In Pursuit of the Better You

Join leadership coaches, Fay and Becki, as we discuss all things personal and professional development. We're all about helping you to maximise your potential so you can live your best life personally and professionally. Get ready for great insights, a lot of laughs and ideas that get you thinking.

If you could wave a magic wand - what would your life be like? 04/29/2024

If you could wave a magic wand - what would your life be like? If you could wave a magic wand - what would your life be like? What a question! What are your big dreams and where are you now in terms of making those dreams come true? We have this one life and it's our own responsibility to make sure we make the most of it, because one thing is for sure, Prince Charming isn't riding in to save us! How often are you checking in on your dreams and making sure you're on the right track? Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/31016118

How is 'workaholism' impacting your life? 04/22/2024

How is 'workaholism' impacting your life? Are you feeling the stresses and strains of working a lot - burnout perhaps? Workaholism is what it's been called in other media. Workaholism is making headlines at the moment in the same way as alcoholism and/or drug abuse would impact lives. Referencing The Guardian article that we talk about in the podcast https://www.theguardian.com/society/2024/mar/15/how-workaholism-can-leave-lifelong-scars-burnout?utm_source=substack&utm_medium=email Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/30918903

How to be visible and still be authentically you 04/15/2024

How to be visible and still be authentically you How are you positioning yourself in the workplace to be seen - perhaps for promotion purposes - or to be 'seen' in your role? Do you feel that, to do this, you need to mask the 'real you' and exploit other behaviours that don't come naturally? For example, if you're an introvert, do you feel you need to show up with more extrovert behaviours? In this episode, we're discussing how you can be visible, but still be authentically you - or not feeling like you're showing off. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/30813388

The human iceberg and how we can chip away at it. 04/08/2024

The human iceberg and how we can chip away at it. We can only meet you as far as we have met ourselves! Meaning: When we're working with clients in coaching, we can go deep, if we've explored these deep areas with ourselves beforehand - so that we understand what it means to know ourselves in a deep and profound way. The iceberg is the metaphor - we have those behaviours and traits that sit above the water line and this is what people see - what we know and see about ourselves too. Below the water line is unconscious behaviours and traits that we may not see - and others may only see glimpses of. But if we know what's there, we can make transformational changes. This podcast explores what's below the waterline and what that might mean for you when, in coaching, we just start to chip away at the iceberg a little bit. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/30715123

Do you feel confident to give feedback in the workplace? 03/25/2024

Do you feel confident to give feedback in the workplace? Do you feel confident to give feedback to others? This can help to reduce difficult conversations - however, many people don't feel comfortable having these conversations or even know how to give feedback well. Giving positive feedback is often more easy - but what about the not-so-positive? Ideally, feedback should be given when it's required - don't wait for annual reviews! Consider what would happen if you don't give the feedback because you're not confident to have the conversation! Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/30518383

Sod the restrictions - dream big and go again! 03/18/2024

Sod the restrictions - dream big and go again! Are you dreaming big? When we dream big, we might wonder - is it all a delusion of grandeur? I wonder what would happen if all entrepreneurs thought this way. But they don't. When met with failure, Richard Branson would say 'dream bigger - and go again!' When we're dreaming bigger, how are we thinking about our self worth? How do we plan and strategise to meet our dreams and aspirations? What can help us? Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/30409273

You're not a manager, so what you say doesn't matter! 😱 03/11/2024

You're not a manager, so what you say doesn't matter! 😱 This episode explores a common theme in leadership coaching for Becki and Fay - "I'm not a manager, so what I say doesn't matter!" Is this something that's true for you? Do you feel that your voice doesn't matter in a room? That your views aren't valid? As we explore this, we wonder if it's a cultural issue - or, what's in a title? This impacts people in terms of their frustrations, development, innovation, building relationships, and fostering leadership... Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/30309263

Are you thinking for yourself? 03/04/2024

Are you thinking for yourself? Today it's Fay's turn to have a rant! Do you follow Gurus on social media and take them at their every word? People set themselves up as 'experts' and we follow them - but then I see people losing the ability to think for themselves around the 'experts' subject. Asking questions like 'is this allowed?' Critical thinking and making decisions is our responsibility. If you really want to look for something, there will be evidence for something, everywhere - for and against. This is great because it means we don't have to take things at face value - we can read more into the subject, query what we're learning, check the facts, and make our own decisions. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/30205403

Are people biases standing in your way? 02/26/2024

Are people biases standing in your way? Do you find yourself saying that people never listen to you? Or they never take you seriously? Or you have some other thought about someone that you take with you - maybe they often wind you up, etc. Here's something to consider: if we only base the things we think about people from their past behaviours - they're never going to grow in the present. We can all change - and if people never allow you to show who you are now - then they will only ever know a previous version of you. Human nature means we have perceptions of people, hold grudges, have bad experiences, etc. Still, we have to remember that we can all change because we continue to develop based on our experiences and learning that we want to take on board. It's important to understand the impact we have on others as well as the impact they have on us. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/30096338

We can't do all the things all the time! 02/19/2024

We can't do all the things all the time! Can you do everything? This year, so far, (2024), Fay has been making a jigsaw of her diary to get 'on top' of everything. Subconsciously, she has seen messages from 'everywhere' saying 'you can't do everything'! What happens as a result of taking everything on board - where does this leave us as people? Before we know it, all our spare hours can be taken up with things we need to do - so we end up with no space to just 'be'. We can get into a habit of feeling that we must always be 'doing, doing, doing'. But, here's the thing - just 'being' is enough! Just with yourself without distractions of tv, music, a book, a podcast, etc. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/30001533

Is nothing pure anymore? 02/12/2024

Is nothing pure anymore? Becki wonders 'Is nothing good and pure anymore in and of itself?' Things like: fiddling the algorithm on social media to your advantage; manipulating stories; getting one over on others for your own means, etc. Technology enables competition and allows us to get ahead. Subsequently, this takes away the purity we may once have taken for granted. As consumers of technology and information, we must do our due diligence to ensure we're not being hoodwinked and manipulated. It certainly makes it very difficult to know what we can believe these days! Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/29893883

Are you in alignment with your values? 02/05/2024

Are you in alignment with your values? Are you in alignment with your personal values? Perhaps you’re not sure. Let’s face it, how often do we outwardly consider our values. But you will know when you’re out of alignment because something will just feel off. So, take this opportunity to think about your values – how are you feeling about them? Do you need to reframe them in any way to help you make meaning of where you are right now? Are they even still current? Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/29791593

Are you worried how others perceive you at work? 01/29/2024

Are you worried how others perceive you at work? How do you think you're perceived at work? This episode is inspired by a few different female clients who have talked about being perceived as a bitch - either because they have something to say or because of their way of working. This is something Becki talks about having experienced in the workplace herself. Do we need to worry about how others perceive us? It's about: taking on the role and doing our job putting the boundaries in place that enable us to do this being able to speak up in meetings understanding we have the expertise Feeling comfortable in our professional shoes - self-confidence and self-worth and being assertive. Let's not forget 'Bitch' = to make spiteful and critical comments. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/29679148

How wide is your 'Window of Tolerance'? 01/22/2024

How wide is your 'Window of Tolerance'? Talking about the Window of Tolerance concept - coined by Dr. Dan Siegel, MD - how we understand and describe our body and brain reactions. To have 'tolerance'. We all have a window for tolerance that can get bigger or smaller depending on what's going on in our lives. How wide is your window of tolerance? What's happening in your life that might affect it - and how? What might you need to do to open up your window of tolerance and how will that impact you? To have a window of tolerance - we need to have our needs met! Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/29579733

Is 'coaching' becoming a bussword in Leadership Development? 01/15/2024

Is 'coaching' becoming a bussword in Leadership Development? Is 'Coaching' becoming a bit of a buzzword in Leadership Development? Leadership development often talks about different leadership styles - and a coaching style is one. Still, we wonder if leaders are adopting a true coaching style or paying lip service to it! Coaching is different to advice and mentoring - and we often see some confusion here. Key coaching skills that can be missed here are: deep listening; time for thought; letting go of the need to have the answers; and when and when not to use a coaching approach. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/29477243

Are you valuing your team? 01/08/2024

Are you valuing your team? How do you let your team know that they're important to you? Do you value them? Strong relationships are important with your team regarding productivity, performance and profits. Everyone needs to understand WHY they come to work - how THEY make a difference - and if you're not valuing your team, that understanding can quickly disappear (on a personal level). You'll then start to see issues arise - absenteeism, productivity, etc. Have listen to this episode for some ideas you can implement to show your team how you value them. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/29383923

How the little things can make you feel stressed 12/18/2023

How the little things can make you feel stressed Things can easily become stressful situations - sometimes they're little things you feel shouldn't be stressful. My stress will be different to yours. What matters, is what we do about it. At this time of year, we take on quite a mental load and there are expectations put upon us that we have to deal with. All of this can add to our stress bucket! It's important to recognise these little things, so that we can explore the reality of our situation and help ourselves through so that they don't add to the bigger things. Remember: there are no gold starts for those who have the most stressful things going on in their life. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/29113498

Are you busy being busy? 12/11/2023

Are you busy being busy? Are you busy being busy - busy keeping occupied doing things that you think are important - but are these things actually moving the needle for you? Do you know you're busy? Are you always busy? What are you achieving whilst you're busy? This then can lead to overwhelm - where are you with regard to this? All of this comes back to organisation? What is it that you actually want to get done? How can you make sure you do just that? We share some strategies for helping you to be focused on what you need to do. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/29008678

Bad Leadership 12/04/2023

Bad Leadership Bad leadership - when do we see this and what does it mean? Toxicity - and the toxic culture - why does this happen? Egos! Are leaders making leadership about themselves? Is it even leadership if it's not working? Have a listen to see what we think - and of course, we'd love to know your thoughts too. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28904653

What would we be if we weren't coaches? 11/27/2023

What would we be if we weren't coaches? In this episode, Becki poses the question "what would we be if we weren't coaches?" So we ponder on this - chat about what we've done before and what our interests are now - and what lights our fire. Tune in to listen to find out! Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28794123

Does remote working hamper your development? 11/20/2023

Does remote working hamper your development? Does working on your own hamper your personal and professional development? - Talking about what we pick up from our working environment and working with other people. We pick up so much from just being around other people - quick, short, sharp conversations or even listening to other conversations. Do we therefore struggle because we're not around other people so much? We're noticing people are happy to be socialising more again. There's also the fun element - bouncing ideas around the desk, which can lead to another level of conversation. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28708708

The importance of clear communication 11/13/2023

The importance of clear communication We get a bee in our bonnets about communication! And so, this episode is about 'clear' communication and why it's important. People's expectations can be managed with clear communication when we take responsibility for the messages we're giving. Think - 'What do I need to communicate?''Is my message consistent?' 'What have I said before about this?' 'How can people find out more information about this? - or FAQs.' Also, consider what's easier for you - verbal or written communication. And consider who is receiving your communication - and what's best for them. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28603358

What do you need to give up, to get what you want? 11/06/2023

What do you need to give up, to get what you want? What are you willing to give up in order to get what you want? What a great question! Do you really need to give anything up - why can't you just have it all? But don't assume that you need to give up something good! Also, is it us trying to have it all that leads to chronic stress and burnout? We share an exercise to help you prioritise your goals - Warren Buffet's 'Danger 20'. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28515329

The weight and responsibility of leadership 10/30/2023

The weight and responsibility of leadership The weight and responsibility of leadership - inspired by mine and Becki's clients. Leadership training, courses, books - don't really cover what the role of leadership really means. Bringing leadership to a human level means 'who and I and where do I sit in leadership?' 'how can I lead and inspire people?' - it's a weight and a responsibility. When we get into the nitty gritty of leadership roles, there's so much we weren't expecting to be there. We don't want to be dragged down by the role - we can't operate at our best from this level. In this episode, we explore what leadership can look like for you and how you can play around with different styles of leadership and make the role your own. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28452581

Why having a hobby is good for you 10/23/2023

Why having a hobby is good for you How can hobbies help you with your development of yourself? Do you have a hobby? I talk about the fact that I don't have anything that I perceive to be a hobby. But do my hobbies look different to how I perceive other peoples to be? We talk about how hobbies can help you to regulate your nervous system and why that's important. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28386377

Are you listening to your instincts? 10/16/2023

Are you listening to your instincts? An episode inspired by the sitcom 'Schitt's Creek'! And we're talking about - can you trust your instincts? Where does the message come from when we feel we have instincts? The brain or the body? Past experiences or something new? We have data within our body that we can rely on - but we need to know how to access it and interpret it. So we give you an idea of how you can start to do this. Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28319621

Is it too easy to put things down to luck? 10/09/2023

Is it too easy to put things down to luck? Today, we're talking about taking a different view of 'luck'. Is it really 'luck'? If not luck - then what is it? We're talking about the choices we make as individuals. Sometimes when we observe others, we might think they're lucky if they have things that we don't. But is it really luck, or a different lens, or choices that others make that we don't even think to make? Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28264742

Vicious and virtuous circles 10/02/2023

Vicious and virtuous circles When you feel you're stuck in a vicious circle - you're doing things that perpetuate where you are. But you can't always get off the circle. When you break the actions, do new things, take different action, things change and a chain of change can start to happen - all of a sudden you can find yourself on more of a virtuous circle. - This is where positive thinking tends to happen. What vicious circles are you on and what changes do you need to make? Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28191371

The responsibility of life changing choices 09/25/2023

The responsibility of life changing choices Knowledge is empowering - once you know better, you have the ability to do better. But - sometimes we wish we didn't know certain things - because that means we have to make a choice: Ignore the new knowledge OR implement the change - and embrace the impact the change will bring. Is this a barrier for you if you want to develop yourself further? Once you know new things - are you ready to implement the change and are you prepared for that change? We talk today about managing that change - perhaps we need to give ourselves permission to go slowly, to get things wrong, and feel annoyed by the responsibility of the new knowledge... Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28124651

How you do anything is how you do everything! 09/18/2023

How you do anything is how you do everything! How you do anything is how you do everything! - This statement gets us thinking - is this true? Perhaps on a very big picture level - but certainly not when you get into the nitty-gritty of a situation. Perhaps this way of doing things comes in waves throughout our lives - it's not linear, depending on what we're doing at any given time. What are your thoughts? Contact Fay - Rebekah - Thank you to Jon at Wahhoo Media for our production: /episode/index/show/meetme/id/28055925

In Pursuit of the Better You

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