Room to Grow Podcast with Emily Gough
We go DEEP on the Room to Grow™ Podcast. Curiously exploring relationships, connection, and the nuances and complexities of the human experience, every episode combines a unique blend of wisdom & humour along with rare levels of openness & honesty. Join host/founder Emily Gough, a relationship coach, author & speaker, as we explore how to take ownership of your life, revolutionize your relationship to yourself and learn to communicate while creating thriving connections with others. With both solo episodes and highly curated guests sharing incredible stories, experiences and expertise, the Room to Grow™ Podcast takes the entire idea of growth to the next level - all while covering the uncomfortable topics many of us like to avoid. There’s always more room to grow. For all info, free resources, and more, SHOWNOTES: www.roomtogrowpodcast.com INSTAGRAM: @emilygoughcoach FACEBOOK: "Emily Gough Coaching"
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What If You're Already Her?
09/16/2026
What If You're Already Her?
What if the version of you you've been working so hard to become has already arrived? In this episode, we're exploring the shift from constantly striving to become a “better” version of yourself toward recognizing, trusting, and embodying who you already are. You can grow and evolve without making yourself wrong for where you are today. Ask yourself: Where are you already her? How would you show up differently? CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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The Hardest Relationship Skill No One Wants to Master That Changes Everything
06/10/2026
The Hardest Relationship Skill No One Wants to Master That Changes Everything
What if the thing standing between you and the relationship you want isn't your partner's behavior... but your unwillingness to fully own your part? The truth that most people don't want to hear is that awareness of your wounds isn't enough. Real transformation can only happen when you're willing to stand in the raw vulnerability of seeing exactly how you've contributed to a dynamic and taking ownership of it. Even if it's only 2%. Because that 2% matters. And it's the kind of relational magic that can change EVERYTHING. In this episode, I'm sharing personal stories, examples from client work, and we're getting deep into: Why awareness without action keeps us stuck The difference between blame and responsibility How defensiveness blocks intimacy How to actually figure out your blind spots Why owning your part creates safety in relationships The nervous system impact of genuine accountability The vulnerability required to stop making your partner the problem How radical responsibility leads to deeper connection, trust, and love If you've been waiting for your partner to change before your relationship can improve, this conversation might be the wake-up call you didn't know you needed. This episode is an invitation to look in the mirror with compassion, courage, and honesty, and to recognize that taking ownership doesn't mean everything is your fault. It means that you're taking responsbility for the parts that are, and that has the power to create an entirely new and much more deeply connected dynamic. Let's dive in! CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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The Liminal Space Between Who You Are & Who You're Becoming
06/02/2026
The Liminal Space Between Who You Are & Who You're Becoming
“The liminal space is the in-between, the transitionary period, that awkward and uncomfortable phase when you’re on the precipice of moving towards the new, but haven’t quite arrived yet. These are the sacred grounds upon which transformation is created, when you’re closer than ever to find what you’ve been searching for, letting go of everything that’s been holding you back, or being more open to love.” I said those words for a past episode years ago about those seasons when life asks us to release old identities before the new ones have fully arrived. In this vulnerable conversation, I'm sharing what it looks like to navigate the in-between: rebuilding self-trust, allowing healing to be imperfect, and learning how to keep showing up for yourself, because that's where you actually integrate and become the new version of yourself that has been slowly emerging this whole time. REFERENCES CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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411. The Grief of Getting What You Want
05/26/2026
411. The Grief of Getting What You Want
This episode is raw, tender, and so deeply personal that I seriously considered not publishing (more on that in the next one). It's my reflection of the past two years and how this transition into all of these big, beautiful things that have come into my life, including marrying my incredible man, moving countries, and building a whole new life has also come with a lot of challenges I didn't expect. From ego deaths and complete loss of various identities to loneliness, emotional contradictions, and a whole lot of healing while learning to step into a much more honest, vulnerable and embodied version of myself. This is the part of manifestation that doesn't always get talked about: you can hope and pray and work towards something for so long, and then when it all comes together, it may require you to grieve expectations of timelines, survival patterns, unmet needs, self-abandonment, and the parts of yourself that once kept you safe. And sometimes, there can still be grief found in the joys of healthy love, being fully seen, and creating the life you always dreamed of. The biggest lesson to me is that grief becomes transformative once you no longer treat it like an obstacle to your becoming. I'd love to hear from you on this one. Let me know if you can relate <3 REFERENCES CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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410. When Everything Feels Serious in Your Relationship, Do This Instead
04/01/2026
410. When Everything Feels Serious in Your Relationship, Do This Instead
If your relationship feels like it’s always about communication, processing, and “doing the work,” this episode is for you. Yes, relationships take effort, but they’re not meant to feel heavy all the time. In this episode, I’m breaking down why playfulness is one of the most advanced relational skills, and why it can feel surprisingly hard to access. Because play requires vulnerability. It asks you to drop your guard, release control, and risk not being met…all in the name of connection. I’m also sharing a powerful client story (the couch kiss moment) that shows what it looks like to bring lightness, openness, and emotional truth back into a relationship, even after tension. Inside, we explore: Why your relationship might feel overly serious The vulnerability underneath play and humor How you might be using “growth” to stay in control The difference between resolving vs. repairing Plus, simple ways to bring more ease and connection back in without bypassing what’s real. Because your relationship doesn’t just need better communication…it needs your joy, your lightness, sense of humor and your playfulness too. CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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409. Self-Discipline Is the Highest Form of Self-Love
03/24/2026
409. Self-Discipline Is the Highest Form of Self-Love
You say you want to trust yourself more. To feel consistent, confident, and grounded. But then you don’t follow through. Again. You avoid the thing, break your own promises and move a little farther away from building the life you say that you want. Worse yet, you slowly stop trusting yourself. In this episode, we’re reframing self-discipline, because it’s not about punishment or forcing yourself to be better. It’s about devotion, and self-discpline being the highest form of self-love. If you’ve been stuck in cycles of starting and stopping or waiting to feel ready, this episode will show you why. And the real question becomes: What am I protecting myself from? In this episode, we're talking about: Discipline as devotion, not punishment Where avoidance can look like gentleness The fears underneath lack of follow-through How to rebuild self-trust through consistency Choosing yourself, one small action at a time Tangible tools to start to take action and build the self-discipline muscle RELATED EPISODES CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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408. Why You Keep Proving Your Worst Fears About Yourself True
03/17/2026
408. Why You Keep Proving Your Worst Fears About Yourself True
The most addictive feeling is the one that confirms that you are who you think you are when you receive feedback - for better or for worse. Because what if your life isn’t repeating the same story, but the same stories keep creating your life? For example, why do you keep finding yourself in the same relationship dynamics, even when you know better? In this episode, I’m breaking down one of the most powerful (and often invisible) forces shaping your life: your identity. Because the truth is, you’re not just repeating patterns. You’re unconsciously confirming who you believe yourself to be. And that confirmation can feel strangely satisfying, even when it hurts. We explore why your nervous system prioritizes familiarity over happiness, how your core beliefs were formed, and what it actually takes to shift them. Today we're talking about: Why your brain seeks confirmation, not happiness The hidden addiction to familiar identity Why certain feedback triggers you (and others don’t) How “I’m not enough” shows up in relationships Fear vs. hope and which one is really driving your life What it takes to rewrite and rewire your identity Your brain is wired for coherence, not happieness. Even when it's deeply painful. But when you shift your identity? Everything changes. Can't wait to hear how this one lands for you. New episodes weekly! CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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407. Containment, Self-Abandonment & How to Feel Everything Without Making Others Pay for It
12/19/2025
407. Containment, Self-Abandonment & How to Feel Everything Without Making Others Pay for It
We talk a lot about boundaries, but almost always in the context of protecting ourselves from other people. This episode is about the boundary no one talks about: the one you hold with yourself. I’m diving into containment, which is the ability to feel your emotions fully without discharging them onto someone else, and why lack of containment quietly destroys intimacy, even when you think you’re “just being honest.” Moreover, I truly believe that every human is capable of emotional regulation, and am pulling apart the idea floating around the New Age / polarity world that men should be the stoic containers for the unbridled rage and emotional expression of women. We’ll explore: Why the most important boundaries are self-boundaries How emotional dumping differs from real vulnerability, and examples of the difference between the two Why anxiety, sadness, and fear can be just as uncontained as anger The difference between sharing to connect vs. spilling to feel better How to be raw, honest, and unrehearsed without abandoning responsibility Why containment is a human relational skill - not a gendered one This isn’t about suppressing emotions or trying to be nice (which is often dishonesty in disguise.) It's actually an invitation into deeper intimacy, true connection, and allowing your authenicity to shine through in a way that invites others in rather than pushing them away unconsciously. It’s about self-leadership, relational safety, and learning how to feel everything without making the people you love pay for it. So much to unpack here! Let's dive in, AND... Don't forget to check out my BRAND NEW podcast Love in Practice, co-hosted with my husband Kelly Gardner. You can find it on Youtube or anywhere you listen to podcasts! CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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406. Stop Performing Vulnerability: How to Speak From Your Heart Instead of Your Head
12/10/2025
406. Stop Performing Vulnerability: How to Speak From Your Heart Instead of Your Head
2025 didn’t ask for transformation, it demanded it. For me, that meant shedding so many layers of protection and armor to let myself be truly seen. In today's episode, we go deep on the difference between performing vulnerability and actually letting someone in. Because you say you want intimacy…but are you actually bringing your vulnerability, or are you throwing it like a weapon and calling it connection? We explore: What vulnerability actually means versus performing it or using it as a weapon Activiely choosing to go first in vulnerablity and how it can shift your entire relationship and love life, even when it doesn’t feel fair - and how to completely shift that resistance entirely The art of feminine communication and learning to speak from your heart instead of your head The IMMENSE power you as a woman wield in relationship and in the world, and how to use it from a place of deep devotion to love itself The four questions you can ask yourself to access true vulnerability with an open heart The total energetic shift that makes you more magnetic than ever How to exercise more presence and trust with your partner You’ll walk away with tools to access your true needs, speak from the heart, and embrace vulnerability as a source of connection rather than depending on intellectualizing or allowing fears to take over. to talk about options on how we can work together in 2026! EPISODES REFERENCED CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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405. Coaching Call: Anxiety vs Intuition When Healthy Love Feels Scary with Haley
09/28/2025
405. Coaching Call: Anxiety vs Intuition When Healthy Love Feels Scary with Haley
Today I'm sitting down with my incredible former client Haley, who very bravely volunteered to share some of her story publicly and to allow me to coach her while you get to listen in. Haley was part of the last round of my women's group Grown A$$ Woman Era, and you get to hear directly from her how much of a massive impact the group had on her. It was truly a joy for all of us in the group to get to watch her life completely transform as a direct result of the changes she made throughout the program, the connection she created with herself, and the patterns she completely rewrote to step into a whole new chapter of her life. This episode is a powerful look at what happens when you choose to face your fear and trust yourself. Haley's story is raw, relatable and a reminder that your next level is probably going to be uncomfortable...but it's all in the name of creating the life and relationships you say you want. --> If you're craving the kind of support and life-altering shifts that Haley experienced, about joining my women's group, Grown As$ Woman Era. Starts in october and only a few spots left! . CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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404. When Safety Becomes the Cage: The Price of Playing Small
09/24/2025
404. When Safety Becomes the Cage: The Price of Playing Small
So often we choose safety over purpose — pulling back, isolating, or waiting for the “right” moment instead of leaning into the uncertainty of what our soul is calling us toward. True safety isn’t found in control or certainty, but in the trust we create within ourselves and the connections we nurture with others. Playing it small might feel comfy and familiar, but it keeps you from the aliveness, love, and freedom you're craving so deeply. Here's a different thought: what if the uncertainty you’re resisting is actually proof that you’re aligned and growing? Today we're talking about: Staying connected to your body, listening to the whispers and taking that leap of faith When to seek safety...and when that safety you're pulled towards is actually the biggest block holding you back Sometimes your most solid foundation is built from navigating uncertainty Letting go, surrendering, and opening to the possibilities a bold life will both offer and demand from you to join my women's group, Grown A$$ Woman Era. Starts soon and only a few spots left! . CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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403. How to Keep the Fire & Desire Burning in Your Long Term Relationship
07/01/2025
403. How to Keep the Fire & Desire Burning in Your Long Term Relationship
"When you make your partner your entire world, you slowly stop being YOU. And the very things that drew them to you in the first place, your energy, your passions, your independence, your joy, they all begin to dim." Today I'm giving you the tools you need to not just keep the spark alive in your relationship, but to keep the fire thriving - and it's not about the latest polarity trend. CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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402. Killing Off Your Good Girl & Becoming a Grown Ass Woman with Kat
05/07/2025
402. Killing Off Your Good Girl & Becoming a Grown Ass Woman with Kat
The next round of the Grown Ass Woman Era group is here! We start May 21st, 2025 - . Next steps: and we'll make sure it's a great fit! This is an intimate and curated group, and I personally chat with each person before joining so everyone has the best possible experience. ************************** I'm bringing you this powerful conversation with my best friend Kat, who is also the co-coach I bring in to work with me for my Grown Ass Woman Era coaching group. We're talking about: The power of being witnessed in your pain and celebrated in your joy Wounding many women carry around not trusting other women - and how it's standing in the way of some of the most powerful and healing relationships available to you Being safe within yourself to put the sword down and truly come home within yourself, rather than feeling a constant hypervigilance and need to be the strong independent woman 24/7 Killing off your good girl and FINALLY taking full responsibility for your life and relationships by having your grown woman take the wheel Stepping into your full power, unapologetically. Welcome to your Grown Ass Woman Era. CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK: CONNECT WITH KAT EPISODES REFERENCED
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401. How Do You Source Your Value in Relationships?
01/28/2025
401. How Do You Source Your Value in Relationships?
Are you familiar with the ways (both conscious and more often subconscious) you source your value in relationships? In the past, I often fell into the trap of thinking it’s about what I could do for another person, or what they could do for me in terms of meeting my needs and filling some sort of void. Instead, start asking yourself different questions about the person or people you have relationships with. How do they inspire you? Light you up? Shift your perspective? Challenge you? Help you to grow and evolve? Open more to love? Make you feel more alive? How do they add to your life in indescribable ways? Perhaps most importantly, if you fully believed you were enough as you are, how would that change your energy, behaviour and demeanour in relationship? In this episode, we're getting into: How to spot the stories you're telling yourself - and the ways those stories will dictate the quality of your life and relationships Sharing some very personal struggles that have come with finding new ways of valuing myself as I settle into being married and having kids How to handle insecurities when they arise The unexpected ways getting married changed the way I felt with my partner And so much more that will shift how you're showing up in your relationships If you liked this episode, I recommend checking out CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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400. Embodying Bold in 2025 & Huge Life Update
01/15/2025
400. Embodying Bold in 2025 & Huge Life Update
There has been a lot going on behind the scenes over here the past 6 months, and I've remained quiet about most of it. So many beautiful manifestations coming to fruition along with some major challenges. I'm excited that I'm finally giving a MAJOR life update today, along with how to embody being bold in 2025. In this episode, we're talking about: -Choosing a word (or words) to use as an anchor point to come back to throughout the year -The ways grief and joy get to co-exist -Embodying and stepping into your highest self, because you already have everything you need right now -How to cultivate a nervous system that can hold the very full life you've been begging the Universe to deliver I can't wait to hear your thoughts. My new book co-written by Dr. Jade Teta () is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me . Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram. CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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399. Aftermath of Hurricane Helene: Navigating Natural Disaster as a Couple with Kelly Gardner
10/18/2024
399. Aftermath of Hurricane Helene: Navigating Natural Disaster as a Couple with Kelly Gardner
I certainly never expected to be coming to you with an episode about living through a devastating natural disaster and yet, here we are. Joining me is my beloved partner Kelly Gardner, a relationship coach and men's work facilitator, as we come to you recording from Kelly's childhood bedroom after evacuating from Asheville, North Carolina in the wake of Hurricane Helene. As we've witnessed events unfold that have shaken our foundation, we're having a raw, real and honest conversation about how these kinds of experiences can strengthen our relationships - particularly as a couple. This one is quite emotional as we are quite literally procesing our grief in real-time with you as the adrenaline has worn off, while also feeling so incredibly fortunate for everything that we have, including each other. In this episode, we cover: -The impact of crises on personal relationships -Navigating emotions and the importance of checking in with each other -How to maintain communication when disaster strikes -Trusting your partner during turbulent times -Strategies for asking for and offering support -Discovering the silver linings amidst chaos -The value of shared experiences in building resilience -How to transform challenges into opportunities for growth Join us as we explore how conflict and adversity can ultimately lead to greater intimacy and understanding within our relationships. CONNECT WITH KELLY GARDNER Website: Instagram FB: CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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398. The Truth About Fear (And How To Overcome It)
09/17/2024
398. The Truth About Fear (And How To Overcome It)
It’s often said that fear is simply “the unknown.” But the unknown is a void - it hasn’t happened yet, therefore, we can’t fear what doesn’t exist. Instead, fear is us projecting past experiences or other people's stories of what we think might go wrong into the future. Today, I’m going to share a different way to approach the “the unknown” in a way that creates excitement and intrigue instead of fear and anxiety. This episode includes a series of questions that will help prevent you from carrying those stories and experiences into the unknown, and instead carry much more awareness and self trust. With this simple reframe, you can stop acting out of fear, and begin acting from the place of ‘what if it actually all works out?’ In this episode, wer’e talking about: -Learning to trust yourself -Overcoming fear -Eliminating self judgement -Fearing judgement of others -Questions to ask yourself to help overcome fear My new book co-written by Dr. Jade Teta () is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me . Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram. CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK: REFERENCES
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397. Carrying Old Pain Into New Relationships with Ali Olivier
09/10/2024
397. Carrying Old Pain Into New Relationships with Ali Olivier
If we don’t properly heal wounds of our past, they can easily get carried into our future relationships and show up, unprovoked. These can be traumas from childhood, school, past relationships etc., that activate our inner defences and, inadvertently, shield us from opening up to the love, joy and happiness of our new relationships - both with our partners and ourselves. Today, we’re talking with Master Empowerment Coach, Ali Olivier, about releasing past wounds and reclaiming our inner radiance. Here, she shares how she helps women and men unpack the layers of their past that get in the way of their present and future by getting back to the core of who we are, beyond the barriers. She also provides examples of daily practices for nervous system regulation and exercises for inner child work. In this episode, we’re talking about: -Inner child work and healing -Creating safety in our bodies -Expanding our window of tolerance -The role of anger in emotional health -The power of group healing -Balancing and honouring past and future versions of yourself -Healing from trauma -Carrying old pain into new relationships -Learning to trust yourself -Connecting to your body -How to distinguish intuition from anxiety -Re-parenting: becoming the parent you didn’t have -Creating boundaries with your parents -How trauma gets stored in our bodies -Exercises for releasing negative energy -Practices for nervous system regulation -Recognizing and releasing suppressed anger My new book co-written by Dr. Jade Teta () is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me . Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram. CONNECT WITH ALI Ali’s Ali Olivier on CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK:
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396. I’m Back (Why I’ve Been Away)
09/05/2024
396. I’m Back (Why I’ve Been Away)
After a very unintentional break, this is the first new podcast episode I’ve released in four months. And I want to give some insight into why. Firstly, I want to let you know that we are back with weekly episodes moving forward, and I'm very excited about it! I love the podcast so much. There is a very healing quality to it for me personally, just being able to speak things out loud. And here, I’ll update you on some massive life-changing transitions and beautiful manifestations coming to fruition in my life. In this episode, we’re talking about: -Why I’ve been away from the podcast for four months -Navigating major life changes -Liminal space -Being overwhelmed by choice -Manifestation -Navigating uncertainty -The difference between anxiety and excitement -Being open to receiving -Building self trust -Getting over playing small And thanks to some of the beautiful humans who have reached out and asked about the podcast and shared with me how much it touches your heart, and that you've been missing it. I always appreciate your kind words via email or DM on Instagram CONNECT WITH EMILY Follow Emily on Instagram: Website: BOOK: REFERENCES:
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395. Healing After 30 Years Being the “Other Woman” In An Affair (Client Story)
04/30/2024
395. Healing After 30 Years Being the “Other Woman” In An Affair (Client Story)
I’ve never released an episode like this before. Today, you’re going to hear the first-hand story of one of my private coaching clients, Melissa. Melissa has generously agreed to talk intimately about our six months working together as she worked to overcome the shame, heartbreak and pain of being the “other woman” in a man’s affair for almost 30 years. Here, she details her remarkable healing and transformation during our time working together. I don’t use the word “transformation” often…but Melissa has undergone a complete energetic and physical shift...you’ll hear it in her voice. I’m so excited for you to hear Melissa’s story, and to inspire you that this inner work is for anyone ready to rediscover your true, powerful self. If you’d like to work with me one-on-one, and let’s get started! In this episode, Melissa and I talk about: -Why Melissa contacted me about coaching -Being the “other” in a cheating relationship -Melissa’s breaking point -How to heal from infidelity -Jealousy in a cheating relationship -Wanting to be chosen in a relationship -Choosing yourself before choosing them -Overcoming shame and guilt -Embodying personal development and integrating what you’ve learned -Nervous system regulation My new book co-written by Dr. Jade Teta () is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me . Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram. CONNECT WITH EMILY Email:
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394. Balancing Personal Growth While In A Relationship (My Guest Appearance on “Full Frontal Living” with Lisa Carpenter)
03/20/2024
394. Balancing Personal Growth While In A Relationship (My Guest Appearance on “Full Frontal Living” with Lisa Carpenter)
The balance of personal growth and contributing to a thriving romantic relationship is all about being comfortable in your own skin, without seeking external validation, yet embracing our innate need for connection. It’s independence and interdependence…but not co-dependence. I’m such a believer in this that I co-wrote an entire book about it called “You Grow Me” (link to buy below). This episode is a cross-podcast with Lisa Carpenter’s “Full Frontal Living” podcast (). Lisa is a remarkable coach who helped me through one of the most challenging periods of my life (I tell that story in this episode). Here, we focus on creating safety within oneself - reconnecting with the body, nervous system regulation and the massive importance of personal responsibility within a relationship. In this episode, Lisa and I talk about: Creating safety within: the foundation of self-connection Self-discovery and healing from trauma The impact of childhood experiences on adult relationships Navigating jealousy and building trust The gender gap in personal development Detachment Why a healthy relationship can be as confronting as a traumatic one Learning to listen to your intuition The presence of exes in a new relationship The grief of finally getting what you want Jealousy in a relationship Taking personal responsibility for everything in your relationship My new book co-written by Dr. Jade Teta () is available now! It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me . Please read and let me know your takeaways! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below). CONNECT WITH EMILY CONNECT WITH LISA Website: Instagram: Podcast: REFERENCES
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393. Why Being Is So Much More Attractive Than Doing
03/13/2024
393. Why Being Is So Much More Attractive Than Doing
When it comes to our personal growth and development, many people get caught in a trap of “doing” instead of “being.” Doing is when we learn the things, do the homework, and then force our actions based on doing exactly what we think we’re expected to…even if it feels inauthentic. But in order for the work to actually work, we have to embody it. We have to literally BE it. And to do that, we have to lean as hard as possible into our most authentic self. Today we’re breaking down how to tell the difference between “doing” and “being” and the incredible rewards we attract - relationships, opportunities etc. - that come as a result of the innate magnetic nature of being the truest version of ourselves. In this episode, we’re talking about: The difference between doing and being Why so many people struggle with doing instead of being How to attract the right relationships and opportunities How our energy affects our communication Living life to the fullest Accepting exactly where you are right now Why authenticity is so attractive An exercise to pinpoint where you feel most alive If you want to work with me to get to your point of “being” opposed to “doing” I have private 1-1 coaching spaces available to focus on this very subject. I’ve worked with a number of women lately on unleashing their own authenticity and the breakthroughs have been life-changing. Email me or and I’d love to get started! CONNECT WITH EMILY REFERENCES
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392. Surprising Signs of True Emotional Intimacy
03/05/2024
392. Surprising Signs of True Emotional Intimacy
When we talk about how safe and secure we feel with someone we’re in a relationship with - romantic or other - we’re talking about emotional intimacy. It’s that deep connection we create and maintain with the truest version of both they and ourselves. Today, I'm going to list 16 surprising signs of true emotional intimacy. Surprising because they involve levels of both strength and vulnerability that aren’t often covered in the usual curriculum of personal development. In this episode, we’re talking about: How to stay connected to yourself The importance of honesty, no matter how painful it is Asking for your needs to be met Asking for help Accepting yourself at your worst How to practice presence Setting boundaries in every relationship Caring for your partner's wounds Pushing your emotional range My new book is officially out! It’s called co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (). It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me . Would love to know what you think! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below). CONNECT WITH EMILY REFERENCES
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391. Repairing Conflict in Your Relationship with Kelly Gardner
02/27/2024
391. Repairing Conflict in Your Relationship with Kelly Gardner
Conflict is going to happen in a healthy relationship. And more often than not, conflict starts with something laughably small - from doing dishes, to making food, and even how to decoratively light a podcast. But underneath the menial cause of conflict always lies a much deeper need that isn’t being met. I’m joined on this episode by my partner, Kelly Gardner, a Relationship Coach and Men’s Group Facilitator, and as you’ll hear, we couldn't even record this podcast without a small conflict of our own. Yes, it was something super small (how to decoratively light this episode for video) which we playfully recount, but then take you through our thorough resolution and beautiful potential of the conflict repair process. Kelly and I also have spots open now for 2-on-2 Couples Coaching (). These sessions are focused on breaking down walls, solidifying your relationship foundation, improving your sex life and designing the most supportive, fulfilling and loving relationship. In this episode, Kelly and I talk about: Why conflict is so often over small things One partner taking leadership on certain things in a relationship Compassionate communication Assuming positive intent in others Trusting your partner through conflict Expressing your needs and asking for your needs to be met How to fully resolve a conflict in a relationship The repair process of conflict Discovering breakthroughs through conflict The essential elements of repairing conflict in a relationship How conflict is an opportunity to deepen your relationship Also, my new book is officially out! It’s called co-written by Dr. Jade Teta (). It’s a big “f**k you” to unrealistic Hollywood love stories, and instead offers a fresh perspective on how personal growth is intertwined with romance. You can buy your copy of You Grow Me . Would love to know what you think! Email me or DM me on Instagram (contacts below). CONNECT WITH EMILY CONNECT WITH KELLY GARDNER Website: Instagram FB: REFERENCES
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390. My new book “You Grow Me” is out today! (Free preview of Chapter 1)
02/14/2024
390. My new book “You Grow Me” is out today! (Free preview of Chapter 1)
Today, I am so thrilled to announce the release of my first book co-authored with my dear friend, Dr. Jade Teta. It's all about creating growth-oriented relationships, rather than getting caught in the trap of “you complete me” and relying on other people, particularly our romantic partners, to fulfill our needs and happiness. This book leaves the bulls**t Hollywood love stories, Rom Coms, and Disney nonsense where they belong - in fantasy land - and instead lays out how to create a relationship where you can show up more confidently as your authentic self, which allows you BOTH to feel more deeply connected to each other. As a gift to you, I’m releasing Chapter 1 FREE in this podcast episode (links below to purchase). I sincerely hope “You Grow Me” helps you completely reframe the way you look at relationships - with both others and with yourself. Please let me know what you think! I’d love your feedback on the book, please email or DM me with your thoughts and takeaways. And thank you so much for all your support throughout this podcast - would never have happened without it! (PS: check out for a behind-the-scenes recollection of the frenetic, hilarious, and exhausting story of how we wrote this entire book in just 9 days). BUY THE BOOK On Amazon: CONNECT WITH EMILY CONNECT WITH DR. JADE TETA Website:
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389. Life Is Full of Uncertainty, But You’re Gonna Be OK with Lisa Carpenter
01/30/2024
389. Life Is Full of Uncertainty, But You’re Gonna Be OK with Lisa Carpenter
Fear is basically uncertainty. It’s having no idea or proof of our own capability to handle the unknown. So how do we learn to overcome fear and simply trust ourselves that we have everything we need to handle any uncertainty? That’s where coaches like Lisa Carpenter come in. Lisa Carpenter is a remarkable coach who has changed my life in so many ways. She's the host of the and has worked with thousands of people - seeing their depths, bringing out their best and helping them truly live to their full potential. Today we’re going deep on how to channel our innate gifts and abilities to handle whatever fear comes our way, while embracing uncertainty as a beautiful chance to grow. In this episode, Lisa and I are talking about: Learning to accept compliments and praise Why anxiety shows up in our lives Noticing your own red flag behaviours How to avoid procrastinating and avoiding tasks Learning to listen to and interpret emotions How to learn to trust ourselves Integrating what we’ve learned Expanding our capacity for discomfort The difference between openness and vulnerability Integrity: showing up as the same person online and offline The value of sharing openly in inspiring and serving others Navigating uncertainty and embracing discomfort The importance of authenticity and real connections Embracing change and making conscious choices I’d love to know where you are on your journey to building self-trust. Where are you getting stuck? Please reach out (contacts below) and I'd love to talk more about this subject with you. And thanks to Lisa for inviting me on her Full Frontal Living Podcast episode 253 - . CONNECT WITH EMILY CONNECT WITH LISA Website: Instagram: Podcast: Podcast Producer: Adam Liefl
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388. Ways We Intellectualize Our Feelings Instead Of Feeling Them
01/23/2024
388. Ways We Intellectualize Our Feelings Instead Of Feeling Them
When we overthink our emotions, we under-feel them. This can have major consequences on both our relationships and our personal growth. Too often when faced with a negative or traumatic emotion, we intellectualize how we are feeling instead of allowing ourselves to accept, allow and feel it. And by suppressing the bad stuff, we fail to fully learn how to feel the good stuff - the spectrum of emotions are what make up the beautiful, complete human experience. This episode will teach you three simple, but necessary steps to begin practicing feeling instead of thinking when it comes to emotions. These are required if we want to have healthier and more meaningful connections with others and ourselves. In this episode, we’re talking about: Understanding the intellectualization of feelings Why we tend to think more about emotions than simply feel them How we interpret the same words differently based on our emotional state The importance of communicating how you’re feeling to your partner Telling ourselves negative stories that skew our actual feelings Why we avoid accepting and facing our emotions Consequences of analyzing our feelings vs feeling them Communicating your emotions instead of venting your frustrations 3 practical steps to connect with your emotions Embracing the full range of human experience Is learning to feel emotions more deeply a challenge you’re working on? If this is something you’d love to talk more about, please reach out to me directly (contacts below) and I’d love to dive in with you personally. CONNECT WITH EMILY DM on Instagram: Email: REFERENCES
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387. Coaching Call: Break Down Your Walls and Finally Let Them In
01/18/2024
387. Coaching Call: Break Down Your Walls and Finally Let Them In
Something new on the Room To Grow™ podcast for 2024: allowing you into some of my real life, unedited coaching calls with clients. We all share the same challenges and questions in our relationships, and my hope is that by inviting you into these incredible sessions, you’ll find answers and inspiration to integrate into your own situation. It’s also a taste of the incredible successes we can have together, so please reach out if this is the kind of work you’re finally ready to say F**K YES to (contacts below). This coaching call features Kelly, who, after breaking up with her partner, realized he was in fact the one, she just had too many self-protections activated from past relationship trauma. This is often what happens when our walls keep real love stranded on the outside, never allowed to penetrate. If you’re having trouble breaking down your own walls to allow love in, this session is definitely for you. (A huge thank you to Kelly for openly sharing and inspiring others with this breakthrough). In this coaching call, Kelly and I discuss: Challenging the label of a “relationship” Codependency in a marriage vs healthy relationship Establishing and managing expectations in a relationship Why commitment doesn’t have to feel like shackles Knocking down emotional walls allowing love to enter Feeling safe letting someone into a relationship with you Learning to trust yourself How to overcome fear of communicating openly with your partner The difference between selfish vs. self-preserving How healthy relationships force us to come out of hiding Exercise: listing the fears you have in this relationship and coaching yourself through each If you’d like to address a current challenge on the podcast, You can also Or check the details below on the different ways we can work together. And as always, please reach out anytime with your takeaways or topic ideas for the podcast - I’d love to chat! CONNECT WITH EMILY DM on Instagram: Email:
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386. Be Unreasonable In Fighting For The Life You Want
01/15/2024
386. Be Unreasonable In Fighting For The Life You Want
It’s time to start fighting unreasonably hard for the life you want. I want this first episode of the New Year to remind you that waiting for things to feel easier, clearer and less scary are preventing you from taking the first messy, but critical steps in the right direction. Even if you don’t have the end figured out, sitting around hoping everything will eventually manifest itself isn’t doing anything. I’m also sharing a couple new announcements for the Room To Grow™ podcast, news about my forthcoming book, and my 2024 Words of the Year - an annual practice that helps me stay undeniably committed to a particular goal, while helping make those big, hard decisions much easier. Try it for yourself! In this episode, we’re talking about: Why trying to manifest everything won’t work Redefining the stories we tell ourselves Taking action, even without the full plan in place Fearing the unknown and searching for safety How to manage fear and uncertainty How to avoid self-judgment Why we fear our own success How to build trust in ourselves An exercise for centering yourself and shifting your energy in the moment I say this every year, but this podcast is one of my favourite things I do as a Human Connection Coach. I absolutely love hearing from you on how these topics show up in your life and am always open to talking more about these and other topics you want to hear more about. Please email me or DM me on Instagram anytime! CONNECT WITH EMILY DM on Instagram: Email: REFERENCES
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385. How Much Do You Value Yourself?
12/15/2023
385. How Much Do You Value Yourself?
The most dangerous thing you can possess is self worth. Because from self worth comes freedom and empowerment to choose exactly what and who you want in your life. But because we live in a world that teaches us to look outside of ourselves for validation, accolades, approval, self-worth can be a major struggle. But when we stop auditioning for the approval of others and instead go inward and trust our own worth, it gives us the confidence to state our value to others. This episode is all about stepping into your power and learning to ignore the junk that robs us of seeing our own self worth. It includes questions to ask yourself to establish how highly you truly value yourself. In this episode, we’re talking about: Stepping fully into your power: trusting instincts and intuition, learning to like you body, owning your sexuality Not letting others determine our value Why we often lower our self-worth as a defense mechanism The role of self-worth in relationships Fear of disappointment and its impact on self-worth Difference between compromise and self-betrayal The power of choosing yourself first in your relationship Not allowing past mistakes to define who you are becoming The freedom that comes from putting yourself first Choosing someone because you want them, not because you need them If worked your ass of and want to join other women in truly stepping into your full and absolute unworldly power, I have a brand new women’s group forthcoming called “Grown Ass Women Era” ...because it's damn time! Email me or DM me if you're interested or want to know more (IG: ) CONNECT WITH EMILY Instagram: Email: REFERENCES
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