The Next Man Up | Equipping Fathers | Raising Men
What does real manhood look like? When does a boy become a man? What is this idea of initiation all about? If you’re asking questions like these, or want to make a positive impact on the next generation of boys, then join Mark and his various co-hosts and guests as they cultivate a conversation around these topics and more.
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TNMU #245: The Final Episode
02/10/2023
TNMU #245: The Final Episode
After almost 5 years and nearly 250 episodes, The Next Man Up podcast is drawing to a close. In this final episode, Mark is joined by current co-host, John Gregory, and previous co-hosts Josh Wilson and Alen Auguste, as the 4 discuss their “why” for doing the podcast, favorite memories, and the impact they hope to leave on the men and fathers listening in.
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TNMU #244: Mastering the Craft of Fatherhood with Ned Schaut
02/03/2023
TNMU #244: Mastering the Craft of Fatherhood with Ned Schaut
Mastering the craft of fatherhood requires a number of things. For today’s guest, two of those things are to rebel and create. Ned Schaut — husband, father of 5, author of two books and host of the Rebel and Create Podcast — joins the show today to talk about why those two words are so influential for him. We cover a number of other topics familiar to this show, including the much anticipated release of his new book and the impact he hopes it will have on young fathers. Connect with Ned: Websites:
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TNMU #243: Embracing the Manhood Journey with Kent Evans
01/27/2023
TNMU #243: Embracing the Manhood Journey with Kent Evans
Manhood and journey, two words used often on this show, come together to form an inspiration and movement for today’s guest. Kent Evans is the father of 5 boys, the author of 3 books, and founder of Manhood Journey. He joins us today to talk about the work he’s doing to encourage and equip fathers to pursue biblical fatherhood and why it’s so important that men embrace the manhood journey. Connect with Kent: Website:
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TNMU #242: Raising Boys to Be Men with Monica Swanson
01/20/2023
TNMU #242: Raising Boys to Be Men with Monica Swanson
Guys, this is an episode for you and your wife. Author, podcast host and mom of 4 boys, Monica Swanson joins the show today to share some of her story and how she’s helping moms (and dads) become better parents and raise boys and girls to become Jesus following character trained men and women. Monica’s mom perspective is a great addition to the voices on this show and the resources she’s developed will help you and your wife continue to grow as parents. Connect with Monica: Website: IG: FB:
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TNMU #241: Leading the Education of Your Son with Matt Barnes
01/13/2023
TNMU #241: Leading the Education of Your Son with Matt Barnes
Who is the child you want to give to the world? That one question changed the life of today’s guest, both as a dad and as a professional. Matt Barnes is a Learning Coach who helps parents grow Self-Governing, Self-Driven Learners. He’s also a father of three kids, all of whom he describes as self-governing beasts. Matt is disrupting the way we think about education and inviting dads to take a strategic approach to the future men they are raising. Connect with Matt: Extended Notes: Most of our problems stem from how we think, which comes from how we’re educated There’s been an inversion of the primary place of education, from the home to the institution of schooling The institution of school is designed to encourage finding the right answers and regurgitating them Truth lies within the family; it is not up to the institution to define truth for kids; the key question is who decides what truth is? Media is the greatest influence in kids today; dads need to engage with that media and disrupt the messages kids are receiving; invite kids into a conversation about the message and the messenger Preparing self-leaders will allow them to learn their way out of any situation Matt’s Key Question: Who is the child you want to give to the world? Noticing and working with your child’s interest allows you to build a learning journey with them, for their own self learning and discovery The school room is uniquely designed to frustrate boys; Dads must engage early and often as the strategist for their son’s life
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TNMU #240: A Word For the Year
01/06/2023
TNMU #240: A Word For the Year
Have you ever chosen a word for the year? Something to help guide you and provide focus as you navigate the next 12 months? Maybe you’ve never heard of this idea before. In this first episode of the new year, Mark and John get into their experience with this process, what it’s meant to them, and how you can adopt it for yourself, for your marriage and with your kids as well. A resource to use: Extended Notes: A word to help focus the next 12 months, different from goals or values Can help establish a fixed posture as you go throughout the year Over time, these words can build and capture your journey from year to year Choose a word in the way you typically make a decision, work with what works for you This can be a way to receive something Father wants to give you Allow the word to inform the entirety of your life Can also do this with your marriage, with your family, and with each of your kids If you do this, you must regularly remind yourself of the word; this activates the brain to help maintain the focus and receive what’s there
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TNMU #239: REWIND Confronting Cancel Culture with Alon Auguste
12/30/2022
TNMU #239: REWIND Confronting Cancel Culture with Alon Auguste
Cancel culture is a topic that is current and deserves to be addressed. Bringing back a familiar voice is a good way to do it. Alon Auguste joins us again to do what he always does—speak into current culture with a timely and timeless message. It’s almost a guarantee that you haven’t engaged with this topic in the way Alon does in this episode. Which is why no matter your understanding of this cultural issue, this episode is a must listen. (Originally aired as episodes 170 & 171)
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TNMU #238: REWIND Joyful Mindset with Craig Fullen
12/23/2022
TNMU #238: REWIND Joyful Mindset with Craig Fullen
Craig Fullen, champion of the Joyful Mindset, joins the show today to talk about who he is, what he does, and his passion to become the best version of himself and help others do the same. For him, it is best encompassed in the idea of a Joyful Mindset. Join us for this great discussion with Craig. (Originally aired as episodes 98 & 99) Follow Craig on Twitter @craigfullen
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TNMU #237: REWIND Having the Race Talk with Rich Johnson
12/16/2022
TNMU #237: REWIND Having the Race Talk with Rich Johnson
Our guest today is Rich Johnson. He’s a husband, father of 4, pastor, yoga instructor, and you will soon see why he’s someone who is easy to respect and admire. And he’s a black man. Which makes him uniquely qualified to talk about race, both as a man, and also as a father guiding his kids through society today. Let Rich be your guide as we navigate through this big topic of race and racism. (Originally aired as episodes 115 & 116) Instagram @richjohnsononline
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TNMU #236: REWIND Healthy Manhood & Identity with Twyla Stanifer
12/09/2022
TNMU #236: REWIND Healthy Manhood & Identity with Twyla Stanifer
Coach, pastor, and former counselor Twyla Stanifer joins the show today to talk about healthy manhood and identity. How to think about what healthy manhood is and how to engage women, at work and at home, from a place of health and security are just a few of the topics we get into in the first half of this conversation. In the second half, we get deeper into the work she is doing today around understanding how our beliefs — about God, ourselves, others — impact our actions and the results we get in life. We also get into how important it is to help boys understand how to identify what they’re feeling and their belief systems in order to become healthy men. (Originally aired as episodes 111 & 112) NMU Dads Group Signup:
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TNMU #235: REWIND Becoming with Morgan Snyder
12/02/2022
TNMU #235: REWIND Becoming with Morgan Snyder
Strategist, entrepreneur, teacher, author, and speaker Morgan Snyder joins us for one of the best conversations we’ve had on the show. It starts and ends with this idea of becoming, and 2 central questions: Who have I become? Who am I becoming. This episode is a must listen! (Originally aired as episode 132) NMU Dads Group Signup: Website: Expanded Notes: - Becoming is a central theme for men - 2 key questions: Who have I become? Who am I becoming? - Male initiation is part of our spiritual growth - Every great story borrows from the gospel, which is meant to be the greatest story of our lives - The image of God (imago dei) is evident in the power that boys & men display or pursue - Initiation is about learning how to use that power to bless others - The pocket knife as a metaphorical and literal demonstration of power - We live in a world at war, where it’s hard to be a man (staying true to the process of initiation) - The magic of the kingdom of God is made available in everyday life
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TNMU #234: Gratitude In the Midst of Adversity
11/25/2022
TNMU #234: Gratitude In the Midst of Adversity
Life will bring you storms. It’s not if but when. But whether you’re in the storm or in pleasant circumstances, gratitude is part of establishing a firm foundation. Blending the real storm of hurricane Ian and this season of giving thanks, John and Mark explore the importance and benefits gratitude on being grounded and strong no matter your circumstances. NMU Dads Group Signup:
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TNMU #233: Living Transformed, Inspired and On Mission with Domingo Guyton
11/18/2022
TNMU #233: Living Transformed, Inspired and On Mission with Domingo Guyton
Music producer, award winning filmmaker, and man of God, Domingo Guyton, joins the show to share his story. Transformed from a troubled Boston teen to the husband, father, and follower of Jesus he is today, Domingo talks about how his creative gifts are being put to use, on mission, building relationship bridges across various communities and persevering with the vision God has given him. NMU Dads Group Signup: Contact Info: IG: @thedomingoguyton FB: @domingoguyton Website:
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TNMU #232: What Is A Man (Part 2)
11/11/2022
TNMU #232: What Is A Man (Part 2)
When your son asks you what it means to be a man, what will you say? It is imperative that you have a standard against which you can measure how you’re doing as a man and toward which you can guide your son. In part 2 of this conversation, Mark and John offer a definition to help you develop one for yourself or to advance your thinking on this topic toward a better one. NMU Dads Group Signup: Expanded Notes: Courage — The ability to face fear and adversity and not be overcome. Rather than retreating or hiding in or from the moment. Honor — The posture of respect and esteem toward others and a resolve to right conduct in your relationship with them. As opposed to being judgmental, arrogant or selfish in your conduct and interactions with others. Faith — Believing that we have a divine Father who loves us and is actively working on our behalf, for our good and the good of others. The opposite of believing we are nothing more than chance or relying only on scientific observation and not acknowledging the mystery or the unknown of life. Love — The decision to actively and purposefully pursue the wellbeing of those for whom you care for and have influence, including yourself. Rather than behavior that is focused only on self gratification and gain. Responsibility — The act of owning your choices and the consequences that result from those choices. The opposite of playing the victim and expecting rescue from someone else. Integrity — The resolve to be and live consistent with who you are and what you believe. Rather than being and doing in the moment what is easiest or most expedient to please or appease others. Strength — The power — physical, mental, emotional, spiritual — to stand strong and not be moved. To know who you are and where you are going. The opposite of weakness which leads to compromise or the inability to be who you want to be or do what you want to do. Leadership — The ability to guide yourself and influence others toward a vision of the future that does not yet exist. In contrast to lacking command of yourself and not engaging in opportunities to influence and impact others for good.
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TNMU #231: What Is A Man (Part 1)
11/04/2022
TNMU #231: What Is A Man (Part 1)
What does it mean to be a man? How do you describe manhood? Is your definition one of a healthy and godly man? And, why does it matter? These are the questions Mark and John engage in part 1 of this conversation, to put a stake in the ground about how we define manhood and why it is such important work to do for ourselves and the men-to-be we are raising. NMU Dads Group Signup:
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TNMU #230: Building Noblemen with Bryce Bouchard
10/28/2022
TNMU #230: Building Noblemen with Bryce Bouchard
Often, God uses your own story and experience to shape the impact He wants to make through you. Such is the case with Bryce Bouchard. After a childhood in a broken home and a faulty understanding of manhood, he began a quest to discover what it means to be a man which shaped the course of his life. Now, decades later, he’s guiding males of all ages on their own quest to become Noblemen. NMU Dads Group Signup: Noblemen Ministries: Email: References: Expanded Notes: Key Identity Descriptors for men: Abiding with God, the center of the target Dialoguing with God; asking, listening and surrendering Love, Lead, Serve, Provide and Protect Developing those around you Portion of the Nobleman Creed: Be physically present and emotionally available Discovering your identity is realizing you are already part of the family, you don’t have to earn a place
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TNMU #229: When Guys Get Submission Wrong
10/21/2022
TNMU #229: When Guys Get Submission Wrong
Mark goes off! A Facebook post on the topic of wives submitting to husbands is all that was needed to turn on the mics and address this head on. It’s time to change the way we talk about this topic. NMU Dads Group Signup: References: , Expanded Notes: Shift the conversation from authority to love The growth moment for you may be to initiate the conversation with your wife What could mutual submission look like for your relationship? Men are called to go first, from a place of love and service The lane of authority will eventually lead to abuse Your struggles may be because of trying to live out teaching that just isn’t right You may have opportunities to help other guys, simply by asking them how things are going Or, what would it look like for you to ask for some help from someone you trust? “Wisdom with love equals leadership. Wisdom without love equals manipulation.” Bruxy Cavey What is your example, your marriage, teaching your son about his marriage someday?
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TNMU #228: What It Means To Be A Gentleman
10/14/2022
TNMU #228: What It Means To Be A Gentleman
A gentleman used to mean certain things, like the way you dress or talk or how you carry yourself. Although we’re familiar with the word today it doesn’t hold the same meaning as it once did. It may not even be a consideration for dads when raising their sons. But perhaps it should. And an old manual from the 1880’s might have more to say about the subject than we at first realize. NMU Dads Group Signup: References: Epoch Times article: Expanded Notes: How are you training your son to become a gentleman? Some examples to consider: Well rounded in activities, including familiarity and appreciation for the creative arts Prepare them for the social settings they will encounter Discuss things like self awareness and non-verbal communication Help him know what to do and not to do with his phone Talk about the principles behind the “rules” or guidelines Encourage him to be present wherever he is Teach him how to respond — to himself and others — when he makes mistakes Tell your stories to your son, what happened and what you learned Intentionally introduce him to new experiences and then guide him through them Grow your own awareness as a father, with humility and learning
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TNMU #227: Jesus and Baseball with Dukes Knutson
10/07/2022
TNMU #227: Jesus and Baseball with Dukes Knutson
Tampa Bay Rays Press Box Supervisor, Dukes Knutson, joins the show to talk about his love for both Jesus and Baseball and how his path has lead to an integration of both. Dukes’ brings his veteran experience and presence to our TNMU Clubhouse and has much to offer us younger men who are also wanting to follow Jesus and pursue dreams.
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TNMU #226: What’s In A Name
09/30/2022
TNMU #226: What’s In A Name
The names you use to refer to others, including your son, have tremendous power in the message they communicate. But when we’re not aware of that impact or not acting intentionally for the good of the other person opportunities are missed. John and Mark explore what this looks like in practice and in helping your son become a man. References: Expanded Notes: Changing of a name can represent a line of demarkation, a transition from what was to what is or what can be; A before and after Whatever language you use to get your child’s attention can become who they believe they are Old Testament era naming often had real meaning based on the circumstances surrounding the birth of the child Even Father God changed the name we know him by as part of expanding how we know him; From El Shaddai to Yahweh to Jesus How you refer to your son in his journey into manhood and after he arrives can be significantly powerful for him What about how you refer to him around his friends or as he becomes a father? How are you honoring, or dishonoring, your son by what you call him? How can you be more intentional with names and nicknames in the process of raising a young man? Discussing this with your son can be rich opportunities for connection and understanding
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TNMU #225: The Standard with Josh Khachadourian
09/23/2022
TNMU #225: The Standard with Josh Khachadourian
What is your image of Jesus? Not Jesus the divine. Rather Jesus the man. Where did that image come from? Does it inspire you or does it leave you wanting more? What if your view of Jesus the man isn’t at all like he really was? Today’s guest, author, leader and student of Jesus, Josh Khachadourian, is here to set the record straight about who Jesus really was. And, to help us see that he is the standard for manhood that we need, that we’ve been looking for. Contact Info: Website: Book: Podcast: Expanded Notes: Avoiding the prodigal path has much to do with the influence of parents and how you are raised There is no shame in a story that is focused on running a steadfast race which doesn’t require a radical conversion Jesus invites us into an experience with him Jesus, as a human man, was the inspiration for Josh’s book and a model for great masculinity Economic and social changes created a church culture that became more feminine and in turn lessoned Jesus’ masculinity In contrast, Jesus came as a blue collar man, physically strong and deeply confrontational with truth and with grace; Jesus was strongly subversive Jesus shows us that real strength comes from within, a more courageous expression of strength 6 Major themes of Jesus’ life captured in the book, The Standard, about how Jesus modeled manhood for us: Self Mastery Leadership Communication Empathy Strength Mission of Love Jesus provides an example for every man about preparation The key message is that grit and grind and intensity is not enough; you cannot live Jesus’ example on your own
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TNMU #224: Fighting Drugs with Bobby Newman
09/16/2022
TNMU #224: Fighting Drugs with Bobby Newman
Today’s guest is on the frontlines battling the effects of drug and alcohol abuse. After going from a strong, moral upbringing in Southern Oklahoma to a drug-related downfall that had him facing federal prison, Bobby Newman now works as an interventionist helping turn situations from tragic to hopeful. Bobby speaks as a former addict, a professional who helps other addicts, and as a father guiding his sons on how to navigate away from the pain of substance abuse. Contact Info: Website: Phone: 866.989.4499 Email: [email protected] Expanded Notes: The stakes are bigger than just what happens in your family Drugs are any toxin that is taken into the body that can produce addiction Some positive things parents can do that reduce the temptation of drugs Watch who your kid’s friends are Be a safe place for kids to talk about things Encourage your kids to interact with others in person, not just online or digitally Be an example for who you want your kids to be When to engage your kids on education? “It’s never too early, it’s only too late.” Communicate with kids in age appropriate language and content Help them understand that all drugs are toxins, even those which are sometimes considered necessary Suggestions for dads dealing with this in their home Give them information and space to wrestle with it Involve other influencers in their life to help Validate the positives even while correcting the negatives
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TNMU #223: Angry White Males On Campus
09/09/2022
TNMU #223: Angry White Males On Campus
A University of Kansas class prompts Mark and John to dig into the topic of angry white males. There’s much that could be said here, with much of that likely to stir up additional anger or become too political. Ultimately the discussion distills down to and hinges on one key question, a question posed to John during a counseling session a few years ago. References in the show: Article: Book: Book: Dog Video: Expanded Notes: Men’s struggle with anger plus current cultural bias to outrage combine to make this topic more relevant than you might think At the core for men is dealing with anger, regardless of where it is coming from Part of overcoming anger is not feeding it This involves awareness and self reflection and owning our part, focusing on what we can control Anger is OK, it’s an emotion; But anger doesn’t have to have control Examples from the Bible: James 1:19-20 Ephesians 4:26 Moses (His whole story) Anger often emanates from feeling like we don’t have control Key Question: What are you going to do with your anger? Part of being a strong man is learning what to do with your anger What is your safety value to release some of the pressure of your anger? Are you willing to risk releasing your anger to Father? Do you trust Him to handle it?
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TNMU #222: Raising Husbands, Raising Fathers
09/02/2022
TNMU #222: Raising Husbands, Raising Fathers
You are not only raising your son, you’re raising a future husband to someone else and a future father to your grandchildren. How does that influence your fathering? Are you in those fathering moments today with an eye toward the end goal, who your sons are becoming? With John’s probing, Mark shares some more from his story and what he’s looking forward to down the road as his kids become spouses and parents to the next generation. Linked In Post: Blog references: reference article and Podcast Episode Expanded Notes: Meme “You’re not just raising your son, you're raising somebody’s husband, somebody’s father. Raise your sons to be good men.” When you raise good men, they will be good men in whatever role they are in The process of modeling and teaching can’t start too early You can be in the moments as they require, while still leading toward a bigger goal and vision for your son Opportunities to reinforce what it means to be a good man are plentiful and available for the father who is engaged Raise your kids to be adults and give them a good foundation to build upon Questions to ponder: If you’re fortunate to become a grandfather, what do you want to see in your kids and grandkids? How are you raising your son to be a good man? If you could picture your son as a father or husband someday, how would that change how you’re fathering him today?
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TNMU #221: The Voices In My Head
08/26/2022
TNMU #221: The Voices In My Head
What do Charles Barkley, golf, toothpaste and Amy Grant have in common? They all make their way into this episode about sorting through and cleaning up the voices in your head. What are the voices in your head? Are they helping you or hurting you? Once you figure that out, then what can you do about it. That’s where Mark and John go in this episode. Video References: Charles Barkley Interview: Charles Barkley Commercial: Expanded Notes: Everyone deals with voices in their head; It’s how you deal with them that matters Some summary reactions to Barkley’s interview: Too many voices leads to confusion, distraction and lack of focus Pick a voice and go with it The voices, the lessons, the practicing, can feel like activity when it’s actually keeping from you playing the game. Or they can become the quest for the next thing that will finally get you there Check your motivation and adjust accordingly Determine who the best voices are (the top 1-3) and focus there Not all head voices are positive, some are quite negative When you fail to execute, which voice(s) helps you to recover Anticipate 'the errant shot’ so that when it happens you know how to recover Book Reference: by W. Timothy Gallwey.
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TNMU #220: Nurturing Creativity with Jeff Fajans
08/19/2022
TNMU #220: Nurturing Creativity with Jeff Fajans
How do you define creative? Where does creativity fit within how you live as a man and how you father? What if there’s more to creativity than you first realized? These are questions that Jeff Fajans helps us explore. Jeff is a husband, father and a passionate creative. From a Phd in Positive Organizational Psychology, to his work with entrepreneurs and leaders, to his music alter-ego of MrBoodaddy, Jeff consistently nurtures creativity in himself and those he impacts, including his son. Listen in to discover how you can too and why it matters. on Spotify (let's talk about your creative or entrepreneurial goals and how I could support you) - Jeff's course on Domestika will help you ignite your creativity and create a plan to bring your ideas to life. (Aerosmith + Run DMC style) Website: Expanded Notes: Creativity is doing something authentically meaningful, purposeful or interesting to you as a person; an orientation to how you approach life There are different aspects of creativity everyone can tap into Creativity can be hard for men because of its connection to emotions or its association with uncertainty and the unpredictable Practice + Presence can lead to Creativity All dads should have a creative outlet because it brings more fulfillment to your life and allows you to role model that for your kids; and you can find ways to involve them with you Creativity isn’t just for enrichment for your kids, it can become a master meta-skill for how they navigate life The creative process is very paradoxical, both open and exploratory as well as requiring discipline and implementation Nurturing creativity in your kids starts with providing exposure to a diverse set of experience, then build on what you see they are excited about Some advice to get started: Be OK with trying and experimenting; it’s OK to get it wrong Use more questions with your son; Be curious and explore with questions Explore augmenting your son’s reality to invite imagination and creativity Resources:
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TNMU #219: Advice For the Co-Parenting Dad with Amy Ambrozich
08/12/2022
TNMU #219: Advice For the Co-Parenting Dad with Amy Ambrozich
Parenting and Stepfamily coach and expert, Amy Ambrozich, rejoins the show to talk about the challenges dads face in a co-parenting situation. From role disorientation to grieving the loss of what was to navigating a brand new environment, Amy gets at that struggles men and dads face and offers advice on what you can do. Whether this is your situation, or your buddy’s situation, or you just want to learn, there is something here for you. Save Our Sanity Group: Website: Email: Expanded Notes: Amy’s starting point for all parenting work: Family Foundation: Vision, Values, and Goals When Co-Parenting, consistency across the homes is best for kids The biggest challenge that dads in co-parenting situations face is knowing their role Men are often not allowed or encouraged to process feelings, especially grief Generally it takes 5-7 years for a blended family to feel like a family unit, and many couples don’t make it that long because of how hard it is Discipline (and one’s parenting style) is one of the key issues to be addressed in a blended family Transition from friendly adult in the house, to support partner, to taking more active role The age of the child matters Navigating the disorienting period of “what is my role?” Talk with your wife about what you’re experiencing; be vulnerable Find something to do with the kids one to one Be supportive when kids are discussing their other parents (including grief from a deceased parent) Ease your way in and be open to the tension and the negotiating Realize that first born boys may feel like they’re role is being replaced by you Assume a posture of listening and a curiosity mindset Dad, you go first, model what you want What parents wished they had recognized earlier: We don’t have the skills needed to be a parents (we have work to do) We need to put our partnership first We should have talked about our goals first We should have given ourself permission to not know and ask for help Resources:
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TNMU #218: Romans 12 Men
08/05/2022
TNMU #218: Romans 12 Men
A phone call from a friend who needed to unload about the circumstances life was bringing him led John to recognize that this friend was living out Romans 12. What does that mean? What is Romans 12 living? This is the ground Mark and John cover in today’s episode. Expanded Notes: 3 key principles Consider yourself a living sacrifice Be transformed by the renewing of your mind Discern what the Father wants What if sacrificing for God is really in the innumerable little and mundane efforts to love and serve others? Being faithful in the everyday stuff matters Living Romans 12 requires us to cooperate with what Father is doing in us; we have agency and responsibility to do our part Perhaps the reason why you aren’t hearing from God is because He’s waiting on you to do your part in getting your mind right and surrendering your everyday activity to Him Possible prayer for you: Father, what are you wanting me to see or learn in this situation?
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TNMU #217: Parenting When Your Marriage Sucks
07/29/2022
TNMU #217: Parenting When Your Marriage Sucks
Parenting well is a big job. It’s made even harder when your marriage isn’t in a good place. What do you do if you find yourself as a dad in a marriage that sucks? How do you stay strong as a dad and deal with the difficulty of a strained relationship? That’s what Mark and John get into with this episode. Expanded Notes: Suggestions from a professional counselor Order — be clear on the roles of the family; help order the chaos Love — maintain connection; don’t abuse the connection Value — ensure your kids’ sense of worth and value; let them have their activities Hope — have something to look forward to; keep your word If there’s nothing to build on, then you won’t move forward Return to relationship fundamentals From Dr. Curt Thompson’s work We all desire to be Seen, Safe and feel Secure You must do the work on yourself first and maintain your connection with your kids Dr. John Gottman’s work Parents must become emotion coaches Action steps: Fight for your marriage and for your family Continue to engage in your role as a father
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TNMU #216: Blowing Up Rocks with Joseph Warren
07/22/2022
TNMU #216: Blowing Up Rocks with Joseph Warren
Joseph Warren is an elite men’s coach, a top-rated podcast host, a husband and father, and most of all a precious son of God. Today he joins the show to share his story and the recipe he’s found for helping men go from angry & stressed to peace and purpose. This is a fast paced conversation with a dude who pulls no punches -- on his own failures and what it takes, and who it takes, to turn things around. To blow up some rocks. Joseph’s book available for free: 1:1 30 min coaching session with Joseph: Podcast: Website: OR Expanded Notes: The “rocks” represent the head trash or the things that are holding you back The 3 main lies of the enemy (the head trash) are: God doesn’t love you God is not a good father and can’t be trusted You are no good; something is wrong with you Men must be ready to receive the truth and healing before change will happen Joseph’s 7 steps for mastering anger and stress: Outrageous ownership — I own the choices I’ve made Radical responsibility — I do what I need to do to clean up the mess Loving leadership — I go first Spiritual surrender — I give God complete control over all of my life Bold belief — I believe and trust that God is a good Father Powerful perseverance — I wait on God to bring my His best Eager expectation — I expect only good things from God As you come to know God more, you come to understand yourself fully; your spiritual nature changes and you become a new creation
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