How to REparent Yourself
SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey
You have learned beliefs and patterns that you bring into your relationships with each other and yourself. Nothing is new. As children we’re very good at being in tune with our environment and very good at protecting ourselves to feel safe. Even if you had a good childhood, you learned ways of how to act by watching your caregivers, parents, siblings, cousins and their behaviors, beliefs and expectations. Reparenting is the act of giving yourself what you needed as a child.
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How to Generously listen to yourself (inner child meditation)
SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey
This is a guided meditation to connect to your inner child. It is a simple and easy tool to create a ritual for yourself each day.
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Help for The People Pleaser
SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey
You don’t have to fix yourself You’re not broken. By feeling your feelings, you return to your wholeness. If you’re constantly fixing, numbing and ignoring in order to be happy, you will always be chasing this destination. Happiness is fleeting – just like any other emotion. By honoring Life’s ups and downs, being with yourself and feeling your feelings fully, you’ll be able to find happiness in the process, build worthiness in your new skills, and trust your resilience that you are brave, matur
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Self-forgiveness: How to Heal Wounds by Connecting With Your Inner Child
SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey
The way we would talk to a child is so much different than we talk to our adult self. We’re harsh, judgmental and critical, but you would never be like that to a sweet young child. By connecting to the sweet little girl or boy in you, it’s easier to be kinder and softer to yourself. Creating a practice of self-forgiveness is one way you can begin to deepen your compassion towards yourself and expand your self-love. LMK if this is helpful: www.AudreySuttonMills.com. Join me for SOUL SCHOOL 10/5/2020
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4 Ways to Help When You Want to Quit
SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey
Today, you'll learn 4 ways to help you combat your itty-bitty-shitty-committee when you get down in those dark places and want to quit. Your hardest times often lead to the greatest moments of your life. Don’t quit! You’re about to breakthrough. It’s happening. Keep going! LMK how this is helping you. Thank you for sharing, rating and reviewing this podcast! xo Audrey
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You're in Resistance When You're About to Transform
SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey
This week’s mantra is: “I’m in resistance because I’m about to transform.”
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How to Stop Self-Sabotage
SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey
Commit this week to being more mindful of when your subconscious brain takes over and hijacks the very thing you desire.
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How to Deal with Your Racist Family + Friends
SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey
Learn 5 steps to deal with your triggers when it comes to your racist friends and family.
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Healing Birth Trauma with Andrea Wetterau
SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey
We all experience trauma, which is anything that creates a negative response in your body and mind. It happens when we feel we don’t have control or agency in our lives. Andrea Wetterau, EMDR perinatal therapist shared how to heal birth trauma. Thank you for sharing and reviewing and being here!
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You Can Multi-Task but You Can't Multi-Focus
SOUL SCHOOL with Audrey
You don’t have to be all, do all for all. Actually it’s pretty impossible. You won’t do it all well.
info_outlineWhat the heck is mindfulness? It’s talked about elusively in yoga classes and in articles, but what exactly is it and why is it important?
We are distracted and busy, now more than ever - outside and inside our minds. Everything is pining for our attention. Things are chaotic right now – lord knows we can use a little calm in this chaos.
I was first introduced to mindfulness in a yoga class a decade ago. It was me and a bunch of 80-year old white haired dudes. It was a gentle yoga class at 11am on a Friday. We never stood up on our mats. I hated it. The teacher led a guided meditation in savasana where we counted 1-2-3-4-5 and so forth until a thought popped in your head. When a thought appeared, you started back at 1. I couldn’t get past 2.
I never realized I had so many thoughts!
The roommate in my head never shut up – she was neve rending broken record telling me what to do, what I should be doing, what I did wrong, worrying about something in the future, ruminating about something in the past, adding items to my grocery list, wondering why he didn’t call me back, pondering what I should eat after yoga class. It was mayhem in my mind!
I mean, honestly, if my mind were an actual person, I’d punch her in the face. That’s how annoying she is.
That night I had the best sleep of my life. That one yoga class sparked a wonderment and curiosity of how to quiet my mind and seek this elusive mindfulness-thing.
Often times we are the opposite of mindful. You’re in resistance when you are trying to control someone or something. Resistance is either aversion to what you’re currently experiencing or attachment to an outcome. Trying to control and resistance to what is creates more suffering.
Mindfulness is being connected to the present moment, to the joy and the magic of life that surrounds you. That may have sounded a little Dalai Lama, Namaste woo-woo, but don’t knock it till you try it.
Mindfulness can be thought of a “state,” a “trait” or a “practice.”
Meditation is the daily practice of staying present, nurturing your heart and letting go of the story so you can see and feel what is in front of you.
You do the practice on your cushion, so you can live and be your practice off it – to be present, feel fully, and be free from storyline in your daily life.
Meditation sounds good. We know it’s good for us, and maybe we have good intentions to meditate, so why is it so hard to do?
In today’s episode, I hope to de-bunk any anxiety around meditation so you can actually start doing it. I give you 5 easy steps to creating a meditation practice in just 1 minute each day. That’s super easy right?
How to meditate: R.P.M:
- Rise
- Pee
- meditate for 1 minute
(Sit up tall and erect. Set your timer for 60 seconds: 1 min to Zen) Add on time when you have a consistent habit of meditating each morning.
So what do you do for those 60 seconds that can seem like forever?
- Breathe and witness – be fully present to what’s in front of you.
- Detach from the outcome (there’s no bad meditation), release judgement (of how you’re doing. It’s just a practice of watching where your mind likes to take you) and let go of adding a storyline (extra commentary)
- Engage in the next moment or thought without an agenda
Meditation is like paper training a puppy. The puppy wanders and you gently bring the puppy back to the paper. Your mind will follow a thought, and you gently bring your mind back to your breath and observe with space what is in front of you.
The practice of meditation is just a practice. It’s a daily habit to watch your mind and make a conscious choice to come back to your breath, to the sensations in your body, to the present moment. This practice is really just practice for off of your cushion, so when you get distracted, feel untethered or become heated from a story in your head, you can come back to your breath, to your body and to this present moment, remembering this moment is exactly where you’re supposed to be.
Joy is not the absence of suffering, the absence of challenges, or the absence of anything else. Living with joy means that we develop a sense of inner well-being that allows us to embrace whatever the present moment offers.
Mindfulness instills in us a genuine sense of curiosity and wonder, even toward the mundane and challenging details of our existence.
Have the life you want by being present to the life you have.
Head over to my website: audreysuttonmills.com for your free guided meditation and a print out of these 5 easy steps of cultivating a meditation practice. Thank you for being a part of our community. If this has helped you, please take a moment to do a review and share this episode with your friends or online.
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