Tactical Living

It’s hard to find balance in a high-stress career while managing everything else in life. That’s where Tactical Living Podcast comes in. Hosted by Ashlie Walton, a trauma recovery coach and tactical living expert, and Sergeant Clint Walton, this show offers practical advice for creating a well-balanced lifestyle, even amidst the demands of a first responder career. Three times a week, Ashlie shares insightful strategies on managing life’s challenges, such as what it’s really like to live as a police officer’s wife, while Clint joins the conversation several times a month to offer his perspective from the field. Together, they provide actionable tips on health, fitness, mental resilience, spiritual discipline, intimacy, and navigating the complexities of first responder life and relationships. Whether you’re seeking tactical approaches to personal growth or solutions to the unique challenges of law enforcement and first responder life, this podcast is for you. Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send Ashlie Walton a message on PodMatch, here: https://www.podmatch.com/hostdetailpreview/1594754484675x841981803913560400

E1006 LIVE Interview With Ryan Woodruff, CEO of Clear Path for Veterans 09/10/2025

E1006 LIVE Interview With Ryan Woodruff, CEO of Clear Path for Veterans On a serene campus in Upstate New York, Clear Path for Veterans is helping veterans find healing, purpose, and connection, one dog at a time. Their flagship program trains and pairs veterans nationwide with service dogs, and the (Amazon Affiliate). We’re honored to welcome Ryan Woodruff, U.S. Marine Corps veteran and CEO of , to the Tactical Living Podcast 🎙️ Ryan’s story is raw, powerful, and inspiring: His personal journey through post-traumatic stress and alcoholism The life-or-death reality many veterans face before being paired with a service dog The $18 million campus expansion that will bring cabins and a state-of-the-art canine training center How Clear Path is going beyond service dogs with career placement, peer and family support, wellness, and more You won’t want to miss this one—tag a veteran or family member who needs to hear Ryan’s message. 🐕❤️ 💥 GIVEAWAY IS OPEN TO OUR FACEBOOK GROUP MEMBERS ONLY 💥Join below! 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37934580

E1005 Uniformed and Undiagnosed: High-Functioning Mental Health Struggles in First Responders 09/08/2025

E1005 Uniformed and Undiagnosed: High-Functioning Mental Health Struggles in First Responders This episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosted by Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton, takes a candid look at the hidden (Amazon Affiliate) while appearing perfectly fine on the outside. The discipline, structure, and professionalism that make them effective in the field often double as masks—concealing anxiety, depression, trauma, or burnout from colleagues, family, and even themselves. Defining : How success and competence can hide serious internal distress. The difference between coping and truly healing. Why First Responders Mask Symptoms: Cultural pressure to appear unshakable. Fear of stigma, career repercussions, or losing trust. The Role of Routine in Concealment: How structure and discipline can maintain outward stability. Why routines can become a crutch instead of a lifeline. The Cumulative Toll of Silent Struggles: The long-term health risks of untreated anxiety, depression, or trauma. The emotional cost on family relationships and personal well-being. The Danger of Self-Deception: How “I’m fine” becomes a habit, even to oneself. Why high-functioning doesn’t mean healthy functioning. Strategies to Recognize and Address the Issue: Normalize Conversations Around Mental Health: Peer leaders and supervisors openly sharing their own experiences. Look for Micro-Signs in Yourself and Others: Changes in sleep, irritability, withdrawal, or overworking. Encourage Early Check-Ins, Not Crisis Interventions: Making mental health maintenance as routine as physical training. Use Trusted, Confidential Resources: Peer support, vetted therapists, or off-the-record consultations. Reframe Help-Seeking as Tactical Strength: Position mental wellness as part of operational readiness. This episode is a reminder that a polished uniform and a strong performance in the field don’t always mean someone is okay—and that the bravest thing a responder can do might be to take off the mask. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37852035

E1004 Training Day vs. Trauma Day: Why Simulation Doesn’t Prepare You for the Emotional Fallout 09/05/2025

E1004 Training Day vs. Trauma Day: Why Simulation Doesn’t Prepare You for the Emotional Fallout This episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosted by Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton, explores the critical gap between (Amazon Affiliate). While simulations sharpen technical skills, they rarely prepare first responders for the emotional aftermath of a traumatic call. We unpack why this disconnect exists, the hidden cost of unaddressed emotional impact, and how to better equip responders for both the tactical and mental sides of the job. The Strengths of Simulation Training: Why repetitive skill practice builds confidence and speed. How scenario-based drills mimic high-pressure decision-making. Where Simulations Fall Short: The emotional detachment of training compared to real-world trauma. Why stress inoculation doesn’t always translate to emotional resilience. The Shock of First-Time Exposure: How sensory details, grief, and chaos hit harder in the field. Why early traumatic experiences can shape long-term coping patterns. Unspoken Cultural Barriers: The expectation to “shake it off” after a difficult call. Why admitting emotional struggle is still stigmatized in many departments. The Long-Term Impact of Ignored Fallout: How cumulative stress and unresolved trauma build toward burnout or PTSD. The ripple effect on relationships, decision-making, and mental health. Strategies to Bridge the Gap: Integrate Emotional Debriefs into Training: Include discussions on emotional response alongside skill critique. Normalize Mental Rehearsal for Trauma: Practice emotional grounding and self-talk techniques before the real thing. Pair Training with Peer Support Exposure: Introduce recruits to safe spaces for sharing and processing. Leadership Modeling Vulnerability: Supervisors openly discussing their own emotional fallout experiences. Ongoing Mental Resilience Training: Treat emotional readiness like physical skills—requiring regular refreshers. This episode challenges the idea that technical proficiency alone equals readiness, reminding us that true preparedness includes the mental tools to face what happens after the sirens fade. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37851965

E1003 The Badge and the Bottle: Is Alcohol Still an Unspoken Coping Tool? 09/03/2025

E1003 The Badge and the Bottle: Is Alcohol Still an Unspoken Coping Tool? This episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosted by Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton, takes a hard look at (Amazon Affiliate) in first responder culture. For generations, the badge and the bottle have been intertwined—used to unwind, to bond, and, for some, to bury the weight of the job. We explore why alcohol remains an unspoken coping mechanism, how it impacts personal and professional lives, and what it takes to break free from cycles of silent self-medication. The Cultural Legacy of Alcohol in Service: . The “work hard, play hard” mentality and how it perpetuates risky habits. The Fine Line Between Social and Self-Medication: How occasional drinks can shift into dependency without realizing it. The difference between relaxation and numbing out. Signs Alcohol Is Becoming a Problem: Red flags that often go unnoticed—or are brushed off—in responder culture. How high-functioning dependency hides in plain sight. The Impact on Relationships and Performance: Why substance reliance affects emotional regulation, decision-making, and intimacy. How alcohol-related issues can put careers and families at risk. The Role of Peer Influence and Stigma: How fear of judgment or isolation keeps people from seeking help. The unspoken pressure to join in to “fit in.” Strategies to Break the Cycle: Audit Your Habits: Track how often and why you’re drinking to gain clarity on patterns. Replace Rituals, Not Just the Drink: Find healthier ways to decompress and bond that still meet the same needs. Seek Support Early: Connect with confidential peer support programs or counseling before it becomes a crisis. Shift the Culture Through Leadership: Leaders setting examples by promoting sober or low-alcohol events. Prioritize Emotional Tools Over Liquid Ones: Build coping skills that can handle stress without relying on alcohol. In this episode, we challenge the silence around alcohol in first responder life—and offer practical steps to protect your health, relationships, and career. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37851920

E1002 Your Family Didn’t Take the Oath, But They’re Still Serving 09/01/2025

E1002 Your Family Didn’t Take the Oath, But They’re Still Serving This episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosted by Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton, sheds light on the hidden sacrifices that (Amazon Affiliate) make every single day. While spouses and children never signed up for the job, they still feel the ripple effects of shift work, emotional strain, and the unpredictability that comes with life in service. We unpack the emotional labor your loved ones carry—often silently—and how to acknowledge, support, and protect them without losing yourself to the demands of the badge. Understanding Secondary Service: How spouses and kids are impacted by missed holidays, unpredictable schedules, and constant worry. The way this secondary service can shape identity and family dynamics. : Recognizing signs of stress, anxiety, or resentment in your spouse and children. Why unspoken worries can be just as heavy as the dangers of the job itself. Invisible Shifts at Home: How partners often shoulder the household and parenting duties alone during your shifts. The mental exhaustion of “covering” for an absent parent or spouse. The Role of Unpredictability: How canceled plans, late calls, and changing shifts affect trust and emotional connection. Why communication about unpredictability matters more than you think. The Silent Strength of Support Systems: How family members adapt to crisis without formal training. The toll of always being “on call” emotionally, even when you’re not home. Strategies to Help Protect Your Family’s Peace: Intentional Communication: Create a safe space for your spouse and kids to express frustrations without fear of judgment. Scheduled Family Time: Make non-negotiable dates on the calendar that aren’t easily sacrificed to work. Acknowledgement and Gratitude: Verbally recognize the sacrifices your loved ones make—and do it often. Healthy Decompression Habits: Process your job stress before walking through the front door to avoid emotional spillover. Shared Resources and Support: Connect your family with counseling, peer support groups, or other first responder families for understanding and solidarity. Your family may not wear the uniform, but they carry its weight alongside you. In this episode, you’ll learn how to ensure their service doesn’t come at the expense of their well-being—or yours. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37851865

E1001 Christiaan Hofman | Author & Creator of The Sport Naturel Method 08/29/2025

E1001 Christiaan Hofman | Author & Creator of The Sport Naturel Method We’re excited to welcome Christiaan Hofman—Author of "", founder of Sport Naturel, and creator of The Sport Naturel Method—to the Tactical Living Podcast. 🎙️ Christiaan has spent years diving deep into over 100 years of psychology to distill it into clear, practical tools for understanding ego, identity, self-worth, and the beliefs that shape us. 🧠💡 From the Defense Mechanism Model he developed, to his work in personal training that helps people break through emotional and psychological barriers, Christiaan brings a truly unique perspective on how our mindset, moral code, and personal beliefs impact our health, fitness, and overall wellbeing. 💪🌱 🔥 In this episode, we’ll explore: The real difference between ego and identity—and how bias clouds it Why moral code is your ultimate guide How self-worth, self-esteem, and self-confidence are deeply connected The link between your mental state and your physical performance Practical steps to overcome limiting beliefs holding you back 🎁 Get in touch with Christiaan and visit his site here: https://sportnaturel.com/ 📚 If you’re ready to dig deeper into what truly drives you—and learn how to align your body, mind, and purpose—this is an episode you won’t want to miss. 🔴🔴🔴If you have won last time, you can't win this time BUT you can win next time 😉 🔴🔴🔴 💥 GIVEAWAY IS OPEN TO OUR FACEBOOK GROUP MEMBERS ONLY 💥1 Join Below! 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37696115

E1000 The Shift Work Sleep Spiral: When “I'll Catch Up Later” Never Happens | Tactical Living Podcast 08/27/2025

E1000 The Shift Work Sleep Spiral: When “I'll Catch Up Later” Never Happens | Tactical Living Podcast This episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosted by Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton, tackles one of the most overlooked threats to first responder health: chronic sleep deprivation. Check out these (Amazon Affiliate) that I mentioned in today's episode 🔎 Episode Overview: Shift work isn't just exhausting—it rewires your brain, weakens your body, and chips away at your mental clarity. Yet within first responder culture, —something to tough out instead of treat seriously. In this episode, Ashlie and Clint break down the physiological and psychological impact of disrupted sleep cycles, and why “I'll catch up later” is a dangerous myth. 🧠 Key Discussion Points: 1. How Shift Work Hijacks Your Circadian Rhythm The biological importance of sleep-wake cycles Why night shifts trick your body into thinking it’s always jet-lagged Long-term consequences of sleep misalignment 2. The Normalization of Poor Sleep in First Responder Culture How the “I’ll sleep when I’m dead” mindset gets reinforced The guilt of sleeping while others are on duty How sleep deprivation becomes a silent competition 3. Brain and Body Damage From Chronic Sleep Loss Increased risk of heart disease, diabetes, and weight gain Cognitive impairment, memory lapses, and mood instability Links between poor sleep and PTSD symptoms 4. Spotting the Sleep Spiral Before It Becomes Permanent Signs your body is stuck in survival mode “Catch-up sleep” myths vs. actual recovery Why burnout and sleep loss often go hand in hand 5. Tactical Strategies to Prioritize Sleep (Even with a Crazy Schedule) Pre- and post-shift routines to support sleep hygiene Using light exposure, supplements, and timing to your advantage Small changes that stack up: blackout curtains, tech curfews, hydration 🎯 Why This Episode Matters: Sleep isn’t optional—it’s tactical recovery. And when you stop wearing exhaustion like a badge of honor, you give your brain and body the fuel they need to protect and perform. This episode will help you reclaim the rest you’ve been denying yourself—and remind you that real strength starts with recovery. 🎙️ Tune in now to break the sleep spiral and take back your health—one night at a time. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37651565

E999 Fear of Softness: Why Emotional Intelligence Still Feels Risky on the Job | Tactical Living Podcast 08/25/2025

E999 Fear of Softness: Why Emotional Intelligence Still Feels Risky on the Job | Tactical Living Podcast On the job, strength is measured in grit, control, and composure under pressure. But (Amazon Affiliate), there’s another kind of strength that’s often overlooked: emotional intelligence. Why does it , vulnerability, or self-awareness on the job? In this episode, Ashlie and Clint unpack the silent tension between tactical competence and emotional growth—revealing why the two aren’t opposites at all, but deeply intertwined forms of resilience. 🧠 Key Discussion Points: 1. The Cultural Conditioning That Labels Emotion as Weakness Why the academy doesn’t train emotional skills—but expects emotional endurance How generational beliefs have shaped the “suck it up” mentality The fear of being seen as unreliable if you express emotion 2. The Hidden Costs of Emotional Suppression Chronic stress, burnout, and isolation How avoidance affects decision-making and personal relationships Why emotionally shut-down officers struggle most in retirement 3. Reframing Emotional Intelligence as Tactical Strength Understanding emotional regulation as a performance enhancer How empathy improves de-escalation and community trust The role of self-awareness in staying safe, alert, and adaptable 4. Signs You’re Resisting Emotional Growth (Even If You Think You’re Not) Defaulting to sarcasm or silence during real conversations Dismissing peer mental health struggles as weakness Avoiding feedback or defensiveness when challenged 5. Simple Ways to Build Emotional Resilience Without Feeling “Soft” Tactical breathing and emotional check-ins during shift transitions Practicing empathy without over-identifying with others’ pain Finding strength in connection, not just control 🎯 Why This Episode Matters: Emotional intelligence isn’t about being soft—it’s about being smart, stable, and secure in who you are. When you reframe emotional growth as part of your tactical toolkit, you become a stronger leader, partner, and protector—not in spite of your humanity, but because of it. 🎙️ Tune in now to learn how emotional mastery can become your greatest asset on and off the job. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37651500

E998 What Happens When You Hate Your Partner (but Still Do the Job Well) | Tactical Living Podcast 08/22/2025

E998 What Happens When You Hate Your Partner (but Still Do the Job Well) | Tactical Living Podcast This episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosted by Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton, takes a raw look at one of the most uncomfortable truths in first responder life: Sometimes, (Amazon Affiliate) but you still have to do the job. 🔎 Episode Overview: For first responders, your partner is more than just a coworker—they’re your backup, your witness, your lifeline. So what do you do when personality clashes, communication breakdowns, or even deep-seated resentment make every shift feel like a ticking time bomb? This episode doesn’t shy away from the hard stuff. Ashlie and Clint explore what happens when , impacts mental health, and threatens to erode trust on the job. Whether you're currently partnered with someone who drains you—or you've been there before—this is your guide to staying mission-focused without burning out. 🧠 Key Discussion Points: 1. The Silent Strain of a Toxic Partner Dynamic: Why emotional tension in the car feels heavier than high-risk calls How resentment and avoidance manifest physically and mentally When conflict becomes the norm, not the exception 2. The Impact on Professionalism and Safety: Why you still need to perform at your best—even with emotional friction What happens when mistrust creeps into critical decision-making The danger of bottling everything up for the sake of the job 3. How to Stay Tactical When You’re Emotionally Triggered: The power of mental separation between duty and drama Reframing the shift as a mission—not a friendship Managing your reactions without minimizing your feelings 4. When (and How) to Speak Up About It: Strategies for documenting toxic behavior if needed When to use your chain of command or peer support How to navigate the balance between professionalism and self-respect 5. Preventing Future Burnout from Repeated Partner Conflict: Self-checks to avoid becoming the partner others dread Building boundaries and emotional exit strategies Knowing when to request a change—and how to do it with grace 🎯 Why This Episode Matters: You didn’t sign up to be best friends—you signed up to do the job. But that doesn’t mean you have to suffer in silence. Partner dynamics can make or break your experience on the job, and learning to manage toxic tension is key to preserving your peace, safety, and professionalism. 🎙️ Tune in now for tools, perspective, and a reminder that you’re not alone—even if the seat beside you feels like the loneliest place in the world. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37651480

E997 When the Job Becomes Your Religion | Tactical Living Podcast 08/20/2025

E997 When the Job Becomes Your Religion | Tactical Living Podcast This episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, hosted by Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton, explores a powerful question: What happens when your profession becomes your only (Amazon Affiliate)? When the badge replaces your beliefs, rituals, and identity—what gets lost? For many first responders, the job isn’t just what they do—. The structure, the mission, the adrenaline, and the sense of service can begin to mirror the same grounding that faith, spirituality, or deep inner purpose once provided. But what happens when that job becomes your religion? In this episode, we examine how devotion to service can unintentionally create a spiritual void—leaving little room for faith, family, or a connection to something greater than yourself. You’ll discover how this phenomenon subtly shows up, why it’s common in first responder culture, and what you can do to reclaim your spiritual grounding—without abandoning your calling. 🧠 Key Discussion Points: 1. Signs the Job Has Become Your Entire Identity: When rest feels wrong When you no longer nurture spiritual or personal rituals When belief systems are replaced by mission and command 2. How Spiritual Disconnection Creeps In: The slow erosion of faith or purpose outside of the uniform The culture of invincibility and self-reliance How trauma distances you from a higher power 3. The Danger of One-Dimensional Purpose: What happens when your only source of fulfillment is work The collapse that follows retirement or injury Why burnout often has spiritual roots 4. Rebuilding a Spiritual Foundation Without Losing the Mission: How to reintroduce practices of prayer, faith, or meaning Why inner alignment makes you a better officer and partner Practical steps for reconnecting with your values 🎯 Why This Episode Matters: First responders are trained to serve, protect, and act with purpose—but that purpose can’t only exist behind the wheel of a patrol car or in the walls of a firehouse. Without a spiritual anchor—whatever that means for you—there’s no foundation to stand on when the job is stripped away. 🎙️ Tune in now to reflect, reconnect, and reclaim a deeper sense of identity—beyond the badge. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37651445

E996 Andrew Serra | Retired FDNY Captain & Historical Novelist 08/18/2025

E996 Andrew Serra | Retired FDNY Captain & Historical Novelist Inside the mind of a firefighter-turned-author who and now writes to heal, remember, and educate. We're honored to welcome Andrew Serra, retired FDNY captain and the powerful voice behind Hell’s Hundred Acres and Finding John, to the Tactical Living Podcast. After 25 years on the front lines of New York City’s Fire Department—including his time as a responder and recovery worker during 9/11—Andrew turned to the written word as a means of processing pain, honoring the past, and shedding light on forgotten chapters of American history. 📚 In this episode, we explore: How writing became his outlet for coping with the weight of traumatic service The untold stories behind Hell’s Hundred Acres—his novel on the Triangle Shirtwaist Factory Fire What Finding John, his 9/11 memoir, taught him about grief, memory, and identity How studying languages and cultures became an unexpected part of his healing Why storytelling—fiction or nonfiction—can be one of the most transformative forms of service This isn’t just a story about firefighting or history. It’s about finding meaning after the sirens fade, and choosing purpose even when your identity has been shaken to its core. 🎙️ Whether you love history, want to understand the unseen weight of frontline service, or are simply looking for inspiration on how to turn pain into purpose—this is an episode you won’t forget. 📘 Hell’s Hundred Acres is available now. Don’t just hear the story—live it through his words. Get in touch with Andrew here: Check out all of Andrew's books here: (Amazon Affiliate). 💥 GIVEAWAY IS OPEN TO OUR FACEBOOK GROUP MEMBERS ONLY 💥 Request access below! 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37567585

E995 The Invisible Competition: Rank, Resentment, and Rivalry in the Ranks | Tactical Living Podcast 08/15/2025

E995 The Invisible Competition: Rank, Resentment, and Rivalry in the Ranks | Tactical Living Podcast Not all competition is healthy—especially when it’s happening behind the badge. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton pull back the curtain on the unspoken rivalries, (Amazon Affiliate), and morale issues that creep into first responder culture when rank becomes personal. If you've ever felt tension with teammates over promotions, recognition, or seniority, this one’s for you. 🔎 Episode Overview: In law enforcement and fire culture, career advancement is often a double-edged sword. Promotions are limited. Testing is brutal. And suddenly, the people you’ve trusted in high-stress situations feel like competitors instead of teammates. We explore how comparison culture, gossip, and unacknowledged ambition can corrode even the strongest crews—and what to do when climbing the ladder starts to cost more than it’s worth. 🧠 5 Signs Invisible You’re Quietly Judging Who “Deserves” What Example: You feel slighted when a peer makes rank—even if they earned it. Impact: Resentment simmers, hurting cohesion and morale. Success Feels Threatening Instead of Inspiring Example: A teammate gets praised, and your gut reaction is jealousy. Impact: Creates division and discourages support. People Are Withholding Info or Opportunities Example: Knowledge-sharing dries up when tests or roles are on the line. Impact: Undermines team growth and trust. You See Teammates Through the Lens of Rank—Not Respect Example: You treat someone differently based on title, not talent. Impact: Breeds hierarchy over camaraderie. You’re Afraid to Apply for Promotion Because of Backlash Example: You avoid stepping up out of fear it will change how you're treated. Impact: Limits growth and feeds a toxic team culture. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Compete Without Creating Conflict Compete With Yourself—Not the Squad Your biggest rival is the person you were last year. Stay focused there. Celebrate Peers Who Earn Their Stripes Recognition builds morale, even when you’re not the one receiving it. Open the Conversation About Promotions Talk about the tension. The silence makes it worse. Offer to Mentor or Be Mentored Sharing knowledge strengthens both people—and the team. Separate Rank From Respect You don’t need a title to lead. And a title alone doesn’t make someone worth following. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters When trust dies, so does the team. If we don’t name the invisible competition, it starts owning us—and it tears squads apart from the inside out. 🎙️ Listen now to learn how to rise in rank without losing your integrity, your connection, or your crew. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37567340

E994 Is Your Humor Hiding Hurt? The Dark Side of First Responder Banter | Tactical Living Podcast 08/13/2025

E994 Is Your Humor Hiding Hurt? The Dark Side of First Responder Banter | Tactical Living Podcast Laughter is a (Amazon Affiliate) but sometimes, it’s also a shield. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the fine line between coping and covering up, showing how sarcasm, dark humor, and constant banter can signal unprocessed pain beneath the surface. 🔎 Episode Overview: In first responder culture, , grief, and trauma. But when every conversation is a joke and the real stuff never gets addressed, it’s time to ask: What are we really laughing about—and what are we avoiding? This episode dives into how humor can both connect and protect—and what to do when the jokes stop feeling funny. 🧠 5 Signs Your Humor Might Be Hiding Hurt You Joke More When You’re Feeling Numb or Angry Example: After a rough call, you get louder and funnier instead of quieter. Impact: Suppresses emotions rather than processing them. You Can’t Talk About the Job Without Making It a Punchline Example: You brush off serious questions with sarcasm. Impact: Prevents deeper reflection and healing. You Feel Disconnected When the Laughter Stops Example: In silence or alone time, you feel anxious or heavy. Impact: Humor has become a distraction, not a release. You Use Humor to Dismiss Concern From Others Example: “I’m fine—just another day in paradise,” when you’re clearly not. Impact: Blocks support and reinforces isolation. You Struggle With Serious Conversations—Even With Loved Ones Example: Joking during a fight instead of resolving the issue. Impact: Erodes intimacy and communication at home. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Keep Humor Helpful—Not Harmful Check the Motive Behind the Joke Are you trying to connect… or avoid? Give Yourself Permission to Be Serious Not every moment needs to be lightened. Sometimes it needs to be felt. Balance the Banter With Real Talk Create safe spaces with trusted peers where vulnerability is okay. Let Others Know When You’re Struggling—Even Briefly “I’m off today, but I’m working through it.” That honesty matters. Get Support That Goes Beyond the Squad Room Therapy, peer support, journaling—find ways to unpack what humor alone can’t hold. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Humor is powerful—but it shouldn’t be your only outlet. If the laughs feel hollow, it’s time to listen to what your pain is trying to say. 🎙️ Listen now to explore the emotional layers behind first responder humor—and learn how to balance strength, sarcasm, and real healing. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37567290

E993 De‑Escalation Tactics: From the Street to Your Marriage | Tactical Living Podcast 08/11/2025

E993 De‑Escalation Tactics: From the Street to Your Marriage | Tactical Living Podcast You’re trained to (Amazon Affiliate)—so why does a simple disagreement at home turn into a standoff? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton bridge the gap between professional de‑escalation skills and healthy conflict resolution in marriage, showing how the same mindset that keeps calls from going sideways can also keep love and respect alive at home. 🔎 Episode Overview: First responders spend countless hours mastering , threat assessment, and tactical calm. Yet when emotions flare in a relationship, those skills often stay holstered. This episode unpacks the science and psychology of de‑escalation, revealing practical ways to transfer what you do so well on scene to the moments that matter most with your spouse. 🧠 5 Signs You’re Great at De‑Escalation on Duty—but Struggle at Home Command Presence Turns Into Controlling Tone Example: You give directives instead of invitations when discussing issues. Impact: Partner feels policed, not heard. You Read Strangers’ Body Language—but Miss Your Spouse’s Cues Example: You spot agitation in suspects but overlook hurt in your partner. Impact: Escalates conflict through emotional neglect. You Stay Calm with Aggressors—but React Fast to Family Critique Example: A citizen’s insult rolls off; a spouse’s critique triggers anger. Impact: Creates double standards and resentment. Active Listening Ends with the Shift Example: You paraphrase suspects yet cut off your partner mid‑sentence. Impact: Shuts down honest dialogue. After‑Action Reports Happen at Work—Not at Home Example: You review calls, but never debrief arguments. Impact: Repeats the same fight cycles. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Transfer Tactical Calm into Relationship Calm Use Your 3‑Second Rule Pause before responding at home just as you do on a volatile scene—buy time for empathy. Switch from Directives to Open‑Ended Questions Replace “Here’s what we’re doing” with “Help me understand what you need.” Mirror & Label Emotions Acknowledge feelings out loud: “I hear you’re frustrated,” the same way you validate a distressed subject. Create a Verbal Distance Tool If tension spikes, agree on a code phrase (“10‑7 break”) to pause and regroup before continuing. Debrief Together After conflict, ask: What went well? What can we do differently next time? Turn fights into feedback loops. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Your ability to calm chaos saves lives on duty. Imagine what it can do for your marriage. When tactical discipline meets emotional intelligence, connection wins. 🎙️ Listen now to master de‑escalation where it counts most—on the street and at home. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37567235

E992 From Trauma to Triumph With Retired Fire Captain, Rick Cheatham 08/08/2025

E992 From Trauma to Triumph With Retired Fire Captain, Rick Cheatham What happens when everything that once defined you—your marriage, your faith, your strength, your career— (Amazon Affiliate)? We’re honored to welcome Rick Cheatham, retired Anaheim City Fire Captain turned transformational life coach, to the Tactical Living Podcast. Rick's life story is not just powerful—it’s a roadmap for anyone facing unimaginable pain. From that nearly destroyed his marriage… To enduring the unthinkable—the brutal murder of his 23-year-old son… To facing paralysis after a fall during retirement… Rick has walked through fire—literally and emotionally—and emerged with a message that every first responder, spouse, and human soul needs to hear. 🎯 In this conversation, Rick shares: His 3-step A.I.M. framework to reclaim your life How to rebuild identity after devastating loss Why forgiveness, not resentment, is the path to peace What it means to move from victim to victor This episode is about more than trauma—it’s about transformation. If you or someone you love has ever questioned your worth in the wake of tragedy… this is the episode to share, sit with, and listen to more than once. 🧭 Walk away with hope, clarity, and the tools to A.I.M. for the life you were always meant to live. Contact Rick Directly at: 💥 GIVEAWAY IS OPEN TO OUR FACEBOOK GROUP MEMBERS ONLY 💥 Join us below! 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37567190

E991 Your Uniform Isn’t an Excuse for Avoidance | Tactical Living Podcast 08/06/2025

E991 Your Uniform Isn’t an Excuse for Avoidance | Tactical Living Podcast It’s easy to say you’re “too busy” or “too tired” because of the job. But what if the truth is… you’re hiding? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton dive into the hard truth about how the uniform can become emotional armor—and how (Amazon Affiliate), in relationships, and within themselves. 🔎 Episode Overview: The respect, the chaos, the shift work—being in uniform comes with built-in excuses. But when those excuses become shields to avoid accountability, healing, or emotional connection, the job can do more harm than good. This episode is a candid reminder that the badge doesn’t give you a free pass to emotionally check out—and how to start removing the mask in a way that’s real, healthy, and strong. 🧠 5 Signs You’re You Claim You’re “Too Tired” for Every Important Conversation Example: You shut down after a shift, even when your partner needs you. Impact: Builds resentment and emotional distance at home. You Say “They Just Don’t Understand” About Everyone Example: You avoid tough talks by assuming no one gets the job. Impact: Creates isolation and blocks intimacy. You Only Show Up Fully When You’re on Duty Example: You’re mission-focused at work, but numb at home. Impact: Reinforces a split identity and emotional neglect. You Let the Job Dictate Every Part of Your Schedule Example: You never prioritize therapy, date nights, or personal growth. Impact: Stunts emotional development and connection. You Use Stress as a Catch-All Excuse Example: “I’ve seen too much” becomes a reason not to deal with anything. Impact: Avoidance turns into emotional paralysis. 🛠️ 5 Steps to Take Off the Emotional Armor—Without Losing Your Edge Admit Where You’re Hiding Behind the Job Awareness is the first form of courage. Create Space for Conversations That Matter Even 10 minutes of honest talk can build more connection than a full day of silence. Find Something That’s Just Yours—Outside of the Job Hobbies, therapy, reflection—reclaim parts of yourself beyond the badge. Invite, Don’t Dismiss, the People Who Love You Let them into your world, even if they don’t understand every detail. Remember: Emotional Strength Is Tactical Facing yourself is just as brave as facing danger. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters You put on the uniform to serve others—but don’t let it become a shield from serving yourself. Real strength isn’t about hiding. It’s about healing. 🎙️ Listen now to challenge the mask, own your truth, and step into your personal life with the same courage you bring to the job. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37567065

E990 The Slow Burn of Bitterness: When the Job Makes You Angry | Tactical Living Podcast 08/04/2025

E990 The Slow Burn of Bitterness: When the Job Makes You Angry | Tactical Living Podcast It doesn’t happen overnight. But one shift, one betrayal, one broken promise at a time—and suddenly (Amazon Affiliate). In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton unpack the slow, corrosive build-up of bitterness in first responders—and how frustration with the system, leadership, or public perception can quietly eat away at your sense of purpose. 🔎 Episode Overview: The bitterness doesn’t always look like yelling. Sometimes it’s sarcasm. Sometimes it’s numbness. And sometimes it’s a quiet withdrawal from the things and people that once mattered most. This episode takes an honest look at what happens when your passion for the job turns into resentment—and what you can do to catch it before it consumes you. 🧠 5 You Dread Every Shift—Even When Nothing “Bad” Happens Example: You’re irritable before the day starts. Impact: Early signs of emotional exhaustion and disengagement. You Blame Leadership for Everything Example: No matter what’s happening, you assume command is at fault. Impact: Reinforces a victim mindset and blocks growth. You’re Increasingly Sarcastic or Cynical Example: You used to be funny. Now, the jokes are sharp and bitter. Impact: Erodes morale and trust with coworkers and loved ones. You Shut Down When the Public Thanks You Example: Compliments feel hollow—or even offensive. Impact: Sign of internal conflict and a loss of identity connection. You Struggle to Find Joy Outside the Job Example: Off-duty moments feel empty or like a countdown to the next shift. Impact: Limits recovery and personal fulfillment. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Cool the Burn Before It Becomes Permanent Name the Real Source of the Bitterness Is it leadership, the culture, your own expectations? Get honest. Talk to Someone Who’s Been There—and Found a Way Through Peer support or mentors can help shift your mindset. Take a Break—Before You Break Even a short reset can help you recalibrate emotionally. Revisit Why You Started in the First Place Purpose is the antidote to poison. Rediscover your "why." Learn the Difference Between Processing and Stewing Processing helps you heal. Stewing keeps the fire alive. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters You didn’t take the job to become bitter. But if you don’t address the resentment—it will address you. 🎙️ Listen now to explore the signs, sources, and solutions for bitterness on the job—and take the first step toward finding peace again. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37567015

E989 From Shift to Shelter: Why Officers Bond So Deeply with Their Pets | Tactical Living Podcast 08/01/2025

E989 From Shift to Shelter: Why Officers Bond So Deeply with Their Pets | Tactical Living Podcast You may never open up to a therapist… but (Amazon Affiliate). In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the deep emotional connection between first responders and their pets—and why animals often become silent partners in the journey through trauma, stress, and healing. 🔎 Episode Overview: For many in uniform, pets offer something the job never can: unconditional love, zero judgment, and constant presence. Whether it’s a K9 partner, a rescued cat, or a goofy lab waiting at home, these animals often fill emotional gaps that even spouses and colleagues can’t reach. But why is the bond so strong? And what happens when your pet becomes your only safe place? This episode unpacks the science, psychology, and raw emotion behind why so many officers lean heavily on their animals—and how that connection can become both a comfort and a crutch. 🧠 5 Reasons Animals Offer Pure, Wordless Support Example: Your dog curls up next to you after a hard call without needing an explanation. Impact: Becomes a safe emotional outlet when human connection feels too risky. Pets Don’t Ask for Details or Make You Explain Example: You come home wrecked—but they’re just happy you walked through the door. Impact: Offers peace in moments when you feel emotionally spent. Animals Create a Routine That Grounds You Example: Feeding, walking, grooming—it’s structure when the world feels chaotic. Impact: Builds stability, especially during shifts of high stress or trauma. They’re the One Thing You Don’t Have to “Fix” Example: In a world of problems to solve, your pet just needs you to show up. Impact: Reinforces simplicity and emotional presence. The Loss of a Pet Feels Like Losing a Therapist Example: When that silent companion is gone, grief can hit harder than expected. Impact: Brings up unresolved emotions and unprocessed trauma. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Deepen the Healing—Without Becoming Dependent Recognize the Emotional Role Your Pet Plays Name the comfort, not just the companionship. Awareness builds healthier attachment. Let the Bond Be a Bridge to Human Connection Share stories, attend pet-centered events, or talk about your pet in therapy. Let it open doors. Use Their Routine to Anchor Your Own Wellness Walks become movement. Feedings remind you to eat. Grooming reminds you to breathe. Prepare for Loss, Don’t Avoid It Create rituals, memorials, or backup plans. It’s okay to grieve deeply—just don’t do it alone. Honor What They Teach You About Presence and Peace Let their simple joy remind you what matters. Show up. Be loyal. Love without agenda. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters In a world full of noise, trauma, and command presence… your pet becomes the one soul who doesn’t need you to wear a mask. They just need you. 🎙️ Listen now to uncover why the bond with your animal companion may be the most honest relationship in your life—and how to use that bond as a path to deeper healing. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37566980

E988 The Echo Chamber Effect: When Everyone Thinks Like You | Tactical Living Podcast 07/30/2025

E988 The Echo Chamber Effect: When Everyone Thinks Like You | Tactical Living Podcast Surrounding yourself with people who “get it” feels safe—but what if it’s also keeping you (Amazon Affiliate)? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the Echo Chamber Effect—how always being around fellow first responders can unintentionally limit your growth, reinforce unhealthy coping mechanisms, and make it harder to see the bigger picture. 🔎 Episode Overview: , especially with people who understand the weight of the job. But what happens when the only voices we hear are just echoes of our own? From locker room conversations to off-duty hangouts, the first responder bubble can become an environment where tough emotions, trauma, or even toxic behaviors get normalized—just because they’re common. This episode is about breaking that cycle. It’s about why stepping outside your circle is essential for long-term emotional health, stronger relationships, and a clearer sense of who you are beyond the badge. 🧠 5 Signs You’re Stuck in an Echo Chamber You Dismiss Advice Unless It Comes From “One of Us” Example: You tune out therapists, pastors, or even your spouse because they’ve never worn the uniform. Impact: Missed wisdom and limited emotional perspective. You Feel Uncomfortable Around Non-Responder Friends Example: You don't know how to talk about anything besides work, trauma, or the job. Impact: Loss of personal identity and social disconnection. Toxic Behavior Is Treated as Normal Example: Drinking to cope, emotional shutdown, or relationship strain is seen as “just how it is.” Impact: Reinforces unhealthy cycles. You Resist Personal Growth That Feels “Too Soft” Example: Mindfulness, therapy, or open conversations are ridiculed or avoided. Impact: Limits emotional intelligence and healing. You Struggle to Imagine a Life Outside the Job Example: Every conversation, plan, or thought revolves around being in service. Impact: Identity burnout and difficulty transitioning out of the role. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Break the Echo Chamber and Expand Your World Be Curious—Not Defensive—About Outside Perspectives Growth doesn’t mean rejecting your tribe. It means adding more tools to your toolkit. Build Friendships Outside the First Responder Bubble Diversity in thought leads to better conversations, more empathy, and deeper self-awareness. Check the Narratives You Keep Repeating If everyone agrees with your pain, you might stop challenging it. Try Something That Makes You Uncomfortable Therapy, journaling, yoga—whatever feels “not like you” might be exactly what you need. Bring New Insights Back Into the Circle When you grow, you give others permission to grow too. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Brotherhood matters. Camaraderie saves lives. But growth lives outside the comfort zone. The stronger your foundation, the more important it is to build walls with windows—so you can see beyond what you’ve always known. 🎙️ Listen now to discover how to step outside the echo chamber and build a more balanced, resilient, and fully formed life—on and off the job. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37566955

E987 Over-Sanitizing the Job: Is Hiding the Truth Hurting Us? | Tactical Living Podcast 07/28/2025

E987 Over-Sanitizing the Job: Is Hiding the Truth Hurting Us? | Tactical Living Podcast “We can’t let the public see this.” But what if keeping it all behind the curtain is doing more harm than good? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton dive into the uncomfortable reality of over-sanitizing the job—and how hiding the full weight of what first responders experience may be limiting , trust, and genuine support. 🔎 Episode Overview: There’s a line between professionalism and protection—but in today’s culture, many officers feel forced to filter out the darkest parts of the job to preserve the department’s image or avoid public discomfort. This episode explores what happens when that silence becomes the norm. Are we protecting the public—or just isolating ourselves further? What would it look like to in a way that builds empathy instead of controversy? 🧠 5 Consequences of Over-Sanitizing the Job The Public Only Sees the Headlines—Not the Human Cost Example: Social media outrage about one call, without context or insight. Impact: Reinforces judgment, not understanding. Officers Feel Unseen and Unsupported Example: "They have no idea what we actually deal with." Impact: Creates emotional distance between responders and the communities they serve. Families Struggle to Understand What You Carry Example: You protect your spouse or kids from the truth—but it creates emotional walls. Impact: Undermines connection and breeds isolation. You Start to Dismiss the Value of Sharing Altogether Example: “They wouldn’t get it anyway, so why bother?” Impact: Silences important stories that need to be told. The Job Gets Glamorized or Demonized—But Rarely Understood Example: Media either glorifies the badge or tears it down. Impact: Leaves little room for the complexity and reality of the work. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Share the Truth Without Trauma-Dumping Speak From the Heart, Not From the Headlines Tell personal stories that humanize your experience without sensationalizing it. Use Education as a Bridge to Empathy Explain procedures, decisions, or emotional realities in ways the public can understand. Involve Your Community in Real Conversations Town halls, podcasts, or open forums can break down the walls—one honest moment at a time. Know Your Audience and Choose Your Words with Intention Tailor what you share based on who’s listening—your kid doesn’t need the same details as a peer. Let Vulnerability Be a Tool for Connection, Not Exposure You don’t have to share everything. But don’t share nothing. Somewhere in the middle is real power. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters The more we sanitize the job, the more misunderstood we become. But when we share with purpose, we stop being a uniform—and start being human. That’s how trust is built. That’s how change begins. 🎙️ Listen now to explore the cost of over-sanitizing the job—and how to speak your truth in a way that creates connection, not chaos. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37294535

E986 When Retirement Feels Like a Breakup | Tactical Living Podcast 07/25/2025

E986 When Retirement Feels Like a Breakup | Tactical Living Podcast You turned in your gear. You walked out the door. But why does it feel like something died? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore why (Amazon Affiliate) or fire service often feels like —and what it takes to rebuild a new identity, purpose, and sense of belonging on the other side. 🔎 Episode Overview: Retirement is supposed to be a reward. But for many first responders, it feels more like grief. After years of adrenaline, structure, and camaraderie, stepping away from the job can bring unexpected waves of loss, confusion, and emotional disconnection. This episode takes a raw look at the emotional side of retirement—why it hurts, what no one prepares you for, and how to rewire your mindset to build a future that’s full of meaning, even after the badge. 🧠 5 Signs Retirement Feels Like a Breakup You Feel Like You Lost a Part of Yourself Example: Without the badge, you’re unsure who you are or where you fit. Impact: Identity crisis and emotional numbness. You Miss the Team More Than the Work Example: You’re fine without the job—but lonely without the locker room. Impact: Loss of connection and brotherhood. You Struggle With Boredom or Lack of Structure Example: Days feel long, empty, or directionless. Impact: Can lead to depression, anxiety, or regret. You Downplay the Emotions Because It “Should Be a Good Thing” Example: Everyone celebrates—but inside, you're grieving. Impact: Suppresses real feelings and delays healing. You Compare Yourself to Who You Used to Be Example: You feel like your best days are behind you. Impact: Prevents growth and steals joy from the present. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Rebuild Identity and Purpose After Retirement Acknowledge the Grief Without Shame You didn’t just leave a job—you left a lifestyle, a tribe, a purpose. Let yourself mourn it. Redefine Purpose on Your Terms What mission excites you now? It doesn't need a uniform to matter. Reconnect With the Human Behind the Badge Explore hobbies, relationships, or passions that were put on hold during the job. Create New Community With People Who “Get It” Join veteran responder groups, volunteer, or mentor. Brotherhood doesn’t retire—you just have to find it again. Celebrate the Chapter That Was—Then Turn the Page Honor your career, but don’t stay stuck in it. You’ve still got more to give—and more to live. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Retirement isn’t the end—it’s a new beginning. But like any breakup, healing starts with honesty. You’re allowed to miss it. You’re allowed to rebuild. And you’re allowed to thrive beyond the badge. 🎙️ Listen now to learn how to navigate the emotional aftermath of retirement and start writing the next powerful chapter of your life. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37294475

E985 The Emotional Toll of Missing Holidays in Uniform | Tactical Living Podcast 07/23/2025

E985 The Emotional Toll of Missing Holidays in Uniform | Tactical Living Podcast You signed up to serve. But no one warned you how much it would hurt to miss the moments that matter most. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the hidden (Amazon Affiliate)—and how it slowly chips away at connection, tradition, and even self-worth. 🔎 Episode Overview: Missing a holiday shift here and there is expected. But when you're , the emotional fallout goes deeper than most people realize. This episode dives into how working holidays affects long-term family connection, your own memories and rituals, and how the absence can quietly turn into resentment—from you, your spouse, or your kids. You’ll learn how to make peace with the role, honor what you're sacrificing, and rebuild meaningful traditions—on or off the calendar. 🧠 5 Emotional Realities of Missing Holidays for Years You Feel Disconnected From Family Traditions Example: You forget what your own holiday routines even looked like. Impact: Creates emotional distance and a sense of being left out of your own life. Your Kids Associate the Holidays With Your Absence Example: “Daddy’s always gone on Christmas.” Impact: Shapes childhood memories with feelings of loss or confusion. Your Spouse Feels Like They’re Doing It All Alone Example: Planning, decorating, cooking, parenting—without you. Impact: Builds quiet resentment and emotional fatigue. You Start to Numb Out or Dread the Season Entirely Example: Holidays no longer excite you—they make you feel bitter or detached. Impact: Prevents joy, connection, and meaningful reflection. You Avoid Talking About How Much It Actually Hurts Example: “It’s just part of the job,” becomes a coping phrase. Impact: Buries pain instead of processing it, deepening long-term emotional strain. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Reclaim Meaning—Even When You’re Working Create “Alternate Holidays” on Your Days Off Make your own traditions on different days. The date isn’t what matters—the connection is. Leave a Presence, Even If You Can’t Be There Letters, videos, gifts, or planned activities can help your family feel seen even in your absence. Be Honest With Your Family About the Sacrifice Let them know how much it matters to you—even if you can’t be home. Make Peace With the Role, But Not at the Cost of Your Emotions Acknowledge the loss. Don’t normalize pain just because it’s routine. Find One Ritual That Grounds You in the Season Even if it’s just a holiday playlist during patrol—something to remind you that this time still matters. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Serving during the holidays is a sacrifice—but it doesn’t mean you're not allowed to feel the weight of it. Your absence doesn’t make you less important. It makes you human—and worthy of finding connection in new, creative ways. 🎙️ Listen now to unpack the long-term emotional effects of working holidays and learn how to honor what you’ve missed without losing what still matters most. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37294445

E984 When Your Spouse and Your Law Enforcement Career Clash | Tactical Living Podcast 07/21/2025

E984 When Your Spouse and Your Law Enforcement Career Clash | Tactical Living Podcast You’re (Amazon Affiliate)—and to each other. But what happens when those two worlds start pulling in opposite directions? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the tension that builds when your law enforcement career starts to conflict with your marriage—and how to protect both without losing either. 🔎 Episode Overview: The long shifts, , missed holidays, and unpredictable danger of the job can wear down even the strongest relationship. Over time, what started as pride and support can shift into frustration, resentment, or disconnect. This episode dives into the real-life collisions between duty and domestic life, helping you understand where conflict comes from, how to talk about it without going to war, and what it takes to fight for your marriage while still honoring your mission. 🧠 5 Signs Your Career Is Creating Stress in Your Marriage Your Partner Feels Like They’re Competing With the Job Example: They say, “You’re married to your shift—not to me.” Impact: Leads to emotional withdrawal and communication breakdowns. You Use Work to Avoid Conflict at Home Example: Volunteering for overtime just to escape the tension. Impact: Deepens division and delays healing. Your Spouse Feels Shut Out From Your Emotional World Example: You don’t talk about your stress, but it shows up in your tone and behavior. Impact: Creates emotional walls and confusion for your partner. You’re Always in “Protector Mode” at Home Example: You micromanage routines, control decisions, or react defensively. Impact: Makes your partner feel policed, not partnered. You Both Avoid Talking About the Real Issue Example: Surface-level arguments cover deeper pain—like fear, loneliness, or unmet needs. Impact: Keeps both of you stuck in the same unhealthy loop. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Reconnect When the Job and Marriage Are at Odds Name the Conflict Without Blame Start with: “I feel like we’ve been drifting, and I want to fix that—together.” Share the Emotional Cost of the Job—Not Just the Details Your partner doesn’t need the call log—they need you. Be real about what you’re carrying. Create Time That’s Sacred and Screen-Free Even one night a week without phones or talk about work can reset your connection. Let Your Spouse Into Your World Without Making It Their Burden Share just enough for understanding—not so much that it traumatizes or overwhelms. Get Help Before Things Break Down There’s no shame in needing support. Marriage counseling or coaching can be a tactical move—not a last resort. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters The job demands a lot—but so does your marriage. You can serve your community and your partner… but not without intention. Connection doesn’t just happen—it has to be protected. 🎙️ Listen now to learn how to navigate the clash between duty and devotion—and how to rebuild your relationship before the distance becomes permanent. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37294375

E983 The Lone Wolf Lie: Why You Don’t Have to Fix It Alone | Tactical Living Podcast 07/18/2025

E983 The Lone Wolf Lie: Why You Don’t Have to Fix It Alone | Tactical Living Podcast “I’ll handle it.” It’s a mindset that feels honorable—but often becomes isolating. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton challenge the myth that you have to (Amazon Affiliate) —and explore what happens when the “lone wolf” mentality becomes more harmful than heroic. 🔎 Episode Overview: First responders are trained to lead, respond quickly, and stay in control. But when that mindset bleeds into , relationships, and mental health, it can create emotional isolation, chronic stress, and quiet burnout. This episode dives into the belief that asking for help is weakness, the cultural factors that reinforce it, and the real strength it takes to lean into support—both on the job and at home. 🧠 5 Signs You’ve Fallen Into the Lone Wolf Trap You Rarely Ask for Help—Even When You’re Overwhelmed Example: You take on every task at home or work without delegating. Impact: Leads to burnout and hidden resentment. You Feel Weak or Ashamed When You Can’t Handle Something Alone Example: You avoid therapy or peer support because it feels like failure. Impact: Keeps struggles unaddressed and emotional wounds unhealed. You Hide Your Struggles to Keep Up Appearances Example: You act like everything’s fine—even when it’s not. Impact: Creates emotional disconnection from those who care. You Push Others Away When They Offer Support Example: You shut down or deflect when someone asks if you're okay. Impact: Reinforces the belief that you’re alone in what you’re going through. You Take Pride in “Suffering in Silence” Example: You believe enduring quietly is a badge of honor. Impact: Turns internal struggle into long-term emotional harm. 🛠️ 5 Healthier Alternatives to the Lone Wolf Mentality Reframe Asking for Help as Tactical Strength You’d never shame a teammate for calling backup—apply that same logic to yourself. Build a Circle of Trust Before Crisis Hits Identify peers, mentors, or professionals you can turn to when things get heavy. Practice Vulnerability in Small Doses Start with safe conversations. You don’t have to spill everything—just start opening the door. Use Team-Based Thinking in Your Personal Life Whether it’s parenting, finances, or stress—view your household as a unit, not a one-man show. Acknowledge That True Strength Requires Community Every warrior has a tribe. Find yours and lean into it when it counts most. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Being the strong one doesn’t mean being the only one. You were never meant to do this life—or this job—alone. Let’s rewrite the narrative: Asking for help is not surrender. It’s strategy. 🎙️ Listen now to break the lone wolf mindset and discover the freedom that comes with shared strength, connection, and support. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37016515

E982 Who Are You Without the Badge? | Tactical Living Podcast 07/16/2025

E982 Who Are You Without the Badge? | Tactical Living Podcast If the job ended tomorrow—who would you be? In this deeply reflective episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the personal identity crisis many first responders face when their sense of self is completely wrapped in the badge… and what it means to (Amazon Affiliate), meaning, and value beyond the uniform. 🔎 Episode Overview: . But promotions, injuries, retirement, or unexpected exits can shake that identity to its core. This episode challenges you to consider: Are you building a life that will still feel whole when the radio goes silent? Whether you're new to the job, nearing retirement, or somewhere in between, this conversation helps you reflect on your true identity—outside of rank, shift, or status—and gives you the tools to start developing it now. 🧠 5 Signs Your Identity Is Too Tied to the Badge You Struggle to Talk About Interests Outside the Job Example: When asked what you enjoy, you default to work stories. Impact: Limits your sense of self beyond your profession. You Feel Aimless or Anxious During Extended Time Off Example: Vacation or injury leave makes you feel disconnected or useless. Impact: Reveals a gap between who you are and what you do. Your Relationships Revolve Around Work Conversations Example: The badge shows up at the dinner table, even when you're home. Impact: Prevents emotional presence and variety in connection. You Can’t Picture Life After Retirement Example: You avoid thinking about what comes next. Impact: Creates fear of the future and delays personal growth. You Feel Lost Without the Uniform Example: Days off feel like you’re “out of place” in your own skin. Impact: Sign of a fractured identity in need of expansion. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Reclaim and Rebuild Your Identity Outside the Job Start Exploring Interests That Have Nothing to Do With Work Try a hobby, activity, or passion that reminds you of who you are outside the job. Build Relationships That Aren’t Tied to Your Role Create community that isn’t dependent on the badge—people who love you, not your position. Visualize Who You Want to Be in the Next Chapter What kind of person, partner, or parent do you want to become? Start building that version now. Reflect on Your Core Values—Not Just Your Training Are you loyal, creative, funny, wise, compassionate? Let those qualities lead. Ask Yourself Weekly: What Did I Do This Week That Had Nothing to Do With the Job? Track your progress. Expand your identity—one small step at a time. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters The badge is part of your story—not the whole book. When you build a life rooted in who you are instead of what you do, you create lasting strength, resilience, and freedom. 🎙️ Listen now to rediscover your identity beyond the uniform—and start building a future that’s grounded in you. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37016455

E981 Afraid to Ask for Help: The Stigma Around EAP in the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast 07/14/2025

E981 Afraid to Ask for Help: The Stigma Around EAP in the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast The tools are there. The support is available. But many officers still don’t reach out. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore why so many first responders are afraid to use their Employee Assistance Program (EAP)—and how to (Amazon Affiliate). 🔎 Episode Overview: Your department says it’s okay to get help. But inside the locker room? It still feels like weakness. The —but for many, it feels like a risk. This episode takes an honest look at the unspoken fear, pride, and stigma that stop officers from getting the mental health support they need—and offers real, actionable steps to change the story, both personally and culturally. 🧠 5 Reasons Officers Avoid Using EAP Benefits Fear of Career Repercussions Example: “Will they flag me? Will this be on my record?” Impact: Keeps officers suffering in silence even when help is within reach. Mistrust in Confidentiality Example: Worrying a supervisor or HR will somehow find out. Impact: Undermines the safety and credibility of the program. Stigma From Peers or the Department Culture Example: “He’s seeing someone? Must be soft.” Impact: Discourages vulnerability and creates emotional isolation. Belief That Help Is for When You’re “Broken” Example: Waiting until a complete breakdown to reach out. Impact: Misses the opportunity for early, effective support. Not Knowing What Services Are Actually Available Example: Unclear communication about what the EAP includes. Impact: Leaves many thinking it’s not worth using—or not made for them. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Shift the Narrative and Use the Support You Deserve Redefine Strength as Proactive, Not Just Reactive Getting help before you’re in crisis is the most tactical move you can make. Talk About It Openly With Trusted Peers Normalize the conversation—one honest discussion can shift the entire culture. Educate Yourself on EAP Confidentiality and Access Ask the right questions. Know your rights. Empower yourself with facts. Use the Benefit for More Than Just a Mental Breakdown EAPs often include legal help, family support, financial planning, and more—leverage all of it. Lead by Example—Even Quietly You don’t have to announce it. But when you model help-seeking behavior, others notice. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters You wouldn’t ignore a backup call in the field—so why ignore one for your mind? The sooner we drop the stigma, the stronger we all become. 🎙️ Listen now to learn how to overcome fear around using EAP benefits and take ownership of your mental health—on your terms. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37016415

E980 When Your Kids Don’t Want the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast 07/11/2025

E980 When Your Kids Don’t Want the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast You wore the badge with pride. Maybe your father did too. But what happens when your child decides to take a different path? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the emotional impact of pressure—and how to process it when the next generation doesn’t follow in your professional footsteps. 🔎 Episode Overview: For many first responders, the job isn’t just a career—it’s part of the family identity. There’s pride in the tradition, , and meaning in passing it down. But what if your son or daughter says, “That’s not for me”? This episode dives into the personal and cultural weight of breaking the badge legacy, how to recognize the subtle ways pressure shows up, and how to shift from expectation to unconditional support—while still honoring your own sacrifice and identity. 🧠 5 Signs You Might Be Struggling With Legacy Disappointment You Feel Hurt or Rejected by Their Career Choices Example: You quietly hoped they’d become a firefighter—but they chose art school. Impact: Internal conflict between pride and perceived dismissal of tradition. You Subtly Drop Hints or Bring It Up Often Example: “You’d be great in uniform,” becomes a regular comment. Impact: Creates emotional distance and pressure without realizing it. You Compare Their Life Path to Your Own Example: You struggle to see value in their profession because it’s not “life or death” work. Impact: Limits emotional connection and mutual respect. You Feel Like the Family Legacy Stops With You Example: You feel grief or regret that your badge story won’t be carried on. Impact: Can stir up feelings of purposelessness or personal failure. You Worry They Won’t Understand Your World Without Living It Example: You fear they won’t “get you” if they never serve. Impact: Undermines emotional intimacy and generational connection. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Let Go of Legacy Pressure and Embrace Their Path Honor Your Legacy Without Needing It Repeated Your sacrifice stands on its own. It doesn’t require replication to be meaningful. Be Curious, Not Controlling Ask your child why they chose their path. Learn from them like you’d want them to learn from you. Celebrate Their Bravery in Choosing Differently It takes courage to step away from family expectation. Recognize that strength. Create New Traditions That Aren’t Tied to the Job Start something that builds connection without relying on the uniform. Let Love Define Legacy, Not Occupation What your child becomes professionally is not a measure of how deeply they love or admire you. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters The badge may stop at your generation—but the values behind it—courage, service, discipline, and integrity—can live on in any path your child chooses. Legacy isn’t lost. It’s just evolving. 🎙️ Listen now to process the complex emotions behind legacy pressure and learn how to release expectations in exchange for deeper connection and pride in who your child truly is. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37016325

E979 The Guilt of Surviving: Unspoken Remorse in the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast 07/09/2025

E979 The Guilt of Surviving: Unspoken Remorse in the Badge | Tactical Living Podcast Why them and not me? It’s a question that haunts many first responders after tragic calls. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton open up the conversation around (Amazon Affiliate)—the silent guilt that creeps in when you walk away from something others didn’t. 🔎 Episode Overview: First responders are trained to move on quickly, stay sharp, and carry on. But when someone else doesn’t make it—whether it's a partner, a civilian, or even a stranger—it leaves a mark. That invisible is often masked by silence, buried beneath duty, and misunderstood even by those closest to you. This episode explores the emotional aftermath of surviving, how guilt can twist into shame, and what healing actually looks like when you're carrying more than just the memory of the moment. 🧠 5 Signs You Might Be Carrying Survivor’s Guilt You Replay the Incident Over and Over Again Example: You obsess about what you could’ve done differently—even when everyone says you did everything right. Impact: Fuels self-blame and emotional exhaustion. You Avoid Talking About the Call or Event Altogether Example: You go silent or shut down whenever the incident is brought up. Impact: Creates internal buildup of grief with no release. You Struggle to Celebrate Life Events or Promotions Example: You feel like you didn’t “earn” your milestones because someone else didn’t make it. Impact: Undermines self-worth and breeds quiet resentment. You Push Down Emotion to “Stay Strong” for Others Example: You carry everyone else's pain but ignore your own. Impact: Delays healing and increases emotional suppression. You Feel a Persistent Sense of Unearned Luck Example: You were supposed to be there—or were—and still survived. Impact: Creates a disconnect between logic and lingering guilt. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Work Through the Guilt of Survival Name What You’re Feeling Without Judgment Guilt, sadness, confusion, even anger—labeling emotion is the first step to releasing it. Tell the Story to Someone Who Can Hold It Whether it’s a peer, therapist, or mentor—don’t carry it alone. Honor the Person or People Lost in a Way That Heals Create a ritual, a tribute, or an act of service in their memory. Separate Responsibility From Outcome You can do everything right and still lose someone. Survival doesn’t mean failure. Give Yourself Permission to Keep Living Fully You didn’t survive to suffer—you survived to live, love, and serve with even deeper purpose. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Survivor’s remorse is rarely talked about—but it’s painfully real. The guilt of surviving doesn’t make you weak. It makes you human. And when that guilt is unpacked with compassion, it can lead to profound strength and transformation. 🎙️ Listen now to learn how to acknowledge survivor’s guilt, honor what you’ve been through, and give yourself permission to move forward without forgetting. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37016310

E978 Protecting Your Partner’s Peace: Sharing Without Overloading | Tactical Living Podcast 07/07/2025

E978 Protecting Your Partner’s Peace: Sharing Without Overloading | Tactical Living Podcast Your spouse wants to support you—but do they need to hear everything? In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the delicate balance between honest communication and emotional dumping in (Amazon Affiliate)—and how to protect your partner’s peace without shutting them out. 🔎 Episode Overview: First responders face intense, graphic, and emotionally charged situations on a regular basis. But when it comes to sharing those experiences at home, the line between transparency and trauma transfer gets blurry fast. This episode unpacks how to create in your relationship without placing a mental load on your partner that they didn’t sign up for. We’ll walk you through how to stay open without being overwhelming—and how to share your world in a way that strengthens your bond rather than fractures it. 🧠 5 Signs You Might Be Overloading Instead of Connecting Your Partner Seems Anxious or Withdrawn After You Share Details Example: You describe a call in graphic detail, and they shut down. Impact: Triggers emotional discomfort, even if they don’t tell you. You Vent Regularly Without Asking If They’re in a Space to Receive It Example: You come home and immediately unload. Impact: Turns your partner into a sounding board instead of a teammate. You Use Sharing to Offload, Not to Connect Example: You talk about the job, but never about how you feel about it. Impact: Prevents emotional intimacy and leaves your partner feeling like an outsider. Your Partner Starts Avoiding Conversations About Work Example: They change the subject or give short responses. Impact: Signals emotional overload or the need for better boundaries. You Rarely Ask What They Need Before Sharing Example: You assume they want to hear everything. Impact: Creates imbalance in the relationship and limits mutual support. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Share Without Sacrificing Their Peace Ask Before You Offload Simple check-in: “Do you have space for me to talk about something heavy right now?” Filter With Care, Not Secrecy Omitting graphic details doesn’t mean you’re hiding—it means you’re protecting. Share the Feeling, Not Just the Facts Instead of recounting the call, talk about what it stirred in you. This builds emotional connection. Make Time for Light, Joyful Conversations Too Don’t let every conversation revolve around stress. Laughter is medicine. Let Them Be Your Partner—Not Your Therapist Seek professional support for what’s too heavy to carry together. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Being open doesn’t mean being unfiltered. Your partner wants to be your safe place—not your emotional dumping ground. With intention and care, you can share the weight of the job without shifting the burden onto the people you love most. 🎙️ Listen now to learn how to protect your relationship, preserve your partner’s peace, and still feel seen, supported, and understood. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37016265

E977 Burn Bags, Go Bags, and Emotional Baggage | Tactical Living Podcast 07/04/2025

E977 Burn Bags, Go Bags, and Emotional Baggage | Tactical Living Podcast You (Amazon Affiliate)—but your emotional load tells a different story. In this episode of the Tactical Living Podcast, Coach Ashlie Walton and Sergeant Clint Walton explore the deeper symbolism behind what first responders carry—from burn bags and go bags to emotional baggage that’s harder to unpack. 🔎 Episode Overview: Every responder knows the . Your bag might carry trauma shears, med kits, backup mags, or comms gear. But beneath the surface, those tools often mirror the emotional weight you carry, too—grief, fear, regret, hyper-vigilance. This episode takes a hard look at the connection between your physical gear and your psychological load, helping you identify what you’ve packed for survival… and what you may need to release for your own recovery. 🧠 5 Signs Your Physical Load Reflects Unspoken Emotional Weight You Carry More Than You Actually Need—“Just in Case” Example: Extra tools, backups for backups, gear you rarely use. Impact: May reflect hyper-vigilance, anxiety, or fear of losing control. You Feel Exposed Without Certain Items Example: You’re uncomfortable even running a quick errand without your go bag. Impact: Suggests a reliance on preparedness for emotional security. You Constantly Reorganize or Add to Your Kit Example: New bag setups, better EDC tools, constant upgrades. Impact: A form of distraction or control when life feels unpredictable. You Feel Emotionally Attached to Certain Gear Example: Old items you can’t part with—even if they’re worn or irrelevant. Impact: Links the object to a memory, trauma, or unprocessed emotion. You Avoid Reflecting on Why You Carry What You Carry Example: You’ve never asked, “Why do I need this with me?” Impact: Keeps emotional habits unexamined and unchecked. 🛠️ 5 Ways to Unpack Your Baggage—Physically and Emotionally Audit Your Bag With Radical Honesty Lay it all out. Ask yourself: “Do I need this—or am I emotionally attached to it?” Connect Items With Emotions Notice what memories or feelings come up with certain gear. Acknowledge them. Make Room for Recovery Tools, Not Just Response Gear Include items that help you regulate, not just react—like journals, sleep aids, or prayer cards. Talk About What You Carry With a Trusted Partner or Peer Whether it’s literal gear or grief—sharing lightens the load. Practice Letting Go—One Item or Thought at a Time You can be prepared without being imprisoned by your past or your pack. 🎯 Why This Episode Matters Preparedness is smart. Overpacking—mentally or physically—is exhausting. What you carry says a lot about who you are, where you’ve been, and what you fear. But it also reveals your strength, your growth, and your willingness to heal. 🎙️ Listen now to unpack what your gear—and your emotional load—is really telling you. 💥 Gear We Recommend for Our First Responder Community: 🛡️ Tactical storage made easy: 🎯 Connect With Us: ✅ Join our 🎥 Subscribe on for behind-the-scenes content and live interviews 🌐 Visit for coaching, resources, and more 💬 Listener Question: What’s one small act of service you can do today to honor someone who served? Let us know in the Facebook group or DM us on Instagram! Disclaimer: All viewpoints discussed in this episode are for entertainment purposes only and reflect our personal opinions based on our own experiences, background, and education. 🎙️ Want to be a guest on Tactical Living? Send a message to Ashlie Walton on PodMatch → (Ad) Some product links in this episode may be affiliate links, which means we may earn a small commission if you make a purchase—at no extra cost to you. We only share products we genuinely believe in and trust. 📣 For PR, Speaking Requests, or Networking Opportunities: 📧 Email: 📫 Mailing Address: P.O. Box 400115, Hesperia, CA 92340 🔗 Ashlie’s Facebook: /episode/index/show/tacticalliving/id/37016245

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