Carla Turned On
Dating & relationships get real. Sex gets talked about. The BS gets left on read. Carla Turned On is your weekly permission slip to ditch shame, confusion, and the patterns that keep you stuck. Hosted by certified dating & relationship coach Carla Romo, each episode gives you the tools, mindset shifts, and no-BS truth to step into your power and create f*ck-yes love...without losing yourself along the way. This is where you get real answers. Real tools. Real confidence. Let’s get turned on!
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Why Your Dating Picker Is Off: Attachment Styles, Emotional Intelligence & Dating Patterns
01/13/2026
Why Your Dating Picker Is Off: Attachment Styles, Emotional Intelligence & Dating Patterns
In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why we’re attracted to the people we choose and how past experiences, attachment styles, and emotional patterns influence our dating “picker.” From awkward first dates to partners pulling away after intimacy, Carla explains how to trust your gut, recognize red flags, and stop confusing attraction with alignment. This episode is a reminder that rejection is not a reflection of your worth — and that you can change your dating patterns. What You’ll Learn Trust your gut — it’s usually right Attraction is not the same as compatibility Your picker is shaped by past experiences Self-regulation improves relationships Clear communication about sex matters Rejection after intimacy is not about your worth Work with me: Proven Dating Courses: Book: Tiktok: Instagram: Youtube: FREEBIE: Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites "Always listen to your damn gut." "You are literally limiting yourself." "You can change your picker." Chapters 00:00 — Carla's Awkward First Date Experience 06:57 — “They’re Not My Type” 15:26 — ‘Your Picker Is Off’ 27:26 — Why They Pulled Away After Sex Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.
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Terrible First Dates, Emotional Unavailability & Sexual Compatibility
01/06/2026
Terrible First Dates, Emotional Unavailability & Sexual Compatibility
Terrible dates don’t define your love life. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why one bad date doesn’t mean you’re the problem, why someone never being in a relationship isn’t automatically a red flag, and how emotional unavailability shows up in dating. In the TACO segment, Carla Romo dives into sexual compatibility: why sex evolves, how communication matters, and why you shouldn’t panic if it’s not amazing the first time. What You’ll Learn Why one bad date doesn’t define your dating journey Why being single for a long time isn’t a red flag How emotional unavailability shows up in subtle ways Why vulnerability matters more than perfection How communication creates sexual compatibility Why sex evolves over time Why you shouldn’t compare yourself to dating expectations How self-worth and resilience boost dating success Work with me: Proven Dating Courses: Book: Tiktok: Instagram: Youtube: FREEBIE: Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites “I’m gonna tap out of the dating game.” “Sex evolves; the purpose is to enjoy it.” “Don’t freak out if it wasn’t that great.” Chapters 00:00 — Terrible First Dates 05:31 — “Never Been in a Relationship” Isn’t a Red Flag 10:21 — Emotional Unavailability in Dating 20:24 — TACO: Sexual Compatibility Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.
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Dating After a Toxic Relationship: Triggers, Red Flags & Setting the Mood
12/30/2025
Dating After a Toxic Relationship: Triggers, Red Flags & Setting the Mood
Modern dating gets complicated fast, especially after a toxic relationship. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why looking someone up before a date can create unnecessary pressure, why “dating to be friends” keeps you stuck, and how old wounds show up as triggers when you start dating again. Carla Romo also shares how to spot real red and green flags and, in the TACO segment, how small things like your environment and vibe can completely shift the mood in intimacy. What You’ll Learn Why Googling someone before a date can backfire Why you’re dating for partnership, not friendship How toxic ex triggers show up when dating again The importance of knowing your red flags & green flags Why intentional dating leads to better relationships How emotional healing affects new connections Why ambience, hygiene, and environment matter for intimacy Weird mood killers to avoid (yes… including your sheets) Work with me: Proven Dating Courses: Book: Tiktok: Instagram: Youtube: FREEBIE: Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites “You are dating to find your person.” “Look inward after a toxic relationship.” “Know your red flags and deal breakers.” Chapters 00:00 — The Dangers of Online Dating Research 05:23 — Intentional Dating vs. Friendship 09:33 — Dating After a Toxic Relationship 22:48 — TACO: Setting the Mood & Avoiding Mood Killers Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.
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Why You Fall Fast & They Pull Away: Anxious vs. Avoidant Dating Dynamics
12/23/2025
Why You Fall Fast & They Pull Away: Anxious vs. Avoidant Dating Dynamics
A great date can feel amazing, but attachment style determines what happens next. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why you should never “match their energy,” how anxious and avoidant attachment styles create the fall-fast/pull-away cycle, and how to break out of those patterns. In the TACO segment, Carla Romo explores whether you’re having sex to feel loved or to feel good, and how that choice shapes intimacy and connection. What You’ll Learn Why you shouldn’t “match their energy” — they should match yours How anxious attachment creates chasing and overthinking How avoidant attachment creates distance and mixed signals The push-pull cycle and how to break it How attachment styles shape emotional connection Why “falling fast” isn’t always chemistry — sometimes it’s anxiety How to communicate needs early and clearly The difference between sex for intimacy vs. sex for validation How to build a more secure dating pattern Why you’re not stuck in your attachment style Work with me: Proven Dating Courses: Book: Tiktok: Instagram: Youtube: FREEBIE: Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites “You want them to match your energy.” “Believe that shit straight.” “You are not asking for too much.” Chapters 00:00 — Understanding Attachment Styles in Relationships 06:23 — TURNED OFF: Match Their Energy? No. 12:29 — Why You Fall Fast & They Pull Away 28:58 — TACO: Sex for Love vs. Sex for Pleasure Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.
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Feeling Out of Time: Dating Pressure, Splitting Bills & Comparing Sex to Past Partners
12/16/2025
Feeling Out of Time: Dating Pressure, Splitting Bills & Comparing Sex to Past Partners
Dating in your 30s plus can make you feel like you’re running out of time, but Carla Romo is here to shut that down. In this episode, she breaks down why people comment on her marriage, the awkward pressure of splitting the bill, and the fear of “settling”. Carla Romo explains how societal expectations shape self-worth, why emotional intelligence matters, and what it means when the sex isn’t as good as it was with someone from your past. What You’ll Learn Why you feel “out of time” when dating in your 30s How societal pressure influences your dating choices Why comments about your relationship can trigger insecurity The real reason splitting the bill feels so loaded Why self-worth matters more than timelines How emotional intelligence improves your dating decisions What it means when sex isn’t as good as it was with someone from your past Why trust and connection make intimacy grow How to communicate sexual needs without shame Why you’re in control of your dating pace Work with me: Proven Dating Courses: Book: Tiktok: Instagram: Youtube: FREEBIE: Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites: “Time is BS right now.” “You are doing the choosing.” “Pleasure grows with trust.” Chapters 00:00 — Choosing Yourself in Dating 05:24 — TURNED OFF: Splitting the Bill 14:05 — Feeling Out of Time in Your 30s Plus 28:21 — TACO: When the Sex Isn’t as Good as Someone From Your Past Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.
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The #1 Red Flag Everyone Ignores: Why Moving Too Fast Ruins Everything
12/09/2025
The #1 Red Flag Everyone Ignores: Why Moving Too Fast Ruins Everything
Dating nerves are normal, but rushing a connection can wreck it fast. In this episode, Carla breaks down why people feel anxious before dates, how to set healthy boundaries with opposite-sex friends, and the biggest red flag in relationships: moving too quickly. She also unpacks the truth about sexual desire in the TACO segment, asking whether men are really more horny than women and how communication shapes intimacy. What You’ll Learn Why dating nerves are normal (and healthy) How to navigate opposite-sex friendships with boundaries The red flag of moving too quickly and why it matters How emotional intimacy builds slowly, not instantly The truth about sexual desire between men and women How communication shapes connection and desire Work with me: Proven Dating Courses: Book: Tiktok: Instagram: Youtube: FREEBIE: Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites: “You’re nervous because you care.” “Moving things way too quickly is a red flag.” “You want to take your time to get to know someone.” Chapters 00:00 Navigating Date Anxiety 04:09 Turned Off Friendship Dynamics in Dating 10:03 Recognizing Red Flags 20:12 TACO: Understanding Men and Women’s Sexual Desires Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.
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Dating Can Suck…Until You Become the Green Flag
12/02/2025
Dating Can Suck…Until You Become the Green Flag
Dating feels messy, confusing, and downright exhausting…until you realize you might actually be the green flag you're looking for. In this episode, Carla Romo breaks down why modern dating feels so hard and what actually shifts when you date with intention, boundaries, self-worth, and real communication. She shares personal stories, calls out outdated dating “rules,” and dives into the conversations people avoid, especially around sexual health, consent, and pleasure. If you’re tired of red flags, codependent patterns, or waiting hours to text back, this episode gives you the mindset and tools to date better starting today. What You’ll Learn Why dating feels harder than it needs to How to stop repeating toxic patterns The power of communication (and ditching the “wait to text back” rule) What real green-flag behavior looks like How boundaries and sexual health conversations build real intimacy Why vulnerability is a dating superpower Work with me: Proven Dating Courses: Book: Tiktok: Instagram: Youtube: FREEBIE: Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites “We also don’t have to make it suck.” “Having sex is vulnerable as fuck.” “You can always make it better.” Chapters 00:00 The Struggles of Modern Dating 06:12 Turned Off Texting 10:12 You are the GREEN flag 23:04 Conversation Sleeping Together Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.
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Ghosting, Self-Worth & Good Sex: The Truth About Dating Today
12/02/2025
Ghosting, Self-Worth & Good Sex: The Truth About Dating Today
Dating gets a whole lot easier when you stop chasing “the one” and start understanding yourself. In this episode, Carla breaks down the myth of soulmates, the emotional impact of ghosting, and why feeling “not enough” is one of the most common dating blocks. She opens up about self-love, communication, codependency, and how self-worth shapes intimacy. And in the TACO segment, Carla tackles the question everyone’s afraid to ask: Does size actually matter? And explains why confidence and communication matter way more. This conversation gives you the clarity and tools to date from power, not fear. What You’ll Learn Why “the one” is a myth How ghosting impacts self-worth Why people feel “not enough” in dating How communication creates deeper intimacy What actually makes sex good (and what doesn’t) How self-love fuels better relationships Why everyone struggles with worthiness sometimes Work with me: Proven Dating Courses: Book: Tiktok: Instagram: Youtube: FREEBIE: Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites: “The one does not exist.” “You gotta look in the mirror.” “Confidence is going to make a difference.” Chapters 00:00 The Myth of 'The One' 04:30 Turned Off Understanding Ghosting in Dating 10:18 Block of Not Feeling Good Enough For a Relationship 23:25 TACO: Size and Sexual Confidence Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.
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Why You Can’t Get Over Them: Holiday Loneliness, Triggers & Real Healing
12/02/2025
Why You Can’t Get Over Them: Holiday Loneliness, Triggers & Real Healing
Dating gets messy when everyone defines “dating” differently. In this episode, Carla breaks down the confusion behind dating expectations, the loneliness that hits hard during the holidays, and why some breakups feel impossible to get over. She explains how deeper emotional wounds and attachment styles trigger certain heartbreaks that hurt more, and why wanting connection is completely normal. In the TACO segment, Carla dives into foreplay, mood killers, and how slowing down and using your senses can transform intimacy. What You’ll Learn Why dating means different things to different people How holiday loneliness affects your mental health Why wanting connection is not desperation Why some breakups feel impossible to get over How deeper wounds + attachment styles shape your pain The importance of slowing down and understanding your triggers Why foreplay matters more than most people admit How sensory connection deepens intimacy Mood-killers that ruin desire, and how to avoid them Why communication is everything in intimacy and healing Work with me: Proven Dating Courses: Book: Tiktok: Instagram: Youtube: FREEBIE: Rate, Review, & Follow, Carla Turned On Sound Bites “You are not just grieving them.” “You want to feel connected.” “Slow down your touch.” Chapters 00:00 Defining Dating: The Confusion of Terms 05:14 Turned Off The Pressure of Being Coupled During the Holidays 12:47 Understanding Why You Can't Get Over Your Ex 25:17 Taco 'Bout It: Foreplay and Sensory Connection Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.
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Trailer: Carla Turned On
11/23/2025
Trailer: Carla Turned On
Dating gets real, sex gets talked about, and the BS gets left on read. Hosted by certified dating & relationship coach Carla Romo, Carla Turned On, is your weekly permission slip to ditch shame, confusion, and the patterns that keep you stuck. Each episode gives you the tools, mindset shifts, and no-BS truth to step into your power and create f*ck-yes love...without losing yourself along the way. This is where you get real answers. Real tools. Real confidence. Let’s get turned on! FREEBIE: Work with me: Proven Dating Courses: Book: Tiktok: Instagram: Youtube: Disclaimer: Carla Turned On content has been made available for informational, entertainment, and educational purposes only. Carla Turned On is distinctly different from coaching, counseling, psychotherapy, or psychoanalysis and does not deal with the diagnosis or treatment of emotional problems. Carla Turned On does not constitute medical consultation or treatment.
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