Whore Rapport
Whore Rapport isn’t just another sex podcast. On this show we seek to expose a version of sexuality that is healthy, strong, and aware. We delve deep into topics such as gender, orientation, intimacy, and power without pathologizing desire, victimizing femininity, or demonizing masculinity. Come with us, as we explore nuance, intention, eroticism, and fantasy without shame or apology. Let's turn on the lights, pull back the covers, and talk about what we see.
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That's a Wrap
11/04/2022
That's a Wrap
Aaaand just like that, we're wrapped (in leopard print). This has been a wild few years, and we're so grateful to have had you along for the ride. In this episode, we discuss the end of the Whore Rapport era, where we were versus where we are, and the problem with pumpkin spice. Ta-ta for now.
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The State of the Podcast
07/21/2022
The State of the Podcast
It's about time for an update! We haven't disappeared, we're coming back, and things are changing.
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#52 Sexual Healing Part III
02/28/2022
#52 Sexual Healing Part III
In our third and final episode in this series, we answer some questions including: how can sex heal when I think the problem is that we’re not having enough sex; does the cultural pressure around sex make the process of sexual healing harder to work through; and, can sex help heal the pain from cheating? As usual, these listener questions provided texture and depth to the discussion. Song featured: Sexual Healing by Ben Harper & The Innocent Criminals Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: Check out our website: Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us: [email protected]
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#51 Sexual Healing Part II
02/08/2022
#51 Sexual Healing Part II
For part two we’re joined by our brilliant friend Caroline, an intimacy coach who works with clients to explore topics such as embodiment, desire, dating, attachment, boundaries, inner-child work, and pleasure. We discuss sexual healing as a practice, and its varying modalities; the inherent, and culturally imposed limitations of these practices; the value of vulnerability in a coach-client dynamic; and the far-reaching power of connection. To book a session with Caroline go to: Follow her at https://www.instagram.com/shadowdanceintimacy/ Song featured: Righteously by Anna Ash Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us:
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#50 Sexual Healing Part I
01/23/2022
#50 Sexual Healing Part I
We’re kicking off another three part series! In this episode we begin by discussing the nature and breadth of sexual healing, as well as the ways in which we’ve come to understand it. We venture slightly into the relationship between trauma and healing, and we delve more deeply into the power of sex as a growth and healing modality. There’s much to explore with this topic, and we’re just getting started. Song featured: Ayo Technology - Live with Orchestra by Milow Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us:
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#49 The Madonna-Whore Complex
01/07/2022
#49 The Madonna-Whore Complex
We’ve danced around this one, even discussed it explicitly once or twice, but we all know it deserved its own episode. This is a conversation about a culturally imposed lens that has done nothing but distort and obscure. Over the course of this conversation we discuss: the ways in which Freud’s madonna-whore complex has tainted our views of modern sexuality and relationships; why so many women struggle with the notion of “having it all,” and what to do about it. Song we tried to feature: Positions by Ariana Grande Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us:
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#48 Relationship Communication
12/24/2021
#48 Relationship Communication
In this episode we talk about talking. Specifically, we discuss the nature and importance of discernment; the ways in which communication styles can vary relationship to relationship and person to person; and what happens when these styles don’t blend well, and things break down. Not surprisingly, we have a lot to say about the things we say. Song featured: Goddamn by Deva Mahal Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us:
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#47 Perceived Sexual Dysregulation
12/07/2021
#47 Perceived Sexual Dysregulation
We could have titled this episode “sexual dysfunction,” but we don’t believe in ghosts. This is a discussion about the ways in which we perceive and address so-called dysfunction, as it pertains to sexuality. Over the course of this basement conversation we explore the cultural impact of the wellness industry; the ways in which social media perpetuates shame; some root causes of sexual dysregulation; and tennis, sort of. Song featured: Fire for You by Cannons Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Email Us:
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#46 Non-monogamy FAQ
11/16/2021
#46 Non-monogamy FAQ
Welcome to the kiosk, aka part three of our first ever series, dedicated to the topic of ethical non-monogamy. We’re back to answer literally all of your questions, even the ones you didn’t know you had. This final part in the series addresses frequently asked questions and covers topics including: fear, trust, three-way dynamics, and whether or not non-monogamy is easier than monogamy. Spoiler alert: it’s not. Song featured: 3 by Britney Spears Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#45 Non-monogamy Listener Qs & As
10/29/2021
#45 Non-monogamy Listener Qs & As
Welcome to part two of our first ever series, dedicated to the topic of ethical non-monogamy. In this one we continue with your thoughtful questions, and cover a range of topics including: jealousy and imagination; the ways in which polarity can play into our dynamics, and the true (neutral) nature of power, privilege, and equality; judginess; as well as what non-monogamy can potentially teach us about other relationships. We really “succame” to this one. Song featured: In The Middle by dodie Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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Updates: Patreon Changes
10/20/2021
Updates: Patreon Changes
We’re getting whorganized! We’ve restructured, and added a number of perks to Patreon including access to a virtual Whore Rapport community via Discord, quarterly Zoom calls, and more. We’re very excited to keep connecting with you all, and to keep building this community from the inside out. Song featured: Thank You (Falettinme Be Mice Elf Agin) by Sly and the Family Stone Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#44 Non-monogamy with Dr. Christopher Ryan
10/15/2021
#44 Non-monogamy with Dr. Christopher Ryan
Welcome to part one of our first ever series, dedicated to the topic of ethical non-monogamy. In this installment we are joined by Dr. Christopher Ryan, co-author of Sex at Dawn. We discuss the difference between relationship “work” and “effort,” as well as the parallels between traveling, and cultivating aligned relationship structures. We also address some listener questions including: How do I know if non-monogamy is truly right for me? And, how do I approach non-monogamy with my partner when we’re going through a rough patch? This may be the first, but it will not be the last. Song featured: MANGO (feat. Adeline) by KAMAUU Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#43 Longing
10/02/2021
#43 Longing
Welcome to the cold water podcast! In this episode we dissect and deconstruct longing. Specifically, we get into how longing looks, what it stands in for, and what it often represents. We also discuss the average lifespan of the feeling, the cycle it can perpetuate, and what it does to our perceptions of the objects of our longing as well as the types of relationships that exist around it. Brought to you from two, separate, undisclosed locations. Song we tried to feature: Shape of You - Acoustic by Ed Sheeran Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#42 Coming Out
09/10/2021
#42 Coming Out
This is an episode about the various ways in which we come out, and the closets from which we emerge. Song featured: Take Your Mama by Scissor Sisters Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#41 Listener Q&A Idawhore Edition
08/24/2021
#41 Listener Q&A Idawhore Edition
This was an incredibly synchronistic Q&A that begins with a conversation about orgasm shame/pressure, and ends with a discussion of the kinds of stories we embody. In between these topics we break down the relationship between body image and healthy weight loss, as well as the, “capitalist patriarchal media representation and expression of what we want or assume men want… gaze.” As usual, you all know how to ask questions. Song featured: Get It On... Tonite by Montell Jordan Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#40 Erotic Hypnosis with Cecily DeVille
08/01/2021
#40 Erotic Hypnosis with Cecily DeVille
We’ve broken the ice and had our very first guest! Cecily is extremely thoughtful, articulate, and she does something that was entirely new to us. She takes clients, over the phone, and collaborates with them to build and play out their erotic fantasies. In this conversation we break down, from multiple angles, the motivations and curiosities that go into this sort of work. Cecily's stories and reflections are not to be missed. Song featured: Hypnotize by The Notorious B.I.G. Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#39 Guilt
07/21/2021
#39 Guilt
In this episode we take a look at guilt in its varied forms. Specifically we explore: implied guilt; perceived guilt; what it’s like to operate from unacknowledged guilt; and the areas at which guilt, shame, and remorse intersect. (Are you sick of reading the word ‘guilt’ yet?) We also dissect a teen movie with the help of Melissa Febos. Song featured: Guilty by Lady Wray Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#38 The Orgasm Gap
07/02/2021
#38 The Orgasm Gap
Welcome to our first orgasm episode. In this exploration of “The Orgasm Gap,” we discuss the dangers of keeping score when it comes to sexual pleasure; the ways in which sexual compatibility shows up and exists outside of committed relationships; what our environment teaches us about orgasms; and more! We wrap up with a request for your thoughts. Song we tried to feature: Side to Side (feat. Nicki Minaj) by Ariana Grande Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#37 Eroticism & Fear
06/11/2021
#37 Eroticism & Fear
What are we afraid of that also turns us on? What is the relationship between these things? What does it feel like to embody them together? How do we tell the difference between healthy and legitimate risk? These are just some of the themes we get into in this week’s episode. We also do some math: Fear(x) + Risk(x) + Vulnerability(x) = Authentic Intimacy Be sure to show your work when solving for your own personal x factors. Song featured: Down by Marian Hill Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#36 Dating & Chemistry
05/28/2021
#36 Dating & Chemistry
This episode is all about the oddities and complexities of dating. How can we truly get to know each other within the modern dating structure? And, more specifically, how do we establish intimacy with another person outside of the culturally perpetuated “game” that surrounds it? We also discuss the ways in which chemistry fits into all this, and the differences between chemistry and attraction. Song featured: Can’t Take My Eyes Off of You by Lauryn Hill Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Support this podcast on Patreon: www.patreon.com/whorerapport Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email us:
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#35 Listener Q&A Part II
05/12/2021
#35 Listener Q&A Part II
We’re back with part two, and this time the questions range even further. This conversation includes discussions of sex education — seriously, who’s going to do it? — the intimate relationship between power and sexual expression; and, the ways in which we frame and understand confusing and even unwanted sexual experiences that occur in youth. You all know how to ask questions. Song featured: Make Me Feel by Janelle Monáe Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#34 Listener Q&A Part I
04/26/2021
#34 Listener Q&A Part I
Welcome to part one of a two part attempt to address your Qs with As. Firstly, what are our wet dreams telling us? Inquiring minds want to know. Secondly, why are we jealous? Not about the wet dreams, necessarily, but in relationships. What is the jealousy we are experiencing really showing us? Understanding that it is not a feeling to manage or control, we discuss the ways in which jealousy can deepen our understanding of what we truly want, and why. We also discuss the importance of not trying to twist oneself into a pretzel. Song we tried to feature: Sexxx Dreams by Lady Gaga Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#33 DisemBODYment
04/06/2021
#33 DisemBODYment
This episode is a companion to our early episodes on embodiment. We wanted to get into what it’s really like to feel disconnected from one’s body, and how those feelings manifest and change from puberty into adulthood. Specifically, we talk about issues around body image; how bodies are affected by major decisions we make, or don’t make, in our lives; and the impact of trauma on the ways in which we view our physical bodies. We also talk about how this all relates to sex, given that this indeed a sex podcast. Song featured: Paper Bag by Fiona Apple Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#32 Relationship Transitions
03/26/2021
#32 Relationship Transitions
It’s not you, it’s us... This week’s episode is a discussion of the ways in which relationships change. The good, the bad, and the overly complicated. Specifically, we touch on the role that truth plays, leading up to and during a relationship transition; the problems with seeing the transition of a relationship as a failure; the limitations imposed by euphemistic relationship terminology; and the ways in which we can, and do, transition relationships without in fact ending them at all. Song featured: Somebody That I Used to Know by Gotye, Kimbra Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#31 Porn & Kink
03/06/2021
#31 Porn & Kink
This week we dip our toes into some incredibly vast pools. This conversation includes discussions of: what happens when the private becomes public; Only Fans; the complexities of the porn industry; the power of imagination; and our personal experiences of porn and how our opinions of it, and engagement with it, have evolved over time. Xtina makes her way into the conversation. Song featured: Dirrty (feat. Redman) by Christina Aguilera
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#30 Whore Whiplash
02/19/2021
#30 Whore Whiplash
For our dirty thirty (wooo!), we discussed the complexities of maturing sexual energy. Specifically, the ways in which sex education, or the lack thereof, impacts our understanding of our own sexuality; what happens when we project a strong sense of sexual understanding that we don’t actually have; and the importance of open, vulnerable communication — especially when it’s awkward — as a tool for self knowing. We also nail down the problem with dating apps. Song featured: Let’s Talk About Sex by Salt-N-Pepa Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#29 Everything, but Sex
02/06/2021
#29 Everything, but Sex
We honestly had no idea this episode would extend as far as it did when we turned on the mics, but such is the nature of this type of unbridled conversation. Topics discussed include: sexual acts as "bases," and the shift toward intimacy as a true gauge of experience; the concept of reciprocity in sexual relationships; male desire, and the issues that arise for everybody when we pathologize it. We’re really earning our ‘explicit’ rating with this one. Song featured: Oops (Oh My) [feat. Missy Elliot] by Tweet Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#28 Monogamy
01/22/2021
#28 Monogamy
This episode is about the relationship structure to which we inevitably compare all other relationship structures. We discuss the difference between actively choosing versus assuming what our relationships will look like, as well as the importance and power of this sort of intentionality; the downsides of passive feelings of safety and security between partners; and what periods of stagnancy mean, or don’t mean. We also acknowledge that since we made it past episode 27, this podcast is officially in its Saturn return... Song featured: Say Anything by Tristan Prettyman Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#27 Listener Q&A
01/08/2021
#27 Listener Q&A
We’re kickin’ off this wild new year with another round of your questions. We love hearing from you, and this batch of inquiries did not disappoint. Themes covered in this episode include: intrusive sexual thoughts, sexual shyness, what it means to fully step into intimacy, the journey (not the destination) of sexual embodiment, and sexual incompatibility within a monogamous relationship structure. We also assign homework in the form of a music video recommendation. Song featured: Watermelon Sugar by Harry Styles Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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#26 Whoredom
12/25/2020
#26 Whoredom
On this sacred day — the two-year anniversary of the friendship that birthed this podcast — we do another deep exploration of what it means to be a whore. This conversation includes discussions of: pornstar-like friendship, dominatrix dynamics, whore as a derogatory term as well as the ancestral resonance of the word whore, and more! This episode also includes an ASMR style break (not, technically) brought to you by Alter Eco… you’re welcome? Song featured: The Cult of Dionysus by The Orion Experience Rate, review, and subscribe to the podcast on iTunes! Check out our website: www.whorerapport.com Follow us on Instagram: instagram.com/whorerapport Erin: Anya: Email Us:
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