Graydancer's Ropecast

The longest-running kinky sex podcast on the web. Alternative Relationships, Sexuality, Fetish, Performance, Rope bondage, Kink, BDSM, and more!

Re-connecting to Rope 12/18/2019

Re-connecting to Rope Gray returns to the podcast after a hiatus to talk about how he's trying to reconnect to the joy of kink. He talks about his writing on medium ( http://medium.com/@graymiller ) and also reads an excerpt from his work-in-progress, "The Dance of Smoke & Ash". /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/12452822

Rope, Cancer, & Long Term Relationships 07/12/2019

Rope, Cancer, & Long Term Relationships We start talking about MetroVancouverKink, ( https://ca.gofundme.com/legal-costs-for-mvk ) but then get personal: /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/10501739

Interview with Phoenix42 Creator _Zaphod_ 06/13/2019

Interview with Phoenix42 Creator _Zaphod_ Back in the interview chair, Gray takes you to the Arizona scene for an interview with _Zaphod_, owner and creator of Phoenix42 Creations ( https://www.instagram.com/phoenix42creations/ ). /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/10144841

SPECIAL ROPECRAFT ARTISTS PANEL! 06/03/2019

SPECIAL ROPECRAFT ARTISTS PANEL! On May 26th, 2019 in Chicago Illinois at ROPECRAFT six artists-in-residence ( Marceline VQ, Mr. Beck, The ArtistFromBeyond, Corinne, Stressykitty, and Jazzibel) met for a panel moderated by Graydancer. They explored a lot of topics, and agreed to have them shared here on the podcast! /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/10033820

Happy Birthday ROPECAST! 02/05/2019

Happy Birthday ROPECAST! February 5, 2005 was the first time the Ropecast hit the internets, and what a long strange ride it’s been! Gray picks out one lesson for every year and extemporizes on it - do you agree? Disagree? Let us know! This episode was brought to you courtesy of Twisted Monk (http://twistedmonk.graydancer.com) and Lee Allure (http://facebook.com/SpiralEyeSoap) as well as listeners like you contributing through http://patreon.com/graydancer . /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/8531882

3 Things Tops Should Stop Doing in 2019 01/09/2019

3 Things Tops Should Stop Doing in 2019 Gray launches the first podcast of the year with three things that tops (and anyone else who cares to) should stop doing in 2019. Then he reads a blog post published on http://TantusInc.com about dominance for the changing body. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/8192882

Interview with TypeAtypical 12/18/2018

Interview with TypeAtypical Live from Madison’s own Freyja Project Winter Festival comes TypeAtypical, the Iowa-based rope presenter. He talks about what it’s like to be an asexual rope top and how he defines style - and helps people find their own. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/7966232

RiggerOdys & AngelKnightxxx 12/04/2018

RiggerOdys & AngelKnightxxx At the Columbus ACE Rope Event RiggerOdys & AngelKnight spent some time talking about their rope philosophy. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/7801922

Talking about Busy-ness and Burn-out 09/01/2018

Talking about Busy-ness and Burn-out Gray gives a kind of "State-of-the-Ropecast" update, explaining why August was such a dry month and where and how his travels will help make September the opposite. He also talks about some of the burnout he's feeling with kink, and the ways he's fighting it. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/6995476

Talking about SESTA/FOSTA & the Future of Kink 07/11/2018

Talking about SESTA/FOSTA & the Future of Kink This is part two of an interview done with Jessie and PJ Sage from the Peepshow Podcast about the ways that the SESTA/FOSTA rulings may affect the kink scene, and why we should support sex work decriminalization. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/6799770

Interview with GoodMostTimes & BaconAndrew 04/25/2018

Interview with GoodMostTimes & BaconAndrew Whether it's your first Rope Convention or your fiftieth, this interview combines with articles that GoodMostTimes, Ojipan, and BaconAndrew created full of helpful suggestions for making them GREAT. Read more at http://ropecraft.net/firstcon . /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/6522274

Interview with Eternal Angel 03/30/2018

Interview with Eternal Angel Coming from Australia, Eternal Angel talks about finding the "edge" of your play, how pro-domming intersects with kink community, and gives us a taste of her new class "Consent & Navigation", coming soon to a ROPECRAFT near you! /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/6427166

Interview with WhiskyTangoFoxy 01/27/2018

Interview with WhiskyTangoFoxy This episode is an interview where you can get to know Chicago-based kinkster WhiskyTangoFoxy. She talks self-suspension, photography, collaboration, DIY kink, and why having a Statement of Principles such as the one at https://ropecraft.net/principles/ is a good thing for an event. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/6195557

Ritual and Rope 01/11/2018

Ritual and Rope “Mindfulness”, “Awareness”, “Connection” – this class goes beyond the buzzwords and into practical ways that your rope scenes can be hotter, safer, and taken “next level” (wherever that is for you). Combining Naiia’s woo with Graydancer’s skepticism the class includes meditation techniques, the value of checklists, leveraging power exchange into your rope bondage, and the dangers of habit. They will also discuss things that have and haven’t worked for them and provide you with the to /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/6140256

Lessons learned from listening to POC and: Coming Out of a Slump 12/27/2017

Lessons learned from listening to POC and: Coming Out of a Slump Closing out the year, Gray talks about some hard lessons learned during POC Listening Sessions. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/6093937

Please, Sir, May I have another? Part 2 12/05/2017

Please, Sir, May I have another? Part 2 In part two of this class, Dr. Eaves and Graydancer talk more about how to manage power exchange and polyamory in the day-to-day and even to the hopefully-not-so-bitter end. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/6014621

"Please, Sir, May I Have Another?": Poly & Power Exchange (part 1) 10/17/2017

"Please, Sir, May I Have Another?": Poly & Power Exchange (part 1) Both polyamory and power exchange relationships have complexities that can be wonderful, frustrating, or even both at the same time. In this class Dr. Eaves and Graydancer – two people who are enthusiastic about poly, D/s, and each other – will talk about some of the tools to manage these kinds of relationships in nurturing and sexy ways from beginning to end. (Part 1) /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5850889

The Accused: In the Event of a Consent Violation 09/07/2017

The Accused: In the Event of a Consent Violation Ozma of Oz wrote an essay about preparing yourself for what to do if you or someone you care about gets accused of a consent violation. The essay is nuanced and useful, and Ozma gives some great commentary on her writing. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5717802

VoxBody Studio! And Anal Sex as a Metaphor for...Consent? 08/16/2017

VoxBody Studio! And Anal Sex as a Metaphor for...Consent? Gray interviews Victoria Blue from her studio ( http://voxbody.com ) talking about how a rope space is created. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5650201

Naiia talks about kink, sexuality, and depression 08/03/2017

Naiia talks about kink, sexuality, and depression In this episode Naiia, a national kink & sexuality presenter, talks about her personal journey dealing with depression and how it affected her sex, kink, and poly relationships. You can read more from Naiia at her website, http://naiiabound.com . /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5607557

Consent Rocks! 07/20/2017

Consent Rocks! Reid Mihalko from flips the script and interviews Gray about this whole Consent.Rocks thing: how it came about, what it hopes to accomplish, and how to get involved. You can register for a Consent Rocks training by visiting and looking for the nearest one coming to you! This show was brought to you by: * (check out the by Evie Vane!) * Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast! You can also support the podcast directly by becoming a patron: /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5559458

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Lost Episodes, SUDO-Kink, and a Hard Question 07/07/2017

Lost Episodes, SUDO-Kink, and a Hard Question Gray starts out by revealing the secret location of the "lost episodes" of the Ropecast: Then things get serious when he answers a question put to him at the Philly GRUE: "How would you respond to a false accusation of consent violation?" He talks about the advantages a kinkster can have using the (iPhone only, sorry) to create identities that don't make you vulnerable. You can even tell him what you think at [email protected] ! Finally he lightens things up with the song that he sang during the Mythchievous performance at Fusion 2017. You can get the track in MP3 playable version at by pledging $1 or more towards the support of this podcast. This podcast is also supported by * * ...and we are, as always, very grateful for their support. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5517503

Your Brain on Kink: 07/01/2017

Your Brain on Kink: This is a podcast about the way that your hormones in your brain work with your Kink! A medically educated Kink enthusiast, Orannis, exchanges notes with great dancer in this podcast as we talk about the way that our bodies and our brains deal with sadomasochistic activities. This podcast was brought to you courtesy of the sponsorship of Twisted Monk http://twistedmonk.com, and Lee Allure, of http://LeeAllure.com. /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5499011

The Hidden Side of Rope 06/19/2017

The Hidden Side of Rope The founder of the Devil Mask Society, DemonSix (aka Matt) talks about his own personal epiphany with rope. This is a conversation about a path that can change your experience of rope bondage into a deeper and more intimate journey both for yourself and your partner. This show was brought to you by: * * Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast! You can also support the podcast directly by becoming a patron: /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5462512

Ropecraft Reflections 06/05/2017

Ropecraft Reflections Gray is still recovering from the awesomeness that was ROPECRAFT, and he spends some time sharing both highlights and also some of the things he hopes to improve for the next one. This show was brought to you by: * * Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast! You can also support the podcast directly by becoming a patron: /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5419985

Interview with Sophia Sky 05/22/2017

Interview with Sophia Sky Sophia Sky identifies as a Shenaniganarian and uses she/her pronouns. She is the Executive Director of the Foundation for Sex Positive Culture (FSPC), producer of the internationally renown Seattle Erotic Art Festival. The FSPC is working to change the world’s ideas about sexuality and promote consent through the arts and education. For more information about the FSPC, visit TheFSPC.org. This show was brought to you by: * * Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast! You can also support the podcast directly by becoming a patron: /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5374401

Interview with BadKittyBondage 05/15/2017

Interview with BadKittyBondage Kat and Dhyana have been tying and performing together as BadKitty Bondage since early 2012 and are proud to call Chicago home! They added MedullaOblongata into the mix as well as a Bad Kitten and together they've presented locally and nationally on shibari forms, rope bottoming, suspension, and predicament bondage. Find out more at This show was brought to you by: Please visit his site and thank him for supporting this podcast! You can find all Graydancer's Kink, Sex, & Culture podcasts at . That URL was purchased thanks to the generous help of my patrons at . If you'd like to help, every dollar makes the podcast better! /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5354446

Interview with Glamazon Tyomi 05/08/2017

Interview with Glamazon Tyomi "Glamazon" and "Sexpert", Tyomi is one of the most prolific and well-known sex educators on the interwebs. Her vibrant style and no-nonsense eloquence has helped many people have better orgasms, hotter sex, and deeper connections. In this podcast, Gray talks with her about what she'd like to see sex educators do better as well as why she believes celibacy has been the key to her better understanding her own sexuality. You can find out more about her work at: Full show notes available on the Wednesday after release at Graydancer's blog . Image courtesy of . This show was brought to you by: Please visit his site and thank him for supporting this podcast! /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5337171

Interview with Dr. Aerabelle 05/01/2017

Interview with Dr. Aerabelle What do you get when you cross a Doctor of Infectious Disease Research with a kinkster? You get (Dr.) Aerabelle, who talks in this podcast about the realities of risk perception and how it applies to sexuality and BDSM. We also talk boots, teaching, and get a preview of his upcoming classes at ROPECRAFT! Full show notes available on the Wednesday after release at Graydancer's blog . This show was brought to you by: * * Please visit their sites and thank them for supporting this podcast! /episode/index/show/graydancer/id/5316003

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