Peace Talk: The Work of Byron Katie with Grace

Peace Talk is a podcast dedicated to exploring change and dissolving human suffering....where we investigate misery, unhappiness, negativity, mental illness, addiction and other internal battles people experience that make life not-so-fun....and turn these experiences around for a life of peace, joy and acceptance. Who are we without our stressful thinking?

Peace Talk Episode 221: How do I?.....The faulty assumption in this question that's very painful 05/30/2023

Peace Talk Episode 221: How do I?.....The faulty assumption in this question that's very painful A long list of people have submitted questions that begin with "how do I?" It's so normal and understandable. My mind does exactly the same thing. Of course it would love to know, what a fabulous question. But there's a baseline assumption in the question itself, that must be questioned, for a true relaxation to occur: the belief that I am an individual person who is missing something. I don't have the answer. I don't know how. I really have to find out how, it's imperative. What if you didn't have to know how, and the thing you're seeking is not actually missing? And this doesn't mean not studying, not enjoying learning, or never gathering information...strangely enough. This is about not being identified as "the person who doesn't know how." Or worse, the person who is broken, damaged, messed up, missing something. The person who is wrong. Who would you be without that troubling story? Even when it comes to addiction/compulsion? Get on the Grace Notes newsletter mailing list to learn about Grace's work and upcoming events, and other support for questioning our thinking patterns when we feel stuck. https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/sign-up-for-grace-notes-in-your-inbox/ Upcoming fall in-person retreat October 26-31, 2023 Washington state near Bremerton in the woods. Join me! IN PERSON Seattle, Washington Eat, Inquire, Love Retreat June 25-July 2, 2023 https://www.workwithgrace.com/summer-retreat/ If you'd like help with emotional eating or compulsive eating, see the map I created I call the Nine Step Eating Peace Framework here: https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/eating-peace-framework/ For more information about the Eating Peace Method, visit here: https://www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace-process/ Grace Bell, Certified Facilitator of The Work since 2007, has a private practice both online and in person, assisting people from all walks of life to identify and question their interpretations around their experience. She has a special love and specific programs for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. To receive notice of Eating Peace programs, videos and vlog posts, visit www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace and join the mailing list. To join the Grace Notes family of readers right now, Grace's popular blog on using The Work of Byron Katie to grow a peaceful life, get the thorough START HERE guide to letting The Work, work right here: https://workwithgrace.leadpages.co/start-here-guidebook/ Where to find me: workwithgrace.com grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/ https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach https://www.linkedin.com/in/workwithgrace/ https://www.instagram.com/byronkatiecoach/ /episode/index/show/peacetalk/id/26989383

Peace Talk Episode 220: Q&A "I'm better but I've had this problem for years...how can I make it stop?" 05/23/2023

Peace Talk Episode 220: Q&A "I'm better but I've had this problem for years...how can I make it stop?" Many people suffering from compulsive behaviors wish desperately they could stop. They HAVE stopped sometimes, for even fairly long periods, only to "go back" to what they once did--all over again. It seems like mental drudgery to be on the cycle over and over again, thinking about the same things over and over again. Like returning to the same area in the wilderness if you were lost--thinking you're finding your way out, and here you are at a familiar old point again where you were two days ago. So discouraging. What part of you is not affected by this merry-go-round? Get on the Grace Notes newsletter mailing list to learn about Grace's work and upcoming events, and other support for questioning our thinking patterns when we feel stuck. https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/sign-up-for-grace-notes-in-your-inbox/ Upcoming fall in-person retreat October 26-31, 2023 Washington state near Bremerton in the woods. Join me! IN PERSON Seattle, Washington Eat, Inquire, Love Retreat June 25-July 2, 2023 https://www.workwithgrace.com/summer-retreat/ If you'd like help with emotional eating or compulsive eating, see the map I created I call the Nine Step Eating Peace Framework here: https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/eating-peace-framework/ For more information about the Eating Peace Method, visit here: https://www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace-process/ Grace Bell, Certified Facilitator of The Work since 2007, has a private practice both online and in person, assisting people from all walks of life to identify and question their interpretations around their experience. She has a special love and specific programs for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. To receive notice of Eating Peace programs, videos and vlog posts, visit www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace and join the mailing list. To join the Grace Notes family of readers right now, Grace's popular blog on using The Work of Byron Katie to grow a peaceful life, get the thorough START HERE guide to letting The Work, work right here: https://workwithgrace.leadpages.co/start-here-guidebook/ Where to find me: workwithgrace.com grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/ https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach https://www.linkedin.com/in/workwithgrace/ https://www.instagram.com/byronkatiecoach/ /episode/index/show/peacetalk/id/26926899

Peace Talk Episode 219: How believing "I have to be productive" makes us heavy 05/16/2023

Peace Talk Episode 219: How believing "I have to be productive" makes us heavy When we believe we have to be productive, we envision our projects, work, tasks, time as needing to be filled in order to be successful. The thing is, having this thought can produce a lot of anxiety, and then rebellion and sometimes the opposite of being "productive". We eat, watch, do all kinds of things, and keep moving. It's stressful. But what about doing nothing at all? Can we allow ourselves the pleasure of simply being, like we may have done when we were kids? Get on the Grace Notes newsletter mailing list to learn about Grace's work and upcoming events, and other support for questioning our thinking patterns when we feel stuck. https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/sign-up-for-grace-notes-in-your-inbox/ Upcoming online spring retreat in The Work of Byron Katie April 27-30, 2023 7:30am-10:00am daily on zoom. https://www.workwithgrace.com/spring-retreat/ IN PERSON Seattle, Washington Eat, Inquire, Love Retreat June 25-July 2, 2023 https://www.workwithgrace.com/summer-retreat/ If you'd like help with emotional eating or compulsive eating, see the map I created I call the Nine Step Eating Peace Framework here: https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/eating-peace-framework/ For more information about the Eating Peace Method, visit here: https://www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace-process/ Grace Bell, Certified Facilitator of The Work since 2007, has a private practice both online and in person, assisting people from all walks of life to identify and question their interpretations around their experience. She has a special love and specific programs for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. To receive notice of Eating Peace programs, videos and vlog posts, visit www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace and join the mailing list. To join the Grace Notes family of readers right now, Grace's popular blog on using The Work of Byron Katie to grow a peaceful life, get the thorough START HERE guide to letting The Work, work right here: https://workwithgrace.leadpages.co/start-here-guidebook/ Where to find me: workwithgrace.com grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/ https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach https://www.linkedin.com/in/workwithgrace/ https://www.instagram.com/byronkatiecoach/ /episode/index/show/peacetalk/id/26855832

Peace Talk Episode 218: this condition blocks my happiness--I am my body 05/05/2023

Peace Talk Episode 218: this condition blocks my happiness--I am my body The first Friday of the month (and sometimes the second--make sure you're on the Grace Notes mailing list to get alerted about First Friday) happens every month: an hour of meditation in The Work of Byron Katie and self-inquiry. In this session, we looked at the belief "this physical condition blocks me from happiness, relaxation, freedom". Hot flashes, thin hair, light sensitivity...and other ailments in the body. Who would we be without the story "this blocks me from peace" or even the thought "I am my body"? The Work of Byron Katie is a practice of self-inquiry allowing us to work with stresses appearing in the mind, and to relax with our experience of life. Grace Bell, facilitator of The Work, assists people to identify and question their stressful ways of looking at life. She offers Year of Inquiry, a vibrant membership community of inquirers Sept-June each year. Grace also has a special love for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. Grace works with all kinds of compulsions, habits and addictions as they are all the same thing: a pull to some behavior, substance or activity in order to help us with our stressful feelings and thoughts. As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. In the public sessions on this youtube channel, we have all-group inquiry sessions called First Friday Inquiry, we have interviews with practitioners of The Work, we have Eating Peace videos (on the eating peace playlist) and we have individual sessions in The Work by courageous people willing to be recorded for Peace Talk podcast and this channel. Thanks to everyone involved in what is shared here on this channel, as it is great service to others in the world who find their way here and who are curious about life without "believing" thought all the time. In all-group sessions and solo sessions, we begin with a judgment...and move into the four questions and turnarounds. Willingness to be real and honest with your thinking is the first powerful step in The Work. No one ever has to share when attending Friday Inquiry, and thank you when you do. For the Work With Grace programs and more information, and to get on the Grace Notes mailing list for updates and sharing of all kinds around The Work, please visit www.workwithgrace.com To receive notice of Eating Peace programs, videos and vlog posts, visit www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace and join the mailing list. To join the Grace Notes family of readers right now, Grace's popular blog on using The Work of Byron Katie to grow a peaceful life, get the thorough START HERE guide to letting The Work, work right here: https://workwithgrace.leadpages.co/start-here-guidebook/ Where to find me: workwithgrace.com grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/ https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach https://www.linkedin.com/in/workwithgrace/ https://www.instagram.com/byronkatiecoach/ /episode/index/show/peacetalk/id/26758395

Peace Talk Episode 217: Questioning the belief you're damaged, broken, can't "get" it 05/02/2023

Peace Talk Episode 217: Questioning the belief you're damaged, broken, can't "get" it When we see our behaviors, like over-eating, or over-thinking, or over-worrying, or over-scrolling, we often have many thoughts about ourselves and focus on what's wrong, and how to fix it. What if we could find a way to see ourselves without looking through the pair of glasses that says "I am damaged"? It can be tricky when you really feel off. But here may be a way to sit with this and feel the peace of what you are, without that thought. Get on the Grace Notes newsletter mailing list to learn about Grace's work and upcoming events, and other support for questioning our thinking patterns when we feel stuck. https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/sign-up-for-grace-notes-in-your-inbox/ IN PERSON Seattle, Washington Eat, Inquire, Love Retreat June 25-July 2, 2023 https://www.workwithgrace.com/summer-retreat/ If you'd like help with emotional eating or compulsive eating, see the map I created I call the Nine Step Eating Peace Framework here: https://workwithgrace.lpages.co/eating-peace-framework/ For more information about the Eating Peace Method, visit here: https://www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace-process/ Grace Bell, Certified Facilitator of The Work since 2007, has a private practice both online and in person, assisting people from all walks of life to identify and question their interpretations around their experience. She has a special love and specific programs for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. To receive notice of Eating Peace programs, videos and vlog posts, visit www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace and join the mailing list. To join the Grace Notes family of readers right now, Grace's popular blog on using The Work of Byron Katie to grow a peaceful life, get the thorough START HERE guide to letting The Work, work right here: https://workwithgrace.leadpages.co/start-here-guidebook/ Where to find me: workwithgrace.com grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/ https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach https://www.linkedin.com/in/workwithgrace/ https://www.instagram.com/byronkatiecoach/ /episode/index/show/peacetalk/id/26727288

Peace Talk Episode 216: Will I ever stop this behavior, this thinking, this negativity? 04/25/2023

Peace Talk Episode 215: Q&A The Work of Byron Katie when we feel we've eaten, said, spent too much 04/11/2023

Peace Talk Episode 214: my mother should be alive and here 04/07/2023

Peace Talk Episode 214: my mother should be alive and here When someone dies, it is commonly a time of great transition and grief. What happens when we question our stories of death, needing someone to be present in their body, wanting things to be the way they used to be? Listen as a lovely woman, whose mother died only 2 months before this group inquiry call, shares her thoughts with us, and inquirers into her story. Who are we without our stories about the future, or the past, when someone dies? The Work of Byron Katie is a practice of self-inquiry allowing us to work with stresses appearing in the mind, and to relax with our experience of life. Grace Bell, facilitator of The Work, assists people to identify and question their stressful ways of looking at life. She offers Year of Inquiry, a vibrant membership community of inquirers Sept-June each year. Grace also has a special love for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. Grace works with all kinds of compulsions, habits and addictions as they are all the same thing: a pull to some behavior, substance or activity in order to help us with our stressful feelings and thoughts. As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. In the public sessions on this youtube channel, we have all-group inquiry sessions called First Friday Inquiry, we have interviews with practitioners of The Work, we have Eating Peace videos (on the eating peace playlist) and we have individual sessions in The Work by courageous people willing to be recorded for Peace Talk podcast and this channel. Thanks to everyone involved in what is shared here on this channel, as it is great service to others in the world who find their way here and who are curious about life without "believing" thought all the time. Where to find Grace: workwithgrace.com grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/ https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach https://www.linkedin.com/in/workwithgrace/ https://www.instagram.com/byronkatiecoach/ /episode/index/show/peacetalk/id/26477964

Peace Talk Episode 213: Is it possible to accept the body, even when I dislike how it looks and feels? 04/04/2023

Peace Talk Episode 213: Is it possible to accept the body, even when I dislike how it looks and feels? When we dislike whatever is happening in our bodies, we feel fear, worry, angst, suffering. We make plans to change it. What if we questioned our story, when it's painful? How strange to question the story of pain, disease, or physical appearance. But what does it look like to do this? Who are we without a story? The Work of Byron Katie is a practice of self-inquiry allowing us to work with stresses appearing in the mind, and to relax with our experience of life. Grace Bell, facilitator of The Work, assists people to identify and question their stressful ways of looking at life. She offers Year of Inquiry, a vibrant membership community of inquirers Sept-June each year. Grace also has a special love for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. Grace works with all kinds of compulsions, habits and addictions as they are all the same thing: a pull to some behavior, substance or activity in order to help us with our stressful feelings and thoughts. As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. In the public sessions on this youtube channel, we have all-group inquiry sessions called First Friday Inquiry, we have interviews with practitioners of The Work, we have Q&A Tuesday live videos (on the eating peace playlist) and we have individual sessions in The Work by courageous people willing to be recorded for Peace Talk podcast and this channel. Thanks to everyone involved in what is shared here on this channel, as it is great service to others in the world who find their way here and who are curious about life without "believing" or identifying with thought all the time. Self-inquiry and The Work of Byron Katie supports us to ride the wave of thought into the mystery of No Thought, or the space of being who we are, already, without our troubling stories. All is well. Where to find Grace: workwithgrace.com grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/ https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach https://www.linkedin.com/in/workwithgrace/ https://www.instagram.com/byronkatiecoach/ /episode/index/show/peacetalk/id/26442048

Peace Talk Episode 212: The Work of Byron Katie on being hurt "he hurt me" 03/03/2023

Peace Talk Episode 212: The Work of Byron Katie on being hurt "he hurt me" In today's episode, a wonderful group of inquirers gathers online to do The Work on the concept one person beautifully brought to the table: "he hurt me" (and the belief he will hurt me again). To investigate being hurt and feeling the effects of pain when it comes to other peoples' words, behaviors, conduct, facial movements....can bring amazing insights. The Work of Byron Katie is a practice of self-inquiry allowing us to work with stresses appearing in the mind, and to relax with our experience of life. Grace Bell, facilitator of The Work, assists people to identify and question their stressful ways of looking at life. She offers Year of Inquiry, a vibrant membership community of inquirers Sept-June each year. Grace also has a special love for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. Grace works with all kinds of compulsions, habits and addictions as they are all the same thing: a pull to some behavior, substance or activity in order to help us with our stressful feelings and thoughts. As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. In the public sessions on this youtube channel, we have all-group inquiry sessions called First Friday Inquiry, we have interviews with practitioners of The Work, we have Eating Peace videos (on the eating peace playlist) and we have individual sessions in The Work by courageous people willing to be recorded for Peace Talk podcast and this channel. Thanks to everyone involved in what is shared here on this channel, as it is great service to others in the world who find their way here and who are curious about life without "believing" thought all the time. Where to find Grace: workwithgrace.com grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/ https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach https://www.linkedin.com/in/workwithgrace/ https://www.instagram.com/byronkatiecoach/ /episode/index/show/peacetalk/id/26121411

Peace Talk Episode 211: when we want them to be different and to change 02/15/2023

Peace Talk Episode 211: when we want them to be different and to change In today's episode, a wonderful group of inquirers gathers online to do The Work on the concept that someone really needs to change, for us to be happen. "If only they were different" we say. It's profound to do The Work on this, and find our freedom from needing someone else to change. We are no longer dependent on the world to be different, for us to be happy. The Work of Byron Katie is a practice of self-inquiry allowing us to work with stresses appearing in the mind, and to relax with our experience of life. Grace Bell, facilitator of The Work, assists people to identify and question their stressful ways of looking at life. She offers Year of Inquiry, a vibrant membership community of inquirers Sept-June each year. Grace also has a special love for those suffering from eating issues including disordered eating (disordered thinking) of all kinds--having suffered from this behavior and thought/feeling process herself and finding an unshakable peace within around eating, food, health and behaviors with eating. Grace works with all kinds of compulsions, habits and addictions as they are all the same thing: a pull to some behavior, substance or activity in order to help us with our stressful feelings and thoughts. As Byron Katie offers us (founder of The Work); when we believe what we think, it creates unnecessary suffering. When we question what we think, we feel lighter and less serious about what is. We even begin to laugh. We notice who we really are is peaceful already, a human being living life as best we can--learning, growing, loving. In the public sessions on this youtube channel, we have all-group inquiry sessions called First Friday Inquiry, we have interviews with practitioners of The Work, we have Eating Peace videos (on the eating peace playlist) and we have individual sessions in The Work by courageous people willing to be recorded for Peace Talk podcast and this channel. Thanks to everyone involved in what is shared here on this channel, as it is great service to others in the world who find their way here and who are curious about life without "believing" thought all the time. For the Work With Grace programs and more information, and to get on the Grace Notes mailing list for updates and sharing of all kinds around The Work, please visit To receive notice of Eating Peace programs, videos and vlog posts, visit www.workwithgrace.com/eating-peace and join the mailing list. To join the Grace Notes family of readers right now, Grace's popular blog on using The Work of Byron Katie to grow a peaceful life, get the thorough START HERE guide to letting The Work, work right here: Where to find Grace: workwithgrace.com grace notes from the past at workingwithgrace.com https://www.facebook.com/WorkWithGrace/ https://twitter.com/ByronKatieCoach https://www.linkedin.com/in/workwithgrace/ https://www.instagram.com/byronkatiecoach/ /episode/index/show/peacetalk/id/25948197