Pillow Talks
Meet Vanessa and Xander Marin, your new BFF couple friends! She’s a sex therapist with 20 years of experience and he’s a regular dude. Together they’re the shockingly open, slightly nerdy, and seriously funny couple you want to grab sushi with. They share the ups and downs in their relationship while giving you step-by-step techniques for improving yours. Subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally do-able sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors, and so much more. It’s the sex education you WISH you’d had!
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Episode 154: How To Stop Feeling Resentment In Your Relationship
05/02/2024
Episode 154: How To Stop Feeling Resentment In Your Relationship
A few weeks ago we asked our community if they felt resentment in their relationship and only 29% said no! Resentment doesn’t feel good for either partner, and it can lead to things like more stress, less sex, and lots of other serious consequences in your relationship. We decided it was time to create an episode breaking down what resentment is, where it comes from, and how to overcome it in your relationship. Links & Resources: Guide: If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had!
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Episode 153: The Secret Foreplay Technique You Don’t Even Know About
04/25/2024
Episode 153: The Secret Foreplay Technique You Don’t Even Know About
Imagine this… you’re crawling into bed at the end of the night, thinking, “Hmmm sex sounds nice.” We hate to break it to you, but you’re too late! You needed to have been planning for this much earlier in the day. You needed to be using our unique approach to foreplay. Most of us think of foreplay as the stuff we do for 30 seconds before we move on to intercourse, but it’s so much more than that. Today we’re telling you about the magic of all-day, non-sexual foreplay. Links & Resources: Course: Challenge: If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Go to and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to .
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Episode 152: Breaking Down A Text Fight
04/18/2024
Episode 152: Breaking Down A Text Fight
You’ve had a fight over text message with your partner, right? Most of us have! Maybe you sent a text to your partner that was a little too snarky, or maybe you read too much into a message. Odds are your text fight did not end well… Today we’re breaking down a real text fight one of our followers sent in. It started off as a fight over facial hair, but like most fights do, evolved into something much deeper. We covered topics like body confidence, broken trust, and validation. We point out the things they did right, and the ways things went oh so wrong. You’ll get a fascinating sneak peek into another couple’s conflict, plus tons of communication tips along the way. Links & Resources: Our Instagram: @vanessandxander () If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks, Green Chef! Go to and use code 60pillow to get 60% off, plus 20% off your next 2 months
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Episode 151: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up About Sex (Even If They’re Resistant)
04/11/2024
Episode 151: How To Get Your Partner To Open Up About Sex (Even If They’re Resistant)
If you’re a Pillow Talks listener, you’re probably on board with the idea of talking about sex openly. But what do you do if your partner is a lot more hesitant? In this episode, we’re going over why your partner might be feeling resistant, and how you can encourage them to open up. You’ll learn our secret to intimacy-building conversation, plus tons of creative (and even sneaky) ways to get your partner to talk about sex. Links & Resources: Book: If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Cozy Earth. ( and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS
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Episode 150: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Volume 3)
04/04/2024
Episode 150: Smash Or Pass? We Try The Wildest Sex Tips You’ve Ever Heard (Volume 3)
We really went there… It’s time for another round of Smash or Pass! The series where we find the internet’s weirdest sex tips, try them out, and report back to you with all the details. We dug deep to find the craziest ideas for us to try, and what we found was well… interesting. We’re even taking you into our bedroom during one of the tips so you can hear our live reaction! The Countdown Method… using a glove… the Nose Dive method. Are any of these new tips Pillow Talks Approved? You’ll just have to tune in and find out! Links & Resources: Course: ) Guide: ) Guide: (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/next-level-intercourse/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to . Thanks Cozy Earth. and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS
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Episode 149: Partner Having Penis Performance Problems? Here’s What To Do - And What Not To Do
03/28/2024
Episode 149: Partner Having Penis Performance Problems? Here’s What To Do - And What Not To Do
“This, uh, isn’t working…” Most of us have experienced a partner having some performance issues in the bedroom, and feeling wildly confused about what to do. How do you react? What do you say? And let’s be honest, most of us women take these moments personally. We get into our heads thinking things like, “Am I not attractive enough? Am I bad at sex??” Today we’re breaking down for you why penis performance issues happen, and how men need you to respond in those extra-sensitive moments. Xander is also helping us non-penis owners understand what’s really going on inside men’s heads, and the pressures men feel around sex. Links & Resources: Guide: (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/sexual-mastery-package/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Go to and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.
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Episode 148: “Help Me See Where My Partner Is Coming From!” (Advice Episode)
03/21/2024
Episode 148: “Help Me See Where My Partner Is Coming From!” (Advice Episode)
“I just don’t understand where you’re coming from.” Have you ever been in the heat of an argument with your partner, and felt totally unable see their perspective on the issue? We put up a question box on Instagram and asked people to tell us about a conflict where they’re experiencing that kind of genuine confusion. Now, we’re breaking down the trickiest situations to help you see your partner’s point of view in a brand new light. You’ll get a fascinating sneak peek into what other couples fight about, and tons of useful relationship advice you haven’t heard before! Links & Resources: Guide: If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks EarthBreeze! ( to subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%!
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Episode 147: Your Sexual Fantasies Revealed
03/14/2024
Episode 147: Your Sexual Fantasies Revealed
Have you ever wondered what everyone secretly fantasizes about? We anonymously polled our audience, and we’re spilling all the secrets today! We’re also doing a deep dive on all your fantasy questions. Where do they come from? What do they mean? Is there something wrong with you if you don’t have any? Links & Resources: Guide: (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/sexual-bucket-list-29/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to . Thanks Cozy Earth. and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS
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Episode 146: Are You Nagging? Or Is Your Partner Being Childish?
03/07/2024
Episode 146: Are You Nagging? Or Is Your Partner Being Childish?
75% of people say that nagging is an issue in their relationship. So we thought it was time we gave our take on this controversial topic. We’re talking about the differences between nagging, reminding, and micromanaging. When is it nagging versus your partner not carrying their share of the mental load? What do you do when you can’t trust your partner to get something done without nagging? We also got into a pretty vulnerable conversation about the role nagging has in our day-to-day relationship. Plus, we’re walking you through specific steps to help stop nagging because the reality is, no one likes to nag and no one likes to receive nagging… Links & Resources: Workbook: (https://vmtherapy.thrivecart.com/mental-load-workbook/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Get 15% off OneSkin with the code PILLOW at ) Thanks Cozy Earth. and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS
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Episode 145: What Your Partner Secretly Wishes You’d Stop Doing In The Bedroom
02/29/2024
Episode 145: What Your Partner Secretly Wishes You’d Stop Doing In The Bedroom
Have you ever wondered what your partner REALLY thinks about your performance in the bedroom? Well, it turns out there are a few things they secretly wish you’d stop doing… We turned to Instagram and asked people to anonymously share all of their bedroom pet peeves and red flags. The responses were fascinating. We’re breaking down the most common answers and giving you tips to start the conversation with your partner about what you actually want and like from each other during sex. Links & Resources: Course: ) Course: (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/foreplay-guides-2022/) Course: ) Guide: ) Guide: ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Go to ) and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.
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Episode 144: We’re In Couples Therapy
02/22/2024
Episode 144: We’re In Couples Therapy
Surprise! We’re in couples therapy. We sat down and recorded one of our most vulnerable episodes yet all about why we’re in therapy and how it’s going. We talked about what to look for in a potential therapist (and where to look) and gave some tips on how to ask your partner to go to therapy with you. We also got surprisingly deep about the resistance one of us had to going to therapy in the first place… Links & Resources: Visit our ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to ). Thanks Babbel. Visit for 55% off your subscription.
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Episode 143: The Body Confidence Episode - How To Feel Good In Your Skin During Sex
02/15/2024
Episode 143: The Body Confidence Episode - How To Feel Good In Your Skin During Sex
Today, we’re tackling a huge issue that so many people can relate to… feeling uncomfortable in your own skin during sex. We’re diving into the specific things that make you the most self-conscious, and how these thoughts can impact your sex life. Xander clues us in on what most men are really thinking about bodies during sex and we get into a fascinating (and very personal) conversation about our own body confidence issues. If you’re looking for guidance on how to build body confidence so you can stop worrying about your body and start having amazing sex, this is the episode for you! Links & Resources: Visit our (https://vmtherapy.com/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks EarthBreeze! ) to subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%! Thanks Cozy Earth. (https://cozyearth.com) and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS
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Episode 142: Are You Lazy In Bed? Here’s What Your Partner Says…
02/08/2024
Episode 142: Are You Lazy In Bed? Here’s What Your Partner Says…
Today we’re asking a tough question… Are you lazy in bed? And an even harder one… Would your partner say you’re lazy during sex? In this episode, we’re breaking down the specific things you’re doing that your partner thinks are lazy, the consequences of bedroom laziness, and the surprising reasons why you’re not putting in more effort. Most importantly, we’ll walk you through our step-by-step process to stop being lazy and start having more fun in the bedroom! If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Cozy Earth. and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS
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Episode 141: How To Get Your Partner To Be More Romantic
02/01/2024
Episode 141: How To Get Your Partner To Be More Romantic
79% of our community members want their partners to be more romantic. Romance seems to come so easy at the beginning of a relationship, but feels so much harder to sustain long-term! In this episode, we’ll walk you through specific steps to get your partner to be more romantic. You’ll discover your toxic beliefs about romance, the ways you’re actually missing romantic gestures, and tons of specific romantic suggestions. We also asked men to tell us why they’re not more romantic, and what their partners could do to encourage more romance. You’re definitely going to want to tune in for the answers! If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks, Green Chef! Go to and use code 60pillow to get 60% off, plus 20% off your next 2 months Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to (https://www.dipseastories.com/pillow).
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Episode 140: What Your Sex Personality Type Says About You In The Bedroom
01/25/2024
Episode 140: What Your Sex Personality Type Says About You In The Bedroom
You might already know that you’re a 3 on the Enneagram, a generator in human design, or an ENTJ in Myers–Briggs. But do you know your personality type in the bedroom? Today we’re breaking down our Sex Personality Types model. Our 11 types help you understand what great sex means to you, and what you’re really looking to experience. We’ll help you figure out your type - and your partner’s! We’ll also tell you what to do if your types are different, because - spoiler alert - you probably are! Links & Resources: Instagram: ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Go to and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Thanks Babbel. Visit for 55% off your subscription.
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Episode 139: Xander’s Vasectomy Part 2: Answering Your Questions About Pain, Performance, And Masculinity
01/18/2024
Episode 139: Xander’s Vasectomy Part 2: Answering Your Questions About Pain, Performance, And Masculinity
Snip snap! We’re back with part 2 of Xander’s vasectomy journey. (Start with part 1 if you want to hear his story.) This time we’re answering all your questions about the process from start to finish (literally, all 30 “finishes”). Did Xander have any pain during sex after the procedure? Did his sex drive change? Do his balls hang lower? Is his semen a different color, texture, or volume, and does it smell funny now? Did his vasectomy make him feel less masculine? Plus, we share tons of advice about how to talk to your male partner about getting a vasectomy! Links & Resources: Check out our ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Cozy Earth. ( and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS Thanks EarthBreeze! (https://earthbreeze.com/pillow) to subscribe to Earth Breeze and save 40%!
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Episode 138: Your Funniest Foreplay Fails
01/11/2024
Episode 138: Your Funniest Foreplay Fails
We asked you to share your funniest foreplay fails, and you REALLY delivered! Today we’re sharing the dangers of jalapeños, why you shouldn’t chew gum during oral, and some bad Cosmo advice about armpits! But we couldn’t leave it at just your stories; we had to include some of our funniest fails as well. Trust us, you definitely want to hear what happened the very first time Vanessa ever gave someone a blowjob, and the time Xander didn’t really make it to foreplay… If you want to avoid your own foreplay fail, we’re also sharing our #1 resource for having the best foreplay experience of your life! Links & Resources: Guide: (https://vmtherapy.com/foreplay) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to (https://DipseaStories.com/pillow).
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Episode 137: Xander Got A Vasectomy!
01/04/2024
Episode 137: Xander Got A Vasectomy!
Xander got a vasectomy! By popular demand, we’re walking you through the entire process - how and why we decided to go this route, finding the right doctor, the procedure itself (including the truth about how painful it really was…), aftercare, and so much more. We also share some hilarious details about preparing for the procedure (including some truly bizarre pictures), Xander’s rant for the haters, and the post-procedure test that had Xander PANICKING! If you’ve ever wanted the inside scoop on vasectomies, this is an episode you won't want to miss. And stay tuned for part 2, where we’ll answer all of your burning questions about the procedure. Links & Resources: Check out our ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks, Green Chef! Go to and use code 60pillow to get 60% off, plus 20% off your next 2 months
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Episode 136: The Top 10 Pillow Talks Podcast Moments of 2023
12/28/2023
Episode 136: The Top 10 Pillow Talks Podcast Moments of 2023
2023 has been one wild ride! This podcast - all 136 episodes so far - has been a major part of our year, so what better way to celebrate than counting down our top 10 moments from Pillow Talks in 2023? Take a stroll down memory lane to the moments when we couldn't stop laughing or could barely believe the words coming out of our mouths. Your support means the world to us and we can’t wait to keep growing this community. Happy New Year from all of us to all of you! Links & Resources: Check out our podcast page here! (https://vmtherapy.com/podcast/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Cozy Earth. and get 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS
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Episode 135: Am I The Asshole? The Holiday Edition
12/21/2023
Episode 135: Am I The Asshole? The Holiday Edition
The first time we did Am I The Asshole it was a major success, so we knew we had to bring it back for a part two! In this special holiday edition, we’ve got more fiery takes on your craziest seasonal stories. We’re talking about in-laws, gift exchanges gone wrong, and a workplace Christmas party with a very important side note. Plus, a special guest joins us to weigh in on whether or not Vanessa is actually the holiday asshole… This is an episode you’ll definitely want to put on in the car on the way to your family dinner. Or play at your family celebration and start some conversations! Once you’ve listened to the episode, come back and let us know which story was your favorite and whether or not you agree with our opinions. Links & Resources: Podcast episodes: (https://vmtherapy.com/episode37) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks StoryWorth. Get $10 off your first purchase at (https://storyworth.com/pillow)
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Episode 134: Everything You’re Getting Wrong About Intercourse (And How To Get It Right)
12/14/2023
Episode 134: Everything You’re Getting Wrong About Intercourse (And How To Get It Right)
We all feel like we’re supposed to just be naturally good at intercourse, but there are so many dynamics that can trip us up! What positions are best? How do you MOVE during it? What do you do if one of you can easily orgasm from intercourse, but the other can’t?! We asked our audience what their biggest frustrations are when it comes to intercourse, and we got back some surprising, and some not-so-surprising, answers. We struggled with intercourse early in our own relationship, so we related to a lot of responses. In this episode, we’re sharing exactly what to do to fix these common challenges. And Xander even gives us the inside scoop on the male perspective when it comes to the challenges and pressures of intercourse. Links & Resources: Guide: ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Cozy Earth. and get up to 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS Go to and use code 60pillow to get 60% off plus 20% off your next 2 months.
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Episode 133: Dead Bedrooms Part 2: We Coach Another Couple Through Resuscitating Their Sex Life
12/07/2023
Episode 133: Dead Bedrooms Part 2: We Coach Another Couple Through Resuscitating Their Sex Life
“We’re just not having sex anymore...” If you’ve found yourself uttering (or even just thinking) this line, you’re not alone. So many couples will experience a loss of not just their sex life but intimacy altogether. When we released Dead Bedrooms Part One earlier this year, it instantly became one of our top episodes of all time. So we decided to bring it back for a Part Two with a brand new couple. In this episode, you get to take a peek into another couple’s bedroom as we help them navigate how to resuscitate their sex life. We’re giving our top pointers for reconnecting inside the bedroom and out, tips on how to move through the difficult conversations, and a few suggestions for resources that can help the process along. A dead bedroom can feel draining and never-ending but we promise you there is a light at the end of the tunnel if you’re willing to keep going! Links & Resources: Book: ) Course: ) Course: ) Website: (https://vmtherapy.com/) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to . Go to and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor. Thanks Uncommon Goods! Get 15% off your next gift at )
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Episode 132: Why We Started Making Out Every Night
11/30/2023
Episode 132: Why We Started Making Out Every Night
This episode is all about the most viral piece of content we’ve ever made - why we make out every single night before bed. Our two-minute video has amassed almost 20 million views on social, was talked about on daytime TV shows, and even landed us an interview with the New York Times. We had no idea that this topic would be so popular, but it clearly struck a nerve! So we decided to break our nightly ritual down for you in more detail and answer the most common questions we get asked. We’re spilling the beans on: Why we decided to do it in the first place If it’s awkward getting it started every night If we still do it even when we’re angry with each other If it makes intimacy feel like an obligation or a chore Links & Resources: Book: (https://sextalksbook.com/) Guide: (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/the-art-of-initiation/) Instagram: ) Thanks Babbel. Visit (http://Babbel.com/pillow)for 55% off your subscription. Thanks StoryWorth. Get $10 off your first purchase at Thanks Je Joue! Go to for their Black Friday sale Nov 10 - Nov 30!
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Episode 131: How Honest Is Too Honest?
11/22/2023
Episode 131: How Honest Is Too Honest?
“What? I was just being honest!” This is one of the most common phrases that gets uttered during conflicts between couples. We’ve all been taught to believe that honesty is a virtue, but let's be real, some of us are crossing the line between honesty into cruelty. In this episode, we asked you to tell us about the situations where your partner said something that felt cruel to you, or you said something to your partner that felt cruel to them. We’re giving you our hot takes on if it was honest or just plain mean. We’re even sharing some of our very personal (and very embarrassing) moments when we were way too honest with each other! Links & Resources: Our email list: (http://vmtherapy.com/subscribe) Instagram: ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Cozy Earth. and get up to 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS Thanks Uncommon Goods! Get 15% off your next gift at Thanks Je Joue! Go to for their Black Friday sale Nov 10 - Nov 30! Products we love from Je Joue:
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Episode 130: The Bristle Reaction, Icky Initiation, And Bad Assumptions: 5 Surprising Lessons From Your Feedback About Our Book
11/16/2023
Episode 130: The Bristle Reaction, Icky Initiation, And Bad Assumptions: 5 Surprising Lessons From Your Feedback About Our Book
In February, we released our book, Sex Talks: The 5 Conversations That Will Transform Your Love Life. It was an instant New York Times bestseller! Now that the book has been out for close to a year, we thought it was about time to sit down and share the feedback we’ve gotten from thousands of readers. In this episode, we’re giving you the five biggest takeaways from the book, including the shocking assumptions that you don’t realize are impacting your sex life, the dynamics that are ruining emotional intimacy, and the topic that got us almost 20 million views on social media and an interview with the New York Times. Links & Resources: Book: ) Course: ) Workbook: ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to (. Thanks Babbel. for 55% off your subscription. Thanks Je Joue! Go to (https://JeJoue.com) for their Black Friday sale Nov 10 - Nov 30!
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Episode 129: Do You Have Silent Sex? Here’s Why That’s A Problem
11/09/2023
Episode 129: Do You Have Silent Sex? Here’s Why That’s A Problem
Today we’re talking about something we’ve never heard talked about openly… silent sex. Did you know that more than 50% of people regularly have sex where at least one partner is completely silent? This might not initially seem like a huge deal, but there are actually a number of drawbacks to having totally quiet sex. In today’s episode, we’re breaking down for you why you’re having silent sex, the benefits of making some noise in the bedroom, and some simple steps to help you get more comfortable with it! You’ll also learn the surprising truth about which gender in a male/female relationship is the quiet one… Links & Resources: Guide: (https://shop.vmtherapy.com/dt-101/) Guide: ) Go to and use code 60pillow to get 60% off plus free shipping. Thanks Cozy Earth. (http://CozyEarth.com) and get up to 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS
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Episode 128: Sneaky Ways To Get Your Partner More Involved In Your Relationship
11/02/2023
Episode 128: Sneaky Ways To Get Your Partner More Involved In Your Relationship
Do you wish your partner was more invested in your relationship? Do you find yourself wishing they would plan more date nights, spend less time on their phone and more time with you, or show you that they’re actively working on being a better partner? If so, you’re not alone. 70% of people are longing for a more involved partnership. We know — from personal experience — that getting your partner to be more active can feel challenging. Maybe you just don’t know how to start the conversation or how to phrase your request. Or maybe you asked, but your partner never followed through. Or maybe they even said “no”. Whatever the case may be, we’ll give you some sneaky yet effective ways to get your partner more invested in your relationship. Links & Resources: Challenge: ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Go to and download the Zocdoc app to sign-up for FREE and book a top-rated doctor.
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Episode 127: Ask Us Anything: Spilling Our Business Secrets
10/26/2023
Episode 127: Ask Us Anything: Spilling Our Business Secrets
This week we’re bringing back one of your favorite series - Ask Us Anything. This time we’re doing the sex therapy business secrets edition! Let’s be real… business can sometimes be boring. So we asked our community to send in their nosiest questions. The questions they didn’t think we’d have the nerve to answer. We're pushing out of our comfort zone and answering questions like, do we ever get turned on while working? Have we ever regretted talking about something publicly? And do we ever have imposter syndrome? Tune in to hear us spill all our secrets! Links & Resources: Book: ) Guide: ) Subscribe to our email list at ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Dipsea. Get a 30 day free trial when you go to ). Thanks Babbel. for 55% off your subscription.
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Episode 126: Queefing, And Farting, And Squirting, Oh My! Bodily Functions In The Bedroom
10/19/2023
Episode 126: Queefing, And Farting, And Squirting, Oh My! Bodily Functions In The Bedroom
Is it normal to notice a bad odor after intercourse? What about queefing? How the heck does everyone else manage clean-up after sex? In this episode, we’re talking about all the unexpected things we experience during sex, but that no one ever talks about openly! We’re giving you the run-down on the most embarrassing bodily functions, how to avoid them, what to do in the moment when they happen, and reassurance that these things are perfectly normal. And we even round it out with some hilarious stories from our listeners, so we can all stop feeling so embarrassed and alone! Links & Resources: Previous Episode: ) Previous Episode: ) Previous Episode: ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Thanks Cozy Earth. ) and get up to 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS
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Episode 125: Am I The Asshole?
10/12/2023
Episode 125: Am I The Asshole?
Today’s episode is inspired by the popular Reddit thread, Am I The Asshole? We’re giving you our hot takes on some of the trickiest situations submitted by our audience. Tune in for stories about faking orgasms for 24 years, forgetting your partner's birthday, and even unknowingly being someone's first time! Grab your partner and join us for this entertaining episode that’s sure to get you debating right alongside us. Once you’re done listening, let us know your favorite story and whether or not you agree with our stance! Links & Resources: Guide: ) Guide: ) Guide: ) If you enjoyed this episode, make sure to subscribe for your weekly double date full of totally doable sex tips, practical relationship advice, hilarious and honest stories of what really goes on behind closed bedroom doors and so much more. It's the sex education you wish you had! Go to and use code 60pillow to get 60% off plus free shipping. Thanks Cozy Earth. ) and get up to 35% off when you use the code PILLOWTALKS Check out the show notes at
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