Beyond Success
Are you a high achiever who’s worked hard, found success, but still feels like something’s missing? Do you wonder what the point of it all is, and long for deeper meaning or love in your life? Welcome to “Beyond Success,” the podcast for high achievers seeking fulfillment, happiness, and true purpose. I’m David Tian, Ph.D., Leadership Coach, Certified IFS Therapy Practitioner (Level 3), and a former university professor. I’m also a proud father and husband. I bring two decades of experience, expertise, and a passion for helping others to each episode, delivering transformational insights and breakthroughs. Join us each week for deep explorations that will challenge your perspective, inspire personal growth, and guide you toward a more fulfilling life. Whether you’re striving for personal or professional excellence, “Beyond Success” offers the tools, methods, and strategies to help you find your way. Tune in every week for practical wisdom that can lead to real change. If you’re ready to move beyond mere success and discover what truly makes life worth living, this podcast is for you. If you enjoy the podcast, would you consider leaving a short review on Apple iTunes Podcasts? I really appreciate your feedback and love reading the reviews! For more about David Tian, go here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/about/ Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here: https://www.davidtianphd.com/emotionalmastery
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Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong People (& How to Attract the Right Ones)
02/21/2025
Why You Keep Attracting the Wrong People (& How to Attract the Right Ones)
Most people chalk up their attraction problems to external sources: Maybe they think they need better strategies and skills. Or they believe that dating apps are against them. Or maybe it’s just that they’re unlucky. Here’s the bad news: If you've been struggling with attraction, confidence, or relationships, the problem isn't some external force working against you. The real issue is the unconscious patterns, your “Relationship Blueprint,” controlling your life. Worst part? Since your mind creates your “Relationship Blueprint” early in your formative years, most people don’t even realize it’s pulling all the strings. And until you face these unconscious patterns, the same unconscious patterns will keep popping up and sabotaging your relationships. But I also have good news: In today’s show, you’ll discover how your "Relationship Blueprint” unconsciously sabotages your relationships, how to rewire it, and why you’ll be a more calm, collected, and confident person after rewiring it. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The brutal truth about why you keep repeating the same patterns that only lead to frustration and heartbreak (0:34) How your shadow twists your fears, insecurities, and anger into a toxic soup in your subconscious that sabotages relationships (and why you must retake control of your shadow for relationship success) (3:34) The “Relationship Blueprint” that’s been wired into your mind since childhood that explains every adult relationship you’ve been in (and how to rewire it) (8:51) Why outsourcing your confidence to external validation works as a mask, but cripples your true self-esteem (17:13) The 4-step healing and transformation process that rewires your “Relationship Blueprint” (23:52) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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The Dark Psychology Behind Attraction Strategies (and Why They Always Backfire)
02/14/2025
The Dark Psychology Behind Attraction Strategies (and Why They Always Backfire)
As a former player myself, I know first-hand how crushing the “Grandiosity-Shame Cycle” is. Almost all players fall into this psychological trap that only leads to rage, doubt, depression, and despair. But you know what? It’s not just players who are at risk of falling into this sabotaging cycle. Any one who builds his or her identity around external validation is at risk of falling into this deep emotional hole, where compulsive self-destruction and total emptiness become your new normal. To drive home just how devastating the “Grandiosty-Shame Cycle” is, today’s episode looks at a real life example of how this cycle plays out. In today’s show, we’re analyzing the tragic rise and fall of one of the most famous pickup artists in the world, Erik von Markovik, better known as Mystery. Mystery’s story shows you just how dangerous the “Grandiosty-Shame Cycle” is, why seeking external validation always results in misery, and how to pull yourself out of this toxic cycle if you show any of the telltale signs. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: A real life example of how being trapped in the “Grandiosity-Shame Cycle” can throw you into a suicidal episode (3:04) The weird reason successful players become obsessive, jealous, and insecure when facing real intimacy (6:54) 2 things every man must do to break out of the “Grandiosity-Shame Cycle” (or it will forever sabotage your relationships) (8:37) How relying on external validation is a fast track to being consumed by rage, doubt, depression, and despair (10:39) Why you’re drawn to romantic partners who reflect your deepest childhood wounds (and how to avoid heartbreak in these relationships) (15:12) The counterintuitive reason narcissistic defenses actually come from deep, unresolved traumas, not arrogance like most people believe (24:22) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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The Dating Lies You've Been Sold (And Why They're Keeping You Single)
02/07/2025
The Dating Lies You've Been Sold (And Why They're Keeping You Single)
Men who have a desire to improve at dating often fall into the trap of tactics. And they fundamentally believe that their lack of success is not because of them, but because of the modern dating world. So they seek to “optimize” individual tactics involved in modern dating—fixing their profile on dating apps, becoming more successful in their career, hitting the gym and getting a six-pack—without ever confronting the real root cause of their dating failures: Themselves! Of course, this route is far easier than confronting your deep-rooted emotional issues. You may even experience short-term successes too: More dates, getting laid more often, and being surrounded by beautiful women more often. But this short-term success comes with a cost… It deprives you of the very thing you actually want: A real, authentic connection with someone you love. Why? Because obsessing over dating tactics is a way to blame the world for your failures instead of looking in the mirror. But only by looking in the mirror and doing the work can you actually create an authentic and fulfilling relationship. In today’s show, you’ll discover why men externalize their dating struggles instead of owning them, how unresolved attachment wounds keep you in the same toxic dating patterns, how chasing external validation leads to loneliness, and most importantly, how to actually address these issues so they stop showing up in your dating life. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The weird way getting more matches on dating apps can erode your confidence (1:09) Do you think that women only care about status and wealth? Here’s why this is an example of classic projection of your insecurities (3:12) How taking the easy route in dating helps you overcome heartache faster—at the expense of a successful lasting relationship (5:14) 3 questions that break through your unconscious projections sabotaging your dating life (6:52) Why do people end up in the same, frustrating dating patterns no matter how much they've learned from previous relationships? They fall into one of these three categories… (8:31) How obsessing over your profile on dating apps prevents you from experiencing true love and connection. Here’s why: (18:25) The insidious “Grandiosity-Shame Dynamic” that explains why men struggle in their relationships with women (and how to conquer this shortcoming) (21:45) How you’re setting yourself up for loneliness, resentment, and self-destruction in your dating life without even realizing it (24:50) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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The Missing Ingredient for Lasting Attraction: Investment (It's Not What You Think)
01/31/2025
The Missing Ingredient for Lasting Attraction: Investment (It's Not What You Think)
Does your relationship feel like it's dying a slow death? The passion is gone. The original spark has been extinguished. And resentment for your partner may even be surfacing. Here’s the truth: This is a “stress test” almost all relationships go through. But if you’re a people pleaser, then, well, this is usually where your relationship goes to die. Why? Because people pleasers see the signs of a relationship dying and unknowingly double down on the exact things that drove the relationship to the graveyard in the first place. This only suffocates it faster. So, how do you handle this relationship problem in a way that fosters attraction, commitment, and enjoyment in your relationship instead of smothering it? In today’s show, I reveal three key steps to reignite the spark in your relationship, share the missing ingredient that creates lasting attraction, and show you how to rebuild a more fulfilling relationship. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The truth behind why your relationship feels hollow (hint: the missing piece isn’t love) (0:35) How ignoring this fact of human nature sets you up for mediocrity in your relationships, career, and personal life (1:04) Why the "Effort Justification Theory” can reveal why a relationship feels empty—and give you a roadmap for reigniting the spark (2:27) Here’s the real reason why attraction fades in a relationship (and why it has nothing to do with how attractive you are) (5:33) The secret emotional ingredient for creating authentic, passionate feelings in any relationship (8:10) Ever wonder why so many marriages end in divorce? These are the 2 major causes (8:37) Why people pleasers tend to resent their partners when they neglect this (12:21) How willpower suffocates emotional ties and cripples relationships (14:44) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Master Inner Game: How to Become More Attractive on Dates & Magnetic as a Leader
01/24/2025
Master Inner Game: How to Become More Attractive on Dates & Magnetic as a Leader
When you want to become more successful in business, relationships, or life, most people focus on tactics, strategies, and skills. But there’s a bigger obstacle to your success than your lack of tactics, strategies, and skills… In fact, without first addressing this obstacle, success will never come easy, no matter how hard you keep pushing. Why? Because the obstacle you have to overcome is yourself. And no amount of pushing, prodding, or plotting can help you outrun yourself. That’s the bad news. The good news? You don’t have to outrun yourself to succeed. Instead, you have to master your “Inner Game,” or the internal thoughts and feelings that run in the background of your subconscious. When you master your “Inner Game,” your inner critic becomes your most ardent and loyal supporter. In today’s show, you’ll discover how to take the first step towards mastering your internal world, so success in business, relationships, and life naturally follows. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The #1 biggest obstacle most achievers overlook and ignore—and how it costs them (0:32) The “Inner Game” secret that only the world’s most successful and fulfilled people understand (1:39) How a tennis coach can show you how to be a better leader, a better husband, and a better father (even if you’ve never swung a tennis racket in your life) (1:48) Why pushing harder for success leaves you more vulnerable to gut-wrenching failures (and what to do instead when success plateaus) (2:24) 2 simple steps to transform your inner critic from your archrival to your most loyal ally (5:29) The bizarre way achievers fear success more than failure (and how to figure out if you do this too) (6:13) How worrying about the sending the perfect text to a new romantic interest or hiring the perfect candidate for your business makes it impossible to do either (9:12) Why preparing too much can sink a business deal, sabotage a romantic relationship, and fill you with endless dread (11:22) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Is The "Upper Limit Problem" An Invisible Force Secretly Controlling Your Life?
01/17/2025
Is The "Upper Limit Problem" An Invisible Force Secretly Controlling Your Life?
Question: Have you ever reached a high point in life (a major win, a big breakthrough, or a massive milestone)... only to feel like the rug’s been pulled from underneath you? Well, I have good news and bad news: If you find yourself second guessing yourself, procrastinating, picking fights with loved ones, or just a sinking, uneasy feeling that shows up whenever an opportunity knocks on your door, you might be going through the “Upper Limit Problem.” The “Upper Limit Problem” happens when emotional energies from your childhood (and sometimes, from your parents’, grandparents’, and even ancestors’ childhoods) creates a heavy cloud over your emotional mind. It's vague, yet oppressive. And it can sabotage relationships, suffocate success, and stifle fulfillment and freedom. But here’s the good news: You don’t have to carry these burdens—whether they stem from your own experience or from generational fear and beliefs. And I show you exactly how to start this process of unburdening yourself in this episode. Ready to remove these invisible limits, open up more opportunities, and unlock a deeper, more lasting sense of joy, love and fulfillment? Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The insidious, invisible force that pulls the rug from under you every time you achieve a new milestone (and how to break free from its wrath) (0:44) How "unattached burdens” from your parents’ childhoods can sabotage your relationships, limit your career opportunities, and keep you stuck in a loop of frustration (3:03) The historical reason behind why Asian parents have a tendency to downplay their children’s success (4:31) Do you ever feel a weird heaviness overtake you whenever you get close to a big opportunity? Here’s why this happens and how to prevent it (5:35) 5 examples of how the “Upper Limit Problem” manifests in your adult life (if you notice yourself doing any of these, here’s what to do…) (7:53) How to release the unattached burdens your subconscious picked up from generational fears or beliefs that prevent you from living a truly fulfilling life (16:32) Why well-meaning, but misguided messages from childhood can cripple and hinder your success today (20:51) Is your business stuck in a cycle of withering instead of growing? Here’s one unusual way to grow your business by 50% (24:09) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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How To Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty
01/10/2025
How To Set Boundaries Without Feeling Guilty
When your team, family, and friends rely on you for everything, and you don’t know how to say no, then you’re on a path of self-destruction. Why? Because an inability to set boundaries and assert yourself stems from toxic shame you picked up at some point in your life. If you don’t address this toxic shame, burn out, resentment, and self-loathing follow. That’s the bad news. The good news? While learning how to assert yourself might not be the easiest thing you do, it’s possible. And today’s episode is your first step towards reversing your toxic shame, figuring out how to set boundaries without feeling guilty, and creating space for tremendous growth. Tired of feeling exhausted because you’re saying yes to everything? Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The most single most insidious word that causes good husbands and leaders to snap, burn out, and spiral into resentment and self-loathing (0:55) How to tell if you have a healthy or toxic form of shame (2:51) The sneaky way toxic shame sabotages your confidence, assertiveness, and self-respect (5:03) Try this simple exercise the next time you feel guilty about setting a boundary (6:37) Why avoiding asserting yourself sends you down a wicked toxic loop of resentment and burn out (and practical ways to better assert yourself) (14:13) The “broken record” technique for setting boundaries if it usually makes you uncomfortable (16:14) Ask your inner critic these questions next time you hear it to siphon away its power (19:29) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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The Gossip Trap: How It Silently Destroys Trust & Connection
01/03/2025
The Gossip Trap: How It Silently Destroys Trust & Connection
Most people never stop to question today’s topic. But it silently poisons relationships, teams, and even your own peace of mind. Worst part? It masquerades as an innocent and harmless way to blow off steam. But it actually erodes trust, creates drama, and keeps pressing problems unresolved. Of course, we’re talking about gossip today. Not only is it harmful to anyone you gossip to and about, but it’s insidious to you too. In today’s show, you’ll discover the real cost of gossip, the truth behind why we gossip (and how to fix it), and most importantly, how to break the vicious cycle of gossip and stop it from undermining your relationships, your career, and your life. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: This seemingly harmless habit chips away at your integrity, trust, and conscience (0:50) Why gossipping is one of the biggest red flags you or a potential partner could have (2:37) 3 hidden reasons for why you gossip—and how to stop before it sabotages your trust and integrity (4:31) The weird short-term benefits of gossiping and how it causes irreversible long-term damage (6:20) How gossip dupes you into believing you’re resolving conflict when you’re actually just fanning the flames (9:41) The obvious, yet difficult alternative to gossip that strengthens relationships instead of tears them apart (12:35) The “Strike When The Iron’s Cold” secret to making tough conversations easier than gossiping (13:25) How to cultivate a gossip-free zone in your personal and professional life (17:56) One question that almost instantly turns complaining into problem-solving and stops you (and others) from gossiping (18:46) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Time Does Not Heal Emotional Wounds: Do This Instead
12/27/2024
Time Does Not Heal Emotional Wounds: Do This Instead
A messy breakup or divorce can cause devastating trickle down consequences when you don’t learn how to rebuild your trust. But many people wrongly believe that time can heal all wounds. But this passive approach leads you down a road of fear, resentment, and isolation. Why? The truth is that time does not heal emotional wounds. And expecting it to will only trick you into repeating the same patterns that resulted in a messy breakup in the first place. While this process won’t be easy, it’s possible. And when you follow the 5 steps I lay out in today’s show, then not only create a foundation for a fulfilling relationship, but this growth will ripple into every area of your life. Ready for the next chapter of your life to be one of purpose, connection and joy? Listen now. Show Highlights Include: 3 devastating consequences that happen when you fail to rebuild trust after suffering a deep, emotional wound (0:48) Why relying on time alone to heal yourself is a failed strategy that fills you with misery (and how to actually heal yourself) (1:25) The “Post-Relationship Analysis” secret for using a breakup to make your next relationship more fulfilling, lasting, and healthier (3:23) Why your intuition crumbles after a difficult breakup—and one simple technique to strengthen your intuitions (6:31) How holding onto negative emotions like betrayal, humiliation, and bitterness after a breakup silently sabotages your next relationship (13:34) Why you must forgive people who wronged you if you want to lead a healthy and fulfilling life (15:34) The counterintuitive reason fully feeling your worst emotions makes them evaporate instead of controlling you (17:43) How to avoid falling into old patterns that undermined your past relationships (23:08) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Why Smart, Successful People Struggle to Make Life's Biggest Decisions
12/20/2024
Why Smart, Successful People Struggle to Make Life's Biggest Decisions
Do you struggle making tough decisions because indecision is easier? While this is something everyone confronts at one point or another, it comes with a steep cost: While indecision might feel like it provides relief in the short term, it eventually erodes your confidence, your relationships, and your ability to lead. It also creates a ripple effect that extends to every other aspect of your life. Worst part? Indecision is a slow poison and you might not realize the sabotaging effects it has immediately. In fact, it’s common to only realize its effects until it’s too late: After you’re served divorce papers, get laid off from your job, or realize you hate the life you’ve created for yourself. But it doesn't have to be this way. There are three key steps to becoming more decisive, so you can avoid the gut-wrenching pain that always comes with indecision. And by the end of this episode, you’ll know exactly how to do this. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: This “invisible power” is your most valuable tool for creating the life you want (2:18) The single biggest mistake you’re making in your relationship that leads to regret, resentment, stagnation, and breaking up (3:13) How imperfect and even downright incorrect decisions are better for your mental health, career, and marriage than avoiding decisions (4:52) Why “keeping the peace” in your relationship is a surefire way to get handed divorce papers (8:10) 3 ways to hone “Radical Responsibility” that allow you to take full control over your relationships, career, and life (10:31) The insidious "Death Anxiety” trap many people fall into that slowly poisons their fulfillment of life (and how to overcome this psychological fear) (14:15) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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How to Recover from a Break Up or Divorce
12/13/2024
How to Recover from a Break Up or Divorce
Going through a breakup or recovering from a divorce is one of the most emotionally complex experiences you'll ever face. It’s always messy and layered. And if you don’t approach it with the right mindset, you’ll fall back into the old patterns and habits that destroyed your previous relationships. That’s the bad news. The good news? Not only are emotions temporary and fleeting, including the entire grieving process, but it’s possible to rebuild your life and relationships in a way that ensures long-term success in your next relationship. It won’t be easy. I know this from my own divorce. But it’s possible. And you know what? By the end of this episode, you'll understand exactly what it takes to turn the pain of your breakup into fuel for your personal growth. You'll be equipped to rebuild yourself from the ground up, not just so you can get over it, but so that you can step into your next chapter of your life with confidence, clarity and freedom. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: Why rushing into your next relationship after a divorce or break up is a recipe for a similar outcome (and what to do instead to fully heal yourself first) (1:20) How relying on time alone to heal deep emotional wounds sabotages your ability to connect with others (1:50) The 5 stages of a relationship—and how to master each separate stage (4:48) Why feeling like your relationship is doomed to failure is an important step that can actually deepen your connection (6:22) The “mirrors” secret to relationships that can either unlock significant personal growth or cause unbridled resentment for your partner (10:08) Why a relationship built on passion is destined to crumble into shambles (and what to build your relationship on instead to sustain it for the rest of your life) (10:52) How taking responsibility for your ex messing up allows you to use your heartbreak to become stronger and more resilient for your next relationship (12:54) 3 safe ways to express your anger so it doesn’t fester under the surface and cause more serious outbursts (20:19) The weird way your furniture, music playlists, and old habits from your last relationship can undermine your next relationship (23:16) The “self-surgery” mindset shift that will help you emotionally recover from a divorce or break up faster and with fewer obstacles (29:36) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Dating After Divorce or a Break Up: 3 Steps to Re-enter the Dating World
12/06/2024
Dating After Divorce or a Break Up: 3 Steps to Re-enter the Dating World
There is nothing more gut-wrenching than a divorce or the end of a long-term relationship. It makes you question everything. And nobody gives you a manual for how to rebuild your personal life after a messy breakup. The modern dating landscape makes this even more difficult. Dating apps can feel like a second job that doesn’t pay or even lead to dates. And the professional skills you’ve developed to become a high achiever don’t work for building relationships. And if you clicked on the title of this episode, there’s a good chance you’re feeling a deep sense of frustration, uncertainty, and fear. But here’s the good news: Not only is it possible to bounce back after a rough breakup, but it gives you an opportunity to build a deeper, more authentic connection that fulfills you in ways that weren’t possible in your last relationship. I’m living proof: Today I have a loving family (even after my first divorce about 20 years ago). And that’s what I reveal in today’s episode. You’ll discover how to rebuild your identity, how to make the modern dating landscape work for you, and how to develop emotional intelligence so you’re prepared for your next relationship. By the end of this episode, you'll have a clear road map to confidently re-enter the dating world, not with uncertainty or awkwardness, but with a sense of clarity, purpose and ease that matches the confidence you've built in your professional life. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: How the wrong romantic partner bleeds into your work, your health, and your overall fulfillment in life (1:00) Where to start after a crushing divorce or end to a long-term relationship to rebuild your personal life in a way where this doesn’t happen again (5:22) The weird way your forgotten hobbies help you overcome the heartbreak of divorce (6:10) Why unaddressed breakup wounds will sabotage your next relationship (and the “scars and all” mindset shift to heal from these wounds as soon as possible) (7:27) How high achievers can attract worthy partners in the modern dating landscape (even if if your last serious relationship started before dating apps) (9:42) The #1 most underrated (and most effective) way to meet potential partners who already share your values (11:51) How the qualities that make you successful at work repel your dream partner in intimate relationships (16:40) How to answer the question about past relationships on a date in a way that builds connection instead of protecting your ego (20:02) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Break Free from Burnout: Mastering Self-Awareness, Anti-Fragility, & Purpose
11/29/2024
Break Free from Burnout: Mastering Self-Awareness, Anti-Fragility, & Purpose
Does success feel hollow? Or worse, like a weight around your neck? This is a common feeling for high achievers who were led to believe that success brings fulfillment. When you realize this isn’t true, burnout, a lack of connection, and deep sense of dissatisfaction can rear their ugly heads. But what if you could transform your life from the inside out? That’s exactly what I show you how to do in today’s show. I share tools and insights that will not only help you break free from burnout and dissatisfaction, but also reinvent yourself to enjoy a life filled with clarity, connection, and genuine fulfillment. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The “Self-Leadership” secret that saves you from burnout, prevents you from sabotaging relationships, and frees you from unconscious patterns (4:23) This two-minute therapeutic exercise uncovers the hidden dynamics that drive your thoughts, feelings, and actions (6:15) How to use “DBT” therapy to master your inner world of emotions (even if you don’t have extreme emotions) (10:10) Why the “5-4-3-2-1 Grounding Technique” can stop a heated argument with your partner before it erupts into regret (10:49) How beating yourself up emotionally prolongs and even prevents the healing process (13:26) The “3 things” trick for transforming chaos and obstacles into opportunity by rewiring your brain (15:18) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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The Hidden Trap of Success and How to Escape It
11/22/2024
The Hidden Trap of Success and How to Escape It
Do you find yourself in a never-ending chase for the next achievement, the next form of external validation? Well, despite how rampant this chase runs through high achievers, it leads you down a road that only ends in exhaustion, disappointment, and even depression. Worst part? No matter how much “success” you accumulate, it will never provide the deep sense of fulfillment your soul is yearning for. That’s the bad news. The good news? While redefining success is one of the most difficult things you can go through (especially after you’ve achieved so much external and societal success), not only is it possible, but it’s the most rewarding thing you can do. And in this episode, I outline the 3 steps you need to take to redefine success, so you can self-actualize and become a much more fulfilled version of yourself. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The “halfway up the pyramid” problem that robs high achievers from the most fulfilling parts of their lives (2:37) How to stop relying on external markers for your self-worth with the “wealth from within” secret (3:29) The “Two C’s” trap high achievers fall into that creates a recipe for suffering (4:03) 2 difficult questions you must ask yourself—and answer—to achieve a level of self-actualization that transcends material and external success (6:08) The weird reason why traumatic experiences are an opportunity to discover your purpose in disguise (8:12) How thinking more like a toddler can reconnect you to your true self and true purpose (21:42) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Why High Achievers Feel Unfulfilled (Even When They're Winning)
11/15/2024
Why High Achievers Feel Unfulfilled (Even When They're Winning)
We’re taught from a young age that success is the best path to a fulfilling and satisfying life. So achievers dedicate themselves to achieving, thinking it will bring success. The problem is, success is not the same thing as fulfillment. And often, the more successful you become, the emptier you feel inside. As your relationships crumble, your self-doubt, loneliness, and existential fear consume you. Worst part? Success only further magnifies these feelings. You could have all the material success in the world, but you’ll still feel hollow inside. In today’s episode, you’ll discover the hidden emotional toll of success, how to face buried feelings before they sabotage everything you love, and how to be both successful and fulfilled. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The weird way becoming more successful makes you feel emptier inside (and the only true way to find fulfillment) (1:51) The vicious cycle of society that traps you in a never-ending loop of achievement at the expense of true fulfillment, connection, and happiness (4:55) How success hides your deepest emotional issues until they explode to the surface (6:06) The hidden emotional toll of success that makes life harder with each achievement instead of easier (9:32) Why suppressing emotions creates a “pressure cooker effect” that results in a midlife crisis (17:10) How avoiding your emotions steals your power over them and makes you do their bidding (20:06) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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The 2,000-Year-Old Guide to Winning at Life Without All the Stress
11/08/2024
The 2,000-Year-Old Guide to Winning at Life Without All the Stress
Most achievers who want more from life—whether in their relationships, career, or fulfillment—turn to best-selling self-help books. But most of the “wisdom” in these bestsellers doesn’t stand the test of time—at least not when compared to ancient texts that have helped people for thousands of years. One such ancient book that offers a treasure trove of wisdom is called the Zhuangzi, an early Daoist text. And while it’s more than 2,000 years old… the wisdom contained inside this text is timeless. In fact, it’s even more useful in modern life than it was in ancient times. In this episode, we're diving into wisdom that could completely reshape your life coming from a source that most achievers have never even heard of. It's ancient, it's profound, and it might just unlock what you've been searching for in love, career, and your inner life. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: Why this under-the-radar, ancient text can solve your modern day relationships problems better than any best-selling self-help book (0:31) What if you didn’t have to struggle, stress, or endlessly prove yourself? Here’s a liberating mindset that can get rid of these pressures (3:58) The “Wu Wei” secret for becoming more authentic and aligned in your relationship instead of always at tension’s mercy (8:42) How to become more successful than you ever imagined by letting go of your expectations and the constant grind for success (13:01) Do you feel trapped in your own identity? Here’s why a butterfly can set you free from this perspective and give you a healthier one (16:55) How to permanently eliminate your neediness (both in your relationships and career) (24:45) This ancient Chinese technique helps you “fast” your mind (and free yourself from worries, pressures, and emotions that aren’t serving you) (27:23) The Bruce Lee method for becoming wildly successful in your personal and professional life by acting like a toddler (30:14) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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How to Grow from Anxious or Avoidant to Secure Attachment in Relationships
11/01/2024
How to Grow from Anxious or Avoidant to Secure Attachment in Relationships
Your earliest relationships when you were a child can significantly impact your relationships as an adult. How? Well, when you’re young, you develop one of four attachment styles that can make or break your relationships today. The problem is, only one of these attachment styles set you up for a long, thriving relationship. While the other three are the culprits behind why you’ve sabotaged past relationships. That’s the bad news. The good news? It’s possible to break free from a self-destructive attachment style and instead learn the skills and mindsets to develop a secure attachment style. And that’s exactly what we cover in today’s show. In this episode, you’ll discover the 4 attachment styles, how they show up and impact relationships, and how to grow out of an insecure attachment style into a secure one. The end result? Not only will you have more luck with building a healthy, thriving relationship, but you’ll also grow in every other area of your life too. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: How to break free from your relationship-sabotaging attachment style (even if it’s wrecked every relationship you’ve been in) (0:34) The weirdest, yet most proven way to grow in your career, land a promotion, and bring home a bigger paycheck (2:12) How your parents’ programming suffocates your relationships today (and how to stop letting your childhood programming control your adult life) (3:53) 4 types of attachment styles, how to figure out which style best suits you, and how each one shows up in relationships (4:14) The “survival strategy” mindset shift for understanding and healing past traumas that keep you stuck today (11:24) How the “name it” method builds emotional awareness, improves your emotional regulation, and helps you avoid explosive fights (17:46) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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The Brutal Truth about Why You’re Always In Toxic Relationships (& How to Break Free)
10/25/2024
The Brutal Truth about Why You’re Always In Toxic Relationships (& How to Break Free)
Do you find yourself hopping from one toxic relationship to the next? If so, here’s a tough pill to swallow: You’re the common denominator—especially if you think you’ve just gotten unlucky in relationships. But here’s the truth… Until you take full responsibility for your own actions and behaviors, no matter how big or small, you’ll keep repeating the same toxic patterns. But there is a solution (as long as you’re willing to get uncomfortable and take responsibility for the role you’ve played in sabotaging your relationships). It won’t be easy, but it will help you finally break free from the cycle of toxic relationships—for good. In today’s show, you’ll discover why blaming your partner is a double edged sword, how you push your own unresolved issues onto your partner, and most importantly, how to take responsibility for your role in toxic relationships, so you break out of the toxic cycle. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The brutal truth about why you’re constantly finding yourself in toxic relationships (0:30) How to free yourself from toxic relationships by following the difficult, yet wildly effective “RR Method” (0:43) Do you find your partner being too flirty with others out of nowhere? Here’s why your deep-seated insecurity could be the reason… (3:56) The insidious “Drama Triangle” that plays out in unhealthy relationships (without either person realizing they’re making their relationship toxic) (4:56) How to take responsibility for relationship conflicts and turmoil (even if you’re not the one to “blame”) (8:46) Asking yourself this question when you feel a rush of anger, jealousy, or fear in your relationship empowers you to break free from the toxic cycle that follows you to every relationship (15:25) Why a victim mentality prevents you from building a healthy, long-term relationship (and how to ditch your victim mentality for good) (17:09) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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How to Create a Thriving, Long-Term Relationship (Even If You Don’t Have One Now)
10/18/2024
How to Create a Thriving, Long-Term Relationship (Even If You Don’t Have One Now)
Nothing is more destructive than a toxic relationship. It’s more dangerous than a bad diet, a lack of exercise, and even smoking. Energy-sapping relationships don’t just mess with your mental health, they also shorten your life. But how do you build a thriving, long-term relationship that grows stronger each year, instead of one that devolves into resentment, or worse, passionless? Well, that’s what I reveal in today’s episode. You’ll discover the 5 key relationship skills you need to master to build a relationship that doesn’t just survive, but thrives—despite the obstacles you and your partner will encounter. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: This is the ONLY way to prevent your relationship from self-destructing in a blaze of fights, resentment, and bitterness (or slowly devolving into a passionless, lifeless partnership) (0:56) Why getting triggered at innocent, passing comments by your partner can be a good thing for your relationship if you do this after (2:06) How relying on your significant other to fix how you feel slowly poisons your relationship down to the roots (3:00) Try this simple “I, not you” technique when discussing your emotions with your partner to avoid unnecessary conflict (4:29) How to bounce back after an emotional rupture in a way that actually strengthens your relationship (9:44) This mindset is one of the best predictors of a successful, long-term relationship and one that ends in misery (12:38) The “time out” secret for de-escalating a conflict that’s heating up too rapidly (17:32) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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How a Bad Marriage Leads to an Early Death
10/11/2024
How a Bad Marriage Leads to an Early Death
The longest running study in history has proven, with 80+ years of data to back it up, that your relationships are the single most important factor for your longevity, happiness, and even your career. Here’s the problem: The reverse is also true. In fact, being in a bad marriage can shave off 12 literal years of your life. To make matters worse, most people never think that their relationships alter their health, longevity, or success. In today’s show, you’ll discover how exactly a bad marriage shaves off years of your life, how a strong marriage doesn’t just increase your lifespan, but your success too, and why your relationships are more important than your bank account, your job title, and your VO2 max. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: Why achieving (and surpassing) your fitness and financial goals won’t keep you happy, fulfilled, or even alive (only THIS will…) (0:58) 3 ways a toxic relationship shaves off actual years of your life (2:04) How the “slow drain” trap men often find themselves in erases 12 years from your life (7:24) The weird way a strong marriage supercharges your career growth and wealth (11:03) The rarely-talked about #1 most powerful asset for achieving lasting success (13:26) How to get the health and success benefits of marriage even if you’re single (15:36) This is the most important predictor of your health, happiness, and fulfillment—proven by 80+ years of data (20:20) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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How Therapy Is Keeping You From Reaching Your True Potential
10/04/2024
How Therapy Is Keeping You From Reaching Your True Potential
Therapy is one of the best ways to better understand yourself, your emotions, and your past. Especially with how they impact your present. Until it’s not. Staying in therapy for too long can turn into an endless loop of processing feelings without ever moving forward. It makes you feel stuck in a victim mindset, haunted by your past, instead of actively working to change your present and future. In today’s show, you’ll discover what to do next after therapy to best move forward, unlock personal growth, and create the life you want to live. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: 4 massive limitations of therapy that can actually make it take longer to grow from your past (0:44) The insidious “Therapy Trap” many who go to therapy fall into that keeps you stuck in place (and what to do after therapy to make real change) (3:19) 3 reasons why leadership coaching leads to more growth and confidence than therapy ever could (5:48) Asking yourself this simple question when you feel stuck instantly frees you from this feeling (10:57) How taking full responsibility of your past empowers you to change your present and future (even if everything wasn’t solely your fault) (19:27) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Why Most People Fail at Decision-Making (and How You Won't)
09/27/2024
Why Most People Fail at Decision-Making (and How You Won't)
Your decision-making process is the single most critical skill you’ll ever need. Figure out how to make good decisions that align with your values, and your life will become immeasurably better. Neglect this skill and your life can turn into a nightmare faster than a speeding bullet. So, how can you improve your decisions and, as a result, your life? Despite what most people think, you can’t make better decisions by improving your logic or reasoning skills. Instead, you have to hone something most people neglect in the decision-making process: Emotions. In today’s show, you’ll discover why your emotions are the key to better decisions and how to better control your emotions. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: How emotions you avoid “hijack” your decision-making process and can sabotage your life (1:59) Why experiencing your emotions, not avoiding them, makes them powerless over you (2:51) The “8 C’s” method for making sounder decisions that lead to a happier life (6:31) How to tweak your inner dialogue to make even the scariest of emotions less daunting (8:17) The “Name It” secret that prevents fear from dominating your decision-making process (16:18) How to leverage “Emotional Momentum” to motivate yourself in an instant (this is especially helpful when life gets tough) (22:02) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Why Success Won’t Make You Happy (And What Will)
09/20/2024
Why Success Won’t Make You Happy (And What Will)
There is a massive, misery-inducing downside of success: While achievements are great, they aren’t enough to make life meaningful. But most achievers have been tricked into believing the exact opposite. And the more they achieve their wildest goals, the more empty they feel inside. If you keep grinding without reflecting on why you’re so miserable, you may find yourself ready to call it quits with life—even if you have external success that makes others jealous. In fact, I found myself in this exact situation: I achieved every goal I had as a teenager… but ended up on a ledge on the 57th floor on a skyscraper ready to jump. Why? Because achievements alone don’t make life meaningful and conquering more goals without addressing your emotions will only make you more miserable. But don’t worry - there’s a way out of this vicious cycle. In today’s episode, I reveal how you can break out of this achievement trap, why your personal happiness improves your productivity and creativity, and how to stop seeking success for success’s sake. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The weird way groundbreaking achievements lead to “rock bottom misery” if you have this common flaw (1:21) A Nobel Prize-winning philosopher’s warning about how prioritizing your career torments your soul (3:48) An unusual way to improve your resilience, creativity, and better handle stress that most achievers never consider (5:27) How seeing your close friends on a regular basis can add 12 years to your life (8:25) Why dating a model and actress threw me into the deepest depressive funk I’ve ever been in—and how to avoid making this mistake in your life (19:08) How to unlock a constant stream of peak “flow state” according to hard, scientific data (26:30) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Why Your Success Is Screwing Up Your Life (and What To Do About It)
09/13/2024
Why Your Success Is Screwing Up Your Life (and What To Do About It)
If you’re an achiever, whether you notice it or not, you’re on a dangerous path. Why? Well, most achievers fall into something I call the “Achiever’s Trap.” It’s an endless vicious cycle of achieving. Now, that might not sound dangerous at first, but a constant desire for success can only lead to burnout, isolation, depression, and even an early death. There are other things which, believe it or not, are more important to your long-term happiness and longevity than success alone. In today’s show, you’ll discover how the Achiever’s Trap mangles your happiness, why it can lead to an early death, and what you should focus on instead of success to live a long, healthy, and fulfilling life. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: The insidious “Achiever’s Trap” which keeps you unfilled and unhappy despite your success (and how to overcome it) (0:49) This Harvard research study reveals the only way to find lasting happiness (1:34) Why chasing success leads to burnout, loneliness, and depression (4:29) The #1 predictor of long-term happiness and a long life (10:52) How your relentless pursuit of success can sabotage your physical health (13:05) The simple mindset shift that turns your feelings of inadequacy and dissatisfaction into fulfillment (27:21) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Beyond Success: Finding Fulfillment, Happiness and Meaning
09/06/2024
Beyond Success: Finding Fulfillment, Happiness and Meaning
After helping hundreds of thousands of people, from 87 different countries, find fulfillment, happiness and meaning in their personal and professional lives, I’ve decided to start a new journey to help you do the same. Beyond Success is a brand-new show that explores the ideas that lead to lasting happiness and fulfillment—not just short-lived “success.” If you’ve succeeded on the outside but feel like something deeper is missing, this show will pave the road for your happiness and fulfillment on the inside. In this introductory episode, I reveal the key concepts and ideas that we’ll discuss on this podcast, explore how to invite more joy into your life, and shatter some of the biggest myths keeping you successful, yet unfulfilled. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: Are you successful on the outside but feel like something deeper is missing? Here’s how to feel fulfilled and successful (1:10) Why striving for perfection fast tracks you towards failure (and why focusing on this instead unlocks true happiness) (2:32) Is there a way to enjoy life and achieve your goals with more ease and efficiency? Yes, and here’s how to do it (3:21) How embracing your emotions (instead of instantly shutting them down) improves your decision-making process (3:49) The single most dangerous word in the English language for your joy (4:19) For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian's step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Encore Episode: Why Your Ego Is Not The Enemy
08/23/2024
Encore Episode: Why Your Ego Is Not The Enemy
Socially awkward guys don’t get girls, that’s the cold, hard truth. But hiding your social awkwardness and anxiety isn’t the answer either. When you repress, exile, and cut out your social anxiety in order to feel good about yourself, you force it further into your subconscious. And when you cram it into the depths of your brain? It’s still active, and it’s still there sabotaging your success, but now you’re no longer aware of it. That’s the bad news. The good news? You can leverage your social anxiety and awkwardness to meet and date women in your life. You just need to know how to tap into it. And in today's episode, David reveals a few strange and unique ways to free yourself from crippling shyness. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: The weird way shouting from the peak of a mountain you’re a nerdy comic book fan frees yourself from crippling shyness and debilitating social anxiety (1:55) How following the “normal solution” to inner conflict pollutes your subconscious with negative thoughts that sabotage your ability to have a loving relationship (2:34) Unable to find fulfillment? Here’s how to unlock the subconscious, repressed parts of your brain (and discover how to let go of the things you can’t change) (3:36) The outdated, and backward idea that “ego is the enemy” (and how to never rely on stress, anxiety, pressure, and deadlines in order to get things done ever again) (5:29) How proudly displaying your superiority complex magnetizes unconditional love, approval, and security in your self-worth (17:58) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at now. For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Encore Episode: Self-Criticism vs. Self-Acceptance
08/16/2024
Encore Episode: Self-Criticism vs. Self-Acceptance
Do you buy into the myth that success alone brings happiness and fulfillment? The techniques 95% of Americans use to strive for success, growth, and personal development guarantees they won’t be fulfilled in the long run. There is a completely different and unique way to approach success. And it’s imperative you discover this way to gain personal happiness, success, and insane amounts of growth in your life. In today’s episode, you’ll discover how to experience success and growth — while also being happy, fulfilled, and not having to wait until you succeed in order to be happy. Listen now! Show Highlights: The polar-opposite method to build a financial empire comparable to Rome (without stress, anxiety, and depression) (1:20) How your parents lied to you about the concept of self-worth (and how this lie keeps you mired in a state of loneliness and poverty) (3:26) The counter-intuitive way dreaming of “sipping pina coladas on the beach” will force you to become a desperate workaholic who never spends time with your kids (11:15) How immersing yourself in “flow capital” will scientifically unlock a never ending state of high happiness (13:28) Why you’ll chain yourself down with concrete in the Hudson River if you wake up with nothing to do on Monday (14:25) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at now. For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Encore Episode: 7 Steps for Men to Overcome Neediness
08/09/2024
Encore Episode: 7 Steps for Men to Overcome Neediness
From a young age, attractive women become masters at sniffing out neediness. Most men don’t discover this fact about life until they’ve sabotaged their dating lives and relationships. But here’s the good news: There’s a proven system for overcoming your neediness. It won’t happen overnight, but it will free you from the sadistic grip neediness has over you. In this episode, you’ll discover the 7 steps to obliterate your neediness for good. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: - How your fear about relationships dupes you into making relationship-ending mistakes (even if you don’t realize it) (2:40) - The counterintuitive reason becoming wealthy skyrockets your neediness (3:04) - Why women can see through your inauthentic attempts to get to know their personality like Swiss cheese (4:41) - The fundamental human needs that help you exterminate your neediness (9:03) - Why having an agenda of picking up women when you go out subconsciously repels them from you (13:27) - The 7 experiential steps to meet your own needs and obliterate your neediness (20:30) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at now. For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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Encore Episode: How to Access Your Natural Attractiveness
08/02/2024
Encore Episode: How to Access Your Natural Attractiveness
In order to find a loving relationship, you need to become somebody you’re not. You need to rock a new haircut, fill your wardrobe with designer clothes, and hit the gym 24/7. You need to morph into Sean Connery’s James Bond. Charming, handsome, seductive, and irresistible to modern women. Here’s the thing: If you’re seeking a long-term relationship, this is easily the worst advice you could ever listen to! Now, if you're optimizing your life for a short-term fling, have at it. Be the “player.” But I’m assuming you're reading this because you want a long-term relationship. And if you are, then what you need to do is unburden the already naturally attractive parts in you. In today’s episode, I reveal the 7 steps to unleashing the already naturally attractive parts within you. Listen now! Show Highlights Include: - The “BSYANA” myth that sabotages your chances of finding a loving relationship with the “one” (3:28) - How to unleash the naturally attractive parts of yourself with these 7 steps (9:03) - Why most men fail to be the man that modern women desire most (hint: it’s not being a macho man like Sean Connery’s James Bond) (16:23) - The “LASAE” strategy to be sexually attractive in the eyes of heterosexual women (21:01) - How to form deeper emotional connections with women by teleporting back to your teenage self (23:33) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at now. For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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How to Find Your Ideal Partner Naturally and Authentically
07/26/2024
How to Find Your Ideal Partner Naturally and Authentically
A lot of guys struggle with dating for a fundamental reason: They don’t even know themselves well enough to attract a kindred spirit. Relationships and dating become much easier when you have similar interests and values as your partner. This is particularly true at the beginning of the dating process. And it doesn’t rely on you getting lucky on a dating app. But how do you discover yourself and your true interests? And how does this naturally attract your ideal partner to you? Well, here’s some good news: This self-discovery process is fun! And after listening to this episode, you’ll not only know how to take this self-discovery journey in the most effective way, but you’ll also figure out how to “twist” this into attracting your ideal partner. Listen now. Show Highlights Include: How to optimize your lifestyle in a way that naturally brings potential partners into your life who are well suited to you (1:49) 5 simple exercises to figure out your favorite hobbies (even if you’ve never done them before) (5:03) Why discovering more hobbies can naturally magnetize your ideal partner (7:07) The “Social Aspects” secret for twisting your favorite hobby into a social activity (7:30) How to meet suitable romantic partners without wasting time swiping left or right on dating apps (9:14) How to build a balanced and attractive lifestyle (even if you’re naturally shy) (17:48) An unusual way to eliminate your neediness by simply having fun (21:43) Does your neediness, fear, or insecurity sabotage your success with women? Do you feel you may be unlovable? For more than 17 years, I’ve helped thousands of people find confidence, fulfillment, and loving relationships. And I can help you, too. I’m therapist and life coach David Tian, Ph.D. I invite you to take this quick quiz to access my free Masterclasses on dating and relationships at now. For more about David Tian, go here: Emotional Mastery is David Tian’s step-by-step system to transform, regulate, and control your emotions... so that you can master yourself, your interactions with others, and your relationships... and live a life worth living. Learn more here:
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