How To Make Love™

Unconventional recipes for love and liberation. In a world filled with hate, injustice, and despair, our sense of shared humanity depends on learning to MAKE radical, revolutionary, justice-centered love. Not find it, not fall into it. But intentionally create and wield it. Centering the voices of historically and culturally marginalized people, How To Make Love™ will provoke and challenge you to create your own recipe for and practice of making more love — in your life, and in the world. And ask you to include justice as a critical ingredient. New episodes monthly.

107: the Revolution of Reinvention 11/20/2024

107: the Revolution of Reinvention In this episode, we explore the art of personal reinvention — what it means to choose change on your own terms and imagine new possibilities for your life. Reinvention is more than self-discovery; it’s the training ground for transforming the world. Apply to UNscript . Download the transcript . Connect with laura about the episode Become a patreon of the podcast . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/34025767

106: Self, Family, and Organizational Care During Election Week [Bonus Episode] 10/28/2024

106: Self, Family, and Organizational Care During Election Week [Bonus Episode] Join host laura brewer for discussion about practicing self, family, and organizational care during the upcoming weeks -- and how to prepare for it now. Download the transcript . Connect with laura about the episode Become a patreon of the podcast . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/33606762

105: The Costs of Courage 10/21/2024

105: The Costs of Courage We rarely confront the true costs of courage—social, emotional, physical, personal, professional. This episode unpacks why, despite the steep price, courage is worth the choice for personal and collective liberation—helping you understand the cost and truly consent to it. Download the transcript . Connect with laura about the episode Become a patreon of the podcast . Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it! /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/33535652

104: Love-Ability 09/30/2024

104: Love-Ability Loveability is a mess. But love-ability? Now we're talking. Tune in to hear why shifting from "loveability" to "love-ability" might change your life, and the world around us. Download the transcript . Connect with laura about the episode Become a patreon of the podcast . Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it! /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/33251407

103: “I needed to understand – why do you believe these things?” (ft. Jada Hebra) 09/17/2024

103: “I needed to understand – why do you believe these things?” (ft. Jada Hebra) How do we love people we really, really disagree with? Join today's guest Jada Hebra to hear her personal story of crossing a giant divide with her spouse. As the election cycle heats up and divides between people are more inflammed than ever before, this conversation is a must-listen –– especially for those who want to practice rehumanizing our culture and our relationships. Fun things to click🌟: Watch Jada's TEDx talk here. Check out Jada's suggested resources and/or download the transcript of this conversation here. Connect with laura about the episode here. Become a patreon of the podcast here. Leave a review on itunes by scrolling down a little futher. We appreciate it! /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/33026887

102: Celebrating 5 Years of Making Love 08/26/2024

102: Celebrating 5 Years of Making Love Happy Birthday/Anniversary to How To Make Love! 🎈 We're back after an extended sabbatical and ready to take on more making of the love, justice, courage, and other important things listeners value. Hear laura share what's been up, and what's getting going. Connect with laura – leave a or send an . Transcripts – You can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? ❤️ . Read More /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/32579462

Minisode: Winter Love 11/30/2023

Minisode: Winter Love The winter can pose unique challenges and opportunities to our practice of making love, courage, justice, and liberation. Tune in for a couple of things to remember and consider as you move through the world this winter. Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/28855208

101: The Feelings of Freedom 10/30/2023

101: The Feelings of Freedom There's the idea of freedom and the somatics of freedom. Today's episode tackles how and why we should learn to cultivate the sensations of freedom in our bodies. Welcome. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/28456331

100: Welcome to My/Your Crisis 09/30/2023

100: Welcome to My/Your Crisis Who's ready for a mid-life crisis?! Me! You? Come on in for a lovingly honest and personal conversation about those feelings of falling apart –– midlife, or any other time. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/28183184

99: UNcontrol 08/31/2023

99: UNcontrol Ethic. Process. Aspiration. Practice. Come learn what else UNcontrol is and means and why we should engage it in the work of personal and collective freedom. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/27896931

98: "Relationships are what have rescued me." (ft. Alli Myatt) 07/31/2023

98: "Relationships are what have rescued me." (ft. Alli Myatt) Belonging. Repair. Lines of difference. Today, guest and I discuss radical relationships — especially at work. What makes them hard, what makes them complex, and what makes them beautiful. AND the things we need to unlearn so we can be in radical relationship with one another. Plus, a 🔥🔥🔥 book/resource list you don't want to miss out on . New Feature Alert: Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website. Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/27605412

97: How To Be A Good Loser 05/31/2023

97: How To Be A Good Loser Becoming a bad winner and a good loser is ... a little counterintuitive, to say the least. Learn how and why in this episode. And what all of that has to do with our collective and personal practice of liberation. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/26994552

96: UNperforming 04/28/2023

96: UNperforming We all perform. We've all been socialized to perform. And: none of us are truly free in a performance. Today's episode will take you into the what, why, how of performance and assimilation, and leave you with reflection questions for your healing and UNperforming. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/26677374

95: "I didn't understand the toll that survivalism took on my Self." (ft. Chrystal Toop) 03/31/2023

95: "I didn't understand the toll that survivalism took on my Self." (ft. Chrystal Toop) The path of healing is paved in UNlearning. In today's episode, we'll hear examples of what there may be to UNlearn and how that UNlearning has played out in our guest's life. Featuring the incredible storyteller and doula , we take a journey survivalism, enoughness, wholeness, and healing. All through the lens of what there is for each of us – for all of us – to UNlearn. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. The transcript and other resources from this episode can be Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/26396757

94: "You can’t create without breaking something." (ft. Oceana Sawyer) 02/28/2023

94: "You can’t create without breaking something." (ft. Oceana Sawyer) There is bracing. And there is breaking. In today’s episode, learn why the latter is so essential to healing, to liberation, and to creation. Featuring the amazing liminalist , this is a conversation about what we gain when we “lose” (control, fear, conditioning…), and what can be received only when we truly open. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. The transcript and other resources from this episode can be Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/26071149

93: How To Think 01/31/2023

93: How To Think What's the thing that: a) humans do constantly, b) shapes our life in resounding ways, and c) we're never taught how to do? –– think. Our thoughts can be assets or liabilities in our life, and laura shares 5 tips in this episode to help all of us think a little better. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website (ps: we have a , too)! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . Want to give a little love back to How To Make Love? . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/25776621

92: 5 Essential Skills for Practicing Justice 11/30/2022

92: 5 Essential Skills for Practicing Justice What––for you––is the single most essential skill or tool right now in your practice of justice?––love?––courage? That's the question the podcast will invite a whole new suit of guests to share and explore in the coming new year. laura kicks us off with her own reflections to the question, and her answers may surprise you. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/25170354

91: Consent As A Way of Being 10/31/2022

91: Consent As A Way of Being When we learn to think of consent as a way of being and a practice in ALL domains of our life, we expand the work of justice, liberation, and love. Join laura for a discussion about why we should think about embodying consent across all our life, how to deepen our practice of consent when making requests of others, and how to deepen our embodiment of consent when saying yes/no/maybe. We'll also talk about the direct link between consent and anti-oppression/anti-racism. And of course, there's reflection questions for you too. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcripts to our website! Now you can download written transcripts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/24845169

90: Scarcity 09/29/2022

90: Scarcity Sometimes called 'scarcity thinking,' laura breaks down and reframes the notion of scarcity – what is is, where it comes from, and how to heal it. Tune in for concrete suggestions, reflection questions, and tools for healing scarcity all through a lens of equity. While this episode is designed for individuals, it's also applicaple to teams and organizations struggling with scarcity orientation. New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcipts to our website! Now you can download written transcipts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . [Hyperlink] Want to engage more? . [Hyperlink] Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or . ❤️ [Hyperlink] Consider whether from laura would support your goals. [Hyperlink] /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/24509325

89: How To Make (Dis) Ease 08/30/2022

89: How To Make (Dis) Ease Join laura for a conversation about how we make ease and how we erode ease in our personal relationships. Plus, we'll look at some common culprits (personal responsibility, thoughts, and feelings) that can create generate an unhealthy sense of urgency and chip away at ease. That and much more! New Feature Alert! Transcripts! We've added episode transcipts to our website! Now you can download written transcipts, share them, copy/paste those reflection questions, or read along while you listen. . Want to engage more? . Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or . ❤️ /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/24197463

88: The Shadow Side of Purpose 07/28/2022

88: The Shadow Side of Purpose Purpose can be a guiding light. It can also be a dark shadow. But we rarely talk about the latter. We explore that conversation in this episode. /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/23881536

87: Freedom From The Inside-Out 06/30/2022

87: Freedom From The Inside-Out We can value freedom. We can treat it as an outcome. Or. And: we can train in making it our way of BEing. Resources from the podcast: Read , by Resma Menakem. . Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/23580404

86: How To Hold Your Bits Responsibly 05/05/2022

86: How To Hold Your Bits Responsibly No part of you is bad. And also: some of your bits likely create harm in the world. Find out why, how, and what to do about it. . Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/23007137

85: How To Judge Other People 04/19/2022

85: How To Judge Other People 😮 Since we all judge other people, let's be sure we understand the whats, whys, and hows of it. Especially the hows that connect us to oppressive ways of being in the world so that we can operate – and judge – with more critical consciousness, more compassion, and less harm. Episode Resources: . Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/22830746

84: How To Be Selfish 03/30/2022

84: How To Be Selfish Most of us consider selfishness a bad thing...but what if that's an oppressive lie? Episode Resources: ! Reflection Questions: How do/have you used the word selfish against other people? How has the word selfish been used against you? How do/have you used the word selfish against yourself? How do you want to (re)define selfish? Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/22611854

Listener Question Minisode: feeling vs. inflaming emotions 03/16/2022

Listener Question Minisode: feeling vs. inflaming emotions laura tackles a listener question from episode 82: "How can you personally tell the difference between feeling an emotion and inflaming an emotion?" Do you have questions from any of the episodes? Let laura know here: /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/22454864

83: Consensual Expectations 02/28/2022

83: Consensual Expectations High expectations can be helpful -- and they can create harm. For ourselves, and for others. How do we know the difference? What can be done to mitigate the harm? All in today's episode. Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ Access the show notes page here: /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/22264049

82: How To Feel Like Sh*t 02/08/2022

82: How To Feel Like Sh*t Let's talk about the importance of feeling emotional pain and "negative" emotion in both our lives and in the work of justice. In this episode, you'll learn ways to feel sh*tty -- better. Access the show notes page here: Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ If you'd like to work with laura 1:1 to build a radical practice of feeling all your feelings and rehumanizing the world around you, . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/22056344

81: How To Be Alive 01/18/2022

81: How To Be Alive Join host laura as we dig into the whats, whys, and hows of aliveness. What prevents us from being and feeling alive? What helps us be and feel alive? Access the show notes page here: Questions from the episode for reflection: What does aliveness mean to you? What do you need to be more alive in and for your own life? What would you like the point of your life to be -- today? Where are you distracted from being alive right now? What about life are you missing out on because you believe you should be happy? Name three times you felt alive. How did you know you were alive in those moments? What do those moments teach you about your own experience of aliveness? Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ If you'd like to work with laura 1:1 to build a radical practice of aliveness, . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/21803879

80: BEing Gentle 01/11/2022

80: BEing Gentle Access the show notes page here: Love How To Make Love? Return the love by writing a review on iTunes or joining our incredible inside supporters on Patreon. ❤️ If you'd like to work with Laura 1:1 to build a radical practice of gentleness, . /episode/index/show/howtomakelove/id/21697307

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