Expedition Marriage with Chris & Jamie Bailey

Welcome to the Expedition Marriage Podcast! We’re glad you’re here! We're Chris and Jamie Bailey, and we are Christian counselors and marriage coaches. We’re here to help you put God in the center of your marriage by sharing some solid biblical truth, along with some practical marriage tips. So, no matter where you’re at in your marriage, start getting excited, because we’re here to help you Enjoy the Journey!

Ep. 171: Our Trials. His Testimony: Finding Hope and Redemption Through the Hardest Seasons of Our Marriage 02/19/2026

Ep. 170: Why Christian Couples Stop Talking and How to Fix It 02/12/2026

Ep. 169: Do You Feel Special in Your Marriage? 02/05/2026

Ep. 169: Do You Feel Special in Your Marriage? Most spouses know they’re loved. But far fewer actually feel special. In this episode, we talk about the subtle but powerful difference between being loved and being chosen, noticed, and delighted in, and why that distinction matters more than we realize in marriage. We explore how unspoken affection, good intentions, and sacrifices can unintentionally leave a spouse feeling overlooked, even in an otherwise healthy relationships. And we offer practical, biblical ways to help your spouse experience not just love, but intentional care and honor. This episode is an invitation to slow down, become more aware, and make small shifts that can deeply strengthen your connection. 🧭 Inside the Episode: The difference between feeling loved and feeling special Common, unintentional ways spouses neglect emotional connection Why waiting to express love often diminishes its impact How time, attention, and shared burdens communicate value Why explaining your motivation matters, especially when sacrifices are misunderstood Simple ways to help your spouse feel seen, prioritized, and cherished 🎁 Free Resource: We created a simple, meaningful way to speak life over your spouse that only takes 1 minute! 👉 Download our free 60-Second Blessing Sheet here: It’s designed to help you intentionally affirm, encourage, and bless your spouse in under a minute. ☕ Something We Love: One small way we slow down and connect is over a warm cup of chai. We love Bhakti chai tea because it’s organic, driven by a mission and owned by people we know! 👉 Bhakti Chai Tea on Amazon: This is an Amazon affiliate link, which means we may earn a small commission at no extra cost to you. We only share things we genuinely use and love. Make time for a Chai Chat this week. Cozy up together over a cup of chai and have this conversation: Do you feel loved by me? Do you feel special? What is something I can do to make you feel more special? Final Encouragement: Feeling special doesn’t come from grand gestures. It comes from consistent attention, clear communication, and intentional love. If this episode encouraged you, we’d be so grateful if you: Shared it with your spouse or a friend Left a review Or subscribed so you don’t miss future episodes We’re cheering you on as you continue growing together. — Chris & Jamie Expedition Marriage /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/40000805

Ep. 168: The War Inside Your Marriage - And How to Win It Together 01/29/2026

Ep. 168: The War Inside Your Marriage - And How to Win It Together The War Inside Your Marriage - And How to Win It Together What if the biggest battle in your marriage isn’t between you and your spouse? In this episode, we’re unpacking the real war happening inside every marriage, which is the internal battles of pride, self-protection, fear, past wounds, and unmet desires that sabotage connection. Before you get discouraged, know that you can win this war together, and Jesus shows us how. Whether you’re feeling disconnected, discouraged, or simply wanting to grow, this episode will give you the clarity and practical tools you need to move toward peace and unity again. What We Cover in This Episode The Lie Most Couples Believe “If we’re fighting this much, maybe we’re not right for each other.” We break down why conflict doesn’t mean incompatibility, it reveals something deeper. The Real Battle Beneath Every Argument At the heart of almost every fight is the same truth: “I want my way.” The Three Barriers Every Couple Faces We walk through the three sources of marital tension that have nothing to do with whether you married the “right” person: Psychological differences — personality friction Gender differences — designed strengths that feel like irritants Historical wounds — the stories you didn’t choose but carry The Turning Point Every Marriage Needs The shift from Me-first → Christlike love is where healing begins. How to Respond When You Feel Yourself Shutting Down, Getting Defensive, or Insisting on Your Way We share practical, simple steps to stop escalation and choose connection. 🔥 Key Takeaways Your spouse is not your enemy. The war inside your heart is often louder than the conflict in your home. Marriage doesn’t create your struggles, it reveals them so God can heal them. Christlike love is the only way to win the internal war. 📖 Scriptures Mentioned James 4:1 Philippians 2:3–4 Proverbs 18:2 Colossians 3:12–13 Psalm 34:18 Let’s Connect! If this episode encouraged you, it would mean the world if you left a review or shared it with another couple who needs hope today. ✨ Want weekly encouragement for your marriage? Sign up for our newsletter: 👉 expeditionmarriage.org/newsletter *Disclaimer: The information discussed here is meant for entertainment purposes and is not meant to replace counseling or working with a trained healthcare professional. /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/39915720

Ep. 167: A Biblical Playbook for Marriage: Simple Strategies That Change Everything 01/22/2026

Ep 166: When Your Heart Grieves Before Anything Happens: Understanding Anticipatory Grief in Marriage 01/15/2026

Ep 166: When Your Heart Grieves Before Anything Happens: Understanding Anticipatory Grief in Marriage Have you ever felt fear, heaviness, or sadness long before anything “bad” actually happened? There’s nothing wrong with and you’re not dramatic. But you may be experiencing anticipatory grief, and it impacts marriages far more than couples realize. In this episode, Chris & Jamie unpack why your heart sometimes grieves before life changes… and how this hidden emotional process can affect connection, communication, and even conflict inside the marriage. This is one of the most tender, eye-opening conversations you’ll hear. Whether you’re caring for aging parents, walking through health concerns, navigating infertility, or simply sensing that something in your life or marriage is shifting. What You’ll Learn in This Episode 1. What Anticipatory Grief Actually Is and how it shows up 2. Expected Causes of Anticipatory Grief in Marriage 3. Unexpected Causes Couples Don’t Realize Are Grief 4. How Anticipatory Grief Shows Up Between Spouses Many couples think they have a marriage problem — when really, they have a grief problem. Signs include: Irritability Anxiety Emotional shutdown Clinging or control Avoidance Misreading each other’s responses We share how this creates friction, especially when men & women process anticipatory grief differently. 5. The Transformational Question: “What am I anticipating?” A grounding tool to help couples move from fear to clarity and compassion. This question helps you uncover: The loss you're imagining What part of your heart feels threatened How your love is showing up as fear Grief becomes a doorway to deeper connection when it’s named. 6. Reframing Grief as a Couple: Turning Toward Instead of Away We teach couples how to ask: “Are we fighting because of grief, not each other?” “Are we withdrawing because something scares us?” And how to say: “I’m scared of losing ___.” “I’m grieving how things are changing.” “I need you with me in this.” 7. What Couples Can Actually Do with Anticipatory Grief Practical tools you can use today: 8. A Biblical Perspective on Anticipatory Grief We explore comfort and grounding through Scripture: Psalm 34:18 Matthew 6:34 Romans 8:38–39 1 Peter 5:7 God meets us not only in the losses we face but also in the ones we fear. ⭐ CTA If this episode helped open your eyes or gave language to something you’ve been feeling, we’d be SO grateful if you’d leave a review. Click the ⭐⭐⭐⭐⭐ and share how this podcast is helping your marriage. And make sure to follow so you don’t miss next week’s episode! /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/39734555

Ep. 165: Why You Shouldn’t Always Take Our Advice (And How to Let God Lead You in the Timing of Growth) 01/08/2026

Ep. 165: Why You Shouldn’t Always Take Our Advice (And How to Let God Lead You in the Timing of Growth) In today’s episode, we’re talking about something a little unexpected coming from two marriage counselors: why you shouldn’t always take our advice, or anyone else’s, without checking with the Lord first. We live in a world overflowing with sermons, reels, podcasts, coaching, challenges, and self-help. So much of it is helpful… but not all of it is helpful for you, and not all of it is helpful right now. This episode is an invitation to slow down, breathe, and learn how to discern the difference between good advice and God’s direction for your particular season. ⭐ Inside the Episode Jamie’s Story: When “Do It Afraid” Went Too Far Jamie shares a pivotal moment in her journey with anxiety and how a sermon quote (“Do it afraid”) became her life mantra for a season… until it began overworking her nervous system and pushing her into hypervigilance. It wasn’t bad advice; it was just no longer the right advice. That’s when God spoke a new word: “My yoke is easy, and My burden is light.” Only the Lord knows what we truly need and exactly when we need it. ⭐ What Happens When We Treat Advice Like Scripture We unpack why great advice can become harmful when we elevate it above God’s timing: ⭐ Examples of “Good” Marriage Advice That Can Be Bad in the Wrong Season We explore six common marriage principles that are wonderful but not universally timed: ⭐ What Scripture Says About Being Led by God We walk through passages that remind us God leads personally and seasonally: ⭐ A Nervous System Perspective Not every push is holy. Not every challenge is healthy. Sometimes “growth” advice puts your body into survival mode. ⭐ The SIFT Method: How to Discern What’s Actually for You A simple 4-step framework to help couples filter advice through prayer and peace: ⭐ Marriage Application: What This Means for Couples Practical questions to ask one another. ⭐ Final Encouragement Not all good advice is God’s advice for you — but God always has the right word for the right time. ✨ Stay Connected + Encouraged Every Week If this episode encouraged you, we’d love to keep walking with you. Sign up for our weekly marriage newsletter for devotionals, tools, and Christ-centered encouragement straight to your inbox: 👉 And don’t forget to subscribe and share this episode with someone who needs it. ❤️ /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/39654210

Ep. 164: Dry Seasons in Marriage - How to Navigate the Wilderness Together 12/11/2025

Ep. 164: Dry Seasons in Marriage - How to Navigate the Wilderness Together Every marriage walks through dry seasons, times when connection feels absent, emotions run low, and apathy sets in. But a dry season doesn’t mean your marriage is dying; it often means God is doing deep, unseen work beneath the surface. In this episode, we’re digging into how to recognize, remain in, and receive from the wilderness seasons of marriage, and how to come out stronger on the other side. Using the story of Jesus’ 40 days in the desert and a five-step framework, we’ll help you find perspective, peace, and purpose in the desert places. If your marriage feels weary or disconnected, this episode will remind you that God never wastes the wilderness—and new life can always come from dry ground. 🎧 Listen now and start walking toward renewal—together. 💧 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: What a “dry season” in marriage really is, and why it’s normal How to tell when you’re in one (and what not to do about it!) The five steps to navigate the wilderness season well: What Jesus’ own time in the wilderness can teach us about endurance and spiritual growth How God often uses silence, struggle, and stillness to deepen love and faith 🕊️ Key Scriptures Mentioned: Matthew 4:1–11 — Jesus led by the Spirit into the wilderness Luke 4:14 — Jesus returns “in the power of the Spirit” James 1:2–4 — Growth through testing produces perseverance Psalm 77:11–12 — “I will remember the deeds of the Lord…” ❤️ Takeaway Truth: “Dry seasons don’t mean dead seasons. They’re often where God prepares you for the next good thing He’s about to do.” 📣 Resources & Next Steps: 💾 Download the free Five Steps to Navigate a Dry Season in Marriage Worksheet: 🎧 Check us out on YouTube for video episodes on faith-filled marriage growth: 💌 Join our weekly marriage encouragement emails for practical tips and biblical truth at ExpeditionMarriage.org/subscribe 💬 Connect With Us: Follow along on social media: Instagram | Facebook | Pinterest → @ExpeditionMarriage Visit: /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/39362050

Ep. 163: Becoming a PhD of Your Spouse: How to Recognize Stress Cues and Respond with Love 12/04/2025

Ep. 163: Becoming a PhD of Your Spouse: How to Recognize Stress Cues and Respond with Love When life gets heavy, stress often shows up in our marriages—not just in words, but in subtle cues, tones, and behaviors. In this episode, Chris and Jamie share why becoming a “PhD of your spouse” is one of the most loving and practical things you can do for your marriage. 💡 What You’ll Learn in This Episode Why stress “tells” matter and how noticing them can prevent unnecessary conflict and deepen empathy (Philippians 2:4). Common stress cues to look for—like withdrawal, red face, clenched jaw, irritability, avoidance, hypervigilance, or the “checked-out” mode on the couch. How to respond with love instead of defensiveness by pausing, checking in gently, and offering support without assumptions (Hebrews 12:14; Romans 12:18). What it means to become a “PhD of your spouse”—studying their patterns, stress responses, and emotional needs so you can build unity instead of division. Practical steps to breathe life into your marriage by identifying stress cues, supporting one another, and shifting from “me vs. you” to “we.” ✨ Key Quotes from the Episode “Marriage thrives when we study one another.” “Noticing your spouse’s stress cues isn’t about fixing them—it’s about loving them well.” 📖 Scriptures to Reflect On Philippians 2:4 — “Let each of you look not only to his own interests, but also to the interests of others.” Proverbs 10:19 — “When words are many, transgression is not lacking, but whoever restrains his lips is prudent.” Hebrews 12:14 — “Strive for peace with everyone.” Romans 12:18 — “If possible, so far as it depends on you, live peaceably with all.” 🛠️ Free Resource Download our PhD of Your Spouse Stress Cues Worksheet to help you and your spouse talk through your unique stress patterns and how you can support one another. 👉 🎯 Call to Action Leave us a review (like Ilive4him24 did!)—your reviews help more couples find the hope and tools they need. Download your free worksheet and start the conversation this week. Check out Episode 134 with Dr Christine Baker on Nervous System Regulation in Marriage /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/39232510

Ep. 162: Letting Go — Trusting God with Your Kids 11/20/2025

Ep. 161: The Lost Art of Sacrifice 11/13/2025

Ep. 160: Just a Little Bit Better: Small Shifts That Move the Needle in Marriage 11/06/2025

Ep. 159: When Marriage Hurts: Why Joy Still Matters 10/30/2025

Ep. 158: Breaking the Usual Error — How Assumptions Sabotage Your Marriage and What God Says About It 10/23/2025

Ep. 158: Breaking the Usual Error — How Assumptions Sabotage Your Marriage and What God Says About It Have you ever caught yourself assuming you knew what your spouse was thinking or feeling—only to find out you were completely wrong? That’s what we call “The Usual Error”—and it’s one of the most common causes of conflict, hurt, and disconnection in marriage. In this episode, we’ll unpack what the Bible says about making assumptions, why they’re biblically unwise, and how to replace them with curiosity, humility, and God’s wisdom to strengthen your marriage. What You’ll Learn in This Episode 1. What the Usual Error Is and Why It Hurts Marriage How assumptions create false narratives and unspoken expectations Why acting on unproven beliefs leads to miscommunication 2. Why Making Assumptions Can Be Spiritually Dangerous It’s based on what’s unproven → Leads to wrong conclusions It shows a lack of wisdom → Proverbs 18:2: “A fool takes no pleasure in understanding, but only in expressing his opinion.” It causes division → Misunderstandings breed resentment and distance It reflects pride → Assuming we know our spouse’s motives takes God’s place as the only One who sees hearts 3. What the Bible Encourages Instead Practice humility and patience (Ephesians 4:2-3): Bear with one another in love Seek truth and discernment (Philippians 4:8; 1 Thessalonians 5:21): Think on what is true and test everything 4. How to Break the Usual Error in Marriage Practical tools to shift from assumption to understanding: Pause before reacting: “Do I have proof, or am I assuming?” Ask clarifying questions instead of assigning motives Practice reflective listening to ensure you’ve heard your spouse correctly Invite God into the conversation through prayer and patience 5. Encouragement and Hope Marriage is strengthened when you replace assumptions with curiosity and humility. Unity grows when you trust God more than your perceptions, opening the door for deeper connection, grace, and peace. /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/38749745

Ep. 157: When Your Husband Doesn’t Share Your Faith — Hope for Spiritually Unequal Marriages 10/16/2025

Ep. 156: Curiosity Over Offense — How Staying Spiritually Mature Can Transform Your Marriage 10/09/2025

Ep. 156: Curiosity Over Offense — How Staying Spiritually Mature Can Transform Your Marriage Have you ever noticed how quickly small misunderstandings can spiral into full-blown conflicts? One simple comment can turn into a wall between you and your spouse if you let offense take over. But spiritual maturity calls us to a different path—one that chooses curiosity, compassion, and connection over pride and defensiveness. In this episode, we’re unpacking a powerful truth that can change the way you navigate disagreements in your marriage: “You can’t be curious and offended at the same time.” Spiritually mature couples learn to pause, seek understanding, and invite God into their marriage instead of letting emotions rule the moment. When offense leads, division grows—but when curiosity leads, your marriage becomes a place of safety, grace, and deeper intimacy. What You’ll Learn in This Episode 1. How Spiritual Immaturity Shows Up in Marriage Getting defensive when criticized Withdrawing instead of leaning in Avoiding confession and repentance Making self-centered decisions over Christ-centered ones 2. Signs of Spiritual Maturity Being quick to listen and slow to anger (James 1:19) Seeking understanding before responding Choosing forgiveness over grudges Inviting God into conflict and relying on His wisdom 3. “I’ve Just Touched a Wound, But I Did Not Cause It” We’ll discuss why your spouse’s strong reactions may be tied to old wounds—and why you don’t need to deflect, defend, people-please, or withdraw. Instead, you can stay present and curious to create emotional safety. 4. How Curiosity Builds Connection Asking thoughtful questions instead of assuming Creating emotional safety and trust Discovering what’s really happening beneath the surface Resources & Next Steps 📄 Download the free Spiritual Maturity in Marriage Assessment to practice curiosity in your marriage. Includes curiosity question prompts. Episode 140 When the Past Shows up Uninvited in Your Marriage 💬 If you need help navigating conflict and rebuilding connection, visit to learn about our Christ-centered counseling and coaching. /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/38503910

Ep. 155: Healing Your Marriage After Chronic Illness 10/02/2025

Ep. 155: Healing Your Marriage After Chronic Illness When chronic illness enters a marriage, it doesn’t just affect one person—it touches everything. Routines shift, intimacy changes, energy drops, and even the way you see each other can be altered. In this honest and hope-filled episode, we talk about the silent grief couples carry, the changes they face, and how to begin healing and reconnecting in a new, grace-filled way. We even share our own personal story. Whether you’re the one facing health challenges or the one walking alongside, there is hope for restoration—not necessarily of the “before” life, but of connection, intimacy, and partnership in the “now.” What You’ll Learn in This Episode: The unspoken losses chronic illness brings into marriage—and why it’s okay to grieve them How to rebuild connection and intimacy in new and meaningful ways Practical steps for healing together and making space for honest conversations Encouragement and Scripture to remind you that you’re not alone in this journey Key Takeaways & Scriptures: 💬 “When chronic illness enters a marriage, it doesn’t just affect one person—it touches everything. But it doesn’t have to define everything.” 📖 Romans 12:15 – “Rejoice with those who rejoice; mourn with those who mourn.” 📖 1 Corinthians 13:7 – “Love bears all things, believes all things, hopes all things, endures all things.” 📖 Ecclesiastes 4:9–10 – “Two are better than one… If either of them falls down, one can help the other up.” Links & Resources: Download the Couples Conversation Worksheet (I)– Use this free guide to start meaningful conversations about healing and connection in your marriage after chronic illness. Check out Jackie Hill Perry’s teaching on In Defence of Hope. We know it will be an ecnouragement for you. Need more support? Visit for coaching, resources, and tools. Share this episode with a friend or couple who’s navigating chronic illness—they need encouragement too! Let’s Connect: If you found this episode helpful, please subscribe, leave a review, and share it with someone who needs it. Together, we can spread hope and equip more marriages to thrive—no matter the season they’re in. /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/38409035

Ep. 154: When Love Feels Like a Roller Coaster: Understanding the Vacillator in Marriage 09/25/2025

Ep. 154: When Love Feels Like a Roller Coaster: Understanding the Vacillator in Marriage Does your relationship ever feel like it swings from intense connection to deep frustration—and then back again? If so, you may be married to a Vacillator. In today’s episode, we’re diving into what it’s like to live and love with this emotional love style, and how you can find more stability and connection together. 💬 “Being married to a Vacillator can feel like navigating emotional whiplash—passionate connection one moment, frustration and distance the next.” This episode is all about understanding the why behind the ups and downs—and learning how to build trust and steadiness in a sensitive, emotionally-charged marriage. 🧭 What You’ll Learn: What defines the Vacillator Love Style and where it originates Why Vacillators often feel disappointed or emotionally overwhelmed The impact this love style has on a marriage What a Vacillator truly needs from their spouse How Vacillators themselves can grow emotionally and spiritually 💡 Key Traits of a Vacillator: Craves deep connection, but fears rejection Easily feels hurt or let down by perceived distance Struggles with waiting, emotional regulation, and trust Idealizes, then devalues their spouse when expectations aren’t met 📖 Scriptures Mentioned: Isaiah 30:18 – “The Lord longs to be gracious to you…” 1 Corinthians 13:4–5 – “Love is patient, love is kind… it is not easily angered…” Psalm 62:5–6 – “For God alone, O my soul, wait in silence… He only is my rock…” ❤️ 3 Practical Things Vacillators Need: Consistent and Predictable Connection → Small follow-throughs build trust and soothe abandonment fears. Attuned Listening Without Defensiveness → Validation and reflection are more healing than explanation. Grace When They Emotionally Escalate → Compassion in their emotional moments creates safety, not shame. 💬 “Vacillators heal when love stops being unpredictable and starts becoming trustworthy.” 🎯 Take Action: 📤 Share this episode with someone navigating emotional cycles in their marriage 🌐 Visit for biblical tools and counseling • • ⭐️ Leave a review to help others find truth and encouragement /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/38318575

Ep. 153: When One of You Can’t Say No: Understanding the Pleaser in Marriage 09/18/2025

Ep. 153: When One of You Can’t Say No: Understanding the Pleaser in Marriage Does your spouse always say “yes,” avoid conflict, or seem overly focused on making everyone else happy—even at their own expense? You may be married to a Pleaser. In this episode, we’re unpacking what it really means to be married to a Pleaser—how this love style forms, how it impacts your relationship, and what both of you can do to create deeper emotional intimacy. 💬 “Pleasers aren’t trying to be fake—they’re trying to stay safe.” This episode is all about moving from performance to authenticity—and learning to build a marriage where honesty, vulnerability, and mutual care are welcome. 🧭 What You’ll Learn: What drives the Pleaser Love Style Why pleasers often avoid conflict and overextend themselves What it’s like being married to a Pleaser—and the hidden costs of chronic “yes” How to respond with love, not pressure Practical steps for Pleasers to grow in confidence and connection 💡 Key Highlights: Pleasers often come from critical or high-pressure homes and learned to keep the peace by minimizing their needs. Being married to a Pleaser may feel emotionally confusing—because it’s hard to connect with someone who won’t show you their full self. Change is possible when Pleasers feel safe to express, say no, and trust that love isn’t based on performance. 📖 Scriptures Mentioned: Galatians 1:10 – “Am I now trying to win the approval of human beings, or of God?” Ephesians 4:15 – “Speak the truth in love…” 🎯 Take Action: 💬 Talk with your spouse using these connecting questions: What is one thing I can do for you to help make tomorrow easier? What reactions of mine tend to be stressful to you? Is there an area of your life, even with me, where you feel like you have to walk on eggshells? Why is that? 📤 Share this episode with a friend or couple who may need it. ⭐️ Leave a review on your favorite podcast platform to help other couples find biblical encouragement. 🔗 Visit for more marriage tools and support. 💭 You don’t have to earn love through peacekeeping. Real connection happens when you let yourself be known—and loved—in truth. /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/38209940

Ep. 152: When One of You Shuts Down: Understanding the Avoider in Marriage 09/11/2025

Ep. 151: Letting Go of Control: Trusting God with Your Marriage and Your Spouse 09/04/2025

Ep. 150: Powerful Emotions Meant to Be Experienced in Your Marriage 08/28/2025

Ep. 150: Powerful Emotions Meant to Be Experienced in Your Marriage Emotions in marriage aren’t the enemy—they’re God-given tools meant to stir your heart toward action, deeper intimacy, and meaningful connection. In this episode of Expedition Marriage, Chris & Jamie dive into some common powerful emotions that, when understood and embraced biblically, can strengthen your relationship and reignite passion. You’ll discover how emotions like frustration, fear, sadness, and even boredom can become catalysts for growth, healing, and renewed love. 🧭 What You’ll Learn: How to use frustration as a signal for healing instead of division Why fear in your relationship can be a sign you’re growing How sadness and regret can lead to deeper restoration and closeness Why longing for beauty and connection in your marriage is godly How to recognize and respond to righteous anger and protect your marriage How emotions are designed by God to draw you closer, not pull you apart 📖 Scripture References: Ephesians 4:26 – “In your anger do not sin.” Isaiah 41:10 – “Do not fear, for I am with you.” Ecclesiastes 3:4 – “A time to weep and a time to laugh.” Nehemiah 4:14 – “Fight for your families…” Philippians 4:8 – “Whatever is lovely… think about such things.” Ecclesiastes 9:9 – “Enjoy life with your wife…” 2 Corinthians 7:10 – “Godly sorrow brings repentance…” 💬 Reflection Questions: Which emotion is currently showing up in your marriage? Have you been avoiding it, or using it in a way that draws you closer? How might God want to use that emotion to transform your relationship? 📣 Don’t Miss: If this episode encouraged you, share it with a friend or leave a review on your favorite podcast platform! Every share helps more couples find hope and healing through Christ. 🧭 Follow-Up: Explore more ways to build your marriage at and don’t forget to subscribe so you never miss an episode! Closing Reminder: A great marriage isn’t found—it’s built. One intentional step at a time. /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/37953580

Ep. 149: The Different Decades of Marriage — Every Season Has a Purpose 08/21/2025

Ep. 149: The Different Decades of Marriage — Every Season Has a Purpose Marriage is a lifelong journey that evolves with each decade—and every season comes with both its own challenges and its unique purpose. In this episode, Chris & Jamie walk through the different decades of marriage—from the idealistic 20s to the legacy-filled 70s—and share biblical wisdom and practical encouragement for every stage. Whether you’re dreaming big, building hard, questioning what’s next, or leaving a legacy, this episode will help you embrace your season with grace, faith, and intentionality. 🧭 What You’ll Learn: What characterizes each decade of marriage and the purpose within it How to strengthen your relationship through every season—from early dreams to late wisdom Why your current season matters and how to fully show up for it Biblical encouragement and reflection questions for each stage 💡 Episode Highlights: 🧡 The Idealistic Years (20s) • Time of big dreams, passion, and possibilities • Don't let others stifle your optimism—dream and plan together 🔨 The Industrious Years (30s) • The building decade: careers, parenting, responsibilities • High-stress years—easy to feel like co-workers instead of lovers 🔥 The Intense Years (40s) • Questions of success, identity, and “Have we done enough?” • Increased financial and physical stress; watch for resentment 🕊️ The Influential Years (50s & 60s) • A time of wisdom, mentoring, and dreaming new dreams—together • Warning: high divorce rate in this age group; stay connected 🌳 The Indelible Years (70s & beyond) • Storytelling season—your words and life hold deep meaning • Grandchildren watch how you finish the race 💬 Reflection & Encouragement: • No season is wasted—each one has a God-given purpose • Ecclesiastes 3:1 – “To everything there is a season…” • Talk with your spouse: What season are you in? What do you need most from one another right now? 🎯 Call to Action: 📥 Download your free resource: at 👥 Share this episode with another couple—especially one in a different season than you ⭐ Leave a review if this episode encouraged you—it helps more couples find hope 🌐 Visit for more free tools, blog posts, and resources Closing Reminder: A great marriage isn’t found—it’s built. One intentional season at a time. Until next time—keep showing up, keep leaning in, and keep trusting God with your journey. /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/37897905

Ep. 148: How to Use Your Marriage as Your Best Parenting Tool 08/14/2025

Ep. 147: Safe and Sound: How to Co-Regulate in Marriage and Become Each Other's Safe Place 08/07/2025

Ep. 147: Safe and Sound: How to Co-Regulate in Marriage and Become Each Other's Safe Place How to Co-Regulate in Marriage and Become Each Other’s Safe Place Ever feel like you and your spouse are constantly missing each other emotionally? In this episode, we’re talking about the powerful (but often overlooked) practice of co-regulation—and how it can transform your marriage into a place of emotional safety, healing, and connection. We'll explore what it means to not just regulate your own emotions but to be a calm, supportive presence for your spouse—and how this reflects the love and comfort of Christ in your marriage. In this episode, we’ll cover: ✅ What co-regulation is (and how it’s different from self-regulation) 💔 How emotional disconnection and little “t” traumas show up in everyday marriage moments 📖 The biblical foundation for becoming a safe place: Galatians 6:2, Proverbs 17:17, Ecclesiastes 4:9–10, Romans 12:10 💡 Real-life examples of how co-regulation can show up in your marriage 🛠 Practical steps to create emotional safety and healing—without needing to fix everything ❤️ Why your tone, presence, and patience may be the most healing tools you have 💬 Quote from the Episode: "There’s enough loss in the world—let’s not contribute more of it in our homes." 🎯 Call to Action: Try to implement co-regulation into your marriage this week: a soft word, your presence, or a listening ear. Tune yourself into your spouse. Look for ways to show up for them. Be the soft place for them to land in this harsh world. Ask your spouse: “Do you feel emotionally safe with me?”—and truly listen. Share this episode with a friend or couple who could use some emotional connection and support. Visit for more tools, devotionals, and resources to build a safe and God-honoring marriage. You don’t have to heal alone—and you weren’t designed to do marriage alone. Let’s build homes of safety and healing—together. /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/37712325

Ep. 146: Leaving and Cleaving: What It Really Means and Why It Still Matters in Marriage 07/31/2025

Ep. 145: Storm Proofing Your Marriage 07/24/2025

Ep. 144: Is Your Emotional Bucket Overflowing? How to Recognize and Release Emotional Flooding in Marriage 07/10/2025

Ep. 143: Is Jesus Just a Guest in Your Marriage? 07/03/2025

Ep. 143: Is Jesus Just a Guest in Your Marriage? Most couples say they’re Christians—but is Jesus truly at the center of their marriage, or just a guest? In this episode, Chris and Jamie explore what it really means to orient your life and marriage around Christ, not just in name, but in everyday action. We’re unpacking the difference between a marriage that’s influenced by Jesus and one that’s built on Jesus. You’ll learn how to recognize if your relationship is drifting from Him, and practical ways to bring it back on course. 📊 Did you know that while about 65% of Americans claim Christianity, only 4% actually reorient their lives around Jesus? It’s time to make sure our marriages aren’t just labeled “Christian”—but are truly Christ-centered. 🔹 What You'll Learn in This Episode: What it means to truly “orient” your life around Jesus Signs that Jesus may not be the true center of your marriage 5 practical steps to re-center your marriage on Christ Why individual spiritual growth matters in a united relationship How prayer, scripture, and community can realign your foundation A simple weekly question to help keep your marriage from drifting 📖 Key Scriptures Mentioned: Matthew 7:24–27 — Building your house on the rock Colossians 3:17 — Doing everything in the name of Jesus John 15:4–5 — Abide in Christ to bear lasting fruit Romans 12:1–2 — Be transformed by renewing your mind ✅ Your Challenge This Week: Take time with your spouse to answer this question together: “Where in our marriage are we oriented toward Jesus—and where are we not?” Pray together, invite God into the areas that need realignment, and commit to taking one step forward in making Him the true cornerstone of your marriage. 🔗 Resources & Next Steps: 🐦‍⬛ Bird Feeder with Solar Powered Camera - 📖 Newlywed Couples Devotional - 🎧 Listen & Subscribe Don’t miss a single episode! Subscribe on Apple Podcasts, Spotify, or YouTube 📬 Get more biblical tools for your marriage: Visit us at /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/37239725

Ep. 142: When You’re Fighting for Your Marriage Alone 06/26/2025

Ep. 142: When You’re Fighting for Your Marriage Alone What do you do when it feels like you’re the only one fighting for your marriage? Maybe your spouse is emotionally checked out, spiritually distant, or just seems unwilling to grow alongside you. This episode is for the one carrying the weight, wondering if anything is ever going to change. We want you to know: you are not alone, and your faithfulness matters. Let’s talk about what to do when you're walking this path solo—and how to keep going without giving up. 💡 In This Episode, You’ll Learn: What Scripture says about standing firm when your spouse won’t engage The difference between enabling and faithfully loving How to keep your heart soft when you're tempted to shut down Encouragement to pursue connection with God when your spouse feels far away Healthy boundaries, grace-filled hope, and the power of persistent prayer 📖 Scripture Encouragement: Galatians 6:9 – “Let us not grow weary in doing good…” 1 Peter 3:1 – “...that they may be won over without words…” Isaiah 41:10 – “I will strengthen you and help you…” Romans 12:12 – “Be joyful in hope, patient in affliction, faithful in prayer.” 🙏 Free Prayer Resources: Whether you're a wife or husband standing in the gap, persistent prayer can change the atmosphere in your home—even before anything else does. 🧡 Join the 30-Day Praying for Your Husband Challenge 💙 Join the 30-Day Praying for Your Wife Challenge These guided prayer journeys will give you daily direction, encouragement, and a reminder that you're not in this alone. ❤️ Episode CTA: If you're fighting for your marriage alone, take heart: your prayers are powerful, your love is not unseen, and God is with you in the waiting. Let this be the week you surrender your spouse to God and recommit to loving them through His strength, not just your own. And don’t forget to grab one of our 30-day prayer challenges to support you on the journey. If this episode encouraged you, share it with someone else who may feel alone in their marriage too. /episode/index/show/expeditionmarriage/id/37153550

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