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Triggers are Our Greatest Teachers 


Release Date: 03/02/2020

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*|FNAME|*, are you (or have you ever been) in a relationship where you want a lovingly connection, but are stuck keeping score, tallying up resentments and bypassing real feelings? Today's podcast episode we explore cultivating a ‘spiritual partnership’ which is "a partnership between equals for their spiritual growth,” according to Gary Zukav. This means each person takes ownership and responsibility to turn the mirror inward and do the inner work on themselves first to evolve into their Higher Self, and then they lovingly support each other, growing...

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Hi there! I hope you had a wonderful summer and are feeling rested and renewed. I know I am!  It’s so good to be back with you! This season, I’m sharing excerpts from my book: How to quiet the Itty-Bitty-Shitty-Committee coming out in 2024. This is vulnerable for me to share, but I truly hope each week’s intention, lesson or meditation helps you on your journey to know and love yourself. **  If this is helpful and speak to your heart, please do me a favor and let me know – a quick DM on instagram, email me on   and you can help me so much by rating, review and share this...

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Hi friends, today is a special treat to have my friend and mentor, ! She is a meditation teacher, hypnotherapist and author of a prescriptive memoir sharing her emotional, heart wrenching and oh so inspiring healing story of learning to listen and love her inner child. I hope you receive nuggets for your spiritual evolution and healing today. Also, RUN and buy this  Happy Summer friends – see you back in September! xx Audrey

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This week, when you dip into scarcity thinking, invite the mantra "the love I give comes back to me." When you change your energy, you change your life. Thank you so much for being here each week, sharing and rating this podcast! I'm so grateful for you! xx Audrey p.s. Join me next year in Bali (April) and Tuscany (September) 2024! 



Often times the things we know are good for us are the hardest things to do. This week’s intention is to give yourself small moments of care each day to help you connect with what matters most.  You deserve to feel good. You are deserving of all that good. Share with me on instagram how you are caring for yourself this week. Thank you so much for being here each week, sharing and rating this podcast! I'm so grateful for you! xx Audrey p.s. Join me next year in Bali (April) and Tuscany (September) 2024! 

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Since the pandemic, many of my clients have a harder time focusing and ask me for coaching of how to be more present. Our face paced online world has many benefits and affords us with immediate (or very quick) gratification, but it harms our ability to concentrate We end up skimming for highlights, instead of taking time to digest the knowledge. are we 2Xing Life? This week’s intention is to slow down and move the way Mother Earth moves and let the little joys seep in, let yourself linger in wonder and awe and give yourself more time for Life’s natural rhythm to move through you. I wonder...



Imagine a beautiful lake. Our mind is like this lake. Our thoughts ripple across the water. But as the wind dies down, the water becomes still, so still it reflects the moon and the stars. The lake and sky become one. Similarly, meditation helps to quiet our mind and calm our emotions, so we can see with more clarity Life’s reflections. When we are centered, we can see with clear eyes, not only our limiting patterns but our unlimited potential as well. From a place of clarity, you see the reflection of life’s truth and your own truth within. Let’s find clarity now in this week's...



Life can become so busy, keeping us overwhelmed with tasks and responsibilities, we miss life’s lessons.  Life whispers messages to guide us on our path to who we’re supposed to be. Can we get quiet enough to listen to its guidance, to see the signs and to hear it’s wisdom? LISTEN TO THIS WEEK'S MEDITATION to help hear what life is telling you now. This week: allow for moments of stillness to get quiet and hear Life’s wisdom and guidance. Thank you always for being here, rating and reviewing this podcast! xx Audrey



What if Life’s real invitation is not: to experience joy only WHEN something good happens to us -or- be grateful AFTER we get what we want, - BUT  - to find joy and gratitude, now, despite our challenges and current circumstance?   By shifting our perspective of our experience we change how we experience it.   Listen to this weeke's meditaiton to shift your perspective  Thank you for being here, rating and reviewin this podcast! xx Audrey



Usually when we’re happy, it’s because we received what we wanted.   We’re grateful AFTER something has happened to us.   But doing it this way (with cause then effect) is fleeting because it keeps us chasing the next thing that promises to bring us the elevated  feeling we want to feel.   What would happen if instead of waiting to feel joy when something good happens to us, we consciously choose to feel joy now despite what we’re experiencing?   Instead of cause and effect, we choose to affect the cause.    This isn’t about an affirmation of an...

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I hosted a Soul School workshop last week in Seattle. The topic is my favorite thing to teach: how to quiet your #ittybittyshittycommittee.

Our inner critic loves to blame others and it never takes responsibility. One way you know youre in alignment with your ego is when you feel inferior or superior to someone else. You’re stuck in comparison or judgement.

What came up a lot during our workshop is how those who are closest to us trigger our inner critic the most, specifically how our parents trigger us.

Of course, as women are sharing how their parents are so annoying or don’t get it or trigger the crap out them, there was a mom and daughter in the room – but they were so awesome to show up together!

I know I can’t see you, but I mean, raise your hand if you have someone in your life that seems to deliberately trigger you? like your parent who know just what to say to shame you into feeling like you’re a bad child again? Or your partner who brings out resentment? Or your child who brings out the demon in you? Or that co-worker who knows just how to get under your skin?

Our relationships are direct portals to our wounds.

If we can view our triggers as our greatest teachers, we can then heal our inner world to affect our outer world.

Ironically, we are triggered by those we care about the most and are closest to. Although we love them, we have developed patterns of our thoughts and reactions.

One woman shared how her mom triggers her and asked: “How can I get her to stop triggering me?”

The real question to ponder is: “How can YOU take ownership of WHY YOU are feeling so triggered?

Her mom loves her and is probably not intentionally trying to cause harm, although it may feel like she is some times. Most likely they trigger each other.

Together, they have developed a pattern, where just one look, or an eye roll or one word triggers the other person into their reactive patterns of recycled thoughts and conditioned beliefs.

Breaking the reactive pattern starts with you. You have to be the one to bring consciousness to these unconscious patterns.

We all have those relationships in our life that can bring out the worst in us. We have developed conditioned patterns of reacting when triggered. It gets us nowhere.

The work is to watch and witness your thoughts. Most of our thoughts are recycled from our conditioned thinking.

We are triggered when the reality is not how we want it to be.

Your triggers are your greatest teachers. Invite them in.

When I feel in resentment, offended or hurt by someone or any kind of hot emotion, it’s an opportunity to turn inward, not lash outward.

Although we would love a carefree happy journey – doesn’t that sound lovely?  the reality of life is you’re going to experience disappointment, heartbreak, you’ll have friction with others, and you’ll have set backs and challenges. This is life.

To try to avoid it just creates more suffering.

Anything that causes you to be in an emotional state is your spiritual teacher.

Become responsible of the way you think. Question your beliefs. Is this true? Is this really true? Or is this my perspective of what I believe to be true? What is real? Usually reality has no emotional charge.

We humans are what creates the emotional charge behind reality.

Taking responsibility for how you show up and changing your beliefs by watching your thought patterns lead to freedom.

Your external world is a reflection of your internal world.

Change your thoughts, change the result.

Change your actions, you inspire others to change.

And even if people around you don’t change, you change. And the beauty of that, is they don’t trigger you as much, because your internal world is at peace with what is.

Change always begins with you. You have the power to allow yourself to be triggered. You can let yourself be affected by your triggers and be upset and angry, or you can allow your triggers to be your teachers to show you where to heal old wounds and patterns, how to bring what is unconscious conscious and how you want to show up in the world from a place of openness, empathy and love.

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