Better Men Get Better Women - The Mountain Top
The man's guide to strong character, dating, relationships, masculinity, self-improvement, confidence, attracting women, healthy living and adventurous lifestyle. For eighteen consecutive years, The Mountain Top Podcast (formerly The Chick Whisperer) from X & Y Communications has been the gold standard for high-achieving men of character who want to be better men and get better with women. Scot McKay and his expert co-hosts talk women, dating, relationships, 21st century masculinity and other men's issues in a fast-paced, sometimes controversial, and often hilarious style. | Please subscribe to get updates automatically, and if you love the show take a quick minute to rate us and leave a review. | Find guest photos, transcripts, video versions, links, show notes, the infamous free newsletter and more at https://www.mountaintoppodcast.com | NOTE: Views expressed by guests do not necessarily reflect those of the host and/or X & Y Communications, and guest appearances to do not necessarily equal endorsements.
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Men Underestimate The Power Of Their Leadership With Women - MTP507
04/10/2026
Men Underestimate The Power Of Their Leadership With Women - MTP507
Co-Host Marni Kinrys (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/fwithher) We talk about making women feel safe and secure, but what else do women need to feel genuine, raw, primal attraction? My long-time friend and returning guest Marni "The Wing Girl" Kinrys joins us to talk about her "Four Ss" (which I'm not exactly sure how to type out in proper English), which have everything to do with how we show up and lead as a man. Before we dive into that, we talk about being "equal time" advocates for men and women, and how that translates into us both being optimistic about the future of male/female relationships. Marni is a "boy mom" nowadays, which is having more and more impact on how she views masculinity and what kids are up against. How has the "all or nothing" fallacy affected how men and women communicate with each other nowadays? Next, Marni talks about how she met her husband...in a totally unexpected way, which is solid insight for every man. How do we as men create "monsters" out of women, without even realizing it? So what are Marni's "Four Ss", and how do they line up with The "Big Four"? What are some things we as men can do to be sexy to women, without feeling silly in the process for trying? What are two simple sentences that men should ask themselves all the time when relating to women? What does Marni have to say to guys who think women have all the power? The "Big Four" Woman is waiting for YOU: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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Are You Trying To GET Women Or FORGET Women? - SFTS114
04/07/2026
Are You Trying To GET Women Or FORGET Women? - SFTS114
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== We're hard-wired to want women, and women are hard-wired to want us. That's how it has been since the dawn of time. So what's happened in the last century or so to make men apparently uninterested in women? Was it that women were uninterested in us first? Well, the truth is all of us--men and women--have been tricked. What's the truth underneath all of the division between men and women? And more importantly, how do we as men return to GETTING women rather than trying to FORGET them? And will women at least meet us half-way there? Get the new program called The "Big Four" Woman that goes into more depth: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you
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Can AI Make You Better With Women? - MTP506
04/03/2026
Can AI Make You Better With Women? - MTP506
Co-Host Rob Judge (https://mountaintoppodcat.com/robai) As much as I'd love to be, I can't be on call to every one of you guys I work with 24/7. I mean, I've been known to try...and I do get texts from guys right before 2am California time wondering how to get a woman's number at the bar before it closes. Well, my long-time friend and fellow men's coach Rob Judge has the same exact predicament. So as it turns out, both of us independently arrived at the same conclusion: We need AI versions of ourselves. After all, we can't clone ourselves like Michael Keaton in Multplicity, right? Nor would we want to, really, because if you've seen the flick each new clone gets stupider. What we needed was an even smarter version of ourselves here, if possible. Enter RobAI and VAMANOS. Curiously enough, both of us have pics on our respective websites of ourselves as sort of holographic "ghosts" helping a guy succeed with women. So I guess you could say it's more like we ghosted ourselves than cloning ourselves! But what's in it for YOU? I mean, you've probably noticed I have been pretty harsh on AI for the past few years. Well, the solid truth is like talking actors, TV and the Internet before it, AI is not a fad. Whether it originally brings about The Singularity and dooms humanity or not is a separate debate, but let's face it...if you aren't already taking full advantage of what AI can productively do for you, you're already WAY behind. So Rob and I talk about our AI systems and what they do for you, and what they honestly CAN'T do, too. For sure, we also talked at length about what real, live men stand to gain in our quest for self-betterment and success with women by using AI properly, both now and into the future. And while we're at it, we debated which AI draws hotter chicks. Rob won. Well, you've heard us talk about it, now use it: https://mountaintoppodcast.com/robai or === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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50-Year-Old Guys And 20-Year-Old Women - SFTS113
04/01/2026
50-Year-Old Guys And 20-Year-Old Women - SFTS113
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== When we think of a 50-year-old man with a 20-year-old woman, we get a very specific mental picture. Mature guys who can pull that off are like heroes, right? Well...not so fast. What if the reality is different than what you expect? Either way, what are the right and the wrong reasons to entertain a 10, 15 or even 30 year age gap between partners like that? What if other people freely share their snarky opinions when they see the two of you together? Is the whole "sugar daddy/sugar baby" gig the only semi-realistic way to pull that sort of relationship off? Do you have a better chance at dating a certain KIND of younger women? And what if you want to date an older woman instead...is that "anti-heroic" in comparison? Want to date real, authentic women who really do it for you, not those fake "club" chicks? Check this out: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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Becoming Technosexual - MTP505
03/27/2026
Becoming Technosexual - MTP505
Co-Host Kaamna Bhojwani (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/technosexual) My first-time guest Kaamna Bhojwani is a long-time sexologist, and more recently a technosexuality expert. With the rise of telephony, the Internet, social media and now AI we've all become more technosexual nowadays than we might even realize. But what IS "technosexuality"? Well, as unsettling as it sounds, it's at least not to be confused with replacing human sexuality with some sort of trans-human robot sex. This is a different conversation...about a phenomenon that's been going on for far longer, at least relatively speaking. But now, Kaamna is indeed speaking of a second wave of technosexuality with indeed involves direct interaction with electronic, non-human entities. Could technosexuality actually become a sexual orientation? Or has it even now, already become that there's sexual preference around some sort of technology for all of us, regardless of our sexual orientation? Kaamna believes the conversation about the technological tools available to us, and that will be available to us, is an important one for all of us to have. How can we use technology to connect sexually with each other more effectively, rather than using it to simply replace each other? Is someone profiting from these transformational shifts? How will challenges to traditional monogamy affect relationships, especially vis-a-vis jealousy? Meanwhile, Kaamna has an AI boyfriend. How's that going? Will AI and robots actually be able to enhance otherwise monogamous relationships? Social media and communicating behind the anonymity of the internet has become an integral part of this technosexual trend. Do men behave more badly online that women do? What does Bhojwani mean when she says, "we'll be able to have sex with anyone, anytime, anywhere?" VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men. Get yours at https://mountaintoppodcast.com/vamanos === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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The PUAs Are Still There, They Just Moved - SFTS112
03/24/2026
The PUAs Are Still There, They Just Moved - SFTS112
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== ===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== The underground society of pickup artists may be LONG gone, but the PUA movement is still alive and well. It just sort of changed venues. What's up with that? Well, men are never going to stop wanting to know how to attract and seduce women. But nowadays you can't just expect to go to a bar or disco club on Friday night and pull chicks. A big part of that is there are barely and dark, smoky "clubs" left. Yes, women's social habits have changed, and pickup strategy has changed with it. But it's also that the women are all somewhere else now anyway...assuming they're the kind of women men really even want anymore. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you
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How To Know When You're Loved, And When You're Not - MTP504
03/20/2026
How To Know When You're Loved, And When You're Not - MTP504
Co-Host Kenny Vaughan () My first-time guest Kenny Vaughan is the author of The Right Fight and founder of Shield of Strength. He spends a lot of time thinking about what love is, and isn't. For years, Kenny thought love was only a feeling...but then realized there was something deeper there. He didn't buy that "love is a decision", either. What does, "I love you, I'm just not in love with you anymore" actually mean? And what does Kenny mean when he says, "I feel love her because she loves me?" And how did we get to the point where so-called "love" is actually defined by transactions in our culture? According to Kenny, love is both your offense and your defense. What does that mean? How much is love about being "nice" to each other? Why can that attitude of being "nice" actually show you don't love someone rather than truly loving them? Okay, so then what does "tough love" really mean? And what does this all have to do with how women crave "emotional availability"? Why is it so important for us (and women) to know why someone is doing what they're doing when we're in a relationship with them? How the idea of protecting a woman integrally tied to love? (Hint: Just because you'd die for her doesn't necessarily mean you love her.) So what comes first, the feeling of love or the decision to love? And does it stay that way forever? When one partner blames the other for a relationship going badly, what might actually be going on there? So is the phrase "deserve what you want" in line with actual love, or is it too self-serving? And most importantly, is Kenny related to Stevie Ray? The everyday carry for "Big Four" men is VAMANOS. What is it? Find out here: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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Meeting Women: "I'm Just Looking" - SFTS111
03/18/2026
Meeting Women: "I'm Just Looking" - SFTS111
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Most of us can't stand small talk. It's shallow. It's repetitive. But in this culture, it's also absolutely necessary. Have you ever realized we have one set of canned lines we deliver to people we know when we see them? But there are also completely different things we've grown accustomed to saying to people we don't know. I'll give you the absolute clearest example in this brief episode. When we approach and meet women, is there really a clear set of "small talk" guidelines? The answer will surprise you...along with the subtle change to how society tends to work nowadays in general. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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What Keeps You From Thriving? - MTP503
03/13/2026
What Keeps You From Thriving? - MTP503
Co-Host Sanya Bari (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sanya) My first time guest Sanya Bari is a relationship therapist and emotional clarity expert...which given she's from New Jersey means she's in high demand. She asked a dangerous question: What keeps men from thriving? To get the show rolling, Sanya riffs away on what her findings were. So what is the difference between merely surviving and thriving? What is the real "drug" that keeps us from being our best selves? (Hint: It's not booze or ganja.) What about being "locked in" to a project or goal? Is that a good or a bad thing? If you "survive" effectively enough, others may actually give you accolades for it. But what's the danger behind that mindset? Why does Sanya believe that most guys really don't even realize when they're slipping into "survival mode"? And how to we recover from that and get ourselves back? How do we handle seeing everyone else's "highlight reels" on Facebook knowing that we're NOT okay? How do the mixed messages we as men get about emotions and logic affect us...especially in our relationships with women? What is the habit nearly everyone in Western culture has gotten into nowadays that represents the exact opposite of thriving...yet people seem to like it that way? Next, the surprising truth about how failure to thrive may indeed be passed on generationally. How do you break that cycle? When it comes to relationships with women, how do we keep entering into relationships with women that exhaust us and hold us back rather than helping us thrive? Be a "Big Four" man who gets women: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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Talking To Upset, Stressed Women Is Great Practice - SFTS110
03/11/2026
Talking To Upset, Stressed Women Is Great Practice - SFTS110
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== There's so much shop-worn dating advice out there we've heard SO often that I swear we don't even realize there's anything wrong with it. Example...have you ever noticed that virtually all tips on approaching women, meeting them and interacting women them assume a playful, happy-go-lucky, flirty woman as a given? The only other frame of mind we consider possible in that scenario is disgust and anger...directed at the guy approaching her! But that's just not how life works, is it? There are perfectly sane, decent women out there who will not be at their best when it's time to meet them and interact with them. They could be women you're just meeting, or long-time acquaintances. But either way, interacting them is an opportunity we should absolutely not avoid. Here's why...and this could revolutionize your approach out there. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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The Seasons Of Marriage (20 Years In!) - MTP502
03/06/2026
The Seasons Of Marriage (20 Years In!) - MTP502
Co-Host Emily McKay (https://www.deservewhatyouwant.com) Since our last episode together, Emily and I celebrated 20 years since we met. Over the course of two decades, we've realized there are seasons to a marriage. Now obviously, most couples would hope for an endless springtime rather than the winter of their discontent, but what we're talking about here isn't quite so literal. It's not just that things change both in the marriage and around you. That's inevitable in this life. It's not even about the evolution of the marriage, or the both of you over time, really. Rather, it's a definite smooth and perhaps even rhythmic flow from one major theme of your life together into another. Now, Emily and I met when we were in our mid- and late-thirties, respectively. For the benefit of those of you listening who might be younger, what seasons can younger couples expect? Is it all about being DINKS (or even DINKWADS)? What about the "Honeymoon Phase"? And the dreaded "Seven Year Itch"? Does Parenthood count as a season? As for us, we went through "travel season" and "youth sports season". What's next? We were still having kids at 40 and 45 years old, so we aren't "empty nesters" yet. What might that season look like? What about growing old together? What are some surprises that season might bring? There are now 67 retired episodes, featuring some of the OGs in the men's dating space. Get them all for a donation at: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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Most Men Struggle With ONE Of The "Big Four" - SFTS109
03/03/2026
Most Men Struggle With ONE Of The "Big Four" - SFTS109
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Better men get better women. To be a better man, the "Big Four" is the standard. Once you're a "Big Four" man, you deserve what you want. Although there's always room for improvement, most men who listen to this show have three of the "Big Four" down pretty well. You're masculine, you like women and you're a man of good, solid character. But when "confronted" with an attractive woman we'd like to meet, talk to and get to know, we freeze up and "fail to deploy". What's up with that? Why is the CONFIDENCE part so difficult? I mean, without it, how are women ever going to know you represent the other three pillars of the "Big Four" as well? In this week's SFTS you'll not only get answers to why so many men struggle with the confidence part, you'll get practical solutions to fix the problem and make sure it never happens again. Did you know that VAMANOS is the everyday carry for "Big Four" men? Getchasum at === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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Mistakes In The First Three Months Of Dating - MTP501
02/27/2026
Mistakes In The First Three Months Of Dating - MTP501
Co-Host Sandra Myers (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/sandra) My first-time guest Sandra Myers is a matchmaker who heads up Select Date Society. In this fast-paced and often funny episode, we talk about how (and when) men and women tend to blow it in the first three months of dating each other. To kick things off, Sandra throws down how WAY too many people mess up within the first three MINUTES, or on the first date. Here's a hint: How many people do you know who love biographies? What are some other ways we as men all tend to sabotage any chances with a woman early on? Why does living in the past even in a present relationship have such damaging consequences? How does a "dry spell" over the past several months affect our mindset when getting into a new relationship? What's the trap that couples fall into on or shortly after the first date that instantly creates a bad habit that could doom the relationship later? What's the right level of "being mysterious" early on? I mean, where's the proper balance between oversharing and not sharing enough to make a connection? Is there a good reason to "test jealousy"...and if so, what does it look like? Where do we as men often sabotage any chance of real communication with a woman? Have you subscribed to the free daily newsletter yet? It's a fluff-free experience full of actionable tips. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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Eye Contact Problems - SFTS108
02/24/2026
Eye Contact Problems - SFTS108
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== One of the most tired tips for men when it comes to telling if a woman is attracted is "she makes eye contact with you and smiles". Way too many of us as men have never seen that happen even once. It's no wonder we're so frustrated. But wait a second, could we be robbing ourselves of potential "moments" with women because we're avoiding eye contact with women to begin with? Why do so many of us as men do that? What could we be possibly afraid of? Well, the simple (and easy!) cure for this weird and devastating problem is contained in this brief episode. Subscribe to the free newsletter and download your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. It's all built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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What Is Wrong With Men And Women Nowadays? - MTP500
02/20/2026
What Is Wrong With Men And Women Nowadays? - MTP500
Co-Host Steve "The Dean" Williams (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/dean) Well, here we are...finally all the way to episode #500. Massive respect and appreciation to all of you guys who've supported the show over the years, many since the very beginning back in 2007...when it was originally called The Chick Whisperer. The first guy I thought of to join me for this milestone episode was none other than Steve "The Dean" Williams, who co-hosted the first ten episodes with me BITD. And it's been too long, so the OGs got the band back together for one special show. Get your crayons out, gentlemen...we're about to chop up some game. And I figured nothing would launch us both into one of our patented rants than a topic like What's Wrong With Men And Women Nowadays? We get rolling by talking about what's changed over the last 19 years, and what's stayed the same. How have men been blown and tossed by whatever the "next new thing" is in dating and relationship advice? What has post-modern culture done to men's mindset regarding women? Are men really willing to forsake women nowadays at the risk of their name, bloodline and legacy? And wait a minute...are the redpilled "gurus" on YouTube the ones encouraging that empty end result? Why don't you hear about "toxic masculinity" in the media anymore? How can it be after all these years that most men still don't understand how women are wired sexually? What happens when "truth" become negotiable? Sure, we sound like a couple of "Uncs", but what if the new school really is the old school? OGs got your back. Has it taken you 500 episodes to finally get signed up for the free newsletter? === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === This show is built on the "Big Four": Confidence, Masculinity, Liking Women, and Good Character. Better men get better women. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review.
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Liquid Courage - SFTS107
02/17/2026
Liquid Courage - SFTS107
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== You've heard the term. "Liquid courage" refers to slamming back a few alcoholic drinks before expecting to approach and meet women. It goes hand-in-hand with "night game" culture of meeting women in bars and clubs, doesn't it? There's no doubt that a little "social lubrication" to grease the skids and lower inhibition really can work. But there's also a good, solid reason why I strongly discourage alcohol consumption during Ten-Plus Live weekends with guys out in field. Subscribe to the free newsletter and download your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Situationships Are Sinking Ships - MTP499
02/13/2026
Situationships Are Sinking Ships - MTP499
Co-Host Dr. Karen Stewart (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/stewart) We've all heard the term "situationship" all the time over the past few years, but what exactly does it mean? We already have "friends with benefits" and even "f-buddies", so there's no need for a new term for that. And hey, it's okay to date someone casually without rushing into commitment, too...so that's certainly not it, either. Well, as it turns out there's a pretty clear differentiator between a true "situationship" and any other kind of relationship with a woman. My first-time guest, clinical psychologist and sex therapist Dr. Karen Stewart, not only describes the "situation" clearly, she's all about the discussion regarding the good, the bad and the ugly going on there. What is "girlfriend mode", and what does it have to do with all of this? How is a climate of fear directly associated with the modern-day proliferation of situationships? What are the disastrous ways men misunderstand a woman's signals that she's indeed just up for something casual, not committed or "relationshippy"? What are the two apparently opposite reasons why we fall into situationships? How does having sex change everything, at least usually? How can something between you and a woman start out as a situationship and then evolve into something else, or vice-versa? How can we (or women) unwittingly end up in a situationship when we clearly wanted a committed relationship? And overall, what is the lens women view such arrangements through compared to us as men, and how can we navigate that? If you aren't yet getting the free newsletter, signup and get your free copy of Sticking Points Solved at: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Let The Game Come To You - SFTS106
02/11/2026
Let The Game Come To You - SFTS106
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== What can one specific play from Super Bowl LX teach us about how to get better at meeting and interacting with women? As it turns out plenty. In this brief episode, discover the valuable habit that carries over from most team sports, and how specifically to apply to cold approach situations. What's more, I'll show you the exact response you're likely to see initially from women, as well as how they'll respond once you actually start a conversation with her. No more fumblerooskis, only first downs (and first dates) from there. Subscribe to the free newsletter and download your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Synthetic Intimacy - MTP498
02/06/2026
Synthetic Intimacy - MTP498
Co-Host Holly Nelson (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/holly) Think of it like aspartame is to real sugar. "Synthetic intimacy" may be sweet, but it's not the real thing. And when you get right down to it, you're not really even fooled. So why then are so many people falling for it nowadays? My first-time guest Holly Nelson is NOT a robot (she said so herself), but rather a sex therapist from Phoenix, AZ who has spent a lot of time thinking about this subject. We hit the ground running on this fast-paced discussion, talking about how "intimacy" isn't really intimate at all if it's one-sided and people are getting manipulated. How is AI already affecting our relationships with women, and what should we be watching out for both now and in the near future? Why is Claude.AI so convincing when pretending it cares about you? And why is it dangerous to "get close" to ChatGPT (even above and beyond the obvious)? In all fairness, has technology actually succeeded at connecting us...even while dividing us at the same time? There was clear evidence even at the dawn of the consumer internet that people were disengaging from each other. Why have we not done anything about that, even when it's only gotten worse over the last 30 years or so? Can an AI girlfriend actually bring some good into your life, or is any semblance of a Build-A-Bitch Workshop just a social disaster waiting to happen? Is this just for the incel community, pretty much, or will we all eventually get drawn in? It's not like we're actually out there pretending to literally fall in love with AI...are we? Will kids eventually have robot parents (or at least, full-time nanny-bots)? Hey, add it all up and there's a big difference between how we are hard-wired as humans and the limits to which technology will be able to satisfy us...especially when it comes to flat-out replacing relationships with women. Download Sticking Points Solved and get on the daily newsletter--both free--at: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Is Small Talk Worthless? - SFTS105
02/03/2026
Is Small Talk Worthless? - SFTS105
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== A lot of us as men have allowed ourselves to believe that making common small talk with women when we meet them is something we have to avoid. After all, if we don't come up with something heroic to say in the moment, she'll probably lose interest quickly. Well, in this brief episode I'll not only show you why making small talk is actually the right strategy, I'll reveal why attempting some sort of "big talk" is likely to backfire spectacularly. And yes, even if you DO somehow come up with something miraculous and creative to talk to her about, I'll tell you why it's STILL likely to ruin everything ANYWAY. Hint: It has less to do with you, and more to do with her . Subscribe to the free newsletter and ownload your free copy of Sticking Points Solved: https:mountaintoppodcast.com === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Dating With ADHD Or Asperger's - MTP497
01/30/2026
Dating With ADHD Or Asperger's - MTP497
Co-Host William Schroeder (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/justmind) My first time guest William Schroeder is an expert on neurodivergence not only because he is a mental health therapist, but also because he has walked that path himself. What are the challenges facing men who are ADHD or have Asperger's...especially when it comes to relating to women? More importantly, how can you overcome those challenge and thrive? Well, the first question to ask is why the term "neurodivergence" has been in the media more often in the last few years. Next, it seems like everyone's attention span is shorter since COVID. How much of neurodivergence is nature vs. nurture? And what is the difference between ADD, ADHD and Asperger's, anyway? How transparent should we be about neurodivergence with other people, say, girlfriends or even bosses? How can ADHD men excel in relationships with women? On the other hand, what if neurodivergence seems to be wrecking my chances with women? How are people affected by changes in how ADHD and Asperger's are clinically defined? I mean, it's not really a death sentence to our masculinity and ability to attract women if we're neurodivergent, is it? And regarding the term "neurodivergence" itself, is it too broad a label? How many men go undiagnosed...and what if this podcast episode itself starts making us wonder about that? And here's the kicker...how do we identify women who are neurodivergent and manage relationships with them? Get in on VAMANOS and have answers for any situation with women right there on the spot: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Why Did She Stop Talking To Me? - SFTS104
01/27/2026
Why Did She Stop Talking To Me? - SFTS104
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Have you ever known someone who you have occasional social conversations with, but then one day--boom--crickets. What happened there? Was it you, or was it them? Chances are, neither of you was particularly at fault. In this brief episode I'll give you at least eight solid reasons why it happened. Several are specific to situations like this that might happen with women you're interested in. And yes, at least two of the others sound straight out of a Larry David plot on "Curb Your Enthusiasm". But since this is no joke when it happens, I'll also give you reliable ways to fix the situation to get you back on the right track socially. Get in on the AI revolution: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Free Speech When Talking To Women - MTP496
01/23/2026
Free Speech When Talking To Women - MTP496
Co-Host Chloe Carmichael (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/chloe) It's no secret that more of us than ever don't exactly feel as if free speech is what it used to be. It's as if we can get canceled, arrested, or even worse for saying what we really think, and that's especially worrisome when it comes to communicating with women. After all the warnings from HR, is it okay to express interest in a woman, or even talk to her at all? My first-time guest Dr. Chloe Carmichael is a clinical psychologist and USA Today bestselling author of "Can I Say That? Why Free Speech Matters and How to Use It Fearlessly". We kick things off by talking about "toxic masculinity", and the possibility of it being talked about less nowadays because the job was done (!). But have men really resigned themselves to shutting up and "staying in our lane", or have we simply rejected the whole premise altogether? I mean, what did men gain by even trying to "do better", other than women being more disgusted with us than ever? Chloe offers real-talk about how women say they want a "feminist" man, and then find themselves fantasizing about macho guys anyway...with nobody to admit it to. Meanwhile, all of this self-censorship and cancel culture are fueling social anxiety and loneliness on the part of both genders. And wait until you hear the real, actual word that finally is the female equivalent of "maschismo". What is the actual ratio of women out there who want to cancel us rather than get to know us? Ultimately, Chloe's approach reframes free speech as a core mental health issue, drawing insights that can help men articulate themselves with more confidence and authenticity in relationships, at work, and beyond. Get instant answers on women with VAMANOS: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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There's Only One Perfect Pickup Line - SFTS103
01/20/2026
There's Only One Perfect Pickup Line - SFTS103
>===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== The quest for the perfect pickup line is one of the oldest in the world of men's dating advice. But ultimately, after all the hype settles, there's only ONE perfect pickup line. Here's the truth: No matter how cool, how funny, how smooth or how perfect your silver-tongued pickup line is, it's ALWAYS gonna come down to what you say next. And guess what? It's exactly what you should have said FIRST all along...every time you approach a woman. Get in on the AI revolution: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Wordless Connection - MTP495
01/16/2026
Wordless Connection - MTP495
Co-Host Rob Thomas (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/robthomas) The default setting when trying to resolve dating and relationship issues with women is to talk about it, right? Well, my first-time guest Rob Thomas came to the conclusion that trying to say the right words at the right time was exhausting. Drawing from his day job as a business consultant, he figured out there are very real ways to truly increase rapport and connection without using any words at all. The next thing you know, he wrote a book about that called Wordless Connection. Importantly, its not about wordless communication, per se, but rather about full-on connection. So first off, why is it we often end up speaking a "cloud of euphemisms" when talking to our WAGs? And what can we do instead to create an almost instant connection without saying anything at all? What is the science behind the value of embracing your partner for an exact duration of time? And how does that concept apply directly to eye contact, as well? Does the saying, "watch what she does instead of listening to what she says" have anything to do with this? Is what Rob's talking about here actually a primal desire within us? After all, verbal communication is a relatively new human development. Ironically enough, can words actually distract from deeper connection? What about wordless connection in the bedroom? What is the science behind human touch that can increase your success with women immediately? Have you downloaded Sticking Points Solved? Your free e-book is waiting at: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Why Narcissistic Women Target You - SFTS102
01/13/2026
Why Narcissistic Women Target You - SFTS102
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== Why do extremely self-centered women who don't seem to care about you and your needs at all keep ending up in your life? It's like the same relationship over and over, only with a different woman. Well, it happens to literally the best of us as men. In fact, some solid traits adjacent to the "big four" are exactly what attract narcissists. The first step to putting an end to this pattern is recognizing it's there to begin with. So if you've found this episode, you're already on the right track. But once you also know how the mind of a narcissistic woman works, you can easily understand exactly what it is about you that was so attractive to her, and then put the kibosh on toxic relationships. Then, you can make a stand against ever welcoming another woman like that into your life. Better still, you can leverage those same fantastic traits of yours to match up with a woman who is sweet, kind and treats you right for a change. Get in on the AI revolution: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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How Mature Men De-Escalate Hysterics - MTP494
01/09/2026
How Mature Men De-Escalate Hysterics - MTP494
Co-Host Doug Noll (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/dougnoll) Why is it that younger men get into so many more unfortunate altercations than older guys...not just with other men, but also with women? My returning guest Doug Noll is a world-class expert in de-escalating situations with angry or unreasonable people. Known for his book De-Escalate: How To Calm An Angry Person In 90 Seconds Or Less, Doug returns this time for a deep-dive into how mental and emotional maturity makes us better at calming down hysterical women, and even avoiding sticky confrontations altogether. For starters, how can it be that Doug and his wife never fight or argue? What is "affect labeling", and why is it your #1 strategy for cooling down potential altercations? How come arguments between men and women can become so hurtful so fast, and how do we prevent that? Why does Doug believe there's no such thing as "rationality", and ergo, "irrationality"? How does Stoicism enter into all of this? What genius principle has Doug identified that functions like a "yes, and...", only for emotions instead of conversations? What is Doug's foolproof strategy for getting along with a woman on first dates? Next, the one truth that can help you keep your composure even when someone is hurling extremely hurtful invective at you. And how can you be prepared to handle conflict effectively if you're blindsided by it...especially if it doesn't happen very often? What are some practical, effective statements we can use in real-life to do affect labeling on our own, when necessary? Here's another hot take from Doug: Never offer an unsolicited apology. Why not? Have you tried VAMANOS AI yet? Ask it any question and get answers in real time. Never be left on the spot in any situation with women ever again. === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Does Your Type Of Woman Evolve Over Time? - SFTS101
01/06/2026
Does Your Type Of Woman Evolve Over Time? - SFTS101
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== We talked last time about how the woman of your dreams quite probably will be the culmination of all your favorite girlfriends. But wait...how did you arrive at what you "favor" about women to begin with? In a recent coaching conversation, it came up that our "type" might actually be established when we're VERY young...like in pre-school. Does that mean that our "inner child" pre-destined us to be with a certain type of woman some day? Well...sort of, but not exactly. Get the "bigger picture" truth in today's brief episode...and stay tuned for the surprise ending. Get in on the VAMANOS AI app at : === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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Emotional Vampires Suck - MTP493
01/02/2026
Emotional Vampires Suck - MTP493
Co-Host Daniel Ratner (https://mountaintoppodcast.com/ratner) On this first day of 2026, we hit the ground running with how to eliminate the WRONG people from your life this year, and from now on. Daniel Ratner is a Jewish-American coach who made Aliyah and now lives in Jerusalem. So obviously, specializing in vampires of any kind only shows he has a sense of comedic irony that would make Mel Brooks blush. But for sure, the whole weird but tragically common phenomenon is what it is, and Daniel has studied it as much as anyone. So much so that he has identified several different types of emotional vampires and described them. For starters, what's the pattern that makes so many of them narcissists? And what exactly is "covert narcissism" again, and why are they typically among the worst offenders? How do women in particular draw us in with vampirical patterns that seem "cute" at first--even attractive--only to truly wear us out over time? Can a real, actual emotional vampire really, actually love us? Why is it so many of us as men will tolerate a woman who is an emotional vampire way more than any woman would tolerate a male one in her life? (Hint: We coined the term "training and draining" there.) How do we set boundaries with emotional vampires...and is it too late after they sink their teeth in? What is Coach Ratner's acronym for figuring out who to keep in your life and who to get rid of? And why is a certain type of person the favorite target of emotional vampires? Finally, living in Israel Daniel wrote a piece over the summer called "Bomb Shelter Sex". Listen as he offers some amazing insights into what social life was like in Israel then. Get in on the newly-updated VAMANOS app and more at: === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === The show is now available as a VIDEO version on YouTube. For some reason, the episodes seem funnier...if a bit more rough around the edges. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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The Culmination Of All Your Favorite Girlfriends - SFTS100
12/30/2025
The Culmination Of All Your Favorite Girlfriends - SFTS100
===SNIPPETS FROM THE SUMMIT=== How can you know absolutely for sure that you're NOT settling for the wrong woman? Well in honor of the 100th SFTS episode, I'm tackling this all-important subject in a way you've never heard anywhere else. You know how you've heard people can keep attracting the same BAD relationship over and over, just with a different face? Well the other side of the coin is true also. You can date women who seem familiar to you, yet different, and make it a GOOD thing. And THIS is how you'll know when you're not settling. Fair warning, though...and don't let anyone tell you differently: You cannot tell if you're settling or not until you've dated enough women to know what you really like, want and prefer. And yes, women can (and will) surprise you in ways you'll never see coming. But after a while you'll start seeing a clear pattern. Shortly after that, you'll start attracting women who indeed have plenty in common. And THEN...that's when "miracles" happen. Get the whole story in this brief episode. Get in on the VAMANOS AI app at : === HELP US SEND THE MESSAGE TO GREAT MEN EVERYWHERE === Snippets From The Summit are all about completely original ideas for success with women that also happen to be extremely effective...and actionable. If you love what you hear, please rate the show on the service you subscribed to it on (takes one second) and leave a review. As we say here in Texas, I appreciate you!
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