Two Wives and A Spark

We are Two Wives and A Spark. As new parents and as an interracial couple, we are on a mission to connect with others and explore how Race and Politics influence families like ours. We believe intentional conversations are vehicles for change, so we're committed to learning in public and having real talk every step of the way.

What's In Your Survival Kit? 07/15/2025

What's In Your Survival Kit? Welcome to Season 5 Episode 4 of Two Wives and A SPARK! In this tender episode, we’re leaning into vulnerability, reflection, and the quiet power of the pause. As we prepare to wrap this season, we’re not closing a door—we’re tending to what’s in our survival kits. Because living our values means making space for rest, reflection, and presence. Together, we explore: How micro joys are helping us navigate the overwhelm of these times What’s in our personal survival kits when the world gets loud Why pausing is not quitting, but a practice of trust and alignment Resources Referenced in this Episode: Audre Lorde quote - “Caring for myself is not self-indulgence, it is self-preservation, and that is an act of political warfare” Rainer Maria Rilke quote - “Be patient toward all that is unsolved in your heart and try to love the questions themselves, like locked rooms and like books that are now written in a very foreign tongue. Do not now seek the answers, which cannot be given you because you would not be able to live them. And the point is, to live everything. Live the questions now. Perhaps you will then gradually, without noticing it, live along some distant day into the answer” This conversation is meant to be a soft landing in the storm, a reminder to notice what’s sustaining you, and a gentle invitation to live into the questions. We’re so grateful you’ve been part of this season with us. We’ll still be sharing updates and reflections on our creative projects on Instagram, so stay close and feel free to follow us at and . As always, thank you for listening and tuning in. We appreciate you. Take care of your heart. Trust the pause. And remember: even in the dark, there is always a spark. We would love to hear from you! Connect with us on or send us an email at . And check out our site: . If you’re curious, here’s more information on what we do at . /episode/index/show/twowivesandaspark/id/37414175

Holding Space for Collective Grief 07/08/2025

Holding Space for Collective Grief Welcome to Season 5 Episode 3 of Two Wives and A SPARK! In this raw and reflective episode, we speak from the heart about the heaviness so many are carrying right now. From environmental disasters, to political unrest, to the dis-ease so many of us are holding–the grief is layered—and it’s not just personal, it’s collective. We talk about what it means to hold space for ourselves and each other in the midst of it all, and how we’ve been navigating (or not navigating) the overwhelm. This conversation felt like a mirror for us, and we hope it’s a companion for anyone feeling exhausted, tender, or stretched thin by the weight of the world right now. Together, we explore: The importance of naming what hurts—and honoring it How collective grief lives in the body and what helps us release it Boundaries as a radical act of self-love and community care Why joy and rest must be a part of the journey Resources Referenced in this Episode: , by Bessel van der Kolk on trauma, healing, and belonging Dan Savage’s reminder to keep fighting, keep dancing (quote: “During the darkest days of the AIDS crisis, we buried our friends in the morning, we protested in the afternoon, and we danced all night. The dance kept us in the fight because it was the dance we were fighting for. It didn’t look like we were going to win then and we did. It doesn’t feel like we’re going to win now but we could. Keep fighting, keep dancing.”) Prentis Hemphill quote: “Boundaries are the distance at which I can love you and me simultaneously.” We don’t have answers—but we’re learning to hold what’s hard without losing ourselves, to stay present without collapsing, and to return to connection as often as we can. As always, thank you for listening and tuning in. We appreciate you. This time we have some questions for you! What did this spark for you? What do you want us to explore next week? What questions do you have for us? Would you be interested in gathering together—virtually or in person—with other pod listeners & Joy Warriors? We would love to hear from you! Connect with us on or send us an email at . And check out our site: . If you’re curious, here’s more information on what we do at . /episode/index/show/twowivesandaspark/id/37334080