The Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast
Many pastors and church leaders today feel overwhelmed, exhausted, and frustrated that their churches don’t seem to be making mature disciples. The Emotionally Healthy Leader Podcast explores the paradigms and practices leaders need to transform their church culture and multiply deeply changed disciples.
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Names Before Numbers: The Dramatic Shift True Shepherds Must Make
11/26/2024
Names Before Numbers: The Dramatic Shift True Shepherds Must Make
🎄Christmas Sermon Prep Webinar - Join me for a FREE webinar on Dec. 5th at 2 pm ET to learn about preaching a Christmas message that deeply changes lives. --------------------------- The truth is, you can’t shepherd numbers. You can only shepherd names. And yet, in a culture obsessed with metrics, many leaders feel trapped, measuring success by attendance, budgets, and fast growth rather than the flourishing of the people God has entrusted to them. In this episode, Pete unpacks the heart of biblical shepherding—leading with Jesus’ love, slowing down to be present, and praying over the specific names God has placed under your care. He explains how this dramatic shift, though countercultural and painfully slow, leads to a deeply transformative and spacious life for both shepherds and sheep. If you’re longing to move beyond hurried leadership into a ministry marked by patience, prayer, and personal connection, this episode is for you. Pete shares four practical ways to shepherd like Jesus and invites you to reflect: Who is on your list?
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Declaring the Word of the Lord in Anxious Times
11/12/2024
Declaring the Word of the Lord in Anxious Times
🕯️Christmas Sermon Prep Webinar - Join me for a FREE webinar on Dec. 5th at 2 pm ET to learn how to craft a powerful Christmas message that deeply changes lives. (without losing your soul) --------------------------- In today’s episode, we’re diving into a theme that should resonate with pastors and leaders all around the world. Reflecting on the life and ministry of John the Baptist, we’ll explore how to speak with conviction and clarity amidst a world overwhelmed by fear, information overload, and shifting power structures. John’s world was much like ours—fraught with political unrest, corrupt leaders, and widespread anxiety. And yet, it was to him, a voice in the wilderness, that God’s Word came. He shows us that real leadership doesn’t come from platforms or applause but from a place of inner surrender, courage, and freedom from people’s approval. This episode will challenge you to lead with authenticity and to center your life on a slower, deeper spirituality. If you’re feeling called to renew your heart and strengthen your church’s culture in the midst of today’s chaos, join us as we learn from John the Baptist’s powerful, countercultural example. Listen in to reorient, refocus, and be inspired to become an instrument in God’s hands.
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The Key to Unlock Passionate Mission in Every Member of Your Church
10/29/2024
The Key to Unlock Passionate Mission in Every Member of Your Church
🗓️ Discover the Sabbath - Download a free e-book to learn the 4 countercultural practices of a biblical Sabbath day. --------------------------- Today, pastors and leaders are grappling with burnout, shallowness in discipleship, and a waning passion for God’s mission. On today’s episode, I share some insights that have transformed the way I view mission and ministry—insights rooted in Celtic Christian spirituality. Geri and I just returned from a two-week journey through Ireland, where we had the privilege of meeting with pastors and church leaders in both Belfast and Dublin. This trip refreshed us in so many ways, especially in reconnecting with the powerful legacy of St. Patrick. I believe that St. Patrick’s life and leadership are a map to rekindle the fire of mission that flows from a deep, inner life with God—an “overflowing cup” that sustains outward action. Through Patrick’s leadership, the Celtic church rooted themselves in prayer, community, and a mission-focused monastic life. In doing so, they transformed an entire nation. This is one of the missing keys that I believe will unlock passionate, world-changing mission in every member of our churches.
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The Power of a Hidden Life (Leadership Lessons from Elijah) Pt. 2
10/15/2024
The Power of a Hidden Life (Leadership Lessons from Elijah) Pt. 2
⏰ DAILY OFFICE STARTER GUIDE - The Daily Office is an ancient practice to help you stop 2 - 3 times a day to quiet yourself and be with Jesus. --------------------------- For most leaders, success is based on numbers, influence, and impact. But the life of Elijah teaches us something different. On today’s podcast, we continue our journey in Part 2 of The Power of a Hidden Life: Leadership Lessons from Elijah. We’ll explore a profound truth often overlooked in leadership: before we stand on large platforms or lead others, our inner life with God must be well-rooted and established. Elijah’s story in 1 Kings 17-19 reveals that God shapes leaders in the quiet, hidden places—like the cave—long before the public victories. We'll dive into Elijah's time of hiddenness, fed by ravens and a widow, as God worked in his soul. These hidden seasons are critical because they teach us to lead from a place of deep connection with God, not simply from activity or impact. Elijah teaches us that success is about discerning the voice of God, not the pressures of Western values. Take a deep breath, let God care for you, and allow His abundance to overflow into every part of your life!
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The Power of a Hidden Life (Leadership Lessons from Elijah) Pt. 1
10/01/2024
The Power of a Hidden Life (Leadership Lessons from Elijah) Pt. 1
✅ DAILY OFFICE STARTER GUIDE - The Daily Office is an ancient practice to help you stop 2 - 3 times a day to quiet yourself and be with Jesus. --------------------------- In today’s chaotic and disorienting world, where leaders face intense challenges, Elijah’s life offers us profound wisdom. Whether you lead a ministry, organization, or family, Elijah’s hidden life with God speaks to the core of how we navigate leadership in tumultuous times. In 1 Kings 19, Elijah faced overwhelming exhaustion, fear, and disillusionment after pouring out his heart in service to God. As a fugitive, fleeing from Jezebel’s threats, he reached his breaking point—ready to give up entirely. It’s here, in the wilderness, that God met him in a way that transformed his leadership and life. God didn’t fix Elijah’s problems immediately or offer a grand inspirational speech. Instead, He invited Elijah into the stillness and silence in the cave at Mount Horeb. In today’s podcast episode, we’ll reflect on how entering our own “caves” of silence can transform not only our leadership but also our relationship with God.
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How to Grow a Flourishing Ministry Without Losing Your Soul
09/17/2024
How to Grow a Flourishing Ministry Without Losing Your Soul
✅ PREVIEW THE COURSE - Ready to introduce your church to Emotionally Healthy Discipleship? Preview our game-changing discipleship course for FREE and find the right time to run it in your church. --------------------------- As leaders, we have an internal drive to see our ministries flourish. We have a vision for our churches, families, marriages, and cities to experience the resurrection life of Jesus. That’s why we do what we do! Also, many of us know how easy it is for our God-given ambition to be hijacked by our shadows, fears, and insecurities. The truth is - it's possible to build a large ministry, but in the process, lose your soul. On today’s podcast, I hit this topic head-on and share with you 5 MUSTS for growing a flourishing ministry without losing your soul.
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5 Distinctives of an Emotionally Healthy Staff Meeting
09/03/2024
5 Distinctives of an Emotionally Healthy Staff Meeting
✅ [FREE VIDEO] Learn a 5-part framework for communicating with others --------------------------- Staff meetings, like it or not, are a critical building block for an emotionally healthy church culture. Over the years, I have learned that staff meetings are a powerful opportunity to bring encouragement, clarify roles, and learn how to be with Jesus together. There are books written about how to have a productive or efficient staff meeting, but in today’s podcast, I take a different approach. I’ve identified 5 ways to cultivate emotional health in your regular meetings.
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Pt. 2: 4 Invitations from God in Our Politically Charged World
08/20/2024
Pt. 2: 4 Invitations from God in Our Politically Charged World
✅ [FREE E-BOOK] LeaderSHIFT: 8 Pivotal Breakthroughs of Emotionally Healthy Leaders --------------------------- All around the world, there is an electrical charge surging through the minds and hearts of the people we lead. Our political climate has made this another difficult, yet important time to pastor and lead well. So how do we navigate politics personally AND from the pulpit without falling prey to the common traps of both sides of the aisle? In this podcast episode (Part 2 of 2), I share what I believe are 4 invitations from God to the Church in this moment. Within these invitations are keys for us to lead with grace, steadiness, and wisdom, as we pastor our churches through this storm.
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Pt. 1: 4 Invitations from God in Our Politically Charged World
08/06/2024
Pt. 1: 4 Invitations from God in Our Politically Charged World
✅ [FREE E-BOOK] LeaderSHIFT: 8 Pivotal Breakthroughs of Emotionally Healthy Leaders --------------------------- All around the world, there is an electrical charge surging through the minds and hearts of the people we lead. Our political climate has made this another difficult, yet important time to pastor and lead well. So how do we navigate politics personally AND from the pulpit without falling prey to the common traps of both sides of the aisles? In this podcast episode (Part 1 of 2), I share what I believe are 4 invitations from God to the Church in this moment. Within these invitations are keys for us to lead with grace, steadiness, and wisdom, as we pastor our churches through this storm.
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The Great Leader Shift the World is Waiting For
07/23/2024
The Great Leader Shift the World is Waiting For
✅ [FREE E-BOOK] LeaderSHIFT: 8 Pivotal Breakthroughs of Emotionally Healthy Leaders --------------------------- As a young leader, I wanted so badly to succeed. I wanted to pastor a growing church, and preach the best sermons in town. I wanted to grow our ministries – bigger, better, and more influentual. To this end, I was told by leadership experts to develop my skills and competencies. I learned to preach and vision cast, to exegete the scriptures, do effective evangelism, lead staff meetings, and launch small groups. But over time these outward facing competencies became a WEIGHT that squeezed the life out of me. To make a long story short, this is what catalyzed a complete revolution in me. I knew that I (and we) needed a massive shift in our leadership paradigm. On today's podcast, we explore the GREAT SHIFT we need.
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How to Transition Well from Your Endings into New Beginnings
07/09/2024
How to Transition Well from Your Endings into New Beginnings
✅ [FREE E-BOOK] LeaderSHIFT: 8 Pivotal Breakthroughs of Emotionally Healthy Leaders --------------------------- Loss, change, and transition are all around us. Yet, one of the lesser-known practices of emotionally healthy leadership is learning how to let go and transition from one season to the next. Throughout our lives there are countless endings and new beginnings that invite us to pay attention: Closing a chapter of life, Leaving one church and joining a new one, Starting a new job or role, Moving away or into a new home, Changing relationships, Succession and release of leadership In every transition, there are gifts waiting to be discovered if we are able to slow down and reflect in gratitude. When we rush through transitions, giving little thought to what is happening, we actually miss out on the hidden ways God is trying to come to us. In this podcast, I explore this theme further and share insights on how we can navigate transitions well.
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Rethinking What It Means to Be a Pastor or Leader in 2024
06/25/2024
Rethinking What It Means to Be a Pastor or Leader in 2024
---------------------- Churches have all kinds of expectations of pastors and church leaders. There is a certain pressure that you must be able to cast vision, teach and preach, lead and inspire staff and volunteers, build teams, and keep ministry momentum in all areas. The problem? Everything on this list is EXTERNAL. Very few churches and pastors see their INTERNAL life with God as part of their job description. For this reason, we must become increasingly serious about leading from a deep inner life with God (not just gifting and skill). On today's podcast, I will share some of what I've been sharing with many pastors. How we should design every part of our lives (rest, work, prayer, and relationships) around the love of God.
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Emotionally Healthy Parenting, Pt. 2: Four Ways to Make a Lasting Impact
06/11/2024
Emotionally Healthy Parenting, Pt. 2: Four Ways to Make a Lasting Impact
🎯 SKILLS FOR FAMILIES: Learn a powerful 5-part conversation tool and teach your family. --------------------------- It's time we dispel a myth...there are NO perfect parents. Geri and I have been parenting for 39 years, and we are still learning as we go. Every age and stage of life presents opportunities and challenges. The key is to continue in the direction of good parenting, even if you make mistakes along the way. Today, Geri joins me for part two of a podcast where we explore one of the most challenging leadership tasks on earth – emotionally healthy parenting. Together, we cover 4 critical parenting issues: Why YOU are your child's biggest problem (and what to do about that) How to create a SAFE environment in your home Why CONNECTION is more important than rules The importance of knowing your POWER with your children
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Emotionally Healthy Parenting, Pt. 1: A Radical Approach to a Difficult Task
05/28/2024
Emotionally Healthy Parenting, Pt. 1: A Radical Approach to a Difficult Task
🎯 SKILLS FOR FAMILIES: Learn a powerful 5-part conversation tool and teach your family. --------------------------- Today, we're tackling a relatively untouched topic on the podcast. Parenting. Why parenting on a leadership podcast? Among your many roles as a leader, one of the most important (and difficult) relationships is parents and children. The truth is – whether biological, adopted, or spiritual children, we all are called to raise up the next generation. The reality is – without deep inner work and awareness, parents always repeat exactly as they were parented. You will parent the same way unless you intentionally change your family pattern. You’ve heard the Proverb, “Train up a child in the way they should go." (Proverbs 22:6) Emotionally healthy parenting says, “Train up a parent in the way he or she should go.” Today is part one of a two-part series on the longest-lasting relationships you will lead in your entire life. This is for parents with kids of all ages - infant, adolescent, teenager, and adult.
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7 Qualities of an Emotionally Healthy Church Board
05/14/2024
7 Qualities of an Emotionally Healthy Church Board
🎯 FREE TEAM TRAINING: Grow a healthy team culture with our team transformation videos --------------------------- One of the most difficult and nuanced callings is serving as a board member of a church or ministry. This role is both legal and spiritual, affecting the entire church culture. Very few are trained to do it well. Sadly, often it is only after a crisis or scandal that people realize the "Board" was not really functioning, trained, or doing what they were entrusted to do. But the truth is – that healthy, thriving, flourishing churches have healthy, thriving, flourishing boards. In today's podcast episode, I outline the 7 must-have qualities for building an emotionally healthy board. When your board gets these 7 things right, everyone in your church wins for the long haul.
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How (and How Not) to Choose Your Next 3 and 12 Disciples
04/30/2024
How (and How Not) to Choose Your Next 3 and 12 Disciples
📺 FREE WEBINAR: Develop High-Impact Leaders in Your Church Get a roadmap to disciple the next generation of leaders. Register for the next webinar: ---------------------------- Pastors and leaders want to make an exponential impact for Jesus. We often spend our energy on what will affect the most amount of people. So we prepare cutting-edge weekend services, craft sermons for large groups, publish social posts that we hope will have a viral reach, all while squeezing in time for people when we can. But when we look at the life of Jesus, we see that he focused his time on a few. In fact, he turned the world upside-down by concentrating his ministry on 12 men! In today's podcast, I answer common questions like "How do I choose just 3 or 12 disciples?", "Who should I be looking for? (and, who should I avoid?), and "What do I actually do with them?" This is not easy and fast work, but when we get this right, the church will be transformed.
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5 Relationships Every Leader Needs to Flourish
04/16/2024
5 Relationships Every Leader Needs to Flourish
---------------------------- The quality of the people who surround you will determine the success of your leadership. Because there is undeniable loneliness in leadership, it is ever more important that we evaluate our relationships on a regular basis. Sadly, far too many pastors and leaders choose to go it alone, or surround themselves with foolish counsel (in the form of wrong relationships) That's why in today's podcast, I explore the five types of relationships you need in your life in order to flourish as a leader or pastor. Honestly, I wish I had this list 30 years ago. It would have saved me from confusion, foolish decision-making, and unnecessary isolation!
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The Loneliness of Leadership
04/02/2024
The Loneliness of Leadership
✅ FREE EMOTIONAL HEALTH ASSESSMENT: In 15 Minutes, Discover How Emotionally Mature You Are ---------------------------- In this episode, we explore a topic that's as old as leadership itself: the loneliness that often accompanies the role of leadership. From the slowness of change to the weight of difficult decisions, from the sting of criticism to the ache of betrayal, leadership can often feel like a solitary journey. But we can take heart because all throughout the Scriptures leaders have grappled with this very same loneliness. And yet, loneliness can become destructive when it turns into isolation. In today's episode, I share 4 critical steps that leaders must take to navigate loneliness while remaining healthy and whole.
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Staying Steadfast Through the Fires of Leadership
03/19/2024
Staying Steadfast Through the Fires of Leadership
📣 FREE E-BOOK: 8 Practices of Emotionally Healthy Preaching & Teaching 🌟 Learn the essential practices to deliver sermons with depth and power. ---------------------------- Leadership is a crucible through which God is changing YOU into a new kind of person. Throughout your leadership journey you will be taken through a series of fires or tests from God that exists to purify you from the inside out. In today's podcast, I share about the many tests you WILL encounter if you haven't already. If you are not prepared for these tests, you will stumble and drown in discouragement. If you are prepared for these tests, you will be transformed into the image of Christ.
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The Secret Ingredient that Unlocks a Radical Church Community
03/05/2024
The Secret Ingredient that Unlocks a Radical Church Community
A course won't change your church. Neither will a book, a podcast, or a sermon series. So the question is, how do people truly change? This is a question every pastor and leader needs to answer. Over the years of my pastoral ministry, and even today, one thing I've noticed is how often we UNDERESTIMATE the personal time, presence, and intentionality it takes to disciple people into transformation in Jesus. True change is slow because it is relational. Change does not happen on an assembly line. Over the past several weeks on the podcast, I've shared with you the importance of reclaiming - one that is not rushed, crammed, or overscheduled. Many leaders are coming to understand this as it relates to their PERSONAL life and walk with God. But today I want to share with you about creating spaciousness for OTHERS. I believe it's the secret ingredient our churches need to experience deep communal fruitfulness.
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Tune In and Let Go: Lessons from the Prayer Life of Jesus
02/20/2024
Tune In and Let Go: Lessons from the Prayer Life of Jesus
As leaders, we know that PRAYER is the heartbeat of life in Christ. But often, our vision of prayer can become lop-sided, leading to a heavy weight on our shoulders. For my first 17 years as a Christian, I had a one-dimensional view of prayer. I thought prayer was a tool I was supposed to use to make God's kingdom come. So I would devote 6-8 hours a week in prayer meetings, interceding for revival and believing that unless I prayed, God wouldn't come. I thought that was what Jesus called us to. But over time I learned to see something different in the prayer life of Jesus. The gospel of Luke highlights a way of being with God that is less about striving and more about attunement. It is true that prayer DOES require perseverance and devotion, but for reasons different than we think. In today's podcast we explore the prayer life of Jesus and what that means for us today.
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Break Free from the Deadly Temptation of Self-Promotion
02/06/2024
Break Free from the Deadly Temptation of Self-Promotion
Leaders in a digital age face a unique pressure to always be in front. Our social media platforms entice us to be seen, to be recognized, and to be liked. Underneath this is a lie that to be hidden is to be forgotten, and to be unknown is to be unloved. This is why one of the greatest temptations leaders face is self-promotion. Even Jesus faced this very temptation in the wilderness, yet rightly perceived it as a deadly trap from the evil one. Like Jesus, we must resist the many ways we are tempted to elevate our name and ministries into prominence. Is all self-promotion really sinful? Aren't we called to reach people? How do we live and lead publicly without being robbed of joy and contentment? I address these questions and more on today's podcast episode.
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Put a STOP on Your Hurried, Rushed Life
01/23/2024
Put a STOP on Your Hurried, Rushed Life
In 2024, church leaders will be sifted left and right. Mature from immature. Wise from foolish. Substantial from surface level. This I know – the most effective leaders (and the ones worth following) will draw a line in the sand and put a full stop to accepting a rushed, cluttered, and constricted life. They will reject speed, crowds, and noise in favor of a graceful, unrushed way of life. I call this lifestyle "spaciousness". It's one of the secret weapons of true spiritual mothers and fathers of the faith. On today's podcast, I explore the theme of spaciousness, making applications for how leaders can resist the way of the world, and decisively shift into a new way of life with Jesus.
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The Radical Decision Every Leader Must Make in 2024
01/09/2024
The Radical Decision Every Leader Must Make in 2024
Leaders in 2024 are facing pressures and challenges greater than any other in my lifetime. Elections, wars, rumors of wars, economic pressure, global instability, scandals, artificial intelligence, etc. This may seem overwhelming, but there is a unique opportunity before us. As leaders, this will require the decision to radically re-align ourselves to God's purposes and plans in the world today. On today's podcast, I share some personal reflections on what I believe "radical realignment" looks like and then offer 3 specific invitations from God in this season.
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The Kind of Fighting Every Church Needs
12/26/2023
The Kind of Fighting Every Church Needs
As we approach 2024, there couldn't be a better time to revisit your discipleship strategy. Here's why... In North America, we are ramping up towards another election year. For most Americans, this has become a time of increased anxiety, stress, and relational volatility. As a culture, we lack the tools to have difficult conversations (especially political ones) without resorting to blaming, name-calling, avoiding, and "dirty fighting." Sadly, we do this in the church as well. For the first 17 years of my Christian walk, this was all I ever knew. I simply mirrored what I learned from my family of origin. My mother yelled and screamed. My father was an appeaser who later exploded in anger. I learned to become an appeaser, which cost me dearly in my marriage, leadership, and church. For both Geri and I, we had to completely re-learn what it looks like to fight (and negotiate differences) in the new family of Jesus. We now call this skill "Clean Fighting Vs. Dirty Fighting". I'm convinced every pastor, leader, and church needs this one skill to flourish in 2024. In today's podcast episode, my wife Geri and I share more about the ins and outs of "Clean Fighting", the final and most important skill of .
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Staying Grounded When People Are Driving You Crazy
12/12/2023
Staying Grounded When People Are Driving You Crazy
We're in the thick of the holiday season – a time full of joy, yet jam-packed with people, parties, and productions. This season has a dizzying effect on everyone - but especially leaders. One temptation is to put a smile on our face while skimming over the frustrations, disappointments, and other inner workings of our souls. We have people and situations that are bothering us at a core level, but rather than leaning into difficult and heartfelt conversations, we choose instead to avoid them. When we do this, we step out of integrity. This was how I operated for years as a pastor. I had people that were getting under my skin, but no tools to communicate what I was feeling in a healthy way. I chose instead to pretend I was feeling one way when secretly I was angry. Take a moment to reflect. Is there a situation that is bothering you? A staff member is chronically late to team meetings Your children are texting during a family meal A volunteer is saying they are doing their role, but they clearly are not A church elder or board member is living a non-exemplary life Someone dropped the ball on getting out promotions for your Christmas Eve service. Chances are, you have plenty of other examples. To live and lead with integrity, we must be able to disentangle our emotions and values so we communicate them to others in a healthy way. This is why my wife Geri and I developed a tool called the "Ladder of Integrity". It's a series of questions that we use to identify our emotions, values, and hopes. This allows us to communicate to others with clarity and kindness. In today's podcast episode, my wife Geri and I share more about climbing the Ladder of Integrity, an essential skill of .
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The One Skill That Will Make or Break Your Life and Leadership
11/28/2023
The One Skill That Will Make or Break Your Life and Leadership
To be an emotionally healthy leader requires many skills, practices, and rhythms. Over the last several weeks, we've explored many relationship skills that are non-negotiable for leaders. But if there is just ONE skill I'm convinced every leader must master, it's "Incarnational Listening." David Augsberger wrote, “Being heard is so close to being loved that for the average person they are almost indistinguishable.” When you master this relationship skill, Your spouse and friends will feel seen and heard. Your staff and volunteers will feel like you get them. Your church will experience you as compassionate and present. Your love for others will grow exponentially. In today's podcast episode, my wife Geri and I share more about the skill of "Incarnational Listening" that is a part of . I want to encourage you. This is one of the toughest skills to do well, but when you stick with it, I guarantee you it will change everything.
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Why Bottling Up Emotions Kills Spiritual Growth
11/14/2023
Why Bottling Up Emotions Kills Spiritual Growth
For the first 17 years of my Christian life, my emotional life was completely divorced from my spiritual life. Or so I thought. When sadness, anger, or disappointment surfaced from my soul, I did not see them as gifts. As a leader, I saw my emotions as interruptions to "my real work" – moving the church forward and reaching the lost! As a result, I was not present with myself, with God, or with others. I saw my sadness as something to be overcome through prayer and Scripture. I would declare, "the joy of the Lord is my strength!" while ignoring the deep cries of my heart. The truth is that emotions never die. They are only buried alive. They always resurface, leaking into other parts of our lives and relationships. It took a work of God for this to change in my life and marriage. When my wife Geri and I discovered the permission to explore our emotional life, it was like opening up a dam. The world went from black and white to color almost overnight. Emotionally healthy leaders see their emotions as invitations, not obstacles to the mission of God. The fruit of this journey leads to less anxiety and more freedom in our lives, leadership, and relationships. In today's podcast episode, my wife Geri and I share more about the skill of emotional discovery we call "Explore the Iceberg" in . Bottom line, your emotional life is a matter of life and death!
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The High Stakes Decision to Transform Your History into a Great Future
10/31/2023
The High Stakes Decision to Transform Your History into a Great Future
Leaders, by definition, are captivated by the future – moving forward, making progress, and changing the world. But what many leaders fail to appreciate is that we are all anchored in our past. In other words, none of us are "blank slates". We each bring the blessings and curses of our families of origin (Exodus 20:5) into our relationships, churches, organizations, and businesses. Emotionally healthy leaders understand that you cannot go forward without first going backward. That is why the GENOGRAM is one of the core tools in both parts of the . When I became a Christian, I believed I was a "new creation" (2 Cor. 5:17) and that I no longer needed to deal with my past. However, when I discovered the genogram tool, I found a new way to bring all of the baggage of my family of origin to Jesus to be changed. The truth is – you cannot change what you are unaware of. In today's podcast episode, Geri and I share our history with this powerful tool and how it helped us name the reality of our past to catalyze the transforming work of Jesus in our lives and leadership. Don't miss this one!
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The Life-Saving Practice of Clarifying Expectations
10/17/2023
The Life-Saving Practice of Clarifying Expectations
When was the last time someone let you down? Or can you think of a recent moment where YOU let someone else down? I'll bet the catalyst of these disappointments comes down to one thing - unmet expectations. The truth is – unclear and unmet expectations have the power to rip apart relationships, divide staff teams, blow up families, and sink entire churches. That's why expectations are a matter of life and death! There are 4 primary ways expectations go wrong: Your expectation is unconscious. You didn't even know you had an expectation until it was violated. Your expectation is unrealistic. It is not reasonable given the person or circumstance. Your expectation is unspoken. You did not clearly articulate your expectation to another person. Your expectation is un-agreed upon. The other person never agreed to follow-through with your expectation. The good news is – this can all be remedied by learning the life-saving skill of Clarifying Expectations. On today's podcast, I'm joined by my wife Geri, as we explore the third of that every leader must adopt in order to love and lead like Jesus. Take a listen to today's podcast.
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