The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Stepfamilies and blended families are very challenging. With a failure rate of over 70%, it's clear that blended families need help. Nacho Kids founders and blended family coaches, Lori and David Sims, are here to help blended families save their sanity and relationships. You'll hear the hosts and guests discuss the struggles and successes of blended family life and learn how the Nacho Kids Method is changing lives and saving relationships around the world.
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349: Valentine's Day Expectations
02/10/2026
349: Valentine's Day Expectations
Get ready for laughter, realness, and actionable advice as Lori and David tackle Valentine’s Day expectations and the tricky emotions that come with stepfamily living. In this episode, Lori and David dive into the emotional minefields of Valentine’s Day, discussing honest communication between partners and the importance of managing expectations, especially in blended families. You’ll hear their candid conversation about gift-giving ("Stop setting your partner up to fail!"), spontaneous acts of kindness, and why comparison can sabotage the holiday spirit. Topics: The importance of clearly communicating expectations with your partner (don’t set each other up to fail!) How perceptions and comparison impact kids, especially when one child gets a gift, and others don’t Why spending $150 on roses may NOT be the best way to show love, for anyone in your family Practical, budget-friendly ideas for celebrating and keeping family harmony, like the famous coupon book or sharing ice cream instead of overpriced cards Insights about childhood emotions, feeling included, and handling those tricky stepfamily holiday moments Relevant Links: Nacho Kids Podcast Website: Episode NKP349 Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and join the Nacho Kids community for more support and insights on stepfamily life!
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348: Successful Co-parenting
01/30/2026
348: Successful Co-parenting
In this powerful and deeply honest episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with Jon Bassford, author of The Co-Parenting Secret: It’s Not About You, to talk about what healthy co-parenting really looks like, and why most families are unknowingly doing it wrong. Jon shares his personal journey as a child of divorce, a father navigating two households, and a co-parent who intentionally chose cooperation over conflict. Together, they explore the realities of dual parenting vs. true co-parenting, the emotional toll high-conflict dynamics place on children, and how ego, resentment, and unresolved hurt often derail what’s best for kids. This conversation covers: • Why “co-parenting” often isn’t co-parenting at all • The difference between parallel parenting and collaborative parenting • How childhood divorce experiences shape adult parenting decisions • Why keeping the focus on the child changes everything • The power of accountability instead of blame • How healthy communication models emotional intelligence for kids • Creating a functional “village” even after divorce • Why showing up matters more than perfection • How to reduce transitions, meltdowns, and emotional overload for children Jon also explains how he and his ex-wife rebuilt their post-divorce relationship with intentionality, including maintaining respectful communication, consistent parenting standards across households, and involving extended family as part of a unified support system. This episode is a must-listen for: ✔ Stepparents feeling overwhelmed or sidelined ✔ Divorced parents struggling with communication ✔ Parents navigating 50/50 custody schedules ✔ High-conflict co-parenting situations ✔ Anyone wanting to protect their child’s emotional health If you’ve ever wondered whether peaceful co-parenting is truly possible, this episode proves that it is. Because when parenting becomes about the child instead of the adults… everything changes. 🔗 Resources Mentioned: • The Co-Parenting Secret: It’s Not About You — Jon Bassford • Website: jonbassford.com 🎧 About the Nacho Kids Podcast The Nacho Kids Podcast is dedicated to supporting stepparents and blended families through real conversations, real stories, and real solutions — all grounded in the proven Nacho Kids Method. Life really is better… when you Nacho. stepfamily, stepparenting, blended family, co parenting, coparenting after divorce, parallel parenting, high conflict coparent, divorce parenting, shared custody, 50/50 custody, parenting after divorce, stepmom support, stepdad support, nacho kids, blended family podcast, co parenting communication, healthy coparenting, child centered parenting, divorced parents
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347: Adult Stepkid Moves Back In
01/23/2026
347: Adult Stepkid Moves Back In
When an adult stepchild moves back home, many stepparents quickly realize that blending does not end at age 18, it simply enters a new phase. In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David talk candidly about what happens when adult children return home, sometimes with partners and young children in tow. What begins as a temporary plan to save money or regroup can quickly bring up anxiety, boundaries, and old blended-family challenges you thought were behind you. They discuss the emotional and logistical realities of shared households, including working from home with more people present, managing noise and schedules, and navigating the difference between biological-parent tolerance and stepparent tolerance. This conversation covers: • Adult stepkids moving back in • Why this stage can feel harder than early blending • Anxiety and resentment many stepmoms experience • Setting household expectations without creating conflict • Communicating boundaries without sounding controlling • Helping adult children without hurting your marriage • Why step-parenting does not end when kids become adults Many blended families are surprised to learn that step-parenting continues well into adulthood, especially in today’s economy, where housing costs and living expenses make independence more difficult for young adults. If you are navigating an adult stepchild moving back home, struggling with boundaries, or feeling overwhelmed by the impact on your marriage or peace, this episode offers an honest perspective and practical reassurance. Helping does not have to mean sacrificing yourself. Because life is good when you Nacho. step parenting, blended family podcast, adult stepkids, stepmom burnout, nacho parenting, blended family boundaries
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346: They Can Put Their Big Person Panties On
01/16/2026
346: They Can Put Their Big Person Panties On
When a stepchild hurts your partner, every instinct tells you to jump in and defend them, but that move often makes everything worse. In this episode of The Nacho Kids Podcast, we unpack what really happens when step-parents step in too fast, how quickly alliances flip, and why trying to “fix” the moment can turn you into the problem. We talk honestly about: Watching a stepchild disrespect or hurt your partner Why defending your partner can backfire How the target shifts from the behavior to you Why step-parents often feel more upset than the biological parent The danger of keeping score When stepping in can help and when stepping back is the healthiest move This conversation isn’t about bad kids or bad intentions. It’s about understanding blended family dynamics, emotional triggers, and how to protect your relationship without escalating conflict. Nacho isn’t about disengaging emotionally. It’s about disengaging from what was never yours to fix. If you’re a step-parent trying to balance boundaries, connection, and peace, this episode will help you see the situation differently and respond with clarity instead of reaction. Keywords: step parenting, blended families, step parent boundaries, co-parenting conflict, high conflict families, step parent burnout, Nacho Kids, family dynamics, emotional safety, marriage in blended families
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345: Some Blends Are Toxic
01/09/2026
345: Some Blends Are Toxic
In this lively episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive straight into a wild story involving clogged toilets, dangerous chemical reactions, and a visit from the local fire department. Lori recounts her adventure with her friend Holley as they try to fix her dad’s clogged toilet, inadvertently creating chlorine gas by mixing household chemicals. The resulting chaos - fire trucks, EMTs, neighbors, and dad’s dark humor - serves as a hilarious reminder: don’t mix cleaning products! The hosts then shift the conversation toward stepfamily dynamics, exploring how emotional attachments shape responses to mistakes made by stepkids versus biological kids and close friends. Lori and David share personal anecdotes about household frustrations (think dirty dishes and leftover cereal boxes) and how they navigate daily stresses, especially with the anticipated return of David’s son and more family members moving in. Throughout the episode, there’s plenty of laughter, playful banter, and honest reflection on blending families, boundaries, and giving grace - even when someone leaves time on the microwave or a mess on the counter. The episode closes with a tongue-in-cheek debate about food, chores, and who really needs to stop eating - all in typical Nacho Kids Podcast fashion. Key Topics: When DIY plumbing goes wrong—chemical mishaps and calling 911 Differences in reactions to mishaps between stepkids, bio kids, and friends The rising stress of blended family living arrangements Household chores, boundaries, and comedic interactions between hosts Listeners get a healthy dose of humor, relatable stepfamily struggles, and a reminder that sometimes, all you can do is “nacho”—let go and laugh about it. Nacho Kids Testimony: "I no longer regret marrying my husband! Thank you Nacho!" ~ H.H., Montgomery, AL, USA
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344: Stepfamily New Year's Expectations
01/02/2026
344: Stepfamily New Year's Expectations
Kick off 2026 with laughter and real talk! In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David explore the powerful topic of expectations—why they trip us up, how to let go of what others “should” do, and how to build more peace and happiness in your blended family life. In this episode: Why expecting others to change (especially as a New Year’s resolution!) sets you up for disappointment How your personal stories, judgments, and baggage shape what you expect from others—and how to rewrite those scripts Practical advice on shifting your mindset, spotting unrealistic expectations, and finding the positive even in tough times The importance of controlling your own reactions and embracing ownership of your actions and mistakes Why social media and Hallmark movies might be sabotaging your happiness Exciting news about donated Nacho Kids Academy scholarships, courtesy of the amazing Sylvia Krakauer Nacho Testimony: "If it wasn't for Nacho Parenting, I'd be divorced... again!" ~ L.W., Canton, OH, USA
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343: Stepfamilies Can Change In The Blink Of An Eye
01/01/2026
343: Stepfamilies Can Change In The Blink Of An Eye
Looking for real talk on blended family challenges, New Year's resolutions, and actionable strategies for stepfamilies? In this episode, hosts David and Lori dive deep into stepfamily dynamics and why things can change in an instant. Whether you're a stepparent, parent in a blended family, or just seeking practical advice on setting and achieving goals, this episode delivers with wit, wisdom, and warmth. Episode Highlights: New Year's Resolutions & Why Most Fail: Learn why breaking goals into 90-day cycles (instead of year-long ambitions) leads to success. Psychology of Quick Wins: How seeing progress motivates stepfamilies, with lessons drawn from money management and video games. Realistic Blended Family Goals: Concrete ideas like reducing negativity and celebrating incremental progress. Building Relationships: Candid confessions on communication styles and maintaining healthy family or friendship connections. Acts of Kindness: The episode honors the memory of Ryan Webb by encouraging random acts of kindness in stepfamilies and communities. Tune in for practical strategies, relatable stories, and the trademark Nacho Kids humor as David and Lori help you navigate life's curveballs in a blended family. From paying off your car to learning how to "Nacho" the negatives, this episode is packed with inspiration to start your year strong - one bite-sized step at a time! Nacho Testimony: "The whole Nacho thing made no sense to me years ago when I heard about it. Now, years later, I am so thankful for this method and Lori & David! They saved my marriage!" ~ E.J., Pittsburgh, PA, USA
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342: That's Not Nachoing!
12/19/2025
342: That's Not Nachoing!
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts David and Lori dive into a deeply relatable and emotional topic: financial stress and holiday challenges in blended families. Lori reads a heart-wrenching post from their Facebook group about a listener struggling to provide Christmas gifts for her children due to unexpected medical expenses, while her fiancé has spent thousands on his own kids’ presents. The question at the core: Is this “nachoing,” or is it something deeper about the relationship itself? In this episode: Blended family finances Holiday stress for stepfamilies Nacho parenting boundaries Asking for help and community support Avoiding resentment between kids and partners Creative solutions to financial hardship The meaning of teamwork in blended families Managing unexpected expenses together Ethical giving and protecting your heart Nacho Testimony: Learning to Nacho was the best thing I ever did! It taught me so much about myself, our blend, and our marriage. I am so thankful for Nacho! ~ T.K., Washington DC, USA
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341: Sick Stepkids
12/12/2025
341: Sick Stepkids
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and guest David tackle one of the trickiest challenges in blended family life: what happens when the stepkids get sick? This episode dives deep into how co-parents and stepparents can navigate illness between households, keep communication open, and prioritize what’s best for the kids. In this episode: The impact of sick kids moving between households Communication strategies during illness Sticking to the court order vs. using common sense Special considerations for newborns and “ours” kids Documenting decisions and preparing for possible court ramifications Handling stepkids and bio kids during big events or vacations Setting expectations with your partner before kids get sick The difference between nuclear families and stepfamilies in dealing with sickness Grace, compassion, and the realities of co-parenting through illness Perfect for step-parents, co-parents, and anyone navigating blended families, this episode offers actionable advice, personal stories, and a dose of humor. Whether your concern is family court, protecting newborns, or just managing the stress of sick kids in a complex household, you’ll find something helpful here. Nacho Testimony: "Nacho parenting saved my life! I'm not kidding." ~ E.W., Atlanta, GA, USA
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340: Cell Phones Between Homes
12/05/2025
340: Cell Phones Between Homes
Is your blended family struggling with cell phone boundaries? NKP340 dives deep into the real challenges and solutions around kids, technology, and stepfamily life—don’t miss these actionable tips! In this insightful episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori & David tackle one of today’s hottest parenting topics: managing cell phones in homes where children move between parents. From hilarious Little House on the Prairie analogies to sobering stories of real blended family struggles, this episode offers a mix of laughter, practical advice, and must-know warnings. Listeners will learn: How cell phone rules can become battlegrounds between households, and ways to set clear boundaries before problems start. Pros and cons of monitoring apps like Life360, Faraday bags for privacy, and navigating who controls a child’s device and passwords. Why direct communication and trust (but verify!) are essential, and the vital role of bio parents in digital discipline. Eye-opening risks around online gaming, social media, sextortion, and the emotional impact of technology on kids. How to explain tech boundaries, and why every child—and family—may need different rules. Connect with the Nacho Kids Podcast: Website: YouTube: Facebook: Nacho Kids Academy Testimonial: "I was at my wits end. I hated my life. I joined the Nacho Academy out of sheer desperation. I wish I would have joined it sooner! It changed my life!" M.G. ~ El Paso, TX, USA
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339: Gifts Between Homes
11/28/2025
339: Gifts Between Homes
This week on Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David dive deep into the often sticky subject of gifts: where they go, who they belong to, and the emotional complexities when kids want to bring presents between homes. Whether your family is navigating joint custody, split holidays, or parallel parenting, this episode delivers smart advice and real stories that every modern blended family can relate to. Listeners will learn: The factors that influence whether gifts should travel between homes (cost, age, custody schedules) How withholding gifts can reinforce the sense of “two separate lives” for kids, and emotional fallout that comes with it Tips for setting clear expectations about gifts, including guidelines for expensive presents and clothing The pitfalls of competitive gift-giving between parents and how to keep the focus on your child Alternatives to physical presents, like sharing memorable experiences instead Why “guilty parent syndrome” can drive us to replace lost or broken items, and why letting kids learn consequences is often healthier Relevant Links: Learn more about Nacho Kids: Join the Nacho Kids Academy: Connect on Facebook: Subscribe and never miss an episode: YouTube: If this episode resonates with you, subscribe, leave a review, or check out the full Nacho Kids Method on to join the conversation and gain more support in your blended family journey!
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338: I Don't Love My Stepkids
11/21/2025
338: I Don't Love My Stepkids
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337: I'm Not Buying The Stepkid Christmas Presents
11/14/2025
337: I'm Not Buying The Stepkid Christmas Presents
Holidays in a blended family don’t have to be stressful! In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David dive into real-life stories and practical tips on how to navigate gift-giving, family traditions, and finances during the holiday season as a blended family. Listeners will learn how to handle common issues like kids comparing presents, managing in-law expectations with step-grandkids, and avoiding “gift competition” between households. Lori and David reveal their own strategies for dividing up gift responsibilities, setting realistic gift budgets, and creating flexible holiday traditions that don’t revolve around a specific date, but focus on making lasting memories together. You’ll also pick up clever ideas for dealing with uneven schedules, supplementing grandparent gifts, and why sometimes it’s okay to buy your own present and wrap it up! Lori and David share plenty of personal experiences and advice every blended family can relate to. Don’t miss their heartfelt take on giving back during the holidays and the importance of gratitude, even when things aren’t “Hallmark perfect.” Tune in for laughs, thoughtful insights, and a powerful reminder: Christmas is about the love and memories you create, not just the gifts you give. Enjoyed the show? 👉 Subscribe, leave a review, and check out more resources at 👉 Join the Nacho Kids Academy to get even more support for your blended family Nacho Kids Academy Testimony: "The Nacho Kids Academy was the best investment we ever made for our marriage!" ~ L.H., Aurora, IL, USA
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336: I'm Not Leaving My Stepkid Nothing In My Will
11/07/2025
336: I'm Not Leaving My Stepkid Nothing In My Will
In this candid and often humorous episode, Lori and David pull back the curtain on their personal lives, sharing the challenges and surprises that come with caring for aging parents, navigating wills and inheritance in blended families, and keeping family drama at bay during important occasions. Listeners will hear firsthand stories about planning for final arrangements. Complete with amusing tales of funeral shopping and “drive-thru” ideas. Plus, what it truly feels like to manage adult responsibilities amid the ticking clock of family health issues. Lori and David also discuss crucial estate-planning differences for stepfamilies versus nuclear families and share insights into handling complex inheritance scenarios fairly. You’ll learn: Why legal planning is especially important in blended families How to open difficult conversations about wills, power of attorney, and inheritance Ways to “nacho” family drama (and why you should!) Real-life examples of guilt, responsibility, and the art of letting go Episode #336 – Subscribe, leave a review, and share with someone who needs encouragement through their own family journeys! Nacho Academy Testimonial: "I had no idea how hard this stepfamily crap would be. We needed help and weren't afraid to admit it. David & Lori really put things into perspective and gave us hope again! Three years later, we are still Nachoing and it's great! Couldn't have done it without them!" ~ J.U., Denver, CO, USA
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335: Parenting Adult Children - Catherine Hickem
10/31/2025
335: Parenting Adult Children - Catherine Hickem
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334: That Family Law Guy - Daniel Ryan - Part 2
10/24/2025
334: That Family Law Guy - Daniel Ryan - Part 2
Discover the complexities and real-life challenges of stepfamilies navigating Family Court, with heart and humor! In this episode, Lori continues her chat with UK attorney, Daniel Ryan, for an honest, insightful conversation you won’t want to miss. This episode dives deep into the emotional and financial obstacles stepfamilies face in Family Court, especially around child custody, parental alienation, and child support. Daniel Ryan shares details about his innovative Family Court Mastery course - launching soon to guide people through the daunting legal process, even without representation, and in multiple languages for diverse communities. You’ll hear real stories of parents’ struggles, heartbreaking cases, and surprising gaps in the legal system that affect both moms and dads. The discussion also highlights the importance of compassion, fair legal access, and how resources like stepfamily coaching and educational courses can change lives. Whether you’re facing your own family court battle, supporting a loved one, or simply seeking a deeper understanding of the system, this episode offers practical advice, expert perspective, and a touch of humor. Expect candid talk about the realities behind attorney fees, the impact of court decisions on children, and the crucial need for trustworthy legal and emotional support. Learn more: Nacho Kids: (stepfamily resources & coaching) Nacho Kids Academy - Learn to Nacho Properly! Family Court Mastery info: Stay tuned for launch details! Guest: Daniel Ryan, UK attorney & Family Court Mastery creator Subscribe to the Nacho Kids Podcast, leave us a review, and join the Nacho Kids community for more support and practical solutions for your stepfamily journey!
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333: That Family Law Guy - Daniel Ryan - Part 1
10/17/2025
333: That Family Law Guy - Daniel Ryan - Part 1
Discover what really happens behind the scenes in UK family law! In this eye-opening episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with Daniel Ryan, a seasoned family law attorney from the UK, to talk candidly about the realities, challenges, and emotional toll of blended family court cases. Listeners will learn how family courts operate in the UK compared to the US, the pivotal role of guardians ad litem and social workers (often women), and the painful realities facing dads in modern custody battles. Daniel shares hard truths about parental alienation, court biases, and why a “toothless tiger” court system often leaves parents and children stuck in years-long legal disputes. This episode also sheds light on why legal representation matters, how guardians sway judges’ decisions, and why sometimes empathy, and even the law, can fall short in protecting kids. The conversation doesn’t shy away from tough topics like false allegations, lack of consequences for breaking court orders, and the need for a new approach to family justice. Lori and Daniel discuss alternatives, like panels of judges or even AI, to reduce entrenched biases. This episode was so good, we broke it up into two!!! Featured Guest: Daniel Ryan, UK family law attorney
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332: It's Not Always Intentional
10/10/2025
332: It's Not Always Intentional
Stepfamilies: Why do we feel so differently about stepkids versus our own? In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David get real about the honest, sometimes awkward truths of parenting in blended families. Tune in for relatable stories and candid conversations about how Lori and David each navigated the differences in parenting their biological kids and stepkids: from fixing breakfast, handling car insurance stress, and reacting to cereal bowls left on the counter. You’ll hear them wrestle with those moments when their feelings and priorities aren’t the same for “yours” and “mine,” and why that’s natural, not shameful. The hosts share personal experiences with their grandkids and step-grandkids, discussing the guilt and expectations that come with loving stepchildren, and reflect on how relationships evolve as the kids grow up. Listeners will learn: Why step and bio parents often react differently—and why that’s normal How to approach car insurance, chores, and family events without losing your mind Tips for discussing expectations around finances, discipline, and love in a blended family The impact of child support, and how family structure changes from one generation to the next Nacho Kids Testimonial: "Nachoing gave me peace without guilt. It literally saved my marriage." T.M., Dallas, TX, USA
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331: Blended: Between Two Homes ~ Summer Butler
10/03/2025
331: Blended: Between Two Homes ~ Summer Butler
In this episode, host Lori Sims welcomes returning guest Summer Butler to discuss her newly released resource, "Blended: Navigating Life Between Two Homes." Aimed primarily at preteens but helpful for children as young as seven, this workbook-style guide was born out of Summer's direct experience coaching children in blended families. She shares how the book helps kids navigate loyalty conflicts, big emotions, family transitions, and communication between homes, especially in situations where one parent doesn’t consent to outside help. Lori and Summer dive into common challenges for children split between homes, including feeling stuck in the middle, hiding their true emotions, and managing shifting boundaries and rules. Summer explains how the workbook includes journaling prompts and activities to help kids process their feelings, build connections with stepparents, and set healthy boundaries. They touch on the lasting impact loyalty binds can have, even into adulthood, and the importance of not putting children in the middle of parental conflict. Summer also announces her upcoming children’s book for younger kids, "Mallie’s Two Homes and a Deer Named Darla," which will come with a stuffed deer as a comfort object to help little ones transition between homes. Throughout the episode, Lori and Summer provide real-life examples, discuss communication tips for parents and stepparents, and emphasize the need for compassionate, child-centered approaches in blended families. Check out Summer’s resources for both young children and parents seeking to foster healthier blended family dynamics. For more information and to pre-order the new book and workbook, visit:
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330: Is It My Problem Or My Responsibility?
09/26/2025
330: Is It My Problem Or My Responsibility?
In Episode NKP330 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David Sims dive deep into some common misconceptions about the Nacho Kids philosophy. They clarify the true mantra: "Nacho Kids, Nacho Responsibility," highlighting the crucial difference between a problem and a responsibility in stepfamily dynamics. The hosts reflect on their personal experiences and how step-parents often unintentionally take on roles that lead to resentment down the road. Lori and David discuss the importance of boundaries, recognizing each partner’s unique parenting style, and not personalizing issues that arise in blended family life. They address the natural shifts in relationships over time, especially as the initial excitement fades, and the value of focusing on positive aspects instead of getting lost in negativity. The conversation also touches on individual preferences, introvert vs. extrovert dynamics, finding balance in relationships, and appreciating both shared and solo interests as a couple. With their usual humor and honesty, Lori and David encourage listeners to embrace change, communicate openly, and remember that your relationship’s happiness is an inside job. Key Topics: Nacho Kids Mantra: "Nacho Kids, Nacho Responsibility" vs. "Nacho Problem" The challenges of step-parenting and managing expectations Navigating relationship changes and self-reflection Emphasizing individual growth and contentment within a blended family The importance of celebrating differences and shared experiences as a couple Tune in for relatable stories, practical advice, and a reminder to focus on making your relationship just a little bit better each day!
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329: Mindful Marriage With Ron and Nan Deal
09/19/2025
329: Mindful Marriage With Ron and Nan Deal
In this heartfelt and candid episode, Lori and David sit down with Ron and Nan Deal to discuss their new book, "The Mindful Marriage." The conversation dives deep into the real-life struggles and breakthroughs the Deals have faced in their marriage, including coping styles, emotional reactivity, and the journey toward self-growth. Ron and Nan share vulnerable stories from their own relationship, highlighting how self-reflection, humility, and self-control have transformed not only their marriage but their approach to life’s stressors - from parenting to grief after the loss of their son. Listeners will relate to the honest talk about blame, shame, control, and escape in relationships and the importance of taking responsibility for one’s actions. The Deals also touch on the resources available through their work, the critical role of grace, and finding peace after facing life’s hardest moments. Whether you’re in a blended family or not, this episode offers valuable tools for anyone seeking healthier connections and a more mindful, compassionate approach to relationships. Key topics: The impact of reactivity in relationships Emotional regulation and mindfulness The power of humility and self-reflection How past experiences shape present interactions Navigating grief and addiction as a couple Building (and rebuilding) trust Supporting others through vulnerability and authenticity Nacho Testimonial We don’t argue about the kids anymore. That’s all Lori. ~ Z.M., Lexington, KY, USA
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328: Don't Have Conversations When You Are...
09/12/2025
328: Don't Have Conversations When You Are...
Feeling tired, hangry, or just out of sorts? This week on the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into how emotions like hunger, anger, loneliness, and exhaustion can derail crucial conversations in blended families - and what to do about it. In this candid and witty episode, Lori and David unpack the HALT method (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired), sharing personal stories and practical tips for recognizing when you're not in the right headspace for tough talks with your partner or stepkids. You'll learn why it's so important to hit pause on those "serious" discussions when emotions are running high, how quick wit and sarcasm can be double-edged swords, and why self-awareness and communication are crucial for stepfamily harmony. Plus, Lori gets real about her bandwidth, menopause mood swings, and the importance of being kind - even when family members aren’t! Listeners will walk away with: A deeper understanding of how emotions affect stepfamily dynamics Concrete tips for using the HALT method before crucial conversations Relatable humor, self-reflection, and the importance of knowing your limits Don’t forget to visit for more resources, and follow Nacho Kids on and .
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327: Stepmom Says Just To Shut Up
09/05/2025
327: Stepmom Says Just To Shut Up
Struggling with the challenges of blending families? Discover practical ways to set healthy boundaries and rediscover yourself in stepfamily life! In Episode NKP327 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, host Lori welcomes Heather, a stepmom navigating her first year in the blending trenches. Heather opens up about her journey from confident “super stepmom” to being overwhelmed by unrealistic expectations - especially around food, household chores, and parenting differences. She shares how discovering the Nacho Kids approach helped her step back, reduce resentment, repair relationships, and reclaim her joy. Listeners will learn: Why even experienced parents can feel blindsided by blending families How the pressure to be a perfect stepmom creates unnecessary stress The transformative power of “nachoing”—letting go, stepping back, and focusing on your role as a supportive partner rather than a replacement parent Strategies for addressing common stepfamily struggles, like different household routines and conflicting parenting styles The importance of self-care, healthy communication, and seeing situations from the stepchild’s perspective Heather’s story is relatable, candid, and full of “aha!” moments for anyone in a blended family. Whether you’re a new stepparent or a veteran, this conversation will inspire you to find more peace in your home. Listen now and remember: Life is good when you Nacho! Nacho Kids Testimonial: My stepdaughter still ignores me, and I’m fine. That’s the Nacho shift. ~ H.P., New York, NY, USA
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326: Guilty Parent Syndrome
08/29/2025
326: Guilty Parent Syndrome
Struggling to understand why your partner “guilty parents”, or noticing it in yourself? This episode dives deep into what “Guilty Parent Syndrome” (GPS) is, why it’s so common in blended families, and how partners can navigate it with empathy and confidence. In Episode #326 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David get real about guilty parent syndrome: when guilt affects how parents discipline or interact with their kids, often leading to inconsistent boundaries, indulgence, or fear of “losing” time or connection. Lori and David share their personal experiences of “parenting through guilt,” offer practical scenarios from stepfamily life (like inconsistent discipline or “guilty gift-giving”), and explain why this isn’t just a stepfamily phenomenon. They break down why GPS can hit bio-parents so hard and why stepparents, especially those without children, may have trouble truly “getting it.” You’ll learn why empathy, communication, and realistic expectations are essential for healthier co-parenting and happier homes. Want to go deeper? Check out Nacho Kids resources, join the Nacho Kids Academy, or connect on social media.
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325: One Stepkid's Journey
08/22/2025
325: One Stepkid's Journey
Discover what happens when a blended family actually flourishes. Yes, it’s possible! In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with a remarkable teenage stepkid who shares his rare, positive perspective on navigating life with divorced parents, stepfamilies, and even step-siblings. Listeners will get an inside look at what healthy co-parenting looks like through the eyes of an easygoing stepkid who has strong, drama-free relationships with his stepmom and stepdad. You’ll hear firsthand accounts of adapting to living in two homes, forming real bonds with step-siblings, and what happens when boundaries and respect are mutual between parents and step-parents. He opens up about the hardest parts of his parents’ divorce, how therapy helped, and why he recognizes his stepparents on Mother’s and Father’s Day (yes, really!). This episode reveals not only practical tips for parents and stepparents, like the importance of strong communication, setting boundaries, and letting kids emotionally process big changes, but also offers hope that peaceful blended families do exist. Plus, you’ll hear touching anecdotes about handling holidays, family traditions, and even what to do if your parents get along so well their new partners become friends! What you’ll learn: What helps stepkids develop strong bonds with stepparents How living arrangements impact stepkid/stepparent dynamics The importance of boundaries, communication, and therapy after divorce Handling holidays and traditions in blended families Real stories of stepkid/stepfamily relationships that actually work Links: Check out our website and blogs: Follow Nacho Kids on Facebook: Join the Nacho Kids Academy: Listen to NKP325 for an inspiring dose of hope, and a reminder that peace and love are possible in stepfamilies. Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review to support more real-life blended family stories! Nacho Kids Testimony: Coaching with Lori pulled us back from the edge of divorce. ~ J.F., Chicago, IL USA
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324: When The Stepkids Lie
08/14/2025
324: When The Stepkids Lie
Laugh your way through the ups and downs of blended family life in Episode 324 of the Nacho Kids Podcast! Hosts David and Lori bring their signature humor and honesty to a fresh discussion about the realities of stepfamily dynamics—proving it’s always a hot mess, but never without a laugh. In this episode, you’ll: Get a behind-the-scenes glimpse into David and Lori’s relationship as they share candid moments and jokes about married life in a blended family. Hear how they transform challenging topics—like issues around stepkids and “family sucking otherwise”—into opportunities for connection and laughter. Feel validated if you’ve ever struggled with tough family topics, as the hosts keep things real while still making space for joy and fun. Although there’s no featured guest in this episode, David and Lori’s chemistry and honest banter will make you feel like you’re sitting at the kitchen table with old friends. This episode is perfect for anyone navigating the stepparent journey or looking for a little comic relief in the midst of family chaos. Don’t forget to subscribe, share your favorite moment, and leave us a review so we can keep spreading the laughter! Find more episodes and resources: Website: Facebook: Instagram: Join the Nacho Kids community and turn your “hot mess” into your happy place!
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323: Emotional Regulation With Michaela Bucchianeri
08/08/2025
323: Emotional Regulation With Michaela Bucchianeri
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, host Lori welcomes back Michaela Bucchianeri to explore emotional regulation, a crucial skill for every stepmom and stepfamily member. Michaela breaks down the myth that emotions are the enemy and shares actionable tips for managing stress responses like fight, flight, and fawn. Discover practical tools for building emotional vocabulary, reframing negative thoughts, and intentionally choosing which situations to engage in. Learn why emotional awareness is vital in step-parenting, how to avoid people-pleasing traps, and ways to protect your mental and physical health from chronic stress. Perfect for stepmoms seeking healthier relationships, self-regulation, and a happier blended family life. Key elements: Emotions aren’t the enemy - learn to work with them, not suppress them. Stress responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and their impact on stepfamily life. Ways to expand emotional vocabulary for better self-awareness and communication. Tips for reframing situations to reduce conflict and emotional overwhelm. The importance of intentionally choosing situations to protect your emotional energy. How people-pleasing and over-functioning can cause long-term burnout. Actionable self-regulation techniques to support your health and stepfamily dynamics. Perfect for stepmoms and blended families seeking actionable advice on emotional wellness, setting boundaries, and strengthening relationships. #stepmomlife #emotionregulation #blendedfamilytips Resources Mentioned Nacho Parenting Testimonial: I stopped crying in the bathroom after coaching with Lori. I finally feel like “ME” again. Forever Grateful! S.B., Nashville, TN, USA
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322: Don't Get Divorced Over Dirty Dishes
08/01/2025
322: Don't Get Divorced Over Dirty Dishes
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into the everyday challenges stepparents face, using real-life examples from their blended family. From disputes over GPS navigation and vacuum cleaner filters to the ongoing “dishes dilemma,” the couple offers a candid, humorous look into the emotional triggers that can arise in blended households. Lori emphasizes how the Nacho Method not only reduces stress within the stepfamily dynamic but also helps handle life’s daily annoyances more calmly. Whether it’s tackling chores, navigating relationships with stepkids, or learning to nacho stressful moments, this episode delivers actionable tips for maintaining peace and sanity in your blended family. Key Topics: Handling household chores and responsibilities Communication and conflict in relationships Role imbalance in blended families Emotional responses and stress management Finding practical solutions for daily frustrations Nacho Kids Academy Testimonial: This Academy didn't only help my blend, it helped ME! ~ S.D., Melbourne, Australia #NachoKids #StepfamilyAdvice #BlendedFamilyStress
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321: One Big Happy Family ~ Stepmom and Bio Mom are Friends
07/25/2025
321: One Big Happy Family ~ Stepmom and Bio Mom are Friends
In this insightful episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, host Lori sits down with a unique duo - a biomom and stepmom who have successfully navigated the challenges of a blended family to become good friends. With over 11 years in their blend, the stepmom and the biomom discuss how they overcame early co-parenting hurdles, managed shifting visitation schedules, and built a friendship rooted in mutual respect and the well-being of the children. Listeners get a candid look at real-life co-parenting dynamics, from open communication and handling tough emotions to supporting each other through life’s challenges, like divorce and a child’s medical needs. Tune in to hear their firsthand advice on keeping the kids’ best interests at the center while fostering harmony between households. Perfect for anyone seeking real-world tips on blending families, building trust with co-parents, and maintaining respectful boundaries in a stepfamily dynamic. In this episode we discuss: Building Positive Stepmom and Biomom Relationships Co-parenting and Communication Challenges Navigating Divorce and Blended Family Dynamics Prioritizing Children's Well-being and Stability Support Systems During Family and Health Crisis #BlendedFamily #CoParentingSuccess #NachoKidsPodcast Nacho Success Story: “We stopped arguing about parenting once I stopped parenting kids that weren’t mine.” ~ R.P., San Diego, CA, USA
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320: Send Those Kids Back to School
07/18/2025
320: Send Those Kids Back to School
Navigating back-to-school season in a blended family? 🎒 In this Nacho Kids podcast episode, hosts Lori and David dive deep into the real-life challenges and lessons learned when sharing school supply costs, managing homework stress, and setting healthy boundaries between bio and step-parents. They share why splitting school expenses can be tricky, discuss the importance of clear agreements, and offer practical tips on handling school-related responsibilities without unnecessary conflict. Whether you're a bio parent, step-parent, or co-parent, this insightful conversation is packed with relatable experiences and advice to help you start the school year peacefully and set your family up for success. #BlendedFamily #BackToSchool #ParentingTips #NachoKidsPodcast #CoParenting Listen in to transform your school year stress into teamwork and understanding!
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