HAM Podcast - Happy Asian Males Discussing Sex, Philosophy, and Health
One makes erotic films, the other sells weed. Brandon and Seibo dive into relationships, passion, physicality, psychedelics, and having purpose in this podcast about the art of being Happy Asian Males.
info_outline HAM 57 - Break Down to Break Through 01/16/2020
HAM 57 - Break Down to Break Through HAM57 – Justin Tsui of Win Each Day In episode 57, Brandon and Seibo sit down with Justin Tsui. Justin began enveloped in the world of football, eventually becoming a high school physical education teacher; he taught a wide variety of sports from hockey to football where he developed his skills of coaching, teaching and mentoring. His experience building up young adults into competitive athletes developed into finding new methods to how these athletes could address and manage their emotions and mindset in the world of sport. After flourishing for many years, Justin was at a turning point – on paper he had it all, but he was left wondering why he was still left unfulfilled. Fast forward to today and Justin is now a health and wellness businessman providing a refuge for people who are seeking mentoring with regards to how tackle their emotional challenges head on and develop the skills to manage and navigate personal turmoil. Episode 57 delves deep into the struggles of resolving relationships and personal challenges focusing on: - How do we keep ourselves accountable with the individual we want to be? - Being consistent with our character and being the best version of ourselves, not just in our professional lives, but also our personal lives with friends and family - How do we balance our behaviours and attitudes with strangers compared to our loved ones – why do feel it is permitted to be patient with the young athletes we coach, but forget to extend the sentiment to our own sons or daughters? - Why is communication so important as father figures and partners? The group break down the importance of communicating and disclosing our feelings to cultivate good relationships with our children and partners, as well as the consequences of not cultivating our emotional intelligence or maintaining good, consistent communication with loved ones. The trio then move on to discuss the need for support groups to allow ourselves to open up about our feelings, territory we as males are commonly reluctant to venture into. Why are individuals like Brandon able create havens that allows people to feel comfortable and open up? – it all comes down to trust, vulnerability, and honesty. Finally the discussions conclude with the importance of trust and intuition when it comes to forming genuine relationships. Seibo and Justin reflect about the people they have met in their life time, coming to the understanding how much an individual’s character plays a much larger role in forming these relationships compared to the conventional, even opportunistic criteria such as: profession, academics or qualifications. This trust, combined with listening to your own intuition plays an important role for finding like minded people enabling you to grow and develop. The trio ends out the podcast by underlying the three most important things to take away from the podcast and where to find Justin at the Win Each Day Facebook group.
info_outline HAM Episode 56 - Emasculasian?! 11/26/2019
HAM Episode 56 - Emasculasian?! Brandon is back! After a few solocasts, Seibo welcome Brandon back to the podcast to talk about Asian emasculation. We talked about A LOT of stuff in this episode from vulnerability to shame, and even including if Brandon is gay! We decided to start doing some show notes so it would help you guys find the interesting parts of the podcast but truthfully, the whole thing is awesome. Please leave us a rating or share this with a friend, we really appreciate it! 4:15 Difficulty of Dating Apps 7:35 Deductive belief formation 9:00 White names 10:30 No Chinese Accent 10:45 Chinese Exclusion Act 11:34 Feminine jobs 13:40 "I'm an introvert" excuse 14:00 Hypermasculine Identity 15:00 Overcompensation to get out of comfort zone 18:35 Friendzone real? 21:30 Brandon's Overcompensation 23:20 Masks attracting other masks 24:41 Brandon's Pick Up Artist experiences 25:10 Bad strategies 29:35 Mark Manson's "Models" book 30:15 Vulnerability and Brene Brown 32:20 Inner vs. Outer Game 33:17 Is Brandon Gay? 33:55 Two guys read the same dating book 35:00 Seibo's stories that women love 36:40 Sharing your real story 38:04 Guy friends not having sex with you 40:00 Permission to be vulnerable 40:45 Brandon gets sex coaching 41:52 Marriage Counseling 44:08 Seibo's previous paradigm 45:35 Asking for what you want 46:35 Polarizing people towards you 48:47 White Belt Advice: Approval? 49:27 Blue Belt Advice: Vulnerable Conversation 50:00 Black Belt Advice: Somatica Skills 52:01 Beliefs are placeholders 53:45 Helping yourself first
info_outline HAM Episode 55 - Jie Yang Designer, Blogger, and Renaissance Man 11/11/2019
HAM Episode 55 - Jie Yang Designer, Blogger, and Renaissance Man Jie Yang is the founder of TenX17 (https://www.tenx17.com/) a blog about the normalization of cannabis in Canada and globally. In today's episode we talk about what he does for self improvement, all the different jobs that he's had in his life that have shaped and influenced the way he is today, and many practical things you can begin doing so that you can begin the projects that you have been wanting to do but always ended up in the back burner due to competing priorities. We also talk about some of the differences between growing up Asian in the United States versus Canada. We also dived into some of the influences that Asians have had in the history of cannabis and why it is the "King of Herbs" -- We cover so many topics in this podcast, I have dubbed Jie the Renaissance Man!
info_outline HAM Episode 54 - Adam Bramlage Hummingbird Medicinals 11/07/2019
HAM Episode 54 - Adam Bramlage Hummingbird Medicinals This week we have a very special guest, Adam Bramlage, formerly of Hummingbird Medicinals. Adam has suffered from depression his whole life and has made vast improvements to his mental health by changing his diet, exercising more, taking ice river baths, and utilizing psilocybin mushrooms. If you have been curious about how psychedelics can improve your life, this episode is full of information on how to get started, micro dosing, respecting the fungi, and how to integrate the learning from these experiences.
info_outline HAM Episode 53 - Occupational Therapy Goes Deep 11/01/2019
HAM Episode 53 - Occupational Therapy Goes Deep Today's guest is Edwin Ho, an occupational therapist who works with autistic children. Edwin grew up with severe hearing deficiencies and how it formed and shaped him into the human being he is today. In a world where we often compare ourselves to others only on a monetary basis, we get real and talk about the things that are really important in life.
info_outline HAM Episode 51 - Subcultures, Psychedelics, and Mental Health with Terence Ching 09/17/2019
HAM Episode 51 - Subcultures, Psychedelics, and Mental Health with Terence Ching In this episode, we get to sit down with Terence Ching who is getting his doctorate in clinical psychology while focusing on mental health and psychedelics as it relates to people of color.
info_outline HAM Episode 50 - Human Up 07/30/2019
HAM Episode 50 - Human Up In this episode, Victor Ung, from the Human Up podcasts joins Seibo as they talk about their journeys from shy, quiet teenagers to where they are today. As Asian-American males, many of the struggles we share are quiet shameful to talk about. If the problems aren't discussed, it is very difficult to find a solution. Hopefully, through these discussions, we can start the healing process.
info_outline HAM Episode 49 - Reunions, Updates, and Psychedelics 07/15/2019
HAM Episode 49 - Reunions, Updates, and Psychedelics In today's episode, Angela Shen, joins the HAM podcast to update us on her latest shamanic journey and how it changed her perspective on so many things. Brandon and Seibo also update us on all the things and reasons why the show had to take a short hiatus. A lot of different topics were discussed including emotional intelligence, shame, and what we can do to improve our mental well being.
info_outline HAM Episode 48 - Adulting Like A Revolutionary 03/20/2019
HAM Episode 48 - Adulting Like A Revolutionary We have a special guest - Rachel Alexandria. She's the creator of the "Adulting Revolution" and teaches people how to be leaders through power and love. She's a lot more than that - just ask Brandon who she's working with right now on leveling up! We discuss the missing pieces our culture isn't preparing it's citizens with and how to fill in those gaps to become an adult.
info_outline HAM Episode 47 - Online Movement University 11/20/2018
HAM Episode 47 - Online Movement University In this guest episode we feature two Headmasters of #OnlineMovementUniversity - DJ Murakami and Jonathan "Mirth" Huynh-Mast. We get into the good stuff: experiencing movement outside of the "tasks", non-monogamy, BDSM, our Shadow, psychedelics and rites of passage, relationships, and masculinity in modern times.
info_outline HAM Episode 46 - Taking Off The Mask 11/08/2018
HAM Episode 46 - Taking Off The Mask We generally discuss the virtues of being a responsible adult on this show - but all of us have an inner child. How often do we let him or her out to play? We all need to do things just for fun too. What are like when we take off that "Adult Mask"? Martials arts and business are just as important as drawing cartoon characters and dancing like a monkey.
info_outline HAM Episode 45 - Social Nutrition 10/22/2018
HAM Episode 45 - Social Nutrition This week, Brandon and Seibo discuss the important ability to make friends and building a digital persona. How can we use social media to connect and cooperate with others? It can be tough to balance our "online" and 3-D world personalities. Real hugs, eye contact, and longing for human touch can be balance with our smart phones. What skills do we need to maintain to be humans?
info_outline HAM Episode 44 - Drawing a Line in the Sand 09/13/2018
HAM Episode 44 - Drawing a Line in the Sand This episode we talk about pop culture - Elon Musk and Colin Kaepernik. Polarization is a side-effect of standing for what we believe in. Acting in alignment with your beliefs take GUTS. This comes with discovering yourself through life experiences and finding your own beliefs. And we will make people upset - and bring others closer to you. Have you drawn a line in the sand lately?
info_outline HAM Episode 43 - Student's Mentality 09/05/2018
HAM Episode 43 - Student's Mentality Brandon has been trying many new things and has been feeling insecure, challenged, and sometimes, he even felt like giving up. These are all normal and rationale feelings to have when you are embarking on something new. Listen to Brandon and Seibo discuss how they tackle and conquer these moments in their life in order to LEVEL UP!
info_outline HAM Episode 42 - Intelligent Body Map 08/29/2018
HAM Episode 42 - Intelligent Body Map This episode is about how Brandon spent the last ten years debunking myths about Fitness and showing people how be their own personal trainer. It flies in the face of conventional fitness dogma - it works well for independent thinkers who aren't big fans of gyms. It is also the culmination of his facing his fears of the body and sharing that gift so others can benefit. Here's the link for the Intelligent Body Map:
info_outline HAM Episode 41 - Family Matters 08/22/2018
HAM Episode 41 - Family Matters This episode is about embracing the lessons from fathers, even if they were not emotionally available. Balancing our masculine and feminine sides leads to wholeness. Brandon goes on a roadtrip with his dad to find out more about him. Seibo experiments with hugging strangers and forms of dance.
info_outline HAM Episode 40 - Psychedelic Survival Guide 07/24/2018
HAM Episode 40 - Psychedelic Survival Guide This episode is EPIC. Seibo and Brandon interview Ryan Beauregard, the manager of the Zendo Project. If you go to Burning Man, Lightning in a Bottle, or music festivals then chances people are doing psychedelics. The Zendo Project provides training for Psychedelic Harm Reduction and trains people to support others through "bad trips". We talk about everything from nature, human potential, technology, and most importantly - how to respect and use psychedelics to improve human behavior on Earth.
info_outline HAM Episode 39 - Playing Games 07/17/2018
HAM Episode 39 - Playing Games This episode is about the importance of PLAY. From a young age we're taught to grow up, be responsible, and stop playing games. What if it was part of being a responsible adult to keep playing though? Our guest Don Savella, co-founder of Yogohana and Movement coach, talks about the seriousness of play and how to incorporate it into our lives.
info_outline HAM Episode 38 - The Mindful Mover 07/04/2018
HAM Episode 38 - The Mindful Mover Our special guests today are Philip and Martina Chubb. They are the brains and brawn behind "The Mindful Mover" on Instagram. Combining gymnastics and weight training all while teaching you how to get the most gains from the least amount of work. We discuss owning our Inner Nerd, Movement Culture, gratitude, and most importantly: how they are changing the Online Fitness industry!
info_outline HAM Episode 37 - Starting a Business 06/26/2018
HAM Episode 37 - Starting a Business Seibo has been involved in business and sales for most of his adult life. Brandon has benefited from Seibo by watching his example as a CEO and family man. He launched his own online education business and digs into his "true why" for getting into fitness and how being true to that has altered his life purpose. We talk about how it's more important to rest enough and use fitness to enhance your family and work life. We also talk managing personalities within a business and how to round out our weaknesses.
info_outline HAM Episode 36 - Sex & Relationship Basics 06/21/2018
HAM Episode 36 - Sex & Relationship Basics Our two guests today are Sex & Relationship coaches! Elena and Dori met Brandon during his "Sex School Training" and became friends. This episode is PACKED with practical advice you can use starting NOW. We cover how to be the best version of yourself, authentic compliments, flirting, everything BEFORE sex, body language, and much more!
info_outline HAM Episode 35 - Fatherhood 06/12/2018
HAM Episode 35 - Fatherhood Fatherhood. Every man should consider his position on the matter. We get two stories from each side; Don and Seibo who are fathers and Tony and Brandon who are single. We get deep about the lessons and experiences of having children in our lives. Enjoy this heartfelt episode!
info_outline HAM Episode 33 - Dys-Feng Shui 05/22/2018
HAM Episode 33 - Dys-Feng Shui In today's episode we talk about Seibo's healing experience with MDMA and how he used it helped strengthen his marriage. He discusses letting your guard down and genuinely listening to your loved ones. Brandon talks about his weekend with Gordon, our honorary Happy Asian Male. He helps Gordon bring Feng Shui into his home and "De-bachelorize" the place. We discuss the benefits of keeping a clean space and clean mind!
info_outline HAM Episode 32 - Power of Connection 05/08/2018
HAM Episode 32 - Power of Connection This week's guest is Angela Shen, the host of "Power of Connection". She is also Seibo's sister! We dive deep into both aspects of growing up an Asian, for both men and women. We discuss family history, the Enneagram, Yoga, community, psychedelics, and growth through adversity. We also talk about love knowing no boundaries. And that leads to the most important idea of lending a helping hand to those who need it most.
info_outline HAM Episode 31 - Sex Kit 05/01/2018
HAM Episode 31 - Sex Kit Do you have a SEX KIT? Today's guest Raj Bandyopadhyay met Brandon at Somatica, or "Sex School". In this special episode we discuss being prepared like a Boy Scout getting ready for a sex adventure! One way men can up their game is to be considerate of women's sexual needs. We talk explicitly about how to choose condoms, vibrators, lubricants, and much more!
info_outline HAM Episode 30 - Open Source Growth 04/24/2018
HAM Episode 30 - Open Source Growth This episode explains the core principle of HAM - taking powerful techniques for changing the mind, body and spirit and making them available to all. Like the Linux OS, you can reprogram your MIND operating system if you learn the structure. We share our best wisdom to help people find a"Flow State" and to spot the practices, habits, and thoughts that promote it. We truly believe everybody can achieve remarkable results if they pay attention.
info_outline HAM Episode 29 - Emotional Vortex 04/17/2018
HAM Episode 29 - Emotional Vortex An "Emotional Vortex" is when two people get into an triggered state and cannot make decisions with their logical minds. They essentially have a flashback to being a wounded child and cannot understand what is going on. It is extremely common in intimate relationships and even in business. Seibo and Brandon talk about recognizing vortexes and strategies to deal with them. They are a healthy part of life if we learn to deal with arguments constructively.
info_outline HAM Episode 28 - Flow State 04/10/2018
HAM Episode 28 - Flow State Flow State is just another word for being PRESENT. It will enrich all of your relationships, attract the right kind of business opportunities, and sexual partners. It is because you get a massive amount of information in the present moment, instead of thinking of the future or past. Brandon also talks about how going to "Ecstatic Dance" taught him about flowing with a group. Seibo relates how being in the present attracted the right business partners.