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Welcome to Hi, Fam! Learn how to blend ancient wisdom with modern living to design a family life you love. Your host, Avital (pronounced Ah-Vee-Tal), is a designer, parenting coach, and mother of five on a mission to guide parents to build unbreakable homes, create passionate marriages, and raise resilient kids. Tune in weekly for no-nonsense myth-busting, tough love, fascinating conversations, and deep dives into controversial subjects.

#2 Facts vs Feelings - Who Wins? 01/31/2023

#1 How to Show Up to Your Family Life (Like a Boss) 01/24/2023

TPJ 113: Selfish Parenting 04/06/2022

TPJ 112: A New Way To Look At Anger 03/22/2022

TPJ 111: HELP! I HATE MY CHILD (What to do if you dislike your child) 03/08/2022

TPJ 111: HELP! I HATE MY CHILD (What to do if you dislike your child) Feeling hatred toward your child is a symptom of a different problem. This is a controversial and taboo topic, but it's not that uncommon for parents to sometimes feel disgusted and think or say "Go away!" "Leave me alone." "I don't like you." "I don't want you." "I don't love you." "I hate you!" towards their kids. So what's causing that very uncomfortable sensation and feeling? Don't stay stuck with the feeling that there's something wrong with you or something wrong with your child - let's break this down: ↓ ↓ ↓ ↓ ↓ Join us on the TPJ App for the full-text version, private community discussion, and MUCH more: [02:14] Feeling hatred toward your child is a symptom of a different problem [03:59] 1. This is normal [05:57] Even though it's normal there are things we can do about it [07:25] 2. Change is constant [10:35] 3. Your child might be going through a hard time right now [12:37] 4. YOU might be going through a hard time right now [14:43] 5. You don't hate your child; you hate their behaviors or temperament [17:12] 6. Take a break [19:03] 7. Coach yourself [20:16] 8. Inhibit yourself [21:28] 9. Imagine it’s your last day on earth [22:42] 10. Envision your golden moments with your child [24:00] 11. List out the things that are awesome about your child [24:41] 12. Reframe their bad traits [26:28] Correct their shadow side and celebrate their light side [27:01] Traits we find difficult in childhood are often assets in adulthood [27:20] 13. Engage in baby bonding behaviors [28:22] 14. Use humor [29:34] 15. Love is a choice If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can . Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community . /episode/index/show/parentingjunkie/id/22380221

TPJ 110: I’m A Hypocrite 02/21/2022

TPJ 110: I’m A Hypocrite Over the years I've been sharing things I'm learning about Parenting. Things I read in books, things I experiment on in my own lab (my family), and I've been sharing what has really resonated with me and what's worked for me. But I must make a confession and expose the hypocrisy, the many contradictions and paradoxes that occur within me within my own mind, my family, my parenting practice, and what I outwardly preach. There are many things that I am drawn to and believe in that I share with you. And then as time goes on, or perhaps just in the way that it resonates or works in my individual family and with my unique children, it didn't really work out that way or I opted for something else or I changed my mind. In this episode I'm going to tell you about several things that I have preached outwardly that I still respect and support and believe in, but don't necessarily practice at home with my children. [02:04] #1 Unschooling [04:58] #2 Co-sleeping [07:19] #3 Saying no [08:53] #4 Time outs [10:36] We pick and choose what works best for our family [11:55] #5 Punishments [14:37] #6 Monitoring content [16:28] #7 Sticker charts [18:31] #8 Minimalism [20:08] #9 E.C. & cloth diapers I hope that this liberates you from any dogmatic kind of thinking, any kind of perfectionism, any imagination or projection onto me that I am doing it perfectly. Because that is so far from the truth. If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can! Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can . Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community . Full Show Notes: /episode/index/show/parentingjunkie/id/19759457

TPJ 109: Boost Your Confidence As A Stay-At-Home-Parent 01/10/2022

TPJ 108: Why You Should Feel Great As A Working Parent 11/01/2021

TPJ 107: How To Prepare Your Partner To Support You During Birth 06/03/2021

TPJ 106: How To Prepare For A Home Birth 05/27/2021

TPJ 105: Self-Care During Pregnancy 05/20/2021

TPJ 104: 10 Design Tips For A Sophisticated Home 03/29/2021

TPJ 103: Using The Law Of Attraction To Create Family Bliss 03/22/2021

TPJ 102: 10 Ways To Get Out Of Survival Mode 03/15/2021

TPJ 102: 10 Ways To Get Out Of Survival Mode Are you finding yourself in survival mode, feeling like you are running on empty and worried that you might be leading yourself to burnout? If you’re not sure where you fall on the burnout spectrum, go check out last week’s episode on the 10 signals that you might be in survival mode. Now that we know the signs, it’s time to get practical and do something about it. What we really want to do is get our expectations to meet our level of support, and work on both sides of that equation. On one hand we need to be realistic about our expectations and in some ways lower the bar. But we can also work on increasing our level of support or perhaps reduce our level of responsibilities. Let’s dig in and talk about how we can conserve energy and recharge so that we can push ourselves out of survival mode and thrive. [02:22] #1 - Simplify everything [02:56] #2 - Use more screen time [04:05] #3 - Lower your learning expectations [05:03] #4 - Lower your presence expectations [06:31] #5 - Write out helpful scripts [10:11] #6 - Ask for help (and accept it) [12:11] #7 - Let people in [13:29] #8 - Prioritize self-care [15:20] #9 - Positive self-talk [16:50] #10 - Enlist your children's help If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can . Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community . Resources: Check out my free Facebook group, Join my membership, ! Full Show Notes: /episode/index/show/parentingjunkie/id/18289577

TPJ 101: 10 Signs You're Burning Out 03/15/2021

TPJ 100: Does Your Toddler Throw Food? 03/01/2021

TPJ 99: Motivate Kids To Get Ready To Go 02/25/2021

TPJ 98: Help Your Toddler Play Independently 02/22/2021

TPJ 97: Can Babies Play Independently? 02/15/2021

TPJ 96: How To Sleep Better During Pregnancy 02/08/2021

TPJ 95: 10 Reasons You Might Hate Parenting (And What To DO About It) 02/01/2021

TPJ 94: How To Ward Off Depression 01/25/2021

TPJ 94: How To Ward Off Depression Let’s talk depression. First I want to say that I have gone through seasons where I needed professional help, and there’s absolutely no shame in that. If you feel you need some help, please don’t hesitate. It can make a world of difference. But even if you’re not feeling clinically depressed, it’s common to go through seasons of feeling “the blues” or feeling down. Thankfully, there are some things we can do to help bolster our mood and help us feel better! In this episode I’m going to give you 15 things you can do when you’re feeling down. [00:45] 1 - Normalize [02:56] 2 - Express don't suppress [04:23] 3 - Seek professional help [05:54] 4 - Do "The Work" by Byron Katie [06:40] 5 - Get outside [07:18] 6 - Get a listening partnership [08:33] 7 - Get enough sleep [09:14] 8 - Move your body [10:09] 9 - Laugh (watch some comedy) [10:47] 10 - Pamper yourself [11:25] 11 - Eat well [12:58] 12 - Check if you need supplements or a dietary change [13:14] 13 - Cleanse your mental diet [14:41] 14 - Take a break from social media [15:10] 15 - Help others If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can . Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community . Resources mentioned: Join my membership, ! Books about CBT: (I haven’t read this...yet. It looks promising) Books about mindset: Full Show Notes: /episode/index/show/parentingjunkie/id/17665307

TPJ 93: 10 Ways To Feel Less Overwhelmed As A Mom 01/18/2021

TPJ 92: How To Feel Phenomenal When You're A Mom 01/11/2021

TPJ 92: How To Feel Phenomenal When You're A Mom In our culture it’s quite acceptable to wear yoga pants all day, have cheerios in your hair, have spit up on your shirt, and always look a little bit like a hot mess once you become a mom. And you know what? It’s OK if you do! Being a mom is exhausting and demanding. Compared to the childless life, it’s a lot harder to look and feel phenomenal as you’re running around after toddlers all day, taking care of newborns all night, chauffeuring kids around all day, preparing lunches, making loads of meals, washing loads of dishes, cleaning all the time, and the list goes on. I get it. I really get it. I’m not a lifestyle, fashion and makeup guru, but I do know this: when I feel put together, somewhat taken care of, and I like the way that I look, I operate better. I’m a much more patient, upbeat, and positive person. So I happen to think that it’s an incredibly powerful parenting tool to make yourself feel like the best version of yourself. When we feel good and feel confident going out into the world we have more energy to show up for our children with more love, patience, energy, space and joy! We just have more of ourselves to give. In this episode I’ll give you 8 tips to help feel phenomenal as a mom with littles! [02:33] #1 - Don't snooze [05:07] #2 - Get dressed in the morning [06:51] #3 - Do something to take care of yourself in the morning [08:29] #4 - Add fragrance to yourself and/or your home [09:41] #5 - Play music you love [11:00] #6 - Make food you love [13:55] #7 - Take time to do little things for yourself throughout the day. [15:58] #8 - Take care of yourself at night [19:03] Speaking of nighttime...go to bed earlier! [20:42] Feeling phenomenal as a parent is a form of good parenting! If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can . Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community . /episode/index/show/parentingjunkie/id/17506163

TPJ 91: What To Do When Your Kids Use Inappropriate Language 01/04/2021

TPJ 90: Practical Ways To Create A Great Atmosphere At Home 12/14/2020

TPJ 89: Create A Family Vision 12/07/2020

TPJ 89: Create A Family Vision Do you ever feel like you don't want to do this anymore? This parenting thing, I mean. The nagging, the fighting, the wining, the dishes, the laundry, feeling tired and drained and sometimes, hopeless. Angry. Vengeful. Exhausted. We all go through seasons like this. But the good news is we don’t have to stay there. One thing that can make a huge difference and give you the extra push to get through the lows is to create a vision for your family. That’s what I want to talk about today. [02:53] What do we do when we don't feel like we can keep going? [04:37] That's why it's so important to have a vision. [05:35] We need to understand what it's all for. [06:07] We all need a vision for our families [06:57] If you don't already have one, it's time to start working on it! [07:18] Examples, to get the creative juices flowing... [07:54] It needs to be meaningful. Something to get you up in the morning. Something worth fighting for. [08:44] If you'd like help crafting yours, Creating a big juicy vision for your family will help you push through the challenging times. It’ll provide a north star, a guiding light, taking you closer to what you really want for you and your family. If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can . Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community . Resources: Full Show Notes: /episode/index/show/parentingjunkie/id/17080028

TPJ 88: Not “What”, But “How” 11/30/2020

TPJ 87: Rethinking Mistakes And Failures 11/23/2020

TPJ 86: Living with Duality 11/16/2020

TPJ 86: Living with Duality Kids (and adults, if we’re being honest) often have a rigid way of thinking. It’s often black or white, all or nothing. We see our truth, and find it hard to understand that someone else may have a different truth. But life (and people) are much more complex and nuanced than that, and we often live with a duality that can be hard to cope with. Today we’re going to talk about a hallmark of maturity that can help us (and our kids) deal with this. [01:14] ! [02:50] Children often have a rigid way of thinking [04:16] The ability to hold 2 conflicting truths at the same time is a hallmark of maturity. [05:09] Let's replace the word "but" & “or” with "and" [06:44] Sometimes we can feel both a like and dislike for the same thing. What do we do with that? [08:01] It's immature to reduce things or people down to just one thing, all or nothing. [08:32] Let's try to coach our kids and introduce them to other perspectives. As we experience challenges and difficult circumstances (and difficult people), Let's try to use "and" more than "or" or "but". Let’s give people space for their complex views and truths and realize that we all live with some duality in our lives. If you enjoyed this episode and it inspired you in some way, I’d love to hear about your biggest takeaway. Take a selfie of you listening or a screenshot of the show, post it to instagram stories, and tag me or feel free to DM me on instagram, I try to reply to as many as I can!Are you subscribed to my podcast? Subscribe so that fresh episodes are delivered directly to you. Those shiny 5-star ratings and sweet reviews have me all gushy, thank you. But more importantly, they help other parents discover the Parenting Junkie Show and spread the word about Loving parenting and Parenting from Love. If you have a moment to spare, those reviews mean the world to me, you can . Want to connect to like-minded parenting junkies? Join our (free & awesome) FB community . Resources: ! Full Show Notes: /episode/index/show/parentingjunkie/id/16808132

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