The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Stepfamilies and blended families are very challenging. With a failure rate of over 70%, it's clear that blended families need help. Nacho Kids founders and blended family coaches, Lori and David Sims, are here to help blended families save their sanity and relationships. You'll hear the hosts and guests discuss the struggles and successes of blended family life and learn how the Nacho Kids Method is changing lives and saving relationships around the world.
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316: Coping With Codependent Behavior From Your Partner’s Ex
06/20/2025
316: Coping With Codependent Behavior From Your Partner’s Ex
Are you struggling with codependent behaviors between your partner and their ex, especially when it affects your blended family? In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David tackle a listener’s question about how to handle situations where her partner's ex relies on him for trivial tasks related to the kids. Discover practical tips on communicating concerns with your partner using the proven “FBI statement” method, which focuses on sharing feelings, naming behaviors, and clarifying the impact on your relationship. Lori and David also explore the difference between insecurity and legitimate boundaries, offering actionable solutions for common co-parenting frustrations. Don’t miss their insights on navigating jealousy, setting healthy boundaries, and how resources like the Nacho Kids Academy and one-on-one coaching can transform your blended family experience. #BlendedFamily #CoParenting #NachoKids
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315: Macaroni And Cheese, Cats, and Teenage Stepkids
06/13/2025
315: Macaroni And Cheese, Cats, and Teenage Stepkids
Welcome to another episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! Today, Lori and David are joined by returning guests Crystal and Mike, who open up about blending their family over the past nine years. With two teens of totally opposite temperaments, Crystal and Mike share their experiences juggling an ambitious daughter and an unmotivated son, while trying to balance structure, independence, and support. They discuss the evolution of “nachoing” as stepparents, how they manage the messier parts of teenage life, and the ongoing challenges of co-parenting across two very different households. Crystal and Mike’s story is funny, real, and packed with lessons for any blended family. If you’re navigating the ups and downs of raising stepkids, especially during the teen years, this episode delivers wisdom, laughs, and reassurance that you’re not alone. Let’s jump in! In this episode, we discuss: Parenting Challenges with Teenagers Nacho Parenting Experience Household Rules and Responsibilities Step-Parent and Stepchild Relationships Takeaway: Blending a family isn’t a one-time challenge; it’s an ongoing journey that requires flexibility, patience, and a good sense of humor as kids grow and life changes. Resources Mentioned: Nacho Parenting Testimonial: “I used to walk on eggshells. Now I walk in peace. Thanks Nacho Kids!!” ~ A.N., Charlotte, NC, USA and be reminded that life is good when you Nacho!
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314: Fairness And Conflict in the Blended Family
06/06/2025
314: Fairness And Conflict in the Blended Family
Explore the complexities of blending families, including navigating different parenting styles, sibling rivalry vs. bullying, and the challenge of being fair with both biological and stepchildren. Lori & David share practical advice on empowering kids to handle conflicts, the realities of “fairness” in stepfamily life, and why adult behavior matters just as much as the kids’. Tune in for relatable stories, honest reflections, and tools to help your own blend thrive! In this episode, we discuss: Biases and Parental Perception "Tit for Tat" Dynamics and Parental Stalemates Exploring Resentment & Underlying Issues The Reality of Fairness in Blended Families Takeaway: Being 100% "fair" between biological and stepchildren is extremely difficult, if not impossible, given the natural biases and different relationships. Resources Mentioned Nacho Parenting Testimonial: “I now understand what Lori means when she says she Nachos Walmart! I’m Nachoing so much!! Life is Great!l.” ~ R.K., MI
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313: Daryl Potter ~ Something More: Living Well In A Broken World
05/30/2025
313: Daryl Potter ~ Something More: Living Well In A Broken World
On this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori welcomes Daryl Potter, a Canadian banker and published author, for a conversation that takes us far beyond the typical stepfamily story. Daryl isn’t a member of a blended family himself, but his experience raising a child with two extremely rare medical conditions has given him a unique perspective on navigating “irregular” family dynamics and finding beauty in unexpected places. Daryl opens up about his 28-year marriage, the cultural mosaic of his household, and the challenges and profound blessings of caring for his daughter, who is the only person in the world with her combination of diagnoses. He shares how his family has had to rewrite the script on everything from holidays to family vacations, and how his son has learned life skills and empathy far beyond his years. Throughout the episode, Daryl and Lori delve into themes of grief, acceptance, reframing success, and the importance of not comparing pain, reminding us that everyone’s journey holds its own weight, no matter how “broken” it may appear from the outside. Daryl’s story is a powerful reminder that, whether you’re in a stepfamily or not, every family must find its own version of normal and discover joy, purpose, and connection along the way. In this episode, we discuss: Coping with and Managing a Severely Disabled Child Grief and Adapting to a "broken" or Non-traditional Family Impact on Siblings: The "Leftover" Dynamic Finding Meaning and Perspective in Suffering and Difference Key Advice for Parents Facing Disability or Blended Family Challenges Nacho Parenting Success Stories: “The biggest surprise? The kids are actually happier now. I stepped back, let go of the pressure, and our entire home changed for the better.” ~ S.C., California, USA
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312: Sacrifices In Stepfamilies
05/23/2025
312: Sacrifices In Stepfamilies
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today’s episode, Lori and David dive deep into the realities of sacrifice within stepfamilies. Lori shares a heartfelt personal story about giving up a long-awaited lunch with a friend to help her stepson, Ethan, navigate buying a car, a perfect example of the countless everyday choices stepfamilies make for each other. Together, Lori and David discuss how sacrifice isn’t just about doing things for your own kids, but often includes stepkids and even partners. They challenge the misconception that “nachoing” means not caring or refusing to help, and explain how setting boundaries can actually strengthen relationships and protect your mental health. The hosts also touch on stepfamily celebrations, like Stepmother’s Day, the importance of not keeping score, and why caring for your own well-being is essential. Join Lori and David as they get real about being kind, both to others and to yourself, and find out why sometimes, the healthiest choice is to Nacho. In this episode, we discuss: Reflections on Sacrifice In Stepfamilies Nacho Parenting and Relationship Nuances The Importance (and Limits)of Sacrifice Emotional Realtities and Acceptance Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: "Having my stepkids full-time was overwhelming. I felt like I had to step up and fill shoes that weren’t mine, and it nearly broke me. Nachoing showed me that I can support their mom without trying to be their dad. Now there’s less stress, more peace, and the start of real trust growing between us." ~ Todd, WI
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311: Blend Don't Break - Chad M. Brignac
05/16/2025
311: Blend Don't Break - Chad M. Brignac
On today’s episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with Chad Bignac, transformationist, consultant, author, and coauthor of the new book “Blend, Don’t Break.” Drawing from over 22 years of blended family experience, Chad opens up about the challenges he and his wife faced merging their families after personal tragedies, including the loss of his first wife and his current wife’s ex-husband. Chad shares candidly about the painful missteps and valuable lessons learned along their journey, from clashing parenting styles and personal assumptions to the importance of unity, compassion, and self-growth. He details the turning point in his family’s story, catalyzed by his wife’s severe health crisis, and how choosing to respond rather than react helped heal deep family rifts. Through heartfelt stories and practical wisdom, Chad emphasizes the power of compassion, influence over authority, and the need to unpack old emotional baggage before starting anew. Whether you’re in a blended family or looking for guidance on overcoming personal and family struggles, this episode offers honest insights and hope for healing and connection. In this episode, we discuss: - Early Challenges in Blending - Authority vs. Influence in Parenting - Becoming a “Student of Your Children” - Creating Environments for Healing in Blended Families - Advice for Prospective Stepfamilies Nacho Kids Success Story: I thought stepping up meant stepping all the way in, but it was destroying me. As a stepdad, I believed it was my job to take the lead and fix everything. I disciplined, managed homework, scheduled appointments… and got nothing but pushback. My wife and I were constantly arguing, and I felt like an outsider in my own home. Then we found Nacho Kids. Learning to Nacho helped me stop parenting by proxy and start supporting my wife as her partner, not as a replacement dad. The stress lifted, and surprisingly, my stepkids started warming up to me once I stepped out of the power struggle. Nacho Kids didn’t just change our home, it gave me my peace back. ~Mark T., Stepdad of 2
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310: Disrespect in Stepfamilies
05/09/2025
310: Disrespect in Stepfamilies
Welcome back to another episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today’s show, Lori and David dive into a challenge faced by many blended families: What happens when one partner feels that their stepchild is being disrespectful, and the biological parent doesn’t step in? Kicking things off with a listener's heartfelt question, Lori and David unpack the complexities of stepkids shouting or insulting their stepparent and stepsibling, as well as the tension that arises when boundaries and respect are on the line. Throughout the episode, they discuss practical strategies for handling disrespect without overstepping boundaries, the importance of focusing on your own responses, and how to talk to your partner about these challenging issues without stirring up more conflict. The hosts also highlight why sibling (and step-sibling) rivalry can sometimes be just as much about building bonds as it is about butting heads, and why letting kids work out their differences can lead to healthier relationships in the long run. Whether you're a parent, stepparent, or somewhere in between, today's episode offers real-life insights and actionable advice on navigating respect and boundaries in a blended family. Grab your headphones and get ready to "nacho" your way to a happier home! In this episode, we discuss: Nacho Parenting Philosophy in Conflict Scenarios Responding to Disrespect from Stepchildren Perceptions of Respect and Boundaries Stepparent vs. Biological Parent Discipline Dynamics Navigating Sibling and Stepsibling Relationships Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: "Nacho Kids Academy saved my sanity and my marriage. It took a little while because my husband wasn’t happy with me Nachoing. He didn’t understand it. But once he saw the positive changes from my Nachoing, he couldn’t deny that Nachoing was changing things for the better.” ~ Ellison - Happy stepmom in TX
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309: Blending With Autism
05/02/2025
309: Blending With Autism
On today’s episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with "Bookworm Stepmom," for a heartfelt and engaging conversation about navigating the highs and lows of blended family life. Stepmom opens up about her journey from single and childless to stepmom of two girls and mom to two more young children, one of whom is autistic. They dig into the realities of co-parenting with an ex, maintaining balance in a blended household, and how stepmom’s personal experiences as a stepchild shape her compassionate approach to stepmotherhood. From honest discussions about the challenges of special needs parenting and managing finances for the future, to candid stories about family dynamics, Bookworm Stepmom shares wisdom, humor, and practical tips for anyone in a blended family. Whether you’re a stepparent, bio parent, or just love an honest family story, this episode is packed with lessons and laughs you won’t want to miss! In this episode, we discuss: Expanding the family with "ours" kids Dealing with high-conflict and jealousy Navigating divorce, affairs, and co-parenting Parenting Special Needs ("Ours") Child Financial planning and inheritance in Blended Families Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: I Didn't Need to Leave - I Just Needed to Nacho I was emotionally exhausted, constantly fighting invisible battles in my own home. My stepkids ignored me, my partner seemed stuck in the middle, and every day felt like I was losing a piece of myself. I thought the only way to find peace was to leave. Then I found the Nacho Kids Academy. At first, I was skeptical - how could not parenting actually help? But the step-by-step guidance, real-life examples, and support inside the Academy opened my eyes. I learned how to let go of the responsibilities that were never mine to begin with. I stopped trying to fix things I didn’t break. And I finally started healing. The results? Less tension. More laughter. A stronger marriage. And oddly enough, a better connection with my stepkids now that I’ve stepped back. Nachoing didn’t mean giving up. It meant choosing peace—and I’ll never look back. If you're struggling, this isn't just a course. It's a lifeline." ~ Jessica T. - A now happy stepmom! Thanks Nacho!
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308: Graduations And Stepfamilies
04/25/2025
308: Graduations And Stepfamilies
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In this heartfelt and relatable episode, hosts David and Lori dive into the annual struggle of graduation ticket allocations. With only a handful of coveted seats for high school and college ceremonies, blended and extended families are often left negotiating who gets a spot in the audience—and who doesn’t. Through personal stories and a bit of humor, David and Lori explore the emotional minefield that limited tickets can create for parents, step-parents, grandparents, and, most importantly, the graduates themselves. They emphasize the importance of keeping the celebration focused on the students and share creative ideas for making everyone feel included, even if they can’t physically be at the ceremony. Whether it’s planning an after-party or tuning in to a livestream, they remind listeners that graduation is about honoring the kids without piling on extra stress. Join them as they navigate one of the tricky realities of modern family life. In this episode, we discuss: Graduation Ticket Challenges Emotional Impact on Graduates and Families Solutions When Tickets are Limited Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: "Before finding Nacho Kids Academy, I was on the verge of leaving my marriage. I loved my husband, but the constant tension with his kids and the drama with the ex was tearing me apart. I felt like I was walking on eggshells in my own home, trying to parent kids who didn’t want me there. Joining Nacho Kids Academy was a game-changer. I learned how to step back without stepping away, how to Nacho the things that weren’t my responsibility and focus on my relationship with my husband and myself. The coaching calls, the community, the step-by-step layers, it all gave me tools I didn’t even know I needed. Now, my home feels peaceful again. I can show up as a loving partner without feeling like I’m constantly battling for space or respect. And the best part? My relationship with my stepkids has actually improved because I’m no longer forcing something that wasn’t working. If you’re a stepparent feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or ready to give up, please, do yourself a favor and join Nacho Kids Academy. It saved my marriage and my sanity." - Sarah M., Stepmom of 2
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307: Lisa Wilson ~ A History of Stepfamilies in Early America
04/18/2025
307: Lisa Wilson ~ A History of Stepfamilies in Early America
In this enlightening episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, we explore the fascinating world of stepfamilies in American history with our special guest, Lisa Wilson, the esteemed author of "A History of Stepfamilies in Early America." Lisa shares her journey of uncovering the untold stories and patterns of stepfamilies, reflecting on her personal experiences as a member of such a family. Delving into historical dynamics, Lisa discusses how the perception and roles within stepfamilies have evolved over centuries, from the challenges of integrating into what was once an emotionally-focused family model to combating age-old prejudices against stepmothers. Lori and David, our hosts, invite listeners to a thoughtful conversation about the societal shifts that have affected family structures, highlighting the continuity of certain challenges stepfamilies face today, reminiscent of those from the 18th century. They touch on topics like the legal rights of step-parents, the economic considerations of remarriage, and even the portrayal of stepparents in popular culture. Join us as we navigate this intriguing historical landscape, uncovering insights that resonate with modern stepfamilies and fostering a greater understanding of how these blended households have always been a fundamental part of the American family fabric. In this episode, we discuss: Historical context of stepfamilies Stepparents' challenges and shifts in family dynamics Societal perceptions and misconceptions Modern Community and family structures Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: “I thought I had tried everything. Books, blogs, even therapy, but nothing helped me feel less like an outsider in my own home. Then I found Nacho Kids Academy. Within weeks, the stress in our home dropped dramatically. I finally understood that I didn’t have to fix everything or be the 'bonus mom of the year.' I learned how to support my partner without losing myself. The daily tension? Gone. The constant guilt? Lifted. The relationship with my stepkids isn’t perfect, but for the first time, it’s not painful. Nacho Kids gave me my peace and my power back.”- Sarah M., Stepmom of 3 and Proud Nacho’er
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306: Easter In Stepfamilies
04/11/2025
306: Easter In Stepfamilies
Welcome to this episode of the NK Podcast, where hosts Lori and David dive into the intricacies of celebrating Easter within stepfamilies. The holiday season can be a delightful time, but it also brings unique challenges when navigating custody schedules and traditions in blended families. In this episode, Lori and David share personal anecdotes and practical advice on how to manage these situations, offering creative solutions for celebrating Easter, even if it's not on the traditional date. They'll also discuss the importance of setting and respecting court-ordered holiday arrangements and the concept of life not always being 'fair' – a valuable lesson for kids in stepfamilies. Whether it's creating new family traditions or creatively handling gift-giving, Lori and David provide insightful tips for a harmonious holiday experience. So, grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and let's explore how to navigate Easter in a stepfamily with grace and flexibility. In this episode, we discuss: Challenges During Easter in Step Families Fairness in Gift Giving Traditions and Adaptations Handling Emotional Challenges Life Lessons Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: “Been There Done That” "I thought I had this stepparenting thing down. My first blend was a breeze—we all got along, and everything just seemed to fall into place. So when I got into my current relationship, I assumed it would be the same. I was so wrong. From loyalty binds to feeling like an outsider in my own home, I was drowning in stress and resentment. That’s when I found Nacho Kids. Learning how to step back, redefine my role, and let go of what I can’t control has been life-changing. Nacho Parenting helped me breathe again. I’m no longer walking on eggshells or trying to fix everything. I finally feel peace in my home—and in my heart." ~ C.B. from NY
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305: The Good Divorce Coach ~ Karen McNenny
04/04/2025
305: The Good Divorce Coach ~ Karen McNenny
Welcome to another enlightening episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today's episode, hosts Lori and David welcome the insightful Karen McNenny, also known as the Good Divorce Coach. Karen joins us to challenge the traditional narrative of divorce as a conflict-ridden process. She introduces the concept of a 'good divorce,' presenting it as a tool, rather than a weapon, to transform family dynamics positively. Karen shares her personal journey and the genesis of her coaching business, emphasizing the importance of reshaping the divorce experience to focus on protecting future relationships, especially for those who co-parent. Tune in as we explore how thoughtful, intentional divorce processes can lead to a more harmonious family structure, even across two homes. Get ready to shift your perspective on divorce and discover how this transformation can ease not only the divorce process but also foster a healthier blended family dynamic. Enjoy the show! In this episode, we discuss: Concept of a Good Divorce Parenting and Communication Post-Divorce Introduction of New Partners Maintaining Healthy Boundaries Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: I Thought Divorce Was the Only Option "I thought my marriage was doomed. My wife and I couldn’t agree on anything when it came to her kids. Every argument ended with one of us saying, ‘Maybe this just isn’t going to work.’ Then we found Nacho Kids. I realized that my role wasn’t to discipline or fix anything - it was to support my wife as she parents her kids. The shift in our home was almost instant. The tension disappeared. The kids were happier, my wife wasn’t stuck in the middle, and I could actually enjoy being in my own home again. If we hadn’t found Nacho Kids, we wouldn’t be together today. It’s that simple.” - Mike R., Virginia, USA
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304: Nacho Parenting: It’s Not About Ignoring Step Kids
03/28/2025
304: Nacho Parenting: It’s Not About Ignoring Step Kids
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into the often misunderstood concept of "nacho parenting." They start by addressing a common question: Does nachoing mean ignoring your stepkids? Lori shares her own journey of using nacho parenting to navigate difficult dynamics with her stepchildren, emphasizing that it's more about choosing not to engage rather than ignoring. Lori and David explain how this approach helped improve their family interactions. With anecdotes and guidance, Lori and David provide a deeper understanding of how nacho parenting can lead to healthier and happier blended families. Join them as they dispel myths and offer strategies to help stepfamilies thrive. In this episode, we discuss: Importance of Not Engaging Emotional Management Flexibility in Nacho Parenting Handling Disrespect from Stepkids You never Nacho safety Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: I Was at My Breaking Point - Nacho Saved My Life "I don’t say this lightly—Nacho Parenting saved my life. I was drowning in anxiety and depression because I felt like a failure as a stepmom. No matter what I did, I was met with rejection, and it ate away at my self-worth. I started having thoughts that scared me. That’s when I found Nacho Kids. It completely changed how I saw my role. I stopped trying to be someone I wasn’t meant to be and learned to set healthy emotional boundaries. For the first time in years, I feel free. I feel like myself again. And because I took care of myself, my marriage and stepfamily relationships have improved naturally. Nacho Kids didn’t just save my marriage—it saved me.” - Jessica K.
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303: Affairs Create Stepfamilies
03/21/2025
303: Affairs Create Stepfamilies
Hey, Nacho Parents! In this episode, we dive into the whirlwind story of a step couple who faced some major challenges blending their families. They've got a history that goes way back, but things got complicated when their relationship rekindled as an affair. Now, they're dealing with the fallout, especially with one of the kids knowing about the affair. The catch? This kid has no idea that her mom actually cheated first, causing a whole lot of tension and misunderstandings. Join us as we break down how this couple is managing to mend relationships, navigate the truths and misconceptions, and work towards a harmonious future together. You won't want to miss this one! In this episode, we discuss: Lies cause damage Disagreements on household rules and enforcement Consequences of affairs on family dynamics Do you set the record straight? Should you tell your kid the truth about your ex - their bio parent? Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: “I Was Ready to Walk Away—Now We’re Stronger Than Ever” "Before I found Nacho Kids, I was on the verge of leaving my marriage. The resentment, the constant fights over parenting, and feeling like an outsider in my own home had worn me down. I thought I had to be a ‘parent’ to my stepkids, but all it did was create conflict and push me further from my husband. Learning to Nacho gave me permission to step back, focus on my marriage, and let go of what wasn’t mine to fix. Now, instead of fighting over stepfamily issues, my husband and I are a team again. This method didn’t just save my marriage—it saved my sanity.” ~ Emily S. - USA
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302: Mother's Day Doesn't Have To Suck For Stepmoms
03/14/2025
302: Mother's Day Doesn't Have To Suck For Stepmoms
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids podcast! In this episode, titled "Mother's Day Doesn't Have To Suck For Stepmoms/Stepfamilies," hosts David and Lori dive into the complex dynamics of navigating Mother's Day as a stepparent. With Mother's Day just around the corner, they tackle the often-sensitive issue of unmet expectations and the potential for hurt feelings. Lori and David offer practical advice for stepparents on setting boundaries and communicating desires with their partners, the importance of self-care, and how to embrace Stepmother's Day. The hosts also explore the pitfalls of comparison and emphasize the significance of creating one's happiness. So, join David and Lori as they bring a mix of heartfelt insights and light-hearted banter, aimed to make this Mother's Day a cherished occasion for everyone involved. In this episode, we discuss: Navigating expectations as a stepmom on Mother's Day Stepmother's Day Focusing on yourself Avoiding comparisons Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: The Stepmom Who Thought 'Nachoing' Meant Ignoring "At first, I thought Nachoing meant just ignoring my stepkids, but Nacho Kids Academy taught me that it’s really about setting boundaries, respecting my role, and creating a healthier family dynamic. Once I stepped back, I was shocked at how much better my marriage and my relationship with my stepkids became. It turns out, they actually like me better when I’m not trying to parent them!" ~ Amanda R.
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301: Stepmom Didn't Want Kids - Audio
03/07/2025
301: Stepmom Didn't Want Kids - Audio
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori Sims welcomes Mae, a stepmom navigating the challenging dynamics of her blended family. Mae lives with her partner, their two-year-old child, and her partner's kids—a 13-year-old girl and a 10-year-old boy. Mae shares the trials she's faced stepping into a maternal role, dealing with stepchildren full-time due to their mother's sporadic involvement. Tune in as she candidly discusses the struggle of balancing her partner’s expectations, managing her stepson's anger issues, and finding harmony through the Nacho Kids method. Whether you're a new stepmom or have been in the role for years, Mae’s story offers relatable insights and genuine conversation about creating a cohesive family. Join us as we dive into these real-life stories, real people, and real help in blending families! In this episode, we discuss: Behavioral Challenges with Stepson Challenges of Disengagement Managing Emotions and Responsibilities Honesty and Family Conversations Future Concerns and Stepson’s Behavior Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: The High-Conflict Ex Situation "My stepkids’ mom made our lives miserable. It felt like everything I did was wrong, and my husband was stuck in the middle. After joining Nacho Kids Academy, I stopped trying to compete with their mom and started focusing on my own peace. The drama doesn’t affect me like it used to, and my husband and I are finally on the same page. This program saved my sanity!" ~ Kara L., KY, USA
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300: 300 Podcasts Later: Our Blended Family Journey
02/28/2025
300: 300 Podcasts Later: Our Blended Family Journey
In this milestone episode of the NK Podcast, we're celebrating our 300th episode! Join hosts Lori and David as they reflect on five and a half years of podcasting, sharing their journey and the valuable lessons they've learned along the way. From the challenges and joys of blending families to the unexpected twists and turns of stepfamily life, Lori and David dive deep into their personal experiences. They share heartwarming stories of growth and transformation, emphasizing the importance of resilience and adaptability in the face of change. Tune in to hear how the Nacho Kids method has helped them navigate the complexities of stepfamily life and how their podcasting journey has not only impacted their lives but also touched the hearts of listeners around the world. This special episode is a testament to the power of perseverance, connection, and the shared goal of creating better blended family experiences. In this episode, we discuss: Reflection on Consistency and Challenges Adult Children Moving Back In Family Gatherings and Dynamics Distance in Relationships Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: The Stepparent with Adult Bio Kids & Younger Stepkids I raised my kids to adulthood, so I thought I knew what I was doing when I married my husband, who still had young kids. I quickly realized step-parenting is NOTHING like regular parenting! Nacho Kids Academy gave me the tools to step back, respect my husband’s role as their dad, and focus on supporting rather than controlling. Now, instead of stress and resentment, our home feels more like a partnership! - Debbie W.
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299: Stepmom Takes Care Of Bio Mom
02/21/2025
299: Stepmom Takes Care Of Bio Mom
In this heartfelt and inspiring episode of the NK Podcast, we're joined by stepmom Whitney, who revisits her story after first appearing on the podcast three and a half years ago. Whitney shares an incredible journey that showcases resilience, compassion, and the power of relationships in the midst of adversity. As a stepmom with no biological children and a 17-year-old stepdaughter, Whitney recounts her experience of supporting her stepdaughter's mother through a terminal cancer diagnosis. This candid conversation delves into the complexities of family dynamics, the emotional challenges of navigating a blended family, and the unexpected bond that formed between Whitney and her stepdaughter's mother. Join hosts Lori and David Sims as they explore Whitney's remarkable story of love, strength, and the unexpected paths life can take. Don't miss this episode, which is sure to resonate with anyone who has faced life's challenges with an open heart. In this episode we discuss: Challenges in Stepfamily Dynamics Stepparent Perspective and Family Dynamics Shift The Role of Faith and Support Networks Reflections and Personal Insights Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: The Stepparent with Adult STepkids "I married my husband thinking that since his kids were grown, stepfamily life would be easy. Nope! His adult kids didn’t like me, and I felt like I had no voice in our own home. Nacho Kids Academy showed me how to detach with love and stop trying to ‘fix’ things. Now, I focus on my marriage and let my husband handle his own kids. It’s been life-changing!" - Lisa B.
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298: Three Things Not To Say To A Stepparent
02/14/2025
298: Three Things Not To Say To A Stepparent
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today's episode, Lori and David dive into a critical conversation about the challenges and misconceptions faced by stepparents. They explore three common phrases that should never be uttered to a stepparent. First, the hosts debunk the idea that stepparents knew what they were getting into when joining a blended family, emphasizing the unexpected trials involved. Next, they tackle the unrealistic expectation that stepparents should love their stepchildren like their own, highlighting the unique dynamics and relationships within a family. Finally, Lori and David clarify the misconception that stepparents are "parents too," discussing the complexity of roles within a blended family. Join us as we uncover some hard truths and foster understanding and empathy for stepparents navigating these complex relationships. So, stay tuned for an enlightening episode filled with candid discussions and relatable insights! In this episode, we discuss: General Discussion on Expectations in Life and Relationships Clarification and Healthy Expectations in Stepparent-Child Relationships Understanding Unrealistic Expectations The Complexity of Roles Guarding Against Harmful Assumptions: Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I thought since I had kids of my own and grew up in a stepfamily that I knew how to be a stepdad. Wrong. My wife and I fought constantly about discipline, boundaries, and how we should treat all the kids ‘equally.’ Nacho Kids Academy helped me realize that ‘equal’ isn’t always ‘fair’ and that my role in my stepkids’ lives wasn’t to be their dad. Once I stopped trying to force things, our home became so much calmer. The biggest surprise? My stepkids actually started coming to me on their own! We owe you so much, Lori & David!" - James T.
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297: Couples Communication ~ Raffi Bilek
02/07/2025
297: Couples Communication ~ Raffi Bilek
In today's episode, host Lori welcomes Raffi Bilek, a marriage counselor based in Baltimore and the author of "The Couple's Communication Handbook: The Skills You Never Learned for the Marriage You Always Wanted." Raffi shares his experiences working with couples and emphasizes the importance of effective communication in relationships. He discusses cultural differences in communication, how childhood influences our communicative skills, and the challenges couples face when navigating conversations about money, expectations, and parenting in stepfamilies. Throughout the conversation, Raffi offers insights into improving dialogue and understanding within relationships, underlining the significance of empathy and active listening as keys to resolving conflicts and building stronger connections. Join us as we dive into these essential topics and learn how to enhance communication in our personal lives. In this episode, we discuss: Communication Skills Expectations and Conflict Empathy and Understanding Emotional Regulation Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: Stepmom and Bio Mom "Blending families is HARD. I didn’t understand why my husband treated my kids differently than his, and I was constantly frustrated that his kids got away with things mine never would. Nacho Kids Academy completely changed my perspective. Instead of comparing, I started focusing on what I could control—my own parenting and my relationship with my husband. The difference has been incredible. My stress level has dropped, and I don’t feel like I’m constantly walking on eggshells anymore!" - Rachel M.
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296: 3 Things To NOT Do As A Stepparent
01/31/2025
296: 3 Things To NOT Do As A Stepparent
Join hosts Lori and David as they share three very important tips for the stepparent! Listen as they dive into essential strategies for creating a harmonious stepfamily environment. Lori and David discuss the common pitfalls stepparents might be falling into without even realizing it. They explore three crucial behaviors to avoid if you're looking to reduce stress and build stronger relationships within your blended family. From understanding the implications of negative comments about the stepkids to recognizing the importance of not taking things personally and knowing when to step back from disciplining your stepchildren, this episode is packed with valuable insights and practical advice. Tune in to learn how to navigate the complexities of step-parenting and foster a peaceful, loving home. In this episode, we discuss: Tit-for-tat behavior Avoiding negative comments to family members Adulting versus parenting Expectations Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: Childless Stepdad "I thought stepping in as a father figure was what my stepkids needed. Instead, it caused tension between me and my wife, and the kids resented me. Nacho Kids Academy helped me see that I was overstepping. Once I let go of trying to parent, my relationship with my wife improved, and the kids actually warmed up to me over time. Now, we get along naturally without me feeling like an outsider or a disciplinarian. We enjoy being around each other now!" - Mark D. “Proud Nacho Stepdad”
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295: Emotional Resilience in the Stepfamily
01/24/2025
295: Emotional Resilience in the Stepfamily
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294: Emotional Turmoil in the Stepfamily
01/23/2025
294: Emotional Turmoil in the Stepfamily
Welcome to the Nacho Kids Podcast. In this episode, Lori sits down with our guest to delve into the intricate dynamics of blended families. Our guest shares poignant experiences from her life, starting with her father's remarriage and extending to her journey as a stepmother. We explore the early stages of blending families, the delicate process of introducing her two children to her new husband, and the joys and challenges of family traditions. The guest opens up about the emotional turmoil and boundaries set with her stepdaughter and the tension caused by the stepdaughter's biological mother. We'll also hear reflections on parenting after loss, navigating financial entanglements, and the significance of maintaining boundaries for personal growth. Tune in as we unpack the complexities of family, love, and resilience in this intimate discussion about building a cohesive family unit amidst life's ever-changing landscapes. Let's dive right in! In this episode, we discuss: Emotional Turmoil Managing Social Media and Family Privacy Emotional and Logistical Complexities Parental Alienation Nacho Kids testimonial: Transforming Our Family "The Nacho Kids Method completely changed our blended family. By stepping back and letting my partner parent, I found peace and clarity. Our home is calmer, and I’ve built stronger relationships without the constant stress. It truly saved us!" - Sarah T.
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293: Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI)
01/10/2025
293: Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI)
Welcome back to NK Podcast Shared! In today's episode, Lori dives into the intricate world of step-parenting and maintaining a harmonious blended family. Join her as she chats with Jessica, a Licensed Professional Counselor Associate from North Texas, who shares her journey of being a full-time stepmom to a 10-year-old while navigating the complexities of a custody battle and fostering a positive co-parenting dynamic. Jessica emphasizes the power of not taking things personally to reduce stress and negativity and the benefits of using Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI) to build trust and stability within her family. As she discusses the challenges and strategies involved in blending families, Jessica provides invaluable insights into maintaining a neutral role, fostering empathy, and creating lasting family rituals to strengthen bonds. Tune in for practical advice on intentional parenting, self-awareness, and effective communication, all aimed at providing stability and joy in blended family dynamics. And of course, don’t miss the hosts’ light-hearted closing where they remind us, "Life is good when you nacho." Let's get started! In this episode, we discuss: Not Taking Things Personally Trust-Based Relationship Intervention (TBRI) Supportive Partner in Stepparenting Self-work and Personal Healing Stepparent Boundaries and Support Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "Joining Nacho Kids Academy was the best decision I’ve made for my stepfamily. I was overwhelmed, frustrated, and feeling like a complete outsider in my own home. I tried everything — and nothing seemed to work. The constant tension with my stepkids and even with my partner was taking a toll on me. But when I found Nacho Kids Academy, everything changed. Lori and David’s guidance helped me understand that I didn’t have to control everything. I learned to step back, take a breath, and let go of things that weren’t my responsibility. The method taught me how to respond instead of react, and I finally started to find peace in my role as a stepparent. I’ve gone from feeling resentful and exhausted to calm, confident, and in control of my emotions. My relationship with my partner has improved drastically, and my home is no longer filled with constant conflict. The support inside the academy has been a lifeline. The resources, Q&A calls, and community have made me feel seen and understood. If you’re a stepparent struggling to find your place, stop searching — Nacho Kids Academy is what you need. It’s not just a method; it’s a life-changer." - Lucy R., Nacho Kids Academy Member
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292: Nacho Parenting In The New Year
01/03/2025
292: Nacho Parenting In The New Year
Welcome to another episode of NK Podcast Shared! In today’s engaging discussion, hosts Lori and David navigate the complexities of family life, from the challenges of gift-giving and planning unforgettable vacations to embodying integrity for their children. They dive into humorous yet heartfelt reflections on their kids' awareness (or lack thereof) around finances while considering gifting experiences over physical items. Lori and David also share personal anecdotes about their grandson, Giddy, and emphasize promoting honesty and respect for parents' wishes. Tune in as they tackle the tricky dynamics of holiday preparation, setting family goals, and balancing work-life dynamics. Plus, get the scoop on upcoming events like the Nacho Kids meet and greet and retreats geared towards stepfamily coaching. With practical advice, light-hearted banter, and motivational insights, this episode promises to deliver strategies for reducing stress and fostering harmonious family relationships. Don’t miss out on this fun and insightful episode—let’s make this year the best one yet for your family! In this episode we discuss: Gift-Giving and Past Expenditures Children's Awareness of Costs Modeling Integrity Family and Business Planning Measuring Improvement and Personal Development
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291: Stepkids Taught Stepmom How To Be A Better Bio Parent
12/27/2024
291: Stepkids Taught Stepmom How To Be A Better Bio Parent
Welcome to another captivating episode of NK Podcast Shared! In Episode 291, we sit down with Eliana, a seasoned stepmother of 11 years, to discuss the intricacies and emotional journey of step-parenting. Initially overwhelmed by cultural adjustments, language barriers, and the challenge of blending into a new family, Eliana shares how she navigated these obstacles with resilience and a heart full of empathy. Our conversation dives deep into the importance of prioritizing the well-being of children, evolving perspectives on family dynamics, and the revolutionary "Nacho Method," which focuses on responding rather than reacting to maintain peace of mind. Lori, our host, explores with Eliana the common pitfalls in traditional upbringing practices, the necessity of self-awareness, and the powerful role of internal ownership of happiness. Eliana candidly reflects on personal growth, the struggles and joys of being a stepparent, and how her relationship with her stepchildren has evolved over time. She also touches on the cultural contrasts she's experienced and how maintaining one's identity while adapting to new environments is crucial, especially in stepfamily dynamics. Join us for an enlightening discussion about the adaptive nature of parenting, self-discovery, and creating new family norms in a blended family. In this episode we discuss: Self-Discovery and Shedding Societal Labels "Nacho" Parenting Concept Step-parenting Challenges Self-Awareness and Internal Focus Importance of Prioritizing Children's Well-Being Nacho Kids Testimonial: "I was always embarrassed by my dislike for my stepkids. Joining the Nacho Kids Academy, helped me realize why I had those feelings, helped me to understand the dynamics of the blend better and helped me have a happy life!! I will forever be grateful to the Nacho Kids method!"
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290: Stepdaughter In-Law Issues
12/20/2024
290: Stepdaughter In-Law Issues
Welcome to another captivating episode of NK Podcast Shared! Today we dive into episode NKP290 with our special guest, Kim Early. Join us as Kim shares her profound journey through the complexities of modern behavior, spiritual growth, and the challenging dynamics of blended families. Kim brings her unique philosophy, advocating for the removal of polarizing concepts like right and wrong, and highlights the importance of personal choices and spiritual reckoning. Kim opens up about overcoming initial animosity towards her stepson's mother, revealing how she sought peace and enlightenment amidst conflict. She discusses shifting negative thinking patterns, the essence of self-love, setting healthy boundaries, and spreading kindness through community work. We delve into the intricacies of family dynamics, from managing holiday schedules to the emotional strains of step-parenting. Kim shares her challenges and triumphs, including her experiences with strained relationships and maintaining positive energy. Don't miss this insightful conversation that promises to leave you inspired and contemplative. Let's jump right in! In this episode, we discuss: Philosophy on Right/Wrong Mindset and Growth Boundaries and Self-Love Handling Social Media Conflicts Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "I didn’t realize how much stress I was putting on myself trying to discipline my stepkids. Nachoing showed me that it’s okay to let the biological parent handle the parenting while I focus on being a positive influence. It’s been a huge relief, and I’ve noticed the kids respect me more now." ~ Mark L., Stepfather of 3
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289: Bio Mom Is The Problem, Not The Stepkids
12/13/2024
289: Bio Mom Is The Problem, Not The Stepkids
Welcome back to NK Podcast and we're excited to bring you Episode 289, featuring a deeply honest and emotional conversation with our special guest, West Coast Stepmom. She opens up about the complexities and challenges of navigating a blended family. In this episode, she shares her personal journey, from dealing with communication issues with her husband's ex-wife to the escalating tensions that have affected her marriage and step-parenting role. We dive into stepmom’s reflections on loyalty, boundaries, and the emotional toll of feeling like an outsider in her own home. Lori, our insightful host, guides us through conversations about managing expectations, seeking personal growth, and the societal norms that impact stepfamilies today. Whether you're part of a blended family or interested in the dynamics of modern relationships, this episode promises to deliver heartfelt insights and practical wisdom. Tune in as we explore the balancing act between love, parenting, and maintaining one's sense of self amidst family upheaval. In this episode, we discuss: Boundary Setting Respecting the Ex's Role Step-Parenting Roles Managing Societal Expectations Coping with Accusations Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: "The Nacho Kids method saved my sanity! I used to think I had to be a 'supermom' to my stepkids, but it only led to stress and resentment. Nachoing taught me how to step back and focus on being a supportive partner. The change in my household is incredible—we’re finally at peace." ~ Sarah M., Stepmom of 3
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288: Blended Holidays With Claudette Chenevert and Lori Sims
12/06/2024
288: Blended Holidays With Claudette Chenevert and Lori Sims
Welcome to another insightful episode of NK Podcast, where we dive into navigating the complex dynamics of stepfamilies during the holiday season. In this episode, Lori sits down with Claudette Chenover, a seasoned stepmom coach, to discuss the common challenges and emotional hurdles that come with gift-giving and family traditions in blended families. Claudette shares personal anecdotes, including a poignant moment when her sister’s exclusionary gift-giving upset her stepdaughters. They talk about the importance of fairness, managing expectations, and how thoughtful, handmade gifts often create lasting memories. You'll hear practical tips on budgeting, balancing family dynamics, and embracing experiences over material gifts to foster connection and joy. Whether you’re shopping for gifts or planning festive activities, this episode offers invaluable advice to ensure your holiday season is filled with warmth and togetherness without the stress. Tune in as we delve into creating meaningful family experiences and keeping the holiday spirit alive in every member of your blended family. In this episode we discuss: Navigating Holidays as a Stepfamily Stepparent Dynamics and Gift Challenges Establishing Family Traditions in Blended Families Gift Expectations Fairness Nacho Kids Nacho Parenting Success Story: “A Fresh Start for Our Blended Family” "We were struggling to blend our families and felt like we were failing as a couple. Nacho Kids Academy gave us practical tools to manage our roles, communicate better, and reduce the stress in our home. Now, we feel like we’re finally thriving as a team." — David and Lauren P., Married 4 years
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287: Holiday Discussions With Laura Petherbridge
11/29/2024
287: Holiday Discussions With Laura Petherbridge
In this heartwarming and humorous episode of NK Podcast Shared, host Lori is joined by the insightful Laura Petherbridge, also known as "The Smart Stepmom." Join them as they navigate the complex dynamics of blended families during the holiday season. Lori humorously reflects on how blended family experiences have contributed to her gray hair and general aging, even joking about needing a plastic surgeon who offers discounts for stepmoms. Together, they delve into the significance of self-care, the value of laughter, and the importance of maintaining realistic expectations to manage stress and disappointment. Whether discussing the intricacies of gift-giving, the emotional impact of holiday music, or the critical need to prioritize real-life connections over social media, Lori and Laura offer practical advice sprinkled with wit and wisdom. They also address the persistent challenges faced by stepfamilies, from navigating holiday schedules to maintaining fairness among children. Tune in and discover why, as Lori puts it, "Life is good. When you nacho." In this episode, we discuss: Self-care and Managing Stress Fairness in Gift-Giving Managing Blended Family Holiday Schedules Handling Emotional Triggers and Nostalgia Holiday Considerations Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: “Stepping Back Was the Best Thing I Did” "I thought I needed to parent my stepkids for our family to work, but it only caused fights and stress. Nacho Kids taught me that stepping back doesn’t mean not caring—it means creating healthier relationships. Now, I focus on being a supportive partner, and my relationship with my stepkids has actually improved!" — Michelle H., Stepmom of 2
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