The Openlove101 Show

This is your show to discuss open relationships, the swinger lifestyle, consensual non-monogamy - however you describe it, we’re here to talk about it. Your podcast is hosted by John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind the industry famous colette swingers clubs and the award-winning blog Openlove101.com. With over 20 years of combined experience in open relationships and coaching thousands of couples, they are here to share with you the trials, tribulations, passion, and positivity of love and the lifestyle.

Swinging as a Threesome 09/09/2025

Boundaries vs Rules: Why Language Matters in Relationships 09/02/2025

Is It Safe for Single Women to Visit Swinger Clubs? 08/26/2025

The Dance of Differences: Making Non-Monogamy Work for Every Personality Type 08/19/2025

The Dance of Differences: Making Non-Monogamy Work for Every Personality Type Do Opposite Personalities Work in Non-Monogamy? | Open Love 101 Podcast Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they dive into the dynamics of opposite personalities in consensual non-monogamy and swinging relationships. In this candid discussion, the couple explores how their own introvert-extrovert dynamic plays out in their relationship and at their famous Colette Swingers Clubs. With over twenty years of combined experience in open relationships and coaching thousands of couples, John and Jackie share valuable insights on how different personality types can complement each other in the lifestyle. Learn how to leverage your differences to strengthen your relationship rather than letting them become obstacles. 🕒 TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - Intro to Open Love 101 Podcast 00:42 - Topic introduction: Do opposite personalities work in non-monogamy? 01:01 - John and Jackie discuss their own introvert/extrovert dynamics 02:54 - How opposite personalities manifest in swinging couples 03:34 - Strategies for introverts at swinger clubs 05:08 - The importance of trust between introverts and extroverts 05:53 - Turning differences into strengths in relationships 07:23 - Conclusion Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or already practicing consensual non-monogamy, this episode offers practical perspectives on navigating different personality types. John and Jackie demonstrate how opposite personalities can create balance and complement each other in open relationships. 👍 If you enjoyed this video, please hit the like button and subscribe to our channel for more insights on open relationships, the swinger lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy! 💬 Share your experiences in the comments: How do you and your partner's personalities complement each other in your relationship? 📱 Follow us on social media and visit openlove101.com for more resources, blogs, and information about the Colette Swingers Clubs. /episode/index/show/openlove101/id/37122210

Debunking Myths About the Swinger Lifestyle 08/12/2025

Beyond the Bedroom: Exploring the Non-Sexual Benefits of Swinging 08/05/2025

Beyond the Bedroom: Exploring the Non-Sexual Benefits of Swinging Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they dive into the often-overlooked non-sexual benefits of being in an open relationship. With over 20 years of combined experience and as owners of the Colette Swingers Clubs, the couple shares their personal insights on how consensual non-monogamy has transformed their relationship beyond the bedroom. In this eye-opening episode, discover how swinging and open relationships can lead to enhanced communication, deeper trust, stronger friendships, and greater personal satisfaction. John and Jackie break down common misconceptions about the lifestyle and reveal how their relationship model has helped them build bridges rather than barriers. Key Topics Discussed: 🗣️ 00:01:28 Enhanced communication in consensually non-monogamous relationships 🤝 00:03:59 The importance of vulnerability and transparency with your partner 👫 00:06:49 How the lifestyle can improve your social skills and friendships ✈️ 00:11:24 Group travel experiences and non-sexual adventures 🔒 00:13:11 Building unshakeable trust in your relationship 😊 00:17:25 Finding unexpected satisfaction and contentment 🌱 00:18:45 Maintaining individuality and personal growth within a partnership Whether you're curious about open relationships or looking to strengthen your current partnership, this conversation offers valuable insights into building a more communicative, trusting, and fulfilling relationship regardless of your relationship style. Like what you heard? Visit openlove101.com to sign up for their email list and stay updated on upcoming videos, blogs, and travel opportunities! Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share your thoughts in the comments below about what non-sexual benefits you've experienced in your relationships! #OpenRelationships #ConsentualNonMonogamy #RelationshipAdvice #SwingLifestyle #CouplesCommunication #OpenLove101 #JohnAndJackieMelfi /episode/index/show/openlove101/id/37116410

How the Swinger Lifestyle Transformed Our Relationship 07/29/2025

Beyond the Myth: Insider Perspectives on the Swinger Lifestyle with Courtney 07/22/2025

Beyond the Myth: Insider Perspectives on the Swinger Lifestyle with Courtney Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they welcome their marketing guru Courtney on camera for the first time to discuss common misconceptions about swingers clubs. With Courtney providing a monogamous perspective on the lifestyle, this episode offers valuable insights for both newcomers and those curious about what really happens at Colette Swingers Clubs. In this eye-opening conversation, they tackle everything from outfit anxiety to unexpected encounters, proving that reality is often far different from what people imagine. Learn how the communication skills and relationship strategies in the lifestyle can benefit any relationship, regardless of your personal choices. What You'll Learn: 🕒 [00:00:00] Introduction to the podcast hosts 🕒 [00:01:05] Special guest introduction: Courtney joins on camera 🕒 [00:03:53] Common misconceptions about swingers clubs 🕒 [00:04:00] Courtney shares her monogamous perspective 🕒 [00:04:17] The anxiety of choosing the right outfit for first-timers 🕒 [00:08:13] Jackie's initial fears vs. the surprising reality of the club environment 🕒 [00:10:14] The unexpected supportiveness of women at the club 🕒 [00:13:41] How relationship skills from the lifestyle benefit monogamous relationships 🕒 [00:18:32] The importance of communication in all relationships 🕒 [00:24:27] Learning from different relationship models 🕒 [00:30:41] Jackie & Courtney share funny club experiences 🕒 [00:33:00] Handling unexpected encounters with people you know 🕒 [00:36:33] Final thoughts on misconceptions Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or just looking to improve your relationship skills, this conversation offers valuable insights from both non-monogamous and monogamous perspectives. 👍 If you enjoyed this episode, please like, subscribe, and share your thoughts in the comments below! For more content, visit openlove101.com/membershipplus or check out collectclubs.com. /episode/index/show/openlove101/id/37073765

How We Talk to Our Kids About Open Relationships 07/15/2025

This or That: Exploring Consensual Non-Monogamy 07/08/2025

This or That: Exploring Consensual Non-Monogamy Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi in this fun and revealing episode where they play "This or That: Lifestyle Edition"! The couple behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning openlove101.com blog share their preferences on various aspects of open relationships and swinging. In this candid discussion, John and Jackie answer questions about full swap vs soft swap, playing together vs separately, and much more. With over 13 years of experience in consensual non-monogamy, they offer valuable insights on jealousy, vulnerability, and how their preferences have evolved over time. Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or looking to deepen your understanding of open relationships, this episode provides an entertaining and educational perspective from two experts in the field. Key Topics Discussed: 0:00 - Introduction to Open Love 101 podcast 1:01 - Game explanation: "This or That" lifestyle edition 1:45 - Full swap vs soft swap preferences 2:00 - Playing together vs separately 3:20 - Spontaneous vs scheduled play 3:46 - How vulnerability affects relationships 4:44 - Meeting couples online vs at events 5:34 - Club vs resort preferences 7:07 - Same room vs separate rooms 8:03 - Processing feelings in the moment vs afterward 8:40 - Clear rules vs going with the flow 11:04 - Regular play partners vs one-timers 12:44 - Jealousy as a red flag vs growth opportunity 15:26 - Slow and sensual vs fast and wild 17:16 - Compersion as a must vs work in progress 21:01 - Home vs elsewhere preferences 22:02 - Playing with people they know vs strangers Join the Conversation! Like what you heard? Subscribe to our channel, hit the notification bell, and visit openlove101.com to sign up for our email list. You'll be notified of upcoming videos, articles, and events! Don't forget to leave a comment below with your own "This or That" preferences or questions for John and Jackie. We'd love to hear your thoughts on the topics discussed! #OpenLove101 #Swinging #NonMonogamy #ThisOrThat #RelationshipAdvice #ConsentualNonMonogamy #OpenRelationships /episode/index/show/openlove101/id/37062880

Swingers Lifestyle & New Way of Looking at Jealousy 07/01/2025

The Psychology of Open Relationships: Insights from a Sex Therapist 06/24/2025

The Psychology of Open Relationships: Insights from a Sex Therapist Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning blog openlove101.com, as they dive deep into relationship psychology with licensed professional counselor Dr. Alyssa Webb-McCune. This enlightening conversation explores various relationship models, from traditional monogamy to swinging and polyamory. Dr. Webb-McCune shares her expertise on building healthy relationships, navigating boundaries, and understanding the psychology behind different relationship styles. Whether you're curious about consensual non-monogamy or looking to strengthen your current relationship, this episode offers valuable insights for everyone! Key Topics Discussed: [00:00:00] Introduction to the Open Love 101 podcast [00:01:15] Dr. Webb-McCune introduces her counseling practice and approach [00:03:48] The importance of discussing relationship models and expectations [00:06:30] Different relationship models explained [00:07:58] Differences between swinging and polyamory [00:14:15] Psychological differences in various relationship styles [00:19:26] Navigating societal judgment and professional risks [00:23:27] Top tips for healthy relationships [00:26:50] Views on sexuality across different relationship models [00:34:09] How different relationship models can complement each other [00:37:18] The importance of regular relationship evaluations Dr. Webb-McCune's Top Relationship Tips: Maintain a low level of consistent communication about small issues Learn to advocate for yourself and your needs Conduct quarterly relationship evaluations to check in with your partner If you're interested in Dr. Webb-McCune's services, she offers traditional counseling through Natural Balance Counseling as well as relationship advisory programs through Mental Balance Coaching and Consulting. Don't forget to like and subscribe, Check out Dr. Alyssa Webb-McCune: #OpenRelationships #ConsensualNonMonogamy #RelationshipAdvice #SwingLifestyle #Polyamory #RelationshipModels #CouplesTherapy /episode/index/show/openlove101/id/36927285