Sexploration with Monika
Sex is proof that God loves us and wants us to have fun!
info_outline The BDSM Tea Party (10 minute quickie edit) 04/11/2019
The BDSM Tea Party (10 minute quickie edit) You can hear a quickie of the first-ever episode of Sexploration with Monika which debuted in 2007 on Erotic Radio Live. This is an edited 10 min demo version of "The BDSM Tea Party" for the article "Professionally Homeless for Sex Talk." Sexploration with Monika explores how women and men get what they want in the context of sex and relationships, with a heavy emphasis on exploring new ideas, consent, negotiation, safe sex, kink, connection, communication, and play. Sexploration with Monika show topics range from sex-robots, Japanese bondage and other fetishes, metamorphasexuals, polyamory, and tips on having the perfect menage-et-trois. You can enjoy how "golly gee whiz" I am when they clue me about pegging, obviously this was before I was a Certified Sexual Health Educator! LoL Thanks to David Fratto of Media Posse for donating valuable production time for the first few shows in his lovely studios on Haight Street in SF. It was not uneventful (but it was a learning experience), & I'm sure his neighbors have forgotten all the strange noises by now!
info_outline Is That Broccolini In Your Yoga Pants or Are You Just Happy To See Me? 04/05/2019
Is That Broccolini In Your Yoga Pants or Are You Just Happy To See Me? Do YOU think it's OK to wear yoga pants when you are NOT doing yoga? Do you think it's OK to judge people for what they look like in yoga pants? What if they are wearing yoga pants after yoga? While doing a play about yoga? You might think "Yoga Play" is a play about yoga, that's only 1% correct. It's actually about ALL the social justice issues of our time -- and it's funny! Join me at the SF Playhouse for an interview with star & co-producer Susi Damilano and then... is it crudite, is it cruciferous, is it compost? What *IS* that in your veg drawer? It's Broccolini Rhapsody! There's no time sooner than now to eat your veg ;)
info_outline This Heart Holds Many; 2nd Gen Sex & Gender 03/18/2019
This Heart Holds Many; 2nd Gen Sex & Gender Can you be pretty and manly or do you have to limit yourself to being pretty manly? Do you have to pick a gender? How many are there? What's it like when Grandma is polyamorous? How do you get THREE moms? Koe Creation's family tree is more flowchart or a "polycule" with relationships reaching out every which-way. Which pronoun should you use? What's it like growing up in a family where the entire family actually ACCEPTS your sexuality? I know, it's shocking. Koe Creation, The Nonbinary Millennial Child of a Polyamorous Family, tells all in their coming-of-age autobiography and you'll get a taste of them here, tonight. You can join Koe at the SF Book Launch this Friday 3/22, out on tour or invite them to your village at @KoeCreate! They also discuss the SF swing lifestyle in a way you will never expect!!
info_outline Boob Massage, Sweet Spots & Radical Feminist Comedy 01/21/2019
Boob Massage, Sweet Spots & Radical Feminist Comedy Techniques for erotic breast massage & a cunning linguist's favorite “sweet spot” pillow position. Plus, explore the hilarious side of sex-positive feminism with playwright Anne Galjour of #GetGandhi: A Radical Feminist Comedy! Where is the Sisterhood of the Travelling Pantsuits going? Susan Bratton's new book "The Soulmate Embrace" teaches a breast massage technique that's AMAZING! Also healthy, all that blood flow and sexy energy moving around, plus lymphatic massage and pleasure is healthy anyway
info_outline Energy Healing, Sex and Musicals 07/06/2018
Energy Healing, Sex and Musicals BioField Energy Healing, Sexual Energy, & Deep Consent with Mike Sententia, founder of HealingLab.org. What does energy healing mean for the modern understanding of physics? Then join us on a glittery romp through the outback with "Priscilla Queen of the Desert; the Musical!" by Theatre Rhinoceros (1st queer theatre in the known universe) with producer Joseph Tally, & political mime troupe star Rotimi Agbabiaka from “Seeing Red: A Time-Traveling Musical” on why red -- socialism may be coming back into s
info_outline Hack Your Orgasm 05/13/2017
Hack Your Orgasm Did you know you can hack your own nervous system? Build new sexual sensations wherever you want them? How do you do that? We're also going to find out if you can really get an erection or have an orgasm in an unusual place -- like the underneath of your eyelid! You have erectile tissue in a LOT more places than you think. You can have a full-body orgasm! Join me live today with pleasure-researchers & educators Francoise Devresse & Ginger Testerman of the Welcomed Consensus. We'll also discuss their meditation practice of "Deliberate Orgasm," aka the "60-Minute Orgasm." This episode of Sexploration with Monika was recorded live on Facebook Live at 4:30pm Pacific time, May 7th, 2017. You can watch it on the Sexploration with Monika Facebook page!
info_outline Take a bite of Erotic Fine Artist Nancy Peach 02/03/2017
Take a bite of Erotic Fine Artist Nancy Peach Erotic Fine Artist Nancy Peach flowered from church lady to San Francisco's bold and daring sex-positive oil painter who paints dominatrixes and porn stars bigger than life, with gold leaf, fishnets and flowers. We'll discuss how Nancy flowered from church lady to Erotic Fine Artist under Femina Potens & bondage porn star Madison Young. We also talk about how going from architectural artist to erotic fine artist affected her traditional marriage and two children. You can catch Sexploration with Monika LIVE on Facebook too! You can go to Nancy's gallery opening in Santa Cruz at Pure Pleasure First Fridays tomorrow February 3rd 2017 & March 3rd 2017 and all the sexy oil paintings in between.
info_outline Kinky Salon Confessions 01/11/2016
Kinky Salon Confessions You've listened to her discuss founding the San Fransexuals' sparkliest sex party, Kinky Salon... she's known as Polly Glamourous, Polly Superstar, latex designer & purveyor Polly Pandemonium... and author of the memoir "Polly Sex Culture Revolutionary!" Now, Polly Whittaker has her very own podcast! It's called "Kinky Salon Confessions" and I was on it talking about polyamory, relationship anarchy, being a sex-positive prude, and making sex culture revolutionaries and organizations more grounded through real estate. Enjoy!
info_outline Are you your own authentic kind of sexy? 02/14/2015
Are you your own authentic kind of sexy? Have you ever felt that the sexual revolution may have happened 50 years ago but you're still not getting what you want from sex and dating? Sex is such a big part of our culture, as 50-Shades of Grey is plastered high on big billboards, but unless you're empowered to say what you want, you might be feel sex & dating is the grey area. What do you do if you're into someone but they're not matching your level of interest? What if he's pushing for physical intimacy but refuses to offer emotional intimacy? Dr Susan Edelman, psychiatrist and author of "Be Your Own Brand Of Sexy" and I discuss how you can explore what you really want, treat your feelings with tenderness, support others, be honest with yourself, and pursue your own desires while gracefully saying no to what you don't want and yes to what you do. Is 50 Shades of Grey, depicting a healthy dating relationship, consent, and even kink in realistic way or is it a fantasy? Your kind of sexy is real and it's different from everyone else's. Let's talk about how to respect it.
info_outline Homeless Sex Party? Scary!!! 02/24/2014
Homeless Sex Party? Scary!!! You can join us at the last Kinky Salon Halloween at Mission Control in SF's gentrifying Mission district. As Kinky Salon gets evicted from Mission Control, they bid a freaky farewell & start to plan ways to keep throwing their colorful, sexy, highly unique parties while homeless. Remember, it's not just one sex party that is getting evicted, there's Velvet, Pink, Club Kiss, Threshold, Touch, the League of Gentlemen, the Speakeasy series, Essence... In this on-location broadcast you'll hear the Kinky Salon Cabaret, the exorcism in one of the many sexploitation film scenes being play acted live for the amusement of the party-goers, and hear about Bix's plans to give MC a very juicy orgasmic send-off with Jiz Lee and Allison Moon.
info_outline Masquerotica 2013: Costumes & Consent Are Sexy 11/03/2013
Masquerotica 2013: Costumes & Consent Are Sexy You can join me live on location at the epic sf sexy-party Masquerotica with Club Exotica, Bondage-A-Go-Go, Syd Gris, Cabaret de Caliente, Barron Scott Levkoff of Kinky Salon, Dark Garden, Mama Fou, and Clod Hop with Carnival Fantastique, Joegh of Anon Salon and so much mmmore! We'll describe the sights, sounds, eye-popping costumes and sexy goings-on, how to make a sexy corset that's COMFORTABLE, and all the myriad of ways to get consent (so you can make sure the person you are touching actually enjoys it) including the ever-so blackbelt move the "ask without asking." Masquerotica is an annual sexy pre-Halloween costume party that dares to discourage touristing and bad manners by outlawing street clothes, looky-loos, and unwanted advances. It's a "second base" party so consensual hugging, kissing, making out, above-the-waist groping/frotterage/fondling/pleasurable touching are A-OK. You'll hear Wes and I be surprised by some light and very exhibitionist BDSM play "cropping up" just before our eyes.
info_outline Girl Sex 101: Roadtrip Sex-ed Romance Novel Comic 10/13/2013
Girl Sex 101: Roadtrip Sex-ed Romance Novel Comic Girl Sex 101 is roadtrip sex-ed comic book erotica, where the story "drives home" lessons about pleasure, anatomy, sexy communication skills, consent, and the 1,001 ways to pleasure a woman. Join sex educator & author of the Tales of the Pack (lesbian werewolves) books Allison Moon and I at the Fruitopia loft for a lubricating discussion of what anyone can learn from women having sex. In Girl Sex 101, Jamie and her ex Layla are driving a van from Vancouver to San Diego, and sexy adventures ensue. Allison and porn comic artist kd diamond of Salacious Magazine are creating a feminist, pleasure-positive, and consent-oriented sex education comic-book story to help women of all orientations understand their bodies and their partners. For example, in the first chapter, Layla has a hard time speaking up about what she likes in bed with a hot femme she picks up. Later on, Jamie finds herself in bed with a trans guy and doesn't quite know how to talk with him about his body. Meanwhile, Layla wants to communicate her STI status to a new flame, while Jamie navigates fooling around with an old crush with a disability. Girl Sex 101 also features sex-ed superstars Megan Andelloux, Tristan Taormino, Jiz Lee, Carol Queen, Nina Hartley, Sex Nerd Sandra, Reid Mihalko, Kelly Shibari and YOU! Allison wants to hear from you on Twitter and Tumblr, and you can be a part of the genesis of Girl Sex 101 on Kickstarter -- if they can raise just over $1000 more Girl Sex 201 will happen with more advanced topics like kink, non-monogamy, fisting, oh my!
info_outline Love Drugs & Polyamory with the Queen 08/08/2013
Love Drugs & Polyamory with the Queen Are you in love or are you drugged by your own brain chemicals? If you have decided to open your relationship, how can you make sure you're doing it in a healthy way? Francesca Gentille is the founder of the Sacred Courtesan School, the Knights of Eros, and the Temple of Shadows. We discuss new relationships and all the drug-like brain chemicals that come with them... and when you're a floaty-hot-and-bothered-smitten-kitten, how to tell the difference between true love and pheromones. Plus, what's the difference between polyamory, and unconscious non-monogamy or "cheating?!!" What is high-protocol polyamory and how would you start a polyamorous relationship with the queen (or her paramour)? How can you engage with people in other relationships in the most conscious way - so that things go as smoothly as possible in uncharted waters? Could polyamory be a mechanism for personal or spiritual-growth? Also, you'll learn something ridiculous about the history of "playing footsie" that will either blow your mind, make you LOL, or explain the footwear of elves.
info_outline Tantra & Pleasure: the Danger Path? 05/10/2013
Tantra & Pleasure: the Danger Path? Why is Tantra, the "pleasure path" to spirituality, also seen as dangerous? I'm wandering in, around, and above Union Square with Francesca Gentille, founder of the Sacred Courtesan School, the Knights of Eros, and the Temple of Shadows. We'll explore a number of ideas in, around and on top of consciousness and sexuality. Learn about "Intuitive Safe Sex," whether or not it's actually safe, and how to communicate about STI's and manage your risk. Do you talk to your vulva? You could be able to experience a new level of orgasm by loving & being IN your body. Plus, can the tools and techniques of BDSM & kinky sex be used for sacred sexuality and spiritual connection? In relationships, how can you break the cycle of neediness and fear and come to a place of choice? Does playing "hard to get" work or is it dangerous because it communicates that we're not able to be honest in a yes? How do you deal with mixed messages, while being open, authentic, and creating allure with power & clarity? If your body is a temple, how do you adorn it? Plus, what sexy outfits mean and the connection between sex and spiritual power. What is the mysterious and yet so prevalent connection between shoes, feet, & sex? What happens when we suppress sexual expression and desire?
info_outline Cockette's Tinsel Tarts In A Hot Coma: Theater of the ReDICKulous 05/04/2013
Cockette's Tinsel Tarts In A Hot Coma: Theater of the ReDICKulous You may wonder what is a "Tinsel Tart in a Hot Coma?” But this musical isn't about making sense, it's about outrageousness! It does ~have~ a plot about a Hollywood star (or a "Tinsel Tart") going back to New York, but this musical trades narrative for being outrageously sparkly, queer, and sexually provocative. If you listened to the "Hot Greeks" Sexploration with Monika episode, you'll remember the Cockettes, who have been described as "mindless libertineage," and "beautiful, funny, liberating, psychedelic messengers from the gods." There's a story within a story here that arcs from SF to NYC and goes all the way back to the late 1960's North Beach. Until June 1st 29th, 2013, the Thrillpeddlers are reviving another Cockette's Theatre of The Ridiculous sextravaganza with 3 of the original Cockettes, Scrumbly Koldewyn, “Sweet Pam” Tent, and Rumi Missabu. This troupe of glittery anti-establishment drag queens took "Tinsel Tarts in A Hot Coma" on the road to the Big Apple in 1971. They got a lot of press, and while not all of it was good, they penetrated the culture, inspiring glam rock, glitter rock, 80's glitter-glam fashion, a host of spin off troupes, bands, documentaries, YouTube make-up tutorials and more. The "Tinsel Tarts" you can see now at the Hypnodrome, is no less glittery but restored, rewritten, and rehearsed... from a 1971 outline to Thrillpeddler's full-length version. The Thrillpeddlers are still clearly having a blast onstage... but the set doesn't really look like cardboard anymore. We'll speak with original Cockettes Sweet Pam Tent and Rumi Missabu in this episode of Sexploration with Monika, and the person who may have coined the term "drag king," Leigh Crow, aka Elvis Herselvis. In the previous Sexploration with Monika episode about the Cockettes, we interviewed the other original Cockette - composer Scrumbly Koldewyn, plus Thrillpeddler's artistic director Russell Blackwood. "Tinsel Tarts in a Hot Coma" has just been extended and will run until June 29th!
info_outline Aphrodisiacs and Ingredients for Arousal 04/15/2013
Aphrodisiacs and Ingredients for Arousal Have you ever wanted to try a real aphrodisiac? Chances are you have - and I don't mean that you've been dosed - because that's not sexy. There are tons of natural aphrodisiacs, and they could have been masquerading as a tossed salad - not THAT kind of tossed salad, though that could be an arousal amplifier too. Natural aphrodisiacs are just another way that God shows us that nature is pro-sex and when used with intention, you could be in for a lot of fun. Nutritionist Jared of HottChocolates.com will tell us which herbal aphrodisiacs he uses in his truffles. Speaking of a lot of fun, the "My Blissed Out Valentine" haiku for the aquatic & couple's massage from ThaiCouplesMassage.com are here too. It's all for science - awareness, oxytocin, arousal, and exploration on this episode of Sexploration with Monika.
info_outline Burlesque Self-Esteem Scholarships (All Kinds of Sexy II) 03/26/2013
Burlesque Self-Esteem Scholarships (All Kinds of Sexy II) You can join me on-location now at the glittering "All Kinds of Sexy" burlesque scholarship benefit for victims of rape, domestic violence, and eating disorders from Bombshell Betty. Have you ever been to a dance show where all the dancers looked exactly the same? This isn't that show. There's all kinds of different going on tonight, not just body type, but also I've never seen this Sesame Street character strip before! So many surprises. Also, could learning sultry dance moves (and how to take off your clothes in a sexy way) be part of a process of empowerment and connection with the body and sexual power? Can learning to dance the strip tease be healing? What's it like learning to bare it all (to a group of supportive women) not just physically but "baring it all" in other ways too? We'll talk to scholarship beneficiary Candy Pie, and enjoy burlesque-style teases and sparkle from dance instructor Bombshell Betty, Valhalla Voom, Poundcake Dee Light, Rosey Booticelli, and mmmore at the Elbow Room's "All Kinds of Sexy." Thanks to Alex Akamine for this photo of Cleo Torres.
info_outline Lesbian Love Story from 1890, A Lady and a Woman 03/15/2013
Lesbian Love Story from 1890, A Lady and a Woman What would it have been like for a lady to fall in love with another woman in 1890? Meet Miss Flora Devine, an African-American lady who owns an inn in a small Southern black township in 1890. She does not realize she could be same-sex attracted until she falls in love with Biddy Higgins, an itinerant butcher. We'll speak with actresses Dawn L. Troupe & Velina Brown, Director John Fisher, and playwright Shirlene Holmes. "A Lady and a Woman" is a production of Theater Rhinoceros, the oldest LGBTQ theatre company in the world, started in 1977 in San Francisco. A long time before it was "ok" to be a lesbian or queer, "A Lady and a Woman" explores the interlocking themes of spirituality and sexuality telling the story of two women who find in each other the courage to begin a new life. We'll discuss other works by Shirlene Holmes including "Daughters" about identity and trans-cultural adoption, and "Strong Arms" about a shelter for battered men, exploring themes of masculinity, power, and ending abuse & domestic violence. This show runs through March 24th, 2013 at the Eureka Theater.
info_outline Pleasure is Good For You (Healthy, Healing, Empowering) 02/26/2013
Pleasure is Good For You (Healthy, Healing, Empowering) You might want to stop calling it masturbation because the word masturbation literally means "to disturb with the hand." Devi Ward calls it "the art of self pleasure." What's wrong with touching your own pleasure parts? Absolutely nothing, as long as it's private or consensual, and it's good for you. In fact, not only does pleasure, especially sexual pleasure, have a number of physiological benefits, but it can heal emotional trauma as well! In her book, "Shake Your Soul-Song!: A Woman's Guide To Self-Empowerment Through The Art Of Self-Pleasure" Devi Ward describes how taking time for pleasure every day can transform your life. Also, the amount of time you take is important too, this is not about "getting it over with." She'll describe the difference between climax and orgasm, and why it's essential to more pleasure. Also, we'll talk about the importance of relaxation and the parasympathetic nervous system in health and well-being. (Thanks to Fields of Heather for this photo of Devi.) What about those "guilty pleasures" like ice cream? Is there a way to transform the experience to make it both more pleasurable and not "guilty?" There's a simple key here, and if you want to guess it starts with an "A."Learn how pleasure can be a path to healing and empowerment on this episode of Sexploration with Monika.
info_outline Sensual Interactive Couple's Massage (My Blissed Out Valentine) 02/15/2013
Sensual Interactive Couple's Massage (My Blissed Out Valentine) Do you want to bliss out with your Valentine? This is a very unique couple's massage that's so very, very sensual (but not sexual) and luxurious, intimate, & deeply relaxing. Massage therapists Brian and Seleece have created a unique massage experience for couples in their bamboo-garden Oakland loft. The experience starts with aquatic massage like Watsu in the huge 98-degree pool in their living room. Then, you two go upstairs into their plush candle-lit loft for a massage where you relax and are literally massaged into each other's arms! Mmmm, the oxytocin. Listen for the Blissed-out Valentine haiku contest! Deadline Feb 16th, 2013. Best haiku wins a 90-minute aquatic & couple's massage in Oakland, California.
info_outline The Kinky Salon Memoir and Tango 02/07/2013
The Kinky Salon Memoir and Tango Polly Superstar, who co-founded Kinky Salon, is writing her memoirs. Over the last 10-years of throwing San Franfreakshow's most creative sex party she describes her new project KoTango with bestseller "Sex At Dawn" author Christopher Ryan. KoTango is a cross between a social network, sex-positive news platform, and open-relationship dating or meet-up site. Polly and I discuss how if humans were "naturally promiscuous" in prehistoric times, where does that leave us now after 10,000 years of culturally-imposed monogamy? We discuss polyamory, open marriages, and even just admitting that you're attracted to others in a monogamous relationship and creating a safe container for mutual exploration and expression. Also, she tells us about a tantric awakening that she had while trying to manage the Kinky Salon sex party. Thanks to Kinky Salon photographer ToddHartmanPhoto.com for this photo! Plus, the big Valentine's Day Kinky Salon is coming up, the Sweetheart's Ball at their Misson Control headquarters Saturday, February 16th. Mission Control has a unique sex party for every flavor of sexual expression in San Francisco: tantra, all women, polyamorous, queer or gay (mostly) men, pair-bonded couples, swingers, and unicorns (oh my), and a sex party for all of that at the same time. Imagine.
info_outline The Empowerminty Sex in the City - Drag/Grrl power & strip-mining the spectrum of sex 01/18/2013
The Empowerminty Sex in the City - Drag/Grrl power & strip-mining the spectrum of sex Has the say-anything 30-something grrl-power brunches of Sex in the City really come so far from the women's consciousness-raising circles that fueled the women's liberation movement of the 60's and 70's? Yes and no, especially Trannyshack's all-drag version at Rebel - with drag queens (some that were even born women), drag kings, and even raunchier more irreverent jokes than the HBO version. Heklina's Carrie Bradshaw is hilarious. Next-level ridiculous and absurd while still eerily recognisable as are the rest of the foursome: Samantha, Miranda, and Charlotte. Trannyshack performs episodes of Sex in the City at Rebel in two shows every Wednesday night. Hilarious, saucy, and irreverent. Join me and my girls at opening night of Trannyshack's Sex in the City for giggles and even empowerminty strip-mining of dominant culture sexual foibles. Glorious fun and a great girl's night out even if you are not (always) a girl.
info_outline Hack Your Relationship: Tips For <3 + :) 01/04/2013
Hack Your Relationship: Tips For <3 + :) No matter where you are in your relationship there are simple tricks to make communication, collaboration, and trust easier and more automatic. Many of these ideas tap into scientific research on brain chemistry and the subconscious mind. You can make arguments more mutually helpful if you know how to deal with getting emotionally triggered. There are even body postures and subconscious cues to yourself and your partner that stimulate natural peace-making. What do you need to know about yourself and your partner so you can allow each other to cool off and reconnect? Relationship & sex educator Reid Mihalko, who is developing Relationship 10X, will exchange relationship ninja techniques with me on everything from beverages to body language. You can use these ideas to hack your relationship and facilitate deeper intimacy. With these relationship tools, you can navigate difficult conversations more smoothly and make even an argument productive and positive.
info_outline Deepen Your Relationship With Sex, Magic with Real-World Benefits! 12/28/2012
Deepen Your Relationship With Sex, Magic with Real-World Benefits! Dr. Janelle Alex and Rob Alex have found that adding intention, awareness, and a belief in sacredness to their sex life has brought them not only increased intimacy and pleasure, they've experienced real-world benefits as well, opportunities and promotions that come to them like magic after they connect on the physical plane. What can you create with the powerful energy of sexuality? Healing, manifestation, or even if you just want to have fun and add a spark of adventure to your relationship, SexyChallenges.com has an intimate adventure or twelve for you. Rob and Janelle will describe several Sexy Challenges that they've tried, tested and laid out for you, and they'll tell the incredible story of what real magic sex brings to their lives. Not only is sex fun, but it can transcend what most people think is even possible. Dr. Janelle Alex will also tell us about InwardOasis.com, where she help women connect with their sacred selves so that they can fuel the rest of their lives with love and vitality. Rob & Janelle not only help couples spice up their love life, they also work on compassionate communication with The Couple's Spot. They'll tell us the most simple way to diffuse an argument, that most of us habitually destroy. Do you want a more fun, successful, and special relationship? While we've discussed sacred sex ideas like tantra, orgasmic meditation, and even sacred BDSM before, this is a particularly magical and mind-blowing episode of Sexploration with Monika. You won't believe what sex, intention, and awareness can do, perhaps you should experiment with it yourself!
info_outline Festive Feminists, Queers, & Goddess-Worshippers 12/21/2012
Festive Feminists, Queers, & Goddess-Worshippers We all have to survive the holiday season whether or not we get awarded a halo. Who sings xmas carols for the outcasts? Crackpot Crones Terry Baum and Carolyn Myers, who have done holiday sketch theater and improv for a combined 108 years. They celebrate feminism, political protest, social justice, and being different with laughter while claiming "crazy" and "crone," because surviving the perpetual witch hunt of patriarchy is nothing to hide. We'll sing along with the 12 Days of Family Insults, and certainly Moishe the Green-Nosed Herring will soon be your kids' favorite. Has anyone ever tried to get you to pretend or look different than you really are for a holiday dinner? "Bubbie and her Butch" tells the story of a lesbian couple, a Hanukkah party, and a ridiculously jangly pair of earrings. You will not believe the story the Virgin Mary (or should I say Version Mary) tells to her beloved acolyte in Russia or 1962, where Mary (and all religion) may be outlawed, but abortion is legal. Pussy Riot's "Punk Prayer" to oust Putin gets Mary's compassionate ear too. When you're in the old folks home would you plan your escape to protest unmanned warfare drones in Pakistan? "Crones for the Holidays" manages to be fun, funny, and a laser-pointer of social justice activism and actually teach you something about the "end" of the Mayan Calendar too.
info_outline Your Daily 3-Minute Orgasm & Clit Like a Soccer Ball 12/15/2012
Your Daily 3-Minute Orgasm & Clit Like a Soccer Ball How could you be so turned on and sensitive that your clitoris felt like a soccer ball? What are the effects of having a 3-minute orgasm every day? Hint: it's not losing sleep, you only have to wake 5 min earlier. How could menopause be PLEASURABLE? How can masturbation help you experience more pleasure with a partner? How can you get more experiences of sensuality simply by shifting your awareness? How can you fit a commitment to pleasure in your busy day? How would a daily commitment to pleasure expand your sense of relaxation? I'm on the 3-Day Sensuality Retreat with the sensual researchers of the Welcomed Consensus. We'll explore deliberate orgasm or "doing," a practice of focusing on the pleasurable sensations of the clit being stroked. Yvonne Wray of Menopause-Flashes.com will tell us how she transformed her experience of menopause from fear to fun by letting go and being presence in the moment. Daisy Meyer uses the power of friendship and masturbation to transform communication in a relationship in a pleasure-oriented way. Cedric will tell us how the clitoris can feel like a soccer ball in sensation, and use awareness to feel every stitch on the head or glans of the clitoris with his fingertip. Then co-founder Francoise Devresse will tell us about the Observation of Intense Coming and invite you to try a daily 3-minute orgasm (as a founder of the Welcomed Consensus she's had an orgasm every day for 18 years) and tell us how anyone can create more pleasure in their life, in their body.
info_outline Bondage, Clowns, Gods, Piercing, & Sex-Positive Parenting 12/07/2012
Bondage, Clowns, Gods, Piercing, & Sex-Positive Parenting You can join us now in the leather-scented midst of the Sexploration with Monika bondage dinner at supperclub. We'll speak with educator of adventurous sexuality Midori about her history with performance art, Italian Clowns, donuts with an especially messy surprise, and the Japanese art of flower arranging plus bondage. Then Midori will introduce us to blogger and sex-positive parent Lidia Anain who'll open our eyes about parenting strategies that consider consent and autonomy. How do you parent without "making" your kid do stuff, and how does that relate to creating consent culture? Burlesque dancer Dorian Faust describes pagan god Baphomet, who represents the duality of male and female... and why this deity often ended up looking like Satan. Then erotic piercing performer Lady Samar will tell us why she likes hanging from hooks in her flesh... even on TV in Norway. Thanks to the lovely Julia O Test for the photos from the bondage dinner!
info_outline A Trannyshack Xmas for Everyone w/ The Golden Girls 11/30/2012
A Trannyshack Xmas for Everyone w/ The Golden Girls If you are gay, transgender, kinky, or any kind of black sheep sometimes there are Christmases that you make your own "intentional family" out of friends, roommates, and people that accept you the way you are. Heklina started the legendary drag show Trannyshack in San Francisco and for Christmas she's been taking Golden Girls episodes to the stage, the "girls" played by Drag Queens (men dressed like women) for some gender-bending, heart-warming, campy hilarity. What does family mean when you take the being-related part away? What's it like to be a drag queen? How do these ginormous guys become women? What's the most important part of your grooming arsenal as a drag performer? What if a person that was born a woman wants to be drag queen? Trannyshack's The Golden Girls: The Christmas Episodes 2012 is playing December 6th to the 30th at the Victoria Theater at Mission and 16th Streets. If your family thinks you're a freak, with whom do you spend your Christmas (and isn't it maybe better anyway to spend Xmas with people who love and accept you unconditionally)?
info_outline Masquerotica: The Yes Yes Yes Party 11/22/2012
Masquerotica: The Yes Yes Yes Party You can join us right now at the big sexY costume party Masquerotica where thousands of people are saying yes to what they think is fun, and consent is the new sexy (not that consent ever goes out of style;). We'll interview SF's sex-positive glitterati, a latex snow leopard, vampire food, and erotic electrifier, the leader of the apocalypse army, and a very kinky clown about how knowing that you can say no, makes it save for you to say yes, to all sorts of experiences and pleasures and sexy moments that we'd like to share with you live, on-location from Masquerotica 2012. From Barron Scott Levkoff to Kracker the Klown, and plenty of sights, sounds, and sensations in between we'll talk about consent and exploration up one side and down the other all over this party. Plus we'll learn how electricity on skin can actually relax and excite some people so much that they have 4 orgasms (with their clothes on & not even touching any "naughty" bits!) Violet Wand virtuoso William from Bondage-A-Go-Go will reveal some of his electricity play techniques and unexpected "special spots." How can you start a Kinky Salon in your hometown? There's a KinkyWiki for you DIY community creators and creatrixes!
info_outline Masquerotica: End the Battle of the Sexes 11/11/2012
Masquerotica: End the Battle of the Sexes You can hunt sexperts with me at Masquerotica! At's SF's biggest sexY party, we'll learn the secrets of animal play, why this beautiful woman likes pain, and mmmoore, but first, as a little tease (the rest of the interviews are yet to come) join me and Sacred Courtesan School and Knights of Eros founder Francesca Gentille for a surprisingly simple way to end the battle of the sexes. Have you experienced the cold shoulder or an overly pushy person? We'll talk about how you can find common ground, how to drop in to the present with a stranger, how our most common wounds create an extended drama between the sexes, and how to connect past them. Also, how you can create juicy energy and attract people to you! Where does juicy energy come from?