Communication Untangled

Stacie Speaker Executive Coach and Communication Expert gets in the trenches to help untangle, dissect and finally understand this thing we call communication. This podcast is dedicated to helping smart women and men sharpen their communication skills to help improve their lives both professionally and personally. As a communication expert, Stacie knows what it takes to have conversations that work. She and her guests will provide actionable tips, strategies and insights on how to build up your communication toolbox so you no longer struggle, manipulate or beg to get what you want from others, can finally have those hard conversations and create real relationships in every area of your life.

Stacie's Season Finale! 05/30/2018

Women Interested in Leaving Law with Elena Deutsch 05/23/2018

The Worst Delivered, Best Advice I've Ever Recieved with Ellen Fields 05/16/2018

Why Men Don't Like Being Vulnerable with Rick Sharpe 05/09/2018

The One With Ray 05/02/2018

Effective Communication with Tiana Sanchez 04/25/2018

The 3 Listening Styles and Their Impact 04/18/2018

Keeping Cool Under Pressure with Alison Deutsch 04/11/2018

A Shift in Conversation With Michael O'Brien 04/04/2018

Bringing Self Realization Into the Conversation with Anastasia Netri 03/28/2018

Communication Archetype Quiz Results with Scott Doucet 03/21/2018

Tough Conversations with Luke Iorio 03/14/2018

Communication Archetypes Revisited 03/07/2018

The Connector – A Communication Archetype 02/28/2018

The Influencer – A Communication Archetype 02/21/2018

The Strategist – A Communication Archetype 02/14/2018

The Director – A Communication Archetype 02/07/2018

The Director – A Communication Archetype This episode kicks off a 4 part series about the communication archetypes, and which category you fall into! She describes various communication issues that people can find themselves running into as a result of not knowing the archetypes of the people who surround them, and talks about how just being aware can shift these conversations to make them more meaningful, productive and effective. She also has a quiz you can take! Stacie references personality tests, and explains that communication archetypes are similar in a way to the personality tests, but there are also differences. She lists out the 4 major communication archetypes as The Director, Strategist, Influencer and Connector. While the Director and Strategist are more task oriented, the Influencer and Connectors of the world are relationship focused. She breaks down the Director for our listening pleasure. She begins by stating that Directors are often C.E.O's, and tend to live in the realm of fact. They like to get in, get the conversation over quickly, and get back to accomplishing things. She describes that they are very focused, and driven people, and can often come off as insensitive, or impatient. They like to make quick, calculated decisions and make things happen, and can get a lot accomplished in a short conversation. Some points to note when communicating with a Director: Be efficient, be brief, remain fact oriented and be willing to say “I don't know, but I'll find out”. Director's have very little time for tall tales or guesses. It's always good to lend yourself to their vision, and ask often how they'd like things to be, or what they need help with. When you need something from them: be upfront, and ask them directly. Quotes “You just have to recognize what drives people” “Be ready to provide solutions.” “Argue with facts, don't argue with feelings” Links /episode/index/show/communicationuntangled/id/6232448

Coaching Conversations with Calvin Chen 01/31/2018

Coaching Conversations with Calvin Chen Thanks for joining us for another episode of Communication Untangled! In this episode, Stacie is joined by Calvin Chen. Calvin is an executive life coach who specializes in emotional intelligence for high performance, leadership and happiness. His coaching is based on the same values he lives his life by: Love and truth, possibility and practicality. Stacie kicks off asking Calvin about his path to coaching Calvin explains that he started off pursuing a science degree, but ended up not wanting to continue, and being sold the entrepreneurial dream through a book. He began cold calling, and learning the skills he needed to thrive within the cold calling environment. He began cold calling for Tony Robbins, and within 7 months got the opportunity to sell coaching for Tony. Stacie asks a few questions about what had happened, and Calvin shares the exact moment that he talked his way into the position. Stacie congratulates Calvin on finding his calling at a young age, and Calvin shares his thought process surrounding age, learning and money. He also describes how he uses communication to build relationships with his clients, as well as find out where they are, what they're wanting, and to help them build relationships of their own. Calvin tells Stacie what he feels his role as a coach is, and how it's important to him to be able to give input in a way that is safe to the recipient. Stacie then Asks Calvin what he would do in a situation where the client were to get defensive or even argumentative. He explains that he would pause and listen, because people tend to get that way when they feel they're not being heard, and it's crucial to hear where the other person is coming from in order to move forward toward a positive result. He tells the story of the elephant and the blind men, and gives insights about the differences we all have in perspective. He says that he wishes more people would consider different people's perspectives in order to become better leaders, husbands, wives or even just better people. Stacie asks Calvin about communication within his marriage, and how he navigates difficult conversations, she also offers a piece of her own wisdom and shares that sometimes problems don't need to be solved, so much as listened to. Quotes “He said 'I'm not going to hire you, go work on something else' and I said no” “This is making the best use of all the BS I've been through in my life” “I'm definitely in my learning phase right now” “The communication is to achieve relationship and not just some sort of a transaction” “Direct communication is a very important component to coaching” “Let me see what you see” “If I'm not careful, I can get too in my head and too analytical” Link Stacie /episode/index/show/communicationuntangled/id/6207676

Smart Leaders Communicate and Sell with Jessica Lorimer 01/24/2018

Smart Leaders Communicate and Sell with Jessica Lorimer Welcome back to Communication Untangled! On this episode Stacie greets Jessica Lorimer with open arms to discuss the topic of Sales, and how to have sales conversations more effectively. Jessica is a sales coach who helps clients sell with more ease an integrity, while adding revenue to their business each month without spending all of their time on FB. Jess describes her journey into sales as a result of enjoyment, rather than a purpose from birth. She got a job at a jewelry store at a young age and really enjoyed the journey of getting to know customers and building relationships while learning their taste. After school, she was headhunted into sales in the fashion industry and excelled in that field by building genuine connections with people and communicating in a way the built solid foundations with her customers, and realized that she could dominate the sale niche with ease. Jess talks about the lifetime value of a client or customer and tells the story of one of her clients, and the relationship they've developed. She also explains long term relationships and how they continuously benefit both parties through repeat business and referrals, rather than just a one and done sale. Stacie asks why Jess chose to work specifically with women. Jess loves the question, and laughs that in 3 years, no one has asked her that. She describes the issues women face when communicating their value to the outside world. She talks about women aren't taught to be in the spotlight, but rather nurturing others, and Jess wishes to change that dynamic in order to help female entrepreneurs state their value, sell themselves proudly and with confidence, and make the money they wish to make. Jess and Stacie talk about the difference between men and women and the ways that they communicate their issues, their objectives and their desires. Jess also talks about how much more personally women take rejection in a business environment, and how they take it as a personal affront to their own self worth, instead of considering that the other party might not be ready yet. Jess talks buyer psychology, and sales styles, and how 3 major types of sellers exist: Aspiration, Emotion, and Fear Of Missing Out. She briefly describes them, and how we as people fit all of them at different times. She also talks about Facebook, and shares the role it plays in building community and establishing a healthy business. Finally, Stacie asks Jess why she decided to start a podcast and why she continues to do so Jess explains that Podcasts are more intimate than other platforms she's used, and she feels like a podcast is equivalent to sitting down to tea with a friend. Quotes “It's about how you position the conversation, but also how you position the relationship” “You need to be very clear from the outset what the relationship is about” “The lifetime value of a customer isn't just one sale” “Wealthy women can change the world” “Women don't like confrontation” “Reputations take years to build and moments to crash” “A rise in tides lifts all boats” Links Stacie /episode/index/show/communicationuntangled/id/6181543

Let's Talk About Sex with Alexa Martinez 01/19/2018

Let's Talk About Sex with Alexa Martinez Alexa is a sex coach and a mentor on a mission to reform sex education and sexual expression across the globe. She was born in the deep south of Louisiana, and experienced an “abstinence only” style of sexual education growing up. After spending the majority of her adult life on aboard a cruise ship, and enduring a relationship that seemed perfect from the outside, but in reality was very disconnected, she decided to explore the world of sex, love and relationships. After meeting tons of people, having a lot of different experiences, and helping solve sexual disconnect within others, she found her life's purpose in her sex positive brand: The Violet Butterfly. Stacie talks about sex, and it's purpose being for reproduction, and Alexa is more than happy to debunk that myth. She shares various insights that show we as humans, have sex for pleasure, and that our connection to our sexuality is vital to our health and well being overall. She describes the relationship most people have with sex, and how we're taught not to prioritize it, or it's significance. Alexa and Stacie go on to discuss how to openly talk about sex and fantasies within your relationship in order to open up exploration in the bedroom and beyond. She shares ways to keep the sexy in the room while trying new things, and how to set up a fun and introduce new things into the bedroom without having the expectation that sex is going to happen. She goes on to describe sexual energy, and how play and flirtation can be just as exciting, and that sexual energy can manifest itself in many creative places as well. Alexa talks non verbal cues, and gives a few examples that you can use to set a sexy tone without using so much as a word, and how to tell is someone is giving off a sexual vibe. She explains how body language can play a huge part in attraction, and how both women and men use body language to show who they are attracted to, from their neck to their shoes. She also talks about the biological perspective where sex is concerned, and how everything from a woman's voice to a man's anatomy lends itself to the sexual nature of human kind. Stacie asks about boundaries, and how to set the framework in order to not only have boundaries, but have the other person respect them. Alexa clarifies that you need to have that conversation with yourself first of all. She tells a story about a time someone crossed a line and stepped beyond her boundaries by touching her without invitation, and how that was not okay within that particular situation. Had he checked in and found out where her boundaries were, things would have gone in a much better direction. Alexa shares an exercise called Want Will and Won't. She explains how the exercise works in order to express what you truly want, what you're okay with, and what you will not do. Quotes “To everyone on the outside looking in, it was literally the coolest life.” “When you question the box instead of yourself, then things shift and they change” “There's only one other species of primate that has sex almost as much as we do” “A big part of a human's life is their sexuality and their connection to self.” “We are built for sex” “Your views on your body and your sexuality: how were they shaped and who shaped them?” “It all comes down communication” “Once you get comfortable, you can't go back” Links /episode/index/show/communicationuntangled/id/6165903

Effortless Marketing with Jonny Cooper 01/16/2018

Real Relationships with Felicia Slattery 01/16/2018

Sports Talk with Podcast Master with Cole Johnson 01/16/2018

Women and Boundaries 01/16/2018

Welcome to Communication Untangled 01/02/2018

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