Done For

The show that's all about two basic questions: 1) What leads to a good death? - and 2) What does that tell us about how to live a good life? Hosts Andrew Chirch, David Greenson, and Jessica Shine bring their different perspectives to an exploration of death and life. Funny, bittersweet, sad, and sometimes amazing.

Special Episode: Coronavirus 04/07/2020

Cultivate "Don't Know" Mind 12/10/2019

Find a Place of Rest in the Middle of Things 11/13/2019

Bring Your Whole Self to the Experience 11/06/2019

Welcome Everything, Push Away Nothing 10/30/2019

Welcome Everything, Push Away Nothing SHOW NOTES: This week we continue into the 2nd of Frank’s Invitations, Welcome Everything, Push Away Nothing. In this episode we continue sharing our personal experiences around each invitation, as well as challenging the application. Our conversation returns to two basic questions: 1) What leads to a good death? and 2) What does that tell us about how to live a good life? Listen in. Leave us a voicemail with your own thoughts. We may share on a future episode. RESOURCES: Ostaseski, Frank, The Five Invitations (Flatiron Books, 2017). Frank Ostaseski is an internationally respected Buddhist teacher and visionary cofounder of the Zen Hospice Project, and founder of the Metta Institute. He has lectured at Harvard Medical School, the Mayo Clinic, Wisdom.2.0 and teaches at major spiritual centers around the globe. Frank is the 2018 recipient of the prestigious Humanities Award from the American Academy of Hospice and Palliative Medicine. What is Zen? A Japanese school of Buddhism that emphasizes meditation and intuition. Suicide Hotline We can all help prevent suicide. The Lifeline provides 24/7, free and confidential support for people in distress, prevention and crisis resources for you or your loved ones, and best practices for professionals. Substance Abuse SAMHSA’s National Helpline is a free, confidential, 24/7, 365-day-a-year treatment referral and information service (in English and Spanish) for individuals and families facing mental and/or substance use disorders. 1800-662-HELP. Let It Go, Idina Menzel, from Andy’s favorite film: (2013) Toxic Masculinity is what David hints at when he talks about the pressures men often feel in our current societal norms. Wikipedia says “The concept of toxic masculinity refers to certain cultural norms that are associated with harm to society and to themselves. Traditional stereotypes of men as socially dominant, along with related traits such as and , can be considered "toxic" due in part to their promotion of violence, including and . The socialization of boys often normalizes violence, such as in the saying "boys will be boys" with regard to and aggression.” White fragility and oppression are described in this great resource: Robin DiAngelo, White Fragility: Why It's So Hard for White People to Talk About Racism (Beacon Press, 2018). The Princess Bride. Directed by Rob Reiner. 20th Century Fox, 1999. The Impressive Clergyman: Mawage. Mawage is wot bwings us togeder today. Mawage, that bwessed awangment, that dweam wifin a dweam ... And wuv, tru wuv, will fowow you foweva ... So tweasure your wuv. Olympic Judges: this is a surprisingly challenging occupation, our apologies to the Russian judges. Learn more about Andrew Chirch, David Greenson, and Jessica Shine /episode/index/show/donefor/id/11763623

Don't Wait! 10/24/2019

Don't Wait! WE’RE BACK for SEASON TWO…. IT’S DONE FOR! EPISODE 1: This season, we've selected the book The Five Invitations by Frank Ostaseski. We jump right into episode 1 with the first Invitation: Don’t Wait. We’ll continue to circle back to our foundational questions: 1) What leads to a good death? and 2) What does that tell us about how to live a good life? Listen in as we continue the conversation, and tell us how you’re answering these questions. If you like this, tell someone! Please help us out by sharing it and spreading the conversation. RESOURCES: The Five Invitations (Flatiron Books, 2017) by Frank Ostaseski. Frank Ostaseski is an internationally respected Buddhist teacher and visionary cofounder of the Zen Hospice Project, and founder of the Metta Institute. He has lectured at Harvard Medical School, the Mayo Clinic, Wisdom.2.0 and teaches at major spiritual centers around the globe. Frank is the 2018 recipient of the prestigious Humanities Award from the American Academy of Hospice and Palliative Medicine. Frank's groundbreaking work has been featured on the Bill Moyers PBS series On Our Own Terms, highlighted on The Oprah Winfrey Show, and honored by H.H. the Dalai Lama. He is the author of The Five Invitations: Discovering What Death Can Teach Us About Living Fully. in Berkeley, CA is where the 3 of us met and began to share our stories. The Chaplaincy Institute is an Interfaith Community and Seminary that strives to create a just world that honors the sacred connection of all. Find out more at www.chaplaincyinstitute.org. “Churchianity” was actually a term Jessica first learned from the Rev. Dr Megan Wagner. is a global resource of open, intelligent, and collaborative approaches to the Christian tradition and the life and teachings of Jesus that creates a pathway into an authentic and relevant religious experience. Shower the People, James Taylor (June 1976) It turns out Jessica is way better at this than even she thought! Well, with the exception of re-writing this James Taylor classic with new words. Fundamentalism: despite the first three letters indicating an emphasis on ‘fun’, fundamentalism in many forms (religious and non-religious) can be damaging. We hope if you’ve experienced that kind of trauma, that you will share your story and continue to listen. Book Club Questions: One of our dear listeners (and Jessica’s BFF) wrote a guide for this season. : (link to pdf attached) Also, it turns out Frank has developed a guide that can be found at: Atlas: The Atlas personality, drawing on the myth of the giant Atlas from Greek mythology upholding the world, is someone obliged to take on adult responsibilities prematurely. They are thus liable to develop a pattern of compulsive caregiving in later life. Female Playwrights: yeah, there are a lot of these David. Take your pick… an ditch the white dudes. Annie Baker, Lisa D’Amour, Sarah DeLappe, Margaret Edson, Liz Flahive, Amy Freed, Madeleine George, Rebecca Gilman, Gina Gionfriddo, DW Gregory, Danai Gurira, Leslye Headland, Amy Herzog, Quiara Alegria Hudes, Lucy Kirkwood, Young Jean Lee, Jennifer Maisel, Martyna Majok, Lynn Nottage, Antoinette Nwandu, Suzan-Lori Parks, Theresa Rebeck, Yasmina Reza, Sarah Ruhl, Laura Shamas, Lisa B Thompson, Lucy Thurber, Joyce VanDyke, Paula Vogel, Anne Washburn. Thanks to theatrenerds.com Anne Lammott first used the phrase “shitty first drafts” in her book Bird by Bird (1995) to emphasize why perfectionism can kill creativity. Learn more about Andrew Chirch, David Greenson, and Jessica Shine at DoneForPodcast.com /episode/index/show/donefor/id/11763356