Tapping Q & A - Getting the most out of tapping and EFT
EFT (Emotional Freedom Techniques) Tapping is a powerful tool for reducing pain, physical trauma, and eliminating limiting beliefs. Each week tapping expert, Gene Monterastelli, and his amazing guests answer the most common (and uncommon) questions on how to get the most out of EFT. If you want to maximize your success with tapping, this is an indispensable resource. The host of the Tapping Q & A Podcast, Gene Monterastelli, works one-on-one with small business owners and entrepreneurs to help them eliminate self-sabotage so that they can take the actions they need to take to be successful, starting with the most important tasks first. Past guests of the show have included Mary Ayers, Dr. Peta Stapleton, Julie Schiffman, Brad Yates, Rick Hanson, Ph.D., Mark Wolynn, Rick Wilkes, Carol Look, Steve Wells, and Jessica Ortner.
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The Myth of the One Big Tapping Breakthrough (Pod #674)
09/19/2025
The Myth of the One Big Tapping Breakthrough (Pod #674)
One of the healthiest changes that has happened in the tapping world over the last decade is that we spend less time talking about the one-minute or one-session miracles. This sort of instant transformation does happen and it happens regularly. It just doesn't happen all the time! The reason I am happy that we no longer talk in those terms is because it creates unrealistic expectations for tapping. Assuming that tapping always works quickly means that when it doesn't, we think we are doing something wrong, or tapping doesn't work, or it won't work for our particular issue. Even with a healthy expectation of the speed of healing and transformation, we can still hold unrealistic hopes for a round of tapping or the healing process. This week in the podcast, we look at the rate of healing, how we can measure it to gauge whether we are on the right track and how to avoid creating unrealistic (and harmful) expectations. If you have a regular tapping practice, I highly recommend listening to this episode. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Tapping for the Fear of Feeling Too Much (Pod #673)
09/11/2025
Tapping for the Fear of Feeling Too Much (Pod #673)
As a tool, tapping is such a powerful way to tune in to our emotions. Feeling, processing, and moving through emotions is a key part of the healing and transformational experience. At the same time, there is a certain capacity to our emotional experience. Feeling deeply is a powerful part of transformation until it becomes too much. I have often heard my clients describing this experience like trying to drink from a fire hose. It is just too much, too fast. It can be scary and disorienting to feel completely overwhelmed in this way. After experiencing your emotions getting the better of you will mean that you learn to be on guard. It is good for us to be wary unless it means we become so cautious that we stop moving forward in our healing journey. This week in the podcast, I share with you what to do when the fear of being too emotional is holding back your healing. Using this process means you can strike a balance between not being overwhelmed and allowing deep and powerful healing to take place. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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How to Tap When You Don’t Know What to Say (Pod #672)
09/04/2025
How to Tap When You Don’t Know What to Say (Pod #672)
You know you'd benefit from some tapping, so you sit down ready to get into it. You want it to work…but as soon as you start, your mind goes blank. You freeze because you can't think of the right words to use. After a few minutes, you give up, thinking you must be doing it wrong. This happens to everyone, even experienced tappers, and I want to reassure you that it does not mean you are bad at tapping. Why Your Mind Goes Blank Several things cause a freeze response. Feeling overwhelmed leads to mental shutdown. Trying to get it "right" creates performance pressure. Fear of going too deep triggers protection mode. Past experiences with scripted tapping have taught you that precision equals success. Your internal voice tells you: "I should know what to say by now. But if I don't have the perfect words, this won't work." This thinking is all wrong. Words Are Not the Magic The tapping itself is the power that creates transformation, not the specific words. Tapping works by calming your nervous system and changing how your body holds stress. Even neutral or vague words will activate the healing process. Your goal is presence, not poetry. What to Do When You Go Blank Listen to this week's podcast to learn the three simple approaches you can use when you sit down to tap and don't know what to say. All three approaches are easy to master and even if you learn just one, it will make a huge difference in the efficacy of your tapping sessions, how long you tap, and how often you tap. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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The Shame of Starting Over (Again) (Pod #671)
08/29/2025
The Shame of Starting Over (Again) (Pod #671)
brutal truth nobody talks about in the self-help world: The healing and transformational work never ends. Every breakthrough just reveals a fresh layer of issues to be worked through. It would be wonderful if one day I was done, but I am open to the fact that it's an ongoing process. For me, the single toughest place in the transformational and healing process is when I feel like I am starting over again. And calling it tough is an understatement. Finding myself back at the beginning is frustrating, disappointing, demoralizing, devastating and, for me, the worst part is the shame I feel. My shame is because it feels like such a personal failing. I know what to do, I know how to do it, I was doing the work, and now that I am back at the beginning, there is only one person to blame: ME! This week in the podcast I am sharing what I've learned after years of experiencing this cycle myself and seeing it in my clients. It will shift your whole perspective, helping you to get your mojo back to do the work and reinforce all the work you have already done, so you don't end up in the same place again. Subscribe in: | | | | |
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Healing Starts With Remembering Who You Are w/ Sarah Tobin (Pod #670)
08/21/2025
Healing Starts With Remembering Who You Are w/ Sarah Tobin (Pod #670)
When you have been through something hard, such as grief, trauma, or a season of disconnection in your life, it is easy to forget what wholeness feels like. You lose touch with the part of you that still knows peace, still feels love, and still remembers who you were before the story changed. In this episode, I talk with Sarah Tobin about what it means to remember yourself. Not in a vague or inspirational way, but as an intentional, embodied healing process. Sarah’s journey with tapping began after the loss of her daughter. What followed was a deep and personal transformation that led her to write a book designed to help others reconnect with themselves. This is not just about feeling better, it is about living more truthfully. Sarah makes a clear case for tapping as a spiritual tool that is well beyond its use as a tool for emotional regulation. We explore how healing is both an act of self-compassion and a choice to take responsibility for your path forward. Key Takeaways From the Conversation: Tapping helps you come home to yourself Sarah explains how trauma creates layers of belief and protection that separate you from your core. Tapping helps release those layers so you can reconnect with what is already whole inside you. Your stories shape your world You can change them. Most of the beliefs you live by were created early and without your awareness. Sarah shares how to trace these beliefs back to their origin, question them, and choose something different. Ego is not your enemy Instead of fighting resistance, Sarah teaches people to invite the ego into the healing process. Tapping with the ego helps reduce fear and brings internal safety, which makes deeper change easier. Healing is your responsibility, not your fault This part of the conversation speaks directly to anyone who has blamed themselves for their pain. Sarah offers a more honest view. You did not cause your suffering, but your healing is something you have the power to choose. Grief and love can exist together Sarah’s story is rooted in personal loss. Her book is more than a tool. It is a lived offering of what happens when you let your pain become a path to deeper connection and purpose. Sarah’s clarity and presence offer something rare. If you have ever felt stuck in your healing or unsure how to move forward, this conversation gives you a place to begin. Subscribe in: | | | | | | Guest: Sarah Tobin *Contact: Book - ; web About: Sarah Tobin is an Emotional Freedom Techniques (EFT) Therapist and Trainer, who works with her clients all over the world to help them release birth trauma, ancestral trauma, limiting beliefs and emotional blocks. She hosts corporate workshops teaching EFT as a self-management tool for stress, anxiety and overwhelm. Sarah also runs an online membership and community called 'Tapping into You’, which supports over 100 members from Alaska to Florida, UK and Ireland with tapping videos, audio meditations, workshops, courses and more. She also hosts the Tapping into Podcast, which explores spiritual and alternative practices that can change lives. Sarah is passionate about helping her clients to tap into their true selves and find their path of personal growth and transformation. With the use of EFT, she helps people to reduce symptoms of anxiety, PND, depression, PTSD and physical pain. She also works with her clients to increase energy levels and improve sleep through the release of stress. Sarah believes in creating lasting change by combining powerful techniques with gentle compassion and unconditional love. Her mission is to empower her clients to become their own healers and create a life they truly love living.a
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How to tap when you are too numb to feel anything (Pod #669)
08/14/2025
How to tap when you are too numb to feel anything (Pod #669)
When you were first taught how to tap, more than likely you were asked to tune in to your issue in some form or fashion. You might have been asked to describe where you feel it in your body, what it reminds you of, or to rate its intensity on a 0–10 scale. These are all great ways for us to focus our attention, which improves the value of each round of tapping. While these ways work well, they all assume that we can identify an issue to tune in to, even if it is something small. But what happens when it feels like there is nothing to grasp? You know there is an issue but when you sit down to tap for it there is nothing to tune in to. There are no memories, no physical sensations, or anything at all. Sometimes we draw a blank, or even just feel numb. When this happens and we have no focus, it is much harder to start tapping. In this week's podcast I share how to start tapping when you are feeling nothing so that you aren't wasting your time or effort. [player] Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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When You’re Afraid Tapping Might Work (Pod #668)
08/07/2025
When You’re Afraid Tapping Might Work (Pod #668)
I know this sounds strange, but you’re not afraid tapping won’t work. You’re actually afraid it might. In this episode, I dig into a truth that has come up repeatedly in my conversations with clients and students. Even when we know how powerful tapping can be, something inside stops us from doing it as often as we could. That something, I’ve come to realize, is fear of change itself. It’s not that we don’t want to heal and to experience the change it brings. But even positive change feels uncertain and uncertainty feels unsafe to the subconscious, which is always on alert for what might go wrong. So instead of leaning in, we hesitate. We stay stuck. This week, I share a simple, powerful way to get underneath that resistance. It starts with just one sentence: Even though I know it’s not logically true, emotionally it feels unsafe to be successful because... That single prompt can open up space where you feel stuck, even if nothing else has worked before. Not only do I explain how using the phrase is the key to unlocking our resistance to tap, we also do a bunch of tapping so you clear that resistance right now. If you’ve been meaning to tap more but just haven’t been able to start, I hope this episode gives you the nudge and permission to begin again. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Tapping for Animals (Pod #667)
07/24/2025
Tapping for Animals (Pod #667)
One of the most common questions I receive is "Can we use tapping to help the animals we love?" The answer is a resounding YES! But in order for tapping to work well, we first need to know the most useful approach. Tapping for our animals isn't just a matter of looking at our animals and tapping. While that can be useful, there are better ways to get results. This week in the podcast, I am going to share with you the surprising place it's best to start when tapping for the animals in our lives. Then I will reach you with a simple three-step framework that I use every time I am tapping for animals. If you find this approach useful, please join me for a deeper dive into the topic on Sunday, August 3rd at 2 PM Eastern US. Full details and sign up here: Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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What I wish I had known sooner (Pod #666)
07/18/2025
What I wish I had known sooner (Pod #666)
One of my favorite questions when interviewing someone about their tapping journey is, "If you could share one piece of advice with your younger self, what would that advice be?" For some reason I was reflecting on that question recently, not for someone I was interviewing, but for myself. The piece of advice that I would give to Gene-the-beginner-tapper would be to go more slowly. This week in the podcast, I share four different ways that I now move more slowly when I am tapping on my own or with clients. All four of them have transformed the way I tap for the better. Not only do I think these ideas would be useful for the younger version of myself, but I know that they will make your tapping more effective as well! [player] Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Excuses v. Explanations (Pod #665)
07/10/2025
Excuses v. Explanations (Pod #665)
Finding a balance between taking responsibility for our lives and taking too much responsibility for what is going on is a tricky matter. Taking too much responsibility may seem like a silly notion, but it can happen in many ways. One of these ways is when we refuse to allow ourselves grace or forgiveness. We recognize that we have made a mistake and then, whether consciously or unconsciously, we decide that we are not allowed to get past it. As part of our penance we beat ourselves up, thinking it will lead to us making better choices in the future. When we think about the context of the mistake we think, "That is just an excuse. I should have done better!" It is possible for us to know that we could have done better AND to recognize the context at the same time. We aren't making an excuse when we do this, but we are giving an explanation. In this week's podcast, I explore the difference between excuses and explanations. Understanding the key difference between the two will help to find a path that includes both taking responsibility and offering ourselves grace. Not understanding the difference will keep us stuck. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Does staying stuck keep you safe? (Pod #664)
06/26/2025
Does staying stuck keep you safe? (Pod #664)
One of the ideas that really makes my clients bristle is the possibility that their self-sabotaging behaviors are guided by their system's well-meaning intention to keep them safe. They question, "How is it possible that my subconscious mind thinks it is trying to keep me safe when all it is doing is making my life harder?" That is a great question because it feels counterintuitive that our desire to be safe is actually holding back our progress. This week in the podcast, we explore why the subconscious mind gets in the way in trying to keep us safe AND the first step to overcoming this common issue. I believe that this is one of the most important concepts in all of tapping and if you aren't doing it, you are slowing your progress and also limiting your tapping results. [player] Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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The secret to tapping more and healing faster (Pod #663)
05/29/2025
The secret to tapping more and healing faster (Pod #663)
For some issues, tracking progress is simple. I can tell if my desk is less cluttered, if I can lift more weight while working out, or if I am making more sales in my business. That is because these examples are measured in hard metrics, or in other words, cold, hard numbers. Changes that are measured in soft metrics are more difficult to track. For example, it is much harder to quantify growth in my self-esteem or confidence. Much of the transformation we are trying to achieve with tapping is measured in soft metrics. Because it is hard to measure, it can escape our notice and therefore is more likely to be missed. And that results in us thinking that change isn't happening at all, because we don't see it. This can undermine our healing and can demotivate us from tapping more. In this week's podcast, we explore three simple ways we can more accurately track soft metrics and recognize our progress. In turn, this leads to more tapping, which (most importantly) results in more healing and transformation. This understanding changed the way I tapped forever because it means I am tapping more, leading to more transformation. I believe these three measures are something every tapper should have in their transformational tool box. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Tapping to clear your resistance to change (Pod #662)
05/22/2025
Tapping to clear your resistance to change (Pod #662)
One of our biggest struggles in creating transformation and change in our lives is those moments where we know WHAT to do, we know HOW to do it, and we know WHY it is valuable to take an action…and yet we just don't. It is obvious what the next step is and for some reason we don't take it. Then, as a bonus, we beat ourselves up for not taking action. So as well as not moving forward, we feel bad for letting ourselves down. This week in the podcast we explore where this resistance comes from, how to overcome it and (just as importantly) we will tap for all the emotions that come up when we let ourselves down. If you are trying to create change in your life, then you must listen to this episode. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Tapping to safely acknowledge my gifts (Pod #661)
05/15/2025
Tapping to safely acknowledge my gifts (Pod #661)
One of Marianne Williamson's most cited quotes starts "Our deepest fear is not that we are inadequate. Our deepest fear is that we are powerful beyond measure." It is quoted so often because of how deeply it resonates, speaking directly to the contradiction that is part of our lived human experience. On one hand we want to live an authentic and rich life…on the other hand, our subconscious mind just wants us to be safe. This desire to be safe keeps us small because if we are small, then we aren't seen, and if we aren't seen, then we are safe. This week in the podcast, we explore the three biggest subconscious fears that keep us small and we do lots of tapping to clear those resistances. Description Libsyn & Wordpress Body: Subscribe in: | | | | |
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Tapping for the fear of letting yourself down (Pod #660)
04/30/2025
Tapping for the fear of letting yourself down (Pod #660)
Letting ourselves down is one of the deepest betrayals that we humans can experience. It feels like such a harsh gut punch when it is something we know we should have been able to do. After we let ourselves down in such a powerful way, our subconscious will do everything in its power, through resistance to take action so as to keep us safe. It reasons that since it was so painful to let ourselves down, the way to avoid that pain in the future is simply not to commit to something better. Intellectually we know this is a bad plan, but the resistance will persist, trying (and often succeeding) to hold us back. This week in the podcast we look at why we created this resistance, how to overcome it in the moment, and how to avoid it in the future. If you are serious about healing and transformation, clearing the resistance to making commitments to yourself is essential. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Should you improve or change? Finding the right path (Pod #659)
04/24/2025
Should you improve or change? Finding the right path (Pod #659)
The words change and improve are very close in meaning. While both are associated with transformation, they do not mean exactly the same thing. Improvement is about keeping something but doing it in a better way; change is about doing something in a new way. In the transformational arena we long for change, but in doing this we sometimes diminish the value of improvement. This week in the podcast, I explore the difference between these two ideas, when we should seek to improve or to change, and how best to bring these goals to our tapping practice. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Tapping for issues that never go away (Pod #658)
04/16/2025
Tapping for issues that never go away (Pod #658)
Not all stress is created equal. There are those hyper stressful times, like driving on icy roads in a snowstorm at rush hour. It is super intense in the moment and then when it ends, it is over! Then there is the low-grade stress of something that is taking a long time and is hanging over your head. The example I think of from my own life is doing my business taxes. I'm not especially good at doing my taxes because I only look at the task once a year; it is also a big deal and if I make a mistake, there can be major consequences. This is a stress that is ever-present and feels oppressive, but is not all-consuming. It also doesn't last forever because at some point my taxes will be filed and I will be able to move on…until the next year! Finally, there is the type of stress that never seems to end. When thinking about this type of stress, I think about a postal worker sorting mail. No matter how hard they work, there will always be more mail coming down the conveyor belt for them to sort. There is the pressure of needing to get their task done quickly, because more mail is coming, AND there is the stress of there being no end in sight. Of the three types of stress listed above, the third is by far the hardest to tap for. This week in the podcast, I share with you how I tap for issues (not just stress) that will always be there. It works for stress, feeling overwhelmed, and persistent physical issues, to name just a few common issues. Because straightforward tapping doesn't work well for this type of stress, we are unlikely to tap for these issues because it feels fruitless. The simple process I share in this week's podcast is one you must know. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Turning intellectual pushback into tapping progress (Pod #657)
04/09/2025
Turning intellectual pushback into tapping progress (Pod #657)
One of the most consistent struggles my clients have is coming up with the "right" words. The problem is there is no such thing as the right words when it comes to tapping. Instead there are useful words and unuseful words. I am consistently surprised at some of the types of words that end up being useful. One such type of surprising words is when we are tapping on phrases that we intellectually know not to be true. When I ask my clients to tap on phrases that they know aren't true this is natural resistance. One on level it doesn't feel logical and on another there can be the fear that we are tapping in something bad or untrue. This week in the podcast I explore the power of tapping on phrases that we know intellectually are untrue and how to get the most out of doing exactly that. Subscribe in: | | | | |
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Transforming and healing grief with tapping (Pod #656)
04/02/2025
Transforming and healing grief with tapping (Pod #656)
Grief is unlike all other emotions when it comes to tapping. Every other negative emotion is something we can step out of. I can stop feeling angry, frustrated, or overwhelmed. Grief on the other hand is something that we are going to feel forever. Twenty years after a loved one has died we are still going to feel pangs of grief. Instead of leaving grief, we have an evolving relationship to it and how we live with it. Because this is the case it requires a different approach when we are tapping. This week in the podcast I explore the unique nature of grief and how you can use tapping to heal our relationship to it. Subscribe in: | | | | |
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Respond, don't react! Tapping for recognizing and managing stress quickly (Pod #655)
03/26/2025
Respond, don't react! Tapping for recognizing and managing stress quickly (Pod #655)
We often refer to tapping for stress and feeling overwhelmed as emotional first aid. That is because we are applying a tool for quick relief in the moment in the same way we would use first aid for a physical injury. But there is one key difference between first aid and emotional first aid. When we are physically injured, our first thought is "I need to take care of this right now!" When we need emotional first aid, we are so caught up in our emotions that we don't realize we need to do something about what we are feeling. Listen to this week's podcast to learn how to use tapping as an emotional first aid tool and how to ensure you reach for tapping in the moments you most need it. Because it doesn't do you any good to know how to tap for stress, but don't actually do it! Following these simple steps will ensure you tap more and short circuit stress and overwhelm promptly. Description Libsyn & Wordpress Body: Subscribe in: | | | | |
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Tapping for tasks you despise (Pod #654)
03/19/2025
Tapping for tasks you despise (Pod #654)
A number of years ago I was visiting my friend "Mike" and his family. Mike asked his youngest son, who was about five at the time, to tidy his room before dinner. His son replied, in the most overwrought and dramatic voice possible, "But whyyyyyyyyyyyy? I am just going to make it messy again!" I can relate! There are SO MANY tasks on my to-do list that I dislike doing and there are even some that I despise. In this week's podcast, I share some simple ways you can clear your resistance to doing the tasks you despise. I can't promise that tapping will make those tasks enjoyable, but you will get more done and you won't have those dreaded tasks hanging over you any longer. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Tapping for exhaustion and feeling emotionally drained (Pod #653)
03/12/2025
Tapping for exhaustion and feeling emotionally drained (Pod #653)
There is a huge difference between bouncing back from being tired and being exhausted. When we are tired, we simply need to refill our tank. When we are exhausted, we first have to recover from being exhausted before we can even consider refilling our tank. In this week's podcast, I share seven simple ways you can help yourself when you are feeling exhausted or emotionally drained. And the great thing about these seven ideas is that you don't have to do them all in order to bounce back. Instead, you can pick and choose the two or three that work best for you. Subscribe in: | | | | |
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Release feeling selfish for not picking up other people's emotional burdens (Pod #652)
03/05/2025
Release feeling selfish for not picking up other people's emotional burdens (Pod #652)
One of the hardest parts of being a caring person is witnessing others in pain. When we see someone struggling, it feels natural to want to step in and help. With that being said, there is a fine line between being helpful and taking responsibility for someone else's suffering. This becomes doubly hard where emotional burdens are concerned. While we might be able to assist with practical struggles, we can't pick up someone else's emotional struggle. In this week's podcast I explore: Why we are prone to picking up other people's emotional burdens How to release these burdens without feeling unkind or selfish How to avoid picking up the emotional burdens of others in the future If you care deeply about others but often find yourself overwhelmed by their emotions, this episode is for you. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Permission to feel: Embracing emotions without judgment (Pod #651)
02/26/2025
Permission to feel: Embracing emotions without judgment (Pod #651)
There is this moment in every tapper's life when we move from "This tapping thing is amazing" to "Oh my goodness there are soooooo many issues for me to tap on. Every time I clear one issue I find four more!" It's easy to feel frustrated and demotivated when this happens. You might even stop tapping altogether because it feels like the tapping is creating more problems than it is solving (when we know it is really just uncovering what is already there). This week in the podcast, I share with you what I do when I feel overwhelmed with all the work I need to do and the fact that there seem to be so many emotions. By tapping in this way we can move from feeling overwhelmed by our emotions, to recognizing it is just one more step on our healing journey. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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Drowning in issues? Afraid of big emotions? Try this simple approach (Pod #650)
02/19/2025
Drowning in issues? Afraid of big emotions? Try this simple approach (Pod #650)
Over the years, so many of my clients and students have told me that two of the biggest obstacles preventing them from sitting down to tap are having too many issues so that they don't know where to start, and the fear that their emotions will be too big to handle when tapping. It makes total sense that these obstacles make it hard for us to tap because they are both rooted in our subconscious mind's wish to keep us safe. When it comes to having too many issues, the subconscious mind is worried about us wasting time. It is concerned that we are going to pick the wrong issues or an issue that will not make a big difference. Even though we tap, we aren't doing it in the most useful way. So, in order not to waste our time, we get around to tapping at all. Where being overwhelmed with emotions is concerned, the subconscious is just trying to keep us safe. It knows how deeply we can feel emotions and it doesn't want to feel the pain of being SUPER emotional. This week in the podcast, I share a simple way for you to overcome both of these issues so that you can tap in the most useful way and allow healing and transformation to happen. The process is called the Container Process. Listen to the podcast to learn the process, when it is best used, and follow along with my demonstration. You don't even have to memorise the process, just follow along and tap as I do all the heavy lifting. This is a process every tapper should know. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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How slowing down speeds up emotional healing with tapping (Pod #649)
02/12/2025
How slowing down speeds up emotional healing with tapping (Pod #649)
Even though we might not be conscious of it, every time we sit down to tap, our desire is for total, instantaneous, eternal transformation. While our desire makes a lot of sense, there are two obstacles in our way. First, we don't always have access to total, instantaneous, eternal transformation. For better or worse, sometimes transformation just takes time. Second, swift transformation isn't always the safest way for us to move forward. This week in the podcast, we explore our relationship (and frustration) with how long it can take to heal, how we can be sure we are SAFELY getting the most out of each round of tapping, all the while not being too discouraged by the pace of change. Once I understood and embraced these ideas, it actually improved the quality and speed of my transformation. I found that slowing down allowed me to heal more quickly, which has also informed the work I do with my clients and students. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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What to do when your tapping transformation feels slow or stuck (Pod #648)
02/05/2025
What to do when your tapping transformation feels slow or stuck (Pod #648)
Sometimes tapping feels nothing short of magical! We are struggling with an issue or an emotion and then, after a few rounds of tapping, we feel so much better. This transformation can feel profound to the extent that the world actually looks different. (That is not an exaggeration. My clients often report how the world literally looks brighter and more welcoming after tapping.) Then there are those issues where despite putting in the time to tap, nothing changes. We try different approaches. We make lists of every possible tail-ender and aspect. But no matter what we try, we just can't seem to make any progress. Not only does the tapping feel like a waste of time, we start to lose faith in tapping altogether. In this week's podcast, I share with you what to do when it feels like your transformation has plateaued and your tapping is not working. Being stuck like this is more common than you might think. Join me for straightforward tools and approaches that will help you to start moving forward again. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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How the word "feel" can supercharge your tapping results (Pod #647)
01/29/2025
How the word "feel" can supercharge your tapping results (Pod #647)
One of the fundamentals I repeatedly return to when I am working with clients or teaching practitioners is: We emotionally respond to the world in the way that we describe it. That is to say, the words we use when talking about our lives impact how we feel about our lives or a particular situation. Recently, I have started adding the word "feel" when I describe what I am thinking, feeling or experiencing at any given moment. This has created a powerful shift in how I perceive situations AND it has made it easier to create change and transformation in my life. This week in the podcast, I share with you how I have started using this simple word in my daily life, the tangible positive change it has created, and how you can do the same thing. It is easy to dismiss or overlook this idea, but I encourage you not to miss out on a powerful tool. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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The missing key to tapping for overwhelm (Pod #646)
01/22/2025
The missing key to tapping for overwhelm (Pod #646)
For the longest time, I found tapping for feeling overwhelmed one of my most frustrating issues. The reason it was so frustrating is because no matter how many times I tapped for overwhelm, it always came back. Sometimes it came back multiple times in the same day. When we aren't making the progress we want, it is easy to get frustrated with the fact that "I have to tap for overwhelm again!" We not only lose faith in tapping for that particular issue, we may also find our faith in tapping overall is eroded. This frustration went away for me once I realized there are some issues, like overwhelm, that will not be resolved forever. Instead, these issues require a certain approach. Making this discovery moved me from being discouraged to excited about tapping for feeling overwhelmed. This week in the podcast I explain why issues like overwhelm are different AND the best way to tap for them. Subscribe in: | | | | | | Watch a video version on YouTube
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The Perfect Transformation Duo: Tapping + Affirmations (Pod #645)
01/15/2025
The Perfect Transformation Duo: Tapping + Affirmations (Pod #645)
One of the most commonly used tools in transformation and healing is affirmations. When I did a quick internet search on the "history of affirmation," the first article I clicked on started with the line, "The first recorded use of affirmations dates back to the ancient Egyptian civilization. Affirmations were inscribed on amulets and other objects." BUT affirmations don't just work. For an affirmation to create change, it needs to be a useful affirmation. Notice that I didn't say the "right" affirmation. That's because one affirmation might be useful today but not tomorrow. In this week's podcast I explore how to gauge whether an affirmation will be useful for you AND how to use tapping to supercharge the power of the affirmation. Subscribe in: | | | | | |
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