Hi, Fam!
Welcome to Hi, Fam! Learn how to blend ancient wisdom with modern living to design a family life you love. Your host, Avital (pronounced Ah-Vee-Tal), is a designer, parenting coach, and mother of five on a mission to guide parents to build unbreakable homes, create passionate marriages, and raise resilient kids. Tune in weekly for no-nonsense myth-busting, tough love, fascinating conversations, and deep dives into controversial subjects. Learn more at hifam.com
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#50 Culture is Lying to You About Motherhood
09/03/2025
#50 Culture is Lying to You About Motherhood
More and more women are quietly asking the same question: is motherhood even worth it anymore? Between the sacrifices, the cultural critiques, and the pressure to “have it all,” the question doesn’t come with an easy answer. That’s why I created The Studio (https://hifam.com/studio) — my membership where I help women design family cultures that feel joyful, resilient, and rooted in what actually matters. Because when your foundation at home is strong, everything else in life feels more grounded. But here’s the tension: our culture often paints motherhood in extremes. Either it’s glorified as the only path to meaning, or dismissed as a burden that drains your best years. Neither story captures the full truth. In this episode, I want to explore that tension. Let's talk honestly about the costs, the rewards, and the deeper transformations of parenthood — without giving you a packaged answer. Because this isn’t about telling you what to choose, it’s about asking the right questions. And if you’re ready to go deeper — to rebuild your mindset, rediscover play in your home, or strengthen your marriage — you’ll find that inside Alchemize (https://hifam.com/alchemize), Reclaim Play (https://reclaimplay.com), and Married U (https://married-u.com).
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#49 5 Things to Stop Saying to Your Husband
08/26/2025
#49 5 Things to Stop Saying to Your Husband
When desire goes offline, everything in marriage feels harder. That’s why I created Desire Lab (https://hifam.com/desire) — my ongoing membership that helps women reignite polarity, chemistry, and attraction. Because when the spark is alive, conflict shrinks, connection grows, and everything else gets easier. But here’s the problem: today, so many couples are talking about their marriages in clinical terms. Words like unsafe, gaslighting, narcissism, or stonewalling have crept into everyday conversations — and instead of bringing couples closer, they often drive them further apart. In this episode, I share the five most common “diagnoses” put on marriages — and why those labels make things worse. More importantly, I’ll show you how to replace them with clear, honest, and practical ways of communicating that lead to repair, grace, forgiveness, and forward motion. Because your marriage isn’t a pathology. It’s a living relationship. And when you’re ready to go deeper and actually build the marriage of your dreams with the partner you already have, that’s exactly what I teach inside Married-U (https://married-u.com).
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#48 Self-Help Labels - The Hidden Harm of Personal Growth
08/19/2025
#48 Self-Help Labels - The Hidden Harm of Personal Growth
Mindset is everything. It shapes whether life’s challenges make us stronger — or keep us stuck. That’s why I created Alchemize, my signature mindset course where I teach you how to transform struggles into strength, and turn setbacks into resilience - Because here’s the truth: self-help promises transformation, but too often it does the opposite. Hidden beneath the buzzwords and labels is a trap. Instead of growing, we get boxed in by identities like “people-pleaser,” “perfectionist,” “trauma survivor,” or “high-functioning.” At first, those labels feel validating. They explain why you are the way you are. But very quickly, they shrink your confidence and keep you fragile. They give language, but also limits. Instead of helping you heal, they make you feel broken. Instead of empowering you, they keep you small. In this episode, I unpack five popular self-help labels that secretly hold women back — and show you how to let them go. Because you are not your label. You don’t need another box to live in. You need freedom, strength, and the courage to face life without constant self-diagnosis. Let’s drop the baggage, quiet the noise, and get back to real growth.
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#47 Top 5 Misdiagnosed Disorders in Children
08/12/2025
#47 Top 5 Misdiagnosed Disorders in Children
Most "sensory-seeking," "strong-willed," and "high needs" children don't need therapy — they need THIS → Here's what I've discovered after raising 5 kids: When children get the movement, exploration, and independent play they're designed for, most of those "diagnostic" behaviors naturally resolve. They develop focus, emotional regulation, social skills, and confidence — not through intervention, but through what their developing brains actually crave. Before you label your child, give them what they're biologically designed to thrive with. Yet... Here's what's happening instead - we live in a world where diagnostic labels are everywhere — and sometimes they help. But too often, we’re taking language meant for clinical settings and casually applying it to normal childhood behavior. That's why we start parenting the label instead of the child. In this episode, we’ll explore: - Why common diagnosis terms might not mean what you think - How these labels can quietly limit your child’s growth (and your confidence as a parent) - What to focus on instead — so you can meet your child’s real needs without boxing them in This isn’t about ignoring challenges. It’s about seeing your child fully — and giving them the chance to rise beyond the story they’ve been given. The shift we’ll talk about today can change the way you see your child, your family culture, and even yourself. 🔥 Reclaim Play – Create a home that meets your child’s developmental needs through independent play: 🔥 The Studio – Build a family culture where your child's identity comes from values, not labels:
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#46 10 Ways THESE Phrases Are Hurting Your Family
08/05/2025
#46 10 Ways THESE Phrases Are Hurting Your Family
Not everything is trauma. Not every disagreement is gaslighting. Not every meltdown is dysregulation. As therapeutic language becomes more mainstream, it’s seeping into how we talk about everything — from parenting and marriage to how we see ourselves. But what if constantly labeling our family dynamics through a therapy lens is doing more harm than good? In this episode, I share 10 ways therapy-speak might be unintentionally hurting your family culture — from overdiagnosing normal struggles, to turning illness into identity, to undermining repair in relationships. Whether you're a parent, partner, or simply someone trying to build a healthier home life, this episode will help you reclaim your confidence, your connection, and your clarity — without the constant need for a label. 🔹 We’ll talk about: • When labeling becomes disabling • Why therapy talk can weaken your instincts • How diagnostic language might hurt your marriage or your child • The risk of turning challenges into fixed identities • How to reconnect with your family’s real culture — beyond pathologizing RESOURCES 🌱 Ready to reclaim your child’s confidence through independent play? Join Reclaim Play → Build a Strong Family Culture with The Studio - Want to go deeper in strengthening your marriage — without pathologizing every disagreement? Learn more about Married-U - Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up by Abigail Shrier -
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#45 10 Things To Try Before Getting Your Child Diagnosed
07/29/2025
#45 10 Things To Try Before Getting Your Child Diagnosed
“Something feels off with my child…” “Is this just a phase… or something more serious?” “Should I get them evaluated?” When your child is struggling socially, emotionally, or behaviorally, the pressure to seek a diagnosis can feel overwhelming — from teachers, doctors, friends, even your own inner panic. But what if we’re rushing to label what’s actually part of normal — if difficult — child development? In this episode, I share 10 things every parent should try before going down the path of evaluation. Not to deny or delay treatment — but to slow down, reconnect, and make sure we’re not pathologizing something that’s entirely natural… and potentially solvable at home. ❤️ This is NOT about avoiding hard truths. ✅ It’s about checking the basics first. There’s a powerful bonus tip at the end that might be the most important of all — one that could completely change how your child sees themselves (and how you support them). 🔥 Before rushing into labels or diagnoses, give your child the gift of unstructured, independent play — it supports emotional regulation, resilience, and connection. Inside Reclaim Play, you’ll learn how to create a home where your child can thrive — no constant interventions required. Start Today - Books mentioned: Bad Therapy: Why the Kids Aren't Growing Up by Abigail Shrier - What-to-Do Guides for Kids -
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#44 Coldplay Cheaters: What Nobody Noticed
07/24/2025
#44 Coldplay Cheaters: What Nobody Noticed
Marriage doesn’t come with a manual—but Married-U is close. Doors are OPEN - “It was just a kiss cam… until it wasn’t.” “How could they not know they’d be on camera?” “Serves them right.” Chances are, you’ve already seen the infamous Coldplay kiss cam clip. A CEO and his HR exec caught in a scandal, ducking for cover, going viral for all the wrong reasons. But why did this cheating story blow up more than any other? Why was it so satisfying to watch—and so easy to shame? In this episode, I’m not here to pile on. I’m here to ask: 💥 Why are we so obsessed with watching people fall? 💥 Why is cancel culture still thriving—no matter which side you’re on? 💥 And what does this scandal reveal about our deepest fears, our marriages, and the fragile thread holding the modern family together? This is a reaction—but also a reframing. If you’ve ever felt disillusioned about love, marriage, or trust… this might hit harder than you expect. 🔥 Want to build a relationship that can withstand the temptations and chaos of our culture? Start your journey here: 🛡️ Learn to guard your marriage, build unshakable trust, and stay connected even when life gets loud.
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#43 What to Do When Your Husband Gives You "The Ick"
07/22/2025
#43 What to Do When Your Husband Gives You "The Ick"
"He just gave me the ick again." "The way he eats. The way he breathes." "I can’t explain it… I just can’t unsee it." At first, it was funny. Relatable. A little cringe, maybe. But lately? You’re noticing how quick the shift happens — from love to annoyance. From playfulness to disgust. From feeling chosen… to feeling trapped. You still care. You still want to want him. But something about him — about you with him — makes your skin crawl. Is it a sign? A red flag? The beginning of the end? Or could it be something deeper — something no one told you to expect when real life and real love collide? This episode isn’t here to shame or mock. It’s here to hold a mirror up to what might really be happening when “the ick” shows up in your relationship… and how it might actually be a path back to connection, if you’re willing to see it differently. Listen all the way through — there’s something in here you won’t be able to un-hear. The FREE Marriage By Design Masterclass - 🔥 Want to understand yourself and your relationship like never before and create the marriage of your dreams? Start here: 🔥 Craving emotional closeness and desire again? This changes the game: https://hifam.com/desirelab
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#42 The 1 Thing That Will Transform Your Marriage (Starting Now)
07/15/2025
#42 The 1 Thing That Will Transform Your Marriage (Starting Now)
"We're just not compatible." "Why is marriage this hard?" "I keep getting the ick every time he does that thing." "Maybe I married the wrong person." You didn’t think it would feel like this. The silence. The tension. The resentment that creeps in even when he’s just breathing. You’re not dramatic. You’re not broken. But something isn’t right — and no one prepared you for what happens when the story in your head about your marriage starts to shift. You’ve Googled it. You’ve tried to talk about it. You’ve done everything “right”… and still feel more alone than ever. This episode isn’t about blaming anyone — not you, not him. It’s about one shift — a new perspective you’ve likely never heard put this way — that might completely reframe the story you’ve been telling yourself… and give you a way back to what you’ve been aching for. Listen to the end. It changes everything. 🔥 Ready to master the marriage skills no one teaches you? Transform your relationship from the inside out: 🔥 Want to reignite the chemistry and desire that brought you together? Rediscover your spark:
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#41 What To Do When Your Husband Feels Like a Roommate
07/08/2025
#41 What To Do When Your Husband Feels Like a Roommate
Remember when you couldn't keep your hands off each other? Now you're lucky if you make eye contact over the dinner dishes. You've gone from lovers to logistics managers, and frankly, you're both exhausted. So you do what everyone tells you to do: you talk about it. You go to therapy. You communicate your feelings. You hash out every grievance, every unmet need, every way he's disappointing you. And somehow... things get worse. Here's the brutal truth no one wants to admit: You're talking your marriage to death. While you're sitting in therapy sessions dissecting every problem, the real issue is dying a slow death. And it's not what your therapist thinks it is. In this episode, I'm exposing the biggest lie about fixing marriages—and revealing what actually brings back the spark you're desperately missing. And this isn't about communication skills or conflict resolution. It's about something much more primal that creates the bond you're craving. Warning: This approach goes against everything you've been told about "working on your relationship." But if you're tired of analyzing your marriage to death and ready to feel something again, this changes everything. 🔥 Ready to stop talking and start feeling? Discover what really works: 🔥 Want the complete marriage transformation? Check out: https://married-u.com/university
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#40 Why Your Husband Feels Like Another Child (And How to Stop It)
07/02/2025
#40 Why Your Husband Feels Like Another Child (And How to Stop It)
Do you ever feel like your husband is like another child? He disappears into the bathroom for 45 minutes right as dinner starts. Heads off golfing without thinking who's watching the kids. Leaves dirty socks for you to pick up like you're his personal maid. You're constantly picking up after him, reminding him of basic responsibilities, and wondering how someone who functions perfectly fine at work can suddenly become helpless at home. The frustration is real. The exhaustion is real. That nagging feeling that you're more like his mother than his wife? Also real. But what if I told you there's something happening in this dynamic that no one talks about? Something that might completely change how you see this entire situation? In this episode, I'm diving into the psychology behind why so many capable women feel like they're raising their husbands instead of partnering with them. And trust me—the real story behind this epidemic is not what you think. If you've ever felt like you're the only adult in your marriage, this one's for you. But prepare yourself: what you discover might surprise you more than you expect. 🔥 Ready to understand what's really happening in your marriage? Start with the free Marriage by Design masterclass: 🔥 Want to explore the deeper dynamics at play? Check out Desire Lab:
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#39 Thinking of leaving your husband? Listen to this first - the truth no one will tell you
06/24/2025
#39 Thinking of leaving your husband? Listen to this first - the truth no one will tell you
"Why do good women want to leave good men?" If you're married to someone who's loyal, faithful, and not abusive—but you sometimes find yourself thinking "maybe we're just not compatible" or "maybe it would be easier without him"—this question might hit closer to home than you'd like to admit. You're not alone in these thoughts. There's a growing trend of women in their late 30s and early 40s walking away from perfectly good marriages, and the reasons aren't what you'd expect. Not infidelity. Not abuse. Not addiction. Something else entirely. But what if these feelings aren't actually about him at all? In this video, I'm diving into the psychology behind this phenomenon—why capable, loving women start questioning solid relationships, and what's really driving these thoughts. Because there's something happening that no one's talking about, and it's affecting more marriages than we realize. But there is good news! Once you understand what's really going on, everything can change. This isn't a problem without a solution—it's a pattern that can be broken. If you've ever felt this way about a good man, or if you're curious about what's behind this trend, this episode will give you answers you didn't know you were looking for. 🔥 Ready to understand what's really happening in your marriage? Start with the free Marriage by Design masterclass at: 🔥 Want to explore deeper connection and attraction? Check out Desire Lab: https://hifam.com/desirelab
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#38 How To Tell if Your Husband is a Narcissist?
06/18/2025
#38 How To Tell if Your Husband is a Narcissist?
“I think my husband’s a narcissist…” If you’ve whispered those words to yourself — in the dark, after another disconnected conversation, or mid-scroll through TikTok — this video is for you. We live in a culture quick to diagnose, quick to label, and even quicker to tell women to walk away. But what if the truth is more complex… and more hopeful? In this episode, I gently unravel the difference between a truly narcissistic partner — and one who is imperfect, avoidant, or simply different from you. I share the hard-earned truths I learned in my own marriage, and the lessons that thousands of women around the world are now living by. This is not about blame. It’s about clarity. It’s about reclaiming intimacy, polarity, and respect — with the partner you already have. 💡 Inside this episode, you’ll discover: • What real narcissism is — and why most husbands don’t have it • The subtle ways culture trains us to resent and reject our men • How emotional superiority can mask our own blind spots • The quiet power of feminine softness, desire, and accountability If you're longing for chemistry, attraction, and real partnership — without needing to fix or diagnose your husband — you’re in the right place. 🔥 Ready to go deeper into what's really affecting your marriage? Transform your relationship at: 🔥 Want to rebuild genuine connection and attraction? Check out Desire Lab: ⚠️ DISCLAIMER: This message is not for women in abusive or dangerous relationships. If your partner is manipulative, emotionally unsafe, or displays signs of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (NPD), please seek professional support. You deserve peace and safety, not pressure to stay.
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#37 The Mental Load Moms Carry — and What to Do About It
06/10/2025
#37 The Mental Load Moms Carry — and What to Do About It
"The mental load is crushing me." If you've ever felt this way—tracking every appointment, remembering every snack preference, carrying the invisible weight of running your household—you're not the only one! The internet is full of women sharing their exhaustion, their resentment, and their anger about shouldering this "unfair burden." But what if everything you've been told about the mental load is making your marriage worse, not better? In this video, I'm challenging the popular narrative that's turning normal adult responsibilities into a crisis. While TikTok coaches teach you to catalog every invisible task and demand your husband "open his eyes," I'll show you why this victim mindset is destroying the very thing you're trying to protect: your partnership. Discover why responsibility is actually a mental health protector (not a destroyer), how the "mental load crisis" dismisses the massive burdens men carry, and why reframing your perspective could transform your marriage from resentful roommates back into a loving team. The truth is, being needed isn't a burden—it's a privilege. And when you stop fighting against your strengths and start embracing them as gifts, everything changes. 🔥 Ready to transform your marriage from scorekeeping to true partnership? Join Married-U: https://married-u.com/university 🔥 Want to build a strong family culture that supports your marriage? Join the Studio: https://hifam.com/studio
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#36 Parenting is Political
06/03/2025
#36 Parenting is Political
What happens when parenting becomes a battlefield for something much bigger? You’ve probably felt it. Heard it. Maybe even argued about it. In this episode I explore what’s really going on beneath the surface — and why it matters more than ever. 👀 You might be surprised where the conversation leads. 🔥 Ready to stop parenting to political trends and start building the family culture you actually believe in? Join the Studio: https://hifam.com/studio
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#35 Why I Never Play With My Kids (And How We Bond Instead)
05/27/2025
#35 Why I Never Play With My Kids (And How We Bond Instead)
"I Don't Like Playing With My Kids—And That Makes Me a Better Parent" Finally, someone's saying what you've been thinking. You love your children fiercely, but toy cars and dollhouses just aren't your thing. Before you spiral into parent guilt... this might actually be your secret weapon for deeper connection. The parenting world has convinced us that meaningful bonding requires endless hours of pretend play, but what if that advice is actually keeping you from the authentic relationship you're craving? What if your resistance to forced fun is your intuition telling you there's a better way? Here's what no one talks about: children can sense when we're going through the motions. When you're sitting on the floor feeling drained and resentful, pretending to enjoy something that bores you to tears, your child feels that energy. They know you're not really present—you're performing. But when you stop forcing behaviors that drain you and start connecting authentically, something magical happens. Your child gets the real you. The engaged you. The parent who shows up with genuine energy instead of forced enthusiasm. In this episode, I reveal 10 research-backed ways to build deeper bonds than forced play ever could. From the bonding behaviors that naturally release oxytocin, to the everyday moments that create unshakable security, these methods honor who you are while giving your child what they truly need. The parents who've embraced this approach report something surprising: their children seem not just more connected, but actually more independent and secure. Because when connection is authentic, children stop seeking constant validation and start thriving in their own play. Your child doesn't need another playmate—they need you at your best. And that happens when you connect from your strengths, not your weaknesses. ________________ 🔥 Ready to build authentic connection and a family culture that works for who you actually are? Join the Studio where we create meaningful family rhythms and raise confident kids without the performance: 📖 Want independent play so you have energy for real connection? Get the Reclaim Play course and free yourself from being the entertainment committee:
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#34 How to Love Your Son Without Creating a 'Mama's Boy'
05/22/2025
#34 How to Love Your Son Without Creating a 'Mama's Boy'
Do you ever worry that your nurturing instincts might be holding your children back from true independence? Today I'm diving into the strange world of "son-bands" - when a mother attaches to her son in a way that's more appropriate for a partner. In this episode, I explore how modern parenting culture has blurred the boundaries between healthy attachment and unhealthy dependence. You'll discover: - The shocking social media trend normalizing mother-son enmeshment - Why the "devouring mother" phenomenon prevents children from launching - How gentle parenting can accidentally create codependence when boundaries disappear - Six practical strategies to foster healthy attachment without sacrificing independence - The surprising reason your partner should come before your child in your emotional hierarchy This isn't about making you feel guilty—it's about recognizing the subtle patterns that might be keeping both you and your children from thriving. However, with small adjustments to your approach, you can maintain deep connection while empowering your children to become truly independent. Ready to implement these strategies in your family? Join us in The Studio (https://hifam.com/studio) for ongoing support and implementation (and so much more!). And remember - a strong marriage is your child's best protection against unhealthy attachment patterns. Discover how to revitalize your relationship at Married U:
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#33 7 Parenting Personality Types - Which Are You?
05/20/2025
#33 7 Parenting Personality Types - Which Are You?
Ever feel like you're not measuring up as a parent? Like everyone else has it figured out while you're just trying to make it through the day? In this episode, I reveal the 7 different parenting superpowers that make families thrive - and help you identify which one is YOUR zone of genius! The truth is, none of us excel at everything in parenting (or in life). We each have unique strengths that are shaping our children in powerful ways - strengths that might come so naturally to you that you don't even recognize them as special. Stop comparing yourself to other parents and start recognizing your own gifts. Because incredible families aren't built by perfect parents—they're built by parents who leverage their natural strengths and build meaningful family cultures one habit at a time. Listen to discover your parenting superpower, learn to be confident in it, and see how you can use it to create the family life you dream of! Join the Studio waitlist: Reclaim Play book & course:
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#32 Digital Detox for Families | Our Weekly Screen-Free Ritual
05/08/2025
#32 Digital Detox for Families | Our Weekly Screen-Free Ritual
Ever wonder what would happen if your family just unplugged completely? No phones, tablets, TV, or devices - even for just a few hours? While this might sound challenging in today's digital world, my family takes a complete technology break for 25 hours every weekend. What started as a religious practice has become the cornerstone of our family connection, creating space for what truly matters. In this glimpse into our screen-free time, I share: - What actually fills those hours when Netflix isn't an option - How kids naturally return to imaginative play without prompting - The simple activities that create deeper family bonds - Why meaningful conversations happen more easily without digital distractions This isn't about suggesting everyone needs a full day unplugged or imposing strict rules. It's about sharing practical ideas you might adapt for your own family - even if it's just a screen-free dinner or Sunday morning. The surprising truth is that when screens go away, something beautiful happens. Children play differently. Parents connect more deeply. And time somehow feels both slower and more valuable. Whether you're looking to implement a brief weekly tech break or simply curious about building stronger family bonds, these practical insights might inspire your own version of sacred family time. Want to reclaim your family time from screens? Join parents worldwide in the Studio at https://hifam.com/studio and discover simple ways to create tech boundaries that strengthen connection without daily battles.
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#31 Adolescence on Netflix: What's Truly Harming Our Kids
05/01/2025
#31 Adolescence on Netflix: What's Truly Harming Our Kids
Everyone’s talking about Adolescence on Netflix — toxic masculinity, Andrew Tate, and the crisis in teen boys. But what if we’re all looking in the wrong direction? In this episode, I react to Adolescence and the public conversation around it — and I share a different perspective on what’s really going on with boys today. You’ll hear: - Why I believe the current narrative is missing the mark - What Adolescence got right — and what it left out - The uncomfortable truth we don’t want to face as parents - And the one question we should be asking, but aren’t If you’re a parent, educator, or just someone worried about where things are heading — this one’s for you. 🔗 Ready to build the kind of family culture that protects kids from cultural chaos? Join us in The Studio → https://www.hifam.com/studio
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#30 How to Raise Emotionally Strong Kids in a World Full of Victims
04/29/2025
#30 How to Raise Emotionally Strong Kids in a World Full of Victims
Our culture teaches kids to be fragile. I'm here to show you how to do the opposite. If you want strong, confident, emotionally stable kids who don't crumble at every slight, you need to raise them differently — and it starts with you. In this episode, I break down: ⚡ How to move past endless pity parties and teach real accountability. ⚡ Why endless empathy backfires — and what your child actually needs. ⚡ The 2 questions every child must ask when insulted (game changer). ⚡ How to teach your kids to laugh, let go, and stay cool under fire. Fragile kids grow into fragile adults. Let's not let that happen. Let’s raise humans who are unshakable, unvictimized, and unstoppable. 💥 Want to go deeper? Doors to the Studio are open until May 1st, you still have time to join and raise strong, capable, resilient kids together! Ready to become mentally tough yourself? Join the waitlist for Alchemize -
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#29 When Gentle Parenting Backfires: 5 Mistakes to Avoid
04/24/2025
#29 When Gentle Parenting Backfires: 5 Mistakes to Avoid
🔥 Join the Studio while the doors are open: "I just feel like my kids don't take me seriously anymore." If you've found yourself whispering this to a friend, you're not alone. The gap between gentle parenting ideals and your daily reality might be wider than you think. In this episode, I'm breaking the silence on what happens when well-intentioned approaches slide into permissiveness - and why your children might be the ones paying the price. Discover the five hidden traps catching even the most conscious parents, undermining your authority without you realizing it. These subtle shifts aren't just frustrating for you; they're creating patterns that could follow your children into adulthood. But! The path back to confident leadership doesn't mean abandoning warmth or connection. Parents who've implemented these changes report something surprising: their children seem not just better behaved, but actually happier and more secure.
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#28 How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Entitled (8 tips)
04/22/2025
#28 How to Raise Kids Who Aren't Entitled (8 tips)
🔥 Join the Studio while doors are open: Is your child shocked when they don't get exactly what they want? The entitlement epidemic is spreading, and it's not about what you can afford—it's about the mindset you're cultivating. I'll share 8 practical strategies to raise grateful children in a world designed to make them want more, including: - The unexpected reason saying "no" actually helps your child - Why too many choices overwhelms their developing brain - The dangerous "hedonic treadmill" that's breaking their happiness meter Whether your child melts down over the wrong flavor ice cream or expects instant gratification for every desire, this video provides the confidence to parent against the cultural current. The good news is that you can raise a child who appreciates what they have without depriving them of life's joys.
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#27 Afraid of Being 'Judgmental'? Why Your Children Need Your Guidance
04/17/2025
#27 Afraid of Being 'Judgmental'? Why Your Children Need Your Guidance
🔥 Join the Studio: https://hifam.com/studio while doors are open (and get EARLY BIRD pricing while it lasts) "Who are you to judge?" - the phrase paralyzing parents everywhere. I used to tiptoe around my own values, terrified of being labeled "judgmental." But here's the uncomfortable truth: if YOU don't guide your child's moral compass, TikTok and their peers will. This isn't about control. It's about inheritance. In this episode, I expose the dangerous myth of "neutral parenting" and give you 5 powerful ways to confidently guide your children without becoming the dictator you fear. Your child doesn't need a chauffeur who stays silent on life's biggest questions. They need a coach who's cracked the code on building a meaningful life. The Righteous Mind: Why Good People Are Divided by Politics and Religion by Jonathan Haidt -
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#26 Raise a Kid Who Won't Rebel (3 Steps)
04/15/2025
#26 Raise a Kid Who Won't Rebel (3 Steps)
🔥 Join the Studio: https://hifam.com/studio while doors are open (and get EARLY BIRD pricing while it lasts) 🔥 Get the accompanying PDF for this video: https://hifam.com/rebel-pdf Is teenage rebellion really inevitable? What if everything we've been told about modern parenting is actually CAUSING the problem? Controversial truth: children aren't rebelling against boundaries—they're rebelling against the LACK of them. As a mother of five, I've discovered why today's "hands-off" parenting approach is backfiring spectacularly. Yet… What's the alternative? Why do some teenagers naturally resist peer pressure while others fall for every trend? In this video I share a powerful 3-step approach that transforms how your children view your guidance. The secret isn't controlling your kids—it's building something they genuinely want to be part of. Curious how to become the trusted guide your family needs? Listen now to discover what modern parenting experts won't tell you.
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#25 Luxury Hauls, iPad Kids, Consumerism, Entitlement and Materialism
04/10/2025
#25 Luxury Hauls, iPad Kids, Consumerism, Entitlement and Materialism
🔥 Get the Reclaim Play Course here: https://reclaimplay.com/course (so you're kids are busy playing independently instead of on screens)! 🔥 Join the Studio: https://hifam.com/studio while doors are open (and get EARLY BIRD pricing while it lasts) Is it even possible to avoid materialism in today's world? Or are we trapped in a cycle that's turning our children into entitled consumers? "Why can't I have it? You never buy me anything!" "This is boring already." "Is that all I'm getting?" Sound familiar? These phrases haunt parents everywhere, leaving us wondering: Where did we go wrong? Why does nothing ever seem enough? I analyzed dozens of viral "what I got my child" TikTok hauls and saw why even loving, well-intentioned parents are creating a generation that struggles with gratitude. "Maybe if I get them this ONE more thing, they'll finally be happy..." "Am I a bad parent if I don't buy what their friends have?" "Why does Christmas joy fade so quickly now?" These thoughts aren't your failure - they're symptoms of a larger problem affecting families across all income levels. Whether you're drowning in toy clutter, exhausted by constant "I wants," or just trying to raise kids with healthy values in a materialistic world, this episode offers practical wisdom without judgment.
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#24 How to Teach Kids Common Sense and Values
04/09/2025
#24 How to Teach Kids Common Sense and Values
🔥 Join the Studio: while doors are open (and get EARLY BIRD pricing while it lasts) Get the FREE Accompanying Worksheet - Ever notice how some of today's most popular parenting advice leaves you feeling more uncertain and your kids more entitled? What if there's a more effective way to raise resilient children who actually listen? As a mom of five, I've been there—trying all the "right" techniques but still struggling. This episode is for every parent who's tired of walking on eggshells in their own home. This will challenge everything you thought you knew about modern parenting. Don't miss it—this could be the parenting breakthrough you've been searching for.
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#23 iPad Moms & Unlimited Screens – Why Parents Are Choosing Tablets
04/03/2025
#23 iPad Moms & Unlimited Screens – Why Parents Are Choosing Tablets
"I don't restrict screen time so my kids aren't obsessed with it." "I don't like limiting my kids from anything." "It helps them self-regulate." These popular claims are spreading rapidly across social media. But does removing limits actually create more balanced children, or is it simply a convenient way to avoid difficult boundaries? In this episode, I examine the flawed logic behind the "no limits" approach and what screen use actually does to developing brains. I explore: - Why the "forbidden fruit" theory about restrictions doesn't hold up to scrutiny - The false equivalence between screen time and food restrictions - The uncomfortable truth about why many parents avoid setting boundaries - What research actually tells us about screen time's impact on development - The alternative solution most parents aren't aware of (that doesn't involve screens OR constant parent attention) Beyond trends and convenient solutions lies the truth about what children truly need to thrive. I offer practical alternatives that benefit both overwhelmed parents AND developing children - no guilt, just better options. ____________________ 📌 Ready to help your child play independently for HOURS without screens? Get my play course: 📌 Transform your family culture with like-minded parents in The Studio - where we tackle real challenges with evidence-based solutions:
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#22 10 Things I Still LOVE About Gentle Parenting
04/01/2025
#22 10 Things I Still LOVE About Gentle Parenting
Many parents are walking away from gentle parenting—and for good reason. Our children lose the boundaries they need to thrive when it morphs into permissiveness. But in our rush to correct course, we risk losing what made this approach valuable in the first place. In this episode, I share 10 treasures from gentle parenting that transformed my relationship with my five children—principles worth preserving even as we move toward a more balanced approach. These elements create children who feel both loved and capable of meeting life's challenges. This isn't about parenting dogma. It's about discernment—taking what works and leaving what doesn't. Join me for this honest conversation about creating a family culture that prepares children for a meaningful life. __________________ Ready for balanced parenting? Join The Studio waitlist for personalized guidance on combining connection WITH boundaries -
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#21 Controversial Dating Advice I'll Give My Kids
03/27/2025
#21 Controversial Dating Advice I'll Give My Kids
In a world of hookup culture, casual sex, and dating apps, what relationship advice will actually serve our children well? While many parents avoid these uncomfortable conversations altogether, I believe our children deserve real guidance about dating, relationships, and marriage. They need more than just 'follow your heart' or 'do whatever feels right.' In this honest discussion, I share the dating advice I'll give my own children as they enter their teen years. Drawing from both traditional values and practical wisdom, I cover: - The fundamental purpose of dating (and why 'just for fun' might be setting them up for heartbreak) - The surprising benefits of marrying younger rather than waiting for perfect 'readiness' - Why involving family and friends in relationship decisions is actually wise, not old-fashioned - The hidden costs of casual relationships that most dating advice ignores - How to maintain personal independence while building a strong partnership This isn't about imposing restrictive rules or outdated thinking. It's about equipping our children with the tools to build meaningful, lasting relationships in a culture that often treats commitment as optional and marriage as outdated. Whether you agree with my approach or have a completely different perspective, this conversation matters. Our children need more guidance, not less, when navigating today's confusing relationship landscape. ____________________ Ready to create a family culture that values commitment? Join the Studio waitlist at and start building the foundation your children need for healthy relationships. Stop waiting to develop relationship skills. Join the Married U waitlist at and learn to build a thriving partnership. Books mentioned: The Case Against the Sexual Revolution by Louise Perry ( A New Guide to Sex in the 21st Century: The Young Adult Adaptation of 'The Case Against the Sexual Revolution' by Louise Perry ()
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