Our Weekly Chat

Two imperfect people trying to navigate life as partners and parents. Listen in as we hold our weekly chat to discuss issues that have come up in our family and relationship. As we seek solutions from a faith-based perspective, we hope that you will find validation and inspiration to accept your own imperfect efforts and keep moving forward.

How to Travel With Friends...and Remain Friends 06/23/2021

How to Travel With Friends...and Remain Friends Cindy and Scott - along with special guests Chelsea and Matt - discuss the joys and challenges of traveling with friends. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/19584179

Finding Joy When Life Feels Hard 06/19/2021

Finding Joy When Life Feels Hard Cindy and Scott discuss key practices to finding joy and meaning during more trying stages of life. Cutting out unnecessary stressors and being intentional about including joy-building activities can help life return to a better balance. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/19531955

Are You Loyal to Your Spouse? 06/09/2021

Are You Loyal to Your Spouse? Scott and Cindy discuss the potential relationship pitfall of taking your family's side over your spouse's. It's important to establish firm boundaries early on so the relationship is secure and all involved parties can get on the same page. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/19410992

Parenting Teens Part 2: Lovingly Unapologetic 05/26/2021

Parenting Teens Part 2: Lovingly Unapologetic Cindy and Scott discuss some of the challenges presented by trying to give teenage kids what they need while also protecting the marriage relationship and individual needs. Boundaries are essential. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/19252865

Blame the Cat, Not Your Spouse 05/19/2021

Blame the Cat, Not Your Spouse Cindy and Scott discuss ways to recognize and resolve hidden resentment before it turns into a blowup. Spoiler alert: open communication helps. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/19155536

Life. Isn't. Fair. 05/12/2021

Life. Isn't. Fair. Cindy and Scott discuss the difference between fairness and equality, with specific reference to how we treat our kids. As always, communication is key to make sure our kids understand we have their best interests at heart. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/19073522

Constructive Consequences 04/28/2021

Constructive Consequences Cindy and Scott discuss the importance of implementing consequences that are based on love and teaching our kids helpful lessons. Arbitrary consequences based on frustration are seldom, if ever, helpful. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/18843434

What to Do When You Think Your Spouse's Projects Are Dumb 04/21/2021

What to Do When You Think Your Spouse's Projects Are Dumb We don't always share the same passions as the people we love. Instead of assuming their goals and projects are unimportant or frivolous, we can create an open dialogue to foster understanding. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/18789155

Is Getting Stronger Always Better than Giving Up? 04/14/2021

Is Getting Stronger Always Better than Giving Up? Cindy and Scott discuss life situations that force us to give up or rise to the occasion. Several factors should be considered to make sure we aren't giving up for the wrong reasons. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/18717404

Teaching Our Kids Some Dang Respect 04/07/2021

Teaching Our Kids Some Dang Respect Scott and Cindy discuss concerns about their kids' occasional failure to show proper respect, for authority figures as well as for sacred times or spaces. Possible solutions include modeling proper behavior and utilizing strategic compromise. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/18633695

Becoming Untamed: How to Start Living Your Own, True Life 03/31/2021

Becoming Untamed: How to Start Living Your Own, True Life Scott and Cindy discuss Glennon Doyle's latest book, Untamed. Living an authentic life requires making sacrifices and going against the grain, but the rewards are worth the effort. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/18548030

Are You Making Your Partner Do All the Compromising? 03/24/2021

Are You Making Your Partner Do All the Compromising? Scott and Cindy discuss the importance of finding a middle ground to ensure both partners get what they need. If we shut down when the situation feels uncomfortable, we're placing the whole burden on our partners. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/18457931

Questions to Spice Up Your Relationship 03/10/2021

Questions to Spice Up Your Relationship Cindy and Scott take turns posing each other questions about their relationship, from dating life to the present. Meaningful conversations and unexpected questions build the relationship while keeping things fresh. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/18264443

Your Partner's Annoying Habits 02/06/2021

Your Partner's Annoying Habits Scott and Cindy discuss how they can more effectively communicate when they discover each other's potentially bothersome habits. Reframing the situation into a team dynamic can help decrease conflict and foster cooperation. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/17843051

Parenting Hacks to Help You Hate Your Kids Less 02/03/2021

Parenting Hacks to Help You Hate Your Kids Less Scott asks Cindy to share some tips on how he can interact more effectively with the kids when he's home from work. As it turns out, many problems may solve themselves if you know when to keep your mouth shut! /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/17799887

Homeschooling 01/27/2021

Homeschooling Scott and Cindy share some of their homeschooling experiences, successes, and failures! /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/17675234

Extreme Ownership 01/20/2021

Extreme Ownership Scott and Cindy discuss principles learned from the book Extreme Ownership, written by Jocko Willink and Leif Babin. If we can learn to take responsibility for our part in problems, we will model that behavior to our team--including our kids--and create a more functional, successful organization. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/17627249

Arguing the Right Way 01/13/2021

Arguing the Right Way Scott and Cindy discuss the inevitability of arguments within a relationship and how to avoid falling into toxic habits within these arguments. Depending on the nature of the disagreement, solutions may come in the form of rules, systems, or compromise. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/17528903

Praising Our Children 01/06/2021

Praising Our Children Cindy and Scott discuss points from the book "Pride and Joy: A Guide to Understanding Your Child's Emotions and Solving Family Problems." Their conversation largely centers around the importance of praising our children and how to do it effectively. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/17450177

Family Contract Followup 12/30/2020

Family Contract Followup Cindy and Scott discuss the family contract they set up a few months ago, including both successes and challenges that have come up as a result. Regardless of the exact outcome, setting goals and following up gives endless learning opportunities. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/17370077

Processing Parenting Emotions 12/16/2020

Processing Parenting Emotions Cindy and Scott discuss the unavoidable emotional rollercoaster that accompanies parenting, along with some ideas of how to recognize and process emotions that may be clogging up our emotional pipes. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/17199638

Managing Holiday Stress 12/09/2020

Managing Holiday Stress Scott and Cindy discuss factors leading to stress around the Holidays, as well as strategies that have helped make things more manageable in their home at year's end. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/17123165

Conventional Wisdom for Couples 12/02/2020

Conventional Wisdom for Couples Cindy and Scott discuss pieces of conventional wisdom--some more useful than others--that have been shared with them over the years. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/17030771

How to Give a Real Apology 11/18/2020

How to Give a Real Apology Have you ever found your partner's apology to be a bit lacking? Or given a lackluster apology yourself? Scott and Cindy discuss the elements of a true apology and how to use these tools to strengthen your relationships. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/16855367

Fake It Till You Make It 11/11/2020

Fake It Till You Make It Cindy and Scott discuss the ubiquitous yet counterproductive "fake it till you make it" strategy of getting through life. Feelings need to be felt, sooner or later. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/16751060

The New Adolescence 11/04/2020

The New Adolescence Cindy introduces a favorite book on parenting teenagers. She and Scott discuss how being a teenager is different today compared to when they were growing up, as well as how we can love and support our teenagers more effectively. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/16678562

Coupling Criticism with Love 10/21/2020

Coupling Criticism with Love Cindy and Scott discuss the importance of keeping our ultimate goal in mind--building unity and love--when bringing up criticism with friends, family, or coworkers. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/16486778

Worst-Case Scenario Planning 10/14/2020

Worst-Case Scenario Planning Scott and Cindy discuss how to overcome anxiety by envisioning the worst-case scenario. Naming the thing you are afraid of often makes it less scary. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/16396976

Supporting Each Other's Dreams 10/07/2020

Supporting Each Other's Dreams Scott and Cindy discuss the balance between supporting each other's dreams and staying grounded in reality. As always, open communication and focusing on what matters most are keys to success. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/16303541

Judging Others and Feeling Judged 09/30/2020

Judging Others and Feeling Judged Cindy and Scott discuss why people have a tendency to judge each other and how we can recognize and modify our own habits of judgment. /episode/index/show/ourweeklychat/id/16211327

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