So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Get ready for laughs, life lessons, and all the vibes! Hosted by best friends Carla and Dex, So What Now? dives into the messy, magical, and maddening moments of motherhood, womanhood, and everything in between. With Carla juggling entrepreneurship and new motherhood, and Dex stepping into life as a new empty nester with her quick wit and real talk, this podcast is your go-to for fresh takes on life’s biggest (and smallest) moments. Tune in for raw conversations, endless laughs, and a reminder that none of us really have it all figured out—but that’s half the fun! CONNECT WITH US: www.SoWhatNowPod.com
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EP 32: Pro-Choice, Pro-Chaos, Probably Problematic
06/02/2025
EP 32: Pro-Choice, Pro-Chaos, Probably Problematic
This week’s episode of So What Now gets into some pretty spicy and controversial territory—so let’s jump right in. We started things off light: I came across a study that says spending money on your best friend can actually boost your mental health. So Carla, just know—I’m always here to support your wellness journey… especially if it includes buying me lunch. #SelfCare 😌 Carla let us know a few of her exes are trying to “spin the block,” and baby, she is not impressed. That got us thinking: would you ever take an ex back? Carla’s a maybe, but for me? All mine are married now, so it’s a strong no. We also asked: when does your history with an ex stop mattering? Like, is there a cut-off date for emotional baggage? Then we dove headfirst into the mess: reproductive rights. We touched on a few current cases, and let’s just say… it got real. Carla swears she’s not conservative, but sis said “broke people shouldn’t have babies”. Meanwhile, I’m over here volunteering to drive a woman to her 10th one. So yeah—maybe we need to unpack some things too. We also talked about the tragic story out of Georgia, where a brain-dead woman is being kept on life support so her baby can survive. Just… heavy. And before we wrapped, we went deep: should people with genetic disorders have children, knowing there’s a chance their kids will inherit those same challenges? No easy answers, but definitely a conversation worth having. So yeah—this episode is full of debates, some side-eyes, and a lot of heart. We wanna see y’all IRL. We’re planning some in-person events, just for the ladies. Click the link and let’s get out the group chat. Love y’all! – Dex 💜 CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 31: What She Wore vs. What He Did: The Real Issue
05/26/2025
EP 31: What She Wore vs. What He Did: The Real Issue
Friend, this week was juicy and necessary. First off, I gave y’all some homework—yes, homework. Go listen to Atomic Habits and please, if you're struggling with your mental health, talk to a therapist. We love healing over here. Dex gave us all the feels with her recap of her Cowboy Carter trip with her daughter—bonding, Beyoncé, boots and Black girl joy. In our Womanhood segment, we had to touch on B. Simone getting dragged again. This time it’s ‘cause she wore coochie cutters in church. The internet lost its mind. But let’s be real—why is she catching heat when she’s bringing people to Christ in her own way? Stop being hypocrites. Then we had to unpack all this DV mess in the news—Diddy, DDG, Tory Lanez... it’s nonstop. The way some men are reacting, like there's a war on them, is wild. There's a real lack of understanding around what abuse even is. Dex and I both asked the real question: why are so many men still blaming women instead of addressing their own violence? In our Motherhood segment, whew chile—Teyana Taylor and Iman Shumpert’s divorce drama got messy. Iman reported her for violating their agreement, and now she might face jail time... even though she let him slide when he did the same thing. Petty much? Oh—and before I forget, we wanna see y’all IRL. We’re planning some in-person events, just for the ladies. Click the link and let’s get out the group chat. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 30: Babies on Board, Husbands at Risk & $5K Ain’t It
05/19/2025
EP 30: Babies on Board, Husbands at Risk & $5K Ain’t It
Friend… this episode was pure chaos—in the best way. We started off with Porsha from Real Housewives of Atlantathreatening to sleep with a castmate’s husband after an argument. Yes, the same Porsha who already married her ex-friend’s man. The audacity is clearly on clearance and she bought the whole rack. Me and Carla had to break that all the way down, because girl… what are you even doing? Then we shifted gears to Amina Butterfly and her daughter straight-up refusing to go to school. No bullying, no issues—just vibes. The internet had opinions: some dragging Amina’s parenting, others offering support. Of course, we had to weigh in. Next up, Trump is out here trying to boost the birth rate with a one-time $5K baby bonus. And baby… $5K?! That’s not even covering formula and wipes. These are crackhead prices. And to wrap it up, B. Simone went online after sitting through a flight next to a tantrum-throwing baby. Carla thinks parents need to keep their kids in check mid-air. I say, give folks grace—babies gon’ baby. It’s a ride from start to finish. Press play and let us know… so what now? CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 29: Serving Hottie Sauce, Auntie Vibes & Labor Glam
05/12/2025
EP 29: Serving Hottie Sauce, Auntie Vibes & Labor Glam
Hey friend, it’s me, Carla! 💋 This week on So What Now, we’re giving flowers (and maybe some biscuits) to our Woman of the Week—Megan Thee Stallion—for opening her own Popeyes franchise and dropping that delicious “Hottie Sauce”! I LIVE for a business-savvy baddie, okay?! 💅🔥 Now, let’s talk “auntie”... because Dex is still not over it. We get into what it really means when people start calling you that—respect, shade, or both? After some laughs (and a little dragging), Dex might be warming up to the title—as long as nobody expects her to be a role model, LOL. We also get real about motherhood. Jazzy’s holding it down solo (yes, I know she’s with Cam—but still, I said what I said 👀). We talk about losing your spark, shifting identity, and how so many mamas are running on empty with no village in sight. And baby, don’t get me started on getting your makeup done for labor! Is it a power move or just for the 'Gram? Either way, do you, boo. We wrap things up with a spicy take on the celeb “C-tuck” trend—because this snapback pressure? It’s not giving realistic. It's a juicy one—funny, honest, and full of those “so what now?” moments. Press play! 🎙️✨ CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 28: Birthday Blues & Ride-or-Die Red Flags
05/05/2025
EP 28: Birthday Blues & Ride-or-Die Red Flags
Hey y’all, it’s Carla! My birthday’s coming up, and let’s just say I’ve been in my feelings. In this episode I shared how I’ve been mourning parts of my younger self and wishing I could go back and change a few things. Dex reminded me that aging isn’t just loss — it’s also growth and new beginnings, and honestly, I needed to hear that. We also unpacked a wild episode of Dear Future Wifey where a pastor’s wife said she used to iron her man’s clothes so he could go see his side chick. Yes, you read that right. She said it was her calling from God to support him — and while I respect her story, I had to come through with scripture because God did not call us to suffer through infidelity or abuse. Dex and I got into how the church sometimes pushes a “ride or die” message for women, and it’s not always holy — sometimes it’s just harmful. Then we talked about the price of love — literally. A woman spent $10K on a dating coach and is now engaged. Dex thinks finding your person is priceless, but what do yall think? We close with a heavy listener letter from someone stuck in a relationship that’s emotionally draining and rooted in fear, not love. The message? Guilt isn't a reason to stay, and sometimes choosing yourself is the most loving thing you can do. Real talk, spiritual checks, and birthday fears — this episode has it all. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 27: Did We Self-Love Ourselves Into Loneliness?
04/28/2025
EP 27: Did We Self-Love Ourselves Into Loneliness?
Hey friend, it’s Dex, and we’re back with another episode of So What Now? — where the convos are deep, the laughs are loud, and the side-eyes are always earned. This week, we kicked things off with a little life catch-up. I ran a Hyrox race (yes, me — running, sweating, questioning my life choices), while Carla was out here being the hostess with the mostess for Easter. Deviled eggs were served, auntie gossip was flowing — it was fabulous. Then we got into that trending Traci Ellis Ross interview. Traci said, “I grieve the things that I thought would be and that are not.” No husband. No kids. And sometimes, sadness about that. So Carla asked the big question: Did we self-love ourselves into loneliness? She feels a woman needs male partnership. I said… let’s pause. Alone doesn’t have to mean lonely. And then I hit her with the real one: How exactly would a romantic relationship improve your life, ma’am? What do you need more than me? Let’s talk about it. After that emotional rollercoaster, we had to pivot to something wild — the whole Shannon Sharpe situation. And listen… we are not as freaky as we thought we were. Period. We’re watching it all unfold, and it’s a ride we did not ask to be on. Then we wrapped with a few listener letters from a mama who’s at her wits’ end with her grown daughter who refuses to follow the rules. To besties battling over a man, ew! Tune in, tap in, and DM us your thoughts — because chile, we had thoughts. Let’s get into it. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Hi Hello Labs and . Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → → and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.
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EP 26: The Truth About 50/50 Love and Trauma Bonds
04/21/2025
EP 26: The Truth About 50/50 Love and Trauma Bonds
Hey friends, it’s Carla and this week’s episode of So What Now was a whole mix of “wait, what?” and “absolutely not.” We kicked things off with Ayesha Howard, who recently responded to the backlash around her decision to keep her baby. And listen… her response didn’t move me. At all. I said what I said, and I still feel the same way. Then we got into this Florida city trying to roll out a 4-day school week, which sounds cool until you realize... parents still work 5. So who’s watching the kids on that fifth day? Make it make sense. Policies like this just make parenting even harder, and we had a lot to say about it. Of course, we couldn’t resist a little detour into celebrity mess this time it’s the Beckhams. Apparently the two brothers aren’t speaking because the younger one is now dating his big brother’s ex. Yes, you read that right. We unpacked that drama and asked the real question: Is it ever okay to date your sibling’s ex? (Spoiler: I have strong opinions) And then we got a little deeper. Gabrielle Union recently walked back her old stance on 50/50 relationships, saying it came from a place of trauma. That opened the door for us to dig into the 4 trauma response types Fight, Flight, Freeze, and Fawn. Which one are you? Are you a mix? Dex and I broke it all down and, let’s just say, we learned a lot about ourselves in the process. As always, thanks for showing up, listening, and being part of this wild little podcast of ours. We’re grateful for y’all every week. – Carla CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Hi Hello Labs and . Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → → and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.
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EP 25: Dex Is a Liar & Carla’s in Denial — 25 Questions for 25 Episodes!
04/14/2025
EP 25: Dex Is a Liar & Carla’s in Denial — 25 Questions for 25 Episodes!
We made it to 25 episodes, y’all! Our little podcast baby is all grown up, and to celebrate, Carla and I decided to do something fun (and slightly chaotic): 25 questions to help you get to know us on a whole new level. No rules, barely any filters—just vibes, hot takes, and some lowkey oversharing. Carla went in on cancel culture, mental health, and the whole open relationship thing 👀. I opened up about monogamy, childhood stuff, and a few things I’ve been too scared to try (yet). It’s been a wild ride getting here, and whether you’ve been with us from day one or just hopped on—thank you. We see you, we love you, and trust—this is just the beginning. 🎧 Hit play, laugh with us, maybe even question everything you thought you knew about us. – Dex CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Hi Hello Labs and . Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → → and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.
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EP 24: The Parenting Debate "Do Kids Need Their Own Room?" + Friendship Breakups? We Went There!
04/07/2025
EP 24: The Parenting Debate "Do Kids Need Their Own Room?" + Friendship Breakups? We Went There!
Hey Friend! Quick update: Carla’s allergies are finally under control, and I’m feeling better too—my back’s on the mend, so no more grandpa groans when I bend over. Small wins, y’all. Now, onto the episode. We dive into a topic that’s real for any of us with kids who split time between two homes—should children have their own bedroom at the non-custodial parent’s house? Carla, with her money grows on trees mentality, thinks it’s a must. Like, we all have the luxury of giving each kid their own room, right? But I’m out here saying, a kid can still feel welcome and loved without having their own space. The key is making them feel at home however you can. And then, we get into another tough letter from one of our listeners. Anonymous writer is feeling guilty but “over it” because she thinks she’s outgrown her drama-filled best friend. Now, Carla's over here like, “New besties are easy to find!” (So optimistic, huh?) Meanwhile, I think a real, honest conversation is the way to go before cutting ties. Don’t ghost your home girl—talk it out. That’s it for this week—tune in and let us know what you think. And if you’ve got any tough conversations you’re putting off, we definitely wanna hear about ‘em. Catch ya later, Dex CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Hi Hello Labs and . Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → → and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.
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EP 23: Ozempic Regrets, Disney Trips Without Kids, and Why Moms Can’t Win
03/31/2025
EP 23: Ozempic Regrets, Disney Trips Without Kids, and Why Moms Can’t Win
Hey Friend! First of all, let me just say Ozempic had me in a chokehold, and for what? We kicked off this episode talking about the shortcuts we’ve tried on the road to health and how most of them left us worse off than when we started. And yes, I fully admit I was out here thinking a shot would do what discipline and patience are supposed to. 😩 Meanwhile, Ruthie’s out here running half marathons like a champ, and our pastor had the nerve to call us out mid-sermon about our lifestyle choices. Rude but also accurate. Then we slid right into mom territory because whew, the judgment is loud. We’re talking solo Disney trips, “Should you be leaving your kids that long?” energy, and why people love to bring up your bank account the minute you do something for yourself. Let’s be clear, moms deserve joy too, even if that joy looks like Dole Whip and fireworks without sticky little fingers everywhere. And of course, it wouldn’t be us if we didn’t go there with social media. We unpacked the chaos of being vulnerable online, how people swear they know your whole life from one post, and why sometimes you just wanna keep your healing to yourself. If you’ve ever felt torn between sharing and protecting your peace, you’ll feel this one. Tap in and let us know, are you Team “Take the solo trip” or Team “Girl, stay home?” 👀 CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Hi Hello Labs and . Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → → and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.
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EP22: She Had the Baby Anyway—Was That a Mistake? Plus Too Old for Nudes, Too Grown for Bad Baby Daddies?
03/24/2025
EP22: She Had the Baby Anyway—Was That a Mistake? Plus Too Old for Nudes, Too Grown for Bad Baby Daddies?
First of all, we are old. Like, what is happening?! My allergies are out here fighting for their life, and Dex’s back is giving up on her. If y’all have any remedies for allergies that don’t involve me living in a bubble, let me know because I am struggling. But let’s get into it—this week, we had a very heated debate over Ayesha Howard and Anthony Howard. Listen, I just have questions—like, is it okay to still be making major mistakes at 38 when choosing who to have a baby with? Because at some point, shouldn’t we be making better decisions? Meanwhile, Dex is over here saying we’re all making assumptions about Ayesha’s situation, and she deserves more grace. And the big question—should a woman give up her baby just because the man makes it clear he doesn’t want to be involved? Whew. We got into it. Speaking of bad decisions at our big age, we took a little detour to talk about the Take It Down Act—which, yes, is being pushed by Melania Trump. It’s aimed at protecting people from revenge porn, but it had us asking—are grown people still sending nudes in 2025? Then we switch gears to 19-year-old Aleyshia Ortiz, who is out here suing her school district for graduating her without knowing how to read or write. WHO is to blame for this? The school system? Her parents? Dex is out here calling for George Bush’s standardized testing (who knew she’d miss that?!), and I—Carla—am putting this one on her mama.Because how do you not notice your child can’t read?! We need to hear from y’all! Should Ayesha have kept the baby? Are we too old to be sending nudes? And who do we blame for Aleyshia’s situation? Hit us up! Let’s talk about it. 👏🏽 CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP21: Casey Anthony the Advocate?! Girl, Be Serious
03/17/2025
EP21: Casey Anthony the Advocate?! Girl, Be Serious
Alright y’all, this week’s episode is a rollercoaster. First up, Carla has big feelings about Casey Anthony’s latest rebrand as a legal advocate. Yea, you read that right. And let’s just say, she has some thoughts. Then, we get into Gayle King going to space with Jeff Bezos’ wife. Carla thinks it’s cool. Me? Absolutely not. Why are rich people so obsessed with space? It’s not like you can actually get out and explore. Somebody make it make sense. And speaking of nonsense, Omarion is out here saying he doesn’t take women on dates—he takes them on gatherings. You know I’m rolling my eyes, right? Ugh! Carla thinks he’s giving off feminine energy. Either way, the dating bar is in hell, ladies. We wrapped things up with a listener letter from a woman who wants to date differently—she’s trying to slow things down but doesn’t want to scare men off. So, how do you unlearn rushing into relationships and actually get to know someone before jumping in? We get into it. Hit play, and let’s talk about it! 🎙️ CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Hi Hello Labs and . Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → → and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.
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EP20: Why You’re Always Tired, Craving Chocolate, Gaining Weight, and Coach Netra on PCOS
03/10/2025
EP20: Why You’re Always Tired, Craving Chocolate, Gaining Weight, and Coach Netra on PCOS
Ooooh, friend, buckle up ‘cause this episode is packed with Aha! moments and truths that'll hit you straight in the chest. We had our second-ever guest, the fabulous Coach Netra, a lifestyle and nutrition coach who’s all about women’s health. And you KNOW we had a ton of questions for her. Now, who remembers when we could hit the gym for just a week in our 20s and come out snatched? Yeah, baby… those days are long gone. I’m over here tryna figure out why I crave chocolate around my cycle, and Carla’s out here wondering if it’s okay to keep breaking her water fast with a 7-Eleven hotdog. Coach Netra breaks it all down for us. Self-care? Is no smooth ride, but honey, we gotta choose our hard. We also dove deep into the nitty-gritty about PCOS, hormones, and whether we’re lazy or just outta balance. We wrapped it up with a rapid-fire round of Fact or Cap, on some of the biggest diet and exercise trends. Trust me, you do NOT wanna miss that part. Hit play, listen up, and get your life together with us, girl! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Hi Hello Labs and . Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → → and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.
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EP19: Dex is Messy, Carla is Cutting People Off, & the Internet is Wild
03/03/2025
EP19: Dex is Messy, Carla is Cutting People Off, & the Internet is Wild
Hey Friend! Its me, ! Whew, this episode was a ride! is officially a Cowboy Carter ticket holder (Beyhive, stand up!), and I’ve been auditing my top five closest people—we’ll see who makes it and who’s getting cut real quick. Our Woman of the Week is the one and only Joy Reid—because duh, she’s amazing and I really want her to win. And shameless plug, I’d LOVE to work with her!!! Meanwhile, Dex, who was supposed to be focused on creating this episodes outline, went down a whole Neyo rabbit hole (thank you, Shaderoom), and now we’re deep-diving into polyamory, parenting, and when to introduce your kids to a new partner—especially in non-traditional relationships. Let’s just say, opinions were flying. And THEN, we got into a listener letter from "Caught Up in the DM"—sis has been flirting in the Instagram DMs for months, but instead of a date, she got a sexting buddy. Should she shoot her shot, or is this man just here for the content? You already know we had thoughts on this one. Hit play and let’s get into it! 🎧🔥 CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 18: Is Gentle Parenting Making Our Kids Soft? and Would You End a 20-Year Friendship Over a Man?
02/24/2025
EP 18: Is Gentle Parenting Making Our Kids Soft? and Would You End a 20-Year Friendship Over a Man?
In this episode of So What Now, hosts and dive into a thought-provoking discussion on parenting. They explore whether "gentle parenting" methods are truly benefiting children or inadvertently preventing them from learning valuable life lessons. Reflecting on their own upbringings, they share how their experiences with discipline and independence shaped their views. The conversation shifts gears as they unpack the evolution of "girl code." Carla and Dex examine whether the rules of girl code change as we get older. Would you end a 20 year friendship over a man? The fun escalates as they play a rapid-fire round of girl code questions, bringing plenty of laughs and hilarious moments. Tune in for an insightful, yet light-hearted, look at modern parenting and friendship dynamics! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIKTOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US: Rate, Review & Follow UsIf you laughed, felt seen, or screamed "same," take 30 seconds to rate and review the show. ⭐ Scroll to the bottom of our Apple Podcasts page ⭐ Tap to rate 5 stars ⭐ Hit “Write a Review” and tell us what you loved most Your support keeps this going—and we read every word. Our Sponsors This episode is powered by our partners at Hi Hello Labs and . Looking to level up your podcast or bring your show to life? These are the teams making it happen. Ready to Start Your Podcast? Let Carla help you launch your podcast in just 30 days. → → and get personal strategy support Need Advice? Want to Sound Off? Send your questions, hot takes, or real-life mess to: 📧 We might read your letter on the next episode—anonymously, of course.
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EP 17: Red Flags & Maternal Regret: Are We the Problem?
02/17/2025
EP 17: Red Flags & Maternal Regret: Are We the Problem?
In this episode and dive into the controversial topic of maternal regret. Some women openly admit to regretting having children—are they just being brutally honest, or is this a sign of deeper societal pressure? Carla and Dex unpack the complex feelings surrounding motherhood and why it’s such a triggering subject. Shifting gears, Carla and Dex tackle the question: Are women actually the problem in relationships? The conversation takes a hilarious turn when they play a green and red flag game to figure out if they’re toxic. Spoiler alert: Dex discovers she might just be a walking red flag—who knew? Tune in for laughs, real talk, and some surprising self-revelations about women, relationships, and motherhood. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 16: Ex-posed: When Outing Your Ex Goes Too Far & Unpacking Love Themes in Classic Black Cinema
02/10/2025
EP 16: Ex-posed: When Outing Your Ex Goes Too Far & Unpacking Love Themes in Classic Black Cinema
In this week’s episode of So What Now, and dive into the tricky topic of whether it’s ever okay to air intimate details of past relationships, discussing the drama surrounding Royce Reed and Dwight Howard’s public feud. The love theme continues with a deep dive into iconic black love stories from classic films. Carla and Dex go head-to-head over Love and Basketball. While Carla believes it’s one of the greatest love stories, Dex argues that Monica might’ve “settled” for her man. The conversation also touches on other beloved films like Poetic Justice and Boomerang, exploring the highs and lows of love and the lessons we take from them. To wrap things up, they bring some much-needed levity with a feel-good of the week: Reality TV. In a world full of stress, there’s nothing like escaping into the absurd drama of the rich and famous. From ridiculous fights to jaw-dropping moments, we are reminded to laugh at the unseriousness of it all. Tune in for laughs, heated debates, and of course, a little dose of reality! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 15: Roses Are Red, Kirk’s Lies Never End, Cleo Had Drama, Here’s A Playlist We Recommend
02/03/2025
EP 15: Roses Are Red, Kirk’s Lies Never End, Cleo Had Drama, Here’s A Playlist We Recommend
It’s officially the month of LOVE, and in this episode and dive into some most infamous love stories—from the drama-filled relationship of Kirk and Rasheda to Cleopatra and Marc Anthony’s empire-shattering romance. They explore what happens when love becomes larger than life and, in some cases, leads to downfall. But it’s not all about toxic love flames! With Valentine’s Day approaching, the duo discusses how to romanticize your own life, especially when it feels like everyone else is celebrating a relationship. Carla and Dex share why it’s important to cultivate your own sense of joy, adventure, and self-love, and not wait for a partner to check off those life experiences. Plus, to set the mood for the season, they’ve curated a special Valentine’s Day playlist. Each of them shares 5 songs that best capture the essence of love and relationships. Whether you're single or taken, these tracks will have you feeling all the love! Tune in for a mix of history, self-love advice, and some seriously good tunes. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP14: Hookah, Hookups, and Hopes for Something More
01/27/2025
EP14: Hookah, Hookups, and Hopes for Something More
In this episode and dive deep into the evolving landscape of modern relationships and what it really means to partner up in today’s world. They unpack the idea of non-traditional relationships, questioning whether the paths they once thought they wanted are actually the ones that align with their true desires. Is Sheryl Lee Ralph’s unconventional situation with her husband a model of modern love, or is it just plain weird? Dex reveals her unique perspective on love and relationships. Meanwhile, Carla shares an update on her 2025 commitment to get back into the dating scene, from China to the Bahamas, is it all the same? Is modern dating as exciting or are we all just going through the motions? Tune in for a candid, funny, and thought-provoking discussion about what we really want out of our relationships, and whether what’s traditional is still the best option. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP13: Beyoncé Cancels, Carla Confesses, and LA’s Crisis
01/20/2025
EP13: Beyoncé Cancels, Carla Confesses, and LA’s Crisis
In this week’s episode and to catch you up on all the current events. We kick things off with Beyoncé’s surprising move to cancel her highly anticipated announcement, leaving fans buzzing. Plus, we reflect on recent actions from political leaders and the messages they’re sending. The conversation heats up as we discuss the devastating LA fires and how natural disasters continue to disproportionately impact marginalized communities. Carla makes a surprising confession about her recycling habits (or lack thereof), sparking a meaningful discussion on environmental responsibility. And finally, the ultimate question: is it ever appropriate to call your ex-wife "the baby momma"? Tune in for laughter, honest takes, and a little self-reflection as we tackle life’s messy and meaningful moments. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP12: What is Closure??
01/13/2025
EP12: What is Closure??
While Carla takes some time to recover from the flu, we’re rewinding to one of your favorite episodes from the Sh*t I’m 30 archive! This week, Carla and Dexty dive into the drama-filled world of relationships, tackling breakups, makeups, baby mamas, and the ever-controversial topic of break babies. It’s raw, it’s real, and it’s packed with the laughs. Don’t miss this trip down memory lane! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP11: Libido Low, Vibrator on High: Moms Need Lovin Too!
01/06/2025
EP11: Libido Low, Vibrator on High: Moms Need Lovin Too!
This week we’re diving headfirst into the spicy (and hilariously awkward) world of sex in your 30s and 40s! From scheduling "sexy time" to uncovering why your libido might be MIA (spoiler: social media could be to blame), we’re spilling all the tea. And if that’s not enough, and are bringing wild, laugh-out-loud stories that’ll leave you cringing, cackling, and maybe feeling a touch of secondhand embarrassment! 🚨 Disclaimer: This episode is NOT kid-friendly. Unless you want to explain what a sex dungeon is or why vibrators shouldn’t double as microphones, listen solo! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP10: Goodbye 2024: We Came, We Saw, We Hit Record
12/30/2024
EP10: Goodbye 2024: We Came, We Saw, We Hit Record
Disclaimer- Beyonce Bowl discussion ends at 20:57 In this episode of So What Now, and reflect on everything 2024 threw their way—spoiler alert: it wasn’t all vacations and TikTok dances. Dex admits that fear of losing stability had her out here playing it way too safe. Carla drops gems about showing up as your real self (even when your real self is tired) and the financial discipline it takes to buy a house without letting your Pinterest boards dictate your budget. But it wasn’t all wins—Dex opens up about how 2024 almost broke her, revealing she discovered she was "depreshee" (yes, that’s a thing), and finally got herself into therapy. Meanwhile, Carla's reflecting on how hard it can be to balance the hustle with mental health and personal growth. The hosts also take a look back at their 2024 vision boards—and let’s just say, some dreams didn’t make it off the board, but some did. They also dish on the biggest pop culture moments—Drake vs. Kendrick, TikTok influencers like Ressa Tessa and Morgan Bailey blowing up, the chaos of the U.S. election, and, of course, Beyoncé! Tune in for laughs, lessons, and plenty of hot takes as Carla and Dex close out the year with a dose of reality and a sneak peek at what’s coming next. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS A difficult year can still be a good year. Our biggest blessings come from our toughest lessons. Don't let fake stability hold you back. Act out of wisdom not out of fear. You deserve to show up as your authentic self in all spaces. Live boldly CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP9: Parenting Without Help: Defiant Teens, Deadbeat Dads, and the Fight for Control
12/23/2024
EP9: Parenting Without Help: Defiant Teens, Deadbeat Dads, and the Fight for Control
This week , are joined by . The group dives into the complex world of parenting teens. As kids grow older, parenting styles and relationships need to shift, and the group explores how they are navigating these changes. Carla talks about her struggle with managing expectations, while Ariel reflects on the challenge of losing control as her children begin making their own decisions. The conversation touches on what happens when older kids break the rules, with Dex sharing her own experience of poor decision-making due to a lack of open communication with her parents. Carla and Ariel also reveal how their teens are turning to platforms like TikTok to express themselves when direct conversation feels too difficult. The trio also revisits the story of Amora Lex, the 27-year-old single mother who recently gave up her five children to CPS. The group reflects on the harsh social media backlash she's received, particularly the blaming comments about her choices in men. This leads to a broader discussion on absentee parents, red flags when dating men who aren't involved in their children's lives, and the importance of building strong, supportive communities for women. Tune in for an insightful episode filled with real talk on motherhood, judgment, and how we can support one another. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Parenting Teens Requires Letting Go of Control: As children grow older, parents must adjust their approach. It's important to allow teens to make their own decisions—even when it’s hard. Disobedience Isn’t Personal: Conflicts with teens often stem from a desire for control. Parents may take disobedience personally, but it's important to remember that teens are not thinking about how their actions affect their parents—they’re navigating their own path to independence. The Stigma of Single Motherhood: The story of Amora Lex, who gave up her children to CPS, sparked harsh judgment online. The group discusses the need for compassion, understanding, and support for mothers, particularly those raising children without strong family or community support. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 8: The Real Cost of Influencing: Plastic Surgery & Keeping up with the Joneses
12/16/2024
EP 8: The Real Cost of Influencing: Plastic Surgery & Keeping up with the Joneses
On this week’s episode and are diving into everything from aerial yoga (spoiler: they're not as flexible as they thought) to the real costs of being an influencer. First up, the ladies share their thoughts on Halle Berry’s latest venture—an intimacy gel for menopausal women—and celebrate her mix of business smarts and vulnerability. Then, things get juicy in the Motherhood segment with a discussion on influencer culture, including the bizarre case of Influencer Marlena Velez, who got arrested for stealing from Target. The duo debates what crime they’d commit (just for fun, promise) and why it’s important to step away from the digital world to reconnect with reality. Plus, a deep dive into body image issues—why Raven-Symoné’s decision to undergo surgery at just 15 raises some serious questions, and how we should approach celebrities’ physical transformations. Carla shares her own story of buying fake hips, while Dex gets real about butt implants. To wrap up, Dex offers a fun self-awareness assessment that might just change your perspective. Tune in for laughs, honest conversations, and a few lessons along the way! SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Social Media Isn't Real: The pressure to "keep up with the Joneses" on social media often leads to unsustainable behaviors. It's important to remember that what you see online doesn't always reflect reality, and prioritizing authenticity over perfection is healthier for your mental well-being. The Influence of Social Media on Risky Behavior: The rise of influencer culture can pressure people into unrealistic lifestyles. From body image issues to misrepresenting your life online, these behaviors are often driven by insecurity and the desire to match a curated online persona. Take a Digital Detox for Mental Clarity: Constantly consuming social media can cloud your self-perception. Taking breaks from your phone and stepping back into real life can help you reconnect with your true values, reflect on your goals, and prioritize your mental health. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 7: Holiday Drama, Traditions, and Boundaries: Surviving Toxicity During the Holidays
12/09/2024
EP 7: Holiday Drama, Traditions, and Boundaries: Surviving Toxicity During the Holidays
This week and dive into the chaos and comedy of navigating toxic family traditions during the holidays. From Carla’s journey of estrangement and her search for new holiday magic with friends to Dex’s big family and the pressure to make everything “perfect,” they share hilarious and heartfelt insights on surviving family dysfunction. Carla reflects on the bittersweet loss of old traditions while creating new ones, and Dex opens up about her childhood trauma (cue the villain origin story—spoiler: it’s all about that Barbie Dream House). The duo also tackles how to deal with negative family members and offers tips on carving out your own healthy, joyful holiday traditions. Tune in for humor, honesty, and some solid advice that might just help you survive this holiday season with your sanity—and maybe a little magic—intact. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Create Your Own Traditions: Whether you're estranged from family or just tired of the same old drama, it's okay to let go of toxic traditions and create new ones that bring you joy—whether that’s with friends, chosen family, or just on your own. You deserve a holiday that feels good to you. Set Boundaries with Toxic Family Members: The holidays don't have to mean enduring negativity from relatives. Learn how to politely (but firmly) set boundaries with family members who bring drama, and how to protect your mental health without feeling guilty. Make Holiday Magic for You: It's easy to get caught up in the pressure to create the "perfect" holiday for others, especially when you have a big family. Take a page from Dex’s playbook and find small, healthy traditions that keep the holiday spirit alive for you—and leave the stress behind. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 6: Burnout Diaries: Navigating Motherhood and Rediscovering Joy
12/02/2024
EP 6: Burnout Diaries: Navigating Motherhood and Rediscovering Joy
In this lively episode of The So What Now Podcast, Carla and Dex tackle everything from neighborhood drama to the emotional rollercoaster of motherhood. Carla shares her escalating battle with the local "cat lady," sparking a hilarious yet relatable discussion about boundaries and suburban chaos. Meanwhile, the duo dives into mom guilt—whether it’s Carla juggling life with a toddler and a grown daughter or Dex navigating communication in a long distance relationship with her daughter. With raw honesty and a touch of humor, the hosts reflect on burnout, personal growth, and finding unexpected joys (like crafting and ginger beer). It’s a heartwarming reminder that life’s challenges may leave us wondering, “So what now?”—but with the right mindset, a good laugh, and maybe a glue gun, we’ll get through it together. 4 Key Takeaways from This Episode: 💡 Mom Guilt is Real (and Never Ends): Carla and Dex open up about their personal experiences with mom guilt, whether it’s raising a toddler or navigating life as an empty nester, and how they’re learning to let go of unrealistic expectations. 🔥 Burnout Isn’t Just Work-Related: Dex shares her journey of uncovering the deeper layers of life burnout while Carla offers insights on creating boundaries and finding joy amidst chaos. 🌱 Parenting Evolves, So Should We: From toddler meltdowns to adult children’s independence, the duo reflects on how their parenting styles have changed and how they’re redefining what it means to be a “good mom.” 🎉 Finding Joy in the Small Things: Whether it’s crafting, cooking, or just sipping ginger beer, Carla and Dex discuss how leaning into simple joys helps them recharge and stay grounded. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 5: It’s Giving Thanks: Gratitude, Ambition & the "Miracle Baby"
11/25/2024
EP 5: It’s Giving Thanks: Gratitude, Ambition & the "Miracle Baby"
This Thanksgiving episode is all about reflecting on what we're thankful for, finding balance with gratitude and ambition and also Miracle babies. and kick things off by honoring Jenna as Woman of the Week. In the Motherhood segment,we’re diving into the controversial tale of a miracle baby conceived by two Miami Dade inmates who passed semen through a vent. Should they face additional charges? Listen in for the full discussion! In the Womanhood segment, we talk about being thankful for the small moments, the lessons, and the people in our lives—even if we don’t always follow traditional holiday norms. We explore how gratitude plays into both parenting and personal growth— Do our kids owe us gratitude? Dex also opens up about her struggle to balance gratitude with ambition. Can you be grateful for what you have and desire to strive for more? And how do we navigate the negative self-talk that holds us back from our own potential. Plus, Carla shares a feel-good moment of the week: her skydiving adventure! Tune in for laughs, reflections, and some much-needed reminders that we’re all on a journey, and it’s okay to hold space for both gratitude and ambition. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Remember: You don't have to partake in holiday activities you don’t want to—and that's okay! Our children learn gratitude by seeing us model this behavior. Be thankful for the journey and enjoy it along the way. From an early age, we’re often taught to be grateful. While these lessons were well-meaning,the lessons can sometimes make us feel like it’s wrong to experience negative emotions when we have so much to be thankful for. If this resonates with you, you're not alone. Over time, we can internalize beliefs that limit our emotional range. Reframing our understanding of gratitude to focus on our skills or attributes rather than the external objects can allow space for complex feelings. You’ve earned and/or deserve all the good things in your life. Don’t let people with limiting beliefs or negative self talk stop you from going after what you truly desire. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 4: Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids & The Power of Saying No
11/18/2024
EP 4: Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids & The Power of Saying No
In this episode Carla and Dex discuss raising emotionally intelligent children—what it really takes to help kids develop self-awareness, empathy, and strong communication skills. We dive into the tools and practices for fostering emotional intelligence. How do we know if we’re doing it right? We’ll explore how EQ impacts behavior and relationships, and why it’s essential for kids’ long-term success. Next, we switch gears to talk about the power of saying no. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries—whether in relationships, work, or personal life. Carla shares her journey from employee to boss and how setting boundaries has changed her life, while Dex talks about her struggle to set boundaries with herself, especially when it comes to work. We’ll explore how learning to say no confidently can protect our time and well-being. It’s an honest conversation about parenting, personal growth, and taking control of your life. Tune in! SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS The Power of Boundaries: Setting boundaries is essential in friendships, work,and family relationships to maintain mental well-being and respect. Emotional Intelligence in Parenting: Carla and Dex discuss the value of teachingchildren emotional intelligence by modeling self-awareness, empathy, and self-regulation. Self-Care as a Boundary: Dex shares her struggle with setting work boundariesfor herself, reminding listeners that self-care is a crucial form of respect. Learning and Growth through Therapy: The hosts explore the importance oftherapy, especially tools like the “feelings wheel,” to identify and process emotions moreeffectively. Navigating Friendships with Honesty**: They reflect on a challenging time in theirfriendship, showing that sometimes setting tough boundaries can ultimately strengthenrelationships CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 3: Still Processing Rejection
11/13/2024
EP 3: Still Processing Rejection
In this episode, Carla and Dex share their raw reactions to the 2024 Presidential election. With no outline or segments, it’s a heartfelt, off-the-cuff conversation as they process the results and how they’re personally navigating the aftermath. From coping with the outcome to confronting the challenges of moving forward in a divided world, this episode is a rollercoaster of feelings and reflections. Tune in for a real and honest discussion, as Carla and Dex work through it all—together. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Election Shock and Disappointment: The hosts express disappointmentover Trump’s re-election, with surprise that his controversial policiesand divisive rhetoric did not prevent his victory. They voice concernabout the country’s future and the social divides it highlights. Representation Matters: One host discusses the emotional impact ofseeing Kamala Harris, a woman of color, in a leadership position, whichgave her a sense of visibility and pride. However, there is alsofrustration that gender and racial biases may have hindered Harris’ssupport. Frustration with Social Media and Misinformation: The hosts criticizehow misinformation spread on social media influenced people'sopinions, especially around topics like abortion, LGBTQ rights, andhealthcare. Importance of Local Politics: Beyond the presidential election, the hostsemphasize the significance of local issues, such as marijuanalegalization and education funding, urging listeners to remainpolitically active and informed at all levels of government. Self-Care and Emotional Processing: In coping with the electionoutcome, the hosts discuss the importance of processing feelings in asupportive environment rather than engaging in social media debates,aiming to foster resilience and stay involved in the political processdespite setbacks. Role of Women and Bias: There is a shared feeling of rejection amongthe hosts, particularly regarding gender bias in leadership. They notethe resistance against women, especially women of color, holdingpowerful roles, which feels like a societal setback. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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