The Nacho Kids Podcast: Blended Family Lifesaver
Stepfamilies and blended families are very challenging. With a failure rate of over 70%, it's clear that blended families need help. Nacho Kids founders and blended family coaches, Lori and David Sims, are here to help blended families save their sanity and relationships. You'll hear the hosts and guests discuss the struggles and successes of blended family life and learn how the Nacho Kids Method is changing lives and saving relationships around the world.
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328: Don't Have Conversations When You Are...
09/12/2025
328: Don't Have Conversations When You Are...
Feeling tired, hangry, or just out of sorts? This week on the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into how emotions like hunger, anger, loneliness, and exhaustion can derail crucial conversations in blended families - and what to do about it. In this candid and witty episode, Lori and David unpack the HALT method (Hungry, Angry, Lonely, Tired), sharing personal stories and practical tips for recognizing when you're not in the right headspace for tough talks with your partner or stepkids. You'll learn why it's so important to hit pause on those "serious" discussions when emotions are running high, how quick wit and sarcasm can be double-edged swords, and why self-awareness and communication are crucial for stepfamily harmony. Plus, Lori gets real about her bandwidth, menopause mood swings, and the importance of being kind - even when family members aren’t! Listeners will walk away with: A deeper understanding of how emotions affect stepfamily dynamics Concrete tips for using the HALT method before crucial conversations Relatable humor, self-reflection, and the importance of knowing your limits Don’t forget to visit for more resources, and follow Nacho Kids on and .
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327: Stepmom Says Just To Shut Up
09/05/2025
327: Stepmom Says Just To Shut Up
Struggling with the challenges of blending families? Discover practical ways to set healthy boundaries and rediscover yourself in stepfamily life! In Episode NKP327 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, host Lori welcomes Heather, a stepmom navigating her first year in the blending trenches. Heather opens up about her journey from confident “super stepmom” to being overwhelmed by unrealistic expectations - especially around food, household chores, and parenting differences. She shares how discovering the Nacho Kids approach helped her step back, reduce resentment, repair relationships, and reclaim her joy. Listeners will learn: Why even experienced parents can feel blindsided by blending families How the pressure to be a perfect stepmom creates unnecessary stress The transformative power of “nachoing”—letting go, stepping back, and focusing on your role as a supportive partner rather than a replacement parent Strategies for addressing common stepfamily struggles, like different household routines and conflicting parenting styles The importance of self-care, healthy communication, and seeing situations from the stepchild’s perspective Heather’s story is relatable, candid, and full of “aha!” moments for anyone in a blended family. Whether you’re a new stepparent or a veteran, this conversation will inspire you to find more peace in your home. Listen now and remember: Life is good when you Nacho! Nacho Kids Testimonial: My stepdaughter still ignores me, and I’m fine. That’s the Nacho shift. ~ H.P., New York, NY, USA
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326: Guilty Parent Syndrome
08/29/2025
326: Guilty Parent Syndrome
Struggling to understand why your partner “guilty parents”, or noticing it in yourself? This episode dives deep into what “Guilty Parent Syndrome” (GPS) is, why it’s so common in blended families, and how partners can navigate it with empathy and confidence. In Episode #326 of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David get real about guilty parent syndrome: when guilt affects how parents discipline or interact with their kids, often leading to inconsistent boundaries, indulgence, or fear of “losing” time or connection. Lori and David share their personal experiences of “parenting through guilt,” offer practical scenarios from stepfamily life (like inconsistent discipline or “guilty gift-giving”), and explain why this isn’t just a stepfamily phenomenon. They break down why GPS can hit bio-parents so hard and why stepparents, especially those without children, may have trouble truly “getting it.” You’ll learn why empathy, communication, and realistic expectations are essential for healthier co-parenting and happier homes. Want to go deeper? Check out Nacho Kids resources, join the Nacho Kids Academy, or connect on social media.
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325: One Stepkid's Journey
08/22/2025
325: One Stepkid's Journey
Discover what happens when a blended family actually flourishes. Yes, it’s possible! In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with a remarkable teenage stepkid who shares his rare, positive perspective on navigating life with divorced parents, stepfamilies, and even step-siblings. Listeners will get an inside look at what healthy co-parenting looks like through the eyes of an easygoing stepkid who has strong, drama-free relationships with his stepmom and stepdad. You’ll hear firsthand accounts of adapting to living in two homes, forming real bonds with step-siblings, and what happens when boundaries and respect are mutual between parents and step-parents. He opens up about the hardest parts of his parents’ divorce, how therapy helped, and why he recognizes his stepparents on Mother’s and Father’s Day (yes, really!). This episode reveals not only practical tips for parents and stepparents, like the importance of strong communication, setting boundaries, and letting kids emotionally process big changes, but also offers hope that peaceful blended families do exist. Plus, you’ll hear touching anecdotes about handling holidays, family traditions, and even what to do if your parents get along so well their new partners become friends! What you’ll learn: What helps stepkids develop strong bonds with stepparents How living arrangements impact stepkid/stepparent dynamics The importance of boundaries, communication, and therapy after divorce Handling holidays and traditions in blended families Real stories of stepkid/stepfamily relationships that actually work Links: Check out our website and blogs: Follow Nacho Kids on Facebook: Join the Nacho Kids Academy: Listen to NKP325 for an inspiring dose of hope, and a reminder that peace and love are possible in stepfamilies. Don’t forget to subscribe and leave a review to support more real-life blended family stories! Nacho Kids Testimony: Coaching with Lori pulled us back from the edge of divorce. ~ J.F., Chicago, IL USA
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324: When The Stepkids Lie
08/14/2025
324: When The Stepkids Lie
Laugh your way through the ups and downs of blended family life in Episode 324 of the Nacho Kids Podcast! Hosts David and Lori bring their signature humor and honesty to a fresh discussion about the realities of stepfamily dynamics—proving it’s always a hot mess, but never without a laugh. In this episode, you’ll: Get a behind-the-scenes glimpse into David and Lori’s relationship as they share candid moments and jokes about married life in a blended family. Hear how they transform challenging topics—like issues around stepkids and “family sucking otherwise”—into opportunities for connection and laughter. Feel validated if you’ve ever struggled with tough family topics, as the hosts keep things real while still making space for joy and fun. Although there’s no featured guest in this episode, David and Lori’s chemistry and honest banter will make you feel like you’re sitting at the kitchen table with old friends. This episode is perfect for anyone navigating the stepparent journey or looking for a little comic relief in the midst of family chaos. Don’t forget to subscribe, share your favorite moment, and leave us a review so we can keep spreading the laughter! Find more episodes and resources: Website: Facebook: Instagram: Join the Nacho Kids community and turn your “hot mess” into your happy place!
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323: Emotional Regulation With Michaela Bucchianeri
08/08/2025
323: Emotional Regulation With Michaela Bucchianeri
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, host Lori welcomes back Michaela Bucchianeri to explore emotional regulation, a crucial skill for every stepmom and stepfamily member. Michaela breaks down the myth that emotions are the enemy and shares actionable tips for managing stress responses like fight, flight, and fawn. Discover practical tools for building emotional vocabulary, reframing negative thoughts, and intentionally choosing which situations to engage in. Learn why emotional awareness is vital in step-parenting, how to avoid people-pleasing traps, and ways to protect your mental and physical health from chronic stress. Perfect for stepmoms seeking healthier relationships, self-regulation, and a happier blended family life. Key elements: Emotions aren’t the enemy - learn to work with them, not suppress them. Stress responses (fight, flight, freeze, fawn) and their impact on stepfamily life. Ways to expand emotional vocabulary for better self-awareness and communication. Tips for reframing situations to reduce conflict and emotional overwhelm. The importance of intentionally choosing situations to protect your emotional energy. How people-pleasing and over-functioning can cause long-term burnout. Actionable self-regulation techniques to support your health and stepfamily dynamics. Perfect for stepmoms and blended families seeking actionable advice on emotional wellness, setting boundaries, and strengthening relationships. #stepmomlife #emotionregulation #blendedfamilytips Resources Mentioned Nacho Parenting Testimonial: I stopped crying in the bathroom after coaching with Lori. I finally feel like “ME” again. Forever Grateful! S.B., Nashville, TN, USA
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322: Don't Get Divorced Over Dirty Dishes
08/01/2025
322: Don't Get Divorced Over Dirty Dishes
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into the everyday challenges stepparents face, using real-life examples from their blended family. From disputes over GPS navigation and vacuum cleaner filters to the ongoing “dishes dilemma,” the couple offers a candid, humorous look into the emotional triggers that can arise in blended households. Lori emphasizes how the Nacho Method not only reduces stress within the stepfamily dynamic but also helps handle life’s daily annoyances more calmly. Whether it’s tackling chores, navigating relationships with stepkids, or learning to nacho stressful moments, this episode delivers actionable tips for maintaining peace and sanity in your blended family. Key Topics: Handling household chores and responsibilities Communication and conflict in relationships Role imbalance in blended families Emotional responses and stress management Finding practical solutions for daily frustrations Nacho Kids Academy Testimonial: This Academy didn't only help my blend, it helped ME! ~ S.D., Melbourne, Australia #NachoKids #StepfamilyAdvice #BlendedFamilyStress
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321: One Big Happy Family ~ Stepmom and Bio Mom are Friends
07/25/2025
321: One Big Happy Family ~ Stepmom and Bio Mom are Friends
In this insightful episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, host Lori sits down with a unique duo - a biomom and stepmom who have successfully navigated the challenges of a blended family to become good friends. With over 11 years in their blend, the stepmom and the biomom discuss how they overcame early co-parenting hurdles, managed shifting visitation schedules, and built a friendship rooted in mutual respect and the well-being of the children. Listeners get a candid look at real-life co-parenting dynamics, from open communication and handling tough emotions to supporting each other through life’s challenges, like divorce and a child’s medical needs. Tune in to hear their firsthand advice on keeping the kids’ best interests at the center while fostering harmony between households. Perfect for anyone seeking real-world tips on blending families, building trust with co-parents, and maintaining respectful boundaries in a stepfamily dynamic. In this episode we discuss: Building Positive Stepmom and Biomom Relationships Co-parenting and Communication Challenges Navigating Divorce and Blended Family Dynamics Prioritizing Children's Well-being and Stability Support Systems During Family and Health Crisis #BlendedFamily #CoParentingSuccess #NachoKidsPodcast Nacho Success Story: “We stopped arguing about parenting once I stopped parenting kids that weren’t mine.” ~ R.P., San Diego, CA, USA
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320: Send Those Kids Back to School
07/18/2025
320: Send Those Kids Back to School
Navigating back-to-school season in a blended family? 🎒 In this Nacho Kids podcast episode, hosts Lori and David dive deep into the real-life challenges and lessons learned when sharing school supply costs, managing homework stress, and setting healthy boundaries between bio and step-parents. They share why splitting school expenses can be tricky, discuss the importance of clear agreements, and offer practical tips on handling school-related responsibilities without unnecessary conflict. Whether you're a bio parent, step-parent, or co-parent, this insightful conversation is packed with relatable experiences and advice to help you start the school year peacefully and set your family up for success. #BlendedFamily #BackToSchool #ParentingTips #NachoKidsPodcast #CoParenting Listen in to transform your school year stress into teamwork and understanding!
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319: Billie Tarascio Shares Her Blended Journey
07/11/2025
319: Billie Tarascio Shares Her Blended Journey
In this must-listen episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David Sims chat with guest Billie Tarascio, a family law attorney and now full-time stepmom. Billie gets real about the challenges and surprises that come with blending families, such as unexpectedly gaining full-time stepkids and managing life with seven kids in the house. Listeners will gain practical step-parenting tips on setting boundaries, embracing different parenting styles, coping with custody uncertainties, and using the Nacho Kids method. They also discuss stepmom roles, loyalty binds, handling exes, and the importance of self-care in blended families. Great for anyone navigating the complexities of stepfamily life! Connect: | #BlendedFamily #StepParenting #NachoKids
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318: Therapists Don't Know Everything
07/04/2025
318: Therapists Don't Know Everything
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori and David dive into the topic of therapists and their understanding of/lack of understanding of Nacho Parenting. After a member of their Facebook group shares a story about being "fired" by a therapist for following the Nacho Kids method, Lori and David break down the misconceptions therapists may have about stepfamilies and the Nacho approach. They share real-life comments, discuss the importance of finding a therapist who truly understands blended family dynamics, and clarify that nachoing isn’t just about disengagement or ignoring issues—it’s about mental health, self-care, and improving relationships for everyone in the family. If you’ve ever felt misunderstood by a professional or want to know how to vet the right support for your stepfamily, this episode is for you! In this episode, we discuss: Misunderstandings of Nacho Parenting Nacho Parenting and Mental Health Triggers, Emotions, and Family Dynamics The Role of Therapists and Vetting Therapists When Therapists Get It Wrong Nacho Kids Success Story: "I thought Nachoing meant not caring. Now I see it’s the most loving thing I could’ve done—for all of us." - T.R. Alberta, Canada Timestamps 00:00 Therapists: Strengths, Weaknesses, Experience 04:01 Therapists' Dilemma with "Nacho" Method 06:31 "Misguided Research Practices" 11:48 Negative Self-Talk Unhealthy Comparison 15:24 Understanding Effective Family Roles 17:22 "Realizing My Impact on Others" 22:07 Vetting Your Therapist 23:47 Therapist Dispute Over Parenting Concerns 26:35 "Find Your Family Support Method" Resources
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317: Laura Petherbridge ~ Stepfamilies of the Bible
06/27/2025
317: Laura Petherbridge ~ Stepfamilies of the Bible
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori is joined by the renowned “Smart Stepmom,” Laura Petherbridge, to discuss her latest book, Step Families of the Bible. Laura shares powerful insights into how stepfamilies of the Bible mirror the struggles of today’s stepfamilies. Drawing on biblical stories, she reveals how universal emotions like jealousy, loyalty, and anger shaped stepfamily dynamics both then and now. Listeners will gain invaluable wisdom on handling stepmom challenges, parent/child bonds, step-sibling rivalries, and the importance of empathy, grace, and boundaries in blended families. If you’re looking for real talk, practical advice, and spiritual encouragement in your blended family journey, this episode is a must-listen! #NachoKids #BlendedFamilies #StepFamilyWisdom Resources Mentioned Nacho Parenting Testimonial: "Joining Nacho Kids Academy saved my sanity. I finally understand my role and don’t feel guilty stepping back." K.M., Ohio
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316: Coping With Codependent Behavior From Your Partner’s Ex
06/20/2025
316: Coping With Codependent Behavior From Your Partner’s Ex
Are you struggling with codependent behaviors between your partner and their ex, especially when it affects your blended family? In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David tackle a listener’s question about how to handle situations where her partner's ex relies on him for trivial tasks related to the kids. Discover practical tips on communicating concerns with your partner using the proven “FBI statement” method, which focuses on sharing feelings, naming behaviors, and clarifying the impact on your relationship. Lori and David also explore the difference between insecurity and legitimate boundaries, offering actionable solutions for common co-parenting frustrations. Don’t miss their insights on navigating jealousy, setting healthy boundaries, and how resources like the Nacho Kids Academy and one-on-one coaching can transform your blended family experience. #BlendedFamily #CoParenting #NachoKids
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315: Macaroni And Cheese, Cats, and Teenage Stepkids
06/13/2025
315: Macaroni And Cheese, Cats, and Teenage Stepkids
Welcome to another episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! Today, Lori and David are joined by returning guests Crystal and Mike, who open up about blending their family over the past nine years. With two teens of totally opposite temperaments, Crystal and Mike share their experiences juggling an ambitious daughter and an unmotivated son, while trying to balance structure, independence, and support. They discuss the evolution of “nachoing” as stepparents, how they manage the messier parts of teenage life, and the ongoing challenges of co-parenting across two very different households. Crystal and Mike’s story is funny, real, and packed with lessons for any blended family. If you’re navigating the ups and downs of raising stepkids, especially during the teen years, this episode delivers wisdom, laughs, and reassurance that you’re not alone. Let’s jump in! In this episode, we discuss: Parenting Challenges with Teenagers Nacho Parenting Experience Household Rules and Responsibilities Step-Parent and Stepchild Relationships Takeaway: Blending a family isn’t a one-time challenge; it’s an ongoing journey that requires flexibility, patience, and a good sense of humor as kids grow and life changes. Resources Mentioned: Nacho Parenting Testimonial: “I used to walk on eggshells. Now I walk in peace. Thanks Nacho Kids!!” ~ A.N., Charlotte, NC, USA and be reminded that life is good when you Nacho!
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314: Fairness And Conflict in the Blended Family
06/06/2025
314: Fairness And Conflict in the Blended Family
Explore the complexities of blending families, including navigating different parenting styles, sibling rivalry vs. bullying, and the challenge of being fair with both biological and stepchildren. Lori & David share practical advice on empowering kids to handle conflicts, the realities of “fairness” in stepfamily life, and why adult behavior matters just as much as the kids’. Tune in for relatable stories, honest reflections, and tools to help your own blend thrive! In this episode, we discuss: Biases and Parental Perception "Tit for Tat" Dynamics and Parental Stalemates Exploring Resentment & Underlying Issues The Reality of Fairness in Blended Families Takeaway: Being 100% "fair" between biological and stepchildren is extremely difficult, if not impossible, given the natural biases and different relationships. Resources Mentioned Nacho Parenting Testimonial: “I now understand what Lori means when she says she Nachos Walmart! I’m Nachoing so much!! Life is Great!l.” ~ R.K., MI
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313: Daryl Potter ~ Something More: Living Well In A Broken World
05/30/2025
313: Daryl Potter ~ Something More: Living Well In A Broken World
On this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori welcomes Daryl Potter, a Canadian banker and published author, for a conversation that takes us far beyond the typical stepfamily story. Daryl isn’t a member of a blended family himself, but his experience raising a child with two extremely rare medical conditions has given him a unique perspective on navigating “irregular” family dynamics and finding beauty in unexpected places. Daryl opens up about his 28-year marriage, the cultural mosaic of his household, and the challenges and profound blessings of caring for his daughter, who is the only person in the world with her combination of diagnoses. He shares how his family has had to rewrite the script on everything from holidays to family vacations, and how his son has learned life skills and empathy far beyond his years. Throughout the episode, Daryl and Lori delve into themes of grief, acceptance, reframing success, and the importance of not comparing pain, reminding us that everyone’s journey holds its own weight, no matter how “broken” it may appear from the outside. Daryl’s story is a powerful reminder that, whether you’re in a stepfamily or not, every family must find its own version of normal and discover joy, purpose, and connection along the way. In this episode, we discuss: Coping with and Managing a Severely Disabled Child Grief and Adapting to a "broken" or Non-traditional Family Impact on Siblings: The "Leftover" Dynamic Finding Meaning and Perspective in Suffering and Difference Key Advice for Parents Facing Disability or Blended Family Challenges Nacho Parenting Success Stories: “The biggest surprise? The kids are actually happier now. I stepped back, let go of the pressure, and our entire home changed for the better.” ~ S.C., California, USA
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312: Sacrifices In Stepfamilies
05/23/2025
312: Sacrifices In Stepfamilies
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today’s episode, Lori and David dive deep into the realities of sacrifice within stepfamilies. Lori shares a heartfelt personal story about giving up a long-awaited lunch with a friend to help her stepson, Ethan, navigate buying a car, a perfect example of the countless everyday choices stepfamilies make for each other. Together, Lori and David discuss how sacrifice isn’t just about doing things for your own kids, but often includes stepkids and even partners. They challenge the misconception that “nachoing” means not caring or refusing to help, and explain how setting boundaries can actually strengthen relationships and protect your mental health. The hosts also touch on stepfamily celebrations, like Stepmother’s Day, the importance of not keeping score, and why caring for your own well-being is essential. Join Lori and David as they get real about being kind, both to others and to yourself, and find out why sometimes, the healthiest choice is to Nacho. In this episode, we discuss: Reflections on Sacrifice In Stepfamilies Nacho Parenting and Relationship Nuances The Importance (and Limits)of Sacrifice Emotional Realtities and Acceptance Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: "Having my stepkids full-time was overwhelming. I felt like I had to step up and fill shoes that weren’t mine, and it nearly broke me. Nachoing showed me that I can support their mom without trying to be their dad. Now there’s less stress, more peace, and the start of real trust growing between us." ~ Todd, WI
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311: Blend Don't Break - Chad M. Brignac
05/16/2025
311: Blend Don't Break - Chad M. Brignac
On today’s episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with Chad Bignac, transformationist, consultant, author, and coauthor of the new book “Blend, Don’t Break.” Drawing from over 22 years of blended family experience, Chad opens up about the challenges he and his wife faced merging their families after personal tragedies, including the loss of his first wife and his current wife’s ex-husband. Chad shares candidly about the painful missteps and valuable lessons learned along their journey, from clashing parenting styles and personal assumptions to the importance of unity, compassion, and self-growth. He details the turning point in his family’s story, catalyzed by his wife’s severe health crisis, and how choosing to respond rather than react helped heal deep family rifts. Through heartfelt stories and practical wisdom, Chad emphasizes the power of compassion, influence over authority, and the need to unpack old emotional baggage before starting anew. Whether you’re in a blended family or looking for guidance on overcoming personal and family struggles, this episode offers honest insights and hope for healing and connection. In this episode, we discuss: - Early Challenges in Blending - Authority vs. Influence in Parenting - Becoming a “Student of Your Children” - Creating Environments for Healing in Blended Families - Advice for Prospective Stepfamilies Nacho Kids Success Story: I thought stepping up meant stepping all the way in, but it was destroying me. As a stepdad, I believed it was my job to take the lead and fix everything. I disciplined, managed homework, scheduled appointments… and got nothing but pushback. My wife and I were constantly arguing, and I felt like an outsider in my own home. Then we found Nacho Kids. Learning to Nacho helped me stop parenting by proxy and start supporting my wife as her partner, not as a replacement dad. The stress lifted, and surprisingly, my stepkids started warming up to me once I stepped out of the power struggle. Nacho Kids didn’t just change our home, it gave me my peace back. ~Mark T., Stepdad of 2
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310: Disrespect in Stepfamilies
05/09/2025
310: Disrespect in Stepfamilies
Welcome back to another episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today’s show, Lori and David dive into a challenge faced by many blended families: What happens when one partner feels that their stepchild is being disrespectful, and the biological parent doesn’t step in? Kicking things off with a listener's heartfelt question, Lori and David unpack the complexities of stepkids shouting or insulting their stepparent and stepsibling, as well as the tension that arises when boundaries and respect are on the line. Throughout the episode, they discuss practical strategies for handling disrespect without overstepping boundaries, the importance of focusing on your own responses, and how to talk to your partner about these challenging issues without stirring up more conflict. The hosts also highlight why sibling (and step-sibling) rivalry can sometimes be just as much about building bonds as it is about butting heads, and why letting kids work out their differences can lead to healthier relationships in the long run. Whether you're a parent, stepparent, or somewhere in between, today's episode offers real-life insights and actionable advice on navigating respect and boundaries in a blended family. Grab your headphones and get ready to "nacho" your way to a happier home! In this episode, we discuss: Nacho Parenting Philosophy in Conflict Scenarios Responding to Disrespect from Stepchildren Perceptions of Respect and Boundaries Stepparent vs. Biological Parent Discipline Dynamics Navigating Sibling and Stepsibling Relationships Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: "Nacho Kids Academy saved my sanity and my marriage. It took a little while because my husband wasn’t happy with me Nachoing. He didn’t understand it. But once he saw the positive changes from my Nachoing, he couldn’t deny that Nachoing was changing things for the better.” ~ Ellison - Happy stepmom in TX
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309: Blending With Autism
05/02/2025
309: Blending With Autism
On today’s episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori sits down with "Bookworm Stepmom," for a heartfelt and engaging conversation about navigating the highs and lows of blended family life. Stepmom opens up about her journey from single and childless to stepmom of two girls and mom to two more young children, one of whom is autistic. They dig into the realities of co-parenting with an ex, maintaining balance in a blended household, and how stepmom’s personal experiences as a stepchild shape her compassionate approach to stepmotherhood. From honest discussions about the challenges of special needs parenting and managing finances for the future, to candid stories about family dynamics, Bookworm Stepmom shares wisdom, humor, and practical tips for anyone in a blended family. Whether you’re a stepparent, bio parent, or just love an honest family story, this episode is packed with lessons and laughs you won’t want to miss! In this episode, we discuss: Expanding the family with "ours" kids Dealing with high-conflict and jealousy Navigating divorce, affairs, and co-parenting Parenting Special Needs ("Ours") Child Financial planning and inheritance in Blended Families Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: I Didn't Need to Leave - I Just Needed to Nacho I was emotionally exhausted, constantly fighting invisible battles in my own home. My stepkids ignored me, my partner seemed stuck in the middle, and every day felt like I was losing a piece of myself. I thought the only way to find peace was to leave. Then I found the Nacho Kids Academy. At first, I was skeptical - how could not parenting actually help? But the step-by-step guidance, real-life examples, and support inside the Academy opened my eyes. I learned how to let go of the responsibilities that were never mine to begin with. I stopped trying to fix things I didn’t break. And I finally started healing. The results? Less tension. More laughter. A stronger marriage. And oddly enough, a better connection with my stepkids now that I’ve stepped back. Nachoing didn’t mean giving up. It meant choosing peace—and I’ll never look back. If you're struggling, this isn't just a course. It's a lifeline." ~ Jessica T. - A now happy stepmom! Thanks Nacho!
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308: Graduations And Stepfamilies
04/25/2025
308: Graduations And Stepfamilies
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids Podcast! In this heartfelt and relatable episode, hosts David and Lori dive into the annual struggle of graduation ticket allocations. With only a handful of coveted seats for high school and college ceremonies, blended and extended families are often left negotiating who gets a spot in the audience—and who doesn’t. Through personal stories and a bit of humor, David and Lori explore the emotional minefield that limited tickets can create for parents, step-parents, grandparents, and, most importantly, the graduates themselves. They emphasize the importance of keeping the celebration focused on the students and share creative ideas for making everyone feel included, even if they can’t physically be at the ceremony. Whether it’s planning an after-party or tuning in to a livestream, they remind listeners that graduation is about honoring the kids without piling on extra stress. Join them as they navigate one of the tricky realities of modern family life. In this episode, we discuss: Graduation Ticket Challenges Emotional Impact on Graduates and Families Solutions When Tickets are Limited Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: "Before finding Nacho Kids Academy, I was on the verge of leaving my marriage. I loved my husband, but the constant tension with his kids and the drama with the ex was tearing me apart. I felt like I was walking on eggshells in my own home, trying to parent kids who didn’t want me there. Joining Nacho Kids Academy was a game-changer. I learned how to step back without stepping away, how to Nacho the things that weren’t my responsibility and focus on my relationship with my husband and myself. The coaching calls, the community, the step-by-step layers, it all gave me tools I didn’t even know I needed. Now, my home feels peaceful again. I can show up as a loving partner without feeling like I’m constantly battling for space or respect. And the best part? My relationship with my stepkids has actually improved because I’m no longer forcing something that wasn’t working. If you’re a stepparent feeling overwhelmed, stuck, or ready to give up, please, do yourself a favor and join Nacho Kids Academy. It saved my marriage and my sanity." - Sarah M., Stepmom of 2
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307: Lisa Wilson ~ A History of Stepfamilies in Early America
04/18/2025
307: Lisa Wilson ~ A History of Stepfamilies in Early America
In this enlightening episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, we explore the fascinating world of stepfamilies in American history with our special guest, Lisa Wilson, the esteemed author of "A History of Stepfamilies in Early America." Lisa shares her journey of uncovering the untold stories and patterns of stepfamilies, reflecting on her personal experiences as a member of such a family. Delving into historical dynamics, Lisa discusses how the perception and roles within stepfamilies have evolved over centuries, from the challenges of integrating into what was once an emotionally-focused family model to combating age-old prejudices against stepmothers. Lori and David, our hosts, invite listeners to a thoughtful conversation about the societal shifts that have affected family structures, highlighting the continuity of certain challenges stepfamilies face today, reminiscent of those from the 18th century. They touch on topics like the legal rights of step-parents, the economic considerations of remarriage, and even the portrayal of stepparents in popular culture. Join us as we navigate this intriguing historical landscape, uncovering insights that resonate with modern stepfamilies and fostering a greater understanding of how these blended households have always been a fundamental part of the American family fabric. In this episode, we discuss: Historical context of stepfamilies Stepparents' challenges and shifts in family dynamics Societal perceptions and misconceptions Modern Community and family structures Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: “I thought I had tried everything. Books, blogs, even therapy, but nothing helped me feel less like an outsider in my own home. Then I found Nacho Kids Academy. Within weeks, the stress in our home dropped dramatically. I finally understood that I didn’t have to fix everything or be the 'bonus mom of the year.' I learned how to support my partner without losing myself. The daily tension? Gone. The constant guilt? Lifted. The relationship with my stepkids isn’t perfect, but for the first time, it’s not painful. Nacho Kids gave me my peace and my power back.”- Sarah M., Stepmom of 3 and Proud Nacho’er
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306: Easter In Stepfamilies
04/11/2025
306: Easter In Stepfamilies
Welcome to this episode of the NK Podcast, where hosts Lori and David dive into the intricacies of celebrating Easter within stepfamilies. The holiday season can be a delightful time, but it also brings unique challenges when navigating custody schedules and traditions in blended families. In this episode, Lori and David share personal anecdotes and practical advice on how to manage these situations, offering creative solutions for celebrating Easter, even if it's not on the traditional date. They'll also discuss the importance of setting and respecting court-ordered holiday arrangements and the concept of life not always being 'fair' – a valuable lesson for kids in stepfamilies. Whether it's creating new family traditions or creatively handling gift-giving, Lori and David provide insightful tips for a harmonious holiday experience. So, grab a cup of coffee, sit back, and let's explore how to navigate Easter in a stepfamily with grace and flexibility. In this episode, we discuss: Challenges During Easter in Step Families Fairness in Gift Giving Traditions and Adaptations Handling Emotional Challenges Life Lessons Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: “Been There Done That” "I thought I had this stepparenting thing down. My first blend was a breeze—we all got along, and everything just seemed to fall into place. So when I got into my current relationship, I assumed it would be the same. I was so wrong. From loyalty binds to feeling like an outsider in my own home, I was drowning in stress and resentment. That’s when I found Nacho Kids. Learning how to step back, redefine my role, and let go of what I can’t control has been life-changing. Nacho Parenting helped me breathe again. I’m no longer walking on eggshells or trying to fix everything. I finally feel peace in my home—and in my heart." ~ C.B. from NY
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305: The Good Divorce Coach ~ Karen McNenny
04/04/2025
305: The Good Divorce Coach ~ Karen McNenny
Welcome to another enlightening episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast! In today's episode, hosts Lori and David welcome the insightful Karen McNenny, also known as the Good Divorce Coach. Karen joins us to challenge the traditional narrative of divorce as a conflict-ridden process. She introduces the concept of a 'good divorce,' presenting it as a tool, rather than a weapon, to transform family dynamics positively. Karen shares her personal journey and the genesis of her coaching business, emphasizing the importance of reshaping the divorce experience to focus on protecting future relationships, especially for those who co-parent. Tune in as we explore how thoughtful, intentional divorce processes can lead to a more harmonious family structure, even across two homes. Get ready to shift your perspective on divorce and discover how this transformation can ease not only the divorce process but also foster a healthier blended family dynamic. Enjoy the show! In this episode, we discuss: Concept of a Good Divorce Parenting and Communication Post-Divorce Introduction of New Partners Maintaining Healthy Boundaries Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: I Thought Divorce Was the Only Option "I thought my marriage was doomed. My wife and I couldn’t agree on anything when it came to her kids. Every argument ended with one of us saying, ‘Maybe this just isn’t going to work.’ Then we found Nacho Kids. I realized that my role wasn’t to discipline or fix anything - it was to support my wife as she parents her kids. The shift in our home was almost instant. The tension disappeared. The kids were happier, my wife wasn’t stuck in the middle, and I could actually enjoy being in my own home again. If we hadn’t found Nacho Kids, we wouldn’t be together today. It’s that simple.” - Mike R., Virginia, USA
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304: Nacho Parenting: It’s Not About Ignoring Step Kids
03/28/2025
304: Nacho Parenting: It’s Not About Ignoring Step Kids
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, hosts Lori and David dive into the often misunderstood concept of "nacho parenting." They start by addressing a common question: Does nachoing mean ignoring your stepkids? Lori shares her own journey of using nacho parenting to navigate difficult dynamics with her stepchildren, emphasizing that it's more about choosing not to engage rather than ignoring. Lori and David explain how this approach helped improve their family interactions. With anecdotes and guidance, Lori and David provide a deeper understanding of how nacho parenting can lead to healthier and happier blended families. Join them as they dispel myths and offer strategies to help stepfamilies thrive. In this episode, we discuss: Importance of Not Engaging Emotional Management Flexibility in Nacho Parenting Handling Disrespect from Stepkids You never Nacho safety Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: I Was at My Breaking Point - Nacho Saved My Life "I don’t say this lightly—Nacho Parenting saved my life. I was drowning in anxiety and depression because I felt like a failure as a stepmom. No matter what I did, I was met with rejection, and it ate away at my self-worth. I started having thoughts that scared me. That’s when I found Nacho Kids. It completely changed how I saw my role. I stopped trying to be someone I wasn’t meant to be and learned to set healthy emotional boundaries. For the first time in years, I feel free. I feel like myself again. And because I took care of myself, my marriage and stepfamily relationships have improved naturally. Nacho Kids didn’t just save my marriage—it saved me.” - Jessica K.
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303: Affairs Create Stepfamilies
03/21/2025
303: Affairs Create Stepfamilies
Hey, Nacho Parents! In this episode, we dive into the whirlwind story of a step couple who faced some major challenges blending their families. They've got a history that goes way back, but things got complicated when their relationship rekindled as an affair. Now, they're dealing with the fallout, especially with one of the kids knowing about the affair. The catch? This kid has no idea that her mom actually cheated first, causing a whole lot of tension and misunderstandings. Join us as we break down how this couple is managing to mend relationships, navigate the truths and misconceptions, and work towards a harmonious future together. You won't want to miss this one! In this episode, we discuss: Lies cause damage Disagreements on household rules and enforcement Consequences of affairs on family dynamics Do you set the record straight? Should you tell your kid the truth about your ex - their bio parent? Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: “I Was Ready to Walk Away—Now We’re Stronger Than Ever” "Before I found Nacho Kids, I was on the verge of leaving my marriage. The resentment, the constant fights over parenting, and feeling like an outsider in my own home had worn me down. I thought I had to be a ‘parent’ to my stepkids, but all it did was create conflict and push me further from my husband. Learning to Nacho gave me permission to step back, focus on my marriage, and let go of what wasn’t mine to fix. Now, instead of fighting over stepfamily issues, my husband and I are a team again. This method didn’t just save my marriage—it saved my sanity.” ~ Emily S. - USA
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302: Mother's Day Doesn't Have To Suck For Stepmoms
03/14/2025
302: Mother's Day Doesn't Have To Suck For Stepmoms
Welcome back to the Nacho Kids podcast! In this episode, titled "Mother's Day Doesn't Have To Suck For Stepmoms/Stepfamilies," hosts David and Lori dive into the complex dynamics of navigating Mother's Day as a stepparent. With Mother's Day just around the corner, they tackle the often-sensitive issue of unmet expectations and the potential for hurt feelings. Lori and David offer practical advice for stepparents on setting boundaries and communicating desires with their partners, the importance of self-care, and how to embrace Stepmother's Day. The hosts also explore the pitfalls of comparison and emphasize the significance of creating one's happiness. So, join David and Lori as they bring a mix of heartfelt insights and light-hearted banter, aimed to make this Mother's Day a cherished occasion for everyone involved. In this episode, we discuss: Navigating expectations as a stepmom on Mother's Day Stepmother's Day Focusing on yourself Avoiding comparisons Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: The Stepmom Who Thought 'Nachoing' Meant Ignoring "At first, I thought Nachoing meant just ignoring my stepkids, but Nacho Kids Academy taught me that it’s really about setting boundaries, respecting my role, and creating a healthier family dynamic. Once I stepped back, I was shocked at how much better my marriage and my relationship with my stepkids became. It turns out, they actually like me better when I’m not trying to parent them!" ~ Amanda R.
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301: Stepmom Didn't Want Kids - Audio
03/07/2025
301: Stepmom Didn't Want Kids - Audio
In this episode of the Nacho Kids Podcast, Lori Sims welcomes Mae, a stepmom navigating the challenging dynamics of her blended family. Mae lives with her partner, their two-year-old child, and her partner's kids—a 13-year-old girl and a 10-year-old boy. Mae shares the trials she's faced stepping into a maternal role, dealing with stepchildren full-time due to their mother's sporadic involvement. Tune in as she candidly discusses the struggle of balancing her partner’s expectations, managing her stepson's anger issues, and finding harmony through the Nacho Kids method. Whether you're a new stepmom or have been in the role for years, Mae’s story offers relatable insights and genuine conversation about creating a cohesive family. Join us as we dive into these real-life stories, real people, and real help in blending families! In this episode, we discuss: Behavioral Challenges with Stepson Challenges of Disengagement Managing Emotions and Responsibilities Honesty and Family Conversations Future Concerns and Stepson’s Behavior Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: The High-Conflict Ex Situation "My stepkids’ mom made our lives miserable. It felt like everything I did was wrong, and my husband was stuck in the middle. After joining Nacho Kids Academy, I stopped trying to compete with their mom and started focusing on my own peace. The drama doesn’t affect me like it used to, and my husband and I are finally on the same page. This program saved my sanity!" ~ Kara L., KY, USA
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300: 300 Podcasts Later: Our Blended Family Journey
02/28/2025
300: 300 Podcasts Later: Our Blended Family Journey
In this milestone episode of the NK Podcast, we're celebrating our 300th episode! Join hosts Lori and David as they reflect on five and a half years of podcasting, sharing their journey and the valuable lessons they've learned along the way. From the challenges and joys of blending families to the unexpected twists and turns of stepfamily life, Lori and David dive deep into their personal experiences. They share heartwarming stories of growth and transformation, emphasizing the importance of resilience and adaptability in the face of change. Tune in to hear how the Nacho Kids method has helped them navigate the complexities of stepfamily life and how their podcasting journey has not only impacted their lives but also touched the hearts of listeners around the world. This special episode is a testament to the power of perseverance, connection, and the shared goal of creating better blended family experiences. In this episode, we discuss: Reflection on Consistency and Challenges Adult Children Moving Back In Family Gatherings and Dynamics Distance in Relationships Nacho Kids Academy Success Stories: The Stepparent with Adult Bio Kids & Younger Stepkids I raised my kids to adulthood, so I thought I knew what I was doing when I married my husband, who still had young kids. I quickly realized step-parenting is NOTHING like regular parenting! Nacho Kids Academy gave me the tools to step back, respect my husband’s role as their dad, and focus on supporting rather than controlling. Now, instead of stress and resentment, our home feels more like a partnership! - Debbie W.
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299: Stepmom Takes Care Of Bio Mom
02/21/2025
299: Stepmom Takes Care Of Bio Mom
In this heartfelt and inspiring episode of the NK Podcast, we're joined by stepmom Whitney, who revisits her story after first appearing on the podcast three and a half years ago. Whitney shares an incredible journey that showcases resilience, compassion, and the power of relationships in the midst of adversity. As a stepmom with no biological children and a 17-year-old stepdaughter, Whitney recounts her experience of supporting her stepdaughter's mother through a terminal cancer diagnosis. This candid conversation delves into the complexities of family dynamics, the emotional challenges of navigating a blended family, and the unexpected bond that formed between Whitney and her stepdaughter's mother. Join hosts Lori and David Sims as they explore Whitney's remarkable story of love, strength, and the unexpected paths life can take. Don't miss this episode, which is sure to resonate with anyone who has faced life's challenges with an open heart. In this episode we discuss: Challenges in Stepfamily Dynamics Stepparent Perspective and Family Dynamics Shift The Role of Faith and Support Networks Reflections and Personal Insights Nacho Kids Academy Success Story: The Stepparent with Adult STepkids "I married my husband thinking that since his kids were grown, stepfamily life would be easy. Nope! His adult kids didn’t like me, and I felt like I had no voice in our own home. Nacho Kids Academy showed me how to detach with love and stop trying to ‘fix’ things. Now, I focus on my marriage and let my husband handle his own kids. It’s been life-changing!" - Lisa B.
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