Confidently Uncomfortable with J.Go

Hey love! What’s up?! Welcome to Confidently Uncomfortable. I’m your host J.Go- health & lifestyle coach and not-so-regal confidence queen. Coming at you with the REAL, the Raw and of course, the UNCOMFORTABLE. My mission is to show you- that to be confident, it has absolutely NOTHING to do with being perfect or having it “all together” and EVERYTHING to do with getting UNCOMFORTABLE and pushing your limits. Tune in as I share my own stories, experiences and education as well as connect with other confident and inspiring guests. INCLUDING YOU! I'll be sharing your stories & confidence wins as you listen along and gain the courage to send them my way! Every week, I’ll be showing up here - real and raw - even when it’s uncomfortable. You’ll be getting expert information about what it takes to show up & be the BEST version of you! Apply to be a guest on this podcast here: https://forms.gle/nRZmWmsukgVPi7We9

80: Twenty Lessons I'd Tell my 20-Year-Old Self 05/23/2022

How to keep a routine during travel, transition, and when everything goes wrong with Alex Hanson 05/16/2022

Special Mother’s Day Episode: Meet J.Go’s Mom 05/09/2022

The story you tell yourself is holding you back 05/01/2022

76: Takeaways from Taking a [Social Media] Break 04/25/2022

75: 30 Days to Feel Good Naked Challenge: I'm leaving that self conscious BS in my 20s, are you in? 04/18/2022

74: Confronting the modesty standard and checking your judgment: A conversation with Alex Hanson 04/12/2022

73: Loving Your Body Through All Stages with BCB Alum Taryn Jerez 04/04/2022

73: Loving Your Body Through All Stages with BCB Alum Taryn Jerez TW: Infertility and disordered eating An interview with Taryn Jerez, Founder of One Crafty Miss, a Creative Business Coach, and Industry Speaker. She has a heart centered on teaching and serving creative women who have a vision for their business and their life. Oh yeah, and she’s a BCB alum! * Connect with Taryn Jerez on Instagram: @onecraftymissblog * Enrollment for BCB is NOW OPEN - for more info click here: * Connect with J.Go on E-Mail: * Follow J.Go on Instagram @JGoFitLife * Follow J.Go on TikTok @JGoFitLife * Apply to be a part of J.Go’s Body Confident Blueprint coaching program: * If you’re interested on being a guest on this podcast, please fill out this form: ----- What did Taryn’s life look like before she started BCB? - She was in a season of waiting, dealing with infertility, weight gain. - She associated worth and how she feels about herself with how she looks and her weight. - She’d spent 4 years of her life trying to lose weight, and she had! - When she encountered grief and heartache, she gravitated towards things that were unhealthy (in her case, food). - That’s when she had her Discovery Call with J.Go about joining Body Confident Blueprint. - She Wanted to get healthy to give her body the best chance possible for creating a life. - She loved the community aspect of BCB and that’s why she joined. - Taryn enjoyed hearing other women’s stories and not feeling so alone. - She learned she was expecting during the program! Where has she been since BCB? - She’s prioritizing herself. - She worried about losing herself after she became a mom, but she’s not so afraid of that anymore. She’s been able to use the tools from BCB to not fall into old habits. - Her confidence level is so different. - She’s more comfortable in her postpartum body now than she was the first 30 years of her life. Loving your body through different stages What advice would you give to someone who’s fearful of getting into different stages of her body? Instead of horror stories, what do you wish you had heard instead? - It’s easy to say “don’t compare” but we’re all going to. - Monitor your comparison, compare yourself. Look at what your body has done. - Your body has gotten you through lots of hard things. It is amazing what a women’s body can do. How have her thoughts about missing out of life changed since BCB? - How she grew up impacted how she viewed being a mom - She saw her mom miss out on experiences because she didn’t want to show her body. - She never said yes to a pool party, she never went to the beach with her friends. She told people she didn’t like the beach because she didn’t want to be in a swimsuit in front of people - She wants those experiences now and wants to be an active mom. - She’s embodying her confidence in her body and in her business. /episode/index/show/jgofitlife/id/22664150

72: Hack Your Affirmations to Embody Your Highest Self 03/28/2022

71: Stop Seeking Motivation, Start Seeking Real Change 03/21/2022

70: The Secrets of Self Doubt No One Tells You About 03/15/2022

70: The Secrets of Self Doubt No One Tells You About Have you been feeling self doubt lately? J.Go breaks down three times she’s felt self doubt and what she did to overcome her doubts and fears. * Connect with J.Go on E-Mail: * Become a Beta Tester for my Busy BCB Program: - If you’re interested on being a guest on this podcast, please fill out this form: - Sometimes, people only show their successes and don’t show the whole picture, which was likely filled with a lot of self doubt. J.Go wants to be vulnerable and share times along her journey when she felt self doubt, and how she overcame those feelings to level up. When J.Go quit her job without having a plan - She thought: can I really do this on my own? These feelings came up over and over again during the course of her first year coaching. - How did she work through the doubt? - First of all, she was fortunate enough to have emotional support and encouragement from both of her parents - She walked through the doubt, meaning: She thought about the fear, doubt, and anxiety she felt when the fear came up. She was so afraid of failure, but what would actually happen if she failed? She could always go back to a job. - What if this isn’t the “right” thing for her? Well, maybe it would open her eyes to new opportunities. Maybe she will meet someone who will lead her to her next step. - Taking that next step is telling God or the Universe that you trust the plan, and that you trust yourself. - The next step can be a small one, such as making yourself a short morning routine, setting a boundary, etc. - Walking through self doubt helped her realize what could happen really wasn’t that bad. Even if it was a trainwreck, it was better that she at least tried. When J.Go hosted her first Go.Retreat - She compared herself to a lot of people who have already hosted multiple retreats - What did she do to help self doubt? - Self Reflection: Look at a time in your life when you were afraid of something and it all worked out. When is a time when you doubted yourself, and you proved yourself wrong? - Celebrate your achievements so far. They wouldn’t have happened if you let self doubt get in the way. - Instead of getting caught up in comparison, she decided to learn from them. - She reached out asking for mentorship and it was invaluable. - She thought to herself, why not you? Why not? - If you don’t want to reach out for mentorship, you can scroll back to their very first instagram post, or their first video or blog. It helps to see their growth and that everyone starts from the beginning. Taking a social media break - She had fears, “What if no one cares?”. It was her ego talking. - What if she can’t run a successful business without Instagram? - She realized that fear itself wasn’t a good enough reason to stay on social media and continue going at the pace that she was. - what if you can’t run a successful business without posting on instagram everyday and sharing your life? - The people that get it, the people who connect with her. - She went back to what really matters, her values. - What could she control? She could control how much she was on social media. - Getting clear on her values was her first big step. Decide what matters to you. What do you value? What are your goals? - If something could help you reach your goals, then do it! - If you knew you wouldn’t fail, would you do it? Then take that step. - It’s worth more to try and fail. /episode/index/show/jgofitlife/id/22452155

69: 15 Minute Walking Meditation: Step Into Your Highest Self 03/07/2022

68: Feeling Burn Out? You’re not alone. Here’s what I’m doing to avoid it. 02/28/2022

68: Feeling Burn Out? You’re not alone. Here’s what I’m doing to avoid it. In this episode, J.Go shares why she’s decided to take a break from social media, what that looks like for her, and what she’s doing to prepare for her next chapter. Are you thinking about taking a break too? This episode is your invitation to slow down and re-align. * Connect with J.Go on E-Mail: [email protected] * FREE download * * Discover your self love language quiz and join the - It’s been almost four years since J.Go took a break from social media! - Participating in her “self love challenge” helped her see she hasn’t been taking time for herself to process her grandmother’s passing. - “The reason I wanted to talk about it for a week before I jumped off and took time off of social media was — I felt like there are other people out there who need a break as well. Who needs to slow down their brain and who needs to take a step away from all of this consumption and screen time.” - She was going through the motions and wasn’t feeling present in her body. Not burnout - but numbness. Ask yourself these questions: - How are you feeling? - What do you need right now? - What would you do right now if you broke up with all the ‘shoulds’ going on in your head? Preparation: - She’s auditing her current screen time - Setting intentions for the next 90 days - Taking a break, but not putting a number on it. Not a “cold turkey” approach - Considering which new boundaries to set - Brainstorming about what to share next - Giving herself grace Shifting focus: - More focus on the podcast and speaking events - If you’re interested on being a guest on this podcast, please fill out - “There might be something on the other side of letting go, but because you‘re so stuck in controlling what you have now and holding onto it, you’re not releasing into what could be.” /episode/index/show/jgofitlife/id/22282877

67: Self Love Sabotage: Are you the one getting in your way? 02/21/2022

67: Self Love Sabotage: Are you the one getting in your way? On your self love journey, sometimes you’re the one getting in your way. How can we use our self love language to identify how we might be self sabotaging? Take my FREE Self Love Language Quiz: Enroll to be in the beta group of Busy BCB: Connect with Jordan: @JGoFitLife Get on the waitlist for Body Confident Blueprint Coaching Program - As we continue to grow and level up, our saboteurs come back in different and new ways. - Our love language, how we best receive love, can give insight into how we might self sabotage or punish ourselves. If your Love Language is Words of Affirmation: - Look out for negative self talk or an overactive “inner mean girl” - To help combat it: Stop the words in their tracks. Shift towards positive self talk and bring attention to things you love about yourself. - J.Go has a “wins wall” that she can look at when she’s feeling down. If your Love Language is Acts of Service: - Look out for a messy home or environment, undone chores or tasks. You might not be taking care of yourself, planning ahead, taking on too much, letting your environment get unruly. - To help combat it: Firstly, don’t feel guilty or compare. Start small with a 15 minute timer and clean one corner with your favorite music playing. Be proud of what you got done in that time period; give yourself grace. If your Love Language is Physical Touch: - Look out for avoiding human interaction and feeling disconnected from ourselves and our friends. You might also be over-consuming content which leads to comparison. - How you can combat it: Create a code with your closest people to let them know how you’re feeling when you are isolating. Start small by taking steps to reconnect with your body. If your Love Language is Gifts: - Look out for not allowing yourself to treat yourself, or not feeling worthy of nice things. You may be putting yourself last and not thinking you deserve anything. - How to combat it: Gifts don’t have to be a physical purchase, they can also be an investment in yourself. Celebrate when you purchase something for yourself because you are worthy of nice things. Where to start: Audit your behaviors and habits to see if you are punishing yourself in any of these ways. EXCITING ANNOUNCEMENT: J.Go is launching a self paced version of her Body Confident Blueprint Program called “Busy BCB” - Busy BCB is for women you maybe aren’t ready to make such a big investment and just want the content, methods, and mindset to get started at their own pace. Busy BCB will include information on macros, flexible dieting without restriction, fitness goals, and mindset. J.Go is looking for women who can beta test the program and give feedback at a massive discount. They’ll get 1-1 support and will get the final program after it is finalized and completed. Enrollment for the beta program opens today! 2/22/22 /episode/index/show/jgofitlife/id/22111187

66: Shift your mindset around Valentine's Day with Acacia Robinson 02/13/2022

65: Step into Opportunity with Brooke Eagle of Forsyth Woman Magazine 02/07/2022

65: Step into Opportunity with Brooke Eagle of Forsyth Woman Magazine A conversation with Brooke Eagle, publisher of Forsyth Women Magazine. Buy your online tickets to the Forsyth Woman's "Women on the Move" Leadership Conference Connect with Jordan: @JGoFitLife Learn more about J.Go's Body Confident Blueprint Coaching Program Connect with Brooke: Forsyth Mags Podcast: Instagram: @brooke__eagle Instagram: forsythmags J.Go’s Self Love Language Quiz + Join the Challenge: Meet Brooke Eagle She went to High Point and got her degree in Elementary Education. She realized it wasn’t her passion while she was student teaching. Her mom founded Forsyth Women Magazine 16 years ago. She started working for her mom as an ad salesman, working on commission. She had a lot of doubt, fear, and worry about how much money she’d “wasted” on her education. Now, she can see that it wasn’t a waste of money and that she learned a lot. It’s OK to grow, and to grow out of a position. It doesn’t mean that the time wasn’t well-spent because it’s a time you were growing and learning. She found the positives. Stepping away from what you’re comfortable with is a great first step, and sometimes the scariest thing to do She’s hosting the “Women on the Move” leadership conference this Spring. It’ll be a day of growth, learning, networking, fun and supporting local people. What’s her advice to someone who’s struggling to step into the opportunity? - You don’t want to wait too long, especially when it comes to personal development. - If you’ve been thinking about self development but afraid to get yourself out there, network. You can’t build relationships without putting yourself out there. - Will your future self thank you for this? If the answer is yes, don’t wait for it. A lot of listeners are busy, driven women. What does Brooke do to create balance? - Exercise is her non-negotiable. - Listen to your body. It’s not intense all the time, sometimes it’s stretching, walking your dog, or a twenty minute power nap. J.Go’s Self Love Language Quiz: - If you can’t find your self love, it’s hard to receive it from others. - Physical Touch: Massages, soft blankets, moving your body, napping, skincare, showers, bath. - How do you give words of affirmation to yourself? Positive self talk, finding gratitude, daily affirmations, journaling, self improvement, investing in yourself, surrounding yourself with community that lifts you up. /episode/index/show/jgofitlife/id/21853718

64: Lacking intimacy? Level up your Relationship with Self Love 01/31/2022

64: Lacking intimacy? Level up your Relationship with Self Love What happens if you don’t practice self love in a relationship? J.Go breaks down 6 common scenarios and how to show up better for your partner and yourself. Take the Self Help Quiz + Sign up for J.Go’s FREE Self Love Challenge starting on February 14th: Connect with Jordan: @JGoFitLife Learn more about J.Go's signature 12-week Body Confident Blueprint Program: This episode doesn’t only apply to romantic relationships: friendships, work relationships, and family relationships are also important places to practice self love. **If you are in an unhealthy relationship or unsafe relationship - reach out to appropriate help or counselors. Codependency: - These come with high self sacrifice and the feeling that you’re losing yourself. You may start to resent the relationship. - What to do: Focus on your needs first, be clear on your value, have independent interests and activities outside of that partner. Communicate these needs. - Make some time for yourself and find an activity that you can do on your own - If your partner is pushing back on you having some personal time, that’s a red flag. Gas Lighting: - If you find yourself questioning your sanity, surround yourself with people that know you. They’re going to be honest and level with you, and help you get a better grip on reality. - Sometimes there’s guilt, but know you are worthy of feeling grounded in who you are. - Be grounded in your truth. - If someone makes you question yourself, see if it’s coming from a genuine and loving space, or if it’s a form of manipulation and control. Lack of Boundaries: - If you’re feeling spread thin, most likely you’re not sticking to your boundaries. - Ask yourself: What do I want to say ‘yes’ more of to? - Example: Going outside more, visiting more friends - What do you want to say ‘no’ to? - What are some boundaries you need? With your partner? With work? With family? Projecting Insecurities: - When J.Go and Tom were younger, she would look for affirmation from him all the time. - She’d ask “Why are you making me feel this way?” -- mirroring how she was feeling on the inside back at him. - If you’re projecting insecurities, it’s important to ask: What are you feeling insecure about? It might not have anything to do with your partner, but maybe a past relationship that’s seeping into your current relationship. - Communicate the insecurities to your partner. Think of action points that they can do that will help you. - Start with affirming yourself, that way you’ll be more open to receiving love. - Give yourself praise and affirmation - Be your biggest hype women - Refocus on what matters Miscommunication - When miscommunication is coming up - you can take some time with yourself and identity what matters, what you’re valuing, and getting more clear on what you really want to communicate - Emotions can get up and take over. They’re not bad, but practice communicating them. Ask yourself why you’re feeling that way and put it into words to help someone else understand. - Be open to what the other person is saying without jumping to conclusions or feeling judged. Sometimes we’ll get back to projecting emotions, we start to self blame and judge. - In an argument, understand how each partner works - Identify the disconnect. Take time to see things from other people’s perspectives, from a judgment-free space. This may require exiting the situation. - Go on a walk together or alone. Shitty Sex - Emotional intimacy is crucial for a long-term sustainable sex life. - Self love perspective: you’ve got to reconnect with your own body. - Lots of examples in the “reconnecting with your body” episode - Communicate your needs - Explore intimacy and trying new things, it’s about baby steps - Quality time that is uninterrupted talk. No phones. No screens during dinner. - Put something on the calendar for spending time together without screens How do I know what I need in my self care practice to show myself love? - Self care has to do with your self love language. - J.Go has a quiz called The 5 Self Love Language: - Go Love Yourself 5 Day Challenge - Help you unlock your love language and find a deeper connection with yourself. - Starts on Valentines Day - A couple’s challenge also - Launching now - sign up, get the introduction email and take the quiz. /episode/index/show/jgofitlife/id/21966245