Unbreak My Heart

A podcast about navigating the messiness and aftermath of breakups. Our guests enter into the conversation shackled to their break up stories and together we find the keys.

What was kinder thing to do, stay or go? | Phil 10/29/2024

What was kinder thing to do, stay or go? | Phil Phil had strong feelings for his partner. At first, it appeared she did as well. Suddenly, she ended things with him but she insisted they still sleep next to each other. 3 days later she changed her mind. Phil didn't get any answers as to why she was back and forth with him but he was happy not to lose her, and his feelings continued to grow. Unfortunately, she decided she didn't want to be with him anymore. At the same time, Phil was severely injured in a motorcycle accident. She stayed but things were awkward until the bandaid was ripped off for good. Please check out the new website www.unbreakmyheartpodcast.com and fill out a listener survey. You'll be entered to win a free 1:1 coaching session with me! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/33379902

You are not alone in your loneliness | Jonny | TED2019 10/24/2024

You are not alone in your loneliness | Jonny | TED2019 Finding your way through the world is not easy. The mystery of love can be too much to bear when we're feeling alone and isolated. Jonny talks to this idea of not feeling like he belongs and the saving grace in his life has been connection to people, even when they've been strangers. Listen for fresh hope and inspiration as Jonny talks about his creative and unexpected journey to discovering a missing piece to his fulfillment. We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/33379952

No Sex Marriage – Masturbation, Loneliness, Cheating and Shame | Maureen McGrath | TEDxStanleyPark 10/22/2024

No Sex Marriage – Masturbation, Loneliness, Cheating and Shame | Maureen McGrath | TEDxStanleyPark We hope to avoid bad things happening to us and we do our best to not be the bad guy in someone else's life. What happens when the bad things come? No sex? Cheating? Loneliness? Divorce and break-ups? Maureen speaks to the unspeakable things that we tend to handle on our own - isolated, afraid, embarrassed or ashamed. You're in for a treat! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. Maureen McGrath - [email protected] - hosts the Sunday Night Sex Show on News Talk 980 CKNW. She is a Registered Nurse, Sex Educator and author of “Sex & Health". /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/33379847

I asked for too little too late | Colleen 10/17/2024

I asked for too little too late | Colleen Colleen's heartache carries both sorrow and wisdom. She loved her husband with all her heart. She loved the 3 girls from his previous marriage with all her heart. So much of her story with her ex is tied to the challenges of being the unwanted step-mom of a teen. Her husband struggled with substance abuse and unfortunately, Colleen's love wasn't strong enough to overcome all the adversity that came her way. They eventually filed for divorce. At 65, she's single and carries her sorrow with grace and beauty. You're invited! Let me know if you'd like to participate in collaborating with me in building connection, community and sharing input to make the show the best it can be. Send me a message to learn more at: /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/33379662

You wanted me, yet you didn't want to commit | Marlana 10/15/2024

You wanted me, yet you didn't want to commit | Marlana Marlana fell in love! He pursued her and made her feel special. He found his way into her heart, her family, and her future hopes. It was almost too good to be true... except something was off. He acted in a way that made her feel like she was a secret. Why wouldn't he want to share about their relationship? Something wasn't adding up. Come to find out, there was truth to her doubts about his commitment to her. He was living a double life. Whatever proof she found was just enough for him to talk his way out of being in trouble. Sadly, Marlana found herself betrayed and heartbroken. The story doesn't end there. Through this terrible heartache, she found a gift! A way to be introspective and right some of the wrongs she had about love and intimacy. This gift has led her to release well-being and kindness to someone she previously learned to hate. Please check out the new website and fill out a listener survey. You'll be entered to win a free 1:1 coaching session with me! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/33379777

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable | Luvvie Ajayi TedWomen 10/10/2024

Get comfortable with being uncomfortable | Luvvie Ajayi TedWomen When we're uncomfortable, it can tough to know how to put our thoughts in words. Even tougher, is stepping out and speaking up! What about the risk of all the bad things that might happen? This Ted talk does a great job addressing the value of being uncomfortable when it's the right thing to do. You'll be encouraged, inspired, entertained and even challenged as Luvvi shares her perspective and personal stories. Visit to make a donation, or share your thoughts about today's episode! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/33379727

I don't know how to get closure | George 10/08/2024

I don't know how to get closure | George You want to do the right thing. You want to see love grow and last a lifetime. That's what George thought he found! He found himself at home with her even when she received a terminal diagnosis. He was devastated to find out that she had been cheating and couldn't bring himself to trust her again. Eventually, he moved on and found himself in another situation with a woman who was kind yet detached. He says he wants closure, to be loved and to be rescued. Will he find what he's looking for? We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/33379602

His wife approved of us | Sandy 08/22/2024

His wife approved of us | Sandy 20 years ago Sandy and Burt dated. Their paths crossed again, and eventually, Burt invited Sandy to date once more... this time he was a married man newly exploring an open marriage with his wife. Even though Sandy had some experience with non-traditional relationships, this was new for her too. What kind of risks would her heart and soul encounter as she worked through mitigating attachment, desire and honoring sacred boundaries? Listen as we navigate through the pushes and pull of her story! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/32673922

We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it | Nora McInerny Ted Women 2018 08/16/2024

We don't "move on" from grief. We move forward with it | Nora McInerny Ted Women 2018 Heartache is a combination of grief, sorrow, loss, confusion, anxiety and so much more. When you have heartache, what do you hear about moving forward? Maybe it's your voice or the voice of others saying "move on" and "let go" - but how do you move on from the memories and the moments that shaped you? Listen to Nora as she shares about her grief with heaviness and humor. She learned the lesson that you don't move on from grief, you move forward with it. Be encouraged, you are doing great and this too shall pass! To learn more about Nora and her resources check out her website: xo /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/32582447

Isolation is the dream-killer, not your attitude | Barbara Sher | TEDxPrague 08/15/2024

Isolation is the dream-killer, not your attitude | Barbara Sher | TEDxPrague How many times do we find ourselves stuck in our own heads, or comparing ourselves to others? What if - we had a way to get ourselves unstuck - and discover solutions to overcome our pain or find the missing pieces in our lives? Well, according to Barbara Sher we have to change our common understanding of why we so often fail to bring our dreams into reality – blaming bad attitude, negative thinking or lack of effort. Heartfelt, funny and surprising stories told by a lady who's been helping other people's dreams for many decades. We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/32582407

Do I choose him or my dream to travel? | Bel 08/08/2024

Do I choose him or my dream to travel? | Bel Bel is returning to talk through the grief and anxiety of making the decision to stay with her ex or move on and follow her dreams. They love each other and have a great relationship. They also happened upon a non-negotiable. He wants to build roots in their hometown. She wants to explore the world and visit home but not live there. Can they compromise? Or do they have to find a way to face the fear of letting go and moving on? This is a situation full of heartache and looming with the potential for unnecessary hurt and pain. Can they find a way to honor and respect each other without creating deeper wounds? Listen to find out how Bel and I unpack these big questions! If you're interested to hear her first story, tune into last weeks episode. Names have been changed to maintain privacy. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/32392852

I was never an option | Arietta 08/01/2024

I was never an option | Arietta It's official! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit for more information. Today's guest shares about how she fell in love with a dear friend - not knowing he was married! One of her greatest lessons was that her intuition never lies and it's not something you should ignore. Listen to hear about Arietta share with wisdom and grace about how she's been overcoming her heartache. You can follow Areitta as an entertainer here: /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/32392762

We met in a bar | Bridget 07/12/2024

We met in a bar | Bridget Bridget gave herself a pass in her 20's, "it's ok to party hard". She embraced a lifestyle that was wild - drugs, substance abuse and a delicate state of mental health were the norm for awhile. She met a man at a bar and their connection was electrifying and unstable. They were on and off, he was fun and attractive, and she was madly in love - the quintessential bad boy! He had an intervention to get sober. Simultaneously, this inspired her and took him away from her. Once he went into recovery, they lost contact. Listen as Bridget shares her story of unrequited love and healing through her own mental health. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/32116787

Mistakes make exceptional possible | Lizz 07/10/2024

Mistakes make exceptional possible | Lizz You are in for a ride with Lizz's story. It's filled with tragedy and trauma that Lizz is in the midst of healing from. You'll learn how she's been coping with grief and what happens when her soulmate and best friend, G breaks her heart. Lizz is also the Nutress of the World! She founded Goodnuss, a nut milk innovation company providing affordable access to fresh plant-based beverages for the first time. Check it out at milkyournuts.com /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/32086542

The danger of silence | Clint Smith Ted@NYC 06/28/2024

The danger of silence | Clint Smith Ted@NYC We can sacrifice our voice in more than one way. Sometimes, it's by not speaking up. Sometimes it's by pleasing others or compromising. Sometimes it's by speaking but not standing up for ourselves, others, or honoring the truth. This topic transcends romantic relationships and impacts our lives with every waking moment. I hope you're inspired and motivated to find your voice, to be courageous, and speak. Please check out the new website www.unbreakmyheartpodcast.com and fill out a listener survey. You'll be entered to win a free 1:1 coaching session with me! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/31923827

I screwed it all up | Scott 05/28/2024

I screwed it all up | Scott Scott wasn't ready for love when it suddenly appeared one summer. Emma was an international student and was willing to make a big move for their relationship. Scott said let's wait. Distance grew and they broke up. He screwed up. He feels guilty for hurting her and possibly letting "the one" getaway. It's been 20yrs, and today, he finds his way through this haunting heartache. No more guilt, no more self-doubt or self-loathing. It's a fresh start and a new relationship with unconditional love. We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/31482362

On being wrong | Kathryn Schulz | Ted 05/27/2024

On being wrong | Kathryn Schulz | Ted Why is hindsight so powerful? One reason is the clarity with which we see the past. Our narrative has fewer gaps and we can see missed opportunities or the error in our ways. It's often unpleasant to discover where we were wrong. It happens so often in relationships as we reflect on how it started one way and ended another. I have found we are often hard on ourselves or amiss to the insights that our emotions cloud. How can we better embrace when we're wrong? How can we recover from those rough moments and emotions? Listen as we hear from Kathryn, a "wrongologist", who will shed some light on this topic. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/31482342

Just not with her... | April 05/02/2024

Just not with her... | April Sometimes you miss the good things you had even though it was far from perfect. April struggled with anorexia and her boyfriend didn't quite get the scope of her pain. The relationship ended but the feelings remained. He had big news - he's going to be a Dad! Any hopes of a future dissolved. She met someone new and he isn't the man she longs for... can you relate to being stuck in the sticky shadows between the past and present? Listen as April and I find a bridge to move past this inner torment. We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/31091928

Inside the mind of a master procrastinator | Tim Urban TED 04/24/2024

Inside the mind of a master procrastinator | Tim Urban TED What is one of the reasons why breaking up is so tough? Could it be procrastination? We don't want to be hurt or hurt others... we end up avoiding difficult conversations, being honest with ourselves or others and making tough choices... This is a humorous and insightful Ted Talk that will surprise and delight you. You'll learn about the monkey mind of immediate gratification and how the panic monster may or may not show up to save the day! Learn more at www.waitbuywhy.com /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30957533

Falling in love is the easy part | Mandy Tedx 04/18/2024

Falling in love is the easy part | Mandy Tedx Falling in love is the phrase we've heard since birth. We've also learned falling hurts and "feeling" in love might not be so easy to sustain long-term. This is a topic Mandy addresses in her talk. What if we could build intimacy with someone, be seen and known and experience deeper connection? Could this help improve our relationships? Listen to find out! If you'd like to take the love questionnaire, follow this link: . We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30885143

Willing to give up something good for something great? | Ean 04/18/2024

Willing to give up something good for something great? | Ean Ean had an epic trip planned to go to Ireland with close friends and bandmates. Then, enters, Lily. It was love at first sight and she agreed to travel abroad with him so they wouldn't have to be apart! All was well until he got sick and couldn't go. While recovering, Ean sensed an invitation from a Greater Being, perhaps a Benevolent Father. He was confused. He knew what he wanted was different than what he felt was in his best interest. He couldn't explain it, and he couldn't say yes to Lily. Listen to hear Ean's story of heartache and hope. You're invited! Let me know if you'd like to participate in collaborating with me in building connection, community, and sharing input to make the show the best it can be. Send me a message to learn more at: /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30780843

Forget big change, start with a tiny habit | BJ Fogg at TEDxFremont 03/28/2024

Forget big change, start with a tiny habit | BJ Fogg at TEDxFremont How we go about making changes can seem overwhelming, especially in the area of heartache. Our little habits can have a big impact on shifting us out of an old or unwanted place. Today's show is a Ted Talk by BJ Fogg who teaches us perspective and techniques on how tiny habits lead to long-lasting change. To learn more about BJ and his resources please visit: Remember - you're awesome! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30552208

How to breathe | Belisa Vranich | TEDxManhattanBeach 03/21/2024

How to breathe | Belisa Vranich | TEDxManhattanBeach Heartache, fear, doubt, anxiety, uncertainty and many other emotions that accompany tough moments in life are stressful for your body. One way to calm down, open your heart, heal your pain and find your voice is through your breath. It is simple and effective. Dr. Belisa takes us through how to breathe and may pique your interest to learn more on breathing to change your body, mind and state-of-being. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30484503

I didn't feel like a whole person | Greg 03/19/2024

I didn't feel like a whole person | Greg Sometimes to survive the hard times, we forget. Greg found himself in a marriage that was not home, nor safe. He lost his identity as a man and thought the only way out was suicide. Writing goodbyes to his children, gave him enough pause to find another way through his suffering. Greg has a message of hope with a happy ending! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30426603

Why so angry? | Kurt 03/18/2024

Why so angry? | Kurt Kurt arrived at this interview just after his final deposition with his soon-to-be ex-wife. A second failed marriage and being a Christian single father of three is not what he imagined would be his reality. Like many people in his situation, he carries a lot of guilt and anger. What's at the root of his anger? Is he trying to escape something ugly inside? Only one way to find out... /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30426473

The Art of Choosing | Sheena Lyengar TedGlobal 03/02/2024

The Art of Choosing | Sheena Lyengar TedGlobal What if someone could study how we make choices? The attitudes and philosophies behind the decisions we make? When we reflect on our relationship choices or the patterns of behavior we have - sometimes it's hard to make sense of it! Sheena takes us through her research about studying choice! It's fascinating and may provoke some new thoughts and insights. Enjoy! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30196163

Cocooned for a year | Kerry 02/21/2024

Cocooned for a year | Kerry Kerry and I's conversation flowed with casual ease and laughter. Can you start over in your mid-30's as a divorcee and single Mom? Yes! What about navigating the mystery and terrors of online dating? Kerry shares about diving in, finding new liberties and navigating the disappointments and hopes of possible new relationships. Listen to be entertained and inspired. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30060113

Discovering unconditional love | Daniel 02/17/2024

Discovering unconditional love | Daniel Daniel grew up conforming to the ideas of what it meant to be a man through the critical words and judgments of the women in his life. He was not going to be like his Dad or his Uncles. He was going to be a good guy and a nice guy. Little did he know that he was only masking and hiding who he truly was. It wasn't until his 3rd marriage and counseling, that he finally realized his behaviors and beliefs were all under his self-deception, justification, and rationalization. Instead of helping others, he saw he was really hurting those he cared for and ultimately himself. His paradigm shift allowed him to start living from the inside out with inner-peace and calm. Before it was all about him and his need for love. This story is about his experience discovering unconditional love. To connect with the community, find me at: https://www.facebook.com/cheriunbreakmyheart Visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart to support and invest in the show. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/29997233

You deserve better | Spencer 02/13/2024

You deserve better | Spencer So many thoughts and questions arise when talking with Spencer. He was betrayed a few times in a row with women that brought out extreme opposite sides of himself. He took time to recover after his second break up and found himself wounded again in an unexpected way. Through his trials, he discovered ways to accept - what is and let go of - the idea of himself or the idea of what life should be. Spencer takes us through his muck, he even confesses he smashed his x-box! It was a sign of closure and healing - listen as he shares how he has overcome his heartaches! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/29939153

Break UP to Better | Daniella Cracknell 02/01/2024

Break UP to Better | Daniella Cracknell What if you could look into your past to find out how you got here today? Daniella found family letters from childhood that revealed insights to some personal relationship patterns. In an unfortunate and unlikely way she realized she needed to re-assess how to care for her heart. Through all her breakups and heartaches, Daniella began a journey of healing. Through her journey she realized everyone could use some more tools so she started a company called TheBREAK-UP Biz™, covering today’s world of more breakups than makeups in LOVE, LIFE and WORK. Find out more about her story on today's episode and check out the resources she's made available by clicking on these links: We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/29752028

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