The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast

The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast is hosted by Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D.,, LMFT, specializing in the narcissistic personality, She offers in-depth information about the origins and psychodynamics of the narcissistic personality and strategies and practices for those psychologically and emotionally abused by narcissistic personalities through her global podcasts (The Narcissist in Your Life Podcast) her books:: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist and Freeing Yourself from the Narcissist in Your Life.

Let Your Individuality Shine Through 11/14/2024

High Level Narcissists - Possessed by Craven Greed 11/04/2024

High Level Narcissist - Enchanting, Mesmerizing Exploiter 10/13/2024

Free Yourself from Your Narcissistic Father 10/03/2024

High Level Narcissists - Wearing False Self Masks 09/15/2024

Say Goodbye to the Family Myth 09/07/2024

High Level Narcissists - Without Conscience or Empathy 09/05/2024

Aggressive Overt High Level Narcissists - Psychologically Dangerous to Their Spouses and Children 09/01/2024

Notorious High Level Narcissists- Masters of Deceit and Exploitation 08/27/2024

High Level Narcissists Double Down on Their Ever-Present Hubris 08/24/2024

High Level Narcissists - Creating a Fictional Identity 08/23/2024

High Level Exploitive Narcissists Beneath the Golden Image 06/07/2024

High Level Narcissists Without Concience or Empathy - Full Speed Ahead 05/09/2024

Free Yourself From Pyschological Fusion with the High Level Narcissist 05/04/2024

Clever Covert Narcissists Fool Almost Everyone 04/29/2024

High Level Narcissist's Avarice - A Fever that Doesn't Break 04/16/2024

Malevolent High Level Narcissist Re-Creates A Sparkling New Identity 04/07/2024

High Level Narcissist: A Fortress of Defense Mechanisms 03/28/2024

High Level Classic Narcissists Demean You and Your Feelings 11/27/2023

High Level Classic Narcissists Demean You and Your Feelings Classic narcissists, larger than life, bombastic, charismatic to some, sail through their days in the fast lane---always moving to their next cascade of narcissistic supply. If they are very successful they have more opportunities to be adored, praised and rewarded handsomely in this current world of rampant pathological narcissism. Those at the top of their games don't do the hardest work. They have adoring followers, psychologically dependent individuals, hangers on, at their beck and call. If you have narcissists in your family, you are too keenly aware of how they demean you and/or ignore you or bith. If you are having a difficult time, they completely ignore what you are saying or they wonder what is the matter with you that you have caused such trouble for yourself. Narcissists are peripatetic---They always have their engines running. They go from one project to the next, one trip to the next, one aquisition to the next, one full makeover to the next, one partner to the next, etc. They get a kick out of running circles around you. They don't care about you one whit. They jauntily move along to constantly brag about themselves. On some occasions the narcissist wonders out loud about what is wrong with you that you can't overcome your problems. After all, they did! At a point of awakening you recognize that you are an adult in the process of healing and restoration from the classic high level narcissist. You are entitled to practice self care each day. Rest, sleep, self love, Nature in all of its beauty, the gift of music. Do the work of healing every day. You deserve deep inner peace and the fulfillment of your many unique creative gifts. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radion Network, a Global Network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: /episode/index/show/thenarcissistinyourlife/id/28807093

Empaths Rescue Themselves from Marriage to High Level Narcissists 11/21/2023

Freedom From Childhood Shame Projected by A Narcissistic Parent 11/14/2023

Recovering from Chronic Exhaustion After the High Level Narcissist 11/06/2023

Narcissists - Screamers, Passive Aggressives, Covert Operators 11/04/2023

Narcissists - Screamers, Passive Aggressives, Covert Operators Each narcissist is unique in his or her inimitable way. We learn a great deal about a person by the way he/she communicates. With Narcissists there are several styles that stand out. The first is the Screamer. This man or woman always has the volume dial turned up to the max, especially when under stress or frustration which is frequent. There is no modulation in sound intensity whether the narcissist is in public or private. Screaming is the most direct route to getting his or her needs and desires met immediately. Although many narcissists are obsessed about their image and would not make a public scene, the Screamer projects his feelings, threats and intimidations without a filter. If he doesn't get the right table at a restaurant, best theater seat, quickest appointment, he/she screams---wild eyed, face flushed, mouth gaping. He attracts a lot of attention as he communicates: "I want what I want when I want it." Surprisingly, those involved in the ugly interchangge with narcissistic screamers, respond to their requests readily to restore peace and civility. Narcissistic Screamers do not apologize nor are they embarrassed by their inappropriate behaviors. For them, it is only what they want and are getting all that matters. After all, they deserve it; they are superior and entitled. The sheer volume and intimidation projected by the enraged narcissist is enough to make most people cringe and go to their protective corners and acquiesce to the narcissist's delusional demands. The Passive Aggressive narcissistic communication style is notable for its seesaw quality. These narcissists are sullen and can go for weeks without speaking a word if they have been crossed or confronted. They are masters of the "silent treatment." This type of narcissist is gifted at "quietly seething." Everyone in the household is unnerved and disrupted by this behavior but it is difficult to confront and deal with since the narcissist has become and will remain mute until he decides to end his strike. These narcisssists often play the victim role, insisting that no one appreciates or understands their problems. Covert Operators lead secret lives, cleverly compartmentalizing one from the others. (From Freeing Yourself From the Narcissist in Your Life) "The narcissist puts his life in neat compartments that are sealed off from one another. He (or she) is able to activate self-identifications of vitality, superiority, success and power. These are kept separate from the unconscious parts of himself that feel depressed, enraged, empty and helpless..." Your keen powers of observation and discernment reveal the true nature of the narcissist including their communication styles. You are moving forward, rediscovering your truth, authentic self. Take time for deserved self care each day: get the rest and sleep that you need and deserve, nourishing healthy food, good hydration, movement and exercise thats best for you, restorative beautiful music, exploring your unique creative gifts. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters encompassing every facet of Mental Health: /episode/index/show/thenarcissistinyourlife/id/28514972

High Level Narcissists - Secretive, Shameless, Devious 10/30/2023

High Level Narcissists - Secretive, Shameless, Devious High level narcissists are highly secretive. They often compentalize their private lives. They are never concerned about deceiving partners since they don't have a fully developed conscience. High levels are often obsessed with acquiring money. But narcissists don't share. Many of them have hidden cash and bank accounts that are cleverly concealed from their partners and spouses. The spouse does not suspect this venal level of duplicity. One scenario preceding a divorce is that the narcissistic spouse will take control of most of the money and financial assets and hidden them through complex financial instruments or by making"arrangements" with a business partner or some other back door means. After the divorce papers are served and the opening rounds begin, the narcissist claims that he or she has no money or assets or investments of any kind. As the they cheat and steal from you, high level narcissists are highly suspicious even paranoid that they are being taken advantage of by their spouse. They rage that the partner has "stolen" what is theirs. Narcissistic personalities are psychological ly delusional. They manufacture their own reality. They detest the truth, especially when it is pointed out to them. It enrages the narcisssist and activates his/her volcanic rage. A time comes when you put enough of the puzzle pieces together to know that you are being deceived and can no longer overlook, rationalize or tolerate the insidious lies, the recriminations, the primitive wounding projections. You say "no more!" You do careful research, interview attorneys, obtain the tools that you need to move through the divorce process. You have persevered. I give you tremendous credit to those who go through this "marathon" with courage, grace, fortitude, focus, stamina and fine character! Click the link below for my books on Amazon: Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, A Global Network of Shows by Podcasters that encompasses every facet of Mental Health: /episode/index/show/thenarcissistinyourlife/id/28466999

Appreciating and Integrating Your Shadow Self 10/26/2023

Appreciating and Integrating Your Shadow Self The Shadow is that part of us that rises from the unconscious. It is mysterious and unique to each individual. Carl Jung describes it this way: "The Shadow personifies everything that the subject (person) refuses to acknowledge about himself." "Those who have no conscious acquaintance with their shadow, project forgotten, forbidden disowned parts of themselves onto others in destructive ways." (From: Recovering and Healing After the Narcissist, Linda Martinez-Lewi, Ph.D., LMFT) There are many examples of individuals who have no conscious awareness of their Shadow. There are personalities who have a flat affect (little or no real emotion expressed). Others are studied, stilted who lack spontaneity and humor. You have aggressive personalities who demand constant attention, who find fault in others and are incapable of admiting that they are ever wrong. These are false selves that have been developed to conceal a real self that has been psychologically damaged. Our personal Shadow is revealed through dreams, fantasies, reveries and spontaneous writing. When we are open to these inner worlds we become receptive to the richness of the unconscious. We continue to face our Shadows. For many the Shadow remains completely unrecognized by the conscious psyche of the individual. As human swe carry the inheritnce of our Shadow selves. This is not a curse but an incredible boon to those who seek wholeness and the promise and fulfillment of one's unique individuality. Becoming open to our dreams, reveries, meditations, offers a pathway to become acquainted and familiar with the Shadow. Creativity is born through the Shadow. It comes forth in spontaneous writing, our dreams, in communion with Nature. It walks with us day and night---always beside whether we acknowledge its presence or not. The Shadow is born in the heart of the unconscious, that mysterious territory and center of light and dark, a psychological chiascuro from which the masterpiece is created and spins into existence in its full glory. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters encompassing every facet of Mental Health: /episode/index/show/thenarcissistinyourlife/id/28433759

Take Back Your True Identity from Your Narcissistic Father 10/21/2023

Scapegoated Daughters of Narcissistic Mothers 10/19/2023

Greedy High Level Narcissists 10/06/2023

Greedy High Level Narcissists Today we are surrounded by countless greedy narcissists in a society that has become exceedingly materialistic, coarse, Darwinian, soulless. The high level narcissist is all act: false, cunning, acquisitive. The greediest go after what you have – investments, properties, residences, businesses, valuable possessions, trusts, works of art.They feed off of your creativity and steal your projects. – all the while leading you to believe that they are collaborating and contributing to your success. Narcissists are not team players. This is a pretense, a strategy a ruse, a well honed act to gain your trust and ultimately to control you and the products of your unique creativity. No matter how much they have, for the high level narcissist it is never enough. The fever of acquisitiveness reigns with these individuals. You cannot win if you stay partnered with them unless you are willing to become their psychological prisoners and forfeit your individuality, your unique gifts and your inner peace. Some of those who remain aligned with the high level narcissist are in a state of permanent delusion. They have fused with the narcissist and are unable to extricate themselves from this psychopathological state. The high level narcissist doesn’t care if you are left with nothing. They get what they want, discard you and move on to the next shiniy prize. There is hope and redemption with those who remain grounded in their authenticity and integrity combined with their creative gifts. At a time of great insight you find your unique pathway that leads to the authentic self. Give yourself tremendous credit for redisvering the truth about yourself. Listen to the voice of your intuition that always speaks the truth. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network, a global network of Shows by Podcasters on every facet of Mental Health: /episode/index/show/thenarcissistinyourlife/id/28247690

For Empaths - Practice Self Care and Self Kindness 09/28/2023

For Empaths - Practice Self Care and Self Kindness For Empaths: Practice Self Care and Self Kindness DraftSep 25, 2023 Empaths are unique individuals who are often misunderstood. As babies and small children they learn that they are unlike other family members. Some children are accepted and respected but this attitude tends to be the exception. Empaths have a heightened sense of perception. They are highly sensitive to loud noises, large crowds and social events. Empaths are seekers of the truth and have keen insights and intuitions. The society and even within their families, these gifts are not accepted and valued. Rather the empath is treated like a person who is odd, peculiar, someone who doesn't fit in. True empaths are rare and extraordinary. Their perceptions about human nature and individuals in particular are very accurate. Often these individuals are not believed. Many growup in families that discount this level of high consciousness and intuitive sight. Self care and self kindness are essential practices for empaths: Protecting Your Sleep and Rest: Honor your sleep. Don't let others, especially demanding individuals-narcissists- interfere with your sleep. The great healer is sleep, a profound activity that we are designed for. Sleep is part of all human and animal species. It nourishes and restores every system: skeletal, muscular, respiratory, cardiovascular, digestive, reproductive, endocrine, lymphatic and the mitochrondria in every cell. We are created to follow the natural daylight and night---to sleep when darkness comes at night and to awaken when the sun rises and radiates in the sky throughout the day. Sleep protects and strengthens the immune system, restores our vital energy and decreases inflammation. In sleep the unconscious speaks, bringing us dreams that are mysterious, healing and insightful. We are often daunted by the meaning of our dreams. Nevertheless, they are invaluable although often inscrutable. In many cultures for hundreds of years the habit of taking a rest has been part of a daily routine. Rest offers physical, psychological and emotional refreshment. Having the freedom to think in quiet, to enjoy one's solitude and creativity is a very pleasant activity. This gives us a feeling of well-being. It offers a great opportunity to move into the parasympathetic nervous system, the restorative, healing mode. Protecting Your Psychological Boundaries Respecting your personal boundaries is an essential part of your positive self-entitlement to inner peace. Recognize that you can say "No" to the narcissist who is constantly making outrageous demands, lying to you, projecting venomous rage. Developing a strong sense of self-regard is essential to eatablishing and maintaining boundaries. Separating out of the narcissist's delusion world you move forward along your unique individual pathways of psychological and creative development. Setting Your Personal Pace: Each individual has a natural tempo, a way of moving that is unique to them. As a child, spouse or partner of a high level narcissist you spent many years dancing to their choreography. High level narcissists are often peripetetic---they never stop moving. You have been trying to keep up with their rapid pace and constant demands for too many years. This is your time your space, your pace, your dance. Spend time with Nature, her beauty and Inspiration: We are part of Nature. It showers us with gifts of magnificent beauty. Nature is our home, an inspiration for creative thinking, a companion that inspires, nourishes, calms and delights us. Developing Your Unique Routine: Daily routines that you are motivating, creative, healing and restorative. Decide on your priorities, try different schedules, choose activities that appeal to you. Leave room for flexibility. Don't be judgmental. There are no mistakes in choosing the elements of your routine. Enjoy your choices. Honor your unique needs, wishes, energy levels, deep interests, appreciation of beauty, the manifestation of your singular individuality. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: Click the link below for the Mental Health News Radio Network: A Global Network of Shows by Podcasters encompassing every facet of Mental Health: Collapse Read More Quick LinksGet Embed PlayerDownload Audio File Author : N/A Episode Type : Full Episode : N/A Rating : Clean File Info : | | NaNMB /episode/index/show/thenarcissistinyourlife/id/28164983

High level Narcissists – Playing Their False Self Roles 09/16/2023

High level Narcissists – Playing Their False Self Roles High level narcissists stand at center stage, commanding all the attention. He/she struts and preens before the audience. The high level is exultant before his/her adoring audience. These individuals expect nothing less than being perpetually adored. Many names are associated with these false self high flyers: Champion, Winner, Nobleman, Noblewoman, Prince, Princess, Genius, Spiritual Master. On the outside, the high level narcissist sparkles, exuding a magnetic charm. Beneath the many false selves the high level narcissist is a hollowed out, psychologically empty real self. The high level uses specific defense mechanisms to protect himself/herself from exposure to the depleted real self. Projection: Projection is a primitive defense mechanism that involves ejecting vile psychological venom onto victims, especially those close within his inner circle: spouses, ex-spouses, children, siblings. The big advantage for the high level is that there are no consequences for their abominable behavior. When you are the recipient of a primitive projection your guts churn, your heart beats wildly, you feel humiliated—feel like disappearing. Projections originate in the unconscious of the perpetrator. In these dark recesses, powerful untrammeled feelings and inclinations are brewing and foment upward into consciousness. Massive Denial: This is a profound disavowal of the true reality, particularly about himself. The narcissist believes that he/she is a fine person, an individual of integrity. The high level is immune to his mean, vindictive, demanding behaviors. The narcissist easily finds fault with others, (often rivals for power) whom he criticizes reflexively. The high level harbors a deep envy of his competitors. When he/she has behaved badly in business or socially, the high level shifts the blame on to others rather than taking responsibility for his deceptive, and egregious behaviors. The high level can never admit being “wrong” since the reinforced false self perceives himself/herself as perfect and superior. Repression:The use of repression works very well for the high level narcissist. This is a form of forgetting and blocking feelings and actions and memories that run counter to the narcissist’s belief that he/she is superior and perfect. Repression is a psychological shield that protects the high level from experiencing his emotional and psychological vulnerabilities and imperfections. This mechanism “protects” the narcissist from experiencing his/her hollow, helpless, depleted, empty real self. Many are so taken with the compelling, believable false selves of the high level narcissist that they are incapable and unwilling to perceive these malevolent individuals for who they truly are—vile exploiters of those whom they psychologically and mentally control. As a result of your research and clear insights, you perceive the true nature of the high level narcissist defined by the dark, empty, hollowed out core of these individuals. Give yourself credit for your perseverance, your strong belief in yourself, your mental and psychological stamina. Focus on your movement into the restorative, calming pathways of the parasympathetic of self care and the use of your unique creative gifts. Click the link below for my books on Amazon: Click the link below the Mental Health News Radio Network, A Global Network of Shows by Podcasters encompassing every facet of Mental Health: /episode/index/show/thenarcissistinyourlife/id/28054053

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