Better Men Get Better Women - The Mountain Top
The man's guide to strong character, dating, relationships, masculinity, self-improvement, confidence, attracting women, healthy living and adventurous lifestyle. For eighteen consecutive years, The Mountain Top Podcast (formerly The Chick Whisperer) from X & Y Communications has been the gold standard for high-achieving men of character who want to be better men and get better with women. Scot McKay and his expert co-hosts talk women, dating, relationships, 21st century masculinity and other men's issues in a fast-paced, sometimes controversial, and often hilarious style. | Please subscribe to get updates automatically, and if you love the show take a quick minute to rate us and leave a review. | Find guest photos, transcripts, video versions, links, show notes, the infamous free newsletter and more at https://www.mountaintoppodcast.com | NOTE: Views expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect those of the host and/or X & Y Communications, and guest appearances to do not necessarily equal endorsements.
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Free Speech When Talking To Women - MTP496
01/23/2026
Free Speech When Talking To Women - MTP496
Co-Host Chloe Carmichael (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/chloe) It's no secret that more of us than ever don't exactly feel as if free speech is what it used to be. It's as if we can get canceled, arrested, or even worse for saying what we really think, and that's especially worrisome when it comes to communicating with women. After all the warnings from HR, is it okay to express interest in a woman, or even talk to her at all? My first-time guest Dr. Chloe Carmichael is a clinical psychologist and USA Today bestselling author of "Can I Say That? Why Free Speech Matters and How to Use It Fearlessly". We kick things off by talking about "toxic masculinity", and the possibility of it being talked about less nowadays because the job was done (!). But have men really resigned themselves to shutting up and "staying in our lane", or have we simply rejected the whole premise altogether? I mean, what did men gain by even trying to "do better", other than women being more disgusted with us than ever? Chloe offers real-talk about how women say they want a "feminist" man, and then find themselves fantasizing about macho guys anyway...with nobody to admit it to. Meanwhile, all of this self-censorship and cancel culture are fueling social anxiety and loneliness on the part of both genders. And wait until you hear the real, actual word that finally is the female equivalent of "maschismo". What is the actual ratio of women out there who want to cancel us rather than get to know us? Ultimately, Chloe's approach reframes free speech as a core mental health issue, drawing insights that can help men articulate themselves with more confidence and authenticity in relationships, at work, and beyond. Get instant answers on women with VAMANOS: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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There's Only One Perfect Pickup Line - SFTS103
01/20/2026
There's Only One Perfect Pickup Line - SFTS103
>===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== The quest for the perfect pickup line is one of the oldest in the world of men's dating advice. But ultimately, after all the hype settles, there's only ONE perfect pickup line. Here's the truth: No matter how cool, how funny, how smooth or how perfect your silver-tongued pickup line is, it's ALWAYS gonna come down to what you say next. And guess what? It's exactly what you should have said FIRST all along...every time you approach a woman. Get in on the AI revolution: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Wordless Connection - MTP495
01/16/2026
Wordless Connection - MTP495
Co-Host Rob Thomas (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/robthomas) The default setting when trying to resolve dating and relationship issues with women is to talk about it, right? Well, my first-time guest Rob Thomas came to the conclusion that trying to say the right words at the right time was exhausting. Drawing from his day job as a business consultant, he figured out there are very real ways to truly increase rapport and connection without using any words at all. The next thing you know, he wrote a book about that called Wordless Connection. Importantly, its not about wordless communication, per se, but rather about full-on connection. So first off, why is it we often end up speaking a "cloud of euphemisms" when talking to our WAGs? And what can we do instead to create an almost instant connection without saying anything at all? What is the science behind the value of embracing your partner for an exact duration of time? And how does that concept apply directly to eye contact, as well? Does the saying, "watch what she does instead of listening to what she says" have anything to do with this? Is what Rob's talking about here actually a primal desire within us? After all, verbal communication is a relatively new human development. Ironically enough, can words actually distract from deeper connection? What about wordless connection in the bedroom? What is the science behind human touch that can increase your success with women immediately? Have you downloaded Sticking Points Solved? Your free e-book is waiting at: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Why Narcissistic Women Target You - SFTS102
01/13/2026
Why Narcissistic Women Target You - SFTS102
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Why do extremely self-centered women who don't seem to care about you and your needs at all keep ending up in your life? It's like the same relationship over and over, only with a different woman. Well, it happens to literally the best of us as men. In fact, some solid traits adjacent to the "big four" are exactly what attract narcissists. The first step to putting an end to this pattern is recognizing it's there to begin with. So if you've found this episode, you're already on the right track. But once you also know how the mind of a narcissistic woman works, you can easily understand exactly what it is about you that was so attractive to her, and then put the kibosh on toxic relationships. Then, you can make a stand against ever welcoming another woman like that into your life. Better still, you can leverage those same fantastic traits of yours to match up with a woman who is sweet, kind and treats you right for a change. Get in on the AI revolution: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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How Mature Men De-Escalate Hysterics - MTP494
01/09/2026
How Mature Men De-Escalate Hysterics - MTP494
Co-Host Doug Noll (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/dougnoll) Why is it that younger men get into so many more unfortunate altercations than older guys...not just with other men, but also with women? My returning guest Doug Noll is a world-class expert in de-escalating situations with angry or unreasonable people. Known for his book De-Escalate: How To Calm An Angry Person In 90 Seconds Or Less, Doug returns this time for a deep-dive into how mental and emotional maturity makes us better at calming down hysterical women, and even avoiding sticky confrontations altogether. For starters, how can it be that Doug and his wife never fight or argue? What is "affect labeling", and why is it your #1 strategy for cooling down potential altercations? How come arguments between men and women can become so hurtful so fast, and how do we prevent that? Why does Doug believe there's no such thing as "rationality", and ergo, "irrationality"? How does Stoicism enter into all of this? What genius principle has Doug identified that functions like a "yes, and...", only for emotions instead of conversations? What is Doug's foolproof strategy for getting along with a woman on first dates? Next, the one truth that can help you keep your composure even when someone is hurling extremely hurtful invective at you. And how can you be prepared to handle conflict effectively if you're blindsided by it...especially if it doesn't happen very often? What are some practical, effective statements we can use in real-life to do affect labeling on our own, when necessary? Here's another hot take from Doug: Never offer an unsolicited apology. Why not? Have you tried VAMANOS AI yet? Ask it any question and get answers in real time. Never be left on the spot in any situation with women ever again. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Does Your Type Of Woman Evolve Over Time? - SFTS101
01/06/2026
Does Your Type Of Woman Evolve Over Time? - SFTS101
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== We talked last time about how the woman of your dreams quite probably will be the culmination of all your favorite girlfriends. But wait...how did you arrive at what you "favor" about women to begin with? In a recent coaching conversation, it came up that our "type" might actually be established when we're VERY young...like in pre-school. Does that mean that our "inner child" pre-destined us to be with a certain type of woman some day? Well...sort of, but not exactly. Get the "bigger picture" truth in today's brief episode...and stay tuned for the surprise ending. Get in on the VAMANOS AI app at : === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Emotional Vampires Suck - MTP493
01/02/2026
Emotional Vampires Suck - MTP493
Co-Host Daniel Ratner (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/ratner) On this first day of 2026, we hit the ground running with how to eliminate the WRONG people from your life this year, and from now on. Daniel Ratner is a Jewish-American coach who made Aliyah and now lives in Jerusalem. So obviously, specializing in vampires of any kind only shows he has a sense of comedic irony that would make Mel Brooks blush. But for sure, the whole weird but tragically common phenomenon is what it is, and Daniel has studied it as much as anyone. So much so that he has identified several different types of emotional vampires and described them. For starters, what's the pattern that makes so many of them narcissists? And what exactly is "covert narcissism" again, and why are they typically among the worst offenders? How do women in particular draw us in with vampirical patterns that seem "cute" at first--even attractive--only to truly wear us out over time? Can a real, actual emotional vampire really, actually love us? Why is it so many of us as men will tolerate a woman who is an emotional vampire way more than any woman would tolerate a male one in her life? (Hint: We coined the term "training and draining" there.) How do we set boundaries with emotional vampires...and is it too late after they sink their teeth in? What is Coach Ratner's acronym for figuring out who to keep in your life and who to get rid of? And why is a certain type of person the favorite target of emotional vampires? Finally, living in Israel Daniel wrote a piece over the summer called "Bomb Shelter Sex". Listen as he offers some amazing insights into what social life was like in Israel then. Get in on the newly-updated VAMANOS app and more at: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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The Culmination Of All Your Favorite Girlfriends - SFTS100
12/30/2025
The Culmination Of All Your Favorite Girlfriends - SFTS100
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== How can you know absolutely for sure that you're NOT settling for the wrong woman? Well in honor of the 100th SFTS episode, I'm tackling this all-important subject in a way you've never heard anywhere else. You know how you've heard people can keep attracting the same BAD relationship over and over, just with a different face? Well the other side of the coin is true also. You can date women who seem familiar to you, yet different, and make it a GOOD thing. And THIS is how you'll know when you're not settling. Fair warning, though...and don't let anyone tell you differently: You cannot tell if you're settling or not until you've dated enough women to know what you really like, want and prefer. And yes, women can (and will) surprise you in ways you'll never see coming. But after a while you'll start seeing a clear pattern. Shortly after that, you'll start attracting women who indeed have plenty in common. And THEN...that's when "miracles" happen. Get the whole story in this brief episode. Get in on the VAMANOS AI app at : === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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The Evolution Of Dating Advice - MTP492
12/25/2025
The Evolution Of Dating Advice - MTP492
Co-Host Emily McKay (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/) Dating and relationship advice has gone through significant changes over the last 20 years. Some of it has been good and necessary evolution, some of it downright detrimental and counter-productive. As X & Y Communications marks its 20th anniversary, we look back on the good, the bad and the ugly out there over the years since we opened our doors. First of all, what was up with men having an entire network for getting better with women back in 2005, while women pretty much only had Cosmo articles? And what happened to that "underground society of pickup artists"? What did it quietly turn into...without men even realizing it? As for women, what weird development really established a whole new world of dating advice for them? And what marketing tactic in particular revolutionized all dating advice online...before eventually setting us all back big-time? Whatever happened to all that new-agey dating advice, and the "gurus" who promoted it? Why is so much of the current "dating advice" nothing more that pure clickbait? How did text messaging, social media, dating apps, "toxic masculinity", and the #MeToo movement all play a role in the dating and relationship advice we've been given? And how have Covid and AI affected the whole mix? How have we ourselves flexed and adapted to change over the years? Most of all, how have mindsets and attitudes evolved (or de-volved?)...on the part of both men and women? Get in on the new VAMANOS app at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Sexual Attraction That Lasts Decades - SFTS99
12/23/2025
Sexual Attraction That Lasts Decades - SFTS99
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== You've heard that bit about how men's sexual value increases over time, while women's sexual value decreases over time. That's indeed a cynical trope, but how much truth is there to it? For sure, a 25-year-old guy is less likely to find a 55-year-old woman attractive, but is "sexual value" that simple? How is it that couples can remain happy and apparently in love for half a century, or more? Is it all just a ruse for the sake of "keeping up appearances"? Or could it be that attraction is still very real for them? What drives that kind of sustained attractiveness to each other for decades? Well, this brief episode contains all the answers...and the hard truth that goes along with it. Get in on the VAMANOS app and more at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Love And Suffering - MTP491
12/19/2025
Love And Suffering - MTP491
Co-Host Dr. Anthony Silard (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/silard) My first-time guest is a man who fearlessly tackles some rough topics that others avoid. In addition to his latest book Love And Suffering, he's also the author of others with scary titles like The Myth Of Happiness and The Myth Of Friendship. So how does a guy like Dr. Anthony Silard stay sane and level-headed while immersed in this stuff? Well, the easy answer is his work probably isn't what you expect it to be. Rather than another nihilistic treatise on existentialism, he actually frames the inevitable suffering we all experience in this life as having the power to enable us to love more deeply. But he's just getting warmed up. Anthony believes "forgiveness" isn't as kind as we think it is, and judging each other is a necessary part of human existence. Anthony is also very aware that Americans in particular are feeling deep disconnection from each other. Studies show that over 70% of Americans say their friendships and relationships both personal and professional have suffered over the past several years. They attribute some of this to technology saying they feel overwhelmed with all of the online communication in their life that they withdraw from people. Others attribute this to the increase anger we see daily about us. Regardless of the cause people feel disconnected. We have simply let life happen to us and we seem adrift. Why is this? How can we pull ourselves together? Anthony says the powerful but often overlooked truth is many relationships don’t fail because of incompatibility, but rather because of unforgiven pain. Whatever you do not learn to love in your life, you will repeat. As you can imagine, this episode offers a powerful new perspective on how to build healthy, long-lasting relationships with women. Get in on the new VAMANOS app at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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I Like You - SFTS98
12/16/2025
I Like You - SFTS98
===Snippets From The Summit=== After a few heavy-duty topics in recent weeks, let's take a look at the lighter side. When it comes to charming women and relating to them, there is tremendous power in three little words. No, not THOSE three little words. They are similar, though: I like you. You see, saying "I love you" to a woman is a big deal. You gotta think that shiznit through before you drop it on a woman. But "I like you" is VERY different. Listen in to this brief episode as I share exactly why that's true. Not only do we drop at least as many "I like yous" here at Casa McKay as "I love yous", that habit indeed comes from a long history of knowing exactly when to say it to women on first dates. Although you can say it MUCH sooner (I hope) than "I love you", there's definitely a right time and a proper rhythm to it, for sure. Get in on all the free goodies at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Submissive Women - MTP490
12/12/2025
Submissive Women - MTP490
Co-host Marian De La Croix (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/marian) "I believe every man should have his 'I Dream Of Jeannie'." Do I have your attention yet? That is a direct quote from my first time guest and self-proclaimed "happy submissive", Marian De La Croix. She believes women who embrace submission in relationships experience deeper personal growth, stronger partnerships, and genuine happiness—while the "empowered independence" narrative keeps women stuck, stressed, and unfulfilled. She and her master--who she openly refers to as such--live in Vancouver, BC and by all accounts are living the dream together. Now before you form your own mental image of Marian, realize she is smart, articulate, successful and has keen business sense. So first off, how did Marian arrive at the idea of wanting this kind of relationship? Indeed, Marian doesn't feel the relationship is abusive in any way, and in fact feels more free, capable and empowered than ever. How does she reconcile being empowered and independent as opposed to being "under" a master? Listen in as she talks about the natural leadership qualities of masculine men, and how women are indeed happier by nature when in a relationship with a guy like that. What is the exact mindset of a man AND a woman who thrive in a relationship like this? What is the relationship between men and submissive women that helps them "find their muse"? And what are the similarities between how Marian's relationship with her Master works and how my relationship with Emily works? No, Emily doesn't call me "Master", but the similarities indeed come down to how masculinity and femininity work in tandem. So why, then, does Marian take the perhaps extreme measure of literally calling her husband "Master"? Stop talking to "Mr. Nice Guy" AI and get in on VAMANOS instead for quick, effective answers with women: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Never Act Like A Man Who Can't Get Laid - SFTS 97
12/09/2025
Never Act Like A Man Who Can't Get Laid - SFTS 97
===Snippets From The Summit=== Watch enough movies and TV shows and you can easily tell which kind of male character gets women and which doesn't. And yet, far too many men let their guard down and do blatantly unattractive stuff anyway. What's up with that? Do we think women either aren't noticing, or if they will they'll cut us a break? Here's the quick rundown on all actions, statements, "bro moments" and even fashion faux pas that keep us in a "dry spell". Never has there been a better time to say, "don't be that guy!" Better men get better women. That's the new logo, and the new look at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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The Silent Sexual Revolution - MTP489
12/05/2025
The Silent Sexual Revolution - MTP489
Co-Host Stephen Edwards (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/edwards) What's going on here when it comes to men, women and our sexual attitudes toward each other? (I say that like it's a bad thing?) My first-time guest is Dr. Stephen Edwards, a PhD in spiritual counseling and international speaker. He's also the author of The Venus Fly Trap: Sex, Lies And Repercussions. According to Stephen, we're all on a 'spectrum of insanity', whether we realize it or not. So first off, what does a Venus flytrap have to do with the silent sexual revolution? After all, that's a rough mental image. What are some sneaky and even unexpected ways women can "cloud us with beauty-vision"? What was it like when Stephen worked for Tony Robbins? What is the "silent" part of the current sexual revolution, given how much "noise" surrounds human sexuality nowadays? And why is it a "revolution"? If there is indeed a new sexual paradigm, then it will go through three distinct phases. What are they...and where are we in that process? How has the perception of repression affected sexual dynamics then vs. now? Is monogamy outdated...and causing more societal problems than it's worth? How have societal trends regarding faith affected the latest stage of sexual revolution? Why is sex usually the biggest obstacle between us and true spirituality? If deleting classic definitions of God and sexual morality has affected freedom from sexual guilt and shame, has that left us with a different problem? Does love still "conquer all" nowadays? Can it be true that particularly spiritual or "churchy" people have lazier relationships? Why would Stephen disagree that the opposite of love is fear? The bottom line is we as men need to stop being silenced when it comes to sexuality. Get in on the new VAMANOS app at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in
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If All Women Are Awful - SFTS96
12/02/2025
If All Women Are Awful - SFTS96
===Snippets From The Summit=== Granted, it's easy to allow ourselves to believe all women are atrocious and we're better off simply avoiding them. And often we can have legitimate reasons for thinking and feeling that way. But let's face it, men who've slipped into that mindset find themselves as miserable as Feminists who become man-haters. The good news is there's a clear mindset shift you can make that will not only transform how you view women, it'll actually change how they perceive you as well. It may feel difficult at first, but there is no more natural way to go...it's even embedded in our primal instincts. Better men get better women. That's the new logo, and the new look at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Dating With All Five Senses - MTP488
11/28/2025
Dating With All Five Senses - MTP488
Co-Host Catherine Auman (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/catherine) My first-time guest Catherine Auman talks frequently about "tantric dating", which involves dating with all five senses. As men, modern technology might very well have led us to focus primarily on seeing and hearing, forsaking the other three senses. So first off, what is Tantric Dating about in general? Why is being "friends first" so common in other cultures, but basically the relationship kiss of death here in the West? What do dogs know that humans don't, when it comes to Tantra? We hear all the time how we as men are "visual" when it comes to women and attraction. Is that actually all there is to it, though? And if Tantra is all about connection, could social media and the "pandemic of loneliness" explain much of the disconnect between our five senses and our dating lives? Is it true that today's dating world actually discourages people from meeting and having interesting conversations? How weird is that? How is being "spoiled for choice", at least ostensibly, ruining our ability to discern who's right for us? What's another way to think about how taste matters in the dating world, above and beyond the obvious? And how can we as men become more sensual in general, to the delight of women? What are the ways most "normal" guys are completely missing out on the best parts of sex by rushing things? Why did we all miss the point of the movie 9 1/2 Weeks in the '80s? But then again, what do young adults know about sex that we tend to, well...forget as we get older and more jaded? Finally, is there any room in this discussion for a potential sixth sense? The answer may surprise you...and propel your sex life to new heights. Get in on the new VAMANOS AI at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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How to Succeed With Women By Accident - SFTS95
11/25/2025
How to Succeed With Women By Accident - SFTS95
=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === It used to be that the biggest hurdle between men and a successful dating life was basically approach anxiety. After all, you can't have any women in your life if you don't meet them first. But nowadays, there's ONE obstacle that looms even larger. It's so simple and basic that it might not even have occurred to you. But make no mistake, it's what keeps more men than ever from meeting women, let alone attracting them. The first step is recognizing what's going on. The next step--which is thankfully pretty basic--will make it feel as if women love and adore you more than ever before by total accident. Better men get better women. That's the new logo, and the new look at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Women Like Me, But They Don't Love Me - MTP487
11/21/2025
Women Like Me, But They Don't Love Me - MTP487
Co-Host Alex Allman (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/howtoman) My long-time friend and returning guest Alex Allman came up with a fascinating topic that deserves every man's attention. What's up with women LIKING us, but not exactly LOVING us? I mean, the first thing we might think of is lukewarm first dates and tepid text conversations. But Alex jumps right in with the reality of how even people who are in marriages together can suffer through this phenomenon. How in the world does THAT happen? Well, as it turns out it's not always about someone having "settled". In fact, it might not even be conscious. Just like I have the "big four", Alex has broken down the secrets of having a woman who is truly right for you reveal herself in real time. There are five integral components of your persona and your presence that make that happen, and he lists each one. How much can we really influence in terms of how a woman feels toward us, both in the short-term and the long-term? What role does actively choosing a woman play in making her adore you rather than simply put up with you? What does that even look like, in real-world terms? How can I go "all in" with a woman without simping? Could it be we're attempting sometimes to gain the "love" of a woman we're not even so crazy about...simply out of some weird form of desperation? How does your presence, or aura as a man influence a woman's love versus mere like? And finally, how can showing up as ruthlessly authentic and extremely honest really cause a "next level" positive response from a woman so she truly is your "ride or die chick"? VAMANOS is your X & Y Communications AI companion: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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What Actually Replaced Pickup Artists? - SFTS 94
11/18/2025
What Actually Replaced Pickup Artists? - SFTS 94
=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === We all know the "underground society" of pickups artists is LONG gone. Or is it? Some say they simply moved their sentiments over to the #MGTOW or "red-pilled" movements, hoping to fly under the radar with a rebrand. But I'm not so sure about that. After all, lately I've been hit with requests to pitch you guys on "new" products that look and feel exactly like something out of 2008. Could it be there's a belief out there that the new generation of guys will respond to exactly what the last generation did? Well, I personally believe a LOT has changed out there, and with it must come a true evolution of the PUA mindset...especially when it comes to what has been known as "night game". Have the newest, state-of-the-art advantage with women...right there on your phone: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here
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Is The Younger Generation Relating To Women Differently? - MTP486
11/14/2025
Is The Younger Generation Relating To Women Differently? - MTP486
Co-Host Cheryl Maida (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/cheryl) How is Gen Z influencing dating and relating going forward? Regardless of who you are, this matters because it's going to affect YOUR relationships with women from now on. My first-time guest Cheryl Maida from matchmaking.com is here to talk about all the current trends, and what we can expect in months and years to come. First off, are dating apps truly dead...and if so, what's next? And whatever happened to "hookup culture"? We haven't heard anything on that in ages. Are people really less interested in sex than ever, or just more sexually frustrated? Could it be that we really needed to go through a few decades of trial and error in order to figure out what we really want out of our dating pursuits and sex lives, let alone long-term relationships? Why are younger guys going for matchmakers nowadays? For a while there, politics were a major yardstick of compatibility. Is that still the case? Are we ever going to collectively stop doom-scrolling our smartphones and notice there's other people out there in public? Is this generation going to rediscover the art of approaching women in real life? Well, first we all might have to start with actually liking the gender we'd hope to attract again. Will Gen Z realize sooner than later that pressure on the birthrate and away from healthy male/female relationships is robbing them of something important? Assuming so, will the younger generation have to learn from their dating and relationship mistakes the same way we have? Of course they will...but how? Better men get better women. That's the new logo, and the new look at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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When Women Feel Safe, But Not Attracted - SFTS93
11/11/2025
When Women Feel Safe, But Not Attracted - SFTS93
=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === What if you have absolutely no problem with women feeling safe around you, but somehow they're still not sexually attracted. Frustrating, right? Well, as it turns out, even though "making a woman feel safe and comfortable" is the linchpin of masculine/feminine polarity, there's a key component of that trait that makes women crazy over you as opposed to parking you in the dreaded "Just Be Harmless Zone". Find out exactly how that works--and what Rottweilers have to do with it--in this week's brief but powerful Snippet From The Summit. Have the newest, state-of-the-art advantage with women...right there on your phone: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Men Acting Like Little Boys - MTP485
11/07/2025
Men Acting Like Little Boys - MTP485
Co-Host Shlomo Slatkin (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/shlomo) My first-time guest is Shlomo Slatkin. In addition to being a Rabbi in Baltimore, he's also the founder of the Marriage Restoration Project. He has a lot of valuable insights into modern manhood, our relationships with women and the missing rite of passage from boyhood to manhood in today's culture. First off, Shlomo is a man who walks the talk. He and his wife have a great relationship and are raising a beautiful family. In his daily life, Shlomo works with men who want to achieve a closer connection with the woman in their lives but are at somewhat of a loss as to how to do so. Interestingly, he believes it's not because they lack knowledge or resilience, but rather because they've outgrown the emotional survival strategies they learned as boys. Shlomo is all about unlearning those outdated patterns and showing up with clarity, presence and emotional honesty. So how do we as men take ownership of our emotions instead of shaming or blaming? Could it be that we often feel threatened in relationships, even though we're supposed to be the man of the house? How can we avoid being either a petulant child or a passive wuss? Where is the "balance" in a relationship with a woman that keeps our power and dignity intact as men, while honoring and protecting those we love? In a world where far too many men are running around like 40-year-old little boys who never grew up, Shlomo's message is just the kick in the pants we need nowadays. Have you discovered VAMANOS yet? It's your wingman on demand: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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The Faceless Herd Does Not Attract Women - SFTS92
11/04/2025
The Faceless Herd Does Not Attract Women - SFTS92
=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Have you ever developed some sort of weird medical symptom and made the mistake of going to WebMD to see what's wrong with you? You know exactly what happens. You end up sure you're dying of some horrible disease...every time. But meanwhile, we as men will also read surveys and studies about women and attraction that leave us convinced we are exactly the opposite of who women want. Gentlemen, this has to stop. The "masses" out there will NEVER be attractive, but who YOU are as an individual is 100% under your control, which is a very good thing. Have the newest, state-of-the-art advantage with women...right there on your phone: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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How To Handle A Woman's Time Of The Month - MTP484
10/31/2025
How To Handle A Woman's Time Of The Month - MTP484
Co-Host Ada Gore (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/gore) My first-time guest Ada Gore is a brave--and terrific--woman. Despite angels themselves fearing to tread upon today's topic, she boldly goes there. What you're about to get, gentlemen, is the definitive guide to understanding women's monthly cycle. Now, I know what you're saying...what does this have to do with me? Well, if you want to successfully relate to women and navigate your relationship with her like a champion, this is one of those details you have GOT to get right. The problem is, according to Ada many women don't even understand what's going on there, let alone men. So first off, what qualifies Ada to be the woman to tell us all of this? Next, what difficulties did she and her husband have as a couple before they wrapped their heads around the issue? Ada teaches something called the Four Inner Seasons framework. What's up with that and how does it give crystal clarity to the topic? And what about us as men? Do we have "seasons" of our own that we go through? (Hey, don't knock it 'til you try it.) On another note, what exactly is PMS, anyway, and how can we make it suck less for us as men? What actually are the biggest mistakes we as men make when coping with women's "time of the month"? And how are women not off the hook here (no excuses!) Next, what's the "women work different" framework? And what has happened over the last century or so to, if anything, decrease how well men and women understand each other? And most of all, what's up with all the '60s music references? Have you checked out the power of VAMANOS yet? === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Dating Is Not Charity Work - SFTS91
10/28/2025
Dating Is Not Charity Work - SFTS91
=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === I get it. We all want to be a woman's hero. But should we really be her straight-up savior? And do we really owe that to women we've just met, or aren't even dating, in particular? The "captain save-a-ho" scenario has been talked about for years in pickup artist circles. As cynical a concept as it is, it's rooted in hard truth every man should recognize. Unfortunately, our logic tends to go out the window when "clouded by beauty-vision". Here's how to recognize when you're falling into the trap, and how to be the great guy you are without sacrificing your dignity OR your hard-earned resources. And yes, here's the proper mindset to help you rise above the entire topic itself, once and for all. Have you checked out the VAMANOS chatbot app? === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Social Networking Gets Women - MTP483
10/24/2025
Social Networking Gets Women - MTP483
Co-Host George Dubec (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/networker) What if you could leverage your entire social network to find women to date? Or even your future wife? We're not talking about your aunt Gertrude setting you up with her friend's "nice" daughter here, for sure. My first-time guest George Dubec has developed what he calls the Referral Matchmaking System, and it's like being a "connector" on steroids. While talking about that is way too much fun in and of itself, we kick off the episode with war stories from when George was a classic ladies' man, long before the PUA movement was even thought about. He had the Saturday Night Fever clothes and the Smokey And The Bandit car. How much of his "old school" strategy still applies today? More than you think. For example, wait until you hear his answer to women showing up on dates with a bunch of endless Q & A. And what about chemistry? George has an interesting definition for that, as far as male/female interaction is concerned. Next, George talks about what he calls "The Love List". And it looks like we just coined "The Wingman Workshop" right after that. Next, we talk about the weirdest version of "approach anxiety" that's very real, but which nobody ever talks about...and yes, it has everything to do with social networking. And who exactly should we let "network" us into a date? There's a clear answer to that one. Have you checked out the official X & Y Communications dating advice chatbot yet? === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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"You're Not Qualified" - SFTS90
10/21/2025
"You're Not Qualified" - SFTS90
=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Where you get advice on women, dating, relationships and being a better man matters. How do you decide what to listen to? Well, over the years, I've had my fair share of emails challenging whether I'm the right guy to sit in this chair or not. As my life has changed, so have the emails. Ultimately, track record matters...but there's something that matters EVEN more. Looking at the lighter side of this discussion, this brief episode gives you the real way to hold the advice you hear up to the light to make sure it's genuine. What? You haven't checked out the substack channel, yet? It's right here: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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What If You're Disappointed? - MTP482
10/17/2025
What If You're Disappointed? - MTP482
Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Well, here's the first thing you can figure out, just from the title: Emily and I are obviously not disappointed enough in each other to avoid such a touchy topic. BUT...maybe that's a clue why this relational disappointment thing never gets talked about much. So what are we actually covering here? I mean, isn't it unrealistic to get into a relationship thinking everything is always going to be perfect and ideal? That brings up the concept of "macro-disappointments" vs. "micro-disappointments". And what about other couple's Facebook highlight reels that only show the shiny, happy stuff? Is that driving unreasonable disappointment on the part of the rest of us? Is there really such thing as "the seven-year itch", and if so is it more about disappointment or boredom? And hey, wait a minute. Isn't boredom disappointing? Does long-term disappointment usually start right at the beginning of a relationship? Why is that? And what about this business of "spicing up a relationship"? How does that work to ward off potential disappointment? Why is being each other's best friend a magic elixir to cure disappointment? What if what causes disappointment is legitimately beyond the control of the disappointing partner? What if a partner is intentionally disappointing, and expecting to get away with it? Why does being "nice" disappoint WAGs? How do couples put their relationship at blatant risk for disappointment? Why is comfort the enemy of marriage excitement? Finally, what if you're actually IN a deeply disappointing relationship. Now what? And by the way, is it any wonder that Rupert Holmes was a "one hit wonder"? Check out and get in on the daily newsletter and tons of other goodies. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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You Would Already Be In Jail - SFTS89
10/15/2025
You Would Already Be In Jail - SFTS89
=== SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT === Today's topic is an unpleasant one, but this has to be said. Too may of us as men are letting women get away with a vicious double-standard. Just because she's a woman doesn't mean she should be allowed to treat you poorly in ways no man would ever get away with. And she's certainly not above the law. What are the situations where this is especially devastating to men? And here's an even better question: How did we get to the point where we let today's empowered women do all of this to us without any penalty whatsoever? Get in on my Substack channel at: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extemely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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