Flowers don’t last without them. It’s easy to get caught up waiting for the visible bloom, but real strength and lasting change are built underground, in the quiet seasons. Trust that what’s coming is worth the wait. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! Each month, join an empowering workshop designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a intentionally designed digital monthly downloadable workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free 30-minute consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 274 | When You Lose Yourself in the Roles You Play
04/30/2025
Ep. 274 | When You Lose Yourself in the Roles You Play
Ever wake up one day and wonder, “Where did I go?” You’re checking boxes, showing up for everyone, juggling roles like mom, wife, boss, caregiver, friend… and somewhere in the shuffle, you got lost. This episode is a heart-to-heart for every woman who's ever felt like she disappeared behind the roles she plays. In this episode of "Creating Her Best Life Now," Coach Jenn and I dive deep into the powerful truth that losing yourself in roles doesn't define your true identity. We're unpacking the truth: what you do is not who you are. Those titles you carry? They’re part of your story, but they’re not your identity. Join us as we navigate through the maze of roles and rediscover the essence of being YOU. It's time to shine a light on your true identity beyond the labels and roles you've taken on. So if you're feeling burned out, unseen, or like you've forgotten what it feels like to dream for yourself—this one's for you. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! Each month, join an empowering workshop designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a intentionally designed digital monthly downloadable workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility. Interested in 1:1 Coaching? Go to to schedule your free consultation with one of our BFLY Coaches today! Follow me on social media: Facebook: Instagram:
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Ep. 273 | Feeling Better Starts Here
04/23/2025
Ep. 273 | Feeling Better Starts Here
Ever wake up and think, “Okay… what can I do today to just feel better?” In this episode, we’re getting real about those blah days—the ones where you’re running on fumes, your to-do list is giving you side-eye, and you’re just trying to make it to bedtime without losing it. We’re unpacking simple, doable ways to lift your mood, protect your peace, and maybe even make yourself smile a little. This isn’t about overhauling your life—it’s about asking one powerful question and actually listening to what you need today. Whether it’s a nap, a no, or just five minutes to yourself, let’s talk about how to show up for you—in small, meaningful ways that make a big difference. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! Each month, join an empowering workshop designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a beautifully designed digital planner and workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility.
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Ep. 272 | Delaying Gratification - Year of You Sneak Peek
04/16/2025
Ep. 272 | Delaying Gratification - Year of You Sneak Peek
Welcome to a special episode of Creating Your Best Life, where I’m giving you an exclusive sneak peek into my Year of You program when I taught the power of Delaying Your Gratification from my March Workshop. Join me as I share how delaying instant rewards can lead to greater long-term success and fulfillment in life. This isn't just about saying "no" to now; it's about saying "yes" to a future you've always dreamed of. Listen in and discover practical tips, personal stories, and insightful strategies to help you embrace delayed gratification as a powerful tool for personal transformation. Because when you invest in yourself today, you're paving the way for a brighter tomorrow. Make 2025 your year with the Year of You program! When you join Year of You, you will gain instant access to the replays from February, March and April's workshops. Each month, join an empowering live workshop with me designed to help you grow, refocus, and take charge of your life. Paired with a digital planner and workbook, this program gives you the tools, strategies, and support to create your best life—one intentional month at a time. Say goodbye to feeling stuck and hello to a year of purpose, progress, and possibility.
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Ep. 271 | Is Doubt Keeping You Stuck?
04/09/2025
Ep. 271 | Is Doubt Keeping You Stuck?
Tired of waiting to “feel” confident before you finally go for it? Yeah… that’s not how it works. Confidence doesn’t come first—it’s the result of taking action, messing up, learning, and doing it anyway. This episode is your reminder to stop letting self-doubt drive the bus. You’ll learn how to turn down the volume on that inner critic and grow real, earned confidence—one brave step at a time. No fluff. No fake it ‘til you make it. Just honest talk and simple tools. This episode is part of our continuation series with the amazing coaches of BFLYCoaching, and today we're featuring Coach Tammie—who’s bringing the fire on what it really takes to move past doubt and step into your power. .
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Ep. 270 | What's Really Stopping You?
04/02/2025
Ep. 270 | What's Really Stopping You?
We all have dreams—those big, exciting, deep-in-your-soul desires. But if that’s true, why do so many of us stay stuck, watching from the sidelines instead of going after what we really want? In this episode, we’re getting real about what’s actually holding you back (hint: it’s probably not what you think). Joining us this episode is BFLY Coach Kelly, who’s here to help you uncover the fears, doubts, and sneaky self-sabotage keeping you from taking action. It’s time to stop waiting for the “right time” and start believing in your time. Ready to finally go after your dreams but not sure where to start? Private 1:1 coaching at BFLYCoaching gives you the support, and strategies to move forward with confidence. Whether you’re navigating a big life change or just need a reset, this is your time to refocus, realign, and step into the life you actually want. Book a free consultation with Coach Kelly at .
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Ep. 269 | Who's Life Are You Living?
03/26/2025
Ep. 269 | Who's Life Are You Living?
Ever feel like you’re living on autopilot, checking all the right boxes, keeping everyone else happy—but somehow, you’re the one running on empty? You’re not alone. So many of us get stuck in the cycle of people-pleasing, saying yes when we mean no, and shaping our lives around what others expect instead of what actually makes us happy. But here’s the truth: you can’t pour from an empty cup. In this episode, part of my special series with the Coaches of BFLYCoaching, Coach Sharon Spohn joins us for an honest conversation about breaking the pattern, tuning into what you really want, and finally giving yourself permission to take up space in your own life—without guilt, without shame, and without apology. Ready for more but not sure where to start? Private 1:1 coaching at BFLYCoaching gives you the support, and strategies to move forward with confidence. Whether you’re navigating a big life change or just need a reset, this is your time to refocus, realign, and step into the life you actually want. Book a free consultation with Coach Sharon at .
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Ep. 268 | The 50/50 of Life - Why Happiness Isn’t the Goal
03/19/2025
Ep. 268 | The 50/50 of Life - Why Happiness Isn’t the Goal
Ever felt like you’re doing something wrong because you’re not happy all the time? But what if feeling all the emotions—good, bad, and everything in between—is actually the whole point? In this episode, I'm unpacking why negative emotions aren’t problems to fix but part of the deal. Life is a mix, not a constant high, and that’s okay. Let’s talk about it. Feeling stuck? Overwhelmed? Ready for more but not sure where to start? Private 1:1 coaching at BFLYCoaching gives you the support, and strategies to move forward with confidence. Whether you’re navigating a big life change or just need a reset, this is your time to refocus, realign, and step into the life you actually want. Book your FREE Consultation today at !
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