The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Stepfamilies and blended families are very challenging. With a failure rate of over 70%, it's clear that blended families need help. Nacho Kids founders and blended family coaches, Lori and David Sims, are here to help blended families save their sanity and relationships. You'll hear the hosts and guests discuss the struggles and successes of blended family life and learn how the Nacho Kids Method is changing lives and saving relationships around the world.
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309: Blending With Autism
05/02/2025
309: Blending With Autism
On today’s episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with "Bookworm Stepmom," for a heartfelt and engaging conversation about navigating the highs and lows of blended family life. Stepmom opens up about her journey from single and childless to stepmom of two girls and mom to two more young children, one of whom is autistic. They dig into the realities of co-parenting with an ex, maintaining balance in a blended household, and how stepmom’s personal experiences as a stepchild shape her compassionate approach to stepmotherhood. From honest discussions about the challenges of special needs parenting and managing finances for the future, to candid stories about family dynamics, Bookworm Stepmom shares wisdom, humor, and practical tips for anyone in a blended family. Whether you’re a stepparent, bio parent, or just love an honest family story, this episode is packed with lessons and laughs you won’t want to miss! In this episode, we discuss: Expanding the family with "ours" kids Dealing with high-conflict and jealousy Navigating divorce, affairs, and co-parenting Parenting Special Needs ("Ours") Child Financial planning and inheritance in Blended Families Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: I Didn't Need to Leave - I Just Needed to Nacho I was emotionally exhausted, constantly fighting invisible battles in my own home. My stepkids ignored me, my partner seemed stuck in the middle, and every day felt like I was losing a piece of myself. I thought the only way to find peace was to leave. Then I found the Nacho Kids Academy. At first, I was skeptical - how could not parenting actually help? But the step-by-step guidance, real-life examples, and support inside the Academy opened my eyes. I learned how to let go of the responsibilities that were never mine to begin with. I stopped trying to fix things I didn’t break. And I finally started healing. The results? Less tension. More laughter. A stronger marriage. And oddly enough, a better connection with my stepkids now that I’ve stepped back. Nachoing didn’t mean giving up. It meant choosing peace—and I’ll never look back. If you're struggling, this isn't just a course. It's a lifeline." ~ Jessica T. - A now happy stepmom! Thanks Nacho!
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308: Graduations And Stepfamilies
04/25/2025
308: Graduations And Stepfamilies
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In this heartfelt and relatable episode, hosts David and Lori dive into the annual struggle of graduation ticket allocations. With only a handful of coveted seats for high school and college ceremonies, blended and extended families are often left negotiating who gets a spot in the audience—and who doesn’t. Through personal stories and a bit of humor, David and Lori explore the emotional minefield that limited tickets can create for parents, step-parents, grandparents, and, most importantly, the graduates themselves. They emphasize the importance of keeping the celebration focused on the students and share creative ideas for making everyone feel included, even if they can’t physically be at the ceremony. Whether it’s planning an after-party or tuning in to a livestream, they remind listeners that graduation is about honoring the kids without piling on extra stress. Join them as they navigate one of the tricky realities of modern family life. In this episode, we discuss: Graduation Ticket Challenges Emotional Impact on Graduates and Families Solutions When Tickets are Limited Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: "Before finding Nacho Kids Academy, I was on the verge of leaving my marriage. I loved my husband, but the constant tension with his kids and the drama with the ex was tearing me apart. I felt like I was walking on eggshells in my own home, trying to parent kids who didn’t want me there. Joining Nacho Kids Academy was a game-changer. I learned how to step back without stepping away, how to Nacho the things that weren’t my responsibility and focus on my relationship with my husband and myself. The coaching calls, the community, the step-by-step layers, it all gave me tools I didn’t even know I needed. Now, my home feels peaceful again. I can show up as a loving partner without feeling like I’m constantly battling for space or respect. And the best part? My relationship with my stepkids has actually improved because I’m no longer forcing something that wasn’t working. If you’re a stepparent feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or ready to give up, please, do yourself a favor and join Nacho Kids Academy. It saved my marriage and my sanity." - Sarah M., Stepmom of 2
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307: Lisa Wilson ~ A History of Stepfamilies in Early America
04/18/2025
307: Lisa Wilson ~ A History of Stepfamilies in Early America
In this enlightening episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, we explore the fascinating world of stepfamilies in American history with our special guest, Lisa Wilson, the esteemed author of "A History of Stepfamilies in Early America." Lisa shares her journey of uncovering the untold stories and patterns of stepfamilies, reflecting on her personal experiences as a member of such a family. Delving into historical dynamics, Lisa discusses how the perception and roles within stepfamilies have evolved over centuries, from the challenges of integrating into what was once an emotionally-focused family model to combating age-old prejudices against stepmothers. Lori and David, our hosts, invite listeners to a thoughtful conversation about the societal shifts that have affected family structures, highlighting the continuity of certain challenges stepfamilies face today, reminiscent of those from the 18th century. They touch on topics like the legal rights of step-parents, the economic considerations of remarriage, and even the portrayal of stepparents in popular culture. Join us as we navigate this intriguing historical landscape, uncovering insights that resonate with modern stepfamilies and fostering a greater understanding of how these blended households have always been a fundamental part of the American family fabric. In this episode, we discuss: Historical context of stepfamilies Stepparents' challenges and shifts in family dynamics Societal perceptions and misconceptions Modern Community and family structures Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: “I thought I had tried everything. Books, blogs, even therapy, but nothing helped me feel less like an outsider in my own home. Then I found Nacho Kids Academy. Within weeks, the stress in our home dropped dramatically. I finally understood that I didn’t have to fix everything or be the 'bonus mom of the year.' I learned how to support my partner without losing myself. The daily tension? Gone. The constant guilt? Lifted. The relationship with my stepkids isn’t perfect, but for the first time, it’s not painful. Nacho Kids gave me my peace and my power back.”- Sarah M., Stepmom of 3 and Proud Nacho’er
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306: Easter In Stepfamilies
04/11/2025
306: Easter In Stepfamilies
Welcome to this episode of the NK Podcast, where hosts Lori and David dive into the intricacies of celebrating Easter within stepfamilies. The holiday season can be a delightful time, but it also brings unique challenges when navigating custody schedules and traditions in blended families. In this episode, Lori and David share personal anecdotes and practical advice on how to manage these situations, offering creative solutions for celebrating Easter, even if it's not on the traditional date. They'll also discuss the importance of setting and respecting court-ordered holiday arrangements and the concept of life not always being 'fair' – a valuable lesson for kids in stepfamilies. Whether it's creating new family traditions or creatively handling gift-giving, Lori and David provide insightful tips for a harmonious holiday experience. So, grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and let's explore how to navigate Easter in a stepfamily with grace and flexibility. In this episode, we discuss: Challenges During Easter in Step Families Fairness in Gift Giving Traditions and Adaptations Handling Emotional Challenges Life Lessons Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: “Been There Done That” "I thought I had this stepparenting thing down. My first blend was a breeze—we all got along, and everything just seemed to fall into place. So when I got into my current relationship, I assumed it would be the same. I was so wrong. From loyalty binds to feeling like an outsider in my own home, I was drowning in stress and resentment. That’s when I found Nacho Kids. Learning how to step back, redefine my role, and let go of what I can’t control has been life-changing. Nacho Parenting helped me breathe again. I’m no longer walking on eggshells or trying to fix everything. I finally feel peace in my home—and in my heart." ~ C.B. from NY
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305: The Good Divorce Coach ~ Karen McNenny
04/04/2025
305: The Good Divorce Coach ~ Karen McNenny
Welcome to another enlightening episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today's episode, hosts Lori and David welcome the insightful Karen McNenny, also known as the Good Divorce Coach. Karen joins us to challenge the traditional narrative of divorce as a conflict-ridden process. She introduces the concept of a 'good divorce,' presenting it as a tool, rather than a weapon, to transform family dynamics positively. Karen shares her personal journey and the genesis of her coaching business, emphasizing the importance of reshaping the divorce experience to focus on protecting future relationships, especially for those who co-parent. Tune in as we explore how thoughtful, intentional divorce processes can lead to a more harmonious family structure, even across two homes. Get ready to shift your perspective on divorce and discover how this transformation can ease not only the divorce process but also foster a healthier blended family dynamic. Enjoy the show! In this episode, we discuss: Concept of a Good Divorce Parenting and Communication Post-Divorce Introduction of New Partners Maintaining Healthy Boundaries Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: I Thought Divorce Was the Only Option "I thought my marriage was doomed. My wife and I couldn’t agree on anything when it came to her kids. Every argument ended with one of us saying, ‘Maybe this just isn’t going to work.’ Then we found Nacho Kids. I realized that my role wasn’t to discipline or fix anything - it was to support my wife as she parents her kids. The shift in our home was almost instant. The tension disappeared. The kids were happier, my wife wasn’t stuck in the middle, and I could actually enjoy being in my own home again. If we hadn’t found Nacho Kids, we wouldn’t be together today. It’s that simple.” - Mike R., Virginia, USA
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304: Nacho Parenting: It’s Not About Ignoring Step Kids
03/28/2025
304: Nacho Parenting: It’s Not About Ignoring Step Kids
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into the often misunderstood concept of "nacho parenting." They start by addressing a common question: Does nachoing mean ignoring your stepkids? Lori shares her own journey of using nacho parenting to navigate difficult dynamics with her stepchildren, emphasizing that it's more about choosing not to engage rather than ignoring. Lori and David explain how this approach helped improve their family interactions. With anecdotes and guidance, Lori and David provide a deeper understanding of how nacho parenting can lead to healthier and happier blended families. Join them as they dispel myths and offer strategies to help stepfamilies thrive. In this episode, we discuss: Importance of Not Engaging Emotional Management Flexibility in Nacho Parenting Handling Disrespect from Stepkids You never Nacho safety Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: I Was at My Breaking Point - Nacho Saved My Life "I don’t say this lightly—Nacho Parenting saved my life. I was drowning in anxiety and depression because I felt like a failure as a stepmom. No matter what I did, I was met with rejection, and it ate away at my self-worth. I started having thoughts that scared me. That’s when I found Nacho Kids. It completely changed how I saw my role. I stopped trying to be someone I wasn’t meant to be and learned to set healthy emotional boundaries. For the first time in years, I feel free. I feel like myself again. And because I took care of myself, my marriage and stepfamily relationships have improved naturally. Nacho Kids didn’t just save my marriage—it saved me.” - Jessica K.
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303: Affairs Create Stepfamilies
03/21/2025
303: Affairs Create Stepfamilies
Hey, Nacho Parents! In this episode, we dive into the whirlwind story of a step couple who faced some major challenges blending their families. They've got a history that goes way back, but things got complicated when their relationship rekindled as an affair. Now, they're dealing with the fallout, especially with one of the kids knowing about the affair. The catch? This kid has no idea that her mom actually cheated first, causing a whole lot of tension and misunderstandings. Join us as we break down how this couple is managing to mend relationships, navigate the truths and misconceptions, and work towards a harmonious future together. You won't want to miss this one! In this episode, we discuss: Lies cause damage Disagreements on household rules and enforcement Consequences of affairs on family dynamics Do you set the record straight? Should you tell your kid the truth about your ex - their bio parent? Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: “I Was Ready to Walk Away—Now We’re Stronger Than Ever” "Before I found Nacho Kids, I was on the verge of leaving my marriage. The resentment, the constant fights over parenting, and feeling like an outsider in my own home had worn me down. I thought I had to be a ‘parent’ to my stepkids, but all it did was create conflict and push me further from my husband. Learning to Nacho gave me permission to step back, focus on my marriage, and let go of what wasn’t mine to fix. Now, instead of fighting over stepfamily issues, my husband and I are a team again. This method didn’t just save my marriage—it saved my sanity.” ~ Emily S. - USA
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302: Mother's Day Doesn't Have To Suck For Stepmoms
03/14/2025
302: Mother's Day Doesn't Have To Suck For Stepmoms
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids podcast! In this episode, titled "Mother's Day Doesn't Have To Suck For Stepmoms/Stepfamilies," hosts David and Lori dive into the complex dynamics of navigating Mother's Day as a stepparent. With Mother's Day just around the corner, they tackle the often-sensitive issue of unmet expectations and the potential for hurt feelings. Lori and David offer practical advice for stepparents on setting boundaries and communicating desires with their partners, the importance of self-care, and how to embrace Stepmother's Day. The hosts also explore the pitfalls of comparison and emphasize the significance of creating one's happiness. So, join David and Lori as they bring a mix of heartfelt insights and light-hearted banter, aimed to make this Mother's Day a cherished occasion for everyone involved. In this episode, we discuss: Navigating expectations as a stepmom on Mother's Day Stepmother's Day Focusing on yourself Avoiding comparisons Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: The Stepmom Who Thought 'Nachoing' Meant Ignoring "At first, I thought Nachoing meant just ignoring my stepkids, but Nacho Kids Academy taught me that it’s really about setting boundaries, respecting my role, and creating a healthier family dynamic. Once I stepped back, I was shocked at how much better my marriage and my relationship with my stepkids became. It turns out, they actually like me better when I’m not trying to parent them!" ~ Amanda R.
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301: Stepmom Didn't Want Kids - Audio
03/07/2025
301: Stepmom Didn't Want Kids - Audio
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori Sims welcomes Mae, a stepmom navigating the challenging dynamics of her blended family. Mae lives with her partner, their two-year-old child, and her partner's kids—a 13-year-old girl and a 10-year-old boy. Mae shares the trials she's faced stepping into a maternal role, dealing with stepchildren full-time due to their mother's sporadic involvement. Tune in as she candidly discusses the struggle of balancing her partner’s expectations, managing her stepson's anger issues, and finding harmony through the Nacho Kids method. Whether you're a new stepmom or have been in the role for years, Mae’s story offers relatable insights and genuine conversation about creating a cohesive family. Join us as we dive into these real-life stories, real people, and real help in blending families! In this episode, we discuss: Behavioral Challenges with Stepson Challenges of Disengagement Managing Emotions and Responsibilities Honesty and Family Conversations Future Concerns and Stepson’s Behavior Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: The High-Conflict Ex Situation "My stepkids’ mom made our lives miserable. It felt like everything I did was wrong, and my husband was stuck in the middle. After joining Nacho Kids Academy, I stopped trying to compete with their mom and started focusing on my own peace. The drama doesn’t affect me like it used to, and my husband and I are finally on the same page. This program saved my sanity!" ~ Kara L., KY, USA
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300: 300 Podcasts Later: Our Blended Family Journey
02/28/2025
300: 300 Podcasts Later: Our Blended Family Journey
In this milestone episode of the NK Podcast, we're celebrating our 300th episode! Join hosts Lori and David as they reflect on five and a half years of podcasting, sharing their journey and the valuable lessons they've learned along the way. From the challenges and joys of blending families to the unexpected twists and turns of stepfamily life, Lori and David dive deep into their personal experiences. They share heartwarming stories of growth and transformation, emphasizing the importance of resilience and adaptability in the face of change. Tune in to hear how the Nacho Kids method has helped them navigate the complexities of stepfamily life and how their podcasting journey has not only impacted their lives but also touched the hearts of listeners around the world. This special episode is a testament to the power of perseverance, connection, and the shared goal of creating better blended family experiences. In this episode, we discuss: Reflection on Consistency and Challenges Adult Children Moving Back In Family Gatherings and Dynamics Distance in Relationships Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: The Stepparent with Adult Bio Kids & Younger Stepkids I raised my kids to adulthood, so I thought I knew what I was doing when I married my husband, who still had young kids. I quickly realized step-parenting is NOTHING like regular parenting! Nacho Kids Academy gave me the tools to step back, respect my husband’s role as their dad, and focus on supporting rather than controlling. Now, instead of stress and resentment, our home feels more like a partnership! - Debbie W.
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299: Stepmom Takes Care Of Bio Mom
02/21/2025
299: Stepmom Takes Care Of Bio Mom
In this heartfelt and inspiring episode of the NK Podcast, we're joined by stepmom Whitney, who revisits her story after first appearing on the podcast three and a half years ago. Whitney shares an incredible journey that showcases resilience, compassion, and the power of relationships in the midst of adversity. As a stepmom with no biological children and a 17-year-old stepdaughter, Whitney recounts her experience of supporting her stepdaughter's mother through a terminal cancer diagnosis. This candid conversation delves into the complexities of family dynamics, the emotional challenges of navigating a blended family, and the unexpected bond that formed between Whitney and her stepdaughter's mother. Join hosts Lori and David Sims as they explore Whitney's remarkable story of love, strength, and the unexpected paths life can take. Don't miss this episode, which is sure to resonate with anyone who has faced life's challenges with an open heart. In this episode we discuss: Challenges in Stepfamily Dynamics Stepparent Perspective and Family Dynamics Shift The Role of Faith and Support Networks Reflections and Personal Insights Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: The Stepparent with Adult STepkids "I married my husband thinking that since his kids were grown, stepfamily life would be easy. Nope! His adult kids didn’t like me, and I felt like I had no voice in our own home. Nacho Kids Academy showed me how to detach with love and stop trying to ‘fix’ things. Now, I focus on my marriage and let my husband handle his own kids. It’s been life-changing!" - Lisa B.
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298: Three Things Not To Say To A Stepparent
02/14/2025
298: Three Things Not To Say To A Stepparent
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today's episode, Lori and David dive into a critical conversation about the challenges and misconceptions faced by stepparents. They explore three common phrases that should never be uttered to a stepparent. First, the hosts debunk the idea that stepparents knew what they were getting into when joining a blended family, emphasizing the unexpected trials involved. Next, they tackle the unrealistic expectation that stepparents should love their stepchildren like their own, highlighting the unique dynamics and relationships within a family. Finally, Lori and David clarify the misconception that stepparents are "parents too," discussing the complexity of roles within a blended family. Join us as we uncover some hard truths and foster understanding and empathy for stepparents navigating these complex relationships. So, stay tuned for an enlightening episode filled with candid discussions and relatable insights! In this episode, we discuss: General Discussion on Expectations in Life and Relationships Clarification and Healthy Expectations in Stepparent-Child Relationships Understanding Unrealistic Expectations The Complexity of Roles Guarding Against Harmful Assumptions: Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I thought since I had kids of my own and grew up in a stepfamily that I knew how to be a stepdad. Wrong. My wife and I fought constantly about discipline, boundaries, and how we should treat all the kids ‘equally.’ Nacho Kids Academy helped me realize that ‘equal’ isn’t always ‘fair’ and that my role in my stepkids’ lives wasn’t to be their dad. Once I stopped trying to force things, our home became so much calmer. The biggest surprise? My stepkids actually started coming to me on their own! We owe you so much, Lori & David!" - James T.
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297: Couples Communication ~ Raffi Bilek
02/07/2025
297: Couples Communication ~ Raffi Bilek
In today's episode, host Lori welcomes Raffi Bilek, a marriage counselor based in Baltimore and the author of "The Couple's Communication Handbook: The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted." Raffi shares his experiences working with couples and emphasizes the importance of effective communication in relationships. He discusses cultural differences in communication, how childhood influences our communicative skills, and the challenges couples face when navigating conversations about money, expectations, and parenting in stepfamilies. Throughout the conversation, Raffi offers insights into improving dialogue and understanding within relationships, underlining the significance of empathy and active listening as keys to resolving conflicts and building stronger connections. Join us as we dive into these essential topics and learn how to enhance communication in our personal lives. In this episode, we discuss: Communication Skills Expectations and Conflict Empathy and Understanding Emotional Regulation Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: Stepmom and Bio Mom "Blending families is HARD. I didn’t understand why my husband treated my kids differently than his, and I was constantly frustrated that his kids got away with things mine never would. Nacho Kids Academy completely changed my perspective. Instead of comparing, I started focusing on what I could control—my own parenting and my relationship with my husband. The difference has been incredible. My stress level has dropped, and I don’t feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells anymore!" - Rachel M.
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296: 3 Things To NOT Do As A Stepparent
01/31/2025
296: 3 Things To NOT Do As A Stepparent
Join hosts Lori and David as they share three very important tips for the stepparent! Listen as they dive into essential strategies for creating a harmonious stepfamily environment. Lori and David discuss the common pitfalls stepparents might be falling into without even realizing it. They explore three crucial behaviors to avoid if you're looking to reduce stress and build stronger relationships within your blended family. From understanding the implications of negative comments about the stepkids to recognizing the importance of not taking things personally and knowing when to step back from disciplining your stepchildren, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical advice. Tune in to learn how to navigate the complexities of step-parenting and foster a peaceful, loving home. In this episode, we discuss: Tit-for-tat behavior Avoiding negative comments to family members Adulting versus parenting Expectations Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: Childless Stepdad "I thought stepping in as a father figure was what my stepkids needed. Instead, it caused tension between me and my wife, and the kids resented me. Nacho Kids Academy helped me see that I was overstepping. Once I let go of trying to parent, my relationship with my wife improved, and the kids actually warmed up to me over time. Now, we get along naturally without me feeling like an outsider or a disciplinarian. We enjoy being around each other now!" - Mark D. “Proud Nacho Stepdad”
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295: Emotional Resilience in the Stepfamily
01/24/2025
295: Emotional Resilience in the Stepfamily
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294: Emotional Turmoil in the Stepfamily
01/23/2025
294: Emotional Turmoil in the Stepfamily
Welcome to the Nacho Kids Podcast. In this episode, Lori sits down with our guest to delve into the intricate dynamics of blended families. Our guest shares poignant experiences from her life, starting with her father's remarriage and extending to her journey as a stepmother. We explore the early stages of blending families, the delicate process of introducing her two children to her new husband, and the joys and challenges of family traditions. The guest opens up about the emotional turmoil and boundaries set with her stepdaughter and the tension caused by the stepdaughter's biological mother. We'll also hear reflections on parenting after loss, navigating financial entanglements, and the significance of maintaining boundaries for personal growth. Tune in as we unpack the complexities of family, love, and resilience in this intimate discussion about building a cohesive family unit amidst life's ever-changing landscapes. Let's dive right in! In this episode, we discuss: Emotional Turmoil Managing Social Media and Family Privacy Emotional and Logistical Complexities Parental Alienation Nacho Kids testimonial: Transforming Our Family "The Nacho Kids Method completely changed our blended family. By stepping back and letting my partner parent, I found peace and clarity. Our home is calmer, and I’ve built stronger relationships without the constant stress. It truly saved us!" - Sarah T.
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293: Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI)
01/10/2025
293: Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI)
Welcome back to NK Podcast Shared! In today's episode, Lori dives into the intricate world of step-parenting and maintaining a harmonious blended family. Join her as she chats with Jessica, a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate from North Texas, who shares her journey of being a full-time stepmom to a 10-year-old while navigating the complexities of a custody battle and fostering a positive co-parenting dynamic. Jessica emphasizes the power of not taking things personally to reduce stress and negativity and the benefits of using Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI) to build trust and stability within her family. As she discusses the challenges and strategies involved in blending families, Jessica provides invaluable insights into maintaining a neutral role, fostering empathy, and creating lasting family rituals to strengthen bonds. Tune in for practical advice on intentional parenting, self-awareness, and effective communication, all aimed at providing stability and joy in blended family dynamics. And of course, don’t miss the hosts’ light-hearted closing where they remind us, "Life is good when you nacho." Let's get started! In this episode, we discuss: Not Taking Things Personally Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI) Supportive Partner in Stepparenting Self-work and Personal Healing Stepparent Boundaries and Support Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "Joining Nacho Kids Academy was the best decision I’ve made for my stepfamily. I was overwhelmed, frustrated, and feeling like a complete outsider in my own home. I tried everything — and nothing seemed to work. The constant tension with my stepkids and even with my partner was taking a toll on me. But when I found Nacho Kids Academy, everything changed. Lori and David’s guidance helped me understand that I didn’t have to control everything. I learned to step back, take a breath, and let go of things that weren’t my responsibility. The method taught me how to respond instead of react, and I finally started to find peace in my role as a stepparent. I’ve gone from feeling resentful and exhausted to calm, confident, and in control of my emotions. My relationship with my partner has improved drastically, and my home is no longer filled with constant conflict. The support inside the academy has been a lifeline. The resources, Q&A calls, and community have made me feel seen and understood. If you’re a stepparent struggling to find your place, stop searching — Nacho Kids Academy is what you need. It’s not just a method; it’s a life-changer." - Lucy R., Nacho Kids Academy Member
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292: Nacho Parenting In The New Year
01/03/2025
292: Nacho Parenting In The New Year
Welcome to another episode of NK Podcast Shared! In today’s engaging discussion, hosts Lori and David navigate the complexities of family life, from the challenges of gift-giving and planning unforgettable vacations to embodying integrity for their children. They dive into humorous yet heartfelt reflections on their kids' awareness (or lack thereof) around finances while considering gifting experiences over physical items. Lori and David also share personal anecdotes about their grandson, Giddy, and emphasize promoting honesty and respect for parents' wishes. Tune in as they tackle the tricky dynamics of holiday preparation, setting family goals, and balancing work-life dynamics. Plus, get the scoop on upcoming events like the Nacho Kids meet and greet and retreats geared towards stepfamily coaching. With practical advice, light-hearted banter, and motivational insights, this episode promises to deliver strategies for reducing stress and fostering harmonious family relationships. Don’t miss out on this fun and insightful episode—let’s make this year the best one yet for your family! In this episode we discuss: Gift-Giving and Past Expenditures Children's Awareness of Costs Modeling Integrity Family and Business Planning Measuring Improvement and Personal Development
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291: Stepkids Taught Stepmom How To Be A Better Bio Parent
12/27/2024
291: Stepkids Taught Stepmom How To Be A Better Bio Parent
Welcome to another captivating episode of NK Podcast Shared! In Episode 291, we sit down with Eliana, a seasoned stepmother of 11 years, to discuss the intricacies and emotional journey of step-parenting. Initially overwhelmed by cultural adjustments, language barriers, and the challenge of blending into a new family, Eliana shares how she navigated these obstacles with resilience and a heart full of empathy. Our conversation dives deep into the importance of prioritizing the well-being of children, evolving perspectives on family dynamics, and the revolutionary "Nacho Method," which focuses on responding rather than reacting to maintain peace of mind. Lori, our host, explores with Eliana the common pitfalls in traditional upbringing practices, the necessity of self-awareness, and the powerful role of internal ownership of happiness. Eliana candidly reflects on personal growth, the struggles and joys of being a stepparent, and how her relationship with her stepchildren has evolved over time. She also touches on the cultural contrasts she's experienced and how maintaining one's identity while adapting to new environments is crucial, especially in stepfamily dynamics. Join us for an enlightening discussion about the adaptive nature of parenting, self-discovery, and creating new family norms in a blended family. In this episode we discuss: Self-Discovery and Shedding Societal Labels "Nacho" Parenting Concept Step-parenting Challenges Self-Awareness and Internal Focus Importance of Prioritizing Children's Well-Being Nacho Kids Testimonial: "I was always embarrassed by my dislike for my stepkids. Joining the Nacho Kids Academy, helped me realize why I had those feelings, helped me to understand the dynamics of the blend better and helped me have a happy life!! I will forever be grateful to the Nacho Kids method!"
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290: Stepdaughter In-Law Issues
12/20/2024
290: Stepdaughter In-Law Issues
Welcome to another captivating episode of NK Podcast Shared! Today we dive into episode NKP290 with our special guest, Kim Early. Join us as Kim shares her profound journey through the complexities of modern behavior, spiritual growth, and the challenging dynamics of blended families. Kim brings her unique philosophy, advocating for the removal of polarizing concepts like right and wrong, and highlights the importance of personal choices and spiritual reckoning. Kim opens up about overcoming initial animosity towards her stepson's mother, revealing how she sought peace and enlightenment amidst conflict. She discusses shifting negative thinking patterns, the essence of self-love, setting healthy boundaries, and spreading kindness through community work. We delve into the intricacies of family dynamics, from managing holiday schedules to the emotional strains of step-parenting. Kim shares her challenges and triumphs, including her experiences with strained relationships and maintaining positive energy. Don't miss this insightful conversation that promises to leave you inspired and contemplative. Let's jump right in! In this episode, we discuss: Philosophy on Right/Wrong Mindset and Growth Boundaries and Self-Love Handling Social Media Conflicts Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I didn’t realize how much stress I was putting on myself trying to discipline my stepkids. Nachoing showed me that it’s okay to let the biological parent handle the parenting while I focus on being a positive influence. It’s been a huge relief, and I’ve noticed the kids respect me more now." ~ Mark L., Stepfather of 3
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289: Bio Mom Is The Problem, Not The Stepkids
12/13/2024
289: Bio Mom Is The Problem, Not The Stepkids
Welcome back to NK Podcast and we're excited to bring you Episode 289, featuring a deeply honest and emotional conversation with our special guest, West Coast Stepmom. She opens up about the complexities and challenges of navigating a blended family. In this episode, she shares her personal journey, from dealing with communication issues with her husband's ex-wife to the escalating tensions that have affected her marriage and step-parenting role. We dive into stepmom’s reflections on loyalty, boundaries, and the emotional toll of feeling like an outsider in her own home. Lori, our insightful host, guides us through conversations about managing expectations, seeking personal growth, and the societal norms that impact stepfamilies today. Whether you're part of a blended family or interested in the dynamics of modern relationships, this episode promises to deliver heartfelt insights and practical wisdom. Tune in as we explore the balancing act between love, parenting, and maintaining one's sense of self amidst family upheaval. In this episode, we discuss: Boundary Setting Respecting the Ex's Role Step-Parenting Roles Managing Societal Expectations Coping with Accusations Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "The Nacho Kids method saved my sanity! I used to think I had to be a 'supermom' to my stepkids, but it only led to stress and resentment. Nachoing taught me how to step back and focus on being a supportive partner. The change in my household is incredible—we’re finally at peace." ~ Sarah M., Stepmom of 3
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288: Blended Holidays With Claudette Chenevert and Lori Sims
12/06/2024
288: Blended Holidays With Claudette Chenevert and Lori Sims
Welcome to another insightful episode of NK Podcast, where we dive into navigating the complex dynamics of stepfamilies during the holiday season. In this episode, Lori sits down with Claudette Chenover, a seasoned stepmom coach, to discuss the common challenges and emotional hurdles that come with gift-giving and family traditions in blended families. Claudette shares personal anecdotes, including a poignant moment when her sister’s exclusionary gift-giving upset her stepdaughters. They talk about the importance of fairness, managing expectations, and how thoughtful, handmade gifts often create lasting memories. You'll hear practical tips on budgeting, balancing family dynamics, and embracing experiences over material gifts to foster connection and joy. Whether you’re shopping for gifts or planning festive activities, this episode offers invaluable advice to ensure your holiday season is filled with warmth and togetherness without the stress. Tune in as we delve into creating meaningful family experiences and keeping the holiday spirit alive in every member of your blended family. In this episode we discuss: Navigating Holidays as a Stepfamily Stepparent Dynamics and Gift Challenges Establishing Family Traditions in Blended Families Gift Expectations Fairness Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story: “A Fresh Start for Our Blended Family” "We were struggling to blend our families and felt like we were failing as a couple. Nacho Kids Academy gave us practical tools to manage our roles, communicate better, and reduce the stress in our home. Now, we feel like we’re finally thriving as a team." — David and Lauren P., Married 4 years
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287: Holiday Discussions With Laura Petherbridge
11/29/2024
287: Holiday Discussions With Laura Petherbridge
In this heartwarming and humorous episode of NK Podcast Shared, host Lori is joined by the insightful Laura Petherbridge, also known as "The Smart Stepmom." Join them as they navigate the complex dynamics of blended families during the holiday season. Lori humorously reflects on how blended family experiences have contributed to her gray hair and general aging, even joking about needing a plastic surgeon who offers discounts for stepmoms. Together, they delve into the significance of self-care, the value of laughter, and the importance of maintaining realistic expectations to manage stress and disappointment. Whether discussing the intricacies of gift-giving, the emotional impact of holiday music, or the critical need to prioritize real-life connections over social media, Lori and Laura offer practical advice sprinkled with wit and wisdom. They also address the persistent challenges faced by stepfamilies, from navigating holiday schedules to maintaining fairness among children. Tune in and discover why, as Lori puts it, "Life is good. When you nacho." In this episode, we discuss: Self-care and Managing Stress Fairness in Gift-Giving Managing Blended Family Holiday Schedules Handling Emotional Triggers and Nostalgia Holiday Considerations Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “Stepping Back Was the Best Thing I Did” "I thought I needed to parent my stepkids for our family to work, but it only caused fights and stress. Nacho Kids taught me that stepping back doesn’t mean not caring—it means creating healthier relationships. Now, I focus on being a supportive partner, and my relationship with my stepkids has actually improved!" — Michelle H., Stepmom of 2
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286: Stepmom In Second Blend Part 2
11/22/2024
286: Stepmom In Second Blend Part 2
Welcome to episode 286 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, where Lori dives deep into the unique challenges and triumphs of blended families. In today's episode, we welcome back Becky for her second appearance, where she shares her emotional journey navigating life as a stepmother. From handling misunderstandings and intense discussions on their Facebook page to setting household boundaries and dealing with ex-spouse conflicts, Becky opens up about the complexities of her situation. We'll also explore Becky's strategies for promoting responsibility in her neurodiverse stepchildren and finding harmony within her blended family. Grab your headphones and join us as we uncover the real-life experiences, insights, and heartwarming moments that make the Nacho Kids approach a lifeline for so many. And, as always, remember—life is good when you embrace the Nacho way. In this episode, we discuss: Respectful Parallel Parenting Challenges of Blended Family Dynamics Complexities of Joint Family Events Managing Conflicts and Boundaries with the ex The Concept of Control and Stepparent Dynamics Nacho Testimonial: “A Game-Changer for Our Family” "I was constantly caught in the middle between my kids and my wife, which was exhausting for all of us. The Nacho Parenting Method gave me the tools to take the lead as a parent and let my wife step back. It’s made our home so much more peaceful, and I’ve become closer to my kids in the process." — Tom L., Father of 2
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285: Stepmom's Second Blend
11/15/2024
285: Stepmom's Second Blend
Welcome to the NK Podcast Shared! In episode 285, Lori sits down with Becky, a stepmom navigating the intricacies of her second blended family. Lori and Becky delve into the challenges and emotional landscape of co-parenting with a partner's ex-spouse, particularly when negative influences and controlling behaviors emerge. They explore meaningful strategies for establishing healthy boundaries, maintaining positive interactions with stepchildren, and prioritizing the well-being of the family unit amidst turmoil. Listen in as Becky candidly shares her journey through past relationships marked by infidelity and deceit, the adjustments faced blending families, and her commitment to staying supportive yet respectfully detached. Discover how Becky navigates her roles while ensuring that her contributions bolster the child's environment positively. This episode offers invaluable insights for anyone dealing with complex family dynamics, emphasizing the significance of boundaries, communication, and prioritizing relationship health. Stay tuned to hear more about Becky’s path to rediscovering her sense of self, overcoming obstacles, and maintaining stability in a blended family setting. Plus, don’t miss the details on our upcoming meet and greet in Scottsdale, Arizona, on December 7th. Join us for an enlightening conversation you won’t want to miss! In this episode we discuss: Reluctance to marry Past relationships and trust issues Communication and Boundaries When bio mom bashes stepmom to the kids Nacho Kids Testimonial: “A Must for Every Stepparent” "I didn’t know how to set boundaries with my stepkids or how to communicate effectively with my partner about it. Nacho Kids Academy taught me how to do both in ways that have improved our household dynamics. I recommend this to every stepparent who is struggling to find their place without overstepping!" — Melanie G., Academy member for 6 months
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284: Financial Planning in the Blend ~ Brian Peterson
11/08/2024
284: Financial Planning in the Blend ~ Brian Peterson
Welcome to NK Podcast Shared, Episode 284! In today's episode, host Lori sits down with guest Brian Peterson to dive deep into the financial intricacies of blended families. Brian, with over 16 years of experience in financial planning and a personal background in blended family dynamics, offers invaluable insights into managing finances. They discuss the advantages of placing land in trusts, the importance of financial transparency, and strategies to handle the complex finances of blended families. Lori shares personal anecdotes about maintaining financial independence and the emotional challenges that accompany it, while Brian shares his journey from military service to financial planning, and the unique financial solutions his firm offers to blended families. Don't miss out on their candid conversation about maintaining family bonds, balancing financial responsibilities, and navigating the emotional landscapes of loss and new beginnings. Plus, Lori has a special invitation for listeners in Scottsdale, Arizona—you won't want to miss it. So, tune in and learn how to make "Life good when you nacho"! In this episode, we discuss: Blended Families and Finances Financial Arrangements in Relationships Financial Independence Financial Communication Financial and Family Planning Tools Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “My sister-in-law told me about Nacho at a family reunion. She saw me trying to help the stepkids and the attitudes they gave me, and then the resulting stress it caused me. She simply said, “I heard about this Nacho thing for stepparents. Check it out. It might help you.” I am so thankful I did! And I decided to join the Academy because what better way to learn about it. I am still in shock of how this changed our family! Everyone is much more at peace and I’m finally happy after seven years of stepfamily misery!” A.Q.
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283: Our Family Wizard ~ Kevin Dorsey
11/01/2024
283: Our Family Wizard ~ Kevin Dorsey
Welcome back to NK Podcast Shared! In today's episode, host Lori delves into a vital discussion on the increasing role of mediation and technology in reducing the stress of parental disputes during divorce and separation. Joined by our expert guest, they explore the importance of keeping children's best interests at heart while navigating the complexities of family law. We'll highlight the growing trend of parents opting for out-of-court conflict resolution, the challenges faced by those representing themselves due to financial constraints, and the critical need for judges to acknowledge personal aspects of each case beyond mere attorney interactions. Much of our conversation focuses on "Our Family Wizard," an app designed to streamline co-parenting communication. We'll examine its plethora of features, from unalterable messaging to expense management and audio/video calls, all aimed at reducing misunderstandings and fostering cooperative co-parenting. Lori reflects on her personal experience, sharing anecdotes about how improvements in communication tools could have eased her past co-parenting struggles. Additionally, we touch on legal complexities, the importance of clear court orders, and practical communication techniques like the BIFF method to handle high-conflict situations effectively. Whether you're a parent going through a separation or interested in family law, this episode provides valuable insights and practical tips to navigate these challenging waters. Tune in to discover how innovation and empathy can transform co-parenting and reduce litigation stress. In this episode, we discuss: "Our Family Wizard" App Communication in Co-Parenting Legal Documentation and Order Writing Technology in Legal Agreements Nacho Success Story: “The Support I Didn’t Know I Needed” "I wasn’t sure if Nacho Kids Academy was for me, but it ended up being exactly what I needed. The guided content gave me practical steps to take, and the group calls offered a place to share and get advice. It’s made me a better husband and father, and I feel more confident in my role as a stepdad." — Jason H
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282: Financial Planning For Blended Families ~ Mikel Van Cleve
10/25/2024
282: Financial Planning For Blended Families ~ Mikel Van Cleve
Welcome to Episode 282 of NK Podcast! In this insightful episode, hosts David and Lori are joined by returning guest Mikel Van Cleve, a certified financial planner with a focus on blended family dynamics. Mikel was previously on episode 273 where he discussed his blended family experience. Today, we delve deep into the intricacies of estate planning, financial transparency, and the unique challenges faced by blended families. Mikel shares his expert advice on finding qualified estate attorneys and financial planners who truly understand the complexities involved. We'll explore topics such as the importance of having clear estate documents, preventing unintentional disinheritance, the emotional sensitivities in blended families, and practical tips for managing joint and separate finances. Mikel also touches on his ongoing research into financial infidelity and wealth transfer within blended families, offering listeners credible resources for further guidance. Lastly, join Lori and David as they announce their upcoming visit to Scottsdale, Arizona, and invite listeners to connect with them. With humor and valuable insights, this episode aims to equip you with the knowledge to navigate the financial and emotional terrain of blended families. Don't miss out! In this episode, we discuss: Importance of using a financial planner with blended family experience Discussions to have with your partner sooner rather than later What’s fair/equal Communication is key Updating estate documents Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “Helped Me Understand My Role as a Stepfather” "Being a stepfather is tough, especially when you're trying to figure out where you fit in. Nacho Kids Academy helped me understand my role and gave me the tools to communicate better with my wife and her kids. It’s been a huge help in reducing the stress in our family and strengthening my relationship with my wife." — David K., Stepfather of 2
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281: The Birth of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting
10/18/2024
281: The Birth of Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting
Welcome to episode 281 of the NK Podcast Shared! In today's episode, hosts David and Lori take us on an introspective journey as they reflect on their complex and often tumultuous path of blending their family. From personal stories about negotiating relationships with stepchildren, coping with emotional and physical health crises, and the innovative concept of "Nachoing," they reveal the raw, real side of navigating blended family dynamics. They recount their own experiences, from the optimism at the start of their marriage to the breaking points that almost led them to divorce, and how they found hope and healing through intentional disengagement and personal growth. In this episode we discuss: How Nacho Kids came about Stepfamily struggles Finding hope in darkness Self-development Nacho Parenting Success Story: "I am so thankful I found this before we got married. It helped us so much with addressing issues that we never would have thought of. It helped us identify our expectations of each other and expectations of our roles in the blend. We are eternally grateful for Nacho Parenting and the Nacho Kids Academy! " ~ S.D.
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280: Ours Kid Turned Stepmom
10/11/2024
280: Ours Kid Turned Stepmom
Welcome back to the NK Podcast Shared! In today's episode, Lori is joined by returning guest Keri to dive deep into the complexities of modern family dynamics, focusing on blended families. Lori starts by sharing her feelings about having a different last name from her son, Jackson, and the emotional weight it carries. Keri opens up about her joy in changing her name after marriage for family unity, and they explore the evolving perspectives on last names and identity. The conversation also tackles the challenging dynamics that come with being a step-parent, highlighting Keri's experiences and insights. Together, they discuss the emotional rollercoasters, the importance of communication, and the delicate balance of fairness between biological children and stepchildren. Keri reflects on her own childhood with separated parents, revealing how her upbringing shaped her current parenting style. In this episode, we discuss: Being an ours kid When parents reconcile Challenges of a split family Nacho Parenting Success Story: "My sister told me about Nacho Kids when I told her how I hated my stepfamily life. She actually paid for me to join the Academy for a year. I am so thankful she did this. I am finally happy in my blend and know how to navigate the challenges we face, thanks to Nacho!!" ~ E.W.
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