The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Stepfamilies and blended families are very challenging. With a failure rate of over 70%, it's clear that blended families need help. Nacho Kids founders and blended family coaches, Lori and David Sims, are here to help blended families save their sanity and relationships. You'll hear the hosts and guests discuss the struggles and successes of blended family life and learn how the Nacho Kids Method is changing lives and saving relationships around the world.
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388: Navigating Family Court Alone
11/06/2026
388: Navigating Family Court Alone
In this episode, we focus on the challenging realities of navigating the family law system without an attorney. Our guest, Ben Schooley, a pro se coach from Central Texas, shares his deeply personal journey through divorce and custody battles, recounting how those difficult experiences inspired him to help others facing similar legal hurdles. The discussion explores the complexities and emotional toll of family court, the barriers many parents encounter, like lack of confidence, knowledge, and financial resources, and what it truly means to represent yourself when the stakes are so high. Key Takeaways: Emotional and Psychological Aspects of Family Law Navigating the Family Court System Representing Yourself in Court (Pro Se Representation) Handling Stress and Emotional Challenges Patterns of Withholding Children and Legal Response Systemic Issues in Family Law Practical Considerations for Co-Parenting and Blended Families Strategies and Mindsets for Effective Self-Representation Coaching and Support Services for Pro Se Litigants Proactive Detailing in Legal Documents to Prevent Future Conflict The Importance of Counseling and Self-Reflection Parenting Post-Divorce and Protecting Child Wellbeing Pursuing Reconnection and Maintaining Hope Coaching Philosophy and Ethics
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387: Navigating Blended Family Challenges with Nacho Parenting
10/30/2026
387: Navigating Blended Family Challenges with Nacho Parenting
In this episode, Lori and Stacie talk about the ups and downs of blended family life and stepfamily dynamics. One key theme is therapy's huge impact, not just for healing after divorce, but also for building healthier co-parenting relationships. This discussion explores what it’s really like to co-parent with exes, including the challenges when things don’t go smoothly and the wins when everyone can get along for the kids. Key Takeaways: The Unexpected Reality of Blended Families Importance of Therapy and Honest Communication Navigating Co-Parenting and Stepparenting The Nacho Kids Approach to Parenting Roles The Challenge of Schedules and Transitions The Importance of Empathy, Forgiveness, and Growth Traditions, Consistency, and Emotional Support The Lasting Impact of Supportive Adult Relationships
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386: Building Resilient Marriages
10/23/2026
386: Building Resilient Marriages
In this episode, Dr. Binyamin Rothstein shares insights from over 45 years as a healer and his journey from conventional medicine to alternative, holistic practices. After facing professional adversity for his unconventional healing methods, Dr. Ben reflects on what truly motivates people to care for themselves and how relationships, especially between children and fathers, shape self-worth. The discussion delves deep into the vital role fathers play in a child’s emotional development and the long-term effects of paternal affection and involvement. Dr. Ben highlights the concept of "mama bear energy" and how it can unintentionally disempower men and children, advocating instead for families to balance nurturing with empowering each member. Blended families are a strong focus, as Dr. Ben and Lori discuss chore delegation, respect, and discipline in stepfamily dynamics. The importance of modeling positive behaviors, earning respect, and using humor are practical takeaways for all parents. Forgiveness is a central theme, both as a personal practice and as a transformative force in family relationships. Through touching stories from his life and coaching practice, Dr. Ben illustrates how letting go of resentment can change family dynamics for the better. Listeners are encouraged to embrace self-growth, honor each person's unique journey, and focus on building authentic, loving relationships within their families. Dr. Ben’s book, "A Real Man’s Guide to Becoming a Terrific Dad," and further resources are available at In this episode: Observations of Behavior and Motivation Importance of Father-Child Relationships Personal and Family Experience Dr. Ben’s Marriage and Family Growth Kabbalistic Mysticism and Gender Roles in Relationships Stepfamilies and Parenting Dynamics Delegation, Chores, and Empowerment Transitioning Roles: Mama Bear to Queen Conflict Management, Communication, and Boundaries Respect, Discipline, and Integrity Stepfamily-Specific Parenting Practices Forgiveness and Emotional Growth Communication, Relationship-Building, and Space Find out more at nachokids.com Want help with your blend? Join our Academy at nachokidsacademy.com
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385: Keep Your Hands Off My Stuff
10/16/2026
385: Keep Your Hands Off My Stuff
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David Sims address a post from their Facebook group about stepkids taking food and personal items, like mouthwash, that aren’t theirs. They discuss practical, relationship-saving solutions, like lockboxes or separate fridges, clear communication with your partner, and non-confrontational ways to set household boundaries. The hosts share personal anecdotes, highlight sensitive stepparenting dynamics, and stress that while frustrations are valid, leaving the relationship isn’t always the answer. Instead, they encourage viewers to focus on problem-solving and the deeper emotional triggers behind these common stepfamily conflicts. In this episode: Key Takeaways Boundaries with Personal Items Common Reactions & Advice Practical Solutions Focus on the Real Issue Communication and Empathy Recognize the Feelings - But Solve the Problem Leaving Isn’t a Cure-All Nacho Approach
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384: Are The Stepkids Visitors?
10/09/2026
384: Are The Stepkids Visitors?
Is It Still Their Home? In this episode, Lori and David Sims discuss boundaries when it comes to the home. If the stepkid is there every other weekend, is it still considered their home? Are they able to come and get things without having to text or call first? Lori and David kick things off with a lighthearted look at gifting the Nacho Kids book and workbook for holidays, and joke about trick-or-treaters getting stepfamily resources in their Halloween bags! The main discussion explores the dynamics and nuanced feelings around stepkids versus bio kids, sparked by a Facebook post about stepchild boundaries and home access. Lori and David dig into communication styles, the importance of tone (especially in texts), and how stepparents often feel differently about expectations for stepkids versus their own children. The episode features plenty of personal anecdotes about kids dropping by unannounced, doing chores, and the sometimes unfair double standards that pop up. In this episode: Family Logistics & Emotional Balance Perceptions of Fairness Handling Household Tasks Communication & Boundaries in Stepfamilies Tune in for relatable, real-talk laughs and insights on the everyday realities of stepfamily life, boundaries, and communication!
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383: Different Rules Different Kids
10/02/2026
383: Different Rules Different Kids
In this episode, Lori and David tackle a listener question about handling resentment from biological children when stepchildren follow different rules. They explain that this is common in blended families and share personal stories showing that different rules for different kids are sometimes necessary because of age, responsibility, and individual circumstances. The hosts stress the importance of honest, age-appropriate communication with children about why rules may differ and highlight that this situation also arises in traditional families. They compare the individualized approach needed in stepfamilies to business environments, where specific solutions must be tailored to unique situations rather than relying on strict checklists. The episode wraps up with encouragement to check out their book and workbook on Amazon for further guidance. In this episode: Analogies Between Stepfamily Dynamics and Business Practices Challenges with Rules and Expectations in Blended Families Deep Dive: Managing Children’s Resentment Over Different Rules Parallels with Traditional Families and Life Lessons Navigating Practical Examples of Rule Differences Teaching Values and Coping with External Influences Insights from Audience Responses Developing Communication and Independence in Children Differences in Parenting Between Households
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382: Stepkid Jealousy
09/25/2026
382: Stepkid Jealousy
Are you struggling with jealousy, boundaries, or feeling left out as a stepparent? In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, we dive deep into the real-life challenges of stepkid jealousy, whether it’s your spouse always answering their kid’s calls on vacation or gifts and attention feeling unfairly divided. Learn why “Nachoing” works (and what it really means), the importance of healthy boundaries, and how open conversations can transform your blended family experience. Hear firsthand stories, hard-earned wisdom, and a whole lot of laughs from a couple who survived the toughest years and came out stronger! In this episode: The Nacho Kids Approach Personal Experience with Therapy and Mr. Butler Accuracy and Influence of Memories Communication Challenges in Blended Families Family Meetings and Dynamics Recollections about Applying Nacho Kids Principles Nachoing your Spouse Jealousy and Stepchild Communication During Vacations Balancing Parent-Child Communication and Fairness Gifts, Favorites, and Family Experiences Reflecting on Outsider Perspective and Stepkid Inclusion Impact of Living Arrangements and Stepfamily Stress Overcoming Crisis and Turning Points Podcast History and Emotional Recovery Relationship Humor, Longevity, and Milestones
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381: Stepkid Tells All
09/18/2026
381: Stepkid Tells All
In this episode, Lori and David Sims reflect on their blended family journey, sharing personal stories about the unique challenges and evolving relationships with their stepkids. Listeners get a special inside look through an in-depth interview with Branson, one of the triplets, who opens up about his experience as a stepchild. Branson discusses the emotional rollercoaster of accepting a stepparent, from initial excitement and resistance to eventual friendship and trust. The hosts and Branson explore how the Nacho Kids Method, stepping back and reducing conflict, helped transform hostility into a healthy, supportive bond. This candid conversation highlights the ups and downs of blended family life, the importance of patience, and how meaningful connections can grow with time and intentional effort. Listeners dealing with similar dynamics will find real-life insights, hope, and encouragement for navigating stepfamily relationships. Family Vacation Plans and Feelings Stepchild Experience Stepchild's Emotional Journey and the Nacho Kids Method Evolution of Stepfamily Relationships Impact of the Nacho Kids Approach Current Relationship Dynamics Stepkids’s Evolving Perspective on the bio parent Lessons on Relationship Perseverance Branson’s Views on Blended Families Moving Forward Aftermath and Continued Family Bond
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380: Stepsibling Relationships
09/11/2026
380: Stepsibling Relationships
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David discuss the challenges and benefits of stepsibling relationships in blended families. They share personal experiences navigating concerns about stepkids being a "bad influence" or bullying bio kids, and how parental intervention (or lack thereof) can impact sibling bonding. Lori notes the importance of letting kids work through their own conflicts, with appropriate boundaries for physical and verbal harm, so stepsiblings can naturally develop relationships and coping skills. The hosts also emphasize that stepparents should avoid constantly separating the kids, as this can hinder bonding and create resentment. The conversation wraps up with insights on jealousy, household traditions, and the value of letting kids spend time together to build meaningful connections. Topics discussed: Concerns About Stepchildren as a Bad Influence Differentiating Bullying and Sibling Rivalry Parental Perspective and Protectiveness The Value of Sibling Interactions and Bonding Parental Emotional Response and Bias Family Traditions and Blended Family Stress Nurturing Positive Influences and Boundaries Differences in Nuclear and Blended Family Conflict Resolution The Role of Jealousy and Time Spent with Parents Importance of Allowing Step-Sibling Relationships to Develop Setting Realistic Expectations for Bonding
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379: What You Focus On Will Grow
09/04/2026
379: What You Focus On Will Grow
In this episode, Lori and David Sims discuss the powerful principle that "what you focus on will grow," especially within blended families. Through candid and humorous anecdotes, ranging from household chores to navigating stepfamily dynamics, they explore how focusing on the negatives (like dirty dishes or annoying habits) can cause frustration and resentment, while choosing to see the positives fosters appreciation and harmony. The conversation delves into issues of comparison, gratitude, and managing expectations in relationships, highlighting the importance of shifting perspective for personal peace and stronger family bonds. The episode concludes by encouraging you to focus on the good, put things in perspective, and remember that what you give emotional weight shapes your daily experience. Key Topics Covered How focusing on negative behaviors in partners or stepkids can worsen your outlook and relationship The "what you focus on will grow" principle in everyday stepfamily life The impact of gratitude and positive reinforcement on encouraging good behavior The pitfalls of comparison, especially through social media, leading to unnecessary envy and dissatisfaction Managing expectations and defining responsibilities in blended family households Using humor and candid communication to navigate common frustrations The importance of putting challenges in perspective and directing emotional energy toward what truly matters
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378: Co-sleeping With Stepkids
08/28/2026
378: Co-sleeping With Stepkids
In this episode, we discuss the sensitive topic of cosleeping with stepkids in blended families. A key theme that emerged was the differing comfort levels and emotional reactions between bio parents and stepparents regarding children in their personal space or bed. The discussion explored feelings of unfairness when stepchildren are excluded from privileges allowed to biological children, as well as concerns about appropriateness and potential legal or social misunderstandings. Several points were raised, including the importance of discussing expectations and boundaries before moving in together or getting married. A suggested approach was for bio parents to attend to their children’s needs in the child’s own room to maintain the sanctity of the couple’s space. The episode concluded with a reminder for blended families to communicate openly, ensure consistency, and be mindful of how these practices affect both relationships and perceptions within the family. In this episode: Nacho Kids Book and Workbook Release Stepkids in Your Bed/Bedroom Childhood and Cultural Perspectives on Bed-Sharing Co-Sleeping, Bed-Sharing, and Blended Family Dynamics Boundaries and Comfort Levels in Blended Families Appropriateness and Risk of Misunderstandings Suggested Solutions and Best Practices Gender, Parenting, and Social Assumptions Importance of conversations and strategies to avoid problems in stepfamily life
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377: It's HOW You Say It
08/21/2026
377: It's HOW You Say It
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David discuss communication challenges between stepparents and bio parents, especially regarding parenting decisions and stepkids. The hosts share personal anecdotes about feeling defensive when their children are criticized, emphasizing that wording and approach make a significant difference in how such conversations are received. Launch of the Nacho Kids book Common reasons why bio parents get defensive when their kids are discussed The impact of wording: how statements come across as judgment versus teamwork Parent guilt and internalization of children’s struggles or failures The dynamic between stepparents and bio parents in discipline and expectations Challenges for childless or childfree stepparents in understanding the realities of parenting Every child is different: what works for one may not work for another Approaching parenting conversations as a team and offering support, not judgment Emotional challenges for parents watching their kids struggle, and the desire to protect them The power of empathy and why some people intervene for others more than themselves Guidance for stepparents and partners: be kind, honest, and remember kids grow up and relationships can improve
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376: Birthdays, Blended Style
08/14/2026
376: Birthdays, Blended Style
On this podcast, we discuss the challenges and humorous realities of planning family events in a blended and extended family setting. A key theme that emerged was the complexity of scheduling birthdays and gatherings to accommodate multiple family members, including ex-spouses, in-laws, and stepchildren, highlighting the potential for awkwardness, misunderstandings, and unintentional hurt feelings Key Topics Covered Navigating the challenges of planning birthdays and family gatherings in blended families Balancing the desires of biological and step-relatives, including in-laws and ex-spouses Strategies for minimizing stress and resentment Handling children’s divided time and loyalties between multiple households Scheduling conflicts and communication mishaps related to family events The awkwardness of public events, such as school functions, for blended families and how to address introductions Juggling roles and boundaries between biological parents, stepparents, and children Importance of humor, flexibility, and clear communication in blended family life Promoting the upcoming Nacho Kids book release as a resource for stepfamilies
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374: Back To School In The Blend
08/01/2026
374: Back To School In The Blend
In this episode, the Nacho Kids team discusses the upcoming release of the Nacho Kids book, available for Kindle pre-order and set to launch on September 16th - Stepfamily Day. The hosts highlight a moving story from their Nacho group about a stepparent who transformed her relationship with her stepkids using the Nacho Method, underscoring the importance of putting knowledge into action. The conversation shifts to back-to-school season, addressing evolving school calendars, the challenges of co-parenting school responsibilities, financial dilemmas around school supplies, and differences in approach between households. The hosts touch on using educational technology and AI to help students, the wisdom of managing stepkid struggles with schoolwork, and boundaries for stepparents. They candidly discuss when to let kids take responsibility for their school success, the consequences of over-involvement, and the extra challenges of co-parenting on alternating schedules. The episode closes with a serious reminder about online safety in light of the anniversary of Gavin Guffey’s death, encouraging parents and stepparents to maintain open, judgment-free communication and serve as a safe haven for all kids. New Nacho Kids book launch details and preorders Success story from the Nacho Kids group Putting the Nacho Method into action Changes in school calendars and year-round schedules Navigating school supply expenses and co-parenting challenges The role of educational technology and AI in supporting student learning Boundaries for stepparents in helping with schoolwork Age-appropriate responsibility: letting kids experience natural consequences Parenting differences and the cycle of alternating households on school performance Online safety, social media risks, and the importance of open conversations How stepparents can be a safe, judgment-free space for stepkids
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373: Don't Give Up!
07/24/2026
373: Don't Give Up!
In this episode, Lori and David share an inspiring success story from their Facebook group, highlighting how the Nacho Kids method helped transform a strained stepmom-stepdaughter relationship into a loving bond resulting in being asked to stand as "mother of the bride" at the stepdaughter's wedding. They discuss the importance of letting relationships develop naturally, utilizing strategies like the "gray rock" method to avoid negative engagement, and stress the value of finding a therapist who understands stepfamily dynamics. Lori and David also address common misconceptions about stepparent roles, set boundaries, and the need for patience when building blended family relationships. The episode features relatable and humorous moments between the hosts, including communication mix-ups and quirky family anecdotes. Listeners are encouraged to continue learning through the Nacho Kids Academy, check out the upcoming Nacho Kids book (now available for Kindle pre-order), and seek coaching if needed. Tune in for practical advice, personal stories, and a reminder that successful blended family relationships take time, effort, and the right support. Topics Discussed Nacho Kids book available for Kindle pre-order Inspiring Facebook group story: from conflict with stepchildren to being asked to be "mother of the bride" The importance of patience and playing the long game in blended family relationships How the "gray rock" method is part of Nacho Parenting Letting the child lead the relationship and setting appropriate boundaries as a stepparent The necessity of finding therapists who understand the Nacho Kids method and stepfamily dynamics Recognizing that relationships need ongoing nurturing, even after achieving major milestones
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372: Building Trust & Security in Blended Families | Dr. Marcus
07/17/2026
372: Building Trust & Security in Blended Families | Dr. Marcus
In this episode, we discuss the complexities of blended families, emphasizing the unique challenges stepfamilies face compared to nuclear families. One concept discussed was the pressure for stepfamilies to function like traditional nuclear families, and how letting go of that expectation can relieve stress and improve dynamics. A key theme that emerged was the importance of the "soothing presence", an adult who is emotionally supportive, predictable, and present for children, which fosters trust and security. The discussion explored how children in high-conflict or blended families often take on roles to try to keep the peace or please their parents, sometimes at the expense of their own development. Several points were raised, including the detrimental effects of parent alienation, the psychological impact of inconsistency and divided loyalty, and how step-parents can best support children without overstepping boundaries. Practical strategies were shared for building relationships, encouraging self-esteem, and communicating effectively with both children and biological parents. The conversation also included personal stories, analogies, and an exploration of how life experiences, even with family pets, mirror blended family dynamics. The episode underscored that every family is different, and the most successful step-parenting comes from adaptability, humility, and providing a safe, nonjudgmental space for children to grow and heal. Key Topics Discussed The unrealistic social and personal expectations for stepfamilies to function like nuclear families The concept of "soothing presence" as the basis for trust, security, and emotional development in children Challenges of divided loyalty and parent alienation in blended family situations The negative long-term impact on kids taking on adult responsibilities within the family dynamic Differences between parenting, adulting, and befriending as a step-parent Importance of emotional predictability and consistency for children’s well-being Strategies for step-parents to support children without overstepping or causing tension with biological parents Encouraging self-esteem and emotional language in children using relatable terms (e.g., “volcano mad”) The value of building a unique, trusting relationship with each child based on their individual personalities Parallels between stepfamily adjustment and integrating new pets into a household Individualized approaches over generic parenting techniques The lifelong process of gaining wisdom and fostering resilience in children through supportive adult relationships
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371: Double Standards In The Blend
07/10/2026
371: Double Standards In The Blend
Lori and David dive into the unique challenges stepparents face in expressing honest feelings, especially compared to what’s acceptable for biological parents. They share how phrases like “I need a break from my stepkids” or “sometimes I don’t even like my stepkid” can spark criticism, even though similar comments about one’s own kids are met with empathy. The conversation highlights double standards, societal expectations, stepfamily resentment, and the reality of blended-family emotions. Lori and David also discuss favoritism among grandkids, the importance of kindness, and how small acts can make a big difference when someone’s struggling. In this episode: Update on the upcoming release of the Nacho Kids Book and Companion Workbook Things You Can Say About Your Own Kids But Not Step Kids The Impact of Honesty in Step-Parenting Communities Specific Examples of Double Standards in Parenting Language Perception and Reality of Step-Parenting Criticism Favoritism Among Grandkids and Step-Grandkids Complex Feelings Are Normal in Stepfamilies The Importance of Kindness and Empathy Everyday Acts of Kindness Tune in for honest stories, laughter, and reminders that you’re not alone if being a stepparent sometimes feels overwhelming, and that kindness (to yourself and others) is always needed.
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370: Leaving the Stepkids Out
07/07/2026
370: Leaving the Stepkids Out
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David discuss a dilemma from their Facebook group about whether to include a troubled stepchild in a previously planned family cruise. The conversation explores the emotional, financial, and relational complexities of stepfamily vacations. Topics covered include the consequences of excluding the stepchild, potential resentment, whether vacations should be used as rewards or punishments, and the importance of making decisions as a united couple. The hosts suggest possible solutions such as inviting a grandmother to help manage the situation, scaling back vacation plans, or openly discussing what the stepchild actually wants. The episode emphasizes communication, empathy, and long-term considerations in blended family dynamics. Topics Discussed: The dilemma of including or excluding a troubled stepchild from a family vacation Financial implications of adding an additional family member to a planned cruise The impact of excluding a stepchild on family relationships and potential resentment between spouses Bringing a grandparent to balance costs and provide supervision/support Whether family vacations should be used as rewards or punishments for behavior Considering what the stepchild actually wants regarding the vacation Alternatives to the original vacation plan, such as scaling back or taking separate family trips The importance of communicating and making decisions together as a couple Personal stories about managing vacation dynamics with kids and stepkids
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369: From Tragedy to Togetherness: Donna Kendrick’s Story of Blended Family Success
06/26/2026
369: From Tragedy to Togetherness: Donna Kendrick’s Story of Blended Family Success
In this heartfelt episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori Sims welcomes guest Donna Kendrick, who shares her deeply personal story of loss, resilience, and blending families. Raised in Philadelphia, Donna Kendrick describes her journey from being married to a Philadelphia police officer, living abroad as a family, and navigating the aftermath of her husband's tragic taking of his own life after their return to the U.S. She candidly discusses how mental health struggles, grief, and trust issues shaped her decisions as a widow and a mother. Donna Kendrick goes on to recount meeting her current husband, a carpenter who had originally helped with renovations after her first husband’s passing, and the slow, organic way their families and children came together. Through life’s unexpected twists, including her husband’s ex-wife’s battle with cancer and the logistical and emotional challenges of moving and merging households, Donna Kendrick highlights the power of empathy, extended family support, and humor in navigating the ups and downs of blended family life. The episode touches on grief, motherhood, the importance of listening to your body, and the ongoing challenges and blessings of raising six children in a truly blended household. Lori and Donna share relatable stories and insights, with promises to bring Donna Kendrick back for future conversations about financial planning. In this episode: Grief and Resilience in Blended Families Navigating Blending After Loss and Divorce Compassion, Empathy, and Extended Support Practical Transitional Decisions Humor and Dark Comedy as Coping Importance of Self-care, Community, and Advocacy Adaptability and Open Communication Listeners will be inspired by themes of hope, community, and the ways that love and laughter can help families heal and grow together.
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368: Surviving Summer In The Blend
06/19/2026
368: Surviving Summer In The Blend
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David broadcast live from the beach, sharing personal stories and hard-learned lessons about stepfamily vacations. They discuss the logistical and emotional challenges of blending five boys with different interests, from budgeting for group activities to navigating restaurant seating. The hosts reflect on the importance of flexibility, managing expectations, and keeping vacations short to minimize stress and conflict. A significant portion of the conversation covers the issue of summer childcare, especially when a stepparent works from home. Lori and David debate the fairness and practicality of expecting the stepparent to watch stepkids, emphasizing the need to establish clear boundaries and explore all childcare options before making decisions. They encourage open communication between partners to prevent resentment. Listeners are invited to share their own vacation strategies for stepfamilies. The episode closes with a recommendation: keep family trips shorter and save a few days for the couple to recover afterward! Topics Discussed Excitement about the Nacho Kids book release on Step Family Day (September 16) Reaching over 1 million podcast downloads Lessons learned about family vacations Keeping vacations short (3-4 days) reduces stress Letting each child choose one activity Not forcing everyone to participate in everything Importance of flexibility and not over-planning Making sure each child has earphones/devices for long travel Sometimes it's best not to give kids options The emotional cost and lack of “vacation” time for parents compared to kids Summer childcare issues for stepparents who work from home Working from home is still working and should not equate to being default childcare Setting boundaries and having open conversations about expectations Exploring all options: camps, daycare, grandparents, babysitters, the other bio parent Considering compromises, such as part-time childcare Risks of resentment and increasing stress when solutions aren’t fair Saving vacation days for adult-only trips, if possible Listeners are invited to share their own vacation strategies for stepfamilies. The episode closes with a recommendation: keep family trips shorter and save a few days for the couple to recover afterward!
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367: Nacho Parenting Isn't That!
06/12/2026
367: Nacho Parenting Isn't That!
This episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast dives into the realities of publishing the upcoming Nacho Kids book and unpacks common misconceptions about the Nacho Parenting method. The conversation focuses on the emotional journey behind writing and editing, clarifies what "nacho" means in step-parenting, and discusses the nuanced paths toward building healthier relationships within blended families. Listeners will hear honest reflections on perfectionism, practical advice on stepfamily dynamics, and encouragement for step-parents navigating their own journeys. Key topics discussed: The challenges and emotional process of writing, editing, and publishing the Nacho Kids book Perfectionism vs. sharing helpful information: letting go of the need for perfection The meaning of "nacho": clarifying that it’s about boundaries and responsibility, not ignoring stepkids’ issues The difference between “disengaging” and “not engaging” as step-parents, and why these can be temporary, needed steps Why step-parent/stepchild relationships can be complicated and change over time The variety of step-parent roles, from supportive adult to parental figure, and the importance of adapting to each unique family situation The importance of compassion, communication, and not forcing relationships or choices between step-kids and partners Encouragement for self-development, understanding, and treating everyone in the blend with kindness and respect
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366: Loss, Reconciliation, and Growth in the blend
06/05/2026
366: Loss, Reconciliation, and Growth in the blend
In this heartfelt episode, Lori talks with California Stepmom, who shares her decade-long journey as a stepmom in a blend with no biological or "ours" kids of her own, but with plenty of lessons learned and emotional ups and downs. California Stepmom discusses her initial excitement entering stepfamily life, the unexpected challenges she faced, particularly from toxic ex-spouse dynamics and loyalty binds, and the heartbreak of estrangement when her stepdaughter chose to leave their home at 17. She details the difficult court battles, emotional toll, and the invaluable role that the Nacho Kids Podcast, Academy, and one-on-one coaching with Lori played in helping her set boundaries, heal, and strengthen her marriage. The episode offers practical tools and hope for anyone navigating the complexities of stepfamily life, emphasizing the importance of self-care, patience, and the "long game" mindset. In this episode: Entering a blended family: initial hopes and realities of becoming a stepmom Navigating relationships with stepchildren and building trust The complexities of being a childless stepmom and feelings of being an outsider Managing the dynamic with the ex-wife, including toxic behaviors and parental alienation Loyalty binds and the influence of parents’ actions on stepchildren Challenges of co-parenting, custody arrangements, and transition difficulties for kids Guilty parent syndrome and its impact on discipline and household dynamics Practical struggles: household boundaries, such as food and cleanliness issues Dealing with teen estrangement and the emotional aftermath The legal challenges of child support, child custody, and importance of court documentation Experiences with ineffective family therapy and the necessity of vetting professionals Emotional coping strategies: seeking community, therapy, and supportive resources Tools and language learned through the Nacho Kids Podcast and Academy Repairing and redefining the relationship with estranged stepchildren Ongoing growth, hope for the future, and building resilience as a stepfamily
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365: The Second Time Around
05/29/2026
365: The Second Time Around
In this heartfelt episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, David Sims and Lori Sims are joined by Erin and Jason Mencer to share their remarkable journey as a blended family. Married, divorced, and then remarried, Erin and Jason open up about the realities of stepfamily life, including challenges, personal growth, and what it truly takes to make a blended family work. Hear how expectations, family dynamics, and personal struggles led to their separation, and how faith, self-reflection, and the Nacho Kids method helped them rebuild, heal, and ultimately reunite. Their story is a testament to hope, resilience, and the power of second chances, offering inspiration and practical advice to anyone navigating the complexities of stepfamily life. Topics Discussed Jumping headfirst into the stepmom role and unrealistic nuclear family expectations Early struggles and searching for support/resources in blended families The impact of personal backgrounds and opposite personalities on the relationship The importance of personal growth and learning to “pick your battles” Applying (and sometimes struggling to apply) the Nacho Kids method Navigating discipline, boundaries, and the “step-back” approach The challenges of blending families with multiple children of varying ages Financial stress, family interference, and the weight of outside opinion Effects of living with extended family and oversharing with friends The process and emotional impact of separation and divorce Personal growth journeys, faith, and rediscovering oneself during time apart Rebuilding trust and repairing relationships after divorce Parenting agreements, custody changes, and relocation challenges Improving step-parent and stepchild relationships over time The renewed commitment after remarriage - setting God and teamwork at the center Advice for others: having patience, letting go of control, and embracing change The lasting importance of hope, forgiveness, and fighting for your marriage Listen and be inspired by a true story of growth, redemption, and what it means to Nacho!
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364: Surviving Estrangement: What Parents and Stepparents Need to Know
05/22/2026
364: Surviving Estrangement: What Parents and Stepparents Need to Know
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori talks with Katt Johnston, a mental health professional, educator, and content creator focused on family estrangement, emotional systems, and the impact of mental health culture on relationships. Kat shares her journey of becoming a leading voice in estrangement after a viral TikTok video, and dives deep into how therapy and societal trends can sometimes harm family relationships by over-validating discomfort rather than building resilience. Topics discussed: Nuances between genuine and manufactured discomfort leading to estrangement The devastating effects of parental alienation in stepfamilies The roles validation and social media play in conflict Advice for estranged parents and stepparents on how to cope, maintain boundaries, and support each other. The importance of pre-planning for blended family events Handling unequal treatment The need for better mental health ethics and court education on alienation. Listeners will gain insights on the importance of self-care for estranged parents, strategies to avoid further damage to family relationships, and how society and therapy culture may need to shift towards more balanced support and accountability. The episode concludes with information on Katt’s coalition for ethical mental health standards and a reminder that stepfamily life, while challenging, can still be good when you nacho.
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363: How Did We Get Here?
05/15/2026
363: How Did We Get Here?
** Disclaimer: This episode includes discussion of addiction, overdosing, and alleged inappropriate touching between a stepparent and stepchild ** In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with longtime friend Tabatha Hartman to discuss her challenging journey through grief, blending families, addiction, and parental alienation. Tabatha shares how her life changed after the loss of her ex-husband, the struggles her daughter endured, and the tough choices she faced as a mother and stepmom. The conversation delves into issues such as therapy for grieving children, navigating false allegations, maintaining boundaries, and building resilience amid chaos. Tabatha Hartman also talks about her memoir, "How Did We Get Here?", written to help others facing similar struggles. The episode offers raw, honest insight into coping with loss, healing family relationships, and the ongoing impact of addiction. In this episode, we discuss: Coping with the death of a co-parent and its effects on blended families Parenting through grief and supporting children after loss Legal battles and parental alienation within stepfamilies The impact of addiction and relapse on families Setting boundaries and making difficult decisions as a parent The journey of repairing and rebuilding fractured parent-child relationships The reality of false allegations and how to navigate them Writing as a tool for processing grief and trauma The ongoing effects of addiction and generational cycles How open communication and resilience can help families move forward
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362: Comparison Will Make You Miserable
05/08/2026
362: Comparison Will Make You Miserable
Comparisons are the Thief of Joy—But What About in Blended Families? In episode NKP362 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David dive deep into the pitfalls of comparison, especially when it comes to blended families, kids, and relationships. Listeners will hear personal stories from Lori about her son Jackson's academic achievements and the emotions that arise when comparing him to David's children. Together, Lori and David candidly discuss how easy it is to compare kids, relationships, and even possessions, leading to unnecessary feelings of inadequacy and frustration. They reveal their distinct perspectives on academic success, parenting expectations, and why it’s crucial to focus on each person's unique strengths instead of measuring up to others. In this episode: Why comparison in blended families can be harmful How Lori and David navigate differences in their children’s achievements The importance of recognizing individual strengths and backgrounds Why it’s better to compare yourself only to the person you were yesterday If you'd like to be a guest on our podcast, email us at . If you are struggling in your blend, or just want to better your blended relationships (including your relationship with your partner), join the Nacho Kids Academy at nachokidsacademy.com today! We offer one-on-one coaching and couples coaching. If you are interested, email us at to check our availability.
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361: Keep The Target Off Your Back
05/01/2026
361: Keep The Target Off Your Back
In this episode, Lori and David dig into real-life stepfamily scenarios from handling dinnertime food drama with stepkids, to discovering vapes hidden in a teenager’s room. They discuss the importance of keeping the “target off your back” as a stepparent, sharing strategies for maintaining household harmony and reducing stress, like letting dad handle his child’s plate or calmly informing the bio parent about the contraband instead of taking action yourself. The hosts get candid about how small moments can trigger deeper frustrations and how most conflicts fade with time. In this episode: Tips for reducing daily stress as a stepmom or stepdad Why “nachoing” can lead to better stepfamily relationships Creative ways to share responsibility with your partner Pros and cons of handling stepkid secrets and discipline The long-term perspective: laughing about today’s drama years down the road Heartwarming and hilarious stories from the hosts’ own experiences, including the joys of being a supportive step-parent and the misadventures of parenting
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360: Stepmom Becomes Only Legal Parent to Stepdaughter
04/24/2026
360: Stepmom Becomes Only Legal Parent to Stepdaughter
In this heartfelt episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Valerie Mills shares her remarkable story of becoming a stepmom who ultimately adopted her stepdaughter, overcoming immense obstacles and heartbreak along the way. Listeners will journey with Valerie Mills as she details the emotional and legal complexities of her family’s story, from rescuing her stepdaughter from a difficult home environment at age 7, to navigating the revolving door of foster care, facing her own battle with cancer, and overcoming domestic abuse. Hear how Valerie Mills fought for custody, the surprising ease of the adoption process as a single parent, and the pivotal moments where unconditional love triumphed over adversity. This episode covers: The unique challenges of blended families and step-parent adoption Navigating the foster care system and the importance of stability for traumatized children Open, candid discussions about mental health, resilience, and healing after trauma The power of chosen family and how more love supports a child’s growth You’ll also hear touching anecdotes about mother-daughter dynamics, ongoing struggles with biological parents, the importance of extended support systems, and practical tips for anyone considering adoption or dealing with family court. Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share this inspiring story with someone who needs to know they’re not alone on this journey!
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359: Building a Custody Case Against Narcissistic and Abusive Co-Parents
04/17/2026
359: Building a Custody Case Against Narcissistic and Abusive Co-Parents
Challenging custody battles, high-conflict co-parents, and courtroom chaos, this episode dives deep into the realities protective parents face, with real strategies for fighting for your child's best interests. Join Renee Rodriguez and her expert guest for a powerful and practical conversation. In this insightful episode, Renee Rodriguez welcomes a seasoned custody consultant, the creator of The Custody Blueprint, to discuss the complex and emotionally charged world of family court. Listeners will gain clear, actionable guidance on navigating custody disputes with high-conflict or abusive co-parents: from organizing evidence and building a compelling case to understanding the dynamics of narcissistic behavior, dealing with biased or uninformed legal professionals, and securing the best outcome for their children. Key topics include: What it really means to be a "protective parent" versus being labeled "high-conflict" Why 50/50 custody isn't always in the child's best interest Strategies for collecting and presenting the right evidence in court The critical importance of clear, specific parenting plans The emotional and systemic hurdles parents face, and how to overcome them You’ll also hear real-life experiences from both the host and her guest, covering issues like breastfeeding and overnight custody, medical neglect, and the challenges of getting the court to see behind the facade of an abusive co-parent. Guest Links & Resources: Website:
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358: Mother's Day Doesn't Have to Suck
04/10/2026
358: Mother's Day Doesn't Have to Suck
Mother’s Day is almost here, and stepmoms everywhere are bracing for the rollercoaster of emotions that this Hallmark holiday can bring. In this honest, lighthearted episode, Lori & David break down the myths, expectations, and real stories behind recognition, or lack thereof, on Mother’s Day and Stepmother’s Day in blended families. In this episode: Why communication about expectations is crucial (hint: don’t assume your partner or stepkids know what you want!) How to navigate feelings of disappointment or being overlooked, and practical tips to prevent “getting butt hurt twice” Real-life experiences with gifts, love languages, and candid stories about not being recognized—and creative ways stepmoms can celebrate themselves The history behind Mother’s Day and why even its founder came to regret it Advice on handling grief and mixed emotions if you’re missing your own mom or struggling with the holiday Whether you’re a stepmom, stepdad, or simply navigating new traditions in your blended family, this is your annual reminder to communicate with your partner, lower expectations and appreciate yourself for all you do.
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