The Openlove101 Show
This is your show to discuss open relationships, the swinger lifestyle, consensual non-monogamy - however you describe it, we’re here to talk about it. Your podcast is hosted by John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind the industry famous colette swingers clubs and the award-winning blog Openlove101.com. With over 20 years of combined experience in open relationships and coaching thousands of couples, they are here to share with you the trials, tribulations, passion, and positivity of love and the lifestyle.
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How to Handle Fear & Jealousy in Swinging Relationships
12/30/2025
How to Handle Fear & Jealousy in Swinging Relationships
Fear and jealousy are natural—but how you handle them can make or break your relationship. In this heartfelt video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com explore the emotional challenges that can arise in the swinging lifestyle and how honest communication and vulnerability can turn those moments into opportunities for deeper trust and connection. Drawing from personal stories, they show how facing insecurities together strengthens their bond and helps build a supportive, judgment-free relationship. If you're navigating non-monogamy or simply looking to grow closer to your partner, this conversation is packed with real insights and encouragement. 💬 Vulnerability builds trust. Communication creates connection. #OpenLove101 #SwingingLifestyle #NonMonogamy #JealousyInRelationships #RelationshipAdvice #JohnAndJackie #TrustAndCommunication
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How to Unlock Non-Sexual Benefits in Open Relationships
12/23/2025
How to Unlock Non-Sexual Benefits in Open Relationships
Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they explore the often overlooked non-sexual benefits of consensual non-monogamous relationships! After receiving feedback that a previous video focused too much on the sexual aspects, they dedicate this episode to discussing how open relationships have strengthened their bond beyond the bedroom. Discover how open communication, deep trust, and radical honesty have created a foundation for their 13-year relationship. John and Jackie share personal experiences about how their relationship model has allowed them to discuss topics that might be taboo in traditional monogamous relationships, leading to greater emotional intimacy and personal growth. 🎯 Key Topics Discussed: 00:00 Introduction to Open Love 101 podcast 00:40 Addressing viewer feedback on previous content 01:44 Jackie explains how their relationship looks from the outside 03:44 Early communication foundations in their relationship 06:05 How open relationships enable deeper conversations 10:27 The value of transparency and supporting each other's growth 12:02 Trust as a cornerstone benefit of their open relationship 14:08 Walking through fears and uncomfortable emotions together 17:34 Managing disagreements as a team 19:13 Information about Open Love 101+ membership program Whether you're in an open relationship or simply curious about different relationship models, this episode offers valuable insights into building strong partnerships based on trust, communication, and mutual respect! 👍 Like, subscribe, and leave a comment if you'd like John and Jackie to answer your relationship questions in future videos. Join their Open Love 101+ membership for more in-depth conversations and behind-the-scenes content! #OpenRelationships #ConsensualNonMonogamy #RelationshipAdvice #SwingLifestyle #CouplesCommunication
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Setting Boundaries in the Swinger Lifestyle
12/16/2025
Setting Boundaries in the Swinger Lifestyle
How do you set healthy boundaries in a swinger or open relationship? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share practical advice for navigating boundaries—especially for newcomers exploring the lifestyle. They discuss why observing before participating can be helpful, how boundaries should evolve over time, and the importance of not using them to control your partner. With a focus on open communication, mutual respect, and gradual exploration, this episode is a must-watch for anyone wanting to build trust and intimacy while keeping the experience fun and fulfilling. 💬 Boundaries aren’t about control—they’re about connection. #OpenLove101 #SwingerLifestyle #RelationshipBoundaries #NonMonogamy #JohnAndJackie #OpenRelationships #HealthyCommunication
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How to Balance Feelings and Fun in Non-monogamy
12/09/2025
How to Balance Feelings and Fun in Non-monogamy
In this enlightening episode of the OpenLove101 podcast, hosts John and Jackie Melfi address a thought-provoking question from a viewer about managing emotions as an external play partner in an open relationship. With their 20+ years of combined experience in open relationships, they offer valuable insights on maintaining boundaries while acknowledging natural human emotions. The hosts discuss the challenges of a play partner who has been in a relationship for 1.5 years with strict rules about emotional involvement, and explore whether it's truly possible to maintain a purely physical connection over an extended period. John and Jackie emphasize the importance of honest communication and the natural development of feelings in any human interaction. Key Topics Discussed: 🕒 0:00 - Introduction to Open Love 101 podcast 🗣️ 0:40 - John introduces a viewer question about being an external play partner 💬 2:21 - Discussion about communication being key in any relationship 💭 4:41 - Can relationships truly exist without emotions? 🔄 8:02 - The challenges of separating emotions from physical relationships 🛣️ 11:16 - Common boundaries in new open relationships 🤝 13:06 - Advice on having honest conversations with partners Whether you're new to consensual non-monogamy or a seasoned practitioner, this episode provides thoughtful perspectives on managing emotions and relationships in the lifestyle. 👍 If you enjoyed this episode, please LIKE this video and SUBSCRIBE to our channel for more insights on open relationships and the swinger lifestyle. Share your thoughts or questions in the comments below! Visit openlove101.com to learn more about open relationships and join our email list for updates on new content.
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How Swinging Strengthened Our Trust & Emotional Connection
12/02/2025
How Swinging Strengthened Our Trust & Emotional Connection
How Swinging Strengthened Our Trust & Emotional Connection | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Can swinging lead to more emotional intimacy? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share how their open relationship has created a deeper sense of honesty, trust, and personal growth. Unlike traditional monogamous relationships where conversations about outside attraction are often avoided, John and Jackie embrace openness—creating a safe space for vulnerability, acceptance, and unconditional love. They discuss how this emotional freedom has transformed their connection and invite viewers to challenge societal norms around relationships. 💬 Real trust begins when you're free to be completely honest. #OpenLove101 #SwingingLifestyle #EmotionalIntimacy #RelationshipTrust #NonMonogamy #JohnAndJackie #OpenRelationships #UnconditionalLove
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10 Myths About Swinging Debunked Pt. 2
11/25/2025
10 Myths About Swinging Debunked Pt. 2
Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind Colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning blog OpenLove101.com, as they discuss common misconceptions about consensual non-monogamy. With over 20 years of combined experience in open relationships and coaching thousands of couples, John and Jackie tackle the judgmental statements and questions they hear repeatedly. In this episode, they address myths like "that is disgusting," explore jealousy in open relationships, discuss how they handle conversations with their children, and much more. Whether you're curious about alternative relationship models or already living the lifestyle, this episode offers valuable insights on communication, boundaries, and navigating relationships with honesty. TIMESTAMPS: [00:00:00] Podcast introduction [00:00:48] Topic: Things people say about swingers [00:01:27] Addressing "That is disgusting, I would never let my partner do that" [00:06:23] Tackling "Don't you get jealous?" misconception [00:13:09] Discussing "Do you tell your children?" [00:17:53] Addressing "You must be sexual deviants" [00:20:26] Handling "I don't feel comfortable being around you anymore" John and Jackie emphasize the importance of communication in any relationship model and share how couples can set boundaries that work for them. They discuss how jealousy is often an umbrella term for deeper feelings like insecurity, and how facing these emotions head-on has actually strengthened their 13+ year relationship. Subscribe to our YouTube channel OpenLove101 and visit openlove101.com to sign up for our email list for articles, videos, and events updates! Like, subscribe, and leave a comment below sharing your thoughts on relationship communication! #OpenRelationships #ConsentualNonMonogamy #RelationshipAdvice #SwingLifestyle #CommunicationInRelationships
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Consent in the Swinger Lifestyle: Why It Always Matters
11/18/2025
Consent in the Swinger Lifestyle: Why It Always Matters
Being in the lifestyle doesn’t mean consent is automatic. In this important video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com dive deep into the vital role of consent within the swinging community—especially in environments like swinger clubs and parties. They address common misconceptions, share real experiences, and emphasize that clear communication, mutual respect, and the ability to say “no” at any time are essential. From using safe words to navigating alcohol responsibly, this conversation is a must-watch for anyone seeking to explore ethically and confidently. 🔑 Consent is an ongoing conversation—never a one-time agreement. #OpenLove101 #ConsentMatters #SwingerLifestyle #SexualHealth #NonMonogamy #JohnAndJackie #OpenRelationships
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10 Surprising Misconceptions About Nonmonogamy PT.1
11/11/2025
10 Surprising Misconceptions About Nonmonogamy PT.1
Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi from openlove101.com as they discuss common misconceptions about consensual non-monogamy and the stigmas they face as a swinger couple. In this enlightening conversation, they address the funny and sometimes frustrating questions they receive from "vanilla" friends, from concerns about hitting on partners to fears of association. The Melfis share their experiences of educating curious strangers, dealing with people who avoid them due to their lifestyle choices, and their mission to demystify consensual non-monogamy. They emphasize that non-monogamous couples are remarkably similar to monogamous ones - they just follow a different relationship model. TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - Introduction to Open Love 101 Podcast 00:47 - Common misconceptions from vanilla friends 01:48 - Breaking down stigmas about swinger relationships 03:04 - The reality of consensual non-monogamy vs. stereotypes 05:07 - Educating others about open relationship models 06:31 - Dealing with people who avoid association 07:43 - Understanding societal subgroups and identity 09:06 - Challenges of morality clauses in workplaces 10:25 - Standing up against backlash and judgment Are you curious about alternative relationship models or looking to better understand the swinger lifestyle? The Melfis offer a judgment-free zone where all questions are welcome. 👍 If you enjoyed this video, please like, subscribe, and share your thoughts in the comments below! Visit openlove101.com for more resources on open relationships, and check out their social media for more content. #OpenRelationships #ConsensualNonMonogamy #SwingLifestyle #RelationshipAdvice #OpenLove101
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Love & Swinging Lifestyle: Not Always Traditional
11/04/2025
Love & Swinging Lifestyle: Not Always Traditional
Can emotional connections exist without threatening your primary relationship? In this thought-provoking video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com explore the emotional side of swinging—and how trust, communication, and an open mindset can make all the difference. They share personal experiences, debunk common fears, and discuss how societal norms around monogamy shape our views on love, attachment, and fidelity. Whether you swing strictly for fun or are curious about deeper connections, this conversation invites you to rethink what emotional security really means in a non-traditional relationship. 💬 Explore love, trust, and sexuality—on your own terms. #OpenLove101 #SwingingLifestyle #NonMonogamy #EmotionalAttachment #RelationshipTalk #JohnAndJackie #TrustAndCommunication
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Fantasy Roleplay in Consensual Non-Monogamy Relationships
10/28/2025
Fantasy Roleplay in Consensual Non-Monogamy Relationships
In this playful and eye-opening episode, John and Jackie dive into the world of fantasy roleplay — a powerful tool for connection, communication, and confidence within relationships. Whether you’re new to consensual non-monogamy or simply looking to spice up your intimacy, roleplay offers a safe, creative space to explore fantasies together. From costumes and card games to themed nights at clubs like colette, John and Jackie reveal how fantasy roleplay can break routine, build trust, and help couples express their desires without judgment. They share real-life stories, tips for easing into roleplay, and how to use it as a gentle “test drive” for exploring new boundaries before trying them in real life. With their signature warmth and honesty, they remind listeners that fantasy isn’t just about fun — it’s about freedom, growth, and shared discovery. 🔑 Key Insights: Fantasy roleplay is a powerful tool for deepening intimacy and exploring desires together. Adult stores and games make starting roleplay easier and more approachable. Roleplay encourages open communication about fantasies and boundaries. It can serve as a “rehearsal space” before real-life consensual non-monogamous experiences. Emotional safety and mutual consent are essential throughout the process. Shared novelty strengthens emotional bonds and sparks lasting closeness. Themed nights at clubs like colette offer exciting opportunities for roleplay in a supportive environment. ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction to fantasy roleplay and its role in relationships 00:37 – Using fantasy roleplay to open communication and explore boundaries 01:35 – Shopping for toys, games, and costumes 03:14 – How a simple card game broke the ice for newcomers 04:04 – Theme nights at clubs as roleplay opportunities 04:33 – Personal roleplay experiences and playful tips 06:10 – Roleplay as a stepping stone to real-life experiences 07:42 – Encouraging community discussion and shared stories 08:07 – Closing thoughts and call to action Visit openlove101.com to join the email list for updates on upcoming videos, blogs, and travels — plus tips for navigating open relationships with confidence and connection. Like, subscribe, and share in the comments: What’s your favorite fantasy to explore with your partner? How has roleplay helped you open up communication in your relationship?
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Swingers Lifestyle & Consent - What Does It Really Means?
10/21/2025
Swingers Lifestyle & Consent - What Does It Really Means?
Consent isn’t one-size-fits-all. In this eye-opening discussion, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com unpack the many ways couples define and navigate consent—highlighting how mutual respect, trust, and open communication are the keys to maintaining freedom without slipping into control. They share their own experiences, caution against turning consent into restriction, and encourage ongoing conversations to ensure both partners feel safe, heard, and empowered. Whether you're exploring non-monogamy or strengthening your monogamous relationship, this video offers vital insight on building a balanced and trusting connection. 🗣️ Real talk. Honest boundaries. Lasting trust. #OpenLove101 #ConsentInRelationships #RelationshipTalk #NonMonogamy #TrustAndCommunication #JohnAndJackie 💬 Honest talk. No shame. Real connection.
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When Fights Test Your Relationship: Handling Conflict in Consensual Non-Monogamy
10/14/2025
When Fights Test Your Relationship: Handling Conflict in Consensual Non-Monogamy
In this candid and compassionate episode, hosts John and Jackie explore how couples in consensual non-monogamous relationships can navigate major fights and moments of emotional turbulence. They answer a viewer’s heartfelt question about whether a serious fight means the lifestyle “isn’t right” for them — and reveal why the opposite is often true. Drawing from over two decades of experience, John and Jackie explain that conflict is a normal part of any relationship, not just open ones. They share how fear, unfamiliarity, and emotional overwhelm can spark arguments — and how learning to communicate calmly and empathetically can turn those same moments into opportunities for growth and deeper connection. They also discuss how to “baby step” through difficult moments by adjusting boundaries and pacing, creating space for healing and rebuilding trust. This episode reminds viewers that consensual non-monogamy isn’t simply about sexual exploration — it’s about cultivating safety, self-worth, and authentic partnership through honesty and emotional awareness. 🔑 Key Insights: Fights happen in all relationships — they don’t mean you’re failing in non-monogamy Fear often underlies conflict; naming it builds empathy Approach fights as a team instead of adversaries Emotional reactions can differ from intellectual acceptance Baby-stepping through boundaries rebuilds safety and trust Keep discussions focused to prevent escalation Conflict can be a catalyst for growth and deeper intimacy ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 – Introduction to Open Love 101 podcast 00:32 – Overcoming fights in consensual non-monogamous relationships 01:36 – Fear as a common root of conflict 03:19 – Approaching disagreements as a team 05:45 – When emotions clash with logic 07:31 – Rebuilding trust with baby steps 08:55 – Keeping conversations concise and constructive 10:36 – Growth and self-esteem through consensual non-monogamy
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How to Create a Great Profile on Adult Social Sites
10/07/2025
How to Create a Great Profile on Adult Social Sites
How to Create a Great Profile on Adult Social Sites | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Looking to connect with like-minded people in the open or swinging lifestyle? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share their top tips for creating an honest, attractive, and successful profile on adult social sites like SDC, SLS, and Cassidy. They cover everything from choosing the right photos and being clear about your desires to using validation features for safety and credibility. Whether you're new to the scene or looking to improve your experience, this video helps you present your authentic self—and make meaningful connections both locally and while traveling. 📸 Be real. Be respectful. Have fun. #OpenLove101 #AdultDatingTips #SwingerLifestyle #OnlineDating #ProfileTips #JohnAndJackie #NonMonogamy
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Breaking Stereotypes in Open Relationships 🌍
09/30/2025
Breaking Stereotypes in Open Relationships 🌍
Breaking stereotypes and redefining what relationships can be! 🌍 Curious about an open lifestyle with your partner? Let’s explore it together 🙂! In this exciting and eye-opening discussion, we dive into the world of swinging, polyamory, and non-monogamous lifestyles. Ever thought about how trust, communication, and intimacy play a key role in building stronger connections? Tune in to learn how inclusivity and open-mindedness are transforming relationships everywhere! Discover the secrets of creating safe spaces for conversations, breaking societal norms, and navigating threesomes, swinging, and open lifestyles! From lifestyle clubs to community events and even the unique experiences at Burning Man, this video celebrates the diversity of love and relationships. Ready to explore new perspectives? Hit subscribe, join the conversation, and embrace the freedom to define relationships your way. Don’t miss out—your journey toward trust and connection starts here! 🎉 #openrelationship #mentalhealth #trauma #relationshipadvice #love CHAPTERS: 00:00 - What is SLP 02:00 - How does SOP Bring People Together 07:10 - Burning Man and Life Outlook 13:14 - Understanding Consent 15:42 - Consent Differences in Lifestyles 17:40 - Fun Ways to Ask for Consent 24:37 - Exploring Bisexuality 27:30 - Changes in the Lifestyle 28:30 - Monogamy vs Non-Monogamy 30:33 - Right Ways to Have a Relationship 31:08 - Arriving at Relationship Conclusions 37:04 - Finding You Online 38:58 - Community Building 40:15 - Building a Community 43:50 - Outro
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How Swinging Can Strengthen Your Relationship
09/23/2025
How Swinging Can Strengthen Your Relationship
How Swinging Can Strengthen Your Relationship | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Think swinging ruins relationships? Think again. In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com share how embracing the swinger lifestyle has enhanced their communication, intimacy, and emotional connection. They dive into how exploring fantasies without guilt, talking openly about desires, and learning from other couples can actually bring partners closer together. With personal stories and practical insights, this conversation breaks down misconceptions and highlights how swinging can lead to deeper trust and a more fulfilling partnership. 💬 Honest talk. No shame. Real connection. #OpenLove101 #SwingingBenefits #RelationshipGoals #NonMonogamy #SexPositivity #JohnAndJackie #OpenRelationships
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The Truth About Cheating in Open Relationships
09/16/2025
The Truth About Cheating in Open Relationships
In this eye-opening discussion, hosts John and Jackie Melfi tackle the intriguing question: "Do lifestyle couples cheat less than monogamous couples?" Drawing from their extensive experience in open relationships and as owners of Colette Swingers Clubs, they explore the nuances of infidelity, trust, and boundaries within consensual non-monogamy. Join the conversation as they dive into what really constitutes cheating across different relationship models, why trust matters regardless of relationship style, and how open communication can potentially reduce infidelity. Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or simply interested in relationship dynamics, this episode offers valuable insights for all couples. Topics Discussed: The definition of cheating in different relationship contexts Emotional vs. physical infidelity Why consensual non-monogamy might reduce certain forms of cheating The importance of trust in any relationship model Why people sometimes feel threatened by different relationship styles Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to Open Love 101 podcast 00:42 - Main topic: Do lifestyle couples cheat less? 01:46 - Defining cheating in open relationships 03:31 - The role of honesty and transparency 04:24 - Addressing jealousy across relationship models 06:05 - Emotional vs. physical cheating discussion 09:23 - Why opening a relationship won't fix infidelity 11:35 - Trust and dishonesty in relationships 13:24 - Why people invalidate different relationship models 15:28 - The "defensive reaction" to alternative lifestyles
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Swinging as a Threesome
09/09/2025
Swinging as a Threesome
Can swinging ever be truly “equal”? In this honest and insightful video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com tackle the emotional dynamics of open relationships—especially around gender, jealousy, and fairness. Sparked by a viewer email, they dive into what happens when one partner is more actively exploring than the other, and how communication and trust play a key role in navigating those feelings. From their first threesome experience to emotional growth and lasting friendships, John and Jackie share how open relationships can lead to deeper connection—not resentment. This is a must-watch for anyone exploring non-monogamy or seeking a fresh perspective on love, sex, and emotional balance. 💬 Real stories. Real growth. Real connection. #OpenLove101 #OpenRelationships #Swinging #NonMonogamy #Jealousy #RelationshipAdvice #JohnAndJackie
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Boundaries vs Rules: Why Language Matters in Relationships
09/02/2025
Boundaries vs Rules: Why Language Matters in Relationships
In this insightful episode, hosts John and Jackie Melfi dive into the important distinction between boundaries and rules in relationships, especially within consensual non-monogamy. They share their personal experiences and wisdom from over 20 years in open relationships to help couples navigate these concepts effectively. The Melfis explore how boundaries are personal, fluid, and evolve with trust, while rules often feel controlling and parental. Learn how establishing healthy boundaries has helped their relationship thrive and how you can apply these principles to your own relationships. 🔑 Key Insights: The difference between boundaries (personal, flexible) and rules (rigid, controlling) How boundaries can evolve over time as trust builds Finding solutions together rather than imposing restrictions Building a relationship based on trust rather than control ⏱️ Timestamps: 00:00 - Introduction to Open Love 101 podcast 00:42 - Welcome and show overview 01:05 - Defining boundaries vs rules 03:14 - Personal boundaries in relationships 05:07 - Handling different boundaries between partners 08:39 - Example of how boundaries can evolve 10:11 - Working together on solutions 12:45 - How rules can create parental dynamics 14:49 - Living with boundaries vs being controlled by rules Visit openlove101.com to sign up for their email list and stay updated on new content about open relationships and consensual non-monogamy! Like, subscribe, and share your thoughts.
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Is It Safe for Single Women to Visit Swinger Clubs?
08/26/2025
Is It Safe for Single Women to Visit Swinger Clubs?
Is It Safe for Single Women to Visit Swinger Clubs? | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Curious about visiting a swinger club as a single woman—but feeling unsure? In this empowering video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com tackle the common fears and societal judgments that often hold women back from exploring their sexuality in safe, respectful environments like Colette Clubs. They break down myths, share real experiences, and explain why women are always in control at swinger clubs—no pressure, no expectations. Whether you're there to dance, socialize, or simply explore, this video is a reassuring guide to stepping into the lifestyle with confidence. 💃 Come as you are. Stay as long as you like. Do only what feels right. #OpenLove101 #WomenAndSwinging #SafeSpaces #SexualEmpowerment #ColetteClubs #JohnAndJackie #SwingerClubs
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The Dance of Differences: Making Non-Monogamy Work for Every Personality Type
08/19/2025
The Dance of Differences: Making Non-Monogamy Work for Every Personality Type
Do Opposite Personalities Work in Non-Monogamy? | Open Love 101 Podcast Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they dive into the dynamics of opposite personalities in consensual non-monogamy and swinging relationships. In this candid discussion, the couple explores how their own introvert-extrovert dynamic plays out in their relationship and at their famous Colette Swingers Clubs. With over twenty years of combined experience in open relationships and coaching thousands of couples, John and Jackie share valuable insights on how different personality types can complement each other in the lifestyle. Learn how to leverage your differences to strengthen your relationship rather than letting them become obstacles. 🕒 TIMESTAMPS: 00:00 - Intro to Open Love 101 Podcast 00:42 - Topic introduction: Do opposite personalities work in non-monogamy? 01:01 - John and Jackie discuss their own introvert/extrovert dynamics 02:54 - How opposite personalities manifest in swinging couples 03:34 - Strategies for introverts at swinger clubs 05:08 - The importance of trust between introverts and extroverts 05:53 - Turning differences into strengths in relationships 07:23 - Conclusion Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or already practicing consensual non-monogamy, this episode offers practical perspectives on navigating different personality types. John and Jackie demonstrate how opposite personalities can create balance and complement each other in open relationships. 👍 If you enjoyed this video, please hit the like button and subscribe to our channel for more insights on open relationships, the swinger lifestyle, and consensual non-monogamy! 💬 Share your experiences in the comments: How do you and your partner's personalities complement each other in your relationship? 📱 Follow us on social media and visit openlove101.com for more resources, blogs, and information about the Colette Swingers Clubs.
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Debunking Myths About the Swinger Lifestyle
08/12/2025
Debunking Myths About the Swinger Lifestyle
Debunking Myths About the Swinger Lifestyle | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 Is swinging just cheating in disguise? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com bust common myths about the swinging lifestyle—starting with one of the biggest misconceptions: that swinging equals infidelity. They explain how transparency, trust, and emotional connection are key parts of their relationship, and why swinging isn’t a one-size-fits-all experience. From soft swap dynamics to deeper compatibility, they dive into the variety within the community and challenge outdated labels like "kinky" or “deviant.” 💬 Curious about swinging? They’re answering your questions, tackling misconceptions, and even giving away fun prizes in their monthly contests! #OpenLove101 #SwingingMyths #NonMonogamy #RelationshipTalk #JohnAndJackie #SexualWellness #OpenRelationships
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Beyond the Bedroom: Exploring the Non-Sexual Benefits of Swinging
08/05/2025
Beyond the Bedroom: Exploring the Non-Sexual Benefits of Swinging
Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they dive into the often-overlooked non-sexual benefits of being in an open relationship. With over 20 years of combined experience and as owners of the Colette Swingers Clubs, the couple shares their personal insights on how consensual non-monogamy has transformed their relationship beyond the bedroom. In this eye-opening episode, discover how swinging and open relationships can lead to enhanced communication, deeper trust, stronger friendships, and greater personal satisfaction. John and Jackie break down common misconceptions about the lifestyle and reveal how their relationship model has helped them build bridges rather than barriers. Key Topics Discussed: 🗣️ 00:01:28 Enhanced communication in consensually non-monogamous relationships 🤝 00:03:59 The importance of vulnerability and transparency with your partner 👫 00:06:49 How the lifestyle can improve your social skills and friendships ✈️ 00:11:24 Group travel experiences and non-sexual adventures 🔒 00:13:11 Building unshakeable trust in your relationship 😊 00:17:25 Finding unexpected satisfaction and contentment 🌱 00:18:45 Maintaining individuality and personal growth within a partnership Whether you're curious about open relationships or looking to strengthen your current partnership, this conversation offers valuable insights into building a more communicative, trusting, and fulfilling relationship regardless of your relationship style. Like what you heard? Visit openlove101.com to sign up for their email list and stay updated on upcoming videos, blogs, and travel opportunities! Don't forget to like, subscribe, and share your thoughts in the comments below about what non-sexual benefits you've experienced in your relationships! #OpenRelationships #ConsentualNonMonogamy #RelationshipAdvice #SwingLifestyle #CouplesCommunication #OpenLove101 #JohnAndJackieMelfi
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How the Swinger Lifestyle Transformed Our Relationship
07/29/2025
How the Swinger Lifestyle Transformed Our Relationship
How the Swinger Lifestyle Transformed Our Relationship | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 In this candid conversation, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com open up about how embracing the swinger lifestyle has reshaped their views on sex, love, and connection. Jackie shares her personal journey from monogamy to empowerment through sexual exploration, while John reflects on how swinging has brought more honesty, freedom, and trust into their relationship. Together, they explore how non-monogamy has helped them grow individually and as a couple—challenging societal norms, reframing jealousy, and redefining intimacy. Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or already part of it, this video offers heartfelt insights into how swinging can deepen connection and personal fulfillment. 💬 Real talk on relationships, freedom, and embracing your true self. #OpenLove101 #SwingerLifestyle #RelationshipTalk #JohnAndJackie #EmpoweredSexuality #NonMonogamy
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Beyond the Myth: Insider Perspectives on the Swinger Lifestyle with Courtney
07/22/2025
Beyond the Myth: Insider Perspectives on the Swinger Lifestyle with Courtney
Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi as they welcome their marketing guru Courtney on camera for the first time to discuss common misconceptions about swingers clubs. With Courtney providing a monogamous perspective on the lifestyle, this episode offers valuable insights for both newcomers and those curious about what really happens at Colette Swingers Clubs. In this eye-opening conversation, they tackle everything from outfit anxiety to unexpected encounters, proving that reality is often far different from what people imagine. Learn how the communication skills and relationship strategies in the lifestyle can benefit any relationship, regardless of your personal choices. What You'll Learn: 🕒 [00:00:00] Introduction to the podcast hosts 🕒 [00:01:05] Special guest introduction: Courtney joins on camera 🕒 [00:03:53] Common misconceptions about swingers clubs 🕒 [00:04:00] Courtney shares her monogamous perspective 🕒 [00:04:17] The anxiety of choosing the right outfit for first-timers 🕒 [00:08:13] Jackie's initial fears vs. the surprising reality of the club environment 🕒 [00:10:14] The unexpected supportiveness of women at the club 🕒 [00:13:41] How relationship skills from the lifestyle benefit monogamous relationships 🕒 [00:18:32] The importance of communication in all relationships 🕒 [00:24:27] Learning from different relationship models 🕒 [00:30:41] Jackie & Courtney share funny club experiences 🕒 [00:33:00] Handling unexpected encounters with people you know 🕒 [00:36:33] Final thoughts on misconceptions Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or just looking to improve your relationship skills, this conversation offers valuable insights from both non-monogamous and monogamous perspectives. 👍 If you enjoyed this episode, please like, subscribe, and share your thoughts in the comments below! For more content, visit openlove101.com/membershipplus or check out collectclubs.com.
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How We Talk to Our Kids About Open Relationships
07/15/2025
How We Talk to Our Kids About Open Relationships
How do you explain non-traditional relationships to your children? In this thoughtful video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com open up about parenting while living an open lifestyle. With eight kids between them, they share how they’ve approached honest, age-appropriate conversations about love, trust, and relationship diversity—without oversharing or crossing boundaries. They emphasize the importance of transparency, emotional intelligence, and modeling values like honesty and integrity—regardless of relationship structure. If you’re a parent navigating how to talk to your kids about alternative lifestyles, this conversation offers reassurance, guidance, and real-world experience. 💬 Real talk. Respectful parenting. Healthy relationships. #OpenLove101 #ParentingAndRelationships #NonMonogamy #OpenRelationships #JohnAndJackie #HonestParenting #RelationshipTalk
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This or That: Exploring Consensual Non-Monogamy
07/08/2025
This or That: Exploring Consensual Non-Monogamy
Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi in this fun and revealing episode where they play "This or That: Lifestyle Edition"! The couple behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning openlove101.com blog share their preferences on various aspects of open relationships and swinging. In this candid discussion, John and Jackie answer questions about full swap vs soft swap, playing together vs separately, and much more. With over 13 years of experience in consensual non-monogamy, they offer valuable insights on jealousy, vulnerability, and how their preferences have evolved over time. Whether you're curious about the lifestyle or looking to deepen your understanding of open relationships, this episode provides an entertaining and educational perspective from two experts in the field. Key Topics Discussed: 0:00 - Introduction to Open Love 101 podcast 1:01 - Game explanation: "This or That" lifestyle edition 1:45 - Full swap vs soft swap preferences 2:00 - Playing together vs separately 3:20 - Spontaneous vs scheduled play 3:46 - How vulnerability affects relationships 4:44 - Meeting couples online vs at events 5:34 - Club vs resort preferences 7:07 - Same room vs separate rooms 8:03 - Processing feelings in the moment vs afterward 8:40 - Clear rules vs going with the flow 11:04 - Regular play partners vs one-timers 12:44 - Jealousy as a red flag vs growth opportunity 15:26 - Slow and sensual vs fast and wild 17:16 - Compersion as a must vs work in progress 21:01 - Home vs elsewhere preferences 22:02 - Playing with people they know vs strangers Join the Conversation! Like what you heard? Subscribe to our channel, hit the notification bell, and visit openlove101.com to sign up for our email list. You'll be notified of upcoming videos, articles, and events! Don't forget to leave a comment below with your own "This or That" preferences or questions for John and Jackie. We'd love to hear your thoughts on the topics discussed! #OpenLove101 #Swinging #NonMonogamy #ThisOrThat #RelationshipAdvice #ConsentualNonMonogamy #OpenRelationships
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Swingers Lifestyle & New Way of Looking at Jealousy
07/01/2025
Swingers Lifestyle & New Way of Looking at Jealousy
Jealousy in Open Relationships: Fix It or Ignore It? | John & Jackie | OpenLove101 What do jealousy and a broken refrigerator have in common? In this thoughtful video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com use a clever analogy to explore how people handle jealousy—whether they choose to fix it, ignore it, or live with it. Through personal stories and practical insights, they explain why open communication is essential in relationships, especially in non-monogamous dynamics. Instead of avoiding jealousy, they encourage viewers to see it as a signal for growth, intimacy, and deeper understanding. 💡 Learn how to turn discomfort into connection. #OpenLove101 #Jealousy #NonMonogamy #RelationshipAdvice #JohnAndJackie #EmotionalGrowth
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The Psychology of Open Relationships: Insights from a Sex Therapist
06/24/2025
The Psychology of Open Relationships: Insights from a Sex Therapist
Join hosts John and Jackie Melfi, the force behind colette Swingers Clubs and the award-winning blog openlove101.com, as they dive deep into relationship psychology with licensed professional counselor Dr. Alyssa Webb-McCune. This enlightening conversation explores various relationship models, from traditional monogamy to swinging and polyamory. Dr. Webb-McCune shares her expertise on building healthy relationships, navigating boundaries, and understanding the psychology behind different relationship styles. Whether you're curious about consensual non-monogamy or looking to strengthen your current relationship, this episode offers valuable insights for everyone! Key Topics Discussed: [00:00:00] Introduction to the Open Love 101 podcast [00:01:15] Dr. Webb-McCune introduces her counseling practice and approach [00:03:48] The importance of discussing relationship models and expectations [00:06:30] Different relationship models explained [00:07:58] Differences between swinging and polyamory [00:14:15] Psychological differences in various relationship styles [00:19:26] Navigating societal judgment and professional risks [00:23:27] Top tips for healthy relationships [00:26:50] Views on sexuality across different relationship models [00:34:09] How different relationship models can complement each other [00:37:18] The importance of regular relationship evaluations Dr. Webb-McCune's Top Relationship Tips: Maintain a low level of consistent communication about small issues Learn to advocate for yourself and your needs Conduct quarterly relationship evaluations to check in with your partner If you're interested in Dr. Webb-McCune's services, she offers traditional counseling through Natural Balance Counseling as well as relationship advisory programs through Mental Balance Coaching and Consulting. Don't forget to like and subscribe, Check out Dr. Alyssa Webb-McCune: #OpenRelationships #ConsensualNonMonogamy #RelationshipAdvice #SwingLifestyle #Polyamory #RelationshipModels #CouplesTherapy
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What Is Compersion? Exploring Joy in Non-Monogamous Relationships
06/17/2025
What Is Compersion? Exploring Joy in Non-Monogamous Relationships
Can you feel joy when your partner finds happiness with someone else? In this video, John and Jackie from OpenLove101.com dive into the concept of compersion—the emotional opposite of jealousy—and how it can create deeper connection, trust, and personal growth in non-monogamous relationships. They share their own experiences, discuss challenges rooted in traditional relationship norms, and explain how compersion can reduce pressure, expand emotional freedom, and even strengthen primary partnerships. 💡 A must-watch for anyone exploring open love, emotional maturity, or new ways to connect with their partner. #OpenLove101 #Compersion #NonMonogamy #RelationshipTalk #JohnAndJackie #OpenRelationships
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Can You Love More Than One Person?
06/10/2025
Can You Love More Than One Person?
How to Reconnect After a Lifestyle Misstep In this heartfelt episode, John and Jackie dive deep into the emotional side of open relationships—exploring the joys, challenges, and growth that come from forming emotional connections beyond a primary partner. They share how maintaining friendships, embracing vulnerability, and communicating openly can actually strengthen the bond between partners. Jackie discusses how love isn't finite, and John reflects on how emotional openness has enriched their lives. Together, they challenge the idea that intimacy with others weakens a relationship—instead, they show how it can deepen trust, compassion, and connection. 💬 Real love expands. With openness and communication, emotional connection becomes a gift—not a threat. #OpenLove101 #EmotionalIntimacy #OpenRelationships #NonMonogamy #RelationshipTalk #JohnAndJackie #CommunicationAndTrust
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