The Selfish Woman
Selfish is the key that unlocks the dungeon. This is feminism for the woman who's been in the trenches of life for decades. The kind that comes from surviving marriages, rebuilds, and decades of following rules that were never heard. The confession booth for women who are done being good. Ranked #23 in Feedspot's Top 80 Badass Female Podcasts of 2026
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Stress Is Not The Problem...This Is: With Dr. Rachel Goldman
03/23/2026
Stress Is Not The Problem...This Is: With Dr. Rachel Goldman
We've all been there: a plan falls apart, a deadline shifts, or a minor inconvenience feels like the end of the world. Or, we spend way too much of our time and energy worrying about 'what if.' We usually blame the situation for how we feel, but today's guest says the 'problem' isn't what's happening - it's how we're wired to react to it. I'm joined by Dr. Rachel Goldman, a clinical psychologist, NYU professor, and a leading expert in the mind-body connection who has shared her insights alongside icons like Oprah and Mel Robbins. Ahead of the April launch of her highly anticipated book, "When Life Happens," Dr. Rachel breaks down the science of CBT and explains why we need to stop trying to 'delete' stress and start building a Coping Toolbox. This episode is a survival guide for anyone who feels overwhelmed by the weight of 'doing it all' and is ready to reclaim their peace of mind. What We Discuss: The Stress Reframe: Why stress is inevitable, but our physiological and mental reaction to it is a choice. The "All or Nothing" Trap: How to break the cycle of perfectionism when things go sideways. Building Your Coping Toolbox: Specific strategies to regulate your emotions in real time. Mindset as a Skill: Why resilience isn't a personality trait - it's a strategy you can train. When Life Happens: A deep dive into the mindset shifts needed to navigate life's messiest moments. Resources & Links:
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The Wrong Life: Ep. 130
03/16/2026
The Wrong Life: Ep. 130
I left Spain to figure out what was wrong with me. I had the dream life. The cobblestone streets. The European light. The copper bathtub imported from England that cost eleven thousand euros. And I was miserable in ways I didn't have words for yet. So I left. Convinced I was the problem. I was wrong. In this episode I'm recording from Harrison Hot Springs - sitting in a mineral pool, in the middle of a meditation that turned into a download - and I finally understand what I was actually running from. And why leaving was the most sane thing I ever did. This is the episode for the woman who has spent years trying to fix herself. The woman who has read the books, done the work, followed the rules - and still feels like something is fundamentally broken. Nothing is broken. But something is wrong. And until you figure out what that is, you will keep building beautiful lives on foundations that cannot hold you. This is where we start.
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You Didn't End Up Here by Accident: Numerology, Patterns & Your Life Path with Ann Perry
03/02/2026
You Didn't End Up Here by Accident: Numerology, Patterns & Your Life Path with Ann Perry
What if your life isn't random? In this episode, I sit down with numerologist Ann Perry to break down what your numbers reveal about you, and how they shape your relationships, your patterns, and the way you move through the world. We also dive into: What if your soul chose this life? What if the challenges you've faced weren't random...but selected? And how do you hold that idea without dismissing real pain or turning it into toxic positivity? What You'll Learn: What numerology is, and why it works How your numbers influence your identity and decision-making Why you keep repeating the sane relationship dynamics How to better understand your kids, partner and coworkers The controversial idea that your soul chose this life (and what that really means) How to stop overthinking and start trusting yourself Links: Ann Perry's website: Ann's book: Watch this episode on YouTube: And if you're ready to stop overthinking and step over the edge and into your next level.... Join The Phoenix:
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Why You Keep Overthinking (And What You're Actually Avoiding)
02/23/2026
Why You Keep Overthinking (And What You're Actually Avoiding)
Why do you keep overthinking decisions when you already know what to do? In this episode I break down why overthinking isn't a clarity problem, it's a self-trust problem - and what you're actually avoiding. What you'll learn: Why you say "I don't know" (and what it really means) The hidden reason you stay stuck in indecision How overthinking protects you from uncomfortable truth The identity shift that changes everything One simple question to stop overthinking immediately Key moment from the episode: "You don't say 'I don't know' because you're confused. You say it because the truth would cost you something." If you're ready to stop overthinking and actually move forward, this is exactly what we do inside The Breakthrough. Email me: and tell me the one thing you want a breakthrough in. Subscribe to the show!
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From Netflix's 'Sex, Love & goop' to Erotic Wholeness: Darshana Avila on Asking For What You Want
02/15/2026
From Netflix's 'Sex, Love & goop' to Erotic Wholeness: Darshana Avila on Asking For What You Want
Darshana Avila left her corporate career and her marriage, and stepped into a life of erotic wholeness. Now she's a Certified Somatic Experiencing Practitioner & Sexological Bodyworker featured on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop with Gwyneth Paltrow - and she's here to talk about what most of us are too afraid to ask for. In this episode, we talk about: Knowing what you want (in sex and in life) and actually asking for it: Why high-achieving women can run companies but can't speak their desires in bed. The identity crisis that led to liberation: How Darshana walked away from everything that wasn't aligned - and what happened next. Her experience on Netflix's Sex, Love & goop: Working with a lesbian couple to help them understand what they want, need, and hw to speak it out loud. Erotic wholeness as a path to power: How reclaiing pleasure is an act of rebellion (and sovereignty) People-pleasing in the bedroom (and eveywhere else): Why saying yes when you mean no kills intimacy, and how to stop. This conversation is raw, real and permission-giving. If you've ever felt disconnected from your body, your desires, or your power, this one's for you. Connect with Darshana: Want more? Subscribe to The Selfish Woman Podcast (ranked top 3% globally) for weekly conversations about identity, power and building empires on your terms. New episodes every Monday. Named Feedspots #23 in the Top 80 Best Badass Female Podcasts of 2026 Please leave a review! It help more women find us.
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From Selfish to Sovereign
02/09/2026
From Selfish to Sovereign
In this episode I reveal the next level of your journey - from midlife reinvention to full-blown feminine sovereignty. If you're a woman ready to rise into your power, lead with vision, and claim a life that reflects your true worth, this is for you. I unpack the Queen Code (my brand new methodology), share the mythic framework behind the Sovereign Woman, and invite you inside the symbolic castle that holds it all. Consider this your rite of passage. Subscribe, share and leave a review!
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The Cost of Quiet with Colette Jane Fehr
02/02/2026
The Cost of Quiet with Colette Jane Fehr
You've been swallowing your truth, avoiding conflict, and hoping things will change if you're just patient enough. But your silence isn't safety....it's a slow death. This week, I'm talking with Colette Jane Fehr, author of The Cost of Quiet: How to Have the Hard Conversations That Create Secure, Lasting Love, about why we stay silent, and what it costs us. In this episode: Why it's so hard to speak up (even when you know you should) What to do when you get the same response every time you speak up The curse of the good girl (and how it keeps you quiet) How to get out of the Cave of Resentment Self-connected communication: the framework that changes everything The only way to build confidence (it's not what you think) Your communication report card (we all have one!) How conflict is the doorway to intimacy, not the end of it Colette is giving us the tools to stop performing and start speaking. Because the cost of quiet? It's your life.
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Selfish is the Strategy: A New Era Begins
01/26/2026
Selfish is the Strategy: A New Era Begins
Welcome to Season Five - and to 2026! In this powerful kickoff episode, Valerie pulls back the curtain on what it really means to be selfish in a world that has taught women to disappear. This isn't just a refresher course. It's a full-on reintroduction to the philosophy, fire, and unapologetic truth at the core of The Selfish Woman movement. You'll hear: Why 'selfish' is still the most radical word a woman can claim What the old Good Girl contract cost you, and how to burn it for good Why every powerful woman you admire had to get selfish How to give from overflow, not obligation What's coming in 2026: bold new tools, mythic framewords, and sacred strategies no on else is teaching If you're ready to make 2026 the year you come home to yourself, start here. Go forth and be selfish.
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Why Your 'Word for the Year' Fails: And How to Choose One That Changes Everything
12/16/2025
Why Your 'Word for the Year' Fails: And How to Choose One That Changes Everything
Most people choose a word for the year based on what they want to achieve, acquire, or accomplish. But that's not how transformation works. In this episode, I'm sharing why your word of the year should be about who you're becoming, not what you want to get. It's a practice in identity, not goals. A call toward the woman you're evolving into. not a to-do list disguised as intention-setting. I'll walk you through: Why choosing a word based on outcomes keep you stuck in the same patterns The difference between a word that motivates and a word that transforms My own experience choosing 'selfish' as my word in 2020 - what it taught me, how it challenged me, and why it was exactly what I needed How to choose a word that serves your evolution (not just your ambition) This isn't about New Year's resolutions or vision boards. It's about claiming who you're becoming and letting that guide everything else. WATCH THIS EPISODE ON YOUTUBE: I'm now posting full video episodes on YouTube! If you prefer to warch rather than listen, head over to my channel and subscribe so you don't miss future episodes. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: The Selfish Year - available everywhere books are sold, or CONNECT WITH ME: The Selfish Gospel weekly essays LET'S TALK: What's your word for 2026? Drop me a message on Instagram or YouTube. SUBSCRIBE & REVIEW: If you loved this episode, please subscribe and leave a review, on Spotify or Apple. It helps others find the show. Thanks for listening. Now go choose your word, and let it choose you back.
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The Year of the Snake: What You Need to Shed Before 2026
12/11/2025
The Year of the Snake: What You Need to Shed Before 2026
2025 is the Year of the Snake. 2026? The Year of the Fire Horse. If you're familiar about Chinese zodiac symbolism, you know what that means: the Snake sheds what no longer fits. The Fire Horse charges forward with unstoppable momentum. But here's the thing: you can't ride the Fire Horse into 2026 while still carrying 2025's dead weight. This episode is about what needs to be shed now, before the year turns. IN THIS EPISODE, I SHARE: The symbolism of Snake and Fire Horse years: and what they're asking of us right now. What a death cycle actually looks like (from someone living it): why you can't 'positive mindset' your way through and what to do instead. The difference between shedding and suppressing: one creates space for growth, the other just buries what will resurface later. A December ritual for intentional release: specific steps you can take this month to shed what's keeping you small, stuck, or performing. Why 'not enough', shame, and old survival strategies have to go: and what becomes possible when you finally release them. The gift of radical permission: why The Selfish Year is the book to give yourself (or someone you love) this holiday season. What's coming in 2026: a hint at something I'm creating for women ready to make next year their Selfish Year IF YOU'RE FEELING: The tightness of an old identity that doesn't fit anymore Exhausted by maintaining 'impressive' Ready to stop carrying what's dead Curious about what 2026 could look like if you actually chose yourself ....this episode is for you. RESOURCES MENTIONED: Read the full essay: Get the book: - perfect for gifting yourself and your friends permission this Christmas Choose your 2026 word: Are you claiming SELFISH as your guiding intention for next year? Let me know! SOMETHING'S COMING: I'm gathering women who are ready to make 2026 their Selfish Year. A community....a container...a place where choosing yourself isn't rebellion, it's a homecoming. I can't share all the details yet, but if you're feeling the pull toward radical selfishness - stay close. CONNECT WITH VALERIE: YOUR DECEMBER PRACTICE: This month, ask yourself every morning: What am I carrying that's already dead? What old skin am I ready to shed? What wants to emerge in 2026? Then do one small thing - sage, movement, journaling, walking - to physically release it. SHARE THIS EPISODE: Know someone who needs permission to shed what's no longer serving them? Send them this episode. Sometimes the most generous thing we can do is name what's true. RATE & REVIEW: If this episode resonated please leave a review on Apple Podcasts or Spotify. It helps other women find The Selfish Woman podcast when they need it most.
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The 'Holy Sh*t' Moment: When You Start Toppling Your Sacred Cows
11/10/2025
The 'Holy Sh*t' Moment: When You Start Toppling Your Sacred Cows
This is a personal episode for me, one that I feel led to share with you, because I know it's going to resonate. There's a moment in every woman's life when she look at what she's been worshipping - success, motherhood, marriage, being 'nice' - and realizes none of it was built for her freedom. That's the holy sh*t moment. The one where you finally stop trying to earn gold stars for suffering and start knocking over every sacred cow that's been keeping you in a cage. This is aboout burning down the old rules, setting yourself free from everyone else's opinion of you, reclaiming your wild self, and realizing that sometimes the most spiritual thing you can do...is commit a little heresy.
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Hype Women! With Erin Gallagher
10/27/2025
Hype Women! With Erin Gallagher
In this episode I'm joined by Erin Gallagher, author of Hype Women: Breaking Free From Mean Girls, Patriarchy and Systems Silencing You. Buckle up for a fiery conversation about what it really means to trust yourself after a lifetime of being told you're wrong. We talk about the incredible origin story of her book, and why she's not here to hype all women - especially not the ones still acting as foot soldiers for the patriarchy. We also go there: Who are the mean girls in your life? Why do we keep trying to gather in circles with women who've burned us? What does it mean to self-source instead of always giving your power away? This one is bold, vulnerable and unapologetically honest. Press play and get hyped - for yourself. Erin Gallagher is the CEO and Founder of Hype Women, an inclusive ecosystem hyping women to remember who the f**k they are, author of Hype Women, and host of the Hype Women Podcast. Her book is an electrifying and extraordinary approach to life for ambitious women everywhere.
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The Mystic & the Machine: Merging AI with Inner Intelligence with Karen Romine
10/20/2025
The Mystic & the Machine: Merging AI with Inner Intelligence with Karen Romine
What happens when strategic intelligence meets spiritual intuition? In this electric conversation, I sit down with keynote speaker and author, Karen Romine, to explore the intersection of artificial intelligence and the unseen realms. We talk about how AI is transforming the way we make decisions and scale our lives - and how inner knowing is the missing data point most women ignore. Karen shares her journey from corporate strategy expert to discovering that she is a psychic medium (yes, both can live in one woman!), and how merging logic with intuition creates exponential growth. This one's for the woman who knows she's meant to lead, but also trusts the whispers. The woman who wants to scale her vision without abandoning her soul. And the woman who's secretly felt there's more to 'data' than numbers. We're not choosing between the mystic or the machine. We're using both.
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Selfish Out Loud: Are You Willing to Pay the Price for Your Power?
10/13/2025
Selfish Out Loud: Are You Willing to Pay the Price for Your Power?
In this episode, I'm pulling back the curtain on what it really costs to be selfish. Not cute-selfish. Not #selfcare selfish. I'm talking about the kind of selfish that turns your whole life inside out. The kind that sets you free. This is about the power you say you want...and the uncomfortable truth of what it takes to actually get it. And I ask the question that could change everything: Are you willing to pay the price for your power? Introducing: The Selfish Woman Protocol: From Masked to Magnetic A 30-day experience for the woman who's done asking for permission. If you're ready to drop the masks, rewrite your story, and become magnetic as hell...this is for you. for $33
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Rewrite the Mother Code with Dr. Gertrude Lyons
10/06/2025
Rewrite the Mother Code with Dr. Gertrude Lyons
What if the way you've been taught to mother - your children, your dreams, yourself - was never yours to begin with? In this potent conversation, I sit down with Dr. Gertrude Lyons, author of Rewrite the Mother Code: From Sacrifice to Stardust, to unravel the outdated scripts women are handed about what it means to mother, and how to rewrite them from the inside out. We talk about: The hidden 'mother codes' shaping every area of your life (whether you have children or not) Why sacrifice is not sacred, and what actually is Reclaiming mothering as a creative, cosmic force - not a job description What changes when you mother from love, not lack Whether you're a mother, mothering yourself, or birthing something new into the world - this episode is a permission slip to mother on your own terms. Let's go from martyr to medicine woman.
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My Everest, Your Dream: What it Takes to Rise
09/29/2025
My Everest, Your Dream: What it Takes to Rise
Every woman has her Everest - the dream that feels impossible until suddenly, it isn't. I had my Everest moment and I'm sharing what it was, how I got there, and how you can do it too. And how there's always another mountain to climb, if you want it. I also talk about the most personal piece of my journey yet: why I wrote The Selfish Year, who I wrote it for, and why it matters right now. This isn't just about my story. It's also about yours. I'm pulling back the curtain on what it takes to move from a dream to reality. If you've ever needed proof that your wildest dreams are possible - and the push to finally go after it - this is it. Want me as your Coach?
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Masks, Mothers, and the Myth of Being Nice with Lesa Koski
09/22/2025
Masks, Mothers, and the Myth of Being Nice with Lesa Koski
You weren't born nice. You were trained. By mothers who were trained. By systems that still benefit from your silence. In this episode, you'll hear a casual girlfriend chat with Lesa Koski where we unearth the origins of our people-pleasing, the masks we wear to feel safe, and the slow-burning bravery it takes to start telling the truth. Lesa and I unmask our Good Girls, and give you practical strategies so you can do it too. Because underneath the mask of the Good Girl is a Queen ready to rise. Lesa Koski is a wife, mother, grandmother, mediator, coach, and host of the Saddle Up Live podcast. Her journey has been anything but ordinary, but every twist and turn has brought her to a place where she now helps others live their best lives.
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10 Sneaky Ways the Good Girl is Still Running Your Life
09/15/2025
10 Sneaky Ways the Good Girl is Still Running Your Life
Think you've outgrown your good girl programming? Think again. These 10 subtle habits might be sabotaging your power - and keeping you small without even realizing it. You might not be saying 'yes' when you mean 'no' anymore - but the good girl still has her sticky little fingers in you. In this packed episode, I'm revealing 10 sneaky ways the good girl still shows up in your everyday life, and what to do instead. From overexplaining to emotional shapeshifting, I'll break down the behaviours that seem harmless, but are actually keeping you stuck silenced, and small. If you're ready to step into your full, selfish, sovereign self, this one's for you. Resources/Links:
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Why Taking the High Road Is Keeping You Stuck (and what to do instead)
09/08/2025
Why Taking the High Road Is Keeping You Stuck (and what to do instead)
Too many women think that taking the high road makes them strong, wise, or 'the bigger person.' But what if that road is actually keeping you stuck in self-abandonment, silence, and disappointment? In this episode, I break down why the high road can be a trap, what to do instead, and how decentering men frees you to finally choose yourself.
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The Five Lessons That Saved Me When I Started Over
08/25/2025
The Five Lessons That Saved Me When I Started Over
This is the one I've been waiting to record. In this final episode before The Selfish Year enters the world, I'm sharing the five lessons that truly saved me when I started over - from divorce, from the pain, from the life that looked good but felt empty. These aren't tips. They're confessions. I wrote this book in blood, and I'm telling you the truth behind every chapter. If you've ever felt stuck, invisible, or like you're pretending to live a life that isn't yours, this episode is your invitation to stop waiting. It's not too late to choose yourself. But it is the last week to pre-order The Selfish Year and support the book that starts a movement! pre-order The Selfish Year and get your gift: The Selfish Woman Starter Kit (includes a Manifesto, the 7 Sacred Laws of the Selfish Woman, and a curated playlist I made to accompany the book) Tag me with your book! IG: @thevaleriejones You're not meant to survive your life. You're meant to own it. Love you. Mean it. Val
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Ep. 113: No More Layers: Martine Cohen on Stripping Back to Your True Self
08/18/2025
Ep. 113: No More Layers: Martine Cohen on Stripping Back to Your True Self
In this week's episode, I'm joined by Martine Cohen - author, speaker, and transformative coach - who brings a powerful blend of intellect and intuition to the conversation around healing, identity, and reclaiming your power from the inside out. After a traumatic car accident and concussion changed the trajectory of her life, Martine began a deep journey into her own psyche, peeling back the subconscious layers that were blocking her light. What she discovered led her to write a book: No More Layers: Discover You Inner Power and Reclaim True Freedom from the Inside Out - a guide to navigating fear, breaking free from old beliefs, and returning home to who you truly are. Martine's work is all about alignment, not performance. In this conversation, we talk about: Why true transformation isn't about adding more, but shedding what's not yours The tension between intellect and intuition How a breakdown can become the most sacred doorway to freedom The sneaky ways 'success' can become a mask What it really means to live from the inside out This one's for every woman who's tired of the masks, ready to reclaim her wholeness, and willing to meet herself beneath the layers.
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Ep. 112: The Sofa of Truth: When Staying Hurts More Than Leaving
08/11/2025
Ep. 112: The Sofa of Truth: When Staying Hurts More Than Leaving
Sometimes, the truth doesn't arrive with fireworks. It shows up quietly...in the middle of the night...on your sofa. In this episode, I read an excerpt from my new book, The Selfish Year - the moment I realized I couldn't stay in my marriage one second longer. The pain of staying had finally outweighed the fear of leaving. We all have a 'sofa moment' - that still, undeniable instant when the life we've built no longer fits. Are you ignoring yours? Minimizing it? Or are you ready to hear it, and let it move you into action? This is your invitation to stop pretending you don't know. Pre-order The Selfish Year now, and step into the life that's waiting for you.
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Ep. 111: You Can't F**k It Up: A Conversation with Jennifer Pastiloff
07/29/2025
Ep. 111: You Can't F**k It Up: A Conversation with Jennifer Pastiloff
Let's be real: how many hours have you spent replaying that moment, that choice, that mistake, wondering if you'd just ruined everything? Cringing in guilt and shame, and feeling like a failure? This episode is your permission slip to let yourself off the hook. In this raw and powerful conversation with bestselling author Jennifer Pastiloff, we dive inthe the shame stories women carry around motherhood, art, body image, relationships, and success. Jen shares her journey through grief, loss, and the beautiful mess of rebuilding. She reminds us that not only did we not fuck it up, but maybe...we can't. Jen and I talk about her new book, Proof of Life: Let go, let love, and stop looking for permission to live your life. We share the hilarious/mortifying/magical way we connected with each other and our mutual journey from shame into love. Shame Loss: how to let go of the "I'm bad" belief. The life hack Jen uses to stop saying 'sorry' all the time. The magic of staying open, even when you want to hide. Jen brings humor, vulnerability, deep compassion and bold truth in this episode, and I know you'll come away with a renewed belief in your life, and a permission slip to live it.
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Ep. 110: Why Women Don't Ask (And What It's Costing Us)
07/21/2025
Ep. 110: Why Women Don't Ask (And What It's Costing Us)
We've been told our whole lives not to want too much, need too much, or ask for more. So we don't. We shrink, we wait, and we hope someone notices and gives it to us anyway. And then we wonder why we're so tired, resentful, and invisible. This episode is your wake-up call. I'm pulling back the curtain on the hardest thing I've done lately: Asking for what I want, for what I deserve. I share the origin story of my book, The Selfish Year - the miserable woman I used to be, and the moment I stopped waiting for someone to save me. You'll hear: Why asking feels so wrong, and why that's a lie. How we betray ourselves when we don't ask. What selfish actually means for women who are ready to save themselves. Why The Selfish Year isn't just a book...it's a rebellion. If you've ever wanted more, but felt guilty for even saying it, this is for you. And yes, I'm asking too: Please pre-order The Selfish Year!
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Are you a control freak? Here's the cost of holding it all together
07/14/2025
Are you a control freak? Here's the cost of holding it all together
If you call yourslef a 'control freak' like it's a badge of honour, this one's for you. In this episode, I break down the truth about control: why it's not strength, what it's actually costing you in your body, your mind, and your relationships, and how to finally start letting go without everything falling apart. We talk about: The fear that hides under control Why you're gripping things you don't even need to carry The toll control takes on your nervous system, sleep, and confidence The difference between what's actually yours to hold and what isn't Why being a relaxed woman is your most powerful move. And I leave you with one simple challenge you can take today to start practicing trust - in yourself and the people around you. If you're tired of being 'the strong one' and ready to feel lighter, softer, and more magnetic, listen to this. And don't forget to share it with the strongest woman you know. Email me:
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Ep. 108: Burnout isn't exhaustion, it's a wake up call: With Amy Green Smith
07/07/2025
Ep. 108: Burnout isn't exhaustion, it's a wake up call: With Amy Green Smith
Most women think burnout just means being tired. But what if it's acutally a signal - a brutal nudge - to stop abandoning yourself? In this episode, I sit down with Leadership Coach and master hypnotherapist, Amy Green Smith, to talk about the real reasons women burn out and how to wake up before it wrecks you. We get into: The sneaky symptoms of engagement burnout and systemic burnout Why what you chronically complain about is your biggest clue How to communicate your needs without guilt or drama Why women struggle to receive help (and how to change it) The link between your body and your unmet emotional needs This fun, powerful conversation is your permission slip to stop playing nice and start listening to yourself. Grab Amy's free resource,
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Ep. 107: Selfish Summer Camp Starts Now: I'm Doing This My Way
06/30/2025
Ep. 107: Selfish Summer Camp Starts Now: I'm Doing This My Way
This week, I had a moment. Okay.... a full-on meltdown. But underneath it, I realized something powerful: I've been trying to launch my book, The Selfish Year, like a good girl. Strategic. Palatable. The 'right' way. So I threw it all in the fire. And from the ashes? Selfish Summer Camp was born. Because I'm going to do this my way and just like Sinatra, baby, we're all learning this together. In this episode I'm sharing how a late-night breakdown turned into the most fun, honest, unapologetic pre-order campaign I've ever created. This isn't just a book launch. It's a fequency, a summer, a movement. P.S. Want secret stories, whispered truths, and behind the scenes moments I'm not sharing anywhere else? Become a paid Substack subscriber and come inside the velvet tent:
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Ep. 106: Broke to Six Figures: How I did it Without a Plan
06/21/2025
Ep. 106: Broke to Six Figures: How I did it Without a Plan
In this episode, I'm sharing my story of how I went from a broke stay-at-home mom to six-figure entrepreneur - with no plan. No degree, no career, no clear path. Just three kids, a toxic marriage and divorce, an empty bank account, and the choice to become the woman I wanted to be. I'm sharing how I rebuilt my life, claimed my power, and created everything I have today - without a roadmap. And why waiting for the path to appear is the thing keeping you stuck. If you're ready to stop waiting and start BECOMING: Listen now. FIRESTARTER begins July 1. Stop people-pleasing and start living for YOU. You don't need a plan but you DO need guidance. Spend two weeks this summer igniting your future. to join Firestarter
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Ep. 105: The Art of the Midlife Relaunch with Hilary DeCesare
06/16/2025
Ep. 105: The Art of the Midlife Relaunch with Hilary DeCesare
What if the biggest challenges in your life weren't meant to break you....but to relaunch you? In today's episode, I sit down with Hilary DeCesare - coach, speaker, and creator of the 3HQ Method - for a deeply honest conversation about what it really takes to rise again in midlife. From her own vulnerable story of starting over to the tools she uses to help women reconnect with their power, Hilary brings both heart and fire. She even takes me through her signature 'Tune-In' process live on the podcast - and yes, it works. If you've ever felt stuck, lost, or like you're getting in your own way, this episode is your sign. There's a path forward, and it doesn't require perfection - just presence, alignment, and a little courage. Plus, Hilary is offering listeners an exclusive 50% off code to her Relaunch Into A Rich Life Event, happening this September! Details inside the episode and linked below. Use code 'ValerieJ50' to get 50% off Ruby & Platinum tickets. - June 19th The Selfish Year: The Power of Putting Yourself First
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Episode 104: From Breakdown to Burn: How to Turn 'F**k This' Into Your Wildest Rise Yet
06/09/2025
Episode 104: From Breakdown to Burn: How to Turn 'F**k This' Into Your Wildest Rise Yet
You fed up yet? Good. That means the fire's here. In this solo episode, I take you deep into a recent moment where I finally said enough - and buried the version of me who kept mothering everyone but herself. I walk you through the raw energy behind my new free live event, Fed Up to On Fire, and I soft launch the mantra that's reshaping my movement: Thank You. Fuck You. I'm Free. You'll learn how to alchemize frustration into fuel, how to ride the wave of your own rage without drowning in it, and why being fed up isn't a breakdown - it's the beginning of your rise. If you've been swallowing your truth, people-pleasing your way into exhaustion, and waiting for permission to be selfish, this is your invitation. Let it burn. June 19th.
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