Graying Rainbows Coming Out LGBT+ Later in Life

Graying Rainbows is a community that supports people of all genders and sexual identities, with a focus on the challenges of Coming Out LGBT+ Later in Life. We use interviews, history, and storytelling to connect people who are new to the Rainbow Community. Graying Rainbows is released on the first Monday each month.

GR 56 Three Year Anniversary Episode 11/05/2021

GR 56 Three Year Anniversary Episode Graying Rainbows launched in November 2018. It's been an eventful three years, so this episode is a little different. It contains some advice for new listeners, reflections on lessons learned, and a brief look toward the future. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/21010829

GR 55 Review of "All In" by Billie Jean King 10/01/2021

GR 55 Review of "All In" by Billie Jean King This episode of Graying Rainbows is a review of Billie Jean King's new autobiography "All In." I highly recommend the audio version because it is read by King and her emotions come through. King's story includes "coming out later in life." She describes the toll that the delay took on her health and happiness, as well as the new sense of freedom she discovered when she was finally out to herself and the world. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Public MeWe page: Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/20597471

Rae McDaniel: Gender Transitions Coach 09/03/2021

Rae McDaniel: Gender Transitions Coach This episode of Graying Rainbows features Gender Transition Coach Rae McDaniel. She shares her own story and her passion for helping clients of all ages. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/18927656

GR 53 Army Veteran Andre Barnhardt 08/06/2021

GR 53 Army Veteran Andre Barnhardt In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows Army veteran Andre Barnhardt shares his struggle to embrace his identity as a gay man. He reminds us that despite the new more "open" policies it remains difficult to come out in a military culture. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/19734878

GR 52 Asexuality with Julie Sondra Decker 07/02/2021

GR 52 Asexuality with Julie Sondra Decker This episode is an interview with Julie Sondra Decker, author of "The Invisible Orientation: An Introduction to Asexuality." Most people acknowledge that sexual orientations includes homosexuals, bisexuals, and heterosexuals, but there is actually a fourth possibility. A person who identifies as asexual does not feel sexual attraction to anyone. Unfortunately, many assume that this represents a disease when actually it is part of normal human diversity. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/19569134

GR 51 Dr. Larry Millhoffer shares his experiences from the early days of AIDS 06/18/2021

GR 51 Dr. Larry Millhoffer shares his experiences from the early days of AIDS Dr. Larry Millhoffer is a retired physician who is grateful to have been with his husband for 45 years. Over that time the meaning of "coming out" has evolved, but a pivotal time in his life was caring for the first patients with AIDS as a young physician in the early 80's. During our conversation he reflects on the challenges of caring for patients in a time of fear and uncertainty, and on how the AIDS crisis changed the LGBT community. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/17396837

GR 50 Brig. General David Cotton 06/04/2021

GR 50 Brig. General David Cotton Retired Air Force Brig. General David Cotton shares his story of coming out LGBT+ after leaving his military career. He struggled with depression and with ending his marriage, but he shares how he learned how to embrace vulnerability and discovered new ways to connect with others. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/18146285

GR 49 Quinn Cromm (Corrected Version) 05/07/2021

GR 49 Quinn Cromm (Corrected Version) This month's episode of Graying Rainbows feature Nick Quinn who shares their experience of being non-binary in a world of rapidly changing ideas. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/17396933

GR 48 Carren Strock Returns 04/02/2021

GR 48 Carren Strock Returns In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows, we talk with writer Carren Strock about the 3rd edition of "Married Women Who Love Women, and More." Despite changing attitudes women continue to discover their attraction to other women after marriage and there are many ways to cope with the unique challenges of this dilemma. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/17396795

GR 47 Former Minister Nathan Hall Shares His Journey 03/05/2021

GR 47 Former Minister Nathan Hall Shares His Journey In this episode of Graying Rainbows former minister Nathan Hall shares what happened when he was outed without warning. It is an inspiring story of strength and resilience. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/14951267

GR 46 Jane Fleishman author of "The Stonewall Generation" 02/05/2021

GR 46 Jane Fleishman author of "The Stonewall Generation" This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features Jane Fleishman, author of "" Links and References: by Jane Fleishman Jane Fleishman's website: Jane's TED talk movie: () Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to [email protected] You can now support Graying Rainbows via at Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Public MeWe page: Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/17397038

GR 45 Nick McKenney from the Gay Coaches Alliance 01/01/2021

GR 45 Nick McKenney from the Gay Coaches Alliance This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features Nick McKenney from the . Nick came out 10 years ago when he was 63 years old and his first words for those of you who are struggling is that "it will get better." Email Dr. Campbell at if you want to learn more about Nick's coaching. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at Buy Dr. Campbell's book from your favorite online bookseller Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Public MeWe page: Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/17264519

GR 44 Dr. Tony Kaye 12/04/2020

GR 44 Dr. Tony Kaye This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features retired UK physician Tony Kaye. He shares his journey including some of the new challenges created by the COVID 19 pandemic. Announcements: Sign up for the FREE Graying Rainbows Or Text GRAYINGRAINBOWS to 33777 Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at Dr. Campbell's book is now available both as paperback and ebook. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Public MeWe page: Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/15162371

GR 43 Angela Williams 11/06/2020

GR 43 Angela Williams This episode of Graying Rainbows features Angela Williams who shares her story of breaking free from toxic religious teachings. Her story also reminds us that coming out LGBT+ later in life is about much more than sex. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/14951222

GR 42 Lou Poulain 10/02/2020

GR 42 Lou Poulain In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows listener Lou Poulain shares his story of coming out in his sixties. Books and Episodes Mentioned: with Kristin Kalbli of the by Lillian Faderman (2016). Faderman was interviewed in . by Adrian Brooks (2015). by the New York Public Library (2019). by Cleve Jones (2016). by Lillian Faderman (2019). Discussed with Faderman in . Additional Links: Dan Savage's OK 2 Be LGBT-- check your podcasting app starring Sean Penn (2009). (documentary) 1984. Announcements: On October 17, 2020 Dr. Campbell will be speaking at the online event : A Summit for LGBTQ Nontheists sponsored by the . Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Public MeWe page: Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/14951126

GR 41 Lorena de Idiáquez Bakula: A story of Transition 09/04/2020

GR 41 Lorena de Idiáquez Bakula: A story of Transition This episode of Graying Rainbows features my friend and fellow physician Lorena de Idiáquez Bakula. Lorena shares her story of growing up as a boy in Puru, where she attended university and medical school before moving to the United States to complete her training. It was not until she had been a successful physician for several years that she was able to transition and embrace her identity as a woman. She explains that despite the challenges she feels her life has changed for the better. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/15721172

GR 40 Michael Crumpler 08/07/2020

GR 40 Michael Crumpler This month's episode of Graying Rainbows features Michael Crumpler. He share the story of how he realized his dream of becoming a Christian minister AFTER coming out as LGBT+ and we discuss some of the challenges facing African American males who realize they are LGBT+. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/15162080

GR 39 Jenn Grace from Publish Your Purpose Press 07/17/2020

GR 39 Jenn Grace from Publish Your Purpose Press This extra episode of Graying Rainbows is an interview with author and entrepreneur Jenn T Grace. Jenn is the founder of Publish Your Purpose Press and her latest book is called "House on Fire: Finding Resilience, Hope, and Purpose in the Ashes." If you have ever wanted to write a book, you won't want to miss this episode. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/15145937

GR 38 Tress Ahles shares "The Messy Middle" 07/03/2020

GR 38 Tress Ahles shares "The Messy Middle" GR 38 features educator Tress Ahles who courageously shares her ongoing coming out journey, including the tension between the joys of embracing her true identity and guilt about the impact on those she loves. Links and References: To get the free Graying Rainbows Newsletter or text grayingrainbows to 33777. by Virginia "Ginger" Campbell, MD Dr. Campbell's with Look for upcoming interview on with Announcements: Please buy the 2nd edition of Dr. Campbell's book goes on sale everywhere. Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Public MeWe page: Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/14951027

GR 037 William Smith explores "Gay Life After 40" 06/05/2020

GR 037 William Smith explores "Gay Life After 40" This month's guest William Smith founded the long-running website and several related groups on Facebook. We go beyond his personal coming out story as he shares the lessons he has learned from helping other gay men come out "later in life." Although his work focuses on gay men, these lessons can remind us all of the power of helping others. Links and References: and by Loren A. Olson, MD a surprising resource for LGBT elders supporting LGBT Elders Announcements: Mark your calendar for June 16, 2020: That's when the 2nd edition of Dr. Campbell's book goes on sale everywhere. Get show notes automatically when you sign up for the . Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Public MeWe page: Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/14614658

Newsletter Announcement 05/25/2020

Newsletter Announcement It is now possible to get episode show notes automatically via our new . In the future I will also send out occasional announcements to the community, but I promise not to annoy you with any "drip" email campaigns. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/14530556

GR 36: Rosemary Cianfarani 05/01/2020

GR 36: Rosemary Cianfarani What do you do when you love your spouse, but you discover that you are gay? In this episode of Graying Rainbows Rosemary Cianfarani shares how after struggling with anxiety and depression for decades she was able to find a place of self acceptance. Announcements: Email Dr. Campbell for an invitation to our new group on MeWe. Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Public MeWe page: We are moving our private group from Facebook to Me. Listen to the episode to learn more. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/14178308

GR 35 Brian Gorman: The Power of Helping Others 04/03/2020

GR 35 Brian Gorman: The Power of Helping Others In this month's episode of Graying Rainbows transformation coach Brian Gorman share the story of how he helped a younger man come out under very difficult circumstances. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/13641089

Moving Group from Facebook to MeWe 04/01/2020

Moving Group from Facebook to MeWe Ever since Graying Rainbows launched in 2018 we have had concerns about people's privacy (and safety) on Facebook. I recently changed the Group from Private to Hidden, but then I realized that group membership is still visible. Some of those who need the group the most need total privacy and maybe anonymity. That is why I am moving the group over to and you will need an invite to join. Please visit the to learn more about their privacy policies. You can join for free although there are options to support the site so that it can succeed without advertising. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/13780055

GR 33 Writer Ronni Sanlo shares her story 02/03/2020

GR 33 Writer Ronni Sanlo shares her story I discovered Ronni Sanlo through her long running blog series about LGBT history and I am excited to have her as a guest on Graying Rainbows. Ronni was one of many LGBT parents who lost custody of her children due to Anita Bryant's homophobic campaign in the late 1970's. She shares how her experience led her into activism and continues to influence her writing. /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/12861362

GR 32 Eric Kearsley talks about Gay Married Men 01/06/2020

GR 32 Eric Kearsley talks about Gay Married Men In this episode we talk with retired Navy captain Eric Kearsley about his personal journey and the unique way he and his wife dealt with the fact that he is gay. Even though Kearsley "came out" publicly 15 years ago, he remains in a committed relationship with his wife. His story is an important reminder that there is no "one size fits all" way to come out LGBT+ Later in Life. Helpful Links: Announcements: Please complete Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. Please contact me if you are interested in sharing your story or you have suggestions for the show. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Private Facebook Group: /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/12552830

GR 31 Kristin Kalbli from the Straight Spouse Network Podcast 12/02/2019

GR 31 Kristin Kalbli from the Straight Spouse Network Podcast This month we have an unusual guest, Kristin Kalbli from the (now ). Kristin shares her own personal story and introduces us to the Straight Spouse Network, which has actually existed for 30 years. Our conversation gave me an entirely new perspective. No matter where you are in your journey I know you will find this conversation enlightening. Links and References: (formerly the Straight Spouse Network) by William Dameron Announcements: Please complete Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Private Facebook Group: /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/12059918

GR 30 JAX Wheatley: A story of Coming Out Twice 11/04/2019

GR 30 JAX Wheatley: A story of Coming Out Twice This episode is an interview with Jax Wheatley from Portland, OR. Jax shares their double coming out story, which included coming out as Lesbian in their forties before transitioning to male in their 50's. I know you will appreciate this story of courage and resilience. Announcements: Please complete Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Private Facebook Group: /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/11801657

GR 29 Shelly Johnson from "Latter Day Lesbians" 10/07/2019

GR 29 Shelly Johnson from "Latter Day Lesbians" This episode of Graying Rainbows is an interview with Shelly Johnson of the podcast Latter Day Lesbians. In her podcast she shares her story and helps many other listeners who are struggling with being LGBT+ in the context of a very conservative religious community. Links and References: Announcements: Please complete Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Private Facebook Group: /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/11408396

GR 28 "Lesbian Epiphanies" 09/16/2019

GR 28 "Lesbian Epiphanies" This episode is a discussion of Lesbian Epiphanies: Women Coming Out in Later Life by Karol L. Jensen. We explore the question of why so many women do not discover their attraction to other women until after marriage. Jensen's book was published 20 years ago, but many of the cultural factors she identified remain powerful in women's lives. References: by Karol L. Jensen by Margarethe Cammermeyer Announcements: Next Episode will be on October 7, 2019 Please complete Send email to [email protected] or post voice feedback at . You can now support Graying Rainbows via at To win an Amazon gift certificate: post a review of Graying Rainbows in Apple podcasts or your favorite app and send me a screenshot. If you are interested in learning more about coaching please drop me an email. Connect on Social Media: Twitter: Facebook page: Private Facebook Group: /episode/index/show/grayingrainbows/id/11155232

Graying Rainbows Coming Out LGBT+ Later in Life

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