Unbreak My Heart

A podcast about navigating the messiness and aftermath of breakups. Our guests enter into the conversation shackled to their break up stories and together we find the keys.

Falling in love is the easy part | Mandy Tedx 04/18/2024

Falling in love is the easy part | Mandy Tedx Falling in love is the phrase we've heard since birth. We've also learned falling hurts and "feeling" in love might not be so easy to sustain long-term. This is a topic Mandy addresses in her talk. What if we could build intimacy with someone, be seen and known and experience deeper connection? Could this help improve our relationships? Listen to find out! If you'd like to take the love questionnaire, follow this link: . We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30885143

Willing to give up something good for something great? | Ean 04/18/2024

Willing to give up something good for something great? | Ean Ean had an epic trip planned to go to Ireland with close friends and bandmates. Then, enters, Lily. It was love at first sight and she agreed to travel abroad with him so they wouldn't have to be apart! All was well until he got sick and couldn't go. While recovering, Ean sensed an invitation from a Greater Being, perhaps a Benevolent Father. He was confused. He knew what he wanted was different than what he felt was in his best interest. He couldn't explain it, and he couldn't say yes to Lily. Listen to hear Ean's story of heartache and hope. You're invited! Let me know if you'd like to participate in collaborating with me in building connection, community, and sharing input to make the show the best it can be. Send me a message to learn more at: /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30780843

Forget big change, start with a tiny habit | BJ Fogg at TEDxFremont 03/28/2024

Forget big change, start with a tiny habit | BJ Fogg at TEDxFremont How we go about making changes can seem overwhelming, especially in the area of heartache. Our little habits can have a big impact on shifting us out of an old or unwanted place. Today's show is a Ted Talk by BJ Fogg who teaches us perspective and techniques on how tiny habits lead to long-lasting change. To learn more about BJ and his resources please visit: Remember - you're awesome! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30552208

How to breathe | Belisa Vranich | TEDxManhattanBeach 03/21/2024

How to breathe | Belisa Vranich | TEDxManhattanBeach Heartache, fear, doubt, anxiety, uncertainty and many other emotions that accompany tough moments in life are stressful for your body. One way to calm down, open your heart, heal your pain and find your voice is through your breath. It is simple and effective. Dr. Belisa takes us through how to breathe and may pique your interest to learn more on breathing to change your body, mind and state-of-being. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30484503

I didn't feel like a whole person | Greg 03/19/2024

I didn't feel like a whole person | Greg Sometimes to survive the hard times, we forget. Greg found himself in a marriage that was not home, nor safe. He lost his identity as a man and thought the only way out was suicide. Writing goodbyes to his children, gave him enough pause to find another way through his suffering. Greg has a message of hope with a happy ending! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30426603

Why so angry? | Kurt 03/18/2024

Why so angry? | Kurt Kurt arrived at this interview just after his final deposition with his soon-to-be ex-wife. A second failed marriage and being a Christian single father of three is not what he imagined would be his reality. Like many people in his situation, he carries a lot of guilt and anger. What's at the root of his anger? Is he trying to escape something ugly inside? Only one way to find out... /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30426473

The Art of Choosing | Sheena Lyengar TedGlobal 03/02/2024

The Art of Choosing | Sheena Lyengar TedGlobal What if someone could study how we make choices? The attitudes and philosophies behind the decisions we make? When we reflect on our relationship choices or the patterns of behavior we have - sometimes it's hard to make sense of it! Sheena takes us through her research about studying choice! It's fascinating and may provoke some new thoughts and insights. Enjoy! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30196163

Cocooned for a year | Kerry 02/21/2024

Cocooned for a year | Kerry Kerry and I's conversation flowed with casual ease and laughter. Can you start over in your mid-30's as a divorcee and single Mom? Yes! What about navigating the mystery and terrors of online dating? Kerry shares about diving in, finding new liberties and navigating the disappointments and hopes of possible new relationships. Listen to be entertained and inspired. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/30060113

Discovering unconditional love | Daniel 02/17/2024

Discovering unconditional love | Daniel Daniel grew up conforming to the ideas of what it meant to be a man through the critical words and judgments of the women in his life. He was not going to be like his Dad or his Uncles. He was going to be a good guy and a nice guy. Little did he know that he was only masking and hiding who he truly was. It wasn't until his 3rd marriage and counseling, that he finally realized his behaviors and beliefs were all under his self-deception, justification, and rationalization. Instead of helping others, he saw he was really hurting those he cared for and ultimately himself. His paradigm shift allowed him to start living from the inside out with inner-peace and calm. Before it was all about him and his need for love. This story is about his experience discovering unconditional love. To connect with the community, find me at: https://www.facebook.com/cheriunbreakmyheart Visit www.patreon.com/unbreakmyheart to support and invest in the show. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/29997233

You deserve better | Spencer 02/13/2024

You deserve better | Spencer So many thoughts and questions arise when talking with Spencer. He was betrayed a few times in a row with women that brought out extreme opposite sides of himself. He took time to recover after his second break up and found himself wounded again in an unexpected way. Through his trials, he discovered ways to accept - what is and let go of - the idea of himself or the idea of what life should be. Spencer takes us through his muck, he even confesses he smashed his x-box! It was a sign of closure and healing - listen as he shares how he has overcome his heartaches! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/29939153

Break UP to Better | Daniella Cracknell 02/01/2024

Break UP to Better | Daniella Cracknell What if you could look into your past to find out how you got here today? Daniella found family letters from childhood that revealed insights to some personal relationship patterns. In an unfortunate and unlikely way she realized she needed to re-assess how to care for her heart. Through all her breakups and heartaches, Daniella began a journey of healing. Through her journey she realized everyone could use some more tools so she started a company called TheBREAK-UP Biz™, covering today’s world of more breakups than makeups in LOVE, LIFE and WORK. Find out more about her story on today's episode and check out the resources she's made available by clicking on these links: We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/29752028

Break-ups don't have to leave you broken | Gary Lewandowski TEDxNavesink 01/25/2024

Break-ups don't have to leave you broken | Gary Lewandowski TEDxNavesink Ending a relationship is an opportunity we can embrace to become a better person. Sometimes breakups are unexpected, or they end a bad situation. Either way, what if this is the ticket out of prison - a fresh start to exploring life without being stuck? Gary addresses this very topic in today's episode. Thank you for listening! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/29644543

Why are you letting me go? | Raul 01/11/2024

Why are you letting me go? | Raul Raul, found love in New York with a partner who seemed to be a dream come true. Raul invested wholeheartedly into the relationship - holding nothing back. Only one seed of doubt existed in their connection and he sensed it from the beginning. Was Anthony going to be ready? Did he still need time to explore the world as a single man? Anthony is six years younger than Raul. After two years of bliss, Anthony pulled back and said goodbye to what we can only guess was premature Love. Though Raul found the answer as to why they were going their separate ways, he has had a very difficult time moving on. This episode is a reflection of that love story and a way to gain peace of mind and move one step closer to closure. We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. To learn more about Raul visit @raultovar and https://raultovar.com /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/29420603

I didn't intend for it to be serious | Maranda 01/04/2024

I didn't intend for it to be serious | Maranda Maranda is still recovering from a breakup that happened a year ago. He ended 4 1/2 years in a text and it's left her hurting. After a lot of time to self-reflect, we take time on this episode to deep dive into what holds her back from moving forward. Guilt, regret and anger have plagued her long enough! Listen to find out how she navigates her way to greater freedom and clarity. We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/29328673

Can we choose to fall out of love? | Dessa Tedx WanChai 12/28/2023

Can we choose to fall out of love? | Dessa Tedx WanChai The attachments we carry with us to our partner are what bond us. Those attachments also make letting go after a breakup pretty tough, sometimes, near impossible. Is it a matter of the mind or the heart? Could it be both? Dessa, couldn't let go. "Everyone else seems to be able to do this, why is it so tough for me?". In this short and light-hearted presentation, she shares how neuroscience helped heal her brain. Enjoy! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/29262028

A series of synchronicities | Liberty 12/14/2023

A series of synchronicities | Liberty What happens when you open the door to your body and soul wide open? Liberty tells us about the adventures of online dating and self-discovery. She was married for a long time and since her divorce, she's explored her artistic creativity, her spirit of adventure, and her sexuality. Some of it has been fun and some of it has left her with deep pain. For more information about Liberty - follow her @spring_unfolding @libertyshea We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/29039538

Drinking and how it changed my life | Ann Dowsett-Johnston at TEDxHomeBushRdWomen 12/07/2023

Drinking and how it changed my life | Ann Dowsett-Johnston at TEDxHomeBushRdWomen Alcohol: friend or foe? Good question. Alcohol has a common presence in relationships and in breakups. Ann tells her story of finding out that she was truly an alcoholic. She outs herself in her book called "Drink". Many people know the woes of alcohol but not as many know both the woes and wins of sobriety. Listen as Ann shares her lessons, her heartache, and discovers her gains! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit for more information. Check out Ann's book here: /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/28966008

Just not with her... | April 11/30/2023

Just not with her... | April Sometimes you miss the good things you had even though it was far from perfect. April struggled with anorexia and her boyfriend didn't quite get the scope of her pain. The relationship ended but the feelings remained. He had big news - he's going to be a Dad! Any hopes of a future dissolved. She met someone new and he isn't the man she longs for... can you relate to being stuck in the sticky shadows between the past and present? Listen as April and I find a bridge to move past this inner torment. We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/28844143

Getting the love you want | Harville Hendrix Super Soul 11/23/2023

Getting the love you want | Harville Hendrix Super Soul Not all relationships on the brink of failure are hopeless. There are tools that can help you discover where the negative patterns of communication and behavior come from. This talk is a replay of a conversation between the author, Oprah, and a few couples who find out they can be vulnerable and redeem their relationships! We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/28757738

Trying to buy happiness | Will 11/09/2023

Trying to buy happiness | Will Will had a good job and a nice house. He was looking for a wife, someone to build a future and a home with. When he met Maddie, they fell fast! She was a strong, independent woman and knew what she liked. Turns out that was a mask. Beneath the mask he found a woman who was afraid, isolating, and controlling. When he tried to have boundaries their capacity for compatibility started to wane. This story is fresh and in the details you may find lots of areas that you can relate to. For example, being manipulated, moving for someone or feeling unappreciated, being overly generous and ultimately feeling threatened. Join Will as he navigates reconciling the loss of love or what he thought would be his future... /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/28567968

The person you really need to marry | Tracy McMillan | TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen 10/05/2023

The person you really need to marry | Tracy McMillan | TEDxOlympicBlvdWomen When you look at your past, do you see failure? Tracy did. She thought she'd find love by marrying men who'd make her feel at home and like she had a place to belong. It wasn't working. She always knew she wanted to be married, and discovered that if she could marry herself and be committed, faithful and trustworthy - then she could know love. Her story is sweet and inspiring. No matter what stage of relationship you're in - this is a message that will speak to your heart! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/28099541

Living with a Whole Heart Part 2 | Brené Brown | Oprah Super Soul 09/28/2023

Living with a Whole Heart Part 2 | Brené Brown | Oprah Super Soul Doesn't heartache feel unfair and like unwanted suffering? When we are rejected, we can feel disoriented. It's hard to know we're loved, that we belong and we are valued. This is the danger of a rough breakup! No matter what you go through, it is never true that you aren't worthy of love. This is when we suffer. We had our partner and we belonged together. When we are no more, there is suffering. How do you shift out of this suffering? Is the answer to be vulnerable? Even when you've put your armor of protection up? Listen to Brene and Oprah share about this idea. I hope you feel inspired and encouraged. Thank you for listening. You're invited! Let me know if you'd like to participate in collaborating with me in building connection, community, and sharing input to make the show the best it can be. Send me a message to learn more at: /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/28099478

Daring Greatly Part 1 | Brené Brown (From August 6th, 2017) | Oprah Super Soul 09/21/2023

Daring Greatly Part 1 | Brené Brown (From August 6th, 2017) | Oprah Super Soul When we feel alone in the darkness, when we're being bullied by lies that say we aren't worthy - we need hope and faith! Sometimes, just that you're showing up is enough. It counts and you're not alone! This chat echos these sentiments as Brene and Oprah share about risks and consequences of vulnerability. Thank you for listening! You're invited! Let me know if you'd like to participate in collaborating with me in building connection, community, and sharing input to make the show the best it can be. Send me a message to learn more at: /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/28099436

The "80/20" Heart | Josh 09/14/2023

The "80/20" Heart | Josh Falling in love for the first time or even the 20th time is both exhilarating and disorienting. After he found out his girlfriend was cheating on her he decided it wasn't safe to fall in love again. It's best to hold back part of my heart and my love so I don't feel that pain again. What are the consequences we pay for putting our hearts in a cast and never taking it off? What price do we pay when we vow: "I'll never love or let someone love me like that again"? These are the questions we explore in today's episode. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/28028232

She began to cool | Eirik 09/07/2023

She began to cool | Eirik She cheated but the relationship was fractured before her one night stand. Was it the difference in their religious beliefs, or lifestyle interests or general compatibility? It's most likely a combination of all the above. Listen as Eirik and I explore marriage, divorce, love, religion and relationships! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/27962403

The lies our culture tells us and a better way to live | David Brooks Tedx 08/31/2023

The lies our culture tells us and a better way to live | David Brooks Tedx "We all go through bad seasons". David starts his talk with these universal words. Whether we get what we want or lose what we thought we wanted, we can experience a sense of feeling delusional. I believe David does a great job addressing some of the moments where we have to reconcile the picture we had in our minds to what's actually happening in reality. I hope you are encouraged by this talk if you find yourself in a winter season. Check out the new website www.unbreakmyheartpodcast.com and fill out a listener survey. You'll be entered to win a free 1:1 coaching session with me! /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/27904416

Good Boundaries Free You | Sarri Gilman Tedx 08/24/2023

Good Boundaries Free You | Sarri Gilman Tedx What if there were a skeleton key to unlock difficult relationships? It comes in the form of boundaries! Learning to yes and no is one of the most overlooked traits to helping us have healthy relationships and great self-care. Sarri takes us through a new perspective that will inspire us to have better boundaries. Don't miss this, you'll appreciate the valuable tools she shares. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/27843678

Ghosted and mute | Courtney 08/17/2023

Ghosted and mute | Courtney Do you explore dating apps hoping for something special or short-term fun? Is it just a digital pen pal or a foundation for something more? Keilee thought she connected with someone special. She was naive and he was cowardly. This combination led to a four-year tug-of-war on heartstrings that were meant to be played for love, not play her. We have a Patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/27771396

My dark monster inside | B 08/10/2023

My dark monster inside | B B is a young Lebanese-American man whose family is originally from Lebanon. Even though he thinks he's generally a good person, he finds himself wrestling with an internal monster. He first noticed this monster of rage when he dated Brenda. Maybe she created the monster? But after they broke up that monster came out again in other relationships. Now B is looking inward. At his lowest moments he finds himself behaving in ways that's hurtful to others and he doesn't know how to change. Stick with us as we explore the roots of this rage monster. You may find yourself thinking this guy sounds spoiled and entitled - this guy is a jerk to women - I don't need to listen to this. Hang in there because what it sounds like on the surface is just a cover for some deep family pain. Together B and I go to some of the hidden core pain in his heart and in his body. Together we start the inner-healing process. I am so proud and impressed with B - he took a deep dive into some very vulnerable places. The reward - breakthrough!!! He gets really honest and finds some ways to be empowered - knowing he isn't stuck with being a monster, the monster isn't in control. He has hope to be a better man and live a better life. Be encouraged! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/27710349

It still makes me cry | Dailee 08/03/2023

It still makes me cry | Dailee Dailee was dumped by her Jewish boyfriend and it stung hard! She has recovered well; however, in our chat we found an old wound from the fall out between she and her first love. Even though it was years ago the negative words he spoke hadn't yet left her. Dailee was brave in facing an old scar that no longer needs to make it's home in her soul! We have a patreon membership account! Please check out how to participate behind the scenes and collaborate on growing the podcast! You can visit www.patreaon.com/unbreakmyheart for more information. /episode/index/show/cherianderson/id/27650040

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