Dealing and Feeling with Kathy Redwine
Dealing and Feeling is the podcast dedicated to creating a culture of conversations with kids and give parents, other caregivers, teachers and custodians tools for discussing challenging topics and feelings with kids. Hosted by Kathy Redwine, Licensed Professional Counselor, MA, LPC, NCC.
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Anxiety Part 1: Where Does Anxiety Come From?
06/24/2021
Anxiety Part 1: Where Does Anxiety Come From?
We are all dealing with a little more anxiety these days. Fear and uncertainty of our health, our job, and even the changes coming from day-to-day. Kathy is joined by the irreverent and always entertaining Gina Trimarco, co-host of the Women Your Mother Warned You About podcast to help kick off a series on anxiety. To help educate and have real conversations about just what true anxiety means. How it can affect us, affect our kids, what can trigger it, how to live better with it and so much more.
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Peace Building with Shamil Idriss (Re-Broadcast)
06/17/2021
Peace Building with Shamil Idriss (Re-Broadcast)
We live in a polarized country, and a conflict-filled world. But today on the show, Kathy welcomes a life-long friend who brings a world view to living more harmoniously together, no matter our differences. Sahmil Idriss is the CEO of Search For Common Ground. Their organization works to move populations from an adversarial approach to cooperating solutions and community building. This happens on an even smaller scale when we strive to listen and better understand those with different views than us. Plus! Hear a beautiful conversation from an 8-year-old about being a champion for those that are different from us.
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Appreciate Complexity with O'Neal Atkinson (Re-Broadcast)
06/10/2021
Appreciate Complexity with O'Neal Atkinson (Re-Broadcast)
A lot of progress has been made in the past decade in respect to the acceptance and support of the LGBTQ+ community. But there is still a long way to go, and children growing up finding their way in a straight world, sometimes need a helping hand or listening ear. That's where today's guest comes in. Kathy welcomes O'Neal Atkinson, Deputy Director of Time Out Youth Center in Charlotte, NC. They have a delightful and engaging conversation about the center's role in helping LGBTQ+ youth through, advocacy, leadership development, social opportunities, counseling and more. They also discuss the use of preferred pronouns and language of respect for people in the community. Plus! O'Neal talks about resources for parents and families who want to gain more understanding and connect with other parents who have similar stories.
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Grief and Loss with Kiley Thiel (Re-Broadcast)
06/03/2021
Grief and Loss with Kiley Thiel (Re-Broadcast)
As adults, we know that death and loss is a part of life, but for children it can be a difficult concept to understand. Today Kathy is joined by her friend Kiley Thiel, grief and loss expert, and part of the organization KinderMourn. Kathy and Kiley discuss a range of traditional types of loss, including the death of a loved one, a friend and suicide. But they also discuss dealing with the loss of normalcy in the time of Coronavirus. They explain how our built in responses are hindered by the precautions we need to take, and explore alternative ways to cope. PLUS! Kiley tells us about resources and excellent reading materials that can help us support our kids and their understanding of this difficult topic.
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Mommy Has Meltdowns Too with Elizabeth Initrieri (Re-Broadcast)
05/27/2021
Mommy Has Meltdowns Too with Elizabeth Initrieri (Re-Broadcast)
Today's guest, may just have the most well-rounded look at raising kids and all the issues that come along with it, than any guest before. Elizabeth Initrieri is a teacher, councilor and mother of three children in middle and high school. Kathy and Liz have an engaging conversation about a whole range of topics that parents have to deal with and discuss with their children. From divorce, sex, gender issues, and social media - to the importance of listening, empathy, avoiding comparisons, and creating confidence. Lots to learn in this amazing episode!
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Mama Bears for a Better World with Liz Dyer
05/20/2021
Mama Bears for a Better World with Liz Dyer
In 2014, Liz Dyer had a dream that she could start a private Facebook group for moms of LGBTQ kids and those moms would end up helping to make the world a kinder, safer, more loving place for all LGBTQ people to live. Today that dream is a reality and filled with hundreds of members. She founded the Mama Bears organization to continue her work. Today she shares her journey from blogger to Bear and how to revolutionize the conversation around identity and sexuality with your kids. The Mama Bears Organization supports, educates and empowers families with LGBTQ members and the LGBTQ community by providing private online communities for members to connect, ask questions and find resources. .
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Myth-busting ADHD
05/13/2021
Myth-busting ADHD
What do Will Smith, Simone Biles, Bill Gates and Albert Einstein all have in common (besides being famous)? They were all diagnosed with ADHD. Attention-deficit hyperactivity disorder is a chronic condition including attention difficulty, hyperactivity, and impulsiveness. ADHD often begins in childhood and can persist into adulthood. In this episode, Kathy discusses her own thoughts on dealing with and discussing feelings around the disorder within families. She also combats some common myths around the disorder.
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Parenting a child with ADHD with Yafa Crane Luria
05/06/2021
Parenting a child with ADHD with Yafa Crane Luria
Yafa Crane Luria has been and continues to be a visionary and innovator in the field of ADHD since 1984. She joins Kathy today for a discussion of her daily work with families with members who have ADHD, her own personal experience with it and her no yelling, no begging, no nagging philosophy of dealing with ADHD. to learn more about her and how's she's helping ADHD families who have tried nearly everything and are still frustrated and confused by their child’s or teen’s Blocked but Brilliant brain.
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Communication 101: I Feel...Because
04/29/2021
Communication 101: I Feel...Because
On this episode, we're talking about "talking about things." Kathy shares insights on developing practical healthy communication skills that lead to more productive interactions with our children. Human communication is rarely perfect, if ever. How do we guard against having unrealistic expectations of our children's communication skills? Kathy shares a template for clearly communicating our emotions between parents and kids OR between parents. PLUS, when is the last time you asked for help? When is the last time your child asked for help? Communicating our need for help is critical to developing new skills. Too often shame gets in the way. Kathy helps get the conversation started so that everyone can get the help they deserve.
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Feelings 101: Look For the Cues
04/22/2021
Feelings 101: Look For the Cues
Did you know that your body physically manifests feelings before we even recognize we're having them? How cool is that?! In this episode, Kathy gives you some tools to do the vital work of recognizing the physical cues associated with four major feelings: happy, sad, mad and worry. No matter what feelings you or your child is having, we're forced to deal with them. Kathy gives you some tips and strategies for dealing with them in ways that are healthy not harmful.
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Podiversary Roundtable PART 2 with Laura Stevens, Colin Stevens, Molly Barker and Barb Royal
04/15/2021
Podiversary Roundtable PART 2 with Laura Stevens, Colin Stevens, Molly Barker and Barb Royal
We're back with the roundtable and even MORE honest insights from parents on a variety of conversations they are having with their kids. Kathy is joined by former guests Molly Barker, Barb Royal, Laura Stevens and Colin Stevens to discuss topics including: racial identity, the power of word choice and providing kids with emotional stability. Get a pen and paper ready to take some notes because you'll want to refer back to this episode.
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Podiversary Roundtable with Laura Stevens, Colin Stevens, Molly Barker and Barb Royal
04/08/2021
Podiversary Roundtable with Laura Stevens, Colin Stevens, Molly Barker and Barb Royal
Wow, can you believe it? We've been in your podcast feeds for one year! To celebrate, we've invited a few of our favorite guests for a roundtable discussion on a variety of big issues parents and their children are dealing with. How do we talk to our kids about how to process their feelings in a way that builds confidence? What can we do to help our kids build their own narrative and prepare them to make their own decisions? PLUS! We play a game of "Who Said That?" featuring amazing insight from past episodes with Laura, Colin, Molly, and Barb.
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Supporting LGTBQ Youth with Barb Royal
04/01/2021
Supporting LGTBQ Youth with Barb Royal
*This episode originally aired in June of 2020* Today's episode is dedicated to the LGBTQ community in celebration of Pride Month, which takes place throughout the month of June. Our guest is Barb Royal a mom, a wife, a woman, who is funny, raw and honest about her journey as a young gay person. It's a great opportunity for parents (and all adults) to listen to her struggles to come out and live out and see what we can learn from it. LGBTQ or not, all young people are trying to understand who they are, what they are, what they like, what they don't like and who they want to be. It's overwhelming and incredibly confusing. How we can be our children's allies as they are going through the process of young adulthood and the discovery that comes along with that?
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Talking to Your Kids About Social Media with Molly Barker, founder of Girls On The Run
03/25/2021
Talking to Your Kids About Social Media with Molly Barker, founder of Girls On The Run
Social media dominates so much of the conversation amongst our kids and their peers. It has effects on their self-esteem and self image that we're just beginning to understand. How do we talk to our kids about it. My guest today is the amazing , an organization dedicated to building the confidence of young girls through the sport of running. We discuss the incredible lessons she learned from her mother, that it's okay to be vulnerable in front of our kids, the effects of social media, and getting out of your own way. Visit for more information about upcoming episodes.
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Blending Family with Rachel Pitts
03/18/2021
Blending Family with Rachel Pitts
Raising a child through a separation or divorce can be very difficult, not to mention the process of blending familes as parents move on to new partners. On this episode Kathy is joined by Rachel Pitts, mom, real estate expert, divorcee and the co-host of the Women Your Mother Warned You About podcast, a podcast that is making business sexy again. She graciously shares her wisdom and positive outlook gained through her experience through all of these challenges.
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Preparing for School Re-Entry
03/11/2021
Preparing for School Re-Entry
As we return to some semblance of normal, the changes that will take place could be just as jarring as the initial changes 1 year ago. How do we talk to our kids about going back to school and how do we get them and ourselves ready for a new routine. Kathy gives you 3 Keys to Preparing for Re-Entry.
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The Pandemic and Our Kids One Year Later
03/04/2021
The Pandemic and Our Kids One Year Later
For people around the globe, the beginning of March 2021 represents a one year anniversary of when the COVID-19 pandemic became real and began to affect our lives. It wreaked havoc on the social, emotional and educational development of our children. Just how much havoc? That's what were starting to learn from recently released studies like the one They teamed up with NBC News to conduct a large, national study to understand student well-being and academic engagement in these unsettled times. Join Kathy and her husband Chad as they discuss how to discuss both the upheaval and impending return to "normal."
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Diverse Bedtime Stories with Bunmi Emenanjo
02/25/2021
Diverse Bedtime Stories with Bunmi Emenanjo
Reading opens children's minds to the new and the possible. It's the perfect activity to introduce and educate them on different cultures. But what's out there beyond the Suess and the Goose? Our guest today is Bunmi Emenanjo, founder of the , a subscription service that provides parents with books and resources that develop global awareness and perspectives that increase empathy, compassion and acceptance. She says that providing our children with gateways to different cultures is one of the most important things that we can do for their development and reading makes it easy!
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The Journey to Stay Alive with Ginina Swift (Special Re-Broadcast)
02/18/2021
The Journey to Stay Alive with Ginina Swift (Special Re-Broadcast)
Kathy speaks to Ginina Swift, the mother of 5 year old Caden, who was diagnosed with end stage renal failure during the first months of his life. Listen to this powerful story of the struggles her son endured, how no parents are prepared for such a challenge, the blessing of dedicated nurses and doctors that listen, how isolating life became, and living life in the moment. This episode was originally broadcast on September 24th, 2020. We are re-airing it with a special intro from Kathy in honor of the 4 year anniversary of Caden's transplant surgery and his kidney's 4th birthday!
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Parents Just Don't Understand with Kenzie Confer
02/11/2021
Parents Just Don't Understand with Kenzie Confer
"You know parents are the same no matter time nor place. They don't understand that us kids are going to make some mistakes. So to you, all the kids all across the land, there's no need to argue. Parents just don't understand" --Will Smith, Parents Just Don't Understand. When "How was your day?" doesn't work anymore...how do we engage our kids? Kathy welcomes Kenzie Confer, a tutor, teaching assistant and speech and debate coach. Kenzie brings real insights to developing real and impactful conversations with children and young adults who have a variety of personality types. Kenzie and Kathy discuss actionable strategies that will build a foundation of conversation that you can build on each day.
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Hate Is Too Great a Burden to Bear with Laura and Colin Stevens
02/04/2021
Hate Is Too Great a Burden to Bear with Laura and Colin Stevens
Join Kathy today in a personal and emotionally honest conversation with her guests, Laura and Colin Stevens. Colin met Laura in college where he played basketball, and the two discuss how their relationship grew. They continue speaking to Kathy about being parents and having difficult conversations dealing with race, stereotypes, identity, empathy, and navigating those honest talks with our kids.
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Christy Keating - The Heartful Parent
01/28/2021
Christy Keating - The Heartful Parent
This show is all about helping parents and kids through difficult conversations. Well today's show is about some very difficult subjects and luckily Kathy has Christy Keating here to make it a little easier. Christy Keating is a former deputy prosecutor and now she is a speaker, parent coach and educator and sexual abuse prevention expert. Her website The Heartful Parent, is a goldmine of valuable information, education, and support in communicating with your children. Christy talks with Kathy about the child abuse materials, having "the talk," what consent really means, and much more. It's difficult thinking of your child as a sexual being, but the goal as parents is to have them feel empowered, safe and informed as they grow older and begin sexual relationships.
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Boys Alive with Janet Allison
01/21/2021
Boys Alive with Janet Allison
You treat all of your kids the same right? Not so fast. Boys and girls are different in many ways, and how they communicate and react is just the beginning. Janet Allison spent years of tireless work and research to bring incredible insight into the development and positive interaction with boys. Kathy welcomes Janet, the founder of Boys Alive, a phenomenal resource in how to best communicate with our sons, boys in class and even our dads. They delve deep into issues of how to best understand and unlock the way boys operate at home and at school. From feelings of anger, being "bad" or maturing at a different pace. Janet gives deep insights into how best to balance boys' place in the world.
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Parent Coaching with Sara Cole
01/14/2021
Parent Coaching with Sara Cole
Adoption is a gift to both couples and children. But this gift can come with unexpected challenges for all involved, and parents can often find themselves without the resources to help guide them through the hurdles they face. Kathy welcomes Sara Cole, an adoptive parent coach, to today's show to help direct parents in a positive and secure path for both them and their adopted children.
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Differently Wired with Debbie Reber
01/07/2021
Differently Wired with Debbie Reber
In our society we often divide people into those we view as "normal" and those that are different, challenging, or disruptive. But today's guest has devoted herself to changing our preconceived notions of "normal." Debbie Reber is the author of the incredible book, Differently Wired: Raising an Exceptional Child in a Conventional World. She is also the creator of Tilt Parenting, providing parents and families a wellspring of resources and education on successfully raising kids that may be "differently wired." Debbie reminds us that 20% of people have some sort of neurological atypicality, and these differences need to embraced instead of fixed. Find out more about Debbie and Tilt Parenting
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Gratitude and Hope
12/31/2020
Gratitude and Hope
This episode is releasing December 31st, 2020 and I think many of us are ready to kick this year in the rear! But before we do I'd like to express gratitude to the people that have made this year bearable, to the people who have to endure unthinkable loss and done it with grace and courage and express some hope for our future. Thank you for listening to Dealing and Feeling in 2020 and we can't wait to help you have better conversations with your family in 2021.
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Finding Peace and Common Ground with Sahmil Idriss
12/24/2020
Finding Peace and Common Ground with Sahmil Idriss
We live in a polarized country, and a conflict-filled world. But today on the show, Kathy welcomes a life-long friend who brings a world view to living more harmoniously together, no matter our differences. This episode originally aired July 16th, 2020 Sahmil Idriss is the CEO of Search For Common Ground. Their organization works to move populations from an adversarial approach to cooperating solutions and community building. This happens on an even smaller scale when we strive to listen and better understand those with different views than us. Plus! Hear a beautiful conversation from an 8 year old about being a champion for those that are different from us.
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The Pride Guide with Jo Langford
12/17/2020
The Pride Guide with Jo Langford
You cannot miss today's episode. Every listener has a connection with someone in the LGBTQA+ community, or they will at some point in their lives. Often people can be a bit hesitant or worried that they may not use the right terms when talking about someone who is transgender or non-binary, etc... Today's guest is here to bring some clarity and confidence to parents out there, with his book - The Pride Guide: A Guide to Sexual and Social Health for LGBTQ Youth. LGBTQ kids are so much more susceptible to bullying, depression, suicide, anxiety and more. And often that stems from how the people they are closest to in their lives accept them and treat them. This guide helps to make giving respect, love and understanding much easier, and could be life changing for families with LGBTQ children.
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The Redwine Family Hour - Anger
12/10/2020
The Redwine Family Hour - Anger
Today is another fun episode with the Redwine family, talking about a complex emotion - anger. We all feel it in varying degrees, and some deal with it responsibly and others have absolutely no control of it. Kathy and her family talk about the many facets of anger and how it can effect our bodies, health, relationships and kids. Kathy explains the importance of modeling appropriate actions with our children when anger may arise.
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Bodies and Boundaries with Amy Lang
12/03/2020
Bodies and Boundaries with Amy Lang
Have you ever caught your pre-schooler playing doctor with a friend and just yelled "Stop doing that!!!" and then never spoke about it again? Well you're not alone. But what do you say? What do you do? Kathy's guest today is here to give you all the information you need to know. Amy Lang is the author of Birds and Bees and Your Kids, and is a resource like none other on this subject. From birth to five years old, kids have a lot of curiosity about private parts. Their own, and yes, others. This may come out in spontaneous play, and it is important to remember that this is a natural part of development and how we react and communicate with our children at this stage, lays the groundwork for keeping an open dialogue on sexuality as they grow older.
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