So What Now? with Carla and Dex
Get ready for laughs, life lessons, and all the vibes! Hosted by best friends Carla and Dex, So What Now? dives into the messy, magical, and maddening moments of motherhood, womanhood, and everything in between. With Carla juggling entrepreneurship and new motherhood, and Dex stepping into life as a new empty nester with her quick wit and real talk, this podcast is your go-to for fresh takes on life’s biggest (and smallest) moments. Tune in for raw conversations, endless laughs, and a reminder that none of us really have it all figured out—but that’s half the fun! CONNECT WITH US: www.SoWhatNowPod.com
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EP20: Sis, We’re Not 25 Anymore—The Nutrition and Health Wake-Up Call
03/10/2025
EP20: Sis, We’re Not 25 Anymore—The Nutrition and Health Wake-Up Call
Ooooh, friend, buckle up ‘cause this episode is packed with Aha! moments and truths that'll hit you straight in the chest. We had our second-ever guest, the fabulous Coach Netra, a lifestyle and nutrition coach who’s all about women’s health. And you KNOW we had a ton of questions for her. Now, who remembers when we could hit the gym for just a week in our 20s and come out snatched? Yeah, baby… those days are long gone. I’m over here tryna figure out why I crave chocolate around my cycle, and Carla’s out here wondering if it’s okay to keep breaking her water fast with a 7-Eleven hotdog. Coach Netra breaks it all down for us. Self-care? Is no smooth ride, but honey, we gotta choose our hard. We also dove deep into the nitty-gritty about PCOS, hormones, and whether we’re lazy or just outta balance. We wrapped it up with a rapid-fire round of Fact or Cap, on some of the biggest diet and exercise trends. Trust me, you do NOT wanna miss that part. Hit play, listen up, and get your life together with us, girl! CONNECT WITH Coach Netra CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP19: Dex is Messy, Carla is Cutting People Off, & the Internet is Wild
03/03/2025
EP19: Dex is Messy, Carla is Cutting People Off, & the Internet is Wild
Hey Friend! Its me, ! Whew, this episode was a ride! is officially a Cowboy Carter ticket holder (Beyhive, stand up!), and I’ve been auditing my top five closest people—we’ll see who makes it and who’s getting cut real quick. Our Woman of the Week is the one and only Joy Reid—because duh, she’s amazing and I really want her to win. And shameless plug, I’d LOVE to work with her!!! Meanwhile, Dex, who was supposed to be focused on creating this episodes outline, went down a whole Neyo rabbit hole (thank you, Shaderoom), and now we’re deep-diving into polyamory, parenting, and when to introduce your kids to a new partner—especially in non-traditional relationships. Let’s just say, opinions were flying. And THEN, we got into a listener letter from "Caught Up in the DM"—sis has been flirting in the Instagram DMs for months, but instead of a date, she got a sexting buddy. Should she shoot her shot, or is this man just here for the content? You already know we had thoughts on this one. Hit play and let’s get into it! 🎧🔥 CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP18: From Girl Code to Grown Code: Does Friendship Etiquette Change As We Get Older?
02/24/2025
EP18: From Girl Code to Grown Code: Does Friendship Etiquette Change As We Get Older?
In this episode of So What Now, hosts and dive into a thought-provoking discussion on parenting. They explore whether "gentle parenting" methods are truly benefiting children or inadvertently preventing them from learning valuable life lessons. Reflecting on their own upbringings, they share how their experiences with discipline and independence shaped their views. The conversation shifts gears as they unpack the evolution of "girl code." Carla and Dex examine whether the rules of girl code change as we get older. Would you end a 20 year friendship over a man? The fun escalates as they play a rapid-fire round of girl code questions, bringing plenty of laughs and hilarious moments. Tune in for an insightful, yet light-hearted, look at modern parenting and friendship dynamics! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 17: Red Flags & Maternal Regret: Are We the Problem?
02/17/2025
EP 17: Red Flags & Maternal Regret: Are We the Problem?
In this episode and dive into the controversial topic of maternal regret. Some women openly admit to regretting having children—are they just being brutally honest, or is this a sign of deeper societal pressure? Carla and Dex unpack the complex feelings surrounding motherhood and why it’s such a triggering subject. Shifting gears, Carla and Dex tackle the question: Are women actually the problem in relationships? The conversation takes a hilarious turn when they play a green and red flag game to figure out if they’re toxic. Spoiler alert: Dex discovers she might just be a walking red flag—who knew? Tune in for laughs, real talk, and some surprising self-revelations about women, relationships, and motherhood. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 16: Ex-posed: When Outing Your Ex Goes Too Far & Unpacking Love Themes in Classic Black Cinema
02/10/2025
EP 16: Ex-posed: When Outing Your Ex Goes Too Far & Unpacking Love Themes in Classic Black Cinema
In this week’s episode of So What Now, and dive into the tricky topic of whether it’s ever okay to air intimate details of past relationships, discussing the drama surrounding Royce Reed and Dwight Howard’s public feud. The love theme continues with a deep dive into iconic black love stories from classic films. Carla and Dex go head-to-head over Love and Basketball. While Carla believes it’s one of the greatest love stories, Dex argues that Monica might’ve “settled” for her man. The conversation also touches on other beloved films like Poetic Justice and Boomerang, exploring the highs and lows of love and the lessons we take from them. To wrap things up, they bring some much-needed levity with a feel-good of the week: Reality TV. In a world full of stress, there’s nothing like escaping into the absurd drama of the rich and famous. From ridiculous fights to jaw-dropping moments, we are reminded to laugh at the unseriousness of it all. Tune in for laughs, heated debates, and of course, a little dose of reality! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 15: Roses Are Red, Kirk’s Lies Never End, Cleo Had Drama, Here’s A Playlist We Recommend
02/03/2025
EP 15: Roses Are Red, Kirk’s Lies Never End, Cleo Had Drama, Here’s A Playlist We Recommend
It’s officially the month of LOVE, and in this episode and dive into some most infamous love stories—from the drama-filled relationship of Kirk and Rasheda to Cleopatra and Marc Anthony’s empire-shattering romance. They explore what happens when love becomes larger than life and, in some cases, leads to downfall. But it’s not all about toxic love flames! With Valentine’s Day approaching, the duo discusses how to romanticize your own life, especially when it feels like everyone else is celebrating a relationship. Carla and Dex share why it’s important to cultivate your own sense of joy, adventure, and self-love, and not wait for a partner to check off those life experiences. Plus, to set the mood for the season, they’ve curated a special Valentine’s Day playlist. Each of them shares 5 songs that best capture the essence of love and relationships. Whether you're single or taken, these tracks will have you feeling all the love! Tune in for a mix of history, self-love advice, and some seriously good tunes. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP14: Hookah, Hookups, and Hopes for Something More
01/27/2025
EP14: Hookah, Hookups, and Hopes for Something More
In this episode and dive deep into the evolving landscape of modern relationships and what it really means to partner up in today’s world. They unpack the idea of non-traditional relationships, questioning whether the paths they once thought they wanted are actually the ones that align with their true desires. Is Sheryl Lee Ralph’s unconventional situation with her husband a model of modern love, or is it just plain weird? Dex reveals her unique perspective on love and relationships. Meanwhile, Carla shares an update on her 2025 commitment to get back into the dating scene, from China to the Bahamas, is it all the same? Is modern dating as exciting or are we all just going through the motions? Tune in for a candid, funny, and thought-provoking discussion about what we really want out of our relationships, and whether what’s traditional is still the best option. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP13: Beyoncé Cancels, Carla Confesses, and LA’s Crisis
01/20/2025
EP13: Beyoncé Cancels, Carla Confesses, and LA’s Crisis
In this week’s episode and to catch you up on all the current events. We kick things off with Beyoncé’s surprising move to cancel her highly anticipated announcement, leaving fans buzzing. Plus, we reflect on recent actions from political leaders and the messages they’re sending. The conversation heats up as we discuss the devastating LA fires and how natural disasters continue to disproportionately impact marginalized communities. Carla makes a surprising confession about her recycling habits (or lack thereof), sparking a meaningful discussion on environmental responsibility. And finally, the ultimate question: is it ever appropriate to call your ex-wife "the baby momma"? Tune in for laughter, honest takes, and a little self-reflection as we tackle life’s messy and meaningful moments. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP12: What is Closure??
01/13/2025
EP12: What is Closure??
While Carla takes some time to recover from the flu, we’re rewinding to one of your favorite episodes from the Sh*t I’m 30 archive! This week, Carla and Dexty dive into the drama-filled world of relationships, tackling breakups, makeups, baby mamas, and the ever-controversial topic of break babies. It’s raw, it’s real, and it’s packed with the laughs. Don’t miss this trip down memory lane! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP11: Libido Low, Vibrator on High: Moms Need Lovin Too!
01/06/2025
EP11: Libido Low, Vibrator on High: Moms Need Lovin Too!
This week we’re diving headfirst into the spicy (and hilariously awkward) world of sex in your 30s and 40s! From scheduling "sexy time" to uncovering why your libido might be MIA (spoiler: social media could be to blame), we’re spilling all the tea. And if that’s not enough, and are bringing wild, laugh-out-loud stories that’ll leave you cringing, cackling, and maybe feeling a touch of secondhand embarrassment! 🚨 Disclaimer: This episode is NOT kid-friendly. Unless you want to explain what a sex dungeon is or why vibrators shouldn’t double as microphones, listen solo! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP10: Goodbye 2024: We Came, We Saw, We Hit Record
12/30/2024
EP10: Goodbye 2024: We Came, We Saw, We Hit Record
Disclaimer- Beyonce Bowl discussion ends at 20:57 In this episode of So What Now, and reflect on everything 2024 threw their way—spoiler alert: it wasn’t all vacations and TikTok dances. Dex admits that fear of losing stability had her out here playing it way too safe. Carla drops gems about showing up as your real self (even when your real self is tired) and the financial discipline it takes to buy a house without letting your Pinterest boards dictate your budget. But it wasn’t all wins—Dex opens up about how 2024 almost broke her, revealing she discovered she was "depreshee" (yes, that’s a thing), and finally got herself into therapy. Meanwhile, Carla's reflecting on how hard it can be to balance the hustle with mental health and personal growth. The hosts also take a look back at their 2024 vision boards—and let’s just say, some dreams didn’t make it off the board, but some did. They also dish on the biggest pop culture moments—Drake vs. Kendrick, TikTok influencers like Ressa Tessa and Morgan Bailey blowing up, the chaos of the U.S. election, and, of course, Beyoncé! Tune in for laughs, lessons, and plenty of hot takes as Carla and Dex close out the year with a dose of reality and a sneak peek at what’s coming next. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS A difficult year can still be a good year. Our biggest blessings come from our toughest lessons. Don't let fake stability hold you back. Act out of wisdom not out of fear. You deserve to show up as your authentic self in all spaces. Live boldly CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP9: Parenting Without Help: Defiant Teens, Deadbeat Dads, and the Fight for Control
12/23/2024
EP9: Parenting Without Help: Defiant Teens, Deadbeat Dads, and the Fight for Control
This week , are joined by . The group dives into the complex world of parenting teens. As kids grow older, parenting styles and relationships need to shift, and the group explores how they are navigating these changes. Carla talks about her struggle with managing expectations, while Ariel reflects on the challenge of losing control as her children begin making their own decisions. The conversation touches on what happens when older kids break the rules, with Dex sharing her own experience of poor decision-making due to a lack of open communication with her parents. Carla and Ariel also reveal how their teens are turning to platforms like TikTok to express themselves when direct conversation feels too difficult. The trio also revisits the story of Amora Lex, the 27-year-old single mother who recently gave up her five children to CPS. The group reflects on the harsh social media backlash she's received, particularly the blaming comments about her choices in men. This leads to a broader discussion on absentee parents, red flags when dating men who aren't involved in their children's lives, and the importance of building strong, supportive communities for women. Tune in for an insightful episode filled with real talk on motherhood, judgment, and how we can support one another. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Parenting Teens Requires Letting Go of Control: As children grow older, parents must adjust their approach. It's important to allow teens to make their own decisions—even when it’s hard. Disobedience Isn’t Personal: Conflicts with teens often stem from a desire for control. Parents may take disobedience personally, but it's important to remember that teens are not thinking about how their actions affect their parents—they’re navigating their own path to independence. The Stigma of Single Motherhood: The story of Amora Lex, who gave up her children to CPS, sparked harsh judgment online. The group discusses the need for compassion, understanding, and support for mothers, particularly those raising children without strong family or community support. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 8: The Real Cost of Influencing: Plastic Surgery & Keeping up with the Joneses
12/16/2024
EP 8: The Real Cost of Influencing: Plastic Surgery & Keeping up with the Joneses
On this week’s episode and are diving into everything from aerial yoga (spoiler: they're not as flexible as they thought) to the real costs of being an influencer. First up, the ladies share their thoughts on Halle Berry’s latest venture—an intimacy gel for menopausal women—and celebrate her mix of business smarts and vulnerability. Then, things get juicy in the Motherhood segment with a discussion on influencer culture, including the bizarre case of Influencer Marlena Velez, who got arrested for stealing from Target. The duo debates what crime they’d commit (just for fun, promise) and why it’s important to step away from the digital world to reconnect with reality. Plus, a deep dive into body image issues—why Raven-Symoné’s decision to undergo surgery at just 15 raises some serious questions, and how we should approach celebrities’ physical transformations. Carla shares her own story of buying fake hips, while Dex gets real about butt implants. To wrap up, Dex offers a fun self-awareness assessment that might just change your perspective. Tune in for laughs, honest conversations, and a few lessons along the way! SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Social Media Isn't Real: The pressure to "keep up with the Joneses" on social media often leads to unsustainable behaviors. It's important to remember that what you see online doesn't always reflect reality, and prioritizing authenticity over perfection is healthier for your mental well-being. The Influence of Social Media on Risky Behavior: The rise of influencer culture can pressure people into unrealistic lifestyles. From body image issues to misrepresenting your life online, these behaviors are often driven by insecurity and the desire to match a curated online persona. Take a Digital Detox for Mental Clarity: Constantly consuming social media can cloud your self-perception. Taking breaks from your phone and stepping back into real life can help you reconnect with your true values, reflect on your goals, and prioritize your mental health. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 7: Holiday Drama, Traditions, and Boundaries: Surviving Toxicity During the Holidays
12/09/2024
EP 7: Holiday Drama, Traditions, and Boundaries: Surviving Toxicity During the Holidays
This week and dive into the chaos and comedy of navigating toxic family traditions during the holidays. From Carla’s journey of estrangement and her search for new holiday magic with friends to Dex’s big family and the pressure to make everything “perfect,” they share hilarious and heartfelt insights on surviving family dysfunction. Carla reflects on the bittersweet loss of old traditions while creating new ones, and Dex opens up about her childhood trauma (cue the villain origin story—spoiler: it’s all about that Barbie Dream House). The duo also tackles how to deal with negative family members and offers tips on carving out your own healthy, joyful holiday traditions. Tune in for humor, honesty, and some solid advice that might just help you survive this holiday season with your sanity—and maybe a little magic—intact. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Create Your Own Traditions: Whether you're estranged from family or just tired of the same old drama, it's okay to let go of toxic traditions and create new ones that bring you joy—whether that’s with friends, chosen family, or just on your own. You deserve a holiday that feels good to you. Set Boundaries with Toxic Family Members: The holidays don't have to mean enduring negativity from relatives. Learn how to politely (but firmly) set boundaries with family members who bring drama, and how to protect your mental health without feeling guilty. Make Holiday Magic for You: It's easy to get caught up in the pressure to create the "perfect" holiday for others, especially when you have a big family. Take a page from Dex’s playbook and find small, healthy traditions that keep the holiday spirit alive for you—and leave the stress behind. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK:
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EP 6: Burnout Diaries: Navigating Motherhood and Rediscovering Joy
12/02/2024
EP 6: Burnout Diaries: Navigating Motherhood and Rediscovering Joy
In this lively episode of The So What Now Podcast, Carla and Dex tackle everything from neighborhood drama to the emotional rollercoaster of motherhood. Carla shares her escalating battle with the local "cat lady," sparking a hilarious yet relatable discussion about boundaries and suburban chaos. Meanwhile, the duo dives into mom guilt—whether it’s Carla juggling life with a toddler and a grown daughter or Dex navigating communication in a long distance relationship with her daughter. With raw honesty and a touch of humor, the hosts reflect on burnout, personal growth, and finding unexpected joys (like crafting and ginger beer). It’s a heartwarming reminder that life’s challenges may leave us wondering, “So what now?”—but with the right mindset, a good laugh, and maybe a glue gun, we’ll get through it together. 4 Key Takeaways from This Episode: 💡 Mom Guilt is Real (and Never Ends): Carla and Dex open up about their personal experiences with mom guilt, whether it’s raising a toddler or navigating life as an empty nester, and how they’re learning to let go of unrealistic expectations. 🔥 Burnout Isn’t Just Work-Related: Dex shares her journey of uncovering the deeper layers of life burnout while Carla offers insights on creating boundaries and finding joy amidst chaos. 🌱 Parenting Evolves, So Should We: From toddler meltdowns to adult children’s independence, the duo reflects on how their parenting styles have changed and how they’re redefining what it means to be a “good mom.” 🎉 Finding Joy in the Small Things: Whether it’s crafting, cooking, or just sipping ginger beer, Carla and Dex discuss how leaning into simple joys helps them recharge and stay grounded. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 5: It’s Giving Thanks: Gratitude, Ambition & the "Miracle Baby"
11/25/2024
EP 5: It’s Giving Thanks: Gratitude, Ambition & the "Miracle Baby"
This Thanksgiving episode is all about reflecting on what we're thankful for, finding balance with gratitude and ambition and also Miracle babies. and kick things off by honoring Jenna as Woman of the Week. In the Motherhood segment,we’re diving into the controversial tale of a miracle baby conceived by two Miami Dade inmates who passed semen through a vent. Should they face additional charges? Listen in for the full discussion! In the Womanhood segment, we talk about being thankful for the small moments, the lessons, and the people in our lives—even if we don’t always follow traditional holiday norms. We explore how gratitude plays into both parenting and personal growth— Do our kids owe us gratitude? Dex also opens up about her struggle to balance gratitude with ambition. Can you be grateful for what you have and desire to strive for more? And how do we navigate the negative self-talk that holds us back from our own potential. Plus, Carla shares a feel-good moment of the week: her skydiving adventure! Tune in for laughs, reflections, and some much-needed reminders that we’re all on a journey, and it’s okay to hold space for both gratitude and ambition. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Remember: You don't have to partake in holiday activities you don’t want to—and that's okay! Our children learn gratitude by seeing us model this behavior. Be thankful for the journey and enjoy it along the way. From an early age, we’re often taught to be grateful. While these lessons were well-meaning,the lessons can sometimes make us feel like it’s wrong to experience negative emotions when we have so much to be thankful for. If this resonates with you, you're not alone. Over time, we can internalize beliefs that limit our emotional range. Reframing our understanding of gratitude to focus on our skills or attributes rather than the external objects can allow space for complex feelings. You’ve earned and/or deserve all the good things in your life. Don’t let people with limiting beliefs or negative self talk stop you from going after what you truly desire. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 4: Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids & The Power of Saying No
11/18/2024
EP 4: Raising Emotionally Intelligent Kids & The Power of Saying No
In this episode Carla and Dex discuss raising emotionally intelligent children—what it really takes to help kids develop self-awareness, empathy, and strong communication skills. We dive into the tools and practices for fostering emotional intelligence. How do we know if we’re doing it right? We’ll explore how EQ impacts behavior and relationships, and why it’s essential for kids’ long-term success. Next, we switch gears to talk about the power of saying no. We discuss the importance of setting boundaries—whether in relationships, work, or personal life. Carla shares her journey from employee to boss and how setting boundaries has changed her life, while Dex talks about her struggle to set boundaries with herself, especially when it comes to work. We’ll explore how learning to say no confidently can protect our time and well-being. It’s an honest conversation about parenting, personal growth, and taking control of your life. Tune in! SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS The Power of Boundaries: Setting boundaries is essential in friendships, work,and family relationships to maintain mental well-being and respect. Emotional Intelligence in Parenting: Carla and Dex discuss the value of teachingchildren emotional intelligence by modeling self-awareness, empathy, and self-regulation. Self-Care as a Boundary: Dex shares her struggle with setting work boundariesfor herself, reminding listeners that self-care is a crucial form of respect. Learning and Growth through Therapy: The hosts explore the importance oftherapy, especially tools like the “feelings wheel,” to identify and process emotions moreeffectively. Navigating Friendships with Honesty**: They reflect on a challenging time in theirfriendship, showing that sometimes setting tough boundaries can ultimately strengthenrelationships CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 3: Still Processing Rejection
11/13/2024
EP 3: Still Processing Rejection
In this episode, Carla and Dex share their raw reactions to the 2024 Presidential election. With no outline or segments, it’s a heartfelt, off-the-cuff conversation as they process the results and how they’re personally navigating the aftermath. From coping with the outcome to confronting the challenges of moving forward in a divided world, this episode is a rollercoaster of feelings and reflections. Tune in for a real and honest discussion, as Carla and Dex work through it all—together. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Election Shock and Disappointment: The hosts express disappointmentover Trump’s re-election, with surprise that his controversial policiesand divisive rhetoric did not prevent his victory. They voice concernabout the country’s future and the social divides it highlights. Representation Matters: One host discusses the emotional impact ofseeing Kamala Harris, a woman of color, in a leadership position, whichgave her a sense of visibility and pride. However, there is alsofrustration that gender and racial biases may have hindered Harris’ssupport. Frustration with Social Media and Misinformation: The hosts criticizehow misinformation spread on social media influenced people'sopinions, especially around topics like abortion, LGBTQ rights, andhealthcare. Importance of Local Politics: Beyond the presidential election, the hostsemphasize the significance of local issues, such as marijuanalegalization and education funding, urging listeners to remainpolitically active and informed at all levels of government. Self-Care and Emotional Processing: In coping with the electionoutcome, the hosts discuss the importance of processing feelings in asupportive environment rather than engaging in social media debates,aiming to foster resilience and stay involved in the political processdespite setbacks. Role of Women and Bias: There is a shared feeling of rejection amongthe hosts, particularly regarding gender bias in leadership. They notethe resistance against women, especially women of color, holdingpowerful roles, which feels like a societal setback. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 2: Motherhood in the Digital Age & Evolving Friendships
11/11/2024
EP 2: Motherhood in the Digital Age & Evolving Friendships
In this episode, we’re diving deep into the impact of social media on motherhood and how it’s shaping our children’s lives. We’ll share our personal beliefs about kids and social media, exploring how it influences their upbringing and our parenting choices. From parents who make a business out of sharing their kids' lives to the balance of protecting privacy and staying connected in a digital world, we’re talking all about it. Next, we dive into how friendships change after motherhood. Dex reflects on her evolving friendships as her child grows into adulthood, while Carla talks about juggling her younger child and the need for a babysitter again. We also touch on the importance of maintaining strong connections with other women, despite the challenges of friendship fatigue. Lastly, we talk about navigating identity shifts in our 30s and 40s—how we redefine ourselves beyond our roles as mothers and professionals. It’s an honest, real conversation you don’t want to miss! SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Parenting with Awareness in the Social Media Era: Carla and Dex discuss how toset boundaries on social media for kids and navigate privacy challenges to create a safeenvironment online. Importance of Balance: Balancing work, personal passions, and family time iscrucial, especially when transitioning between careers or creative pursuits. Honest Communication: Maintaining open communication with friends and familyis essential to prevent misunderstandings and strengthen relationships. Gentle Parenting Insights: The hosts offer lighthearted advice on modernparenting methods, showing the value of intentional language and mutual respect. Social Media Humor and Reality: They humorously address the ups and downs ofsocial media’s influence on family life, from silly trends to the challenges of maintainingauthenticity CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 1: GUESS WHO'S BACK! The Official Reunion
11/11/2024
EP 1: GUESS WHO'S BACK! The Official Reunion
Guess who’s back?! Yep, it’s us— and —and we’re kicking off a new chapter with a fresh start. In this episode, we’re opening up about what the podcast means to us as we navigate some big life transitions and, let’s be honest, try to figure out what the heck is next. First, we’re diving into motherhood, picking up right where we left off in 2018. Carla’s juggling two kids at very different stages of life, while Dex is adjusting to parenting from a distance (aka, “My kid is gone, and I’m not sure how to feel about it!”). We’ll share our current parenting struggles, wins, and everything in between. And of course, we can’t ignore the inevitable: womanhood. We’re getting older, and with that comes a whole new approach to our bodies, health, and the joy of aging. Spoiler alert: "aging gracefully" is a lot harder than it looks when you’re bombarded with perfect celebs on Instagram. Body image issues? Oh yeah, we’re talking about it. Tune in for an honest, funny, and totally relatable conversation about where we are now and what’s next in this wild ride called life. SO WHAT NOW? TAKEAWAYS Reconnecting Through Life's Journeys: The hosts openly share the trials ofadulthood, the complexity of parenting adult children, and navigating unexpected lifestages. Rediscovering Identity: They explore the importance of self-reflection and self-care when life shifts, especially after milestones like children leaving home. Embracing New Phases: The podcast reflects on finding strength and newpassions in different life phases, offering inspiration to those adapting to big changes. The Power of Friendship and Collaboration: Carla and Dex emphasize theimportance of friendship, boundaries, and communication, even as they work togetheron a creative project. Balancing Fun and Responsibility**: Amid humor and lightheartedness, the podcasttackles serious themes, showing that it's possible to have fun while staying grounded inone’s responsibilities and values. CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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So What Now? Coming 11:11
11/08/2024
So What Now? Coming 11:11
Get ready for laughs, life lessons, and all the vibes! Hosted by best friends Carla and Dex, So What Now? dives into the messy, magical, and maddening moments of motherhood, womanhood, and everything in between. With Carla juggling entrepreneurship and new motherhood, and Dex stepping into life as a new empty nester with her quick wit and real talk, this podcast is your go-to for fresh takes on life’s biggest (and smallest) moments. Tune in for raw conversations, endless laughs, and a reminder that none of us really have it all figured out—but that’s half the fun! CONNECT WITH US ON SOCIAL MEDIA: | 📱INSTAGRAM: 📱TIK TOK: 🎙ADVERTISE WITH US:
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EP 239: Spooky Stories: High Speed Chase, Professor Exposing Himself, Dating and Held Hostage
10/30/2024
EP 239: Spooky Stories: High Speed Chase, Professor Exposing Himself, Dating and Held Hostage
This week on Pivot with Purpose, we’re getting into the Halloween spirit! I’m joined by two of my favorite people, Dexty and Ariel B, to relive the thrills of my recent Halloween bash. From spooky stories to a few terrifyingly hilarious fashion throwbacks, this episode promises all the laughs and chills you need. Tune in for a hilariously spooky time you won’t forget! Thank you to our Sponsors: McDonalds BetterHelp - Get 10% off your First Month Get $100 Off our signature course using code 'PIVOT' - ____________________ Follow Carla Wilmaris on social media: Instagram Twitter TikTok Email the show to get advice and questions answered
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EP 238: Life After Freedom ft Melodia Shekia
10/15/2024
EP 238: Life After Freedom ft Melodia Shekia
Audition Template: Stereo Session with no tracks. 44.1k, 24 bit, Stereo Master.
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EP 237: Hidden Gems: Lessons from Women Evolve
10/08/2024
EP 237: Hidden Gems: Lessons from Women Evolve
As we prepare for the hurricane here in Florida, I’m taking a moment to reflect on my powerful experience at this year’s Women Evolve conference. The event was filled with unforgettable moments, inspiring connections, and wisdom shared by incredible speakers. Two speakers, in particular, deeply impacted me—Nona Jones and Dr. Anita Phillips.Their messages on 'The Gift of Rejection' and 'Healing from Mother Wounds' resonated with me in profound ways, pushing me into a new season of service and personal growth. In this episode, I share the beauty that can be found in pain and how embracing positivity and faith can transform your life.Tune in to discover how speaking life over yourself and leaning into your faith can lead you through even the most challenging seasons. Thank you to our Sponsors: McDonalds BetterHelp - Get 10% off your First Month Get $100 Off our signature course using code 'PIVOT' - ____________________ Follow Carla Wilmaris on social media: Instagram Twitter TikTok Email the show to get advice and questions answered
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EP 236: Breaking the Mold (Ft Ariana Gonzalez aka Ari ADHD)
10/02/2024
EP 236: Breaking the Mold (Ft Ariana Gonzalez aka Ari ADHD)
What if your quirks were your superpower? Join us as we journey through ADHD and autism spectrum traits with the vibrant , known as . We embrace the humor in impulsivity, from spontaneous adventures to a quirky Florida man story involving urns. Our conversation touches on parenting with neurodivergence, balancing authenticity with structure, and the challenges of ADHD medication. We also address the systemic hurdles black and brown boys face in education and healthcare, highlighting the need for proper support. As we explore personal growth and the complexities of relationships, we discuss overcoming financial manipulation and the power of genuine connections. From sexual dynamics to setting healthy boundaries, our journey highlights the significance of self-awareness and the joy of finding a supportive partner. Wrapping up with a promise of more exciting content to come, this episode celebrates the beauty of embracing neurodivergence and the adventures that come with it. Thank you to our Sponsors: BetterHelp - Get 10% off your First Month Get $100 Off our signature course using code 'PIVOT' - Ready to start your own podcast? Schedule a clarity call today ___________ Follow Carla Wilmaris on social media: Instagram Twitter TikTok Email the show to get advice and questions answered
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EP 235: Breaking Rules and Breaking Barriers
09/26/2024
EP 235: Breaking Rules and Breaking Barriers
Join me, Carla, for an engaging solo episode of Pivot with Purpose! We kick off with a laugh-worthy yet cautionary tale of a Florida corrections officer caught altering a handicap sticker for better parking. This story sparks a deeper conversation on the legal and moral consequences of cutting corners, while I share my own relatable struggles with ADHD and the overlooked challenges it brings. I then dive into the emotional journey of juggling my career and motherhood, focusing on my son Psalm's recent autism diagnosis. From navigating insurance hurdles to preparing for an IEP meeting, I reflect on the importance of advocacy and perseverance. Next, I recount an exciting yet declined opportunity to join an international reality TV show, touching on the personal and financial considerations involved. Wrapping up, I share my rollercoaster journey in real estate investment and celebrate the success of Alex Cooper's *Call Her Daddy* podcast, highlighting persistence and innovation in media. This episode weaves humor, personal reflection, and inspiring stories, offering motivation and connection on your own journey. Thank you to our Sponsors: BetterHelp - Get 10% off your First Month Get $100 Off our signature course using code 'PIVOT' - Ready to start your own podcast? Schedule a clarity call today ___________ Follow Carla Wilmaris on social media: Instagram Twitter TikTok Email the show to get advice and questions answered
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EP 234: Law, Politics, and the Power of Informed Voting Pt 2. (Ft Attorney James Smith)
09/18/2024
EP 234: Law, Politics, and the Power of Informed Voting Pt 2. (Ft Attorney James Smith)
Attorney James Smith is back for another insightful episode! This time, we dive into the complex world of political criticism, starting with Kamala Harris’s time as a prosecutor. We break down the misinformation campaigns—many fueled by foreign actors like Russia—aimed at distorting her record and influencing U.S. opinions. We also discuss the ongoing federal case in Tampa involving the Uhuru Movement, debunking exaggerated claims about Kamala's role, including the myth that she jailed 1,200 men for nonviolent marijuana offenses. By examining probation violations and judicial decisions, we reveal the truth behind these allegations. Next, we tackle gender bias in political criticism, highlighting the double standards faced by women in politics. Our conversation touches on Donald Trump's handling of the transition process and his lack of preparedness for crises like the global pandemic. We contrast this with the need for experienced leadership. Finally, we explore economic policies like the childcare tax credit and the importance of universal healthcare, drawing comparisons to systems like Germany. Join us for a packed episode full of clarity and real talk! Thank you to our Sponsors: BetterHelp - Get 10% off your First Month Get $100 Off our signature course using code 'PIVOT' - Ready to start your own podcast? Schedule a clarity call today ___________ Follow Carla Wilmaris on social media: Instagram Twitter TikTok Email the show to get advice and questions answered
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EP 233: Law, Politics, and the Power of Informed Voting Pt 1. (Ft Attorney James Smith)
09/10/2024
EP 233: Law, Politics, and the Power of Informed Voting Pt 1. (Ft Attorney James Smith)
Join us on this eye-opening episode of "Pivot With Purpose Y'all" as we reunite with our favorite legal expert and dear friend, Attorney James Smith. Together, we peel back the layers of our early podcast memories while James demystifies the often convoluted legal language. You’ll gain fascinating insights into the future of law, where AI might handle consultations, yet some human aspects of legal practice could remain irreplaceable. Ever wondered how elections shape the Supreme Court? We tackle the weighty influence of upcoming elections on the Court’s conservative majority, revisiting the contentious 2000 presidential election and the butterfly ballot debacle in Florida. Our discussion takes a dramatic turn as we investigate the shadowy financial ties between Supreme Court Justice Clarence Thomas and billionaire Harlan Crow. The ethical implications of such relationships come to light, illustrating how they might sway judicial decisions and erode public trust. We wrap up with a hard-hitting analysis of media biases and political corruption, scrutinizing how billionaire-owned news outlets prioritize clicks over substance. From Amazon’s labor practices to the pharmaceutical industry's deregulation, we expose how these corporate actions affect everyday Americans. Our conversation drives home the urgency of reclaiming political power from the donor class and stresses the importance of active participation in democratic processes. Don't miss this compelling discussion that underscores the power of informed voting and the need for a renewed democratic impulse. Thank you to our Sponsors: BetterHelp - Get 10% off your First Month Get $100 Off our signature course using code 'PIVOT' - Ready to start your own podcast? Schedule a clarity call today ___________ Follow Carla Wilmaris on social media: Instagram Twitter TikTok Email the show to get advice and questions answered
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EP 232: Humor in the Hustle: Entrepreneurial Wins (Ft. Didi Ramos)
09/03/2024
EP 232: Humor in the Hustle: Entrepreneurial Wins (Ft. Didi Ramos)
Welcome back to another exciting episode of Pivot With Purpose! This week, we bring you a mix of humor and practical advice, starting with a hilarious yet concerning Florida man story. Our special guest, , steps into the spotlight! Through personal anecdotes, we illustrate how hard work behind the scenes often leads to visible achievements. We share stories about meeting and collaborating with dedicated individuals like Felix and Jenna, highlighting the importance of initiative and patience. This chapter is packed with practical takeaways on how proactive engagement and commitment can help you stand out and seize opportunities. Finally, we explore the journey from corporate roles to entrepreneurship, balancing personal and professional growth, and overcoming obstacles through personal development. We share our own experiences transitioning from traditional employment to starting our own ventures, emphasizing the emotional toll and the ultimate fulfillment of pursuing passion. We also touch on setting family boundaries, finding supportive relationships, and the significance of faith and belief in personal growth. This episode is a blend of entertainment, heartfelt advice, and inspiring stories that will leave you motivated and empowered. Thank you to our Sponsors: BetterHelp - Get 10% off your First Month Get $100 Off our signature course using code 'PIVOT' - Ready to start your own podcast? Schedule a clarity call today ___________ Follow Carla Wilmaris on social media: Instagram Twitter TikTok Email the show to get advice and questions answered
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EP 231: Running On Crazy
08/27/2024
EP 231: Running On Crazy
This week Carla and Dexty are joined by Christina from Running on Crazy. Christina shares her personal journey with bulimia and depression. Christina’s story is a powerful one about body image, self-love, and her road to recovery. Thank you to our Sponsors: BetterHelp - Get 10% off your First Month Get $100 Off our signature course using code 'PIVOT' - Ready to start your own podcast? Schedule a clarity call today ___________ Follow Carla Wilmaris on social media: Instagram Twitter TikTok Email the show to get advice and questions answered
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