Pamela Chambers Podcast

Pamela Chambers is a national certified counselor and founder/CEO of Pamela Chambers Consulting, on-line business/podcast/blogger/author, pamelachambers.com. Pamela is a popular integrative mental health practitioner and LifeWorld Coach who shares with you what research and experts say about what works and doesn’t work in helping you build a more authentic and happy life. She is trained in mind-body medicine, which combines science, wise tradition, and human connection to create a powerful new medicine centered on a simple concept: self-care.

Raising Emotionally and Socially Healthy Kids with Eileen Kennedy - Moore 04/12/2015

Raising Emotionally and Socially Healthy Kids with Eileen Kennedy - Moore Does your child get picked on at school? Does your child hurt other children? It breaks a parent's heart when their child is called names or emotionally hurt by other children. Raising socially and emotionally healthy kids can be a challenge in today's world. The digital age can make it even more of a challenge. Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore has produced a CD/Digital series, "Raising Emotionally and Socially Healthy Kids" that will help all parents learn how to help their children regulate their emotions. When children can regulate their emotions, they are on their way to becoming a productive member of society. In my latest podcast, I did an interview with Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore on my podcast series, "Smart Choices for a Happier Family Life," Dr. Eileen Kennedy-Moore states, "Kids do not learn through suffering; they learn through doing it right." Parents, teach your children how to do it right. Dr. Kennedy Moore is an author, psychologist and most importantly a mother of four. She specializes in friendships and children's feelings. She has a B.A. in psychology from Northwestern University and Ph.D. in clinical psychology from Stony Brook University. She is the co-author of two parenting books, "Smart Parenting for Smart Kids: Nurturing Your Child's True Potential and The Unwritten Rules of Friendship: Simple Strategies to Help Your Child Make Friends,"and as well as an award-winning children's book, What About Me? 12 Ways to Get Your Parent's Attention (Without Hitting Your Sister). She is a terrific guest! You don't want to miss it. Here are some things you will learn from this podcast: Healthy Emotional Kids - How can parents help? "Angry kids don't require harsh punishment; they need more connection." How parents can help their children cope with anxiety Emotion dismissing and emotion coach, why an emotion coach is best Teasing and Bullying - how to minimize the impact of bullying On-line cannot replace face to face interactions 8-12 year old girls who spent more time on media had worse social and emotional well being How to control our children's video game play time It is just an awful feeling for a parent when your child is hurt by other children on the playground. Parents, please give your children the tools for emotional regulation and you will set them up for success. This series helps parents help their children with social skills and emotional regulation. Emotional Regulation is the biggest factor in helping our children to succeed in their personal relationships and their careers. Parents can't afford to miss this series. It's the greatest gift you can give to your children. The CD Series is currently 70% off at thegreatcourses.com/kids website. Don't wait to pick up your copy. It will no longer be on sale after May 7th. /episode/index/show/pamelachambers/id/3487562

Unrequited Love and obsession 02/02/2015

Unrequited Love and obsession Are you feeling the devastation of unrequited love? We have all been there; a broken heart and the dreadful pain that ensues. Sometimes, things can go terribly awry after our beloved denies us. Is obsession a biological force within us? In the book, Unrequited Women and Romantic Obsession, Lisa states, "Animals denied an expected pleasure will bite or attack." Is obsession a normal biological response to unrequited love? If so, what now? Unrequited Love My first breakup with a man was a nightmare. Chuck was my first boyfriend's name. Chuck was so possessive. Chuck would get so angry if I even spoke to another man. We were having a high school dance that night, and he told me that he did not want to go to the dance. He did not want me to go to the dance without him. Like a loyal girlfriend, I stayed home. I received a call that night from a friend saying that Chuck is at the dance with another woman. What happened afterward was not a pretty picture. I went straight to the dance and made quite a scene outside the dance hall. Screaming and yelling at him in front of others. With a final crescendo, I threw his going steady ring in the grass and said I never want to speak to you again. I was mortified and humiliated. I went home and threw up. My mother said, "You are ridiculous to let him do this to you." I had no idea what was happening to me. I lost control. I could not stop thinking about him. I couldn't sleep, and I couldn't eat. Would somebody please tell me what is happening to me? Unrequited Women and Obsession Well, Lisa A Phillips does an excellent job explaining the reasons unrequited love can lead to obsessive love. Lisa has recently written a book, Unrequited Women and Romantic Obsession. Harper Collins just released the b on January 27th. In this book, Lisa beautifully weaves real life stories and research data to explain the trials and tribulations of unrequited love. The stories of pain and anguish when the beloved denies his lover deeply resonated with me. I felt such great compassion for those in these stories. Lisa describes it in her book, "There's an emotional honesty in these moments - the unwanted woman is doing something instead of sinking into despair. She is swept up by instinct, by the profound human need for attachment, which the era of romantic practicality has tried to reduce to a game." Romantic love is a powerful force in our lives. Our culture celebrates passionate love. Passionate love lights up the brain like cocaine. Our culture doesn't celebrate cocaine use. Should we celebrate passionate love so readily? Our culture celebrates, even more, unrequited passionate love. In movies and in books, unrequited love is much more romantic than mutual love. In the tv series Friends, Rachel and Ross and their unrequited love were much more interesting than their mutual love. The series ended when Rachel and Ross mutually exchanged their love to each other. The power of love can create masterpieces in music, art, and literature. Passionate love can transform us for the better or it can ruin our lives. Lisa sums it up beautifully in these words from her book, "We may need to learn as individuals and as a culture, ways to honor passion by confining and using it instead of letting it diminish us." I see the pain of unrequited love in my counseling office on a regular basis. In this podcast, you will learn the following: Lisa's inspiration behind the book Why people get so obsessed with the beloved How society perpetuates unrequited love Why women and men are treated differently when it comes to obsessive love How Biology reinforces obsession in unrequited love. Social media and stalking - the difference between stalking and constantly surfing Facebook to watch your beloved's every move How goal linking helps us to ignore how awful the beloved is behaving towards you Heartbreak and social pain - Lisa will tell you why it hurts so badly when we break up with someone. How to know when your love has become obsessive, how to stop it, and how others can help What unrequited love can teach you How unrequited love can transform you for the better This book, Unrequited Women and Romantic Obsession, has already helped me in my practice with others suffering from the anguish of unrequited love. I have passed it on to those in need and to those that want to understand the power of love. It is a great book for Valentine's Day and those unrequited lovers out there. There are many of us suffering from unrequited love. In Lisa's book, research shows "93 percent of respondents had been rejected by someone they passionately loved, and just 51 percent of adults eighteen and older are married." I was stunned after reading these statistics. You need to celebrate your romantic passionate love. You can use your love to go out and create your masterpiece. Resources: Unrequited Women and Romantic Obsession by Lisa A Phillips /episode/index/show/pamelachambers/id/3336161

Dr. Lynne Kinney - Good Stuff for our Children's Brains 04/08/2014

Dr. Lynne Kinney - Good Stuff for our Children's Brains Parenting is rough waters at times. In this podcast episode, we are going to learn that discipline and inflicting pain does not work with your children. Dr. Kenney will help you give your children the vocabulary and tools they need to succeed. We are going to be talking with Dr. Lynne Kenney author of the Family Coach Method. She is a pediatric psychologist and a Family Coach here in Scottsdale Arizona. Lynne has collaborated with Wendy Young and has a new book out titled, “Bloom...Helping Children Blossom.” She has advanced fellowship training in forensic psychology and developmental pediatric psychology from Massachusetts General Hospital/Harvard Medical School. She is going to be here sharing some awesome ideas from her new book. She’s a real delight and you will really enjoy the information she has to share with all of you. Parenting - Parents discipline rarely works. Parenting is a slippery slope. How do we let our children know the boundaries? Parents need to know that discipline and inflicting pain does not work in motivating children to do the right thing. Parents need to give natural consequences or have your child fix his/her mistakes. Children need to think to themselves, "What do I need to do to fix this?" We do not want our children to think, oh no, now I have done something bad and need to be punished. Punishment dolled out to the children by parents may lead to self-loathing in their children. When children are punished and it makes no sense, the children may feel anger and revenge towards the parent. If you take away your child's phone because of being late, it makes no sense to the child. Also, it does not prepare them for the real world. If you are late for work, I assume the manager does not take away your phone. Your manager may make you make up the time. The next time your child goes out, he may need to make up the time and come home that much earlier. Sounds like a rational consequence to me. Dr. Lynne Kenney in her new book, Bloom: Helping children blossom, she helps you give your children the vocabulary to succeed. Parenting suggestions from this podcast with Dr. Kenney Dr. Lynne Kenney speaks with me about her NEW book Bloom: Helping children blossom is helping to build better parenting skills. In this podcast episode, she will talk to us about the following points: How to create a culture of clear expectations in which children can be skillful Children misbehave NOT out of willful non-compliance. Children do not have the words or actions to behave as expected. Give children the skills and vocabulary to be more successful. How to help our children pay attention, focus, and allow them to plan. Teach our children to think better and to be more successful. How NOT to put your children in a defensive stand. Learn how to parent in two different households. Learn the Importance of good role modeling. You will enjoy this podcast and learn a great deal of good information from Dr. Lynne Kenney. Parents, you don't want to miss reading her new book, Bloom: Helping your children blossom. Thanks for listening. /episode/index/show/pamelachambers/id/2770699

Technology Needs a Contract 11/13/2014

Technology Needs a Contract With the holiday season coming up, I imagine technology gifts will be all the rage under the Christmas tree. The iPhone 6 and 6+ are new and very hot items. Are we prepared to teach our children the rules of using that cell phone? Today's show is my interview with and she talks to me about her book, iRules. talks about the contract she had with her son with the purchase of his first iPhone. All of us need a contract for our children in using technology. This is a great idea and good information for this holiday season. Technology can be a dangerous thing when put into our children's hands. Do your children properly use their iPhone? Are they spending too much time on their cell phones? Does their technology interrupt family time? Do you verse them in social etiquette in using that cell phone? Do you give them an idea of how you want them to respect the rules of the home and others when using the cell phone? This podcast show will help answer some of those questions. Janell gave her son an iPhone for his birthday when he was 13 years old. Along with the iPhone, she gave her son a contract for using his iPhone. Janell is a blogger for Huffington Post and when she posted her , it went viral. The next day, Good Morning America was in her living room. Listen to this show and you will learn the following: 1. According to DoSomething.org, 81% of young people think that cyber bullying is easier to get away with than bullying in person. Only 10 percent of victims will turn to a parent or trusted adult for help. Why do you think children don't talk about it? 2. Contract the 18 rules and if violated, it will terminate the use of the iPhone. 3. The iPhone does not go to school with you. 4. The iPhone is returned to parents promptly at 7:30 pm every school night. 5. Problems with sexting and your child. 6. You will mess up and what to do about it. Please check out the latest podcast and learn about the importance of the contract for your child with the cell phone usage. Information in this show: pamelachambers.com About Pamela: is a licensed therapist and founder/CEO of Consulting, on-line business/podcasts/blogger. She writes on topics of parenting and relationships and shares with you what research and experts say about what works and doesn’t work in helping you build a better family life. Sign up at and get Pamela’s list of her 5 best children’s apps for positive emotional development. /episode/index/show/pamelachambers/id/3178706

The right and wrong way to promote self-esteem in our child with Ashely Merryman 09/20/2014

The right and wrong way to promote self-esteem in our child with Ashely Merryman Self Esteem bad for children? Really? Listen up and you can learn more about how researchers caution against promoting children's self-esteem. Summer is over and school is back in session. It's a perfect time to listen to my next podcast. I have Ashley Merryman as a guest today and she is the co-author of two New York Time's best-selling books, Nurture Shock; New Thinking About Children and Top Dog; The Science of Winning and Losing. " New Thinking About children" and Top Dog; The Science of Winning and Losing." For 6 months, Nurture Shock, was on the New York Times bestseller list and an Amazon Top Nonfiction 100 book for over a year. Nurture Shock has been published in 16 different languages and is a worldwide phenomenon. We all want to help our children succeed. Today we are going to speak with Ms. Merryman and she will share with us some of the shocking information that was uncovered with dynamic research in the book, Nurture Shock. Researchers caution against promoting children's self-esteem. In Nurture Shock it states, "Baumeister concluded, that having high self-esteem didn't improve grades or career achievement. It didn't even reduce alcohol usage. And it especially did not lower violence of any sort. (Highly aggressive, violent people happen to think very highly of themselves, debunking the theory that people are aggressive to make up for low self-esteem.)" In this podcast, you will learn the following: Extravagant universal praise can lead to narcissism Universal trophies need to stop Labeling children as smart may cause your children to UNDERPERFORM What kind of praise can be effective "Why don't White Parents talk about race?" What parents can do to reduce racism Check out Ashley Merryman's website to find out more information regarding her books, Top Dog and Nurture Shock. Also mentioned: Kristin Slice at SBDC (Small Business Devlopment Center) in Arizona servicing Maricopa County. Costco Connection Magazine Wow - this is such a great podcast. I could have talked to her for hours upon hours. She was terrific and the books have incredible research. All of you need to read these books now. /episode/index/show/pamelachambers/id/3075645

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Stevie Stanford at Copper Canyon Academy - When are we in over our heads with our teenage daughters? 12/05/2013

Stevie Stanford at Copper Canyon Academy - When are we in over our heads with our teenage daughters? Parents, do you have a teen daughter that you think is out of control? Well, this podcast is for you. My guest is Dr. Stevie Stanford and Doctor Stanford is the clinical program director at Copper Canyon Academy. Copper Canyon Academy is a residential treatment center for teenage girls who are 13 to 17 years of age. This successful treatment center was featured on the Dr. Phil show. In this episode, Dr. Stevie Stanford will be sharing with you what kinds of teen girls are best fit for the program at Copper Canyon. She will also be talking about, you know when we as parents are in over our heads with our teenage daughters. She will be answering questions like the following.When is a program like this residential treatment center that they offer at Copper Canyon right for our teenage daughter? How are parents involved in the program? What kind of help is there for parents when the teen returns home? She will talk about what actually goes on for the teens at this treatment center. Dr. Stevie Stanford was a therapist at Copper Canyon Academy before she returned to school in 2008 to get her doctorate in counseling psychology. She is proficient in psychological testing. She’s also published many articles in the area of eating disorders. She specializes in trauma, EMDR (Eye Movement Desensitization Reprocessing) and attachment disorders. I think you will all be excited to hear what she has to say about the program at Copper Canyon. For you parents, these are some of the things you will learn from Dr. Stevie Stanford in this podcast: What kinds of teens are enrolled at Copper Canyon? What is attachment and how can poor attachment impact families? Can attachment disorders be fixed? When is a residential treatment center right for your daughter? When is your daughter just having normal teenage issues and not a teenager out of control? What programs do they offer at Copper Canyon? How do they involve the parents in treatment? How does Copper Canyon support the parents when the teen leaves? How do Charlie Brown characters represent attachment disorders? Credits: Copper Canyon Academy Charlie Brown music in podcast created by Neil Murphy at Please check out more at . /episode/index/show/pamelachambers/id/2581123

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