Divorce University Online
Divorce is a life event that hits every aspect of your being: financial, emotional, physical, and mental. At Divorce University Online our mission is to give you the tools to navigate your divorce in a way that allows you to create the life of your dreams and helps you continue to succeed in your post-divorce challenges.
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Exchanging the Children
04/18/2024
Exchanging the Children
Exchanging the Children – Episode 287 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Even though exchanges of children generally happen one to three times per week depending on your parenting schedule, we rarely seem to talk about how to have them go smoothly. These exchanges are obviously stressful for divorcing or separating parents but they can be exponentially stressful for the children. In this episode, I’ll give you strategies to help ensure a smoother transition, less stress for you and less stress for your children. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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The Nature of the Narcissist
04/10/2024
The Nature of the Narcissist
The Nature of the Narcissist – Episode 286 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Understanding the nature of the narcissist is one of the keys to managing them effectively. Narcissists do not see the world the same way a non-narcissist sees the world. Our values and morals don’t typically match the values and morals of the narcissist. To win the game, you must understand the rules. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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3 Tips for Testifying in Your Child Custody Case
04/05/2024
3 Tips for Testifying in Your Child Custody Case
3 Tips for Testifying in Your Child Custody Case – Episode 285 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Giving testimony on the witness stand is one of the most stressful parts of a divorce or child custody case. But there are strategies you can use to help you stay calm and make a good impression on the Court. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Change of Circumstances in Child Custody
03/27/2024
Change of Circumstances in Child Custody
Change of Circumstances in Child Custody – Episode 284 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. How do you know if your child custody situation has a material or substantial change of circumstances? What are Judges looking for? In this episode, I’ll share some stories on past cases and talk about some of the more common circumstances that Judges tend to see as a substantial change. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Do Judges Understand Narcissism?
03/20/2024
Do Judges Understand Narcissism?
Do Judges Understand Narcissism? – Episode 283 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When you are dealing with a narcissistic or high conflict ex, it can be frustrating to try and get the Court to understand that your ex is a narcissist. If we could just get the Judge to understand what we’re dealing with, that would solve the problem, right? But, are we even asking the right question to start with? To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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False Allegations In Child Custody
03/13/2024
False Allegations In Child Custody
False Allegations In Child Custody – Episode 282 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Many parents deal with false allegations from the other parent. This can come in many forms. Sometimes, it comes through the child, sometimes we are dealing with it in our communication with the other parent, and sometimes, we are dealing with it in the courtroom. No matter what your situation, I’m going to share some tips to help you effectively deal with these false allegations while protecting your children and your sanity at the same time. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Overthinking In Child Custody
03/05/2024
Overthinking In Child Custody
Overthinking In Child Custody - Episode 281 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. If you are an overthinker like me, then you probably analyze everything your co-parent does or says. And you’re always trying to figure out their agenda. Overthinking would seem to give you a logical advantage but in reality, it often results in an emotional disadvantage. So, why do we do it? And can we stop? To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Narcissists vs. Empaths
02/28/2024
Narcissists vs. Empaths
Narcissists vs. Empaths - Episode 280 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. It is very common for a person that is an empath to end up in a relationship with someone with narcissistic qualities. The two people have often experienced similar childhood traumas but the effects of the trauma manifest in completely opposite ways. This is why the push and pull of the relationship tends to continue into coparenting relationships. The only way to break the pattern is to find healing and then begins with awareness. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Nesting in Child Custody
02/22/2024
Nesting in Child Custody
Nesting in Child Custody - Episode 279 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Nesting is a parenting arrangement where the children remain in the home and the parents rotate in and out. This is an uncommon arrangement and is rarely used by the Court. However, it can be necessary for financial arrangements or when you have an ill or special needs child. In any case, there are things you can do to improve your chance of success and many of the same strategies can be effective in regular parenting schedules that do not involve nesting. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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What Toddlers and Narcissists Have In Common
02/14/2024
What Toddlers and Narcissists Have In Common
What Toddlers and Narcissists Have In Common - Episode 278 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Many of the behaviors we experience with our toddlers are reflected in similar behaviors from narcissists. And while we expect bad behavior from our toddler, it’s not so cute once a person reaches adulthood. The good news is that we can learn effective strategies for dealing with a narcissist by looking at parenting techniques we use to handle our toddlers. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Why Narcissists Win In Court
02/07/2024
Why Narcissists Win In Court
Why Narcissists Win In Court - Episode 277 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Court can be a scary process when we are afraid that our ex will be able to charm and manipulate to get their way. And the Court does have limited time and resources to try and figure out what is going on in your case. But, there are things you can do to make it easier for the Court to see your ex’s true colors. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Have I Screwed Up My Case
01/30/2024
Have I Screwed Up My Case
Have I Screwed Up My Case - Episode 276 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We are all human. And when you’re going through a divorce or child custody case, you are a human under immense amount of stress. Unfortunately, we sometimes make mistakes that us feel like we’ve screwed up the entire situation and that we will never recover. But the good news is that people love a good redemption story. So, you can totally recover from the situation eventually if you are using the correct strategies moving forward. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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The Calm Before the Child Custody Storm
01/24/2024
The Calm Before the Child Custody Storm
The Calm Before the Child Custody Storm - Episode 275 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When dealing with a high-conflict co-parent, we often see cyclical patterns of behavior and emotions. So, when things are really calm or quiet, we are sometimes waiting for the other shoe to drop, so to speak. There are things we can do in the calm that will help prevent the storm, delay the storm, or at the very least, help us successfully weather the storm. To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Breaking Toxic Patterns in Child Custody
01/17/2024
Breaking Toxic Patterns in Child Custody
Breaking Toxic Patterns in Child Custody - Episode 274 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. We usually think of toxic patterns in the context of romantic relationships. When a relationship ends and there are children involved, we often see the toxic patterns of behavior continue through the co-parenting. If you weren’t able to break those patterns during the relationship, how can you break them now that trust is at an all-time low? To learn more about how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Weathering the Seasons of Child Custody
01/10/2024
Weathering the Seasons of Child Custody
Weathering the Seasons of Child Custody - Episode 273 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When we are struggling in our child custody and co-parenting situation, it often feels like the struggle will go on forever. But the only thing in life that is constant is change. And, like everything else, your child custody and co-parenting is a constantly evolving situation. Want to know what to expect? To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Breaking Up With Narcissism
01/04/2024
Breaking Up With Narcissism
Breaking Up With Narcissism - Episode 272 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When we are in a relationship with a Narcissist, we actually become addicted to this type of toxic relationship. Our body goes through chemical changes that are similar to addicts. In this episode, I’ll talk about how to stop the addictive cycle and break up with narcissism once and for all. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Does Grey Rocking a Narcissist Really Work?
12/20/2023
Does Grey Rocking a Narcissist Really Work?
Does Grey Rocking a Narcissist Really Work? - Episode 271 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. “Grey Rock” is a common technique for handling a narcissist. This technique has a lot of useful points such as disengaging, minimizing contact, and not reacting. However, the Court wants you to cooperate and support the other parent. So, how do you manage both? How do you have good boundaries that insulate you from narcissistic behaviors while also making your Judge happy? To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Presenting Evidence in Child Custody Court
12/14/2023
Presenting Evidence in Child Custody Court
Presenting Evidence in Child Custody Court - Episode 270 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. One of the most effective ways to present your evidence in Court is by telling the “story” of your case. Most people mistake this for lots of details and background but as they say, less is more. You have a handful of tools and limited time to help the Judge understand your situation well enough to make a decision. How you choose to use those resources will determine your custody outcome. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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3 Tips for Success in Child Custody Court
12/05/2023
3 Tips for Success in Child Custody Court
3 Tips for Success in Child Custody Court - Episode 269 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Almost everyone is nervous when speaking in Court, even attorneys. Whether you’re representing yourself or you have an attorney, it’s important to take steps to help you feel comfortable in the courtroom and successfully present your information to the Judge. Tune in as I share 3 time-tested strategies anyone can use to help them present confidently in Court. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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What Is Your Biggest Failure?
11/28/2023
What Is Your Biggest Failure?
What Is Your Biggest Failure? - Episode 268 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Failures in life happen to everyone and they can teach us some of our greatest life lessons. If you feel like you failed in your relationship, in your co-parenting, or even in your parenting, this episode is for you. Learning to take your failures and turn them to lessons can help you create a greater vision and purpose for your life. Failure is a stepping stone to victory, even in custody. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Narcissists Never Change
11/22/2023
Narcissists Never Change
Narcissists Never Change – Episode 267 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. When we deal with high-conflict personalities, we frequently think that if we choose the right words or the right logic to deal with them that it will change their behavior. Or, we hope that as they mature and learn lessons throughout life that they will become easier to deal with. However, the chances of narcissistic behaviors changing is practically nil and yet we continue to hold on to hope. Join me as I help you find solutions to this never-ending problem. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Reducing Conflict With A Narcissist
11/15/2023
Reducing Conflict With A Narcissist
Reducing Conflict With A Narcissist – Episode 266 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Reducing conflict is difficult to do with a co-parent but it becomes even more difficult when you are dealing with someone who has a high-conflict personality like a narcissist. In this episode, I’m going to share 5 tips that will help you to reduce conflict and increase peace with your narcissistic co-parent. This wisdom came from some writing Thomas had done and I felt compelled to share his wisdom with you. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Why Did You Choose A Narcissist?
11/08/2023
Why Did You Choose A Narcissist?
Why Did You Choose A Narcissist? – Episode 265 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Understanding why you chose a narcissistic partner is the key to not repeating the mistake! We are often looking to the other person to validate us, to shore up our insecurities or to make us feel better about ourselves. But as the relationship wears on, we often find ourselves with a person who is suddenly feeding every insecurity that we have about ourselves. You must do the work to discover your own cycle in order to avoid another toxic relationship. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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When Your Narcissistic Ex Lies In Court
11/01/2023
When Your Narcissistic Ex Lies In Court
When Your Narcissistic Ex Lies In Court – Episode 264 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Lies from the ex is without a doubt the most common complaint we hear from clients during the court process. Why does this happen and is there anything you can do about it? The solutions are often counter intuitive but there are steps you can take to help you rebut the lies. In this episode, I’ll give you five strategies to help combat the narcissists lies. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Understanding Discovery – Interrogatories, Subpoenas, Documents
10/24/2023
Understanding Discovery – Interrogatories, Subpoenas, Documents
Understanding Discovery – Interrogatories, Subpoenas, Documents – Episode 263 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Discovery is one of the most complex issues to understand in any divorce or child custody case. What is it? How do you respond to it? I’ll help shed some light on this topic so you can understand the basics and navigate how to respond to it. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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An Attorney for the Child in Custody Cases
10/18/2023
An Attorney for the Child in Custody Cases
An Attorney for the Child in Custody Cases – Episode 262 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. In child custody cases, the child will sometimes be assigned their own attorney. The attorney is called different things in different states but your biggest questions have less to do with the name and more to do with how to deal with this expert in your case. Sometimes, we want to know how to get an attorney assigned to our child or how to why this attorney was assigned to our case. Tune in to learn how to take advantage of having this expert in your case. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Defending Yourself Against Your Co-Parent
10/10/2023
Defending Yourself Against Your Co-Parent
Defending Yourself Against Your Co-Parent – Episode 261 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Do you live in defense mode and constantly wonder what you’re co-parent is trying to pull next? Or maybe you have constant stress and anxiety from dealing with them. Or you get that knot in the pit of your stomach every time you get a new message from them. And yet, you have to co-parent. In this episode, I’ll help you defend against your co-parent’s attacks and help you achieve inner peace in the process. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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4 Tips for Negotiating With A Narcissist
10/03/2023
4 Tips for Negotiating With A Narcissist
4 Tips for Negotiating With A Narcissist – Episode 260 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Negotiating with your ex is always tough but all the more when you are dealing with a high-conflict personality like a narcissist. There are always extra rules of “dos” and “don’ts” in these high conflict situations. Learning the top four will help put you on a path to successful negotiation of your case. After all, there is so much value in being done! To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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Child Custody Trials
09/26/2023
Child Custody Trials
Child Custody Trials – Episode 259 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. Having a court trial on any aspect of your case is stressful but child custody tends to produce lots of anxiety because it impacts your children. This episode is going to give you a big picture view of what to expect from the process. I will also share some resources on where you can find additional information specific to your state/county. We’ll also talk about giving testimony and general guidelines to follow in the court room. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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3 Ways to Get More Parenting Time
09/20/2023
3 Ways to Get More Parenting Time
3 Ways to Get More Parenting Time – Episode 258 of the Divorce University Online Podcast. If you want to get more parenting time with your kids, you have to start by understanding what the Court wants from you. If you aren’t doing your part, you most likely won’t succeed in getting more time. In this episode, I’ll give you 3 strategies to help increase your chances of getting more parenting time. To find out how I can support you in achieving success in your custody matter, please schedule a free strategy session at /vip-coaching. Thanks for listening!
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