Intervention Workshop

How to help your addicted loved one accept treatment for alcoholism and drug addiction, using the Love First model of intervention. Jeff and Debra Jay, authors of the best-selling book "Love First," provide a detailed guide to the intervention process. Topics include: the neurobiology of addiction, creating an intervention team, writing intervention letters and bottom line letters, preparing for objections, choosing a treatment provider, intervention day, and 20 FAQs. Learn at your own pace. Share them with friends and family. Help your family find recovery. Organizing tools and documents mentioned in the podcasts are downloadable here: http://bit.ly/IWdocs33

Section 1, Chapter 1: Introduction: Facing the Problem 03/29/2019

Section 1, Chapter 1: Introduction: Facing the Problem Jeff Jay and Debra Jay provide an introduction and overview of the Intervention Workshop. How can we come together as a family to help our addicted loved one get treatment? How can we avoid catastrophic consequences and raise the bottom to right now? Planning and preparation are critical. There is little chance for success without training, rehearsal, and a detailed plan. There are many details to consider. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8937854

Section 1, Chapter 2: Underestimating the Problem 03/28/2019

Section 1, Chapter 2: Underestimating the Problem Families often hope it's not really addiction (or substance use disorder). Different family members have different opinions, and that dilutes the power of love and family. By the way, family is whatever we define "family" to be. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8937938

Section 1, Chapter 3: Inside the addicted Brain 03/27/2019

Section 1, Chapter 3: Inside the addicted Brain Debra Jay takes you inside the addicted brain for an up-close look at the neurobiology of addiction. Addiction has been recognized as a disease since 1877, and it has been recognized as a disease by the American Medical Association since 1955. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8937992

Section 1, Chapter 4: Myths and Misconceptions 03/26/2019

Section 1, Chapter 4: Myths and Misconceptions Substance use disorders, alcoholism and drug addiction are widely misunderstood. They are often considered moral issues or failures of will power, or defects of character. These ideas are wrong. In this chapter, we explore the many myths and misconceptions surrounding addiction, and set the record straight. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8938043

Section 1, Chapter 5: Enabling 03/25/2019

Section 1, Chapter 5: Enabling Jeff Jay discusses the dynamics of enabling. Here he defines "innocent enabling," which happens when the family thinks there loved one is just going through a phase, and will grow out of their problem. Then he talks about "desperate enabling," when the family finally realizes their loved one has a disease, and they are desperately trying to avoid greater consequences. He then discusses the process by which families awaken to what they really need to do. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8945645

Section 1, Chapter 6: Detachment and the Brain 03/24/2019

Section 1, Chapter 6: Detachment and the Brain Debra Jay describes the changes that happen inside the brains of family members and friends who are trying to deal with an active addict. How does unpredictable stress and unmanageability affect us? How does stress and fear affect the developing brains of children in the household? This podcasts gives us even more reasons to take action. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8945690

Section 1, Chapter 7: Power of the Group 03/23/2019

Section 1, Chapter 7: Power of the Group Why does 1-to-1 discussion seem fruitless with someone with a substance use disorder? Addicted people tend to keep friends and family off balance, telling different stories to different people, pitting one against another, and playing the blame game. When family and friends come together in a serious rigorous intervention process, they become a force for good in their loved one's life. In fact, family and friends are the perfect group, as they have the best intentions and the power of love. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8945753

Section 1, Chapter 8: Road to Integrity 03/22/2019

Section 1, Chapter 8: Road to Integrity Addiction robs the individual of their integrity, causing them to lie to the people they love the most. But family members also lose their integrity. We say we won't stand for it anymore, but we do. We say we won't cover up or enable, but we do. the intervention process helps family members recover their own integrity, and set a positive example for their addicted loved one. We are going to learn, get a new plan and take action. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8945801

Section 2, An introduction: Step by Step 03/21/2019

Section 2, An introduction: Step by Step Starting your intervention process. Choosing a detail person. How to find a good interventionist. The necessity for planning carefully. When you need a professional: 1) history of suicide attempts, 2) co-occurring psychiatric disorders, 3) history of violence, 4) family can't work together, 5) history of failed treatment attempts, 6) if the family is uncomfortable doing it on their own. Tools and documents mentioned in the podcast can be downloaded here: http://bit.ly/IWdocs33. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8946161

Section 2, Chapter 1: Building Your Team 03/20/2019

Section 2, Chapter 1: Building Your Team Who should be on your intervention team? Who should not be on the intervention team? How to involve reluctant team members and bring them into process. Guidelines for when children (minimum age 12) can be involved. Tips for determining if an employer can be involved. How to work with an EAP or human resources department. Getting time off work for treatment. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8946230

Section 2, Chapter 2: Choosing Treatment 03/19/2019

Section 2, Chapter 2: Choosing Treatment Choosing treatment, choosing the right level of support, so your loved one has the greatest chance of success. Inpatient residential, intensive outpatient (IOP), halfway house or sober house. Local treatment or a national-level treatment center. Concerns with utilizing insurance. How to identify publicly-funded programs. Can Twelve Step programs be a substitute for treatment? Detox starts the treatment process, but detox is not treatment. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8946320

Section 2, Chapter 3: Writing Intervention Letters 03/18/2019

Section 2, Chapter 3: Writing Intervention Letters A guide to writing letters for an intervention, based on the book "Love First," by Jeff Jay and Debra Jay. Seven point process for writing intervention letters. Interventions should not be done off-handedly, with people making up what they want to say on the spot. Letters provide structure, and allow us to make sure that we have covered all the critical points. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8946377

Section 2, Chapter 4: Deciding on Bottom Lines 03/17/2019

Section 2, Chapter 4: Deciding on Bottom Lines Most people go to treatment on intervention day, about 85%. However, if we get a hard NO from our addicted loved one, there may be some natural consequences which will follow. At a minimum, we may look at the ways we've been enabling the problem to continue. Many alcoholics and addicts rely on their enabling system, and if the enabling stops they will usually agree to treatment within a couple weeks. Using love constructively. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8946542

Section 2, Chapter 5: Brainstorming Objections 03/16/2019

Section 2, Chapter 5: Brainstorming Objections In many cases, the addicts objections to treatment may be the addiction fighting for its life, almost as though the addiction is a separate person. Two types of objections. 1) Substantial objections, such as work or family commitments, scheduling problems, legal matters. 2) Insubstantial objections, such as "I don't want to," "It's not that bad," "My wife is the problem." These can be the toughest objections. The group will be able to brainstorm the right answers. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8946632

Section 2, Chapter 6: Rehearsal Process 03/15/2019

Section 2, Chapter 6: Rehearsal Process Everyone is nervous prior to the intervention. When you complete a good rehearsal process, you will feel more confident in yourselves and the process. Use your checklist. Choosing the last letter: the closer. Determine the right order for the letters to be read in. Seating arrangements. Making final edits to the intervention letters and the bottom line letters. Bottom lines are only used when necessary. Love is the key to every intervention. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8946686

Section 2, Chapter 7: Choosing the Chairperson 03/14/2019

Section 2, Chapter 7: Choosing the Chairperson The chairperson leads the intervention if there is no professional interventionist involved. Even if you have a professional, you will still want a chairperson to head the family and friends group. The chairperson should not be a spouse. The chairperson should be someone who has emotional influence with the addict. It should be someone the alcoholic is not angry at. It should be someone they respect. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8946734

Section 3, Chapter 1: Intervention Day 03/13/2019

Section 3, Chapter 1: Intervention Day Guidance and tips for the day of the intervention. Preparation is the key to success, so now the work of all the previous chapters will pay off. You must follow all directions to maximize your chances of success. Dealing with silent objections. Using bottom lines properly. Preserving everyone's dignity. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8947067

Section 3, Chapter 2: After The Intervention 03/12/2019

Section 3, Chapter 2: After The Intervention How to communicate with treatment, getting a release, delivering bottom lines in case your loved one want to abort the treatment process. How to help your loved one stay in treatment. The importance of Al-Anon. Developing a relapse agreement. Keeping the intervention team intact. /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8947223

Section 4, FAQs 1-10 03/11/2019

Section 4, FAQs 1-10 1. Our addict has just had a major crisis? /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8947892

Section 4, FAQs 11 to 20 03/10/2019

Section 4, FAQs 11 to 20 11. When does a family need a professional interventionist? /episode/index/show/intervention/id/8948219

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